Ulland and Jo continue a discussion regarding anger. Ulland reviews the ruminative anger cycle and Jo provides more discussion of how to use skills to avoid ineffective angry responses.

Ulland and Jo continue a discussion regarding anger. Ulland reviews the ruminative anger cycle and Jo provides more discussion of how to use skills to avoid ineffective angry responses.

Anger 1.2

Ulland and Jo review anger at the request of a listener.  Ulland goes on a tangent in culture and expression of anger. Culture and expectation can lead to angry reactions. Suggestions for skills use are provided.  

Ulland and Jo review anger at the request of a listener.  Ulland goes on a tangent in culture and expression of anger. Culture and expectation can lead to angry reactions. Suggestions for skills use are provided.

Anger 1.0

Ulland and Jo realize how long this has taken, unfortunately, but it is the end of the series. Are emotionally reactive people empaths, or are empaths emotionally reactive? Ulland and Jo end with more concerning questions, regarding adolescents who may have difficulties who are trying to help peers with similar issues/ behaviors.  They remind listeners of active passivity and that there are difficult behavioral patterns such as the secondary targets which can lead to confusion in the relationship and burnout in loved ones.

Ulland and Jo realize how long this has taken, unfortunately, but it is the end of the series. Are emotionally reactive people empaths, or are empaths emotionally reactive? Ulland and Jo end with more concerning questions, regarding adolescents who may have difficulties who are trying to help peers with similar issues/ behaviors.  They remind listeners of active passivity and that there are difficult behavioral patterns such as the secondary targets which can lead to confusion in the relationship and burnout in loved ones.

Psych 101.6 The End of the Series

Ulland and Jo review what they believe to be some of the biggest misconceptions about seeking therapy. Ulland challenges the duality of “biological” versus “environmental” depression.  They also review a question wondering about in which instances Dialectical Behavior Therapy might out-perform Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for patients. They end with reviewing the importance of the philosophical outlook within DBT that can be powerful to prevent relapse and continue to work towards building a life well-lived.

Psych 101.5 Biology vs. Environmental?

Ulland answers a question regarding medications for emotional reactivity and discusses how he often prescribes for clients he assesses.  Ulland reviews some differences between how ADHD may present in males vs. females. Ulland and Jo discuss how each of them would consider building a residential program for males, compared to how their female unit operates. Ulland is likely to take population differences into account for gender traits, aware that populations don’t represent any specific individual in the program.

Psych 101.4 How might DBT work for a male program?

The series continues with “frequently asked questions” from a high school psychology class. The questions they are tasked to answer are: What’s the hardest case or behaviors they have worked on?  Have they had more cooperative or uncooperative parents? What is the hardest or most stressful part about their job?

The series continues with “frequently asked questions” from a high school psychology class. The questions they are tasked to answer are: What’s the hardest case or behaviors they have worked on?  Have they had more cooperative or uncooperative parents? What is the hardest or most stressful part about their job?

Psych 101.3. What's the hardest part of the job?

The crew continues with explaining the origins of the program.  Ulland describes reasons of need and efficiency, while Jo discusses the prevention of suffering for the future, including, hopefully next generation effects.  They briefly describe some differences between CBT and DBT.

Psych 101.2. Why your program and way of doing things?

Psych 101.1. How and why did you come to do this?  Ulland and Jo answer questions written by local high school students after presenting for a couple psychology classes.  This episode reviews why each of them decided to work in mental health in their different roles.  Ulland had to get a haircut and get a real job.

Psych 101.1. How and why did you come to do this?  Ulland and Jo answer questions written by local high school students after presenting for a couple psychology classes.  This episode reviews why each of them decided to work in mental health in their different roles.  Ulland had to get a haircut and get a real job.

Psych 101.1. How and why did you come to do this?

Burning Bridges and Building New Ones.  Ulland and Jo reviews these concepts while giving examples that these skills are not only applied to relationships but may be applied to behaviors that are ineffective or behaviors needed to replace maladaptive behaviors. Because, let’s face it, “Just Say No!” failed miserably.  Jo brings up the idea of exposure and tolerance of suffering.  Ulland responds by bringing up hypothermia and appendectomies. Somehow it should fit, and maybe it doesn’t.  Supposedly everything’s connected.

Burning Bridges and Building New Ones.  Ulland and Jo reviews these concepts while giving examples that these skills are not only applied to relationships but may be applied to behaviors that are ineffective or behaviors needed to replace maladaptive behaviors. Because, let’s face it, “Just Say No!” failed miserably.  Jo brings up the idea of exposure and tolerance of suffering.  Ulland responds by bringing up hypothermia and appendectomies. Somehow it should fit, and maybe it doesn’t.  Supposedly everything’s connected.

Burning Bridges and Building New Ones

100th uploaded episode.  Ulland and Jo discuss the origins and some of the difficulties with keeping the dream alive. They offer thanks to listeners, with some posts from around the world that have been shared. Ulland gives a breakdown of the top countries following the podcast.

100th uploaded episode.  Ulland and Jo discuss the origins and some of the difficulties with keeping the dream alive. They offer thanks to listeners, with some posts from around the world that have been shared. Ulland gives a breakdown of the top countries following the podcast.

100th Uploaded Episode

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Easy to listen to with sensible information!  To find a psychiatrist who teaches, connects and makes so much sense is a rare gem. I am going to put Dr Ulland in my small list of empathetic geniuses.  If you or someone you love struggles to deal with emotions and you are feeling disconnected - you do NOT want to miss this!

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All Therapists are Jerks, and . . .

Episode 40. How to Keep a Relationship Part 1. Ulland and Jo review habits and patterns of healthy communication which lay the foundations for relationships worth keeping. They review a dialectical approach, stress tolerance, integrity, wisdom, sharing emotional space, accountability, and self reflection.

Episode 40. How to Keep a Relationship Part 1. Ulland and Jo review habits and patterns of healthy communication which lay the foundations for relationships worth keeping. They review a dialectical approach, stress tolerance, integrity, wisdom, sharing emotional space, accountability, and self reflection.

How to Keep a Relationship Part 1

Episode 31. In this episode, Ulland and Jo discuss three common lessons learned from invalidating environments including confusion, hopelessness and crisis=connection. Jo probably cusses a couple of times. Ulland discloses a shocking detail that he has a friend who is a dentist, and again pretends to know more than he likely does.

Episode 31. In this episode, Ulland and Jo discuss three common lessons learned from invalidating environments including confusion, hopelessness and crisis=connection. Jo probably cusses a couple of times. Ulland discloses a shocking detail that he has a friend who is a dentist, and again pretends to know more than he likely does.

Ep 31. Lessons Learned from Chronic Invalidation

Episode 16. In this episode Ulland and Jo review facets of conflict resolution, which includes the use of DEAR MAN and several mindfulness skills as well as accurate expression of emotion to be discussed in a future episode. Ulland and Jo try to resolve the conflict when Jo and crew went to Qdoba Thursday without him. Leaving him all alone with a heaping pile of sadness, tissues and self pity. 

Episode 16. In this episode Ulland and Jo review facets of conflict resolution, which includes the use of DEAR MAN and several mindfulness skills as well as accurate expression of emotion to be discussed in a future episode. Ulland and Jo try to resolve the conflict when Jo and crew went to Qdoba Thursday without him. Leaving him all alone with a heaping pile of sadness, tissues and self pity.

Ep 16. Conflict Resolution

Episode 47. Fidelity. Ulland and Jo discuss fidelity with DBT. Is it DBT? The five major components are reviewed, including skills group, individual therapist, diary cards, crisis coaching and consultation group. Hopefully consumers have a better idea of what to look for. 

Episode 47. Fidelity. Ulland and Jo discuss fidelity with DBT. Is it DBT? The five major components are reviewed, including skills group, individual therapist, diary cards, crisis coaching and consultation group. Hopefully consumers have a better idea of what to look for.

Fidelity

Episode 13. In this episode Ulland and Jo review validation in detail as one of the more important acceptance strategies. Several examples of validation and invalidation are given. 

Episode 13. In this episode Ulland and Jo review validation in detail as one of the more important acceptance strategies. Several examples of validation and invalidation are given.

Ep 13. Validation

Episode 27. In this episode Ulland and Jo review how to have difficult conversations.  How to win at tug of war.  Maybe keeping the cowl on is a good idea--just in case, Kylo.   Much of this episode has to do with how one needs to be aware of one's own ability to regulate in the moment to be effective.  

Episode 27. In this episode Ulland and Jo review how to have difficult conversations.  How to win at tug of war.  Maybe keeping the cowl on is a good idea--just in case, Kylo.   Much of this episode has to do with how one needs to be aware of one's own ability to regulate in the moment to be effective.

Ep 27. Difficult Conversations

Episode 18.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review Accurate Expression of Emotion.  They also review primary, secondary, and tertiary emotions. Two examples are given with sadness as the primary emotion.  In the examples, shame and anger are the secondary and tertiary emotions experienced. Validation is also important within an emotionally safe relationship so that accurate expression of emotion can occur. 

Episode 18.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review Accurate Expression of Emotion.  They also review primary, secondary, and tertiary emotions. Two examples are given with sadness as the primary emotion.  In the examples, shame and anger are the secondary and tertiary emotions experienced. Validation is also important within an emotionally safe relationship so that accurate expression of emotion can occur.

Ep 18. Accurate Expression of Emotion

Episode 28. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the first third. This section covers emotion dysregulation.This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".

Episode 28. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the first third. This section covers emotion dysregulation.This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".

Ep 28. Biosocial 1.1: Emotion Dysregulation

Episode 20.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review attachment theory and how it can be relevant to DBT and working with emotionally reactive individuals. The Positive and Negative Realities and Fantasies are reviewed, and how they are relevant to the secondary targets fo DBT. Multiple clinical and life examples are given.  Skills are necessary to move from the Shame Narrative of the Fantasies to the Positive Reality. This can only be accomplished by first moving through the Negative Reality by no longer avoiding emotions that must be experienced or grieved.  

Episode 20.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review attachment theory and how it can be relevant to DBT and working with emotionally reactive individuals. The Positive and Negative Realities and Fantasies are reviewed, and how they are relevant to the secondary targets fo DBT. Multiple clinical and life examples are given.  Skills are necessary to move from the Shame Narrative of the Fantasies to the Positive Reality. This can only be accomplished by first moving through the Negative Reality by no longer avoiding emotions that must be experienced or grieved.

Ep 20. The Shame Narrative

Episode 30. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the third third. This section covers invalidating environments. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".

Episode 30. In this episode, Jo and Ulland redo the biosocial theory—at least the third third. This section covers invalidating environments. This episode also can be found on YouTube under the channel "All Therapists are Jerks".

Ep 30. Biosocial 1.3: Environmental Invalidation

BKRVW02: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. This is a helpful book reviewing how we can change our behaviors with digital media in ways that benefit our lives. Cal does a wonderful job looking at the pitfalls of social media and “Attention Engineering” and how that can impact our lives negatively. He offers practical ideas to implement towards regaining our lives back in more meaningful ways then trying to live through digital interfaces. It is worth a read if you are considering changing how you use digital media and in particular social media, because you have found that it often leaves you unsatisfied.

BKRVW02: Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. This is a helpful book reviewing how we can change our behaviors with digital media in ways that benefit our lives. Cal does a wonderful job looking at the pitfalls of social media and “Attention Engineering” and how that can impact our lives negatively. He offers practical ideas to implement towards regaining our lives back in more meaningful ways then trying to live through digital interfaces. It is worth a read if you are considering changing how you use digital media and in particular social media, because you have found that it often leaves you unsatisfied.

BKRVW02: Digital Minimalism

Episode 26.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review various skills and principles within DBT that can be used in parenting. Examples are given. Validation and dialects are common themes.  

Episode 26.  In this episode Ulland and Jo review various skills and principles within DBT that can be used in parenting. Examples are given. Validation and dialects are common themes.

Ep 26. Parenting with DBT

Episode 44. Happiness Part 1. Ulland and Jo discuss the happiness formula H=S + (V+C), as found in Jonathan Haidt’s book, “The Happiness Hypothesis.” They discuss the set point, voluntary activities and conditions that seem to matter the most to having a contented life.

Happiness 1.1

Episode 34. While in Atlanta at the 2019 ISIT DBT conference, Ulland and Jo finish an interview with Izzy and Julianna, a mother-daughter dyad from a family they worked with over two years ago. They share what it was like to transition home and adjust to life as usual. They discuss how it was to be more congruent with emotion and far more skillful than before, sometimes in relationships that are not reinforcing of emotional vulnerability and effectiveness.

Episode 34. While in Atlanta at the 2019 ISIT DBT conference, Ulland and Jo finish an interview with Izzy and Julianna, a mother-daughter dyad from a family they worked with over two years ago. They share what it was like to transition home and adjust to life as usual. They discuss how it was to be more congruent with emotion and far more skillful than before, sometimes in relationships that are not reinforcing of emotional vulnerability and effectiveness.

Interview 1.3

Episode 17. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Mindfulness of Current Emotion.  

Episode 17. In this episode Ulland and Jo review Mindfulness of Current Emotion.

Ep 17. Mindfulness of Current Emotion

Episode 12.  In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss emotions, thoughts and behaviors within CBT and the addition of relationships and identity as other areas of significant focus within DBT.  Examples for the five dysregulations are provided for emotional, behavioral, cognitive, relational, and identity dysregulations.  

Episode 12.  In this episode Ulland and Jo discuss emotions, thoughts and behaviors within CBT and the addition of relationships and identity as other areas of significant focus within DBT.  Examples for the five dysregulations are provided for emotional, behavioral, cognitive, relational, and identity dysregulations.

Ep 12. The Five Dysregulations

Episode 38. Black Friday Dog Adoption. In this episode Ulland discusses his family’s difficulty adopting a previously not-so-loved canine. Jo provides moral support and some feedback with respect to dialectical approach, catching missed opportunities and repairing in the moment. We review the importance of grieving the loss of pets. Children learn how to deal with loss and be more able to grieve future losses.

Episode 38. Black Friday Dog Adoption. In this episode Ulland discusses his family’s difficulty adopting a previously not-so-loved canine. Jo provides moral support and some feedback with respect to dialectical approach, catching missed opportunities and repairing in the moment. We review the importance of grieving the loss of pets. Children learn how to deal with loss and be more able to grieve future losses.

Black Friday Dog Adoption

Episode 37. Interview2: Matt.  In this episode Ulland and Jo invite Jo’s good friend Matt to a conversation. Matt skips the “pleasantries,” willingly jumping into the deep end. He shares the importance of healthy adults, particularly when our own parents are struggling emotionally. He discusses how people in their suffering unintentionally cause suffering in others, which leads to a discussion of how it can be difficult to grieve loss because the common assumption that we must also be angry. We discussed how participants in 12 step programs helped Matt, as a child, makes sense of his experiences. Ulland and Jo answer Matt’s question about what we think would useful for ministers to know form a therapist’s point of view. Jo ties the conversation into core concepts that have been reviewed in previous podcast episodes.

Interview 2: Matt

Episode 41. How to Keep a Relationship Part 2. Ulland and Jo complete their discussion of habits and patterns for healthy communication. This episode reviews role-reversals, and valuing emotional intimacy.  These episodes will be followed by an episode reviewing how one ends a relationship from a DBT perspective.

Episode 41. How to Keep a Relationship Part 2. Ulland and Jo complete their discussion of habits and patterns for healthy communication. This episode reviews role-reversals, and valuing emotional intimacy.  These episodes will be followed by an episode reviewing how one ends a relationship from a DBT perspective.

How to Keep a Relationship Part 2

Episode 22. In this episode Ulland and Jo review dialectical philosophy with examples. Like how common house plants eat humans. How if you could visit yourself in the past you COULD shake your own hand.  How everything is connected and there are many ways to view things. Like how difficult it is to define what our essence is. Here uncertainty is sacred.  And no mysteries will be solved.  Not by us. Not ever.  

Episode 22. In this episode Ulland and Jo review dialectical philosophy with examples. Like how common house plants eat humans. How if you could visit yourself in the past you COULD shake your own hand.  How everything is connected and there are many ways to view things. Like how difficult it is to define what our essence is. Here uncertainty is sacred.  And no mysteries will be solved.  Not by us. Not ever.

Ep 22. Dialectical Philosophy

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