Anthony Balduzzi

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor and creator of the Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project. He lost his father at the age of 42, which led him to dedicate his life to helping people live healthy and happy well into their old age. Anthony is a former national champion bodybuilder, nutritionist, and all around great example of all-around health. He joins me to talk about the practical steps each of us can take to insure a long and healthy life. In this episode we dive into:  How to take care of yourself to age gracefully. Adapting your exercise routine as you get older, especially 40+. Exercising based on your nervous system state. Maintaining strength, cardiovascular health, flexibility, and mobility as you age. The importance of eating well. Nutrition is the baseline of health that can be maintained. Proper rehydration methods.  Foods to eat at different times throughout the day to maximize your body’s energy. Greens powder.  The addiction to sugary drinks.  Anthony’s and Ben’s personal diet journeys. Paying attention to how different foods and drinks impact your body. Circadian rhythms.  Comparing blue light, red light, UV light, infrared light, and red light machines. Entraining to the spectrum of light that is relevant to that time of day.  How to supplement harsh winters with little sunlight. Flowing with the seasons with your routines. Vitamin D and K2 supplements. What supplements to take when you’re getting sick. Immortality… How longevity is a byproduct of our lifestyle.   Links from this episode:  Fit Father Project Website Fit Father Project Instagram Fit Father Project Facebook Fit Father Project YouTube My Previous Episode with Anthony Conscious Relationship Council See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a licensed Naturopathic Doctor and creator of the Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project. He lost his father at the age of 42, which led him to dedicate his life to helping people live healthy and happy well into their old age. Anthony is a former national champion bodybuilder, nutritionist, and all around great example of all-around health. He joins me to talk about the practical steps each of us can take to insure a long and healthy life. In this episode we dive into: <ul> <li>How to take care of yourself to age gracefully.</li> <li>Adapting your exercise routine as you get older, especially 40+.</li> <li>Exercising based on your nervous system state.</li> <li>Maintaining strength, cardiovascular health, flexibility, and mobility as you age.</li> <li>The importance of eating well.</li> <li>Nutrition is the baseline of health that can be maintained.</li> <li>Proper rehydration methods. </li> <li>Foods to eat at different times throughout the day to maximize your body’s energy.</li> <li>Greens powder. </li> <li>The addiction to sugary drinks. </li> <li>Anthony’s and Ben’s personal diet journeys.</li> <li>Paying attention to how different foods and drinks impact your body.</li> <li>Circadian rhythms. </li> <li>Comparing blue light, red light, UV light, infrared light, and red light machines.</li> <li>Entraining to the spectrum of light that is relevant to that time of day. </li> <li>How to supplement harsh winters with little sunlight.</li> <li>Flowing with the seasons with your routines.</li> <li>Vitamin D and K2 supplements.</li> <li>What supplements to take when you’re getting sick.</li> <li>Immortality…</li> <li>How longevity is a byproduct of our lifestyle. </li> </ul> Links from this episode: <ul> <li><a href="https://www.fitfatherproject.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fit Father Project Website</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/fitfatherproject/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fit Father Project Instagram</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/fitfatherproject/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fit Father Project Facebook</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKvJ_vxZZoN5yeWBU2CVGcQ" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fit Father Project YouTube</a></li> <li>My <a href="https://evolvingman.com/anthony-balduzzi/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Previous Episode with Anthony</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Conscious Relationship Council</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#82 - Longevity And Thriving As You Age - with Dr. Anthony Balduzzi

Becky Griffin

Becky Griffin is a co-founder of Caya Shobo, an Ayahuasca and plant medicine healing center in Peru. She has been immersed in a path of self-discovery and learning with the Shipibo plant medicine tradition since 2008, and she joins me to talk about her extensive experience dieting various Master plants under the guidance of high-level Shipibo maestro and maestra Onányas.  Becky is a facilitator and healer for people seeking healing and growth from plant medicines like Ayahuasca and master plant diets. She has served as an apprentice curandera of the Shipibo tradition since 2012 and currently holds small ceremonial gatherings for experienced dieters. On this episode we talk about:  Ayahuasca shamanism.   Beccy &amp; Ben’s personal exploration with plant medicine.  The wisdom of Ayahuasca: shifting between light and dark energy.  Mind-centered talk therapy vs. body &amp; spirit-centered plant medicine.  Addressing physical ailments with plant medicine. Reconnecting with the spirit of nature.  What is a “plant dieta” and how does it work?  The synchronicities between nature and humans.  How to establish a relationship with the consciousness of plants. Ayahuasca is a diagnostic tool.  The benefits of going to Peru for plant medicine treatment. Healing at the cellular level with plant medicine.  How long does it take to heal with plant medicine? The false light of Ayahuasca and other plants.  The pitfalls of exploring plant medicine with inexperienced healers.  The downfalls of placing spiritual teachers on pedestals.  Be your own teacher - becoming responsible for your own healing path.  Integrating all parts of yourself - mental, spiritual, light, shadow. The light and dark sides of cannabis and tobacco. Healing vs. coping. Beccy’s favorite Master Plants.  An opportunity to travel to Peru with Ben for a retreat.    Links from this episode:  Caya Shobo Website Caya Shobo Instagram Caya Shobo Facebook Join the Evolving Man Brotherhood circle  And finally, a message from Becky: “I believe that at this time we are all being called to embark on a process of transformation, to heal the wounds and confusions of the past, and to start to realize our potential to live in genuine joy and balance. We each must find our own true self beneath the markings of trauma and conditioning that we carry and discover and integrate the ‘medicine’ within those challenges. ​The Shipibo medicine tradition and the master healing plants are living wonders from an ancient world. My own search for healing and greater meaning in life has brought me to this sacred path. And through supporting many others on a similar journey, I have seen that it is possible to slowly but surely nurture a deep connection with the master teacher plants and their songs, and thereby foster a greater harmony and understanding within, while restoring our rightful relationships with all of life. It is my honour to assist and support others on this blessed journey of discovery.”  ~ Becky  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Becky Griffin is a co-founder of Caya Shobo, an Ayahuasca and plant medicine healing center in Peru. She has been immersed in a path of self-discovery and learning with the Shipibo plant medicine tradition since 2008, and she joins me to talk about her extensive experience dieting various Master plants under the guidance of high-level Shipibo maestro and maestra Onányas.  Becky is a facilitator and healer for people seeking healing and growth from plant medicines like Ayahuasca and master plant diets. She has served as an apprentice curandera of the Shipibo tradition since 2012 and currently holds small ceremonial gatherings for experienced dieters. On this episode we talk about: <ul> <li>Ayahuasca shamanism.  </li> <li>Beccy &amp; Ben’s personal exploration with plant medicine. </li> <li>The wisdom of Ayahuasca: shifting between light and dark energy. </li> <li>Mind-centered talk therapy vs. body &amp; spirit-centered plant medicine. </li> <li>Addressing physical ailments with plant medicine.</li> <li>Reconnecting with the spirit of nature. </li> <li>What is a “plant dieta” and how does it work? </li> <li>The synchronicities between nature and humans. </li> <li>How to establish a relationship with the consciousness of plants.</li> <li>Ayahuasca is a diagnostic tool. </li> <li>The benefits of going to Peru for plant medicine treatment.</li> <li>Healing at the cellular level with plant medicine. </li> <li>How long does it take to heal with plant medicine?</li> <li>The false light of Ayahuasca and other plants. </li> <li>The pitfalls of exploring plant medicine with inexperienced healers. </li> <li>The downfalls of placing spiritual teachers on pedestals. </li> <li>Be your own teacher - becoming responsible for your own healing path. </li> <li>Integrating all parts of yourself - mental, spiritual, light, shadow.</li> <li>The light and dark sides of cannabis and tobacco.</li> <li>Healing vs. coping.</li> <li>Beccy’s favorite Master Plants. </li> <li>An opportunity to travel to Peru with Ben for a retreat.</li> </ul> Links from this episode: <ul> <li><a href="https://www.cayashobo.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Caya Shobo Website</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/cayashobo/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Caya Shobo Instagram</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/cayashobo" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Caya Shobo Facebook</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolving-man-brotherhood.circle.so/join?invitation_token=1bccb659be4cf409376267ad37bcdf51be4c4317-e179a9d2-7a3d-4c36-98d3-afeb778d2aee" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Join the Evolving Man Brotherhood circle</a></li> </ul> And finally, a message from Becky: “I believe that at this time we are all being called to embark on a process of transformation, to heal the wounds and confusions of the past, and to start to realize our potential to live in genuine joy and balance. We each must find our own true self beneath the markings of trauma and conditioning that we carry and discover and integrate the ‘medicine’ within those challenges. ​The Shipibo medicine tradition and the master healing plants are living wonders from an ancient world. My own search for healing and greater meaning in life has brought me to this sacred path. And through supporting many others on a similar journey, I have seen that it is possible to slowly but surely nurture a deep connection with the master teacher plants and their songs, and thereby foster a greater harmony and understanding within, while restoring our rightful relationships with all of life. It is my honour to assist and support others on this blessed journey of discovery.” ~ Becky See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#81 - Healing With Shipibo Plant Medicine - with Becky Griffin

Ben Goresky

Twelve Step programs have helped millions of people recover from addictions over the past 85+ years. In this episode we talk about why they work, the myths and the criticisms, and we make an attempt at a balanced look at the pros and cons of these programs. This is a solo episode with Ben Goresky - an addiction recovery coach with 15 years of personal experience in Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. After embedding himself in these programs and studying them in depth, Ben stepped away from the programs to focus on other healing modalities. He shares a viewpoint of the program that is rare: the inside view, and the outsider view. Topics discussed in this episode:  Who can benefit from Twelve Step programs: Discover if you're an ideal candidate. Exploring the variety of 12 step programs for different addictions. Navigating triggers, pitfalls, and negative experiences within these programs. The role of spirituality and the use of "big G" God language in the steps. Debunking the religious overtones: Are Twelve Step programs religious or spiritual? Addressing powerlessness and disempowering language in the steps. Understanding the reality of addiction: Loss of control and continued substance use despite consequences. The empowering use of the Disease Concept in addiction recovery. Overcoming tribalism and cult-like tendencies within 12 step communities. Unraveling the connection between underlying trauma and addiction. The dynamics of sponsorship: Challenges and strategies for making it work for you. Embracing empowering terminology and breaking free from the label of "addict." Examining the frequency of the term "addiction" and its implications. Reframing the saying "Once an Addict, Always an Addict." Foundational steps 1-3 - Breaking through denial, accepting the problem, and choosing a guiding wisdom. House cleaning steps (4-9): Embracing radical ownership and personal growth. Maintenance steps (10-12): Mastering growth and evolution on a daily basis. Harnessing the power of service work for successful sobriety and recovery. Identifying the two crucial factors that make Twelve Step programs effective. Tips for optimizing your Twelve Step experience and finding resonant meetings and like-minded individuals.  Links for this episode:  The Freedom From Addiction men’s recovery circle Podcast - High Functioning Addiction - with Alex Olshonsky Podcast - Everything you need to know about addiction - with Chris Bevaqua See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Twelve Step programs have helped millions of people recover from addictions over the past 85+ years. In this episode we talk about why they work, the myths and the criticisms, and we make an attempt at a balanced look at the pros and cons of these programs. This is a solo episode with Ben Goresky - an addiction recovery coach with 15 years of personal experience in Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. After embedding himself in these programs and studying them in depth, Ben stepped away from the programs to focus on other healing modalities. He shares a viewpoint of the program that is rare: the inside view, and the outsider view. Topics discussed in this episode: <ol> <li>Who can benefit from Twelve Step programs: Discover if you're an ideal candidate.</li> <li>Exploring the variety of 12 step programs for different addictions.</li> <li>Navigating triggers, pitfalls, and negative experiences within these programs.</li> <li>The role of spirituality and the use of "big G" God language in the steps.</li> <li>Debunking the religious overtones: Are Twelve Step programs religious or spiritual?</li> <li>Addressing powerlessness and disempowering language in the steps.</li> <li>Understanding the reality of addiction: Loss of control and continued substance use despite consequences.</li> <li>The empowering use of the Disease Concept in addiction recovery.</li> <li>Overcoming tribalism and cult-like tendencies within 12 step communities.</li> <li>Unraveling the connection between underlying trauma and addiction.</li> <li>The dynamics of sponsorship: Challenges and strategies for making it work for you.</li> <li>Embracing empowering terminology and breaking free from the label of "addict."</li> <li>Examining the frequency of the term "addiction" and its implications.</li> <li>Reframing the saying "Once an Addict, Always an Addict."</li> <li>Foundational steps 1-3 - Breaking through denial, accepting the problem, and choosing a guiding wisdom.</li> <li>House cleaning steps (4-9): Embracing radical ownership and personal growth.</li> <li>Maintenance steps (10-12): Mastering growth and evolution on a daily basis.</li> <li>Harnessing the power of service work for successful sobriety and recovery.</li> <li>Identifying the two crucial factors that make Twelve Step programs effective.</li> <li>Tips for optimizing your Twelve Step experience and finding resonant meetings and like-minded individuals.</li> </ol> Links for this episode: <ul> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/freedom-from-addiction/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Freedom From Addiction men’s recovery circle</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/deep-fix-alex-olshonsky/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Podcast - High Functioning Addiction - with Alex Olshonsky</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/chris-bevacqua-addiction-recovery/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Podcast - Everything you need to know about addiction - with Chris Bevaqua</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#80 - Twelve Step Programs Explained - with Ben Goresky

Chris Fletcher

Chris Austin Fletcher is a family counsellor and men’s leader with specialized training in conflict resolution, conscious communication, breathwork and somatic trauma release. He has 35 years of experience working with men and families, where he has seen the light and the dark side of the personal growth arenas.  He joins me on this episode to discuss his experience uncovering the exploitation and abuses of power in the healing communities around him. We talk about how men’s personal growth can go sideways, and how to get men back into alignment.  In this episode we dive into:  The 9 shadow elements of men’s work.  The light and dark side of healing.  Exploring suspicions about men’s work. Men being the voice for women in situations of abuse. Embodying masculinity without being a hero.  The dark backlash from #MeToo and women’s empowerment. Responding with shame vs. empathy. Bringing wounds to men’s work. How to find depth beyond the loud internet voices.  Conversations about Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, and Donald Trump. How the dark masculine feeds on the energy of extremes, fears, and world chaos.  How to discern authentic vs. inauthentic men’s work on social media.  Staying connected to the heart chakra.  Shame and terror on the internet.  The problem with quick fixes. ​​How to look out for good mentors, teachers, and communities. Balancing the archetypes in men’s work. The 9 Rings of Alignment: A self-regulation practice. The importance of developing rich relationships. The importance of setting intentions. Cultivating a self-care practice.  Links from this Episode:  Chris’ Website w/ free download Whole Family Healing Facebook Halfmoon Haven Website Breakup-Coach Leo mentioned in this episode. Leo's Breakup Program. Freedom from Addiction Circle Conscious Relationship Council See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chris Austin Fletcher is a family counsellor and men’s leader with specialized training in conflict resolution, conscious communication, breathwork and somatic trauma release. He has 35 years of experience working with men and families, where he has seen the light and the dark side of the personal growth arenas.  He joins me on this episode to discuss his experience uncovering the exploitation and abuses of power in the healing communities around him. We talk about how men’s personal growth can go sideways, and how to get men back into alignment.  In this episode we dive into: <ul> <li>The 9 shadow elements of men’s work. </li> <li>The light and dark side of healing. </li> <li>Exploring suspicions about men’s work.</li> <li>Men being the voice for women in situations of abuse.</li> <li>Embodying masculinity without being a hero. </li> <li>The dark backlash from #MeToo and women’s empowerment.</li> <li>Responding with shame vs. empathy.</li> <li>Bringing wounds to men’s work.</li> <li>How to find depth beyond the loud internet voices. </li> <li>Conversations about Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, and Donald Trump.</li> <li>How the dark masculine feeds on the energy of extremes, fears, and world chaos. </li> <li>How to discern authentic vs. inauthentic men’s work on social media. </li> <li>Staying connected to the heart chakra. </li> <li>Shame and terror on the internet. </li> <li>The problem with quick fixes.</li> <li>​​How to look out for good mentors, teachers, and communities.</li> <li>Balancing the archetypes in men’s work.</li> <li>The 9 Rings of Alignment: A self-regulation practice.</li> <li>The importance of developing rich relationships.</li> <li>The importance of setting intentions.</li> <li>Cultivating a self-care practice.</li> </ul> Links from this Episode: <ul> <li><a href="https://ninerings.ca/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris’ Website w/ free download</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/WholeFamilyHealing/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Whole Family Healing Facebook</a></li> <li><a href="https://halfmoonhaven.ca/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Halfmoon Haven Website</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.instagram.com/breakuprecoveryleo" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Breakup-Coach Leo </a>mentioned in this episode.</li> <li>Leo's <a href="https://www.breakuprecoverycoach.com/journeytorecoveryprogram" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Breakup Program</a>.</li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/freedom-from-addiction/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Freedom from Addiction Circle</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Conscious Relationship Council</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#79 - The Dark Side Of Men's Work - with Chris Fletcher

Amrit Sandhu

Amrit Sandhu coaches people to make big changes in their lives and move beyond their limitations. He is the host of The Inspired Evolution podcast, and he joined me to discuss the dilemma of making a change from lucrative yet unfulfilling career to one filled with purpose and fulfillment. In this episode we dive into:  Consciously changing careers. What needs to be in place to create deep &amp; lasting change. How to assess your core values. Consciously aligning your life around a self-created mission statement.  The similarities between being an engineer and a life coach. The social construction of “success.”  Being an introvert vs. an extrovert and a task person vs. a people person.  Feeling stuck in your career.  Attaching self worth to what you do (masculine) vs. who you are (feminine). Stress is your greatest ally. Being overwhelmed by opportunity. Giving yourself time and space to pivot, integrate change, and transform.  When self-help can get toxic. The opposite of depression is expression. Being energized by work. Inspiration vs. jealousy. The abundance of opportunities that are present when you’re in alignment. The awareness is the shift. Acknowledging nuance in light and dark thoughts.  Amrit’s principles in encouraging people to make personal changes.   Our biggest challenge is our greatest gift. Mapping out the vision for your dream life.  The world around you is consistently programming you against your innate self. Learning to parent a boy throughout different developmental milestones. Cultivating community. Reprogramming who you were for who you want to become.   Gratitude opens a door for self love.  Creating your own archetypes.       Podcast Links   Amrit’s Website Amrit’s Instagram Amrit’s YouTube Conscious Relationship Council  The Freedom from Addiction Circle See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Amrit Sandhu coaches people to make big changes in their lives and move beyond their limitations. He is the host of The Inspired Evolution podcast, and he joined me to discuss the dilemma of making a change from lucrative yet unfulfilling career to one filled with purpose and fulfillment. In this episode we dive into: <ul> <li>Consciously changing careers.</li> <li>What needs to be in place to create deep &amp; lasting change.</li> <li>How to assess your <a href="https://inspiredevolution.com/values" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">core values</a>.</li> <li>Consciously aligning your life around a self-created mission statement. </li> <li>The similarities between being an engineer and a life coach.</li> <li>The social construction of “success.” </li> <li>Being an introvert vs. an extrovert and a task person vs. a people person. </li> <li>Feeling stuck in your career. </li> <li>Attaching self worth to what you do (masculine) vs. who you are (feminine).</li> <li>Stress is your greatest ally.</li> <li>Being overwhelmed by opportunity.</li> <li>Giving yourself time and space to pivot, integrate change, and transform. </li> <li>When self-help can get toxic.</li> <li>The opposite of depression is expression.</li> <li>Being energized by work.</li> <li>Inspiration vs. jealousy.</li> <li>The abundance of opportunities that are present when you’re in alignment.</li> <li>The awareness is the shift.</li> <li>Acknowledging nuance in light and dark thoughts. </li> <li>Amrit’s principles in encouraging people to make personal changes.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Our biggest challenge is our greatest gift.</li> <li>Mapping out the vision for your dream life. </li> <li>The world around you is consistently programming you against your innate self.</li> <li>Learning to parent a boy throughout different developmental milestones.</li> <li>Cultivating community.</li> <li>Reprogramming who you were for who you want to become.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Gratitude opens a door for self love. </li> <li>Creating your own archetypes.   </li> </ul> Podcast Links <ul> <li><a href="https://inspiredevolution.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Amrit’s Website</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/amrit.coach/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Amrit’s Instagram</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@InspiredEvolution" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Amrit’s YouTube</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Conscious Relationship Council </a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/freedom-from-addiction/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Freedom from Addiction Circle</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#78 - Purpose, Alignment, and Doing Work You Love - with Amrit Sandhu

Adam Hart

Adam Hart is an International Speaker &amp; best selling author whose mission is to help busy parents transform their quality of life and develop deeply connected relationships with their partners and children. Focusing on nervous system regulation, energetic attraction and natural holistic wellness practices, Adam leads his clients to living at their best. Adam created a handout for our listeners called The 6 Step Unleash-Your-Energy Roadmap, available at clearimpact.io. In this episode we dive into:  ADHD &amp; ADD diagnoses. Prescription medication and self-medicating. Nervous system regulation. Optimizing human performance in all areas of your life.  Conscious parenting. Scattered minds in a dopamine-centered world.  Occupational burnout. Managing energy and stress responses in the moment. Fight or flight responses when rock climbing.  Recovery becomes an addiction vs. harm reduction.  Different foods affect brain chemistry.  Intelligent health and developing intuition.  The mind-body connection.  Becoming “unstuck.” Practicing co-regulation and self-regulation. Wim Hof breathwork &amp; heart flow breath practice.  Committing to practicing simplicity. Nurturing the nervous system with compassion and empathy. Being in a community to support your healing.  Unleash Your Energy Roadmap (on clearimpact.io).  Links  Clear Impact Coaching Adam's YouTube The Power of Food - Book Ben's Conscious Relationship Council (Next cohort starts April 4th) Ben's Freedom From Addiction Circle  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Adam Hart is an International Speaker &amp; best selling author whose mission is to help busy parents transform their quality of life and develop deeply connected relationships with their partners and children. Focusing on nervous system regulation, energetic attraction and natural holistic wellness practices, Adam leads his clients to living at their best. Adam created a handout for our listeners called The 6 Step Unleash-Your-Energy Roadmap, available at <a href="http://clearimpact.io/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">clearimpact.io</a>. In this episode we dive into: <ul> <li>ADHD &amp; ADD diagnoses.</li> <li>Prescription medication and self-medicating.</li> <li>Nervous system regulation.</li> <li>Optimizing human performance in all areas of your life. </li> <li>Conscious parenting.</li> <li>Scattered minds in a dopamine-centered world. </li> <li>Occupational burnout.</li> <li>Managing energy and stress responses in the moment.</li> <li>Fight or flight responses when rock climbing. </li> <li>Recovery becomes an addiction vs. harm reduction. </li> <li>Different foods affect brain chemistry. </li> <li>Intelligent health and developing intuition. </li> <li>The mind-body connection. </li> <li>Becoming “unstuck.”</li> <li>Practicing co-regulation and self-regulation.</li> <li>Wim Hof breathwork &amp; heart flow breath practice. </li> <li>Committing to practicing simplicity.</li> <li>Nurturing the nervous system with compassion and empathy.</li> <li>Being in a community to support your healing. </li> <li>Unleash Your Energy Roadmap (on <a href="http://clearimpact.io" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">clearimpact.io</a>).</li> </ul> Links <ul> <li><a href="https://clearimpact.io/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Clear Impact Coaching</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6h7xIPue3l0ecT9ZFpkkug" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Adam's YouTube</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/17387186" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Power of Food</a> - Book</li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ben's Conscious Relationship Council</a> (Next cohort starts April 4th)</li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/product/the-freedom-from-addiction-circle/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ben's Freedom From Addiction Circle </a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#77 - ADHD and Nervous System Optimization - with Adam Hart

Dr. Shefali specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy and is an expert in family dynamics and personal development. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. She joins me for a brass tacks conversation about the Dos and Don’ts of parenting, and to share about her new book The Parenting Map which comes out on February 28th, 2023.In this episode, we discuss:  How to go from chaos, disconnection, and frustration to a place of deep bonding and clarity as a parent. The similarities between conscious (romantic) relationship work and conscious parenting. How your triggers with your child are a reminder of what you need to work on. The belief that our children are a possession, and the dangerous projection that follows. The problem with the old belief that “parents know what’s best for their children”. How parents tend to project their own fears, insecurities, and triggers onto their children. Having a child will bring up your own childhood issues. How spanking = hitting = suppression and shame in children. Parents as a safe space rather than a police force or judge and punisher. The 3 reasons kids misbehave:  1. Lack of Skill 2. Lack of experience 3. Lack of worth  Fear/Control mentality VS abundance/love mentality. The NBC Method: Negotiation, Boundaries, and Consequences. The problem with force feeding children and forcing them to do things they don’t want to do. Home as a safe space VS a house of rules. Natural consequences - allowing life to teach your children. How to teach children to know their inner “yes” and “no” so they can trust themselves as adults. The value of remembering that children will be adults one day and will remember how you treat them. Connection as the crucial ingredient in governing children’s behaviour. Why showing a child your feelings is so powerful.  Dr Shefali’s Links:  Dr Shefali’s Books Instagram  TikTok  YouTube  The Conscious Relationship Council   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Shefali specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy and is an expert in family dynamics and personal development. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. She joins me for a brass tacks conversation about the Dos and Don’ts of parenting, and to share about her new book The Parenting Map which comes out on February 28th, 2023. In this episode, we discuss: <ul> <li>How to go from chaos, disconnection, and frustration to a place of deep bonding and clarity as a parent.</li> <li>The similarities between conscious (romantic) relationship work and conscious parenting.</li> <li>How your triggers with your child are a reminder of what you need to work on.</li> <li>The belief that our children are a possession, and the dangerous projection that follows.</li> <li>The problem with the old belief that “parents know what’s best for their children”.</li> <li>How parents tend to project their own fears, insecurities, and triggers onto their children.</li> <li>Having a child will bring up your own childhood issues.</li> <li>How spanking = hitting = suppression and shame in children.</li> <li>Parents as a safe space rather than a police force or judge and punisher.</li> <li>The 3 reasons kids misbehave:</li> <ul> <li>1. Lack of Skill</li> <li>2. Lack of experience</li> <li>3. Lack of worth</li> </ul> <li>Fear/Control mentality VS abundance/love mentality.</li> <li>The NBC Method: Negotiation, Boundaries, and Consequences.</li> <li>The problem with force feeding children and forcing them to do things they don’t want to do.</li> <li>Home as a safe space VS a house of rules.</li> <li>Natural consequences - allowing life to teach your children.</li> <li>How to teach children to know their inner “yes” and “no” so they can trust themselves as adults.</li> <li>The value of remembering that children will be adults one day and will remember how you treat them.</li> <li>Connection as the crucial ingredient in governing children’s behaviour.</li> <li>Why showing a child your feelings is so powerful.</li> </ul> Dr Shefali’s Links: <ul> <li><a href="https://www.drshefali.com/books" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dr Shefali’s Books</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorshefali" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TikTok</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/DrShefali" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">YouTube</a> </li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Conscious Relationship Council</a></li> </ul> See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#76 - Conscious Parenting - with Dr. Shefali

John Wang

John Wang is a speaker, writer, and founder of the Big Asian Energy show. He studies the communication and people skills of Asian American leaders and entrepreneurs, and uses evidence-backed studies to help them master performance and communication, so they can be better recognized for their brilliance and hard work. His videos on mindset and communication have over 25 million views on TikTok. In this episode we dive into:  Becoming a man of action. Wing walking on airplanes.   The gift of death. Collectivist vs. individualist culture. The script of being a good son vs. a good man. Unwinding parenting patterns in one’s own life. Dysfunctional and secure attachment between parents and children.  Healing wounds with parents. 6 archetypal patterns of unintegrated men. Learning to parent yourself.  Getting the love we want Blaming vs. evolving in relationships. The ACE method. Self-acceptance and attunement. Struggles of Asian-American men &amp; women in the working world. “The Bamboo Ceiling”. How to cultivate empathy. The 4 things that give us all happiness. John’s experiment practicing kindness and what he learned. The Vagus Nerve. The Big Asian Energy course.    Links from this Episode:    John’s Website John’s Instagram John’s TikTok John’s Facebook John’s YouTube Ben's Conscious Relationship Council Ben's Freedom from Addiction Circle See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

John Wang is a speaker, writer, and founder of the Big Asian Energy show. He studies the communication and people skills of Asian American leaders and entrepreneurs, and uses evidence-backed studies to help them master performance and communication, so they can be better recognized for their brilliance and hard work. His videos on mindset and communication have over 25 million views on TikTok. In this episode we dive into: <ul> <li>Becoming a man of action.</li> <li>Wing walking on airplanes.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>The gift of death.</li> <li>Collectivist vs. individualist culture.</li> <li>The script of being a good son vs. a good man.</li> <li>Unwinding parenting patterns in one’s own life.</li> <li>Dysfunctional and secure attachment between parents and children. </li> <li>Healing wounds with parents.</li> <li>6 archetypal patterns of unintegrated men.</li> <li>Learning to parent yourself. </li> <li>Getting the love we want</li> <li>Blaming vs. evolving in relationships.</li> <li>The ACE method.</li> <li>Self-acceptance and attunement.</li> <li>Struggles of Asian-American men &amp; women in the working world.</li> <li>“The Bamboo Ceiling”.</li> <li>How to cultivate empathy.</li> <li>The 4 things that give us all happiness.</li> <li>John’s experiment practicing kindness and what he learned.</li> <li>The Vagus Nerve.</li> <li>The Big Asian Energy course.</li> </ul> Links from this Episode:   <ul> <li><a href="https://www.bigasianenergy.co/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">John’s Website</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/johnwangofficial" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">John’s Instagram</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@johnwangbae" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">John’s TikTok</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/johnwangofficial" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">John’s Facebook</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/JohnWangOfficial" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">John’s YouTube</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ben's Conscious Relationship Council</a></li> <li><a href="https://linktr.ee/evolvingman" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ben's Freedom from Addiction Circle</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#75 - Breaking Through Your Limitations - with John Wang

Connor Beaton

Connor Beaton is a speaker, a coach, and the founder of Man Talks, a company dedicated to the betterment of men. He joins me on this episode to talk about the subject of his new book: Men’s Work - A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self Sabotage, And Find Freedom.In this episode we discuss what Connor calls The Shadow Of The Father and how it affects every man's life. We also discuss the effects of absent fathers in the development of young men, and we touch on the effects of porn on men’s lives and their relationships.Pre-order Connor’s Book here. You can follow Connor @mantalks on IG, and on his website mantalks.com As mentioned in the intro, The Conscious Relationship Council for men is open for registration until Jan 12.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Connor Beaton is a speaker, a coach, and the founder of Man Talks, a company dedicated to the betterment of men. He joins me on this episode to talk about the subject of his new book: Men’s Work - A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self Sabotage, And Find Freedom. In this episode we discuss what Connor calls The Shadow Of The Father and how it affects every man's life. We also discuss the effects of absent fathers in the development of young men, and we touch on the effects of porn on men’s lives and their relationships. Pre-order Connor’s Book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mens-Work-Practical-Darkness-Self-Sabotage/dp/1683649907" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. You can follow Connor @mantalks on IG, and on his website <a href="http://mantalks.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">mantalks.com</a> As mentioned in the intro, <a href="https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Conscious Relationship Council</a> for men is open for registration until Jan 12.See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#74 - The Shadow Of The Father - with Connor Beaton

Ryan Pope

Ryan Pope is a chiropractor, men’s coach, and founder of Powerhouse Mind Body Chiro located on the Gold Coast in Australia. His latest venture Becoming The Mountain is focussed on mentoring men and preparing them physically, mentally, and emotionally for the rite of passage into fatherhood. Ryan is also co-facilitator at Alchemy, a multi-modality healing and transformational retreat for men and women. I asked Ryan to share his wisdom with me to help me prepare for my own initiation into fatherhood. In this episode we discuss:  Preparation for fatherhood. Holistic healing and vitalism. Ryan’s journey to help men prepare for the birthing process. What kind of man do you want to be throughout the process of fatherhood? Normalizing mayhem in our body and mind during big transitions. Grief upon entering into parenthood. Embracing acceptance vs. embody resistance. The importance of having good men supporting you. Unplanned pregnancies.  Outcome oriented thinking vs. process focused thinking. The infinite intelligence of our bodies and The Universe. Challenging and navigating the “what if’s.” Birthing processes within the healthcare system vs. holistically.  Trauma during birth.  Creating intentions around a plan.  Divine femininity and surrendering.  Looking at the patterns that are mirrored from our parents.  Safety and trust in partnership during pregnancy.  Stepping up for your partner as a practice for fatherhood.  Cleaning out what’s taking up space in life to create more room for what you want. Navigating the unknowns of fatherhood.  The depth of presence and awareness. Trusting the inner wisdom of your partner.  The masculine structure around the birthing process. Toning.  Setting boundaries around family and friends. The importance of postpartum regeneration practices.   Links from this episode:   Ryan’s Instagram  Ryan’s Chiropractor Website The Business of Being Born  The First Forty Days book Evolving Man Episode with Jessica Austin Evolving Man Episode with John Wineland See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ryan Pope is a chiropractor, men’s coach, and founder of Powerhouse Mind Body Chiro located on the Gold Coast in Australia. His latest venture Becoming The Mountain is focussed on mentoring men and preparing them physically, mentally, and emotionally for the rite of passage into fatherhood. Ryan is also co-facilitator at Alchemy, a multi-modality healing and transformational retreat for men and women. I asked Ryan to share his wisdom with me to help me prepare for my own initiation into fatherhood. In this episode we discuss: <ul> <li>Preparation for fatherhood.</li> <li>Holistic healing and vitalism.</li> <li>Ryan’s journey to help men prepare for the birthing process.</li> <li>What kind of man do you want to be throughout the process of fatherhood?</li> <li>Normalizing mayhem in our body and mind during big transitions.</li> <li>Grief upon entering into parenthood.</li> <li>Embracing acceptance vs. embody resistance.</li> <li>The importance of having good men supporting you.</li> <li>Unplanned pregnancies. </li> <li>Outcome oriented thinking vs. process focused thinking.</li> <li>The infinite intelligence of our bodies and The Universe.</li> <li>Challenging and navigating the “what if’s.”</li> <li>Birthing processes within the healthcare system vs. holistically. </li> <li>Trauma during birth. </li> <li>Creating intentions around a plan. </li> <li>Divine femininity and surrendering. </li> <li>Looking at the patterns that are mirrored from our parents. </li> <li>Safety and trust in partnership during pregnancy. </li> <li>Stepping up for your partner as a practice for fatherhood. </li> <li>Cleaning out what’s taking up space in life to create more room for what you want.</li> <li>Navigating the unknowns of fatherhood. </li> <li>The depth of presence and awareness.</li> <li>Trusting the inner wisdom of your partner. </li> <li>The masculine structure around the birthing process.</li> <li>Toning. </li> <li>Setting boundaries around family and friends.</li> <li>The importance of postpartum regeneration practices. </li> </ul> Links from this episode: <ul></ul> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pope_ryan_/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ryan’s Instagram</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.powerhousembc.com.au/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ryan’s Chiropractor Website</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B001IIHAGK/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Business of Being Born </a></li> <li><a href="https://motherbees.com/pages/book-the-first-forty-days" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The First Forty Days book</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/jessica-austin-birth/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Evolving Man Episode with Jessica Austin</a></li> <li><a href="https://evolvingman.com/john-wineland/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Evolving Man Episode with John Wineland</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#73 - Men's Role In The Birth Process - with Ryan Pope

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The Evolving Man podcast features leaders and influencers in the personal growth arena who are actively engaged in "deep work", whether that be as a healer, or someone doing their own work. The guests on this podcast have a unique gift that they bring to the world, and they come to share these gifts with listeners. Tune in to witness discussions about addiction, consciousness, masculinity, health and personal growth.

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Sheleana Aiyana

Sheleana Aiyana is a writer and group facilitator in Vancouver, BC and she joins me to discuss the implications and importance of doing whats called "Deep Work" - looking inward to explore our consciousness in order to reclaim some of the territory usually dominated by the unconsciouss. In this episode we discuss the growing movement of women's and men's groups that are involved with deep work, and how they are affecting huge changes in the lives of their members. Shelena and I candidly share our own relationship patterns as a way of showing what we are learning about how relationships can derail, and how to be in "conscious relationship".Topics we cover in this episode:  Trauma and blocked emotions How we unconsciously act out our trauma "Shadow aspects" and how they show up  Why relationships are our biggest trigger How relationships can offer a powerful catalyst for healing our wounds Discipline of children through the withdrawal of love Healing through expressing what hasn't been allowed Needy-ness and Avoidance - two signs that you've got healing to do Deep work as a gateway to healthier relationships The Nice Guy phenomenon and how it affects men Conscious Relationship and learning to be in compassion and understanding Perseverance - The importance of staying in the game and moving towards your partner Triggers - How to deal with triggering your partner's wounds Shutting down when you're challenged - something that many men face with their partners For men: moving towards your partner when fear wants you to pull away Anxious and Avoidant types in relationships Rising Woman Sisterhood: Transpersonal group-work, family systems work, and the fellowship of women.  The paradox of vulnerability Shadow work and accepting both sides of your existence How to unlock your gifts How men can support women's work.  How to hold space for gender politics by doing your own work Collaboration VS Opposition in gender politics The masculine/feminine gender norms debate and how it can be a distraction from looking inward The #MeToo movement and how we can use MeToo to further our own inner work Sheleana's latest obsession: Satir Family Therapy The best Men's group in Vancouver - The Samurai Brotherhood  Sheleana is a coach for women and relationships. Find her hereRising Woman on FacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sheleana Aiyana is a writer and group facilitator in Vancouver, BC and she joins me to discuss the implications and importance of doing whats called "Deep Work" - looking inward to explore our consciousness in order to reclaim some of the territory usually dominated by the unconsciouss.  In this episode we discuss the growing movement of women's and men's groups that are involved with deep work, and how they are affecting huge changes in the lives of their members.  Shelena and I candidly share our own relationship patterns as a way of showing what we are learning about how relationships can derail, and how to be in "conscious relationship". Topics we cover in this episode: <ul> <li>Trauma and blocked emotions</li> <li>How we unconsciously act out our trauma</li> <li>"Shadow aspects" and how they show up </li> <li>Why relationships are our biggest trigger</li> <li>How relationships can offer a powerful catalyst for healing our wounds</li> <li>Discipline of children through the withdrawal of love</li> <li>Healing through expressing what hasn't been allowed</li> <li>Needy-ness and Avoidance - two signs that you've got healing to do</li> <li>Deep work as a gateway to healthier relationships</li> <li>The <a href="https://www.drglover.com/no-more-mr-nice-guy/the-book.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Nice Guy</a> phenomenon and how it affects men</li> <li>Conscious Relationship and learning to be in compassion and understanding</li> <li>Perseverance - The importance of staying in the game and moving towards your partner</li> <li>Triggers - How to deal with triggering your partner's wounds</li> <li>Shutting down when you're challenged - something that many men face with their partners</li> <li>For men: moving towards your partner when fear wants you to pull away</li> <li>Anxious and Avoidant types in relationships</li> <li><a href="http://risingwoman.com/the-rising-woman-sisterhood/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Rising Woman Sisterhood</a>: Transpersonal group-work, family systems work, and the fellowship of women. </li> <li>The paradox of vulnerability</li> <li>Shadow work and accepting both sides of your existence</li> <li>How to unlock your gifts</li> <li>How men can support women's work. </li> <li>How to hold space for gender politics by doing your own work</li> <li>Collaboration VS Opposition in gender politics</li> <li>The masculine/feminine gender norms debate and how it can be a distraction from looking inward</li> <li>The #MeToo movement and how we can use MeToo to further our own inner work</li> <li>Sheleana's latest obsession: Satir Family Therapy</li> <li>The best Men's group in Vancouver - <a href="https://samuraibrotherhood.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Samurai Brotherhood</a></li> </ul> Sheleana is a coach for women and relationships. Find her <a href="http://risingwoman.com/coaching/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> Rising Woman on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RisingWomanOfficial/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Healing Through Conscious Relationship - with Sheleana Aiyana

Sheleana Aiyana, founder of RisingWoman.com joins me for a conversation about codependency in relationships, as well as a Q &amp; A about relationships where we answer questions from fans about our own realtionship.Codependency is a word that comes up in conversations about healthy/unhealthy relationships. It is a pattern that is prevalent in the relationships all around you, and perhaps in your own relationship. We explore this subject in detail, defining what codependency is and what it looks like in romantic relationships. Some of the things we discuss in this episode:  What codependency can look like in relationship.  How quiet resentment builds when you give the wrong things Covert agreements (6:00) Coming in to relationship not needing to perform in order to earn love Type 1 codependency - Codependency associated with addiction (10:50) The key to recovering from Type 1 codependency Type 2 codependency - The "special" relationship (16:00) When 2 people are codependent Codependency as an isolation mechanism of the ego (20:00) The "Nice Guy" and "Nice Gal" phenomenon (26:00) How fear or rejection prevents us from asking for what we want (30:00) Learning to accept your partner's "No" Developing a strong sense of self-love, so you can say no to partners who don't fit what you want (39:00) The moment when we broke up early in the relationship and how we dealt with it. (43:00) How to bring consciousness in to a hot discussion or a fight (47:30) Using relationship as a tool for your own self-discovery (49:00) Q &amp; A about relationships. See below (56:00)  Healthy relationship tips from this episode:  Come in to relationship already deserving of love. This is a mindset. Ask for what you want - communicate your needs Set agreements consciously and verbally Allow emotions to flow in your relationship. Let it be messy. Learn to feel your own feelings, so you can hold space for your partner Use what happens in your relationship as an opportunity to learn about yourself and how your own mind works Disagreement does not equal rejection. Rejection doesn't have to crush you. Be willing to have your partner say "No" Learn to say No and then allow your partner to feel their feelings Develop self-love so you can turn down relationships that aren't a good fit for you. In hot discussions and fights - put 80% inward curiosity and 20% outward curiosity in the other person Remember that even in the most conscious relationships, there will be conflict. Your responsibility is to keep doing the work. If you want something in your relationship, bring the energy of that thing Take healthy space from each other, and use your community to give you energy instead of relying on each other for everything Women, nurture strong relationships with other women Men, build strong bonds with other men. Know what you want in relationships, and don't sell yourself out when choosing to move forward in a relationship. Boundaries are sexy Remember that you don't have to work out your relationship issues immediately. You can take space, and then come together and hold some space. Know when you can and can't hold space  Sheleana runs a program with Heather Pennell on Rising Woman called Heal Your Relationships. This is a program for women looking to do their inner work so they can attract the relationships they want.Q &amp; A Time - We answer the following:   Should I wait for “the one” or spend time dating and trying out romantic relationships?   Where are all the “good ones”? Why do I only attract people who only want sex?   Personal Question: Were we both interested in relationship work and personal growth before we met?   Can space between partners be healthy? How can time apart be good for relationships?   What are the benefits of polyamory or non-manogamy versus monogamy?   How do I bring myself to my partner when things aren’t going well?   How do I hold space?  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sheleana Aiyana, founder of <a href="https://risingwoman.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RisingWoman.com</a> joins me for a conversation about codependency in relationships, as well as a Q &amp; A about relationships where we answer questions from fans about our own realtionship. Codependency is a word that comes up in conversations about healthy/unhealthy relationships. It is a pattern that is prevalent in the relationships all around you, and perhaps in your own relationship. We explore this subject in detail, defining what codependency is and what it looks like in romantic relationships.  Some of the things we discuss in this episode: <ul> <li>What codependency can look like in relationship. </li> <li>How quiet resentment builds when you give the wrong things</li> <li>Covert agreements (6:00)</li> <li>Coming in to relationship not needing to perform in order to earn love</li> <li>Type 1 codependency - Codependency associated with addiction (10:50)</li> <li>The key to recovering from Type 1 codependency</li> <li>Type 2 codependency - The "special" relationship (16:00)</li> <li>When 2 people are codependent</li> <li>Codependency as an isolation mechanism of the ego (20:00)</li> <li>The "Nice Guy" and "Nice Gal" phenomenon (26:00)</li> <li>How fear or rejection prevents us from asking for what we want (30:00)</li> <li>Learning to accept your partner's "No"</li> <li>Developing a strong sense of self-love, so you can say no to partners who don't fit what you want (39:00)</li> <li>The moment when we broke up early in the relationship and how we dealt with it. (43:00)</li> <li>How to bring consciousness in to a hot discussion or a fight (47:30)</li> <li>Using relationship as a tool for your own self-discovery (49:00)</li> <li>Q &amp; A about relationships. See below (56:00)</li> </ul> Healthy relationship tips from this episode: <ul> <li>Come in to relationship already deserving of love. This is a mindset.</li> <li>Ask for what you want - communicate your needs</li> <li>Set agreements consciously and verbally</li> <li>Allow emotions to flow in your relationship. Let it be messy.</li> <li>Learn to feel your own feelings, so you can hold space for your partner</li> <li>Use what happens in your relationship as an opportunity to learn about yourself and how your own mind works</li> <li>Disagreement does not equal rejection. Rejection doesn't have to crush you. Be willing to have your partner say "No"</li> <li>Learn to say No and then allow your partner to feel their feelings</li> <li>Develop self-love so you can turn down relationships that aren't a good fit for you.</li> <li>In hot discussions and fights - put 80% inward curiosity and 20% outward curiosity in the other person</li> <li>Remember that even in the most conscious relationships, there will be conflict. Your responsibility is to keep doing the work.</li> <li>If you want something in your relationship, bring the energy of that thing</li> <li>Take healthy space from each other, and use your community to give you energy instead of relying on each other for everything</li> <li>Women, nurture strong relationships with other women</li> <li>Men, build strong bonds with other men.</li> <li>Know what you want in relationships, and don't sell yourself out when choosing to move forward in a relationship.</li> <li>Boundaries are sexy</li> <li>Remember that you don't have to work out your relationship issues immediately. You can take space, and then come together and hold some space.</li> <li>Know when you can and can't hold space</li> </ul> Sheleana runs a program with Heather Pennell on Rising Woman called <a href="https://risingwoman.com/heal-your-relationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Heal Your Relationships</a>. This is a program for women looking to do their inner work so they can attract the relationships they want. Q &amp; A Time - We answer the following: <ul> <li> Should I wait for “the one” or spend time dating and trying out romantic relationships? </li> <li> Where are all the “good ones”? Why do I only attract people who only want sex? </li> <li> Personal Question: Were we both interested in relationship work and personal growth before we met? </li> <li> Can space between partners be healthy? How can time apart be good for relationships? </li> <li> What are the benefits of polyamory or non-manogamy versus monogamy? </li> <li> How do I bring myself to my partner when things aren’t going well? </li> <li> How do I <a href="https://www.evolvingman.ca/podcast-list/holding-space-with-mark-groves" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">hold space</a>? </li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#28 Codependency and Relationship Q & A - with Sheleana Aiyana

Shelena Aiyana

I sat down with my first female guest, Sheleana Aiyana, and we talk about where we've lost our way with the masculine and the feminine. We also talk about how men and women are finding themselves again through gendered groups that do deep work.  Sheleana is a writer, a birth doula, and a coach. She is deeply engaged in women's work, facilitating women's circles and workshops with the Rising Woman Sisterhood, and pursuing conscious relationship work.  Rising Woman on Facebookwww.risingwoman.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I sat down with my first female guest, Sheleana Aiyana, and we talk about where we've lost our way with the masculine and the feminine. We also talk about how men and women are finding themselves again through gendered groups that do deep work.  Sheleana is a writer, a birth doula, and a coach. She is deeply engaged in women's work, facilitating women's circles and workshops with the Rising Woman Sisterhood, and pursuing conscious relationship work.  <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RisingWomanOfficial/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Rising Woman on Facebook</a> <a href="http://www.risingwoman.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.risingwoman.com</a> See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Healing the Masculine and the Feminine with Shelena Aiyana

Mark Groves

I sat down with Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist. We went deep from the beginning, chatting about consciousness and how we make decisions that play out in our relationships. We explore how the human mind works and how it repeats patterns. We also dig in to the empowering reality that we’re able to use our relationships to peer in to our unconscious and influence it by owning it. Mark drops tons of truth-bombs in this one.  Mark is a an emotional translator, a writer, a speaker and a coach. He is the host of the Masters Of The Universe Summit, which happens once a year in Vancouver, BC. http://www.motusummit.com/ You can find Mark at MarkGrovesTV http://markgroves.tvSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I sat down with Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist. We went deep from the beginning, chatting about consciousness and how we make decisions that play out in our relationships. We explore how the human mind works and how it repeats patterns. We also dig in to the empowering reality that we’re able to use our relationships to peer in to our unconscious and influence it by owning it. Mark drops tons of truth-bombs in this one.  Mark is a an emotional translator, a writer, a speaker and a coach. He is the host of the <a href="http://www.motusummit.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Masters Of The Universe Summit</a>, which happens once a year in Vancouver, BC. <a href="http://www.motusummit.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.motusummit.com/</a> You can find Mark at <a href="http://markgroves.tv/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MarkGrovesTV</a> <a href="http://markgroves.tv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://markgroves.tv</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Relationship Tools from The Human Connection Specialist - Mark Groves

Mark Groves is a relationship and communication coach. We've previously discussed How To Be A Man , and wanted to dive in to the concept of "Holding Space". This is often regarded as something that is done in romantic relationships, where one partner sits with another while they are having an emotional process.We outline the long definition of holding space, and the steps you can take to learn how to do it. On this episode we cover:  Resistance to getting feedback from your partner. What is Holding Space: Presence, compassion, open-ness. Consent - the importance of acknowledging that both people are ready and willing. Boundaries - saying "no" when you're not able to hold space. Step 1 - check in with yourself, see if you're ready and able Men's ability to connect to their own emotions How to find out what you're not good at The best way to learn how to connect to your emotions The art of separating your feelings from your partner's Step 2 - Prepare your inner space and open your heart Heart opening meditation. Not that hard.  Self talk to help yourself be ready for space holding Bypassing and our tendency to look for shortcuts The quickest way through an emotion is to lean in to it. How to build trust: Rigorous honesty and personal boundaries.  Step 3 - Accept the role, or say “no” and set a boundary Step 4 - Hold it Step 5 - Validate, Reflect.  The results of successful space holding - closeness and ego dissolution  How to find Mark:Instagram: @createtheloveWebsite: markgroves.tvConnor Beaton’s article on Holding SpaceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mark Groves is a relationship and communication coach. We've previously discussed <a href="https://www.evolvingman.ca/podcast-list/to-be-a-man-with-mark-groves" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How To Be A Man</a> , and wanted to dive in to the concept of "Holding Space". This is often regarded as something that is done in romantic relationships, where one partner sits with another while they are having an emotional process. We outline the long definition of holding space, and the steps you can take to learn how to do it. On this episode we cover: <ul> <li>Resistance to getting feedback from your partner.</li> <li>What is Holding Space: Presence, compassion, open-ness.</li> <li>Consent - the importance of acknowledging that both people are ready and willing.</li> <li>Boundaries - saying "no" when you're not able to hold space.</li> <li>Step 1 - check in with yourself, see if you're ready and able</li> <li>Men's ability to connect to their own emotions</li> <li>How to find out what you're not good at</li> <li>The best way to learn how to connect to your emotions</li> <li>The art of separating your feelings from your partner's</li> <li>Step 2 - Prepare your inner space and open your heart</li> <li>Heart opening meditation. Not that hard. </li> <li>Self talk to help yourself be ready for space holding</li> <li>Bypassing and our tendency to look for shortcuts</li> <li>The quickest way through an emotion is to lean in to it.</li> <li>How to build trust: Rigorous honesty and personal boundaries. </li> <li>Step 3 - Accept the role, or say “no” and set a boundary</li> <li>Step 4 - Hold it</li> <li>Step 5 - Validate, Reflect. </li> <li>The results of successful space holding - closeness and ego dissolution</li> </ul> How to find Mark: Instagram: @createthelove Website: <a href="http://markgroves.tv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">markgroves.tv</a> Connor Beaton’s article on <a href="http://connorbeaton.com/wtf-holding-space-mans-guide/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Holding Space</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Holding Space - with Mark Groves

In this episode, Sheleana drops the download everyone needs to hear about birth and menstruation; two topics many men avoid. She shatters cultural assumptions and leads us back towards a more natural, integrated, and empowered path. Sheleana is a writer, a birth doula, and a coach. She is deeply engaged in women's work, facilitating women's circles and workshops with the Rising Woman Sisterhood. She is passionate about helping women transform their lives through reclaiming their feminine nature. Rising Woman on Facebookwww.risingwoman.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Sheleana drops the download everyone needs to hear about birth and menstruation; two topics many men avoid. She shatters cultural assumptions and leads us back towards a more natural, integrated, and empowered path. Sheleana is a writer, a birth doula, and a coach. She is deeply engaged in women's work, facilitating women's circles and workshops with the Rising Woman Sisterhood. She is passionate about helping women transform their lives through reclaiming their feminine nature. <a href="https://www.facebook.com/RisingWomanOfficial/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Rising Woman on Facebook</a> <a href="http://www.risingwoman.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.risingwoman.com</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Reclaiming Birth and Menstruation - Myth busting with Sheleana Aiyana

Ryan Thomas

I sit down with Ryan Thomas and we talk about his work in the sex-education space. Ryan is part of the “sex positive” movement that seeks to normalize and educate people on the topic of sex and relationships - discussing many subjects which many people would normally keep to themselves.   The Intimate Lifestyle aims to give people all the tools they need to have better sex, better relationships, and a happier life. http://theintimatelifestyle.com/  Ryan also hosts his own podcast called Modern Sex Talks. http://theintimatelifestyle.com/podcasts Aduts, strap yourself in, Ryan doesn’t use politically correct language. Kids, earmuffs! Ryan's Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyleEvolving Man:  www.evolvingman.ca facebook.com/evolvingmancoachingSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I sit down with Ryan Thomas and we talk about his work in the sex-education space. Ryan is part of the “sex positive” movement that seeks to normalize and educate people on the topic of sex and relationships - discussing many subjects which many people would normally keep to themselves. The Intimate Lifestyle aims to give people all the tools they need to have better sex, better relationships, and a happier life. <a href="http://theintimatelifestyle.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://theintimatelifestyle.com/</a> Ryan also hosts his own podcast called Modern Sex Talks. <a href="http://theintimatelifestyle.com/podcasts" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://theintimatelifestyle.com/podcasts</a> Aduts, strap yourself in, Ryan doesn’t use politically correct language. Kids, earmuffs! Ryan's Facebook Page - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle</a> Evolving Man:  <a href="http://www.evolvingman.ca" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.evolvingman.ca</a> <a href="http://facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Sex, Relationships, and Taboos with Ryan Thomas

Phil Teertha Mistlberger is a transpersonal therapist and an author of 5 books, including a new book for men: The Way Of The Conscious Warrior - A Handbook For 21st Century Men. He joins me on the show to discuss the issues men face today and the solutions he has proposed in his book.Phil teaches that in this time of rapid change, there has been a loss of the warrior ethos. In his book, he points to a much needed revival of some of the admirable qualities of the warrior archetype: grit, discipline, fire, embodiment, and "necessary battle". On this episode we discuss:  Spiritual Bypassing: Phoney Holiness and the need to know your ego before you can transcend your ego. “To be an awakened man, you first need to be a man” - G.I. Gurdjieff. There’s no awakening without self-acceptance. Using your life experiences (particularly the challenging ones) to find the meta-messages for your life. All the happenings in your life are teachings in disguise. The 3 things needed to wake up - The Buddha (the teacher), The Dharma (the teaching), and The Sangha (the fellowship). Building a “Conscious Warrior” - Taking the useful traits of the Monk and the Warrior. Phil’s favourite warrior cultures. Why Phil uses examples of warriors throughout history, but does not idolize any of them. The power of living life for principles rather than blind devotion to people. Who is this book for? How men struggle in their lives as an unconscious attempt to punish their father or mother. The best way to change the world: do you own inner work, and be present and involved with the outside world. Live an impeccable life. What is happening with the growth of The Samurai Brotherhood - Phil’s men’s work community that he founded.  To find the book, look on Amazon and please do leave a review, or look for it at your local book store. You can find P.T. Mistlberger's online writings at ptmistlberger.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Phil Teertha Mistlberger is a transpersonal therapist and an author of 5 books, including a new book for men: <a href="https://www.amazon.ca/Way-Conscious-Warrior-Handbook-Century/dp/178535874X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Way Of The Conscious Warrior - A Handbook For 21st Century Men</a>. He joins me on the show to discuss the issues men face today and the solutions he has proposed in his book. Phil teaches that in this time of rapid change, there has been a loss of the warrior ethos. In his book, he points to a much needed revival of some of the admirable qualities of the warrior archetype: grit, discipline, fire, embodiment, and "necessary battle". On this episode we discuss: <ul> <li>Spiritual Bypassing: Phoney Holiness and the need to know your ego before you can transcend your ego.</li> <li>“To be an awakened man, you first need to be a man” - G.I. Gurdjieff. There’s no awakening without self-acceptance.</li> <li>Using your life experiences (particularly the challenging ones) to find the meta-messages for your life.</li> <li>All the happenings in your life are teachings in disguise.</li> <li>The 3 things needed to wake up - The Buddha (the teacher), The Dharma (the teaching), and The Sangha (the fellowship).</li> <li>Building a “Conscious Warrior” - Taking the useful traits of the Monk and the Warrior.</li> <li>Phil’s favourite warrior cultures.</li> <li>Why Phil uses examples of warriors throughout history, but does not idolize any of them.</li> <li>The power of living life for principles rather than blind devotion to people.</li> <li>Who is this book for?</li> <li>How men struggle in their lives as an unconscious attempt to punish their father or mother.</li> <li>The best way to change the world: do you own inner work, and be present and involved with the outside world. Live an impeccable life.</li> <li>What is happening with the growth of <a href="https://samuraibrotherhood.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Samurai Brotherhood</a> - Phil’s men’s work community that he founded.</li> </ul> To find the book, look on <a href="https://www.amazon.ca/Way-Conscious-Warrior-Handbook-Century/dp/178535874X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Amazon</a> and please do leave a review, or look for it at your local book store. You can find P.T. Mistlberger's online writings at <a href="http://www.ptmistlberger.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ptmistlberger.com</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#36 The Way Of The Conscious Warrior - with P. T. Mistlberger

Mark Groves, The Human Connection Specialist, joins me for another conversation about masculinity, relationships, and healing our wounds as a group. Mark provides no BS relationship advice to men and women, drawing on his many years of experience and studies of relationships. He brings his blunt, funny, and outspoken style to our conversation.  On this episode, we discuss:  Intro - Mark's Upcoming Podcast What "Be A Man" Means The old "masculinity". Time to redefine it. Childhood trauma, circumcision, and fighting for whats right "Men's Rights" - Why its not okay to speak about it The school system and why "all boys have ADD" The making of the "Nice Guy syndrome" How modern conflict-avoidant men end relationships The shaming of men, and how it wounds men further Shaming men for being sensitive How to build an emotionally cut-off man How not talking about sex makes our sex culture worse The "Me Too" movement and how it is a part of our healing Criticism and our critical culture Masculine and Feminine traits Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity  Societal shadow issues Holding space at an individual level, and societal level Men - learning to express emotion Leaning in to The New Masculinity  The Masters Of The Universe Summit  Mark's Instagram - @createtheloveMark's Website - markgroves.tvThe MOTU Website - motusummit.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mark Groves, The Human Connection Specialist, joins me for another conversation about masculinity, relationships, and healing our wounds as a group.  Mark provides no BS relationship advice to men and women, drawing on his many years of experience and studies of relationships. He brings his blunt, funny, and outspoken style to our conversation.  On this episode, we discuss: <ul> <li>Intro - Mark's Upcoming Podcast</li> <li>What "Be A Man" Means</li> <li>The old "masculinity". Time to redefine it.</li> <li>Childhood trauma, circumcision, and fighting for whats right</li> <li>"Men's Rights" - Why its not okay to speak about it</li> <li>The school system and why "all boys have ADD"</li> <li>The making of the "Nice Guy syndrome"</li> <li>How modern conflict-avoidant men end relationships</li> <li>The shaming of men, and how it wounds men further</li> <li>Shaming men for being sensitive</li> <li>How to build an emotionally cut-off man</li> <li>How not talking about sex makes our sex culture worse</li> <li>The "Me Too" movement and how it is a part of our healing</li> <li>Criticism and our critical culture</li> <li>Masculine and Feminine traits</li> <li>Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity </li> <li>Societal shadow issues</li> <li>Holding space at an individual level, and societal level</li> <li>Men - learning to express emotion</li> <li>Leaning in to The New Masculinity </li> <li><a href="http://www.motusummit.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Masters Of The Universe Summit</a></li> </ul> Mark's Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/createthelove" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@createthelove</a> Mark's Website - <a href="http://markgroves.tv" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">markgroves.tv</a> The MOTU Website - <a href="http://www.motusummit.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">motusummit.com</a> See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

To Be A Man - with Mark Groves

Sheleana Aiyana joins me again on the show to discuss shadow vows, ceremony, and all things related to weddings. Sheleana and I were married this spring and we learned so much in the process, so this is our debriefing conversation to integrate those lessons, along with some Q &amp; A at the end.In this episode, we dig in to what we think is missing in weddings these days and we share some of the key takeaways from our wedding, and we also share some of our sacred and shadow vows.If you want to have a laugh, listen through to the end of the episode for our goofy moments.On this episode, we discuss:  Shadow Vows and the power of naming the unsavoury parts of relationship. Painting a picture or a vision statement for a relationship through vows. The fantasy of the "perfect wedding". Introducing imperfection in to the wedding process. Sacred Vows as a relationship contract - writing vows together. Projections that Sheleana and I run about each other - toughness. One of our strategies for resolving conflict in our relationship. The Gifting Ceremony at our wedding - instead of the Gift Table. The Magic Gifting CIRCLE - a randomized gifting web between everyone at our wedding. Including and excluding certain wedding traditions. The traditional Bachelor and Bachelorette parties and what we don't like about them. Using the bachelor and bachelorette gatherings as an intentional step in to a new phase of life, through challenge and support. The importance of having a village to support a marriage. The story of what happens when Sheleana and I disconnect from our community. Q &amp; A: A question about how to "hold space" in a relationship when you're feeling emotionally reactive - I share my tips for how to do it. Anxious and Avoidant conflict styles - Managing the balance between them. Doing all your inner work before finding Mr./Mrs Right. and what this really means. Intuition - how to find intuition in knowing what relationship is right for you. Plant Medicines - Can be helpful, but you MUST do your work to integrate the work in to your life. Things you can do to prepare for plant medicine work: meditation, mindfulness, and challenging inner-work of other kinds. Somatic Experiencing Therapy  Sheleana is the founder of RisingWoman.com and can be found on Instagram @sheleanaaiyana.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sheleana Aiyana joins me again on the show to discuss shadow vows, ceremony, and all things related to weddings. Sheleana and I were married this spring and we learned so much in the process, so this is our debriefing conversation to integrate those lessons, along with some Q &amp; A at the end. In this episode, we dig in to what we think is missing in weddings these days and we share some of the key takeaways from our wedding, and we also share some of our sacred and shadow vows. If you want to have a laugh, listen through to the end of the episode for our goofy moments. On this episode, we discuss: <ul> <li>Shadow Vows and the power of naming the unsavoury parts of relationship.</li> <li>Painting a picture or a vision statement for a relationship through vows.</li> <li>The fantasy of the "perfect wedding".</li> <li>Introducing imperfection in to the wedding process.</li> <li>Sacred Vows as a relationship contract - writing vows together.</li> <li>Projections that Sheleana and I run about each other - toughness.</li> <li>One of our strategies for resolving conflict in our relationship.</li> <li>The Gifting Ceremony at our wedding - instead of the Gift Table.</li> <li>The Magic Gifting CIRCLE - a randomized gifting web between everyone at our wedding.</li> <li>Including and excluding certain wedding traditions.</li> <li>The traditional Bachelor and Bachelorette parties and what we don't like about them.</li> <li>Using the bachelor and bachelorette gatherings as an intentional step in to a new phase of life, through challenge and support.</li> <li>The importance of having a village to support a marriage.</li> <li>The story of what happens when Sheleana and I disconnect from our community.</li> <li>Q &amp; A:</li> <li>A question about how to "hold space" in a relationship when you're feeling emotionally reactive - I share my tips for how to do it.</li> <li>Anxious and Avoidant conflict styles - Managing the balance between them.</li> <li>Doing all your inner work before finding Mr./Mrs Right. and what this really means.</li> <li>Intuition - how to find intuition in knowing what relationship is right for you.</li> <li>Plant Medicines - Can be helpful, but you MUST do your work to integrate the work in to your life.</li> <li>Things you can do to prepare for plant medicine work: meditation, mindfulness, and challenging inner-work of other kinds.</li> <li>Somatic Experiencing Therapy</li> </ul> Sheleana is the founder of <a href="https://risingwoman.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RisingWoman.com</a> and can be found on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sheleanaaiyana/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sheleanaaiyana</a>.See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#34 - Weddings, Shadow Vows, and Ceremony with Sheleana Aiyana

Mike Muscari

Mike Muscari joins me for a discussion about purpose. We talk about how to cut a path in your life that is aligned with your heart’s desire and your mission in the world. In a world of infinite choice and many voices telling us what we should do, it is all too common to feel lost and directionless in our pursuit of purpose. The process of peeling away the “Shoulds” that have been placed on us by society is not easy. Mike has created a program to guide regular people through the process of uncovering and aligning with their purpose, so they can live an aligned life of fulfillment. On this episode we cover  Mike’s personal story of finding success as a financial advisor, and the transformation that followed. The mid-life crisis that comes as a result of pursuing the illusion of success The power of writing down your goals and dreams Personal Development - learning about who you really are Creating purpose for your life will create a ripple of change The fear of change and our tendency to stay safe How to use a “faith-based approach” to address fear Purpose = Not what do you want to do, but WHO do you want to be in the world?  Using your purpose to guide your choices Choosing the meaning for everything that happens in your life Inside-out approach VS an outside in approach The Purpose Method - uncovering one’s deepest values How to ask the right questions to reveal the themes that point to your purpose Resources in creating your own Purpose Constitution The purpose of the purpose method - Uncovering your highest and deepest values so you can live without regrets Creating a statement that guides your life Mike's upcoming trip across North America to interview people about purpose  Books and resources  Think And Grow Rich - by Napoleon Hill 17 Principles Of Success - by Napoleon Hill Wayne Dyer’s work on Purpose Dan Millman’s Books - peacefulwarrior.com/books/  Mike's Links Website - Thepurposemethod.org Instagram - instagram.com/thepurposemethod/ Mike's (amazing) Lyposomal Vitamin Company - Nano NutraSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mike Muscari joins me for a discussion about purpose. We talk about how to cut a path in your life that is aligned with your heart’s desire and your mission in the world. In a world of infinite choice and many voices telling us what we should do, it is all too common to feel lost and directionless in our pursuit of purpose. The process of peeling away the “Shoulds” that have been placed on us by society is not easy. Mike has created a program to guide regular people through the process of uncovering and aligning with their purpose, so they can live an aligned life of fulfillment. On this episode we cover <ul> <li>Mike’s personal story of finding success as a financial advisor, and the transformation that followed.</li> <li>The mid-life crisis that comes as a result of pursuing the illusion of success</li> <li>The power of writing down your goals and dreams</li> <li>Personal Development - learning about who you really are</li> <li>Creating purpose for your life will create a ripple of change</li> <li>The fear of change and our tendency to stay safe</li> <li>How to use a “faith-based approach” to address fear</li> <li>Purpose = Not what do you want to do, but WHO do you want to be in the world? </li> <li>Using your purpose to guide your choices</li> <li>Choosing the meaning for everything that happens in your life</li> <li>Inside-out approach VS an outside in approach</li> <li>The Purpose Method - uncovering one’s deepest values</li> <li>How to ask the right questions to reveal the themes that point to your purpose</li> <li>Resources in creating your own Purpose Constitution</li> <li>The purpose of the purpose method - Uncovering your highest and deepest values so you can live without regrets</li> <li>Creating a statement that guides your life</li> <li>Mike's upcoming trip across North America to interview people about purpose</li> </ul> Books and resources <ol> <li>Think And Grow Rich - by Napoleon Hill</li> <li>17 Principles Of Success - by Napoleon Hill</li> <li><a href="https://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/tag/life-purpose/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Wayne Dyer’s work on Purpose</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.peacefulwarrior.com/books/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dan Millman’s Books</a> - <a href="http://peacefulwarrior.com/books/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">peacefulwarrior.com/books/</a></li> </ol> Mike's Links Website - <a href="http://Thepurposemethod.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Thepurposemethod.org</a> Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thepurposemethod/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">instagram.com/thepurposemethod/</a> Mike's (amazing) Lyposomal Vitamin Company - <a href="https://www.nanonutrausa.com?afmc=28&amp;utm_campaign=28&amp;utm_source=leaddyno&amp;utm_medium=affiliate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Nano Nutra</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#27 Find Your Purpose with the Purpose Method - w/ Mike Muscari

I sit down with Devon O'Brien Ash and Steve Parr for a conversation about social media, porn, and how modern men are coping with a virtual world. We also talk about dating, pickup, and learning how to relate to women.Devon is a dating coach and the founder of The Ash Approach - formerly Social Fluency, in Vancouver, BC. The Ash Approach uses science-based, reality-tested methods to align a person and get in touch with their authenticity to achieve social mastery. http://www.ashapproach.com/#about Steve Parr is the Co-Founder of Heart Homes Travel, a life coach, and a lawyer specializing in small business law. He helps new businesses lay their legal foundations without headache, so they can focus on building the business. https://www.parrbusinesslaw.com/   Evolving Man:  www.evolvingman.ca facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching Also covered on the podcast: we discuss the brotherhood group that has leveled up on a consistent basis, and helped us in our relationships, and our business. Lead by Phil Teertha Mistleberger, its called the Samurai Brotherhood. http://samuraibrotherhood.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I sit down with Devon O'Brien Ash and Steve Parr for a conversation about social media, porn, and how modern men are coping with a virtual world. We also talk about dating, pickup, and learning how to relate to women. Devon is a dating coach and the founder of The Ash Approach - formerly Social Fluency, in Vancouver, BC. The Ash Approach uses science-based, reality-tested methods to align a person and get in touch with their authenticity to achieve social mastery.  <a href="http://www.ashapproach.com/#about" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.ashapproach.com/#about</a> Steve Parr is the Co-Founder of Heart Homes Travel, a life coach, and a lawyer specializing in small business law. He helps new businesses lay their legal foundations without headache, so they can focus on building the business. <a href="https://www.parrbusinesslaw.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.parrbusinesslaw.com/</a> Evolving Man:  <a href="http://www.evolvingman.ca" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.evolvingman.ca</a> <a href="http://facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching</a> Also covered on the podcast: we discuss the brotherhood group that has leveled up on a consistent basis, and helped us in our relationships, and our business. Lead by Phil Teertha Mistleberger, its called the Samurai Brotherhood. <a href="http://samuraibrotherhood.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://samuraibrotherhood.com</a> See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Social Media, Porn, And the Modern Man. with Steve and Devon

Phil Teertha Mistlberger

One of my favorite mentors, Phil Teertha Mistlberger joins me on the show to illuminate and discuss "the dark side of the masculine".  In a time where Toxic Masculinity is a common concept - and the outright rejection of that term being equally as prevalent - we need to have a productive conversation that helps us find our way to the other side.  Phil guides us in the direction of seeing the polarities of life and how we can use them to become fully integrated human beings. For men who want to learn about how to engage shadow work, this episode is for you. On this episode, we cover:  Toxic Masculinity Wounding - the unmentored young man The story of Saturn - the tyranical male Why men fear success Unhealthy competition between men: How boys are often raised competing with each other for approval and attention The father vacuum - when a boy doesn't have enough contact with the father A man's resistance to power and success How unhealed relationships with power figures in your life holds you back Why men get stuck when they are full of tallent How to focus your attention to to counteract 21st Century Distracted Man Syndrome The extremes of competitiveness: extreme competitiveness, and denying it alltogether Shadow aspects VS the dark masculine forces Vanity and Pride as the two pillars of the ego Donald Trump - a poster boy for the dark father guru archetype; intollerance of criticism How your ego can co-opt your "personal growth" work, and use it against the world The key to discovering your shadow without being fooled by it --&gt; Being witnessed by other men.  How to break through your ego in a support group by seeking to give rather than receive.  Why you need other people to do good shadow work 2 functions of a men's group: support, and leadership training Revealing the King inside you - learning what you have to give Why it is easier to receive feedback from a peer group than it is to receive feedback from your romantic partner.  Why some guys trigger you more than others  How to do shadow work on your own - be accountable for the people and the patterns that are in your life. The contrasts are there because you crave them. Befriending your shadow The dark side of the hero archetype Why engage in your inner work if your romantic partner isn't interested in it?  Teertha's Books   The Inner Light A Rude Awakening - Perils, pitfalls, and hard truths of the spiritual path.  The Three Dangerous Magi The Way of the Conscious Warrior, out early 2019  Teertha's Website - www.ptmistlberger.com Samurai Brotherhood - samuraibrotherhood.com    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of my favorite mentors, Phil Teertha Mistlberger joins me on the show to illuminate and discuss "the dark side of the masculine".  In a time where Toxic Masculinity is a common concept - and the outright rejection of that term being equally as prevalent - we need to have a productive conversation that helps us find our way to the other side.  Phil guides us in the direction of seeing the polarities of life and how we can use them to become fully integrated human beings. For men who want to learn about how to engage shadow work, this episode is for you.  On this episode, we cover: <ul> <li>Toxic Masculinity</li> <li>Wounding - the unmentored young man</li> <li>The story of Saturn - the tyranical male</li> <li>Why men fear success</li> <li>Unhealthy competition between men: How boys are often raised competing with each other for approval and attention</li> <li>The father vacuum - when a boy doesn't have enough contact with the father</li> <li>A man's resistance to power and success</li> <li>How unhealed relationships with power figures in your life holds you back</li> <li>Why men get stuck when they are full of tallent</li> <li>How to focus your attention to to counteract 21st Century Distracted Man Syndrome</li> <li>The extremes of competitiveness: extreme competitiveness, and denying it alltogether</li> <li>Shadow aspects VS the dark masculine forces</li> <li>Vanity and Pride as the two pillars of the ego</li> <li>Donald Trump - a poster boy for the dark father guru archetype; intollerance of criticism</li> <li>How your ego can co-opt your "personal growth" work, and use it against the world</li> <li>The key to discovering your shadow without being fooled by it --&gt; Being witnessed by other men. </li> <li>How to break through your ego in a support group by seeking to give rather than receive. </li> <li>Why you need other people to do good shadow work</li> <li>2 functions of a men's group: support, and leadership training</li> <li>Revealing the King inside you - learning what you have to give</li> <li>Why it is easier to receive feedback from a peer group than it is to receive feedback from your romantic partner. </li> <li>Why some guys trigger you more than others </li> <li>How to do shadow work on your own - be accountable for the people and the patterns that are in your life. The contrasts are there because you crave them.</li> <li>Befriending your shadow</li> <li>The dark side of the hero archetype</li> <li>Why engage in your inner work if your romantic partner isn't interested in it?</li> </ul> Teertha's Books  <ul> <li>The Inner Light</li> <li>A Rude Awakening - Perils, pitfalls, and hard truths of the spiritual path. </li> <li>The Three Dangerous Magi</li> <li>The Way of the Conscious Warrior, out early 2019</li> </ul> Teertha's Website - <a href="http://www.ptmistlberger.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.ptmistlberger.com</a> Samurai Brotherhood - <a href="http://samuraibrotherhood.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">samuraibrotherhood.com</a> See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Men's Shadow Work - with Phil Teertha Mistlberger

Matthew Stillman

Matthew Stillman has been doing men's work since he was a young man. He has worked directly with influential figures such as Robert Bly, David Deita, and Mantak Chia. In his years of experience, Matthew has gained wisdom in traditions that are uncommon for the average man.  Join us as we discuss Matthew's latest men's group which contains some novel structures that breathe life in to the group. Matthew's website - stillmansays.comTwitter - @stillmansaysSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Matthew Stillman has been doing men's work since he was a young man. He has worked directly with influential figures such as Robert Bly, David Deita, and Mantak Chia. In his years of experience, Matthew has gained wisdom in traditions that are uncommon for the average man.  Join us as we discuss Matthew's latest men's group which contains some novel structures that breathe life in to the group. Matthew's website - <a href="http://stillmansays.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">stillmansays.com</a> Twitter - @stillmansaysSee <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Matthew Stillman - Men's Work With Depth

Hamilton Souther

Hamilton Souther is a traditionally trained Ayahuasca and Tobacco Shaman who was born and raised in the United States. He received formal training in plant medicine work and now operates a retreat centre in Peru called Blue Morpho that offers healing retreats. In is episode we explore Hamilton's wild story and we explore the details of how plant medicines heal ailments like trauma, addiction, and other issues. We discuss some of the unlikely events and wild occurrences that lead Hamilton down his path to Shamandom. We also talk candidly about "master plants", "plant dieta", and even the Cannabis plant and its role as a master plant. Connect with Hamilton:Blue Morpho Retreat Centre - https://www.bluemorphotours.comThe Modern Shamanism course - modernshamanism.org If you liked this episode, watch out for Hamilton's podcast coming out soon, called The Blue Morpho Podcast.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hamilton Souther is a traditionally trained Ayahuasca and Tobacco Shaman who was born and raised in the United States. He received formal training in plant medicine work and now operates a retreat centre in Peru called Blue Morpho that offers healing retreats. In is episode we explore Hamilton's wild story and we explore the details of how plant medicines heal ailments like trauma, addiction, and other issues. We discuss some of the unlikely events and wild occurrences that lead Hamilton down his path to Shamandom. We also talk candidly about "master plants", "plant dieta", and even the Cannabis plant and its role as a master plant. Connect with Hamilton: <a href="https://www.bluemorphotours.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Blue Morpho Retreat Centre</a> - <a href="https://www.bluemorphotours.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.bluemorphotours.com</a> <a href="http://modernshamanism.org/en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Modern Shamanism course</a> - <a href="http://modernshamanism.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">modernshamanism.org</a> If you liked this episode, watch out for Hamilton's podcast coming out soon, called The Blue Morpho Podcast.See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#29 Plant Medicines and Ayahuasca, With Maestro Hamilton Souther  - A Next Generation Shaman

Joe Tafur

Dr. Joe Tafur has a unique story. While in medical school, in the midst of a low-point in his emotional life, he encountered the world of plant medicines through Peyote (and subsequently Ayahuasca) and found a whole other world-view of healing. After finishing medical school, he split his time between studying plant medicines in the jungle of Peru and practicing medicine in the United States. He is now a shaman, an author, and a doctor, sharing a unique view of healing that encompasses the physical along with the spiritual. Joe's book, The Fellowship Of The River tells Joe's story along with other stories of shamans clearing up conditions like Chrones, Diabetes, Psoriasis, Addiction, and Trauma with plant medicines. He eloquently describes the methods shaman's use, and what parts of the body are being affected. Healing occurs at the level of DNA and epigenetics. In this episode we discuss:  Joe's book at its connection to The Cosmic Serpent, a book about healing at the level of one's DNA, and how Shaman's take their consciousness down to that level using Ayahuasca The link between emotional healing and physical healing Genes and the programming in them that interfaces with the environment, the epi-genome How environmental imprints can cause illness that looks "genetic" and permanent. Proof of how the epigenome can store and carry memories from one generation to the next.  How trauma is stored in the body and needs to be released LOVE as the most powerful force for healing and health. The number 1 factor in healing through therapy Phenomenon: Mystical experiences healing physical addictions --&gt; The spiritual solution The Psycho-Neuro-Endocrine-Immunologic network - the mind-body network that connects the mental, emotional, and spiritual. The role of spiritual healing in modern health care  Joe's project to track epigenetic shifts in the physiology of participants in the MAPS trials that are happening with PTSD and MDMA healing.   The Modern Spirit Project - modernspirit.org Joe's Website - drjoetafur.comFind Joe's book here on AmazonJoe will be speaking at the Psychedelic Psychotherapy Forum in Victoria in October 2018See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Joe Tafur has a unique story. While in medical school, in the midst of a low-point in his emotional life, he encountered the world of plant medicines through Peyote (and subsequently Ayahuasca) and found a whole other world-view of healing. After finishing medical school, he split his time between studying plant medicines in the jungle of Peru and practicing medicine in the United States. He is now a shaman, an author, and a doctor, sharing a unique view of healing that encompasses the physical along with the spiritual.  Joe's book, The Fellowship Of The River tells Joe's story along with other stories of shamans clearing up conditions like Chrones, Diabetes, Psoriasis, Addiction, and Trauma with plant medicines. He eloquently describes the methods shaman's use, and what parts of the body are being affected. Healing occurs at the level of DNA and epigenetics. In this episode we discuss: <ul> <li>Joe's book at its connection to The Cosmic Serpent, a book about healing at the level of one's DNA, and how Shaman's take their consciousness down to that level using Ayahuasca</li> <li>The link between emotional healing and physical healing</li> <li>Genes and the programming in them that interfaces with the environment, the epi-genome</li> <li>How environmental imprints can cause illness that looks "genetic" and permanent.</li> <li>Proof of how the epigenome can store and carry memories from one generation to the next. </li> <li>How trauma is stored in the body and needs to be released</li> <li>LOVE as the most powerful force for healing and health.</li> <li>The number 1 factor in healing through therapy</li> <li>Phenomenon: Mystical experiences healing physical addictions --&gt; The spiritual solution</li> <li>The Psycho-Neuro-Endocrine-Immunologic network - the mind-body network that connects the mental, emotional, and spiritual.</li> <li>The role of spiritual healing in modern health care </li> <li>Joe's project to track epigenetic shifts in the physiology of participants in the <a href="http://www.maps.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MAPS</a> trials that are happening with <a href="http://www.maps.org/news/media/6786-press-release-fda-grants-breakthrough-therapy-designation-for-mdma-assisted-psychotherapy-for-ptsd,-agrees-on-special-protocol-assessment-for-phase-3-trials" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">PTSD and MDMA healing</a>. </li> </ul> The Modern Spirit Project - <a href="https://modernspirit.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">modernspirit.org</a> Joe's Website - <a href="http://drjoetafur.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">drjoetafur.com</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Fellowship-River-Exploration-Traditional-Amazonian/dp/0998609501/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Find Joe's book here on Amazon</a> Joe will be speaking at the <a href="http://www.psychedelicpsychotherapy.ca" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Psychedelic Psychotherapy Forum in Victoria</a> in October 2018See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Healing Trauma and Altering Epigenetics w/ Doctor & Shaman - Joe Tafur

Robin Clements is a facilitator of an advanced transformational breath technique he calls The Breath Wave. This technique creates altered states of consciousness that can be as powerful and impactful as psychedelics like Ayahuasca and Psilocybin without many of the side effects.Robin has been studying and practicing with the human body for over two decades, and after receiving certifications in massage, energy work, and breath work, he developed a unified breath experience - one that has produced experiences for me that feel like a total re-birth.This isn't something you need to fly across the world and devote thousands of dollars to learn or experience. It is available in bite sized chunks, in the comfort of your home, if you learn to do it well. In this episode, we discuss how people can develop a daily transformational breath practice that can be done in as little as 10-20 minutes. Note for Wim-Hof Method practitioners: This is a different technique and requires different methods, for your safety. Do not do an 'out hold' after doing this method. Instead, stay with your breath but keep it slow, without holding.On this episode, Robin discusses:  Our modern nervous systems in the generalized anxious and disconnected state. The wave of interest in relaxation techniques that help people balance the nervous system. The loop between your nervous system and your breath. The basic method of Conscious Connected Breathing. The physical healing, cleansing, and detoxification that breath work can provide. Altered states of consciousness stimulated by breath work. Working with our unconscious (and with trauma) while doing breath work. The key to letting go and surrendering during the breathwave method. How control patterns show up in the breath.  If you have issues with CONTROL, breath work can change your life. How the altered state can change your genes by bringing your body in to homeostasis. The benefits of lowering stress in your life (this cannot be overstated) How to do this practice in 5-10 minutes. Why you need to learn to listen to your body more as you get older. Why you'll want to find a trained teacher before doing a "full session" at 45-60 minutes. The tools you can use in a breath session to liberate stuck energy. How music is used as a powerful tool in a breath session. Boosting your daily energy with the use of a daily breath practice. How this work can prepare us for what is to come.  Robin's website - Breathwave.net Robin's pre-recorded Soundcloud breath journeys - Soundcloud/robin-clementsDeep Tissue organ massage, as mentioned on the show - James Bell at Our Healing Room. Still don't know what the breath wave is? Listen to the episode, and see Robin's words below:‘The Breath Wave’ is an open and balanced self-practice of your own breath, flowing as a relaxed and continuous wave. This full respiratory breathing technique enhances the flow of oxygen and life force (prana) throughout the body and mind, slows down the patterns of the brain and the nervous system and cultivates a high vibrational frequency; facilitating vibrant health, mental and emotional clarity and a liberating connection with our higher self.“You are your own greatest healer and teacher” - Robin ClementsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Robin Clements is a facilitator of an advanced transformational breath technique he calls <a href="https://www.breathwave.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Breath Wave</a>. This technique creates altered states of consciousness that can be as powerful and impactful as psychedelics like Ayahuasca and Psilocybin without many of the side effects. Robin has been studying and practicing with the human body for over two decades, and after receiving certifications in massage, energy work, and breath work, he developed a unified breath experience - one that has produced experiences for me that feel like a total re-birth. This isn't something you need to fly across the world and devote thousands of dollars to learn or experience. It is available in bite sized chunks, in the comfort of your home, if you learn to do it well. In this episode, we discuss how people can develop a daily transformational breath practice that can be done in as little as 10-20 minutes.  Note for Wim-Hof Method practitioners: This is a different technique and requires different methods, for your safety. Do not do an 'out hold' after doing this method. Instead, stay with your breath but keep it slow, without holding. On this episode, Robin discusses: <ul> <li>Our modern nervous systems in the generalized anxious and disconnected state.</li> <li>The wave of interest in relaxation techniques that help people balance the nervous system.</li> <li>The loop between your nervous system and your breath.</li> <li>The basic method of Conscious Connected Breathing.</li> <li>The physical healing, cleansing, and detoxification that breath work can provide.</li> <li>Altered states of consciousness stimulated by breath work.</li> <li>Working with our unconscious (and with trauma) while doing breath work.</li> <li>The key to letting go and surrendering during the breathwave method.</li> <li>How control patterns show up in the breath. If you have issues with CONTROL, breath work can change your life.</li> <li>How the altered state can change your genes by bringing your body in to homeostasis.</li> <li>The benefits of lowering stress in your life (this cannot be overstated)</li> <li>How to do this practice in 5-10 minutes.</li> <li>Why you need to learn to listen to your body more as you get older.</li> <li>Why you'll want to find a trained teacher before doing a "full session" at 45-60 minutes.</li> <li>The tools you can use in a breath session to liberate stuck energy.</li> <li>How music is used as a powerful tool in a breath session.</li> <li>Boosting your daily energy with the use of a daily breath practice.</li> <li>How this work can prepare us for what is to come.</li> </ul> Robin's website - <a href="https://www.breathwave.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Breathwave.net</a> <a href="https://soundcloud.com/robin-clements" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Robin's pre-recorded Soundcloud breath journeys</a> - Soundcloud/robin-clements Deep Tissue organ massage, as mentioned on the show - James Bell at <a href="https://www.ourhealingroom.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Our Healing Room</a>. Still don't know what the breath wave is? Listen to the episode, and see Robin's words below: ‘The Breath Wave’ is an open and balanced self-practice of your own breath, flowing as a relaxed and continuous wave. This full respiratory breathing technique enhances the flow of oxygen and life force (prana) throughout the body and mind, slows down the patterns of the brain and the nervous system and cultivates a high vibrational frequency; facilitating vibrant health, mental and emotional clarity and a liberating connection with our higher self.“You are your own greatest healer and teacher” - Robin ClementsSee <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#30 - The Transformational Power of the Breath Wave - with Robin Clements

Jordan Gray

In this episode, my friend Jordan Gray joins me for a conversation about addiction, recovery, and healing the wounds that bind us. Jordan's wealth of experience and knowledge comes clear in this engaging conversation about whataddiction really is, and how some people are able to treat it and recover. Jordan is a sex and relationship coach who helps his clients zero in on whats holding them back, and at lightning speed. He is a no BS coach who gets straight to the root of an issue without delay. He can do in 1 hour what some therapists take 100 hours to do, which is why he is in such high demand. Check out his coaching page at jordangrayconsulting.com/work-with-jordan/Jordan is a recovering sex addict, and he is a powerful coach for people looking for support in their recovery. Jordan's story is a raw and inspiring message of hope for those suffering from addiction. In this episode we cover:  What qualifies as an addiction? Habit vs Dependency vs Addiction Sex addiction and how it compares to drug addictions Cannabis/Marijuana addiction The 5 elements of holistic addiction recovery See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, my friend <a href="https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Jordan Gray</a> joins me for a conversation about addiction, recovery, and healing the wounds that bind us. Jordan's wealth of experience and knowledge comes clear in this engaging conversation about whataddiction really is, and how some people are able to treat it and recover.  Jordan is a sex and relationship coach who helps his clients zero in on whats holding them back, and at lightning speed. He is a no BS coach who gets straight to the root of an issue without delay. He can do in 1 hour what some therapists take 100 hours to do, which is why he is in such high demand. Check out his coaching page at <a href="http://jordangrayconsulting.com/work-with-jordan/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">jordangrayconsulting.com/work-with-jordan/</a> Jordan is a recovering sex addict, and he is a powerful coach for people looking for support in their recovery. <a href="https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/2016/09/how-to-overcome-sexual-addiction/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Jordan's story</a> is a raw and inspiring message of hope for those suffering from addiction. In this episode we cover: <ul> <li>What qualifies as an addiction?</li> <li>Habit vs Dependency vs Addiction</li> <li>Sex addiction and how it compares to drug addictions</li> <li>Cannabis/Marijuana addiction</li> <li>The 5 elements of holistic addiction recovery</li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Recover From Addiction and THRIVE - with Jordan Gray

Dhamindra Jeevan

Dhamindra Jeevan is a digital map builder who uses virtual reality to create psychedelic art - art that changes minds and alters perspectives. His dream is to gamify personal development and he has a vision of harmonizing digital life and human life.Jeevan wants to visually map the inner-world (psychologically, emotionally, and and spiritually) to integrate and generate light and awe for life. We dug in to his plan for doing that on this show, along with discussions about artificial intelligence, archetypes, and the expansion of technological progress. On this episode we discuss:  The evolution of technology, and the creation of digital humans. The projection of technology being malicious or only for-profit. The quick rise of artificial intelligence. 5G and it's inevitable exponential bandwidth. The new 'types' of humans that will further complicate - and possibly further divide - the world: OG humans, cyborg people, full robot people, and disembodied digital people. How Jeevan learned to see the external world of matter mirroring the inner world of psychology. Hanuman 11's universal map of the unseen, built in virtual reality. The 4 masculine archetypes of - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. Expressions of the masculine and feminine. How they can be seen. Why China is probably going to have the first general artificial intelligence. Quality data is the currency of the future. The artificial intelligence will be better at teaching humans new skills than humans are. The way to uncover more free will in your life: doing self-discovery work. The best insurance policy against getting cloned by a computer: uncovering your true full uniqueness by doing deep work. The origin of Family Constellations work - looking at how people are formed with patterns that are linked to their past. Rupert Sheldrake and the morphogenetic field. Burt Hellinger's phenomenological approach to working with 'the field'. How to find a Family Constellation's facilitator. Hanuman's fractal game that will help humans of the future discover their own minds  Jeevan can be found at Jeevan11.com Hanuman11 is at hanuman11.com    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dhamindra Jeevan is a digital map builder who uses virtual reality to create psychedelic art - art that changes minds and alters perspectives. His dream is to gamify personal development and he has a vision of harmonizing digital life and human life. Jeevan wants to visually map the inner-world (psychologically, emotionally, and and spiritually) to integrate and generate light and awe for life. We dug in to his plan for doing that on this show, along with discussions about artificial intelligence, archetypes, and the expansion of technological progress. On this episode we discuss: <ul> <li>The evolution of technology, and the creation of digital humans.</li> <li>The projection of technology being malicious or only for-profit.</li> <li>The quick rise of artificial intelligence.</li> <li>5G and it's inevitable exponential bandwidth.</li> <li>The new 'types' of humans that will further complicate - and possibly further divide - the world: OG humans, cyborg people, full robot people, and disembodied digital people.</li> <li>How Jeevan learned to see the external world of matter mirroring the inner world of psychology.</li> <li>Hanuman 11's universal map of the unseen, built in virtual reality.</li> <li>The 4 masculine archetypes of - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover.</li> <li>Expressions of the masculine and feminine. How they can be seen.</li> <li>Why China is probably going to have the first general artificial intelligence.</li> <li>Quality data is the currency of the future.</li> <li>The artificial intelligence will be better at teaching humans new skills than humans are.</li> <li>The way to uncover more free will in your life: doing self-discovery work.</li> <li>The best insurance policy against getting cloned by a computer: uncovering your true full uniqueness by doing deep work.</li> <li>The origin of Family Constellations work - looking at how people are formed with patterns that are linked to their past.</li> <li>Rupert Sheldrake and the morphogenetic field.</li> <li>Burt Hellinger's phenomenological approach to working with 'the field'.</li> <li>How to find a Family Constellation's facilitator.</li> <li>Hanuman's fractal game that will help humans of the future discover their own minds</li> </ul> Jeevan can be found at <a href="http://jeevan11.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jeevan11.com</a> Hanuman11 is at <a href="https://www.hanuman11.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">hanuman11.com</a> See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#35 - Archetypes, Artificial Intelligence, and Humanity - with Dhamindra Jeevan

Brad Leslie was one of the founders of The Young Men's Adventure Weekend, an event that takes teens through a series of challenging adventures designed to draw out the qualities he will need as a man. The creation of the YMAW program was informed by numerous rites of passage from around the world, incorporating long-standing traditions in to a palatable journey for the young men of this era and culture. Brad breaks down a number of definitions and key points in the work of initiating young men:  Initiation as a starting point. A lift-off point from which you cannot go back. A boy's journey from "Mom's world" to "man's world" and the journey in between. What initiation looks like in some indigenous cultures. Initiation - The transformation from needy &amp; dependent to accountable &amp; useful. What uninitiated men look like. What the initiated man looks like. A young man looking for camaraderie will join a team, a gang, or the military to initiate himself. The Boy Crisis - by Warren Farrell and John Gray The value of sports teams in building the character of young men. 3 steps in an initiation: Separation from community, Ordeal/Challenge, Return to community. The value of separating boys and girls to teach them about manhood and womanhood as they age. Michael Gurian's book - The Purpose of Boys. Why sex does not pass as an initiation in to manhood. How men drain their vital energy by getting in to co-dependent relationships. The simple way that men can connect with young men just by hanging out. The result of a culture that doesn't have elders. The odd story of how we lost our elders in the US and Canada. Elephants have elders too. Initiation for men who were never initiated - get in to self-development work and find a men's group. The ultimate cheat code to initiating yourself in to manhood - get in to service to your community.  The Young Men's Adventure Weekend happens every July in the lower mainland area of Vancouver, BC, Canada. This event happens because men volunteer to make it happen, and young men aged 12-18 sign up.Young men, go here to sign up for a life-changing experience.Men, go here to be of service and transform how you see young men.There are other events that happen in other corners of North America. The Young Men's Ultimate Weekend operates in California. They are at YMUW.org. There are others, and if you need help, reach out to the YMAW guys on the YMAW contact page.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brad Leslie was one of the founders of <a href="http://ymaw.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Young Men's Adventure Weekend</a>, an event that takes teens through a series of challenging adventures designed to draw out the qualities he will need as a man. The creation of the YMAW program was informed by numerous rites of passage from around the world, incorporating long-standing traditions in to a palatable journey for the young men of this era and culture. Brad breaks down a number of definitions and key points in the work of initiating young men: <ul> <li>Initiation as a starting point. A lift-off point from which you cannot go back.</li> <li>A boy's journey from "Mom's world" to "man's world" and the journey in between.</li> <li>What initiation looks like in some indigenous cultures.</li> <li>Initiation - The transformation from needy &amp; dependent to accountable &amp; useful.</li> <li>What uninitiated men look like.</li> <li>What the initiated man looks like.</li> <li>A young man looking for camaraderie will join a team, a gang, or the military to initiate himself.</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Crisis-Boys-Struggling-About/dp/1942952716" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Boy Crisis - by Warren Farrell and John Gray</a></li> <li>The value of sports teams in building the character of young men.</li> <li>3 steps in an initiation: Separation from community, Ordeal/Challenge, Return to community.</li> <li>The value of separating boys and girls to teach them about manhood and womanhood as they age.</li> <li><a href="https://www.michaelgurian.com/products/the-purpose-of-boys/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Michael Gurian's book - The Purpose of Boys.</a></li> <li>Why sex does not pass as an initiation in to manhood.</li> <li>How men drain their vital energy by getting in to co-dependent relationships.</li> <li>The simple way that men can connect with young men just by hanging out.</li> <li>The result of a culture that doesn't have elders.</li> <li>The odd story of how we lost our elders in the US and Canada.</li> <li>Elephants have elders too.</li> <li>Initiation for men who were never initiated - get in to self-development work and find a men's group.</li> <li>The ultimate cheat code to initiating yourself in to manhood - get in to service to your community.</li> </ul> The Young Men's Adventure Weekend happens every July in the lower mainland area of Vancouver, BC, Canada. This event happens because men volunteer to make it happen, and young men aged 12-18 sign up. Young men, <a href="http://31tcem23qru43fsy7kefd6gw.wpengine.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/YMAW2019_YM_Registration_Form.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">go here</a> to sign up for a life-changing experience. Men, <a href="http://31tcem23qru43fsy7kefd6gw.wpengine.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/YMAW2019_M_Registration_Form.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">go here</a> to be of service and transform how you see young men. There are other events that happen in other corners of North America. <a href="https://www.ymuw.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Young Men's Ultimate Weekend</a> operates in California. They are at <a href="http://YMUW.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">YMUW.org</a>. There are others, and if you need help, reach out to the YMAW guys on <a href="http://ymaw.com/contact/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">the YMAW contact page</a>.See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

#31 - The Initiation Of Young Men in Modern Times - with Brad Leslie

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