Well, this week the guys wrap up their discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse with the dreaded In Laws!  How should couples manage this minefield of family tension?  And not only are the guys ending this series this week, sadly, Josh and Jimmy are ending their run as the Pairadocs.  This will be the boys last show.  Sad, but exciting.  Listen in and find out why.  BTW, all of you guys are the best!  We love you.   -----     -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers  Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Well, this week the guys wrap up their discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse with the dreaded In Laws!  How should couples manage this minefield of family tension?  And not only are the guys ending this series this week, sadly, Josh and Jimmy are ending their run as the Pairadocs.  This will be the boys last show.  Sad, but exciting.  Listen in and find out why.  BTW, all of you guys are the best!  We love you. ----- ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse: In Laws

So, are you ready to meet the 3rd Horseman of the Marriage Apocalypse?  Couple's fight about this one all the time!  This topic reeks of power and security, therefore, it's a source for, all but constant, conflict.  The topic?  MONEY!  "Sooooo, let's get ready to RUMBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

So, are you ready to meet the 3rd Horseman of the Marriage Apocalypse?  Couple's fight about this one all the time!  This topic reeks of power and security, therefore, it's a source for, all but constant, conflict.  The topic?  MONEY!  "Sooooo, let's get ready to RUMBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse: Money

Last week, the guys kicked off a discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.  The first was sex, and this week they will examine the all too hot topic of THE KIDS.  Most couples tend not to be on the exact same page when it comes to discipline, expectations, and priorities when it comes to their kids, so...arguments tend to ensue.  If this sounds like you, don't miss this week's episode!   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Last week, the guys kicked off a discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.  The first was sex, and this week they will examine the all too hot topic of THE KIDS.  Most couples tend not to be on the exact same page when it comes to discipline, expectations, and priorities when it comes to their kids, so...arguments tend to ensue.  If this sounds like you, don't miss this week's episode!   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse: Kids

You know it coming and you dread it like the plague, but at some point, in every family there comes the need to have “The Sex Talk.”  In this case, however, we’re not talking about the sex discussion with you kids.  This week, the guys delve into the sex talk that every couple needs to have and keep having to address one of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.    ----- PROBLEM:  Carries more baggage than a 747.  Mention any possible negative and it can be interpreted as a very intimate, personal criticism We don’t talk about our sexual relationship.  Only might be mentioned when something is wrong.   As a rule, sex is the “unmentionable” in 99% of Christian homes Take any other “mutual” activity that a couple engages in, there is discussion about it.  Cooking, exercise, entertainment…  The assumption is that if we’re married, we should simply know what to do and how to do it.  And if things aren’t great, then we suffer in silence, because, “We shouldn’t have to say anything.”  SOLUTION:  The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Cor. 7:3–5)  Each spouse’s body belongs to the other, and a primary function of sex is to serve and bless each other. The ethic that runs throughout the New Testament applies to sex in marriage: we are to selflessly serve, thinking of the other first.  Love is putting someone else’s needs above your own.  Sex is a physical manifestation of spiritual and emotional love between a husband and wife. TALK: If we don’t tell our spouse, they won’t know.  Any time we don’t talk it is out of fear or frustration.  Spouse’s shouldn’t fear their partner’s response. Past sexual history and sin, needs to be discussed, learned from, and not avoided Frequency, duration, &amp; arousal all are impacted as you pass through life stages. Talk about having the talk.  Don’t surprise them with it. Make suggestions; not complaints    ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

You know it coming and you dread it like the plague, but at some point, in every family there comes the need to have “The Sex Talk.”  In this case, however, we’re not talking about the sex discussion with you kids.  This week, the guys delve into the sex talk that every couple needs to have and keep having to address one of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.    ----- PROBLEM: <ol> <li>Carries more baggage than a 747.  Mention any possible negative and it can be interpreted as a very intimate, personal criticism</li> <li>We don’t talk about our sexual relationship.  Only might be mentioned when something is wrong.  </li> <li>As a rule, sex is the “unmentionable” in 99% of Christian homes</li> <li>Take any other “mutual” activity that a couple engages in, there is discussion about it.  Cooking, exercise, entertainment…  The assumption is that if we’re married, we should simply know what to do and how to do it.  And if things aren’t great, then we suffer in silence, because, “We shouldn’t have to say anything.”</li> </ol> SOLUTION: <ol> <li>The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (<a href="https://www.esv.org/1%20Cor.%207%3A3%E2%80%935/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">1 Cor. 7:3–5</a>)</li> </ol> Each spouse’s body belongs to the other, and a primary function of sex is to serve and bless each other. The ethic that runs throughout the New Testament applies to sex in marriage: we are to selflessly serve, thinking of the other first. <ol> <li>Love is putting someone else’s needs above your own.  Sex is a physical manifestation of spiritual and emotional love between a husband and wife.</li> <li>TALK: If we don’t tell our spouse, they won’t know.  Any time we don’t talk it is out of fear or frustration.  Spouse’s shouldn’t fear their partner’s response.</li> <li>Past sexual history and sin, needs to be discussed, learned from, and not avoided</li> <li>Frequency, duration, &amp; arousal all are impacted as you pass through life stages.</li> <li>Talk about having the talk.  Don’t surprise them with it.</li> <li>Make suggestions; not complaints </li> </ol>  ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse: Sex

Have you or your spouse ever said something along the lines of, “We argue over little things.”, or “None of our arguments ever get resolved.”  If you have, then you have fallen headfirst into the Argument Black Hole.  Join them this week, as the guys talk about the biggest mistake couples make when they have a disagreement. -----  PROBLEM:  Arguing over facts Arguing over who’s reality is correct Winning is more important than solving the problem My Side Bias skews facts Memories are NOT accurate recordings of events.  Research suggests that that we remember what we WANT to believe happened  SOLUTION:  Realize that the argument is not about the facts The event is the surface problem to a root cause Chose the hill you will die on Must be able to agree to disagree  ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Have you or your spouse ever said something along the lines of, “We argue over little things.”, or “None of our arguments ever get resolved.”  If you have, then you have fallen headfirst into the Argument Black Hole.  Join them this week, as the guys talk about the biggest mistake couples make when they have a disagreement. -----  PROBLEM: <ol> <li>Arguing over facts</li> <li>Arguing over who’s reality is correct</li> <li>Winning is more important than solving the problem</li> <li>My Side Bias skews facts</li> <li>Memories are NOT accurate recordings of events.  Research suggests that that we remember what we WANT to believe happened</li> </ol> SOLUTION: <ol> <li>Realize that the argument is not about the facts</li> <li>The event is the surface problem to a root cause</li> <li>Chose the hill you will die on</li> <li>Must be able to agree to disagree</li> </ol> ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

The Argument Black Hole

Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.   ----- PROBLEM:  See it in:   Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress…   Hold double standard You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame.  Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids.   SOLUTION:  To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good. Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions By grace saved, not of good works Acknowledge it. What is driving this?  What core belief? Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario  Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.”  ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.   ----- PROBLEM: <ol> <li>See it in:</li> <li> <ol> <li>Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety</li> <li>Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work</li> <li>Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress…</li> </ol> </li> <li>Hold double standard</li> <li>You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame. </li> <li>Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids. </li> </ol> SOLUTION: <ol> <li>To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good.</li> <li>Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions</li> <li>By grace saved, not of good works</li> <li>Acknowledge it.</li> <li>What is driving this?  What core belief?</li> <li>Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario </li> <li>Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.”</li> </ol> ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Perfectionism In The Home

We’ve all seen them, haven’t we?  Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports.  They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams.  They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid.  You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm.  I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push.  Parents and sports.  Play ball!! ----- Warning Signs of The Push  Parent getting their own need for self-worth through their child’s sport performance.   Year-round, non-stop sports.  One long, never ending season Year-round specialization.  Tommy John surgery for high schoolers.  All other aspect of family life takes a back seat  Do you care more than your child who is actually playing the sport? *Anger at child’s performance*  Solution for the Push:  Define Success Let the child lead. Brad McCoy Teach your child to try hard, work hard, practice hard, and play hard.  Col. 3:23, “All like doing it for Christ.”   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

We’ve all seen them, haven’t we?  Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports.  They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams.  They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid.  You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm.  I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push.  Parents and sports.  Play ball!! ----- Warning Signs of The Push <ol> <li>Parent getting their own need for self-worth through their child’s sport performance.  </li> <li>Year-round, non-stop sports.  One long, never ending season</li> <li>Year-round specialization.  Tommy John surgery for high schoolers. </li> <li>All other aspect of family life takes a back seat </li> <li>Do you care more than your child who is actually playing the sport?</li> <li>*Anger at child’s performance*</li> </ol> Solution for the Push: <ol> <li>Define Success</li> <li>Let the child lead. Brad McCoy</li> <li>Teach your child to try hard, work hard, practice hard, and play hard.  Col. 3:23, “All like doing it for Christ.”</li> </ol>  ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

The Push

We hear a lot of talk about dysfunctional families these days.  Apparently, they are bad, and can cause some real damage to those who find themselves in one.  But is my family dysfunctional? Did I come from one?  How do I make sure my family doesn’t become one?  I’m glad you asked!!  Join the fellas this week and they discussion what dysfunctional families are, how to prevent them, and what to do if you fear you’re in one. -----  Problem with dysfunction:  Long lasting impact.  Consistent, Frequent, Duration, changes the brain Dysfunctional families rack up tons of little “t” traumas. We tend to absorb both healthy and unhealthy behavioral/relationship patterns from our FOO  Solution: (Psychology Today; Julie Hall) Here’s several “Signs” of dysfunction…make sure you do the opposite!  Acceptance/Love is conditional Someone must always be blamed/scapegoat Vulnerability is dangerous, therefore, no intimacy The family has “Teams” Appearance not authenticity is ALL IMPORTANT Rage is normalized Denial &amp; Defensiveness are the norm  ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

We hear a lot of talk about dysfunctional families these days.  Apparently, they are bad, and can cause some real damage to those who find themselves in one.  But is my family dysfunctional? Did I come from one?  How do I make sure my family doesn’t become one?  I’m glad you asked!!  Join the fellas this week and they discussion what dysfunctional families are, how to prevent them, and what to do if you fear you’re in one. -----  Problem with dysfunction: <ol> <li>Long lasting impact.  Consistent, Frequent, Duration, changes the brain</li> <li>Dysfunctional families rack up tons of little “t” traumas.</li> <li>We tend to absorb both healthy and unhealthy behavioral/relationship patterns from our FOO</li> </ol> Solution: (Psychology Today; Julie Hall) Here’s several “Signs” of dysfunction…make sure you do the opposite! <ol> <li>Acceptance/Love is conditional</li> <li>Someone must always be blamed/scapegoat</li> <li>Vulnerability is dangerous, therefore, no intimacy</li> <li>The family has “Teams”</li> <li>Appearance not authenticity is ALL IMPORTANT</li> <li>Rage is normalized</li> <li>Denial &amp; Defensiveness are the norm</li> </ol> ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Dysfunctional Families

Ever feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child.   -----    Harelips the Governor     Pagan Christianity by Barna   Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in your life / your family’s life?    Biggest takeaway, you need to be more spiritually connected in your own life, to be able to guide your own child.    God doesn’t call you to raise faithful kids, he’s calling you to be faithful.   -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers  Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Ever feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child. ----- <a href="https://www.barrypopik.com/index.php/new_york_city/entry/harelips_the_governor_hare_lips_the_governor/#:~:text=%22I%20don't%20care%20if,South%20in%20the%2020th%20century." rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Harelips the Governor</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Pagan-Christianity-Exploring-Church-Practices/dp/1414364555" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">  Pagan Christianity by Barna</a> Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in your life / your family’s life?  Biggest takeaway, you need to be more spiritually connected in your own life, to be able to guide your own child.  God doesn’t call you to raise faithful kids, he’s calling you to be faithful. ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Outsourcing Your Child’s Spiritual Development

As the late great country music artist, Mac Davis, once sang, “Oh, Lord, it’s hard to be humble!”  And in our current culture and the competitive, “me-obsessed” environment that our kids are growing up in, these words have never been more spot on.  Join the fellas this week, as they kick around the topic of raising humble kids. -----  We live in a culture that is for the glorification of self. Our culture and a lot of our homes struggle to produce humble kids. “If you have to toot your own horn, your horn ain’t worth tootin’” – Bill Myers Sr We need to teach them how to express their views modestly. How to share praise and blame.  Learning to accept failure is key. It’s important to model a lack of defensiveness. ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

As the late great country music artist, Mac Davis, once sang, “Oh, Lord, it’s hard to be humble!”  And in our current culture and the competitive, “me-obsessed” environment that our kids are growing up in, these words have never been more spot on.  Join the fellas this week, as they kick around the topic of raising humble kids. -----  We live in a culture that is for the glorification of self. Our culture and a lot of our homes struggle to produce humble kids. “If you have to toot your own horn, your horn ain’t worth tootin’” – Bill Myers Sr We need to teach them how to express their views modestly. How to share praise and blame.  Learning to accept failure is key. It’s important to model a lack of defensiveness. ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>  How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Raising Humble Kids

Pairadocs is a podcast with a Christian take on life, family, and culture. Jimmy and Josh will provide marriage and parenting insight, to be sure; however, don't be surprised if other topics emerge,  such as sports, entertainment, politics, or the latest episode of Pioneer Woman!The Pairadocs have two formats: interview and content. One episode a week focuses on interviewing some of the greatest Christian minds around. For the other episode Jimmy and Josh discuss a cultural or familial topic you're sure to enjoy! Grab your spouse and listen Pairadocs together! It's like having two free therapists in your pocket!

This is one of my favorite podcasts. I like that the guys start out with the “main idea” and then in just about 20 minutes they talk about possible outcomes and give godly advice on how to deal with it. 
I am always laughing at their banter, but also responding to their advice. Some of the topics have helped me with my marriage and parenting. I’m able to make even the smallest changes for the better after listening.

Witty and Engaging

I really like this podcast. I hope there will be more episodes coming soon.

Inspiring

Pairadocs is a podcast with a Christian take on life, family, and culture. Jimmy and Josh will provide marriage and parenting insight, to be sure; however, don't be surprised if other topics emerge,  such as sports, entertainment, politics, or the latest episode of Pioneer Woman! The Pairadocs have two formats: interview and content. One episode a week focuses on interviewing some of the greatest Christian minds around. For the other episode Jimmy and Josh discuss a cultural or familial topic you're sure to enjoy! Grab your spouse and listen Pairadocs together! It's like having two free therapists in your pocket!

Pairadocs

Jimmy and Josh discuss inlaws on today’s show. Our families of origin can often times have too much control over our marriage, family and children. Listen in as the Pairadocs share insight dealing with inlaws that become outlaws.

Jimmy and Josh discuss inlaws on today’s show. Our families of origin can often times have too much control over our marriage, family and children. Listen in as the Pairadocs share insight dealing with inlaws that become outlaws.

Inlaws

Lysa TerKeurst

The Pairadocs interview Lysa TerKeurst today. She is the bestselling author of over 19 books. Her latest book, Uninvited, encourages people to Live Loved. Lysa shares her insight regarding how easy it is to feel unloved, but encourages believers to rest in God's unending love and affection.

The Pairadocs interview Lysa TerKeurst today. She is the bestselling author of over 19 books. Her latest book, Uninvited, encourages people to Live Loved. Lysa shares her insight regarding how easy it is to feel unloved, but encourages believers to rest in God's unending love and affection.

Sam Ponder

This week we kickoff the 2nd half of the 2018 season of Pairadocs, with the boys sitting down with Sam Ponder.  For several years, Sam was one of the hosts of ESPN College Gameday, and most recently is now the host for ESPN’s Sunday NFL Countdown.  She’s a gregarious believer, married to an ex-NFL quarterback, and is in front of millions of people a week talking about pro football.  She maybe the most perfect female alive on the planet!!!  Sam’s an amazing woman with an amazing platform with which to share her faith in Christ. Not a shabby way to lead off the fall of 2018!

This week we kickoff the 2nd half of the 2018 season of Pairadocs, with the boys sitting down with Sam Ponder.  For several years, Sam was one of the hosts of ESPN College Gameday, and most recently is now the host for ESPN’s Sunday NFL Countdown.  She’s a gregarious believer, married to an ex-NFL quarterback, and is in front of millions of people a week talking about pro football.  She maybe the most perfect female alive on the planet!!!  Sam’s an amazing woman with an amazing platform with which to share her faith in Christ. Not a shabby way to lead off the fall of 2018!

Sex.  What are we going to do?  It’s everywhere.  But how do we navigate the treacherous waters of talking to our kids about the subject that must not be mentioned?  What should parents say?  What should we not say?  What’s too much information?  And when are we creating a fixation within our kids by treating sex like the most taboo subject in the world.  This week the boys talk about sex.  More specifically, the healthiest way to talk to your kids about it.

Sex.  What are we going to do?  It’s everywhere.  But how do we navigate the treacherous waters of talking to our kids about the subject that must not be mentioned?  What should parents say?  What should we not say?  What’s too much information?  And when are we creating a fixation within our kids by treating sex like the most taboo subject in the world.  This week the boys talk about sex.  More specifically, the healthiest way to talk to your kids about it.

Talking To Your Kids About Sex

What if there was one thing that would make most, if not all, family conflicts lessen, of not end.   What would pay for get ahold of the “magic bullet” of relational harmony?  Well get out your credit cards my friends, because this week, the guys discuss the all-important issue of empathy.  This one little touchy-feely word can go a long way toward reducing marital, occupational, and parental conflict.  How do I know?  Because I can feel your pain…   -----   Brene Brown on Empathy   Empathy drives connection, sympathy drives disconnection.   Brene Brown ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

What if there was one thing that would make most, if not all, family conflicts lessen, of not end.   What would pay for get ahold of the “magic bullet” of relational harmony?  Well get out your credit cards my friends, because this week, the guys discuss the all-important issue of empathy.  This one little touchy-feely word can go a long way toward reducing marital, occupational, and parental conflict.  How do I know?  Because I can feel your pain… ----- <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Brene Brown on Empathy</a> Empathy drives connection, sympathy drives disconnection. <a href="https://brenebrown.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Brene Brown</a> ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Empathy

The Pairadocs talk about Affair Proofing your marriage. These are timeless tips, whether your marriage is in despair or you're in a great place, these truths can help any couple.

The Pairadocs talk about Affair Proofing your marriage. These are timeless tips, whether your marriage is in despair or you're in a great place, these truths can help any couple.

Affair Proof Your Marriage

So, what do we do when our spouse seemingly refuses to love us?  We try to love them.  We go so far as to figure out their love language and love them that way, but it seems to be a one-way street.  Short of a Louisville Slugger up side their head, what’s a spouse to do?!  Listen in as the guys give you some much needed options. 

So, what do we do when our spouse seemingly refuses to love us?  We try to love them.  We go so far as to figure out their love language and love them that way, but it seems to be a one-way street.  Short of a Louisville Slugger up side their head, what’s a spouse to do?!  Listen in as the guys give you some much needed options.

My Spouse Doesn't Love Me

I know it’s hard to believe, but one day, in the very near future, your child is going to leave to go on a date.  Yep, that was a rush of adrenaline that you just felt.  It’s a shock, but true.  This week, the guys discuss the ins and outs of dating.  All your questions will be answered, who, what, where, when, and sometimes Y and W.  It’s never too early to prepare for that day when your little girl walks out of your house alone with a testosterone enflamed young man.    Links to information discussed in the show:   The sooner kids begin one on one dating, the sooner they begin sexual intercourse.   Dads prepare boys and protect girls   Importance placed on dating, but not give everything away too quickly   Melody Green article on dating unbelievers   Dating Standards: 1. Only date believers 2. Suggestion: Group dating at 15, individual dating at 16   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

I know it’s hard to believe, but one day, in the very near future, your child is going to leave to go on a date.  Yep, that was a rush of adrenaline that you just felt.  It’s a shock, but true.  This week, the guys discuss the ins and outs of dating.  All your questions will be answered, who, what, where, when, and sometimes Y and W.  It’s never too early to prepare for that day when your little girl walks out of your house alone with a testosterone enflamed young man.  Links to information discussed in the show: The sooner kids begin one on one dating, the sooner they begin sexual intercourse. Dads prepare boys and protect girls Importance placed on dating, but not give everything away too quickly <a href="https://www.lastdaysministries.org/Articles/1000008652/Last_Days_Ministries/LDM/Discipleship_Teachings/Melody_Green/Why_You_Shouldnt.aspx" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Melody Green article on dating unbelievers</a> Dating Standards: 1. Only date believers 2. Suggestion: Group dating at 15, individual dating at 16 ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>   How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/pairadocs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/pairadocs</a>   Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a>

Teen Dating

Bob Goff

You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always. 

You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always.

The boys follow up with their co dependency talk from last week by discussing boundaries today. What are boundaries? How do you institute them? Won't that make matters worse? Listen in.   -----   Boundariless families are dysfunctional. These families are tired.  Lack of boundaries finds its way into most, if not all, relational problems we have.   We mistakenly believe that if we set a boundary, it is unloving.   10 Laws of Boundaries   1. Law of sowing and reaping - needs to be consequences to behavior 2. Law of responsibility - be responsible for self 3. Law of power - make a choice and enact power within relationship 4. Law if respect - respect other people's boundaries 5. Law of motivation - risk disappointing people 6. Law of evaluation - hurt feelings aren't harmful 7. Law of proactivity - setting boundaries early 8. Law of envy - learn to be satisfied with your life 9. Law of activity - can't be passive and have boundaries 10. Law of exposure - choose to matter and exist in relationship   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

The boys follow up with their co dependency talk from last week by discussing boundaries today. What are boundaries? How do you institute them? Won't that make matters worse? Listen in. ----- Boundariless families are dysfunctional. These families are tired.  Lack of boundaries finds its way into most, if not all, relational problems we have. We mistakenly believe that if we set a boundary, it is unloving. 10 Laws of Boundaries 1. Law of sowing and reaping - needs to be consequences to behavior 2. Law of responsibility - be responsible for self 3. Law of power - make a choice and enact power within relationship 4. Law if respect - respect other people's boundaries 5. Law of motivation - risk disappointing people 6. Law of evaluation - hurt feelings aren't harmful 7. Law of proactivity - setting boundaries early 8. Law of envy - learn to be satisfied with your life 9. Law of activity - can't be passive and have boundaries 10. Law of exposure - choose to matter and exist in relationship ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Boundaries

Does the term Toxic Masculinity ring a bell?  It’s become the new “woke” issue in psychological circles.  But the Pairadocs are here to tell you that the term is in fact, poppy cock!  Poppy cock I say!  Listen in as the guys debunk the latest in political psycho-babble.  Not only is masculinity not toxic, it is essential to our families and our society.    -----   Cowboys Outcome   American Psychological Association Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Men and Boys   Affirm your son's masculinity early on Prepare boys and protect girls Jesus is the perfect example of controlled power   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Does the term Toxic Masculinity ring a bell?  It’s become the new “woke” issue in psychological circles.  But the Pairadocs are here to tell you that the term is in fact, poppy cock!  Poppy cock I say!  Listen in as the guys debunk the latest in political psycho-babble.  Not only is masculinity not toxic, it is essential to our families and our society.  ----- <a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=cowboys&amp;rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS816US816&amp;oq=cowbys&amp;aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0l5.3695j1j7&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;ie=UTF-8#sie=m;/g/11f5hl46t4;6;/m/059yj;dt;fp;1;;" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Cowboys Outcome</a> <a href="https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">American Psychological Association Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Men and Boys</a> Affirm your son's masculinity early on Prepare boys and protect girls Jesus is the perfect example of controlled power ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a>

Toxic Masculinity

You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And Guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Bob's Latest Book: Everybody Always   Also: Love Does ---- Website: www.bobgoff.com  Facebook: @bobgoffis  Instagram: @bobgoff Twitter: @bobgoff -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And Guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always. Links to information discussed in the show: Bob's Latest Book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Everybody-Always-Becoming-Setbacks-Difficult/dp/0718078136" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Everybody Always</a> Also: <a href="http://lovedoes.org/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Love Does</a> ---- Website:<a href="http://bobgoff.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank"> www.bobgoff.com</a> Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/bobgoffis/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@bobgoffis</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/bobgoff/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@bobgoff</a> Twitter:<a href="https://twitter.com/bobgoff" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://twitter.com/bobgoff" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@bobgoff</a> ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://www.twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://www.instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://www.facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://www.twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://www.instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://www.facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a>@</a><a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a>@</a><a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a>

Here’s a parent’s worst nightmare.  You look upstairs one day and your 27 year old son is still living in the same bedroom in your house that he occupied since the 8th grade!  Somewhere along the line, this young man…failed to launch.  Listen in this week as the guys discuss this growing phenomenon.    -----   Helicopter parenting - hovering over your child to rescue whenever bad happens Lawnmower parenting - clearing the path for your child so that nothing bad happens to them   Helicopter and lawnmower parenting cripples our children   Our kids an just "roll over" due to pressure/anxiety. Pressure from parents, school, friends, self, culture - can lead to kids that are anxious about adulthood and therefore just decide to give up.    Parenting is an 18 year process of deparenting.   When they are young we as parents are supervisors, when they're teenagers we are managers, and when they are adults we become consultants.   Grace ceases to be grace if it occurs too often, it then becomes an expectation   -----   If you have an adult child still in your home that is failing to launch:   1. Begin mourning the loss of your child and accept them as adults   2. Have a clear written agreement on A) responsibilities they have with them still being in your home, B) a defined date when they must leave, C) creating a list of skills they need prior to leaving and D) a list of ways you might assist them financially even after they are gone. NOTE: Any assistance once they're gone needs to have an end date as well.   3. Risk them failing once gone - failure is one of life's great teachers     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Here’s a parent’s worst nightmare.  You look upstairs one day and your 27 year old son is still living in the same bedroom in your house that he occupied since the 8th grade!  Somewhere along the line, this young man…failed to launch.  Listen in this week as the guys discuss this growing phenomenon.  ----- Helicopter parenting - hovering over your child to rescue whenever bad happens Lawnmower parenting - clearing the path for your child so that nothing bad happens to them Helicopter and lawnmower parenting cripples our children Our kids an just "roll over" due to pressure/anxiety. Pressure from parents, school, friends, self, culture - can lead to kids that are anxious about adulthood and therefore just decide to give up.  Parenting is an 18 year process of deparenting. When they are young we as parents are supervisors, when they're teenagers we are managers, and when they are adults we become consultants. Grace ceases to be grace if it occurs too often, it then becomes an expectation ----- If you have an adult child still in your home that is failing to launch: 1. Begin mourning the loss of your child and accept them as adults 2. Have a clear written agreement on A) responsibilities they have with them still being in your home, B) a defined date when they must leave, C) creating a list of skills they need prior to leaving and D) a list of ways you might assist them financially even after they are gone. NOTE: Any assistance once they're gone needs to have an end date as well. 3. Risk them failing once gone - failure is one of life's great teachers ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

What if They Don't Launch

Melanie Shankle

While Josh is absent…something to do with a new baby that just arrived or some other lame excuse…Jimmy is speaking with Melanie Shankle, New York Times Bestselling author of The Church of Small Things.  She is hilarious and you're going to love her interview!   Links to information discussed in the show:   Aggie Football Pioneer Woman Big Boo Podcast Sophie Hudson (Boo Mama)   Book by Melanie: Nobody's Cuter Than You The Antelope in the Living Room Church of the Small Things    Website: www.thebigmamablog.com  Facebook: @melaniemshankle Twitter: @BigMama  Instagram: @melanieshankle   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

While Josh is absent…something to do with a new baby that just arrived or some other lame excuse…Jimmy is speaking with Melanie Shankle, New York Times Bestselling author of The Church of Small Things.  She is hilarious and you're going to love her interview! Links to information discussed in the show: <a href="http://www.12thman.com/schedule.aspx?path=football" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Aggie Football</a> <a href="http://thepioneerwoman.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Pioneer Woman</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/TheBigBooCast/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Big Boo Podcast</a> <a href="http://boomama.net/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Sophie Hudson (Boo Mama)</a> Book by Melanie: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Nobodys-Cuter-than-You-Friendship/dp/1414397488/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1510421552&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=melanie+shankle" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Nobody's Cuter Than You</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Antelope-Living-Room-People-Sharing/dp/1414385544/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1510421552&amp;sr=8-6&amp;keywords=melanie+shankle" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">The Antelope in the Living Room</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Church-Small-Things-Million-Little/dp/0310348870/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1510421552&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=melanie+shankle" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Church of the Small Things</a> Website: <a href="http://thebigmamablog.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.thebigmamablog.com</a> Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/melaniemshankle" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@melaniemshankle</a> Twitter:<a href="https://twitter.com/bennetomalu9168" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://twitter.com/BigMama" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@BigMama</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/melanieshankle/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@melanieshankle</a> Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>

What is co-dependency?  We’ve all heard about, accused others of being it, but what exactly is it?  I mean, we should depend on each other…right?  “Lean on me, when you’re not strong…”  Hello?!  But what is it, really?  Listen in this week as the guys unpack the sometimes misunderstood topic of co-dependency, and see if you can recognize your relationship…uh, I mean recognized a “friend’s” relationship.    -----   Enchiladas Y Mas Closed   Co dependency = when one person needs another person, and the other person needs to be needed.   It's a relationship addiction. A toxic dance.   Submissive co dependents - desperately desire loves from dominant dependents Dominant co dependents - don't give love the other desires   We pass on co dependency to our children   Recognizing who you are in your marriage:   Submissives 1. Does your self worth hang on your partners approval? 2. Is it difficult to say no when your partner makes a demand? 3. Do you walk on egg shells around your partner?  4. Do you consistently worry about other's opinions of you? 5. Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?   Dominants 1. Are you in a constant state of frustration with your partner? 2. Can you not let go of correcting your partner? 3. It is difficult for you to agree to disagree? 4. Do you have a strong need to be right? 5. When push comes to shove, you get your way.   SOLUTION   1. Boundaries (next week) 2. Don't avoid conflict; be a buffalo 3. Figure out wants vs needs. You want your spouse, you don't need him/her 4. It is not your place to correct your spouse   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

What is co-dependency?  We’ve all heard about, accused others of being it, but what exactly is it?  I mean, we should depend on each other…right?  “Lean on me, when you’re not strong…”  Hello?!  But what is it, really?  Listen in this week as the guys unpack the sometimes misunderstood topic of co-dependency, and see if you can recognize your relationship…uh, I mean recognized a “friend’s” relationship.  ----- <a href="https://austin.eater.com/2020/4/20/21228336/austin-tex-mex-restaurant-enchiladas-y-mas-closing-coronavirus-impact-covid-19" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Enchiladas Y Mas Closed</a> Co dependency = when one person needs another person, and the other person needs to be needed. It's a relationship addiction. A toxic dance. Submissive co dependents - desperately desire loves from dominant dependents Dominant co dependents - don't give love the other desires We pass on co dependency to our children Recognizing who you are in your marriage: Submissives 1. Does your self worth hang on your partners approval? 2. Is it difficult to say no when your partner makes a demand? 3. Do you walk on egg shells around your partner?  4. Do you consistently worry about other's opinions of you? 5. Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments? Dominants 1. Are you in a constant state of frustration with your partner? 2. Can you not let go of correcting your partner? 3. It is difficult for you to agree to disagree? 4. Do you have a strong need to be right? 5. When push comes to shove, you get your way. SOLUTION 1. Boundaries (next week) 2. Don't avoid conflict; be a buffalo 3. Figure out wants vs needs. You want your spouse, you don't need him/her 4. It is not your place to correct your spouse ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a> The Timothy Center: <a href="http://www.timothycenter.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.timothycenter.com</a>

Co-Dependency

Pornography. One of the most devastating “drugs” of our time. The Pairadocs discuss how you can begin avoiding the temptation and live in freedom from pornography.

Pornography. One of the most devastating “drugs” of our time. The Pairadocs discuss how you can begin avoiding the temptation and live in freedom from pornography.

Pornography

Jamie Ivey

This week, the boys welcome back an old friend of the show, Jamie Ivey, of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey podcast fame.  They reminisce, shoot the bull, and talk about her very first book, If You Only Knew, due out this January. 

This week, the boys welcome back an old friend of the show, Jamie Ivey, of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey podcast fame.  They reminisce, shoot the bull, and talk about her very first book, If You Only Knew, due out this January.

We all know one.  The verbally abusive parent, the bully at school or work, or the neighbor who just seems mean.  This week the guys discuss the best way to understand and deal with these folks.  Listen in as they discuss the truth about how hurt people hurt people.

We all know one.  The verbally abusive parent, the bully at school or work, or the neighbor who just seems mean.  This week the guys discuss the best way to understand and deal with these folks.  Listen in as they discuss the truth about how hurt people hurt people.

Hurt People Hurt People

Spiritually and theoretically, we would all say that we want our lives, our marriages, and our children to be different from “the world.”  Yet, if one takes, even a casual glance, its easy to see that we are not very different at all.  In fact, we seem to be working overtime, LITERALLY, to make sure that we’re not different from our lost culture in the slightest way…except for maybe where we go on Sunday mornings…occasionally.  Listen in as the guys discuss how we can learn to Viva La Difference!!    Links to information discussed in the show:      We don't wake up different, you have to be intentional in your difference.   Tumblr removing adult content   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Spiritually and theoretically, we would all say that we want our lives, our marriages, and our children to be different from “the world.”  Yet, if one takes, even a casual glance, its easy to see that we are not very different at all.  In fact, we seem to be working overtime, LITERALLY, to make sure that we’re not different from our lost culture in the slightest way…except for maybe where we go on Sunday mornings…occasionally.  Listen in as the guys discuss how we can learn to Viva La Difference!!  Links to information discussed in the show:  We don't wake up different, you have to be intentional in your difference. <a href="https://www.theverge.com/2018/12/3/18123752/tumblr-adult-content-porn-ban-date-explicit-changes-why-safe-mode" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">Tumblr removing adult content</a> ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/jmyersfam" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@jmyersfam</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjimmymyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjimmymyers</a> Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docjoshmyers" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docjoshmyers</a> Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: <a href="http://twitter.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a>, and Facebook: <a href="http://facebook.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">@docspodcast</a> How do give to the show: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/docspodcast" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/docspodcast</a> Billy Myers: <a href="http://www.therapywithbilly.com/" rel="noopener undefined nofollow" target="_blank">www.therapywithbilly.com</a>

Viva La Difference

When does a great thing, like being involved in your church or faith community, become a not so great thing?  Is that even possible?  This week the boys unpack the sticky issue of being TOO involved at church and how that ministry involvement can be used of the Evil One to do damage to your faith and family.

When does a great thing, like being involved in your church or faith community, become a not so great thing?  Is that even possible?  This week the boys unpack the sticky issue of being TOO involved at church and how that ministry involvement can be used of the Evil One to do damage to your faith and family.

Are You TOO Involved at Church?

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