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ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!

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535: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 4 — AFTER HAVING KIDS

After having kids there are still two adults that need that physical connection to feel important, to feel loved and to feel valued. | "You’re not learning anything unless you are having the difficult conversations" —Gwyneth PaltrowStart your week off on the same page with your spouse. Take A Break... A Coffee Break this week. https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/coffeebreak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

36mins

14 Nov 2019

Rank #1

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250: UNDER THE SHEETS AND NAKED

When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. You will experience health benefits (think hormones), better sleep as well as both physical and sexual benefits. Take on the challenge of sleeping naked and experience the connection you'll have with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the benefits of sleeping naked for both you and your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

16 Dec 2014

Rank #2

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508: MUTUAL MASTURBATION

Learn about mutual masturbation and its role in your marriage. Stimulating each other’s genitals is not only normal but a healthy part of sexual intimacy | "Sometimes the most important conversations are the most difficult to engage in." —Jeanne Phillips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

29mins

13 Aug 2019

Rank #3

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191: MASTURBATION

Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse does not know you are doing this it’s time to have a state of our marriage conversation. You need to take off the masks and acknowledge what’s going on in your sex life. On the other hand masturbating together can add to your marriage bed. This is where you learn what pleases each other by showing your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how masturbation has negatively and positively impacted them in their marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

15 Oct 2013

Rank #4

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468: ORAL SEX FOR HIM AND FOR HER

Learn about oral sex for him and for her. If this is an area that you want to explore it's time to start the conversation. | "Oral sex can be foreplay, the main course or the dessert!" —AnonymousFREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That LastIn the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook.6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

19 Feb 2019

Rank #5

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292: IT’S BEEN TOO LONG SINCE WE’VE HAD SEX

When you have said to yourself and/or to your spouse, "It's been too long since we've had sex", then it's time to sit down to figure out what is going on. The topic of sexless marriages is one a lot of people shy away from. Most of the time because if it is not talked about then the problem doesn't exist. Unfortunately, roughly 15% of marriage have not had sex with their spouse in the last six to twelve months, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University. Sexless marriages by definition are marriages in which a couple has sex less than 10-12 times per year. Why is this happening: too much rejection broken trust lack of communication medication What we cover in this show is NOT those seasons of marriage where you are unable to have sex due to medical conditions OR physical limitations, but areas that you can address in a physically healthy marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa dive into why there has been an increase in sexless marriages and the impact it has on you. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we have talked about on the show is ScreamFree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. The Rise of All-Purpose Antidepressants The Brutal Truth About Sexless Marriages When Sex Leaves the Marriage On Air with Ella - One (HOT!) Extraordinary Marriage Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

34mins

6 Oct 2015

Rank #6

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315: CLEANING UP AFTER SEX

Have ever noticed that in movies you never see couples cleaning up after sex? Usually this romantic moment has no clean up afterwards. The couple cuddles together as they basks in the afterglow of an amazing sexual moment together. Seems odd... As long as we have been making love, cleaning up after sex has always been a part of the our sexual intimacy. Throughout your marriage cleaning up after sex can be impacted by your current form of birth control, are you trying to conceive a child, or even where you are making love.  Some factors may be: Are you using condoms? Are you trying to make a baby or not trying to make a baby? Are you in a hotel? One with two beds so that one is for sex and one for sleeping? Are your sheets clean? After you finish making love you want to cuddle and yet, in the back of your mind you're thinking about fluids going all over the place. The romance and intensity of what you have just experienced can be diminished by the time you finish cleaning up after sex. This can change what was such a powerful moment. We've been there ourselves many of times and have a few ways that you can get the most out of your time together after cleaning up. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about maintaining the delicate balance between romance and cleaning up after sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | Rescue My Marriage Today Waitlist You want change in your marriage because everything you have tried hasn’t worked to this point. You listen to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and think, I want what they and so many other couples have. Resuce My Marriage Today will turn your marriage around and get you back to feeling wanted, connected and intimate. Sign up for the waitlist now. 313 - Pack The Boxes, It’s Time to Move On 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 6 Benefits of Cuddling With Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

15 Mar 2016

Rank #7

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345: LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE

"Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage and the reasons for it are varied. It could be from: Stress or anxiety Health issues Resentment Rejection Kids in the bedroom Being over committed Unresolved forgiveness. Whatever the reason may be lack of sexual desire has always been addressed as "his problem" or "her problem" and yet how often do you stop to think that it’s really OUR problem. When there is a lack of sexual desire in your marriage this creates a divide, it builds a wall, it separates the two of you. When this happens you can begin to have feelings of: Anger Loneliness Doubt Fear Negativity Resentment. Instead of the two of you becoming more unified as a married couple a lack of sexual desire can have the two of you feeling more divided than ever. It can have you questioning your marriage and your role in it. It doesn’t have to be this way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that a lack of sexual desire has on you, your spouse and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle 332 - Releasing Resentment Extra Strength Horny Goat Weed for Natural Libido Boost 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

11 Oct 2016

Rank #8

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284: COCONUT OIL, VIBRATOR AND THE GAME OF LOVE

You desire to be sexually intimacy with your spouse and at the same time add some adventure and variety in your bedroom. Where do you start? What do you need? We struggled with this for years in our own marriage. You know how it goes, you do the same things over and over and it can be tough to jump out and try something new. To be honest we tried many ways to do this and have experienced many misses along the way. We weren't going to be stopped though. We desired to make our bedroom a sanctuary, a place of fun, a place of relaxation, a place of adventure. Through trial and error we have found a number of items that create romance, fun, adventure and pampering. You have to check these out... 11 MUST HAVE Items For Your Bedroom In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about some of these must have items, coconut oil, a vibrator and The Game of Love, that you can get to make your bedroom the most desirable room in your home. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Game of Love Put some fun & games back into your relationship!  The Game of Love is a bed sheet board game that you can customize to fit your relationship just right! Every game kit includes a fitted bed sheet with a blank game board on it. You’ll use the provided fabric markers to write in each space a physical activity, question, mini game, or another idea from the Game of Love’s online Idea Vault. Visit The Game of Love and use 1MARRIAGE to get $5.00 off any game kit! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

11 Aug 2015

Rank #9

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268: WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE THIS?

You've decided that it's time. It's time to change because what's been happening isn't what you want to continue doing. You've decided to make some changes. Well... ...your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking, "Why are you acting like this?" You know why and yet it's a bit difficult to explain to your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage dynamic when you start to work on yourself and your spouse starts wondering why you are acting differently. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Question Behind the Question by John G. Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

21 Apr 2015

Rank #10

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242: LET’S TOUCH EACH OTHER

There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is important. It's something that you should be doing in your marriage for your benefit and that of your spouse's. Three ways you can have non-sexual touch are when you hug, cuddle or even sleep naked with you spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about making physical intimacy a priority because touch is important! EPISODE SPONSOR   Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

21 Oct 2014

Rank #11

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206: INITIATING SEX

Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it's amazing when you have it. The problem is that you're always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to pursue you. What would happen in your marriage if this were to happen? This week Tony & Alisa speak frankly about what it means to initiate sex. Their insights in their own marriage will have you learning what you need to do in your marriage so that both of you are initiating sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

32mins

11 Feb 2014

Rank #12

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209: YOU SAID VS I HEARD

Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These two words are: I HEARD (fill in the blank). This week Tony & Alisa dive into why it is important to make the change from "You Said" to "I Heard" when you are discussing issues that impact your marriage. Not only for your spouse's benefit, but for yours as well. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

4 Mar 2014

Rank #13

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386: RULES FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE

Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

25 Jul 2017

Rank #14

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251: TRUST ME

Many marriages have experienced broken trust in some form or another. Everything from little white lies, financial wounds, infidelity and addiction impact the trust you have with your spouse. Hiding the truth and not owning up to your actions prevents trust from being experienced between the two of you. After many times of this happening it's difficult for your spouse to believe you when you say, "Trust me". It's natural to want to paint yourself in a pretty picture or to fudge what really happened so that your spouse won't be angry, sad, disappointed or frustrated. The problem is that this does not rebuild broken trust! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about when trust is broken and the first steps needed to begin rebuilding that trust with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Thrive90 Fitness Program Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

23 Dec 2014

Rank #15

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328: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. For this to happen it takes planning and a clear understanding of how it will benefit your marriage. It doesn't just happen. You will need to be intentional as you invest your time and efforts into your marriage. It’s time to get radical in your marriage and make a change as you commit to your spouse and implement The Intimacy Lifestyle. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can begin to implement The Intimacy Lifestyle into your marriage as you experience a new level of closeness both emotionally and sexually. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Summertime is here! It’s time for relaxing and for fun. It’s so important that with all that you have going on this summer that initiating does NOT take a back seat to all of the other activities that the two of you have going on. Make sure that the two of you have a summer to remember. Grab you Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life by Diana Hoppe M.D. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

52mins

14 Jun 2016

Rank #16

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312: WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS THINKING BEFORE AND DURING SEX

Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking before and during sex? It may have crossed your mind from time to time or it's something you haven't even considered. Here's the thing though... Just like you and all you have going on he has thoughts that can hinder him from being fully present with you. We learned this first had as we were in the middle of completing our 8th 7 Days of Sex Challenge. By far one of the toughest we have done. One of the nights we began a conversation have sex that we have never had before. What do men think about before and during sex? Now, you would have thought that this would have come up in conversation before and yet it hasn't.  In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what your husband is thinking about before and during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

32mins

23 Feb 2016

Rank #17

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194: TOUGH TO SWALLOW

The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. It's a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? Over the last couple of months many emails have come in asking this particular question. This week Tony & Alisa dive into a topic, blow jobs, that many in the marriage arena are not willing to discuss. They share 7 tips that could help you and your spouse enjoy blow jobs in your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com.  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

5 Nov 2013

Rank #18

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378: LET'S HAVE MIND-BLOWING SEX

Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

32mins

30 May 2017

Rank #19

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322: IT’S TIME TO INITIATE

Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection. Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always up to your spouse to make a move. If you're not interested, too tired, not in the mood, then they get shot down. They express desire to you and yet there is no similar expression of desire in return. NEW FLASH... This is NOT something that only happens to men or only women. Both men and women struggle when it comes to know how to initiate sex. When only one of you is initiating or when neither of you is initiating sex it’s time to take a look at what is going on between the two of you. If you can’t initiate it’s often because you don’t know how or what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked so you don’t know what to do. Maybe you got the message growing up that “good girls don’t do that” or “you shouldn’t be so bold”. Maybe you were told that you should always be pursued. Maybe you’re afraid that you are going to hear no or some other excuse for why you spouse doesn’t want to be with you. Maybe you just don’t know what to do. OR Maybe your spouse doesn’t know when you are initiating... Check out our Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT to get some ideas on how you can begin to initiate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why now is the time for you to share with your spouse on how you initiate in and outside the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

31mins

3 May 2016

Rank #20