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The Fierce Marriage Podcast

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Rank #95 in Christianity category

Religion & Spirituality
Society & Culture
Christianity
Relationships
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Show hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with their trademark transparency, humor, and gospel-centered teaching. Join them for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around...

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Show hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with their trademark transparency, humor, and gospel-centered teaching. Join them for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around...

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By uberhuber88 - Dec 02 2019
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This podcast is working through me into my marriage! My wife has yet to listen, but I tell her what I learn and it is changing my heart by helping me get the word of God in terms of marriage. Give this a listen, pray about what you hear and let God do the rest.

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Today’s marriages need all the Godly help we can get!

iTunes Ratings

2316 Ratings
Average Ratings
2213
69
22
7
5

Awesome!

By uberhuber88 - Dec 02 2019
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This podcast is working through me into my marriage! My wife has yet to listen, but I tell her what I learn and it is changing my heart by helping me get the word of God in terms of marriage. Give this a listen, pray about what you hear and let God do the rest.

Great couple

By FaubNation1 - Nov 25 2019
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Today’s marriages need all the Godly help we can get!

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Show hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with their trademark transparency, humor, and gospel-centered teaching. Join them for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around...

Rank #1: Building an Emotionally Safe Marriage (Dr. Josh and Christi Straub)

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Josh and Christi are the real deal. Highly educated, faith-filled, and articulate communicators. In today's special interview episode, we talked about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. We discussed the "fight, flight, or freeze" response to trauma in your marriage, as well as our tendency to gloss over or forget to utilize 'emotion language' as couples.

We enjoyed our conversation, and we trust that will too!

More resources from Josh and Christi Straub:

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Become a Patron!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage

Mar 28 2019

49mins

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Rank #2: Are You Obviously Married in Public?

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People know you’re married by how you act, and we can sometimes act in a way that seeks validation from the opposite sex outside of marriage. Why is that? In this episode, Ryan and Selena talk about why there should be NO QUESTION of whether or not you’re married in public (and online).

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Become a Patron!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage.

Sep 17 2019

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Rank #3: Communication: 5 Habits for Hearing and Being Heard the Healthy Way

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Communication is not just about saying and hearing words—it's all about relaying ideas accurately with the intent of building a mutual understanding. When you practice healthy habits for talking, listening, and processing together, it's for the good of your marriage and ultimately, for the glory of God. If we are to have marriages that are healthy, enjoyable, and intentional, we must learn and apply wise principles to how we communicate. We must heed Solomon's words in Proverbs 18:2:
A fool takes no pleasure in understanding but only in expressing his opinion.
Bad communication habits can stifle growth, inhibit intimacy, and create endless spouts of bickering, arguing, and division. However, healthy communication will fuel growth and intimacy and make your marriage resilient against otherwise devastating disagreements. In today's podcast, we discuss biblical themes for healthy communication, why we are called to point our spouses to the gospel through how we listen, and five tangible steps (habits) that lead us down the path toward healthier communication.

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Show Notes:

Communication: 5 Habits for Hearing and Being Heard the Healthy Way

  1. Highs and Lows
  2. Dysfunction in marriage often manifests itself first through communication
  3. Two themes in scripture around communication:
    1. A call to wisdom: be slow to speak, fast to listen, fast to wait
    2. Intentional communication with the purpose of being understood and understanding others
  4. Communication corruptors create unintentional misunderstandings
  5. Five habits for healthier communication:
    1. Talk intentionally
    2. Listen intently
    3. Seek Understanding
    4. Act out of Love
    5. Rest in Your Covenant
  6. Couple's Challenge (see below)
  7. Rapid Fire Q&A
  8. Read a letter from a wife to her husband
  9. Housekeeping and announcements
  10. Prayer

Today's Couples Challenge:

Listen to the podcast. Talk through the above points. Create a set of ground rules that protect your marriage against common pitfalls in your communication. Examples:
  • We won't start heavy conversations after we're both tired.
  • We will always resolve hard conversations.
  • We will not use hurtful language or namecalling when angry.
  • We understand that it's sometimes healthiest to step away from the situation to think and pray.
  • Etc...

Don't forget!

Please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30-60 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!

Do you have a question?

If you have a question, ask! During each episode, we encourage listeners to share their stories, ask questions, or write letters to their loved ones. Anything goes... Just go to https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to leave a question, comment, or story.

Oct 24 2017

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Rank #4: Fighting for Healthy Priorities: Embracing Your Limitations

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Keeping healthy priorities are a constant battle for modern marriages. By default we tend to our priorities in life and marriage as linear, or as a list:

  1. God
  2. Family
  3. Others

While this list isn't necessarily bad, we believe there's a better way.

In today's episode of the Fierce Marriage Podcast, we discuss a new way of looking at priorities that has revolutionized our marriage and transformed how we live our lives. We start the conversation by looking at two themes in Scripture:

  • Our finitude as humans
  • Our call as believers.

Join in as we chip away at this massive truth to be had about priorities in light of the gospel.

Show notes:

  1. Rapid Fire Q&A: Selena is forced to answer some tough questions... namely, one she never thought she'd have to face.
  2. Hear one of the most poetic letters from a husband to his wife.
    (Go to https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to write and send a letter to your spouse!)
  3. We discuss priorities:
    1. Scripture: Matthew 6:33 and Psalm 90:12
    2. Common problems What's wrong with "The List"
    3. We propose a better/more integrated model for priorities
    4. The Couple's Challenge (See below)
  4. We finished with our Highs & Lows for the week prior.
  5. Prayer

Today's Couples Challenge:

Create a family vision statement (family verse, mission, core values, envision statements). Listen to the episode for more details about what this could mean for your family!

Oct 17 2017

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Rank #5: "The Naked Marriage" and Rebuilding Trust After a Betrayal (Dave and Ashley Willis)

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Today we talked with Dave and Ashley Willis, authors and podcasters. We talked about dealing with betrayal, how to rebuild trust, and why it's ok to be vulnerable, even if it's uncomfortable.

Dave and Ashley's new book The Naked Marriage: Undressing the truth about sex, intimacy and lifelong love released on Feb 12th. It's amazing! Make sure to grab a copy on Amazon.

For more resources from Dave and Ashley, check out their podcast, "The Naked Marriage".

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Become a Patron!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Just visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage

Feb 14 2019

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Rank #6: The Anatomy of a Healthy (and Happy) Sex Life

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One of the most prevalent topics we get questions about is sex and intimacy. And for good reason: sexual intimacy is an important part of marriage, but it also tends to be one of the most misunderstood. For starters, here are some biblical truths about sex:

  1. Sex is a good, gracious gift from God. He designed it.
  2. Sex is created exclusively for the marriage covenant. Elsewhere is sin and will lead to brokenness.
  3. Sex is created with huge purposes in mind.
  4. Sex is meant to be enjoyed!

With those principles in place (there are more, but for today we'll stop there), we can begin to understand what a healthy sex life might look like. For a much more in-depth look at the purposes of sex, consider reading our latest book Fierce Marriage.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback! Simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page.

Jul 24 2018

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Rank #7: The "Spectrum of Sex" and Why You Need It

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Sex is an incredible gift, but missed expectations can cause hurt and frustration. What if you could clearly know what to expect, when sex would happen, and why it's worth prioritizing, even when you're tired?

In this week's episode, Ryan and Selena introduce the idea of establishing a "Spectrum of Sex" in your marriage, as a means of gaining unity around the 'rhythms' (pun kind of intended) of your sex life.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page.

Oct 30 2018

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Rank #8: Your Spouse, Your Ultimate Standard of Attractiveness

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This is one of those issues that will make or break your marriage.

Men, we are constantly barraged with culture’s standard of womanly beauty. We are subconsciously told over and over again that a beautiful woman must be skinny, tall, wear certain clothes, act a certain way, and have a risqué appetite for sex.

Advertisers and content producers spend billions establishing and reinforcing what culture deems beautiful. The funny thing is that if asked to describe what a beautiful woman looks like, content producers would quickly mention inner beauty, individual uniqueness, and personality. You’ll never catch them verbalizing that beauty has to look the way they show.

In today's podcast, we look at this phenomenon and share practical ways to set your own spouse as your ultimate standard of attractiveness.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page.

Jan 08 2019

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Rank #9: 5 Keys to a Healthy Perspective on Sex

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How we see sex dramatically affects our experience of it. The problem is, it's so easy to see sex incorrectly because of our our own pasts and perspectives as well culture's popular beliefs. In today's episode, we talked through one of our favorite passages on sex, Proverbs 5. Listen in and see just how God's vision of sex in marriage can change your relationship.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Become a Patron!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage.

Aug 27 2019

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Rank #10: Finding the Absolute Definition of Love

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If a couple isn't on the same page in how they define love, they're in for quite a challenging marriage. Thankfully there is a perfect and final authority who can tell us what love is. In this episode, we discussed why and how Jesus is our ultimate authority, definition, and example of love.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Become a Patron!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage.

Sep 10 2019

58mins

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Rank #11: 10 Big Questions About Sex, Compatibility, Kids, Annoyances, and More

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You asked, we answered. This episode includes

  1. What do you do when you no longer have feelings for or care about your spouse?
  2. What is your stand on toys or items used while having sex or used to help pleasure before sex?
  3. When did you guys know you were ready to have kids?
  4. What’s something that may have annoyed you about the other that you now do?
  5. How do you love a husband that is full of pride?
  6. Ideas for spouses when one is a night owl and the other is an early bird?
  7. How to be brave with intimacy when kids are asleep?
  8. How do you deal with in-laws that are very close to you but don’t respect your lifestyle and/or space?
  9. As a wife, how to respond to a husband who admits porn addiction?
  10. What's the best resource specifically for affair recovery and reconciliation in marriage?

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to explore the options there.

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.

Sep 11 2018

49mins

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Rank #12: Practical Tools for Building a Genuinely 'Fierce' Marriage

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This episode is a VERY important one for us... it probably for you too! You'll have to listen to find out why!? :)

Spread the Love

If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBERATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!

Do you have a question?

If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.

Just visit https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!

Apr 17 2018

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Rank #13: Naked and Unashamed: Keys to Experiencing Intimacy on Every Level

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In today's episode, we sought to answer the single question: What does it mean to be truly intimate with another human? We explore that by looking at Genesis 2 (pre-Fall) and examining what it means that they were "naked and not ashamed". Then we'll spend a few minutes answering common questions we receive from readers regarding emotional intimacy, how to maintain closeness when you have young kids, and how to have tough, honest conversations even when you feel divided.

Spread the Love

If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBERATE, and REVIEW this podcast on your app of choice. It takes 30 seconds, and it helps get the word out about gospel-centered marriage. Thank you!

Do you have a question?

If you have a question, feel free to ask! Anything goes.

Just visit https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!

Apr 24 2018

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Rank #14: 6 Ways to Affair Proof Your Marriage

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Affairs take two common forms: emotional and sexual. In either case, by the time an actual affair materializes, there have been latent and unaddressed problems for a long time.

"Affair proofing", if we can call it that, includes proactively building systems and rhythms into your marriage that will make it much less likely that you'll start down the subtle path toward an affair.

Spread the Love

If we've earned it we'd be honored if you would SUBSCRIBERATE, and REVIEW this podcast in the Apple Podcasts app (or podcasting app of your choice). It takes 30 seconds, and it helps would-be listeners decide if it's worth their time. Thank you!

Do you have a question?

Feel free to ask! Anything goes. Just visit https://fiercemarriage.com/podcast to submit a question or story; we’ll take care of the rest!

May 01 2018

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Rank #15: 5 Tips (and Tools) for a Stronger Marriage This Year

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If you’re like us (and like most), goals you make usually revolve around work and lifestyle: “hit this revenue milestone” or “pay off such-and-such debt”. Those goals are good, so long as they’re in the proper context of your identity in Christ and your Gospel-centered purpose as a new creation in him.

This year, we're urging ourselves (and you!) to look closer to home when targeting big, crazy endeavors. Consider this: how can your marriage and family be different and/or more healthy this year? What experiences can you pursue together that will build your faith and trust in God while making use of your days to glorify him? Really… think about it. What could be?

To that end, we've compiled this list of 5 tips/tools that we think are very helpful for building on specific, important aspects of your marriage. We hope they help you!

All of the links mentioned can be found here: https://fiercemarriage.com/5-tips-and-tools-for-a-stronger-marriage-this-year

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page.

Jan 03 2019

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Rank #16: How is Your Phone Hurting Your Marriage? (Part 1)

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You're probably using your smartphone to listen to this episode. Your phone is a great tool, but it can also create problems in life and marriage. A few diagnostic questions: Do you check your phone first thing in the morning? Do you spend many of your idle moments checking it compulsively? What is the longest stretch you've gone in the past year without checking your phone?

In today's episode, we'll start this conversation by diving into a new book we're both reading. Note, we weren't paid to do this, we're just VERY convicted about this subject and the below book is gospel-centered, relevant, and challenging.

Resource: "12 Ways Your Phone is Changing You" by Tony Reinke

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment, ask a question, or submit a letter to your spouse

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page.

Jul 17 2018

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Rank #17: 5 Hurtful Phrases to Remove from Your Marriage Vocabulary

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It’s impossible to define everything everyone should or shouldn’t say in every situation. However, there are some phrases that are usually unhelpful for marriage. Join us as we explore each one!

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Become a Patron!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage.

Jul 23 2019

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Rank #18: The 5 Anchors of a Fulfilling Sex Life

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Culture seems more confused by sex than ever before. Scandals, misconduct, gender identity, and cultural sexualization all contribute to an already confusing conversation. As Christian married couples, it's vital that we press into the confusion and fight through to a place of clarity. We must ask, how can we conform our understanding of sex and intimacy to God's original design? How can we honor God with our sexuality—our desires, our expressions, and our conduct—for our joy and His glory?

In today's podcast, we identify 5 anchors for a fulfilling, God-designed sex life based on what we see before the Fall.

Discussion

Scripture: Genesis 2:24-25

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Two things we're highlighting as part of God's perfect design for marriage and sex:

  1. They've been joined as one flesh.
  2. They were naked and unashamed. No shame.

Any shame we feel is a result of distortion of sex because of sin. We must do the work to understand sex clearly in a culture where it's increasingly confused. God's Word is always our guide.

The 5 Anchors of a Fulfilling Sex Life

  • Anchor 1: Sex is more than physical.
  • Anchor 2: Sex is primarily selfless, not selfish.
  • Anchor 3: Sex is exclusive to the marriage covenant.
  • Anchor 4: Sex is for our enjoyment and pleasure.
  • Anchor 5: Sex is designed to edify, not degrade.

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Dec 12 2017

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Rank #19: The 5 Love Languages

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In this episode, Ryan and Selena discuss Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. In their discussion they explore whether or not they are biblical, and how they can help/hinder your marriage in the different seasons you’re in (pre-kids, littles, etc.).

After recently taking the quiz online (go to http://5LoveLanguages.com to take the quiz yourself), both were surprised by their results this time around versus when they were younger and without kids.

Note: we weren't' paid in any way to talk about this book, it's just a great conversation piece that has helped us a ton.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to leave a comment or to ask a question!

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page.

Nov 06 2018

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Rank #20: 3 Boundaries Every Couple Needs

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Healthy boundaries will protect you from overextending yourself in life. They will also protect the health of your marriage when they're clearly defined. Every season of frustration in our own marriage ("season" = many months) can usually be traced back to some issue with boundaries. Usually, I'm overworking, or we're making poor decisions in areas where we haven't clearly defined our "walls".

In this episode, we'll explore three specific ways you can create healthy boundaries in your marriage.

Thanks for listening!

Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome questions and feedback! Go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast to explore the options there.

Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via our Patreon page. If we've helped you, we'd be honored to have your partnership.

Sep 18 2018

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