Summary: In this thought-provoking podcast episode, we delve into the world of adoption through the eyes of Mea Han Fajardo, an extraordinary international adoptee and the visionary behind FostAdopt Connections. Join us as we explore Mea's deeply personal journey and how she has transformed her experiences into a powerful platform, fostering meaningful opportunities and connections for children in foster care and group homes. Throughout the conversation, Mea opens up about the unique challenges and joys of being an adoptee, offering valuable insights that shed light on the intricacies of the adoption process. Her heartfelt reflections inspire empathy and understanding, as we gain a profound appreciation for the resilience and strength of those touched by adoption. Mea's passion for making a positive impact in the lives of vulnerable kids shines through, and we express our sincerest gratitude for her willingness to share her remarkable story with our listeners. So tune in and join us in this moving discussion as we celebrate the power of human connection and the transformative influence of compassion and love in the world of adoption. Resource Links: FostAdopt Connections  20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew - Nightlight Link to book:  Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew: Eldridge, Sherrie: 9780440508380: Amazon.com Connect with us! Email: info@fosteraz.org Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast Instagram: @FosteringVoices Web: www.fosterarizona.org   Chapter Markers: 00:01 - Open 00:04 - On Today's Episode 00:33 - Welcome Mea Han Fajardo 01:33 - Mea's Story - Adopted at 10 02:58 - The Life-Long Experience 03:48 - We don't talk About it 04:01 - Gratitude and Lonliness 05:34 - The Space to Grieve 07:01 - Grieving with Intent 08:02 - How to Grieve 09:41 - Being Allowed to Grieve 10:32 - Normalizing Grief 11:29 - Breaking Open 12:50 - Grieving with Others 14:31 - Unlocking Grief 17:09 - The Mystery of Being an Adoptee 18:17 - Sympathizing with Adoptees 20:45 - Sharing my Adoption Story 22:38 - Reflection for Compassion 23:59 - An Adult Relationship with Parents 25:13 - Searching for Relationship 26:50 - Don't Hold on so Tightly 27:01 - Being Prepared when your Kid Starts Searching 27:44 - We Accept Your Family 29:42 - Loving Myself 31:26 - The Takeaway 32:27 - On Behalf of Adoptive Parents 33:25 - Resources 35:04 - Closing

Summary: In this thought-provoking podcast episode, we delve into the world of adoption through the eyes of Mea Han Fajardo, an extraordinary international adoptee and the visionary behind FostAdopt Connections. Join us as we explore Mea's deeply personal journey and how she has transformed her experiences into a powerful platform, fostering meaningful opportunities and connections for children in foster care and group homes. Throughout the conversation, Mea opens up about the unique challenges and joys of being an adoptee, offering valuable insights that shed light on the intricacies of the adoption process. Her heartfelt reflections inspire empathy and understanding, as we gain a profound appreciation for the resilience and strength of those touched by adoption. Mea's passion for making a positive impact in the lives of vulnerable kids shines through, and we express our sincerest gratitude for her willingness to share her remarkable story with our listeners. So tune in and join us in this moving discussion as we celebrate the power of human connection and the transformative influence of compassion and love in the world of adoption. Resource Links: <a href="https://fostadopt.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">FostAdopt Connections</a> <a href="https://nightlight.org/2013/05/20-things-adopted-kids-wish-their-adoptive-parents-knew/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew - Nightlight</a> Link to book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Twenty-Things-Adopted-Adoptive-Parents/dp/044050838X" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew: Eldridge, Sherrie: 9780440508380: Amazon.com</a> Connect with us! Email: <a href="mailto:info@fosteraz.org">info@fosteraz.org</a> Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast Instagram: @FosteringVoices Web: <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a> Chapter Markers: 00:01 - Open 00:04 - On Today's Episode 00:33 - Welcome Mea Han Fajardo 01:33 - Mea's Story - Adopted at 10 02:58 - The Life-Long Experience 03:48 - We don't talk About it 04:01 - Gratitude and Lonliness 05:34 - The Space to Grieve 07:01 - Grieving with Intent 08:02 - How to Grieve 09:41 - Being Allowed to Grieve 10:32 - Normalizing Grief 11:29 - Breaking Open 12:50 - Grieving with Others 14:31 - Unlocking Grief 17:09 - The Mystery of Being an Adoptee 18:17 - Sympathizing with Adoptees 20:45 - Sharing my Adoption Story 22:38 - Reflection for Compassion 23:59 - An Adult Relationship with Parents 25:13 - Searching for Relationship 26:50 - Don't Hold on so Tightly 27:01 - Being Prepared when your Kid Starts Searching 27:44 - We Accept Your Family 29:42 - Loving Myself 31:26 - The Takeaway 32:27 - On Behalf of Adoptive Parents 33:25 - Resources 35:04 - Closing

Episode 162: An Adoptee's Story - The Blessing; the Heartbreak

Summary: Matthew Blades is a familiar and friendly voice known to many in Arizona from the successful Matthew and Priscilla in the Morning show on Mix 96.9 FM. Matthew's own journey of battling physical and mental health challenges led him to step away from broadcasting and embark on a healing journey. Now, he sits in front of the podcast mic, hosting the insightful "Learn From Those Who Lived It" podcast, where he engages in conversations with individuals who have overcome unimaginable circumstances and found their path to healing. Matthew's commitment to spreading joy continues with his new podcast, "I Needed That," co-hosted with Fitness Expert Chris Powell. Drawing from his personal experiences, Matthew shares valuable lessons in his workshops and speaking engagements, touching the lives of others. Today, we dive into an important topic: self-care. This discussion resonates with everyone, particularly those involved in the foster care world. Get ready to join us as we explore the significance of self-care and welcome Matthew Blades to the podcast. Prepare to be inspired and uplifted! Resource Links: Learn From People Who Lived It - Podcast  2021 Top 10 Self-Care Resources - PDF  Caregivers Guide to Wellbeing - PDF   Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast IG: @FosteringVoices www.fosterarizona.org   Chapter Markers: 00:04 - On Today's Episode 00:34 - Welcome Matthew Blades! 02:25 - Matthew's Story 04:40 - Your Super Power 05:12 - 3 Ways to Screw up Your Kids 07:10 - I am a Human FIrst! 07:41 - Shame, Fear, and Guilt 11:06 - The Recordings in our Heads 12:33 - Moving Forward 13:49 - Spinning the Plates 15:52 - It's not Control; It's Fear 16:59 - Letting Go 18:44 - You're a Transitional Character 20:44 - Speaking it Out Loud 21:47 - Redefining Success 23:59 - Your Real Life - Personal Inventory 26:43 - The Value of Self 27:51 - Having a Self Care Strategy 30:03 - Kim's Weekend 31:31 - Being Selfish 33:36 - The Blame Game 35:00 - Giving Yourself Permission 38:02 - The Takeaway 40:04 - Resources - Closing Thoughts 43:16 - You are not Broken 44:05 - Wrap Up 45:00 - Thank You!

Summary: Matthew Blades is a familiar and friendly voice known to many in Arizona from the successful Matthew and Priscilla in the Morning show on Mix 96.9 FM. Matthew's own journey of battling physical and mental health challenges led him to step away from broadcasting and embark on a healing journey. Now, he sits in front of the podcast mic, hosting the insightful "Learn From Those Who Lived It" podcast, where he engages in conversations with individuals who have overcome unimaginable circumstances and found their path to healing. Matthew's commitment to spreading joy continues with his new podcast, "I Needed That," co-hosted with Fitness Expert Chris Powell. Drawing from his personal experiences, Matthew shares valuable lessons in his workshops and speaking engagements, touching the lives of others. Today, we dive into an important topic: self-care. This discussion resonates with everyone, particularly those involved in the foster care world. Get ready to join us as we explore the significance of self-care and welcome Matthew Blades to the podcast. Prepare to be inspired and uplifted! Resource Links: <a href="https://www.learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Learn From People Who Lived It - Podcast</a> <a href="https://ncwwi.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Top-10-Self-Care-2021.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> 2021 Top 10 Self-Care Resources - PDF</a> <a href="https://cdn.ymaws.com/flchildren.org/resource/resmgr/presentations/final_caregivers_guide_to_we.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Caregivers Guide to Wellbeing - PDF</a> Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast IG: @FosteringVoices <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a> Chapter Markers: 00:04 - On Today's Episode 00:34 - Welcome Matthew Blades! 02:25 - Matthew's Story 04:40 - Your Super Power 05:12 - 3 Ways to Screw up Your Kids 07:10 - I am a Human FIrst! 07:41 - Shame, Fear, and Guilt 11:06 - The Recordings in our Heads 12:33 - Moving Forward 13:49 - Spinning the Plates 15:52 - It's not Control; It's Fear 16:59 - Letting Go 18:44 - You're a Transitional Character 20:44 - Speaking it Out Loud 21:47 - Redefining Success 23:59 - Your Real Life - Personal Inventory 26:43 - The Value of Self 27:51 - Having a Self Care Strategy 30:03 - Kim's Weekend 31:31 - Being Selfish 33:36 - The Blame Game 35:00 - Giving Yourself Permission 38:02 - The Takeaway 40:04 - Resources - Closing Thoughts 43:16 - You are not Broken 44:05 - Wrap Up 45:00 - Thank You!

Episode 161: Real Talk - Self Care with Matthew Blades

Summary: At just 25 years old, Lindsey found herself pregnant and the parent of two children in the custody of the Department of Child Safety. She endured a heartbreaking struggle with homelessness, residing in motels and even living on the streets, surrounded by others in similar desperate circumstances. Desperate for change, Lindsey discovered a lifeline—a housing program for pregnant women with substance use disorders. This pivotal moment led her to the Family Involvement Center, igniting her path to healing and the reunion of her fractured family. Now, Lindsey is an active force in her city, advocating for change through various organizations such as the Parent Advisory Board, the Prevention Advisory Collaborative, and the Family Navigation Action Team. Her passion for improving child welfare has brought her before community audiences, the governor's office, and dependency judges. Lindsey's dedication to serving her community is truly inspiring. Join us as we delve into Lindsey's extraordinary journey, her triumphs, and her unwavering commitment to making a positive impact and becoming a beacon of hope and change in foster care.   Resource Links: Family Involvement Center  Birth-Foster Family Connections • Bright Spots  RiseIssue_35_Parent-Advocacy.pdf   Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast IG: @FosteringVoices www.fosterarizona.org   Chapters: 00:01 - Open 00:34 - Welcome Lindsey Shine 02:09 - Lindsey's Story 03:47 - Going to the Wrong Attorney 04:21 - Leaving with Nothing 06:21 - Getting Help 07:05 - 5 Months and 3 Years 08:00 - Keeping Hope Alive 09:11 - Homelessness 10:27 - A Fork in the Road 12:19 - One More Shot 14:06 - Severance Trial 15:51 - Transition from Visitation 16:54 - A Traumatic Space 17:54 - A Glorified Babysitter? 19:11 - Being Friends with the Fosters 19:53 - A Broken System Challenge 22:13 - Choosing a Solution 23:38 - Choosing Responsibility 25:07 - Advocating in a Meaningful Way 27:18 - Normalizing Relational Support 28:28 - Deficiencies are Opportunities 30:45 - The Takeaway 32:30 - Being the Change 32:54 - Resources 34:25 - Wrap Up 34:56 - Thank You!

Summary: At just 25 years old, Lindsey found herself pregnant and the parent of two children in the custody of the Department of Child Safety. She endured a heartbreaking struggle with homelessness, residing in motels and even living on the streets, surrounded by others in similar desperate circumstances. Desperate for change, Lindsey discovered a lifeline—a housing program for pregnant women with substance use disorders. This pivotal moment led her to the Family Involvement Center, igniting her path to healing and the reunion of her fractured family. Now, Lindsey is an active force in her city, advocating for change through various organizations such as the Parent Advisory Board, the Prevention Advisory Collaborative, and the Family Navigation Action Team. Her passion for improving child welfare has brought her before community audiences, the governor's office, and dependency judges. Lindsey's dedication to serving her community is truly inspiring. Join us as we delve into Lindsey's extraordinary journey, her triumphs, and her unwavering commitment to making a positive impact and becoming a beacon of hope and change in foster care. Resource Links: <a href="https://www.familyinvolvementcenter.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Family Involvement Center</a> <a href="https://www.findbrightspots.org/bright-spots-library/birth-foster-family-connections/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Birth-Foster Family Connections • Bright Spots</a> <a href="https://www.risemagazine.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/RiseIssue_35_Parent-Advocacy.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> RiseIssue_35_Parent-Advocacy.pdf</a> Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast IG: @FosteringVoices <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a> Chapters: 00:01 - Open 00:34 - Welcome Lindsey Shine 02:09 - Lindsey's Story 03:47 - Going to the Wrong Attorney 04:21 - Leaving with Nothing 06:21 - Getting Help 07:05 - 5 Months and 3 Years 08:00 - Keeping Hope Alive 09:11 - Homelessness 10:27 - A Fork in the Road 12:19 - One More Shot 14:06 - Severance Trial 15:51 - Transition from Visitation 16:54 - A Traumatic Space 17:54 - A Glorified Babysitter? 19:11 - Being Friends with the Fosters 19:53 - A Broken System Challenge 22:13 - Choosing a Solution 23:38 - Choosing Responsibility 25:07 - Advocating in a Meaningful Way 27:18 - Normalizing Relational Support 28:28 - Deficiencies are Opportunities 30:45 - The Takeaway 32:30 - Being the Change 32:54 - Resources 34:25 - Wrap Up 34:56 - Thank You!

Episode 160: Real Talk - Parents of Foster Care

Summary: In honor of national reunification month, in this episode we have a conversation with Judge Colleen McNally about what reunification means for kids and their families. Before retiring, Judge McNally served the people of Arizona for over 16 years in the Maricopa County Superior Court of Arizona. Since retiring, she has devoted her time and efforts to supporting families that have experienced the foster care system and continues to advocate for better systems in Arizona. Resource Links: How did Cradle to Crayons adapt the Safe Babies Court Team™ approach in Maricopa County, Arizona?  On the Road to Reunification: Experiencing Foster Care with My Sister by My Side By D'Artagnan Caliman  American Bar Association - Celebrating Reunification Month Foster Cooperative Prevent Child Abuse Arizona   Foster Arizona  PO Box 20787  Mesa, AZ 85277   Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices www.fosterarizona.org   Chapters: 0:00 - Open 0:33 - Intro 1:32 - Who is Judge McNally? 3:39 - We all have Trauma 5:36 - The Courtroom Experience 7:00 - How can the System be Supportive? 8:44 - It's the Simple Things 10:32 - A Drink of Water 10:50 - The Challenge of Severance 12:42 - The Reality of Reunification 14:04 - And Now What? 16:00 - What is your Wish for Change? 18:43 - Reunification Day 20:53 - Kid Initiatives 22:06 - How can the Community Support? 22:35 - ACE Questionnaires 23:55 - Love for a Child vs. Love for an Adult 25:55 - Fear 27:54 - Send an Encouraging Note 29:26 - Reflections on the First Reunification Day 30:59 - Ways for the Community to Connect 33:17 - The Takeaway 34:34 - Get Involved 35:23 - Resources 37:21 - Thank You

Summary: In honor of national reunification month, in this episode we have a conversation with Judge Colleen McNally about what reunification means for kids and their families. Before retiring, Judge McNally served the people of Arizona for over 16 years in the Maricopa County Superior Court of Arizona. Since retiring, she has devoted her time and efforts to supporting families that have experienced the foster care system and continues to advocate for better systems in Arizona. Resource Links: <a href="https://www.casey.org/cradle-to-crayons-maricopa/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How did Cradle to Crayons adapt the Safe Babies Court Team™ approach in Maricopa County, Arizona?</a> <a href="https://www.americanbar.org/content/dam/aba/administrative/child_law/road-to-reunification-story.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> On the Road to Reunification: Experiencing Foster Care with My Sister by My Side By D'Artagnan Caliman</a> <a href="https://www.americanbar.org/groups/public_interest/child_law/project-areas/national-reunification-month/resources/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> American Bar Association - Celebrating Reunification Month</a> <a href="http://www.fostercooperative.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Foster Cooperative</a> <a href="https://pcaaz.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Prevent Child Abuse Arizona</a> Foster Arizona  PO Box 20787  Mesa, AZ 85277 Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a> Chapters: 0:00 - Open 0:33 - Intro 1:32 - Who is Judge McNally? 3:39 - We all have Trauma 5:36 - The Courtroom Experience 7:00 - How can the System be Supportive? 8:44 - It's the Simple Things 10:32 - A Drink of Water 10:50 - The Challenge of Severance 12:42 - The Reality of Reunification 14:04 - And Now What? 16:00 - What is your Wish for Change? 18:43 - Reunification Day 20:53 - Kid Initiatives 22:06 - How can the Community Support? 22:35 - ACE Questionnaires 23:55 - Love for a Child vs. Love for an Adult 25:55 - Fear 27:54 - Send an Encouraging Note 29:26 - Reflections on the First Reunification Day 30:59 - Ways for the Community to Connect 33:17 - The Takeaway 34:34 - Get Involved 35:23 - Resources 37:21 - Thank You

Episode 159: The Way Home - How Kids Return to Their Families with Judge Colleen McNally

Summary: What comes to mind when you think about Recovery and Recovery spaces? Often the images that come to mind are uncomfortable and we think of these spaces as the last place we would ever want to be, but what if we told you that Recovery…Is For Everybody! Join us in a conversation as we talk to Jillian about her journey into recovery and why the room of recovery can be the most freeing, accepting. and healing space around. Resource Links: Celebrate Recovery Grief Share Mending the Soul Alcoholics Anonymous Narcotics Anonymous Chapter Markers: 00:01 - On Today's Episode 00:34 - Introduction 01:20 - Jillian's Story 05:19 - Enter Celebrate Recovery 05:47 - It Stuck 07:34 - A Journey of Recovery 11:22 - Being a Leader in Recovery 14:05 - What are the Misconceptions? 16:45 - Recovery is for Everyone 18:48 - More than Just a Meeting 19:16 - The First Steps 20:34 - The Fellowship of Recovery 23:08 - It's Also About Your Loved Ones 24:08 - The Hardest Part 25:20 - It's an Ongoing Process 25:54 - What's Brought you the Most Joy? 26:57 - Who is Welcome? 28:21 - The Takeaway 28:54 - Resources 30:13 - Call to Action 32:15 - Wrap Up 32:39 - Outro Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices www.fosterarizona.org

Summary: What comes to mind when you think about Recovery and Recovery spaces? Often the images that come to mind are uncomfortable and we think of these spaces as the last place we would ever want to be, but what if we told you that Recovery…Is For Everybody! Join us in a conversation as we talk to Jillian about her journey into recovery and why the room of recovery can be the most freeing, accepting. and healing space around. Resource Links: <a href="https://www.celebraterecovery.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Celebrate Recovery</a> <a href="https://www.griefshare.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Grief Share</a> <a href="https://www.mendingthesoul.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mending the Soul</a> <a href="https://alcoholicsanonymous.com/aa-meetings/arizona/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Alcoholics Anonymous</a> <a href="https://na.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Narcotics Anonymous</a> Chapter Markers: 00:01 - On Today's Episode 00:34 - Introduction 01:20 - Jillian's Story 05:19 - Enter Celebrate Recovery 05:47 - It Stuck 07:34 - A Journey of Recovery 11:22 - Being a Leader in Recovery 14:05 - What are the Misconceptions? 16:45 - Recovery is for Everyone 18:48 - More than Just a Meeting 19:16 - The First Steps 20:34 - The Fellowship of Recovery 23:08 - It's Also About Your Loved Ones 24:08 - The Hardest Part 25:20 - It's an Ongoing Process 25:54 - What's Brought you the Most Joy? 26:57 - Who is Welcome? 28:21 - The Takeaway 28:54 - Resources 30:13 - Call to Action 32:15 - Wrap Up 32:39 - Outro Connect with us! Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a>

Episode 158: Recovery - Why Does it Work?

Summary:      Today there are so many people, humans like you and me, struggling because of varying hurts, habits or hang-ups, and they may be at the end of their rope. Today we have a conversation with Mark as he shares his story on substances and addiction and how connection helped him get to his space of recovery.     Trigger Warning: Today’s episode deals with topics including addiction and suicide ideation. We encourage you to be aware of yourself while listening to this episode and please take time to pause if needed and reach out for support if any of today’s topic affects you.      Chapters: 0:00 - Start                             0:48 - Introduction                      1:03 - Today's Topic                     1:07 - Introduce Today's Guest Mark Gill 1:42 - Set Up Today's Topic              1:58 - Mark's Testimony                  5:53 - The Denial                        6:37 - Peer Pressure                     8:18 - The Next Level                    8:38 - The Big Moment                    10:56 - The Wake Up                       11:50 - The Aftermath                     12:31 - Becoming Something Else           14:15 - The Next Phase                    15:31 - Coming Home                       16:27 - One More Option                   21:01 - Three Questions                   24:08 - An Impactful Story                25:33 - What Breaks Your Heart?           28:45 - Understanding the Story           30:31 - Being a Better Community          33:49 - Advice for Parents                36:07 - It's Too Easy                     37:22 - The Takeaway                      41:32 - Closing                           44:01 - Outro   Links: https://drugabusestatistics.org/teen-drug-use/ https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/bulletins_youthsud.pdf https://www.celebraterecovery.com/ https://alcoholicsanonymous.com/ https://na.org/ Connect with us!  Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices www.fosterarizona.org

Summary: Today there are so many people, humans like you and me, struggling because of varying hurts, habits or hang-ups, and they may be at the end of their rope. Today we have a conversation with Mark as he shares his story on substances and addiction and how connection helped him get to his space of recovery.   Trigger Warning: Today’s episode deals with topics including addiction and suicide ideation. We encourage you to be aware of yourself while listening to this episode and please take time to pause if needed and reach out for support if any of today’s topic affects you. Chapters: 0:00 - Start                             0:48 - Introduction                      1:03 - Today's Topic                     1:07 - Introduce Today's Guest Mark Gill 1:42 - Set Up Today's Topic              1:58 - Mark's Testimony                  5:53 - The Denial                        6:37 - Peer Pressure                     8:18 - The Next Level                    8:38 - The Big Moment                    10:56 - The Wake Up                       11:50 - The Aftermath                     12:31 - Becoming Something Else           14:15 - The Next Phase                    15:31 - Coming Home                       16:27 - One More Option                   21:01 - Three Questions                   24:08 - An Impactful Story                25:33 - What Breaks Your Heart?           28:45 - Understanding the Story           30:31 - Being a Better Community          33:49 - Advice for Parents                36:07 - It's Too Easy                     37:22 - The Takeaway                      41:32 - Closing                           44:01 - Outro Links: <a href="https://drugabusestatistics.org/teen-drug-use/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://drugabusestatistics.org/teen-drug-use/</a> <a href="https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/bulletins_youthsud.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/bulletins_youthsud.pdf</a> <a href="https://www.celebraterecovery.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.celebraterecovery.com/</a> <a href="https://alcoholicsanonymous.com/aa-meetings/arizona/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://alcoholicsanonymous.com/</a> <a href="https://na.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://na.org/</a> Connect with us!  Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a>

Episode 157: Real Talk: Substances (Mark’s Story)

Summary: What happens when you choose to put your comfort space aside and open up your heart and home to a child in foster care? Spoiler alert, it can be humbling, messy, and chaotic at times, but it can also be the most rewarding experience that will change your life and the life of another, forever. Join us as we have a conversation with Stacy Bradley on Fighting the Fear of Stigma in Foster Care and Adoption. Stacy is an adoptive mom and former foster parent who has gone on the journey, advocated hard for her kiddos, and is a pretty cool person to boot!Chapters: 0:02 - Introduction                      0:31 - Welcome                           0:45 - Introduce Stacy Bradley           1:22 - Get to Know Stacy Bradley         3:08 - Learning Experiences              4:40 - Sharing the Journey               5:25 - Learning to Compromise            7:01 - Fear Associated with Stigmas      8:57 - Getting the Wrong Impression      11:28 - The Response to the Wrong Impression 13:09 - What are the Different Stigmas?   14:48 - There's Something Wrong with these Kids 16:59 - Birth Families are Scary        19:48 - These Kids are Lucky            20:38 - The Emotional Journey             22:37 - These Kids are Orphans          23:42 - It's a Learning Experience Every Day 24:35 - When the Answer is Found on Pinterest 25:30 - It's a True Partnership           26:42 - Getting Fired by a 5-year Old     28:56 - Stepping Through the Fear         31:52 - It's not About Being Brave      33:04 - Be Willing to do Something        36:27 - A Smile Goes a Long Way         36:59 - Episode Takeaway                  37:35 - The Hope                          38:08 - Resources                         38:22 - Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey 38:39 - SAGE Journal                      39:41 - Poverty by America by Matthew Dezmond 41:12 - Outro                 Links: What Happened to You : Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing Hardcover – April 27, 2021 by  Oprah Winfrey (Author),  Bruce D. Perry (Author) https://a.co/d/hke5wqN  Keeping secrets: how children in foster care manage stigma https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0308575918823436   Poverty, by America  Hardcover – March 21, 2023 by  Matthew Desmond (Author)  https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593239911?aaxitk=73e15f98719317c85bc0256cb8f76c56&amp;pd_rd_plhdr=t&amp;smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&amp;ref=dacx_dp_577378484348386487_580878620785794769   Connect with us!  Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices www.fosterarizona.org

Summary: What happens when you choose to put your comfort space aside and open up your heart and home to a child in foster care? Spoiler alert, it can be humbling, messy, and chaotic at times, but it can also be the most rewarding experience that will change your life and the life of another, forever. Join us as we have a conversation with Stacy Bradley on Fighting the Fear of Stigma in Foster Care and Adoption. Stacy is an adoptive mom and former foster parent who has gone on the journey, advocated hard for her kiddos, and is a pretty cool person to boot!Chapters: 0:02 - Introduction                      0:31 - Welcome                           0:45 - Introduce Stacy Bradley           1:22 - Get to Know Stacy Bradley         3:08 - Learning Experiences              4:40 - Sharing the Journey               5:25 - Learning to Compromise            7:01 - Fear Associated with Stigmas      8:57 - Getting the Wrong Impression      11:28 - The Response to the Wrong Impression 13:09 - What are the Different Stigmas?   14:48 - There's Something Wrong with these Kids 16:59 - Birth Families are Scary        19:48 - These Kids are Lucky            20:38 - The Emotional Journey             22:37 - These Kids are Orphans          23:42 - It's a Learning Experience Every Day 24:35 - When the Answer is Found on Pinterest 25:30 - It's a True Partnership           26:42 - Getting Fired by a 5-year Old     28:56 - Stepping Through the Fear         31:52 - It's not About Being Brave      33:04 - Be Willing to do Something        36:27 - A Smile Goes a Long Way         36:59 - Episode Takeaway                  37:35 - The Hope                          38:08 - Resources                         38:22 - Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey 38:39 - SAGE Journal                      39:41 - Poverty by America by Matthew Dezmond 41:12 - Outro                Links: What Happened to You : Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing Hardcover – April 27, 2021 by <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Oprah-Winfrey/e/B08Z31GHLK/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Oprah Winfrey</a> (Author), <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Bruce-D-Perry/e/B004G8LMOU/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Bruce D. Perry</a> (Author) <a href="https://a.co/d/hke5wqN" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://a.co/d/hke5wqN </a> Keeping secrets: how children in foster care manage stigma <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0308575918823436" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0308575918823436</a> Poverty, by America  Hardcover – March 21, 2023 by <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Matthew-Desmond/e/B001IOH9DS/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Matthew Desmond</a> (Author) <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593239911?aaxitk=73e15f98719317c85bc0256cb8f76c56&amp;pd_rd_plhdr=t&amp;smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&amp;ref=dacx_dp_577378484348386487_580878620785794769" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593239911?aaxitk=73e15f98719317c85bc0256cb8f76c56&amp;pd_rd_plhdr=t&amp;smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&amp;ref=dacx_dp_577378484348386487_580878620785794769</a> Connect with us!  Facebook: @FosteringVoicesPodcast  IG: @FosteringVoices <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a>

Episode 156: Fighting the Fear of Stigma in Foster Care and Adoption

Summary: Truth…Parenting is hard, but those little moments of sweetness can make the tough days bearable. But what happens when those moments feel few and far between?  Often in our foster care and adoption journeys the struggle to connect with our children can be an all too frequent reality. Join us as we welcome Chris and Caitlin and have a real conversation about connecting when connection is hard. It’s a tough conversation to have, but one that many of us need to face. Chapters:  0:00 – Intro 1:15 – A Beginning in the World of Foster Care 4:12 – The First Experience with a Placement 8:35 – The Beginning of the Real Journey 9:35 – The Mixed Emotions of Adoption Day 10:40 – An Amazing Creative Beginning 11:25 – Day One of 'Now I'm Mom' to this Amazing Person 17:17 – Managing School Life and Home Life 21:04 – Connecting With Teachers and Making Them Part of the Team 23:09 – Setting Expectation as a Parent 34:58 – Let's Have a Little Fun With This! 35:56 – Understanding in the Community 36:25 – Tactics That Work 41:18 – Continuing the Conversation with Resources 43:10 – Connect With Us! Links: The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family:  Great Quote From the Book  Buy the Book Here  What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing   Great Quote from the Book  Buy the Book Here  Foster Cooperative Connect With Us! www.fosterarizona.org

Summary: Truth…Parenting is hard, but those little moments of sweetness can make the tough days bearable. But what happens when those moments feel few and far between?  Often in our foster care and adoption journeys the struggle to connect with our children can be an all too frequent reality. Join us as we welcome Chris and Caitlin and have a real conversation about connecting when connection is hard. It’s a tough conversation to have, but one that many of us need to face. Chapters:  0:00 – Intro 1:15 – A Beginning in the World of Foster Care 4:12 – The First Experience with a Placement 8:35 – The Beginning of the Real Journey 9:35 – The Mixed Emotions of Adoption Day 10:40 – An Amazing Creative Beginning 11:25 – Day One of 'Now I'm Mom' to this Amazing Person 17:17 – Managing School Life and Home Life 21:04 – Connecting With Teachers and Making Them Part of the Team 23:09 – Setting Expectation as a Parent 34:58 – Let's Have a Little Fun With This! 35:56 – Understanding in the Community 36:25 – Tactics That Work 41:18 – Continuing the Conversation with Resources 43:10 – Connect With Us! Links: The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family: <ul> <li><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/762796" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Great Quote From the Book</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Connected-Child-healing-adoptive-family/dp/0071475001/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=Cj0KCQiA6LyfBhC3ARIsAG4gkF8Tym7Zea11r7PcsYaYqIA0i0VauE6X4LttTjLhzE6E_uo0e2PKFNgaArv5EALw_wcB&amp;hvadid=241639852036&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvlocphy=9030031&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvqmt=e&amp;hvrand=14088468073790254925&amp;hvtargid=kwd-377775803258&amp;hydadcr=22593_10356184&amp;keywords=the+connected+child+karyn+purvis&amp;qid=1676649634&amp;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Buy the Book Here</a></li> </ul> What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing  <ul> <li><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/80630360" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Great Quote from the Book</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Understanding-Resilience/dp/1250223180" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Buy the Book Here</a></li> </ul> <a href="https://www.fostercooperative.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Foster Cooperative</a> Connect With Us! <a href="https://www.fosterarizona.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a>

Episode 155: Real Talk, Connecting When Connection is Hard

Summary: Life can be tough sometimes, but for a young adult aging out of foster care the transition can be life altering and either set them up for success or leave them without a connection or direction. Join us as we have a conversation with Zack, a young adult with lived experience, and how connection and having a community changed his trajectory in life. Chapters:  0:00 – Intro 0:26 – Welcome, Zack! 1:10 – What Brought Zack To Foster Arizona 3:43 – Becoming An Adult In Foster Care 5:38 – Embracing A New Situation 9:52 – Having Pride And Satisfaction In Accomplishments 11:16 – Showing The Way To Those Struggling Through 18:18 – Excitement Moving Forward 29:55 – One Takeaway 27:06 – Connect With Us! Links: Aging Out Institute Foster Arizona Housing Project ChildWelfare.gov https://fosterarizona.org/get-involved/ Connect With Us! www.fosterarizona.org

Summary: Life can be tough sometimes, but for a young adult aging out of foster care the transition can be life altering and either set them up for success or leave them without a connection or direction. Join us as we have a conversation with Zack, a young adult with lived experience, and how connection and having a community changed his trajectory in life. Chapters:  0:00 – Intro 0:26 – Welcome, Zack! 1:10 – What Brought Zack To Foster Arizona 3:43 – Becoming An Adult In Foster Care 5:38 – Embracing A New Situation 9:52 – Having Pride And Satisfaction In Accomplishments 11:16 – Showing The Way To Those Struggling Through 18:18 – Excitement Moving Forward 29:55 – One Takeaway 27:06 – Connect With Us! Links: <a href="https://agingoutinstitute.org/what-is-aging-out/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Aging Out Institute</a> <a href="https://fosterarizonahousingproject.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Foster Arizona Housing Project</a> <a href="https://www.childwelfare.gov/fostercaremonth/awareness/involved/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ChildWelfare.gov</a> <a href="https://fosterarizona.org/get-involved/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://fosterarizona.org/get-involved/</a> Connect With Us! <a href="https://fosterarizona.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.fosterarizona.org</a>

Episode 154: A Look Into Aging Out of Foster Care

Summary: Community is what gets us through life. In today's conversation we talk with Anika Robinson about finding your people and the importance of community and connection in our everyday lives. Chapters:  0:00 – Intro 0:26 – Welcome Anika! 1:44 – Advocacy for Children 3:10 – Establishing Connections 8:38 – ASA Now 14:04 – Finding Hope in Dark Times 20:39 – The Powerful Impacts of Community 27:50 – The Need For Community 29:55 – One Takeaway 33:27 – Community Connections 37:02 – Connect With Us! Links:  Supporting Infants, Toddlers and Families Impacted by Caregiver Mental Health Problems, Substance Abuse, and Trauma – A Community Action Guide PDF Foster Cooperative ASA Now Connect With Us! Foster Arizona

Summary: Community is what gets us through life. In today's conversation we talk with Anika Robinson about finding your people and the importance of community and connection in our everyday lives. Chapters:  0:00 – Intro 0:26 – Welcome Anika! 1:44 – Advocacy for Children 3:10 – Establishing Connections 8:38 – ASA Now 14:04 – Finding Hope in Dark Times 20:39 – The Powerful Impacts of Community 27:50 – The Need For Community 29:55 – One Takeaway 33:27 – Community Connections 37:02 – Connect With Us! Links: <a href="https://store.samhsa.gov/product/supporting-infants-toddlers-families-impacted-caregiver-mental-health-problems-substance/SMA12-4726" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Supporting Infants, Toddlers and Families Impacted by Caregiver Mental Health Problems, Substance Abuse, and Trauma – A Community Action Guide PDF</a> <a href="https://www.fostercooperative.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Foster Cooperative</a> <a href="https://www.asanow.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ASA Now</a> Connect With Us! <a href="https://www.asanow.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Foster Arizona</a>

Episode 153: Finding Connection, Finding Your People

A Foster Arizona podcast featuring Authentic Conversations with Real People talking all things Foster Care and beyond. Hosted by Kim and Brian Vehon.

I love listening to all the podcasts because there is so much wisdom being spoken. Although it is geared to those that are fostering children, as a grandparent, I find it extremely helpful (and convicting).  Even though I did not have access to these gems while raising my own children, I can definitely use the with the grands!!!

This is a universal podcast!

Love your parenting advice and book reviews!

Thank you for sharing

Fostering Voices Podcast

We often get this question from concerned parents - "Will fostering be harmful to my bio kids?" And it's a legit question. There are bad situations out there where some foster families have experienced pain and hardship with their bio kids, because of a situation that occurred while fostering. So yes, there is always a possibility of that. But there is a possibility that living a totally safe and sheltered life could still possibly cause pain and hardship for your children.  This week, we invited our precious pre-teen son, Topher, to join us on the podcast! He shares his experiences and input on foster care, which he has been involved with since he was 6 years old. We are incredibly proud of him, as well as all of our kids! You can listen to Episode 49, where our eldest - Lily, shared her views on being a foster sibling. We welcomed our new foster placements into our home this week, so we are officially a family of 9! For now! But we are so thankful for everyone who has supported us, and who continues to pray for us. Keep em coming, cause we sure need em. Our girls came to us from a group home - which we have never experienced this before. For those who are wanting foster children who are living in congregate care (which is a great idea!), just know there is a LOT of waiting, and a lot of paperwork that needs to be signed by different people.  Also, if your foster placements are coming from a group home, it's a great idea to try to get a visit in before they come to live with you, so that you guys can meet, and so that you can prepare more for the children before their arrival. We were grateful to learn what size clothes and shoes our kids wear, and even what kinds of toys and snacks and meals they enjoyed, just so we could have those things in advance. And another thing that came up was the fact that the girls did NOT have anything to move all of their belongings in. To avoid any potential of things being moved around in TRASH BAGS, we bought these big storage totes at Walmart for less than $10, and they came in Unicorn and Mermaid styles - which the girls love!  The Good Word of the Day: "Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." Philippians 4:5-6 This is actually Topher's life verse, and we think it is such a great one for everyone to remember! God loves us, he is near, we need not fear or be anxious about anything. If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae Watson on Facebook Chris Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

We often get this question from concerned parents - "Will fostering be harmful to my bio kids?" And it's a legit question. There are bad situations out there where some foster families have experienced pain and hardship with their bio kids, because of a situation that occurred while fostering. So yes, there is always a possibility of that. But there is a possibility that living a totally safe and sheltered life could still possibly cause pain and hardship for your children.  This week, we invited our precious pre-teen son, Topher, to join us on the podcast! He shares his experiences and input on foster care, which he has been involved with since he was 6 years old. We are incredibly proud of him, as well as all of our kids! You can listen to <a href="https://fosteringvoices.com/episode-49-interview-with-a-foster-sibling/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 49</a>, where our eldest - Lily, shared her views on being a foster sibling. We welcomed our new foster placements into our home this week, so we are officially a family of 9! For now! But we are so thankful for everyone who has supported us, and who continues to pray for us. Keep em coming, cause we sure need em. Our girls came to us from a group home - which we have never experienced this before. For those who are wanting foster children who are living in congregate care (which is a great idea!), just know there is a LOT of waiting, and a lot of paperwork that needs to be signed by different people.  Also, if your foster placements are coming from a group home, it's a great idea to try to get a visit in before they come to live with you, so that you guys can meet, and so that you can prepare more for the children before their arrival. We were grateful to learn what size clothes and shoes our kids wear, and even what kinds of toys and snacks and meals they enjoyed, just so we could have those things in advance. And another thing that came up was the fact that the girls did NOT have anything to move all of their belongings in. To avoid any potential of things being moved around in TRASH BAGS, we bought <a href="https://www.walmart.com/ip/Your-Zone-14-5-Gallon-All-Purpose-Storage-Tote-Mermaid/707095907" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">these big storage totes at Walmart</a> for less than $10, and they came in Unicorn and Mermaid styles - which the girls love!  The Good Word of the Day: "Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God." Philippians 4:5-6 This is actually Topher's life verse, and we think it is such a great one for everyone to remember! God loves us, he is near, we need not fear or be anxious about anything. If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a> AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 64: Will Fostering Damage My Bio Children?

This episode is near and dear to our hearts as we have Kevin and Bekah Tinter joining us on the podcast! The Tinters are GREAT supporters of our podcast, as they listen every week, and have sponsored two $100 Amazon gift card giveaways this season! But more than that - the Tinters are the amazing family that has adopted one of our sweet foster babes! You have to listen to hear how the entire process came about - with its MANY ups and downs - and that's not just from the state, or the broken system. The main 'downs' came within their marriage, and in the differing hopes and expectations that Bekah and Kevin had. But the big 'ups' were when they were able to work through all of those downs! We also mentioned: - Focus on the Family as a great podcast to listen to, for Christian families. This helped get the wheels turning in Kevin's mind, that maybe they could get involved in foster care. - Relentless by John Bevere, is one of Kevin's favorite books that has helped him walk out his faith boldly! - 3 ways to know if God is giving you an idea/plan: 1. does it line up with Scripture? 2. Does Satan want you to do this? 3. Would you come up with this on your own? - We talked about this video that our church did about our family, and our journey through foster care. The crazy thing about this video - it further encouraged Kevin and Bekah to want to be involved in foster care, AND we were waiting on the call to get Evie as a placement when this video was filmed. Small world! - The Tinters believe in 'Leading from the future'! Knowing what you want in the future, and taking the appropriate steps to get there. This has helped them in their business, but also in wanting to adopt Evie. - The continued battle between Capability vs Capacity - Major key to success in life, but especially foster care and adoption: learning to manage disappointments - Christian Family Care is the organization that the Tinters got licensed through - Dr. Roderick Logan is the Amazing, and wise, and kind counselor who helped them through many of the issues that arose through the adoption journey. Contact your licensing agency for a counselor who should be free for you to use if you are having issues! - The importance of relationships with bio family, during foster care, and through adoption and beyond. The (Good) Word of the Day: "Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain." - 1 Corinthians 15:58 Such a great word! And a great reminder that love is never wasted, and any work done for God's glory is never wasted either. But also, following God doesn't ensure that life will be easy, and that everything will go your way.  Thanks so much for listening to another episode, friends! If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae Watson on Facebook Chris Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram Kevin Tinter on Facebook Bekah Tinter on Facebook AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This episode is near and dear to our hearts as we have Kevin and Bekah Tinter joining us on the podcast! The Tinters are GREAT supporters of our podcast, as they listen every week, and have sponsored two $100 Amazon gift card giveaways this season! But more than that - the Tinters are the amazing family that has adopted one of our sweet foster babes! You have to listen to hear how the entire process came about - with its MANY ups and downs - and that's not just from the state, or the broken system. The main 'downs' came within their marriage, and in the differing hopes and expectations that Bekah and Kevin had. But the big 'ups' were when they were able to work through all of those downs! We also mentioned: - Focus on the Family as a great podcast to listen to, for Christian families. This helped get the wheels turning in Kevin's mind, that maybe they could get involved in foster care. - <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Relentless-Power-Need-Never-Give/dp/0307457753/ref=sr_1_1?crid=16J5037SWJEN7&amp;keywords=john+bevere+relentless&amp;qid=1556167406&amp;s=gateway&amp;sprefix=john+bevere+re%2Caps%2C190&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Relentless by John Bevere</a>, is one of Kevin's favorite books that has helped him walk out his faith boldly! - 3 ways to know if God is giving you an idea/plan: 1. does it line up with Scripture? 2. Does Satan want you to do this? 3. Would you come up with this on your own? - We talked about <a href="%3Ciframe%20src=" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">this video</a> that our church did about our family, and our journey through foster care. The crazy thing about this video - it further encouraged Kevin and Bekah to want to be involved in foster care, AND we were waiting on the call to get Evie as a placement when this video was filmed. Small world! - The Tinters believe in 'Leading from the future'! Knowing what you want in the future, and taking the appropriate steps to get there. This has helped them in their business, but also in wanting to adopt Evie. - The continued battle between Capability vs Capacity - Major key to success in life, but especially foster care and adoption: learning to manage disappointments - <a href="https://cfcare.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Christian Family Care</a> is the organization that the Tinters got licensed through - <a href="https://www.makingspacetoheal.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Dr. Roderick Logan</a> is the Amazing, and wise, and kind counselor who helped them through many of the issues that arose through the adoption journey. Contact your licensing agency for a counselor who should be free for you to use if you are having issues! - The importance of relationships with bio family, during foster care, and through adoption and beyond. The (Good) Word of the Day: "Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain." - 1 Corinthians 15:58 Such a great word! And a great reminder that love is never wasted, and any work done for God's glory is never wasted either. But also, following God doesn't ensure that life will be easy, and that everything will go your way.  Thanks so much for listening to another episode, friends! If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.facebook.com/kevin.tinter" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Kevin Tinter</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/bekah.tinter" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Bekah Tinter</a> on Facebook AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 55: How to Lead From the Future

This week's episode is full of goodness! We are so thankful to have our sweet friend, Grace Sharp, on the podcast with us. She is a new foster mom (3 months in!) but previously worked as a Group Home Manager.  For those who don't know what a Group Home is, it is a house (in a regular old neighborhood like yours and ours), where they usually have about 10 foster kids living in this home. Some people also call this Congregate Care.  We agree with Grace that Group Homes are better than nothing, but foster parents would be a far superior alternative. In a foster home (even one that has 10 kids in it) - the main difference is the stability and the consistency of 1 or 2 primary caregivers. As opposed to hired hands, who often quit because the toll this job can take on a person. In this episode, we learned that: PSMAPP classes, which are now 6 weeks long, instead of 11. This involves a 3 hours class once a week, with 4 hours of online classes through the week. This sounds so good! There is a great book called: 'The F-Word (Finance!)' , and this is where Grace got the idea of 'the cost of happy'. ie. finding a way to pay for Starbucks, or AirPods, if it makes you happy! We do not need to be afraid of the unknown! Especially teenagers! They need love, and support, and a text every now and again to check in on them! Whether you can foster one or many, or even volunteer as a mentor - this is life-altering stuff! The (Good) Word of the Day: "that there were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned land or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone who had need." Acts 4:34-35 Anyone who had need was taken care of in Biblical times. Can we return to that time? Can we recreate it? Can we care for those who need to be taken care of?

This week's episode is full of goodness! We are so thankful to have our sweet friend, Grace Sharp, on the podcast with us. She is a new foster mom (3 months in!) but previously worked as a Group Home Manager.  For those who don't know what a Group Home is, it is a house (in a regular old neighborhood like yours and ours), where they usually have about 10 foster kids living in this home. Some people also call this Congregate Care.  We agree with Grace that Group Homes are better than nothing, but foster parents would be a far superior alternative. In a foster home (even one that has 10 kids in it) - the main difference is the stability and the consistency of 1 or 2 primary caregivers. As opposed to hired hands, who often quit because the toll this job can take on a person. In this episode, we learned that: PSMAPP classes, which are now 6 weeks long, instead of 11. This involves a 3 hours class once a week, with 4 hours of online classes through the week. This sounds so good! There is a great book called: 'The F-Word (Finance!)' , and this is where Grace got the idea of 'the cost of happy'. ie. finding a way to pay for Starbucks, or AirPods, if it makes you happy! We do not need to be afraid of the unknown! Especially teenagers! They need love, and support, and a text every now and again to check in on them! Whether you can foster one or many, or even volunteer as a mentor - this is life-altering stuff! The (Good) Word of the Day: "that there were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned land or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone who had need." Acts 4:34-35 Anyone who had need was taken care of in Biblical times. Can we return to that time? Can we recreate it? Can we care for those who need to be taken care of?

Grace for Teens and the Unknown

Last week we had Gaelin Elmore share the first part of his life's story with us. If you haven't heard it yet - go listen here! In this episode, Gaelin tells us about high school life, his dad being imprisoned, and how he made it to the University of Minnesota (go Golden Gophers!), and East Carolina (go Pirates!) on football scholarships. And then he made it to the NFL, being contracted with the Cincinnati Bengals (even though he thought he was only going to make it to the CFL- the Canadian Football League - which Canadians don't even watch!) , and why he walked away from it all.  The Good Word of the Day "Or do you have no regard for the wealth of His kindness and tolerance and patience [in withholding His wrath]? Are you [actually] unaware or ignorant [of the fact] that God’s kindness leads you to repentance [that is, to change your inner self, your old way of thinking—seek His purpose for your life]?" - Romans 2:4 We are so thankful for Gaelin (and his beautiful wife Micaela!) for spending time with us, and sharing their story with us. Gaelin, way to pour hope into teens who need it, and for changing your inner self, to reflect God's love to everyone you encounter! If you want to connect with him, you can do so via his website, or on social media. And as always, you can contact us on social media and at hello@fosteringvoices.com . Thanks and have a great week, friends! Also, feel free to leave us a review on iTunes if you haven't done so!

Last week we had Gaelin Elmore share the first part of his life's story with us. If you haven't heard it yet - go listen <a href="https://fosteringvoices.libsyn.com/episode-86-interview-with-former-foster-youth-gaelin-elmore" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>! In this episode, Gaelin tells us about high school life, his dad being imprisoned, and how he made it to the University of Minnesota (go Golden Gophers!), and East Carolina (go Pirates!) on football scholarships. And then he made it to the NFL, being contracted with the Cincinnati Bengals (even though he thought he was only going to make it to the CFL- the Canadian Football League - which Canadians don't even watch!) , and why he walked away from it all.  The Good Word of the Day "Or do you have no regard for the wealth of His kindness and tolerance and patience [in withholding His wrath]? Are you [actually] unaware or ignorant [of the fact] that God’s kindness leads you to repentance [that is, to change your inner self, your old way of thinking—seek His purpose for your life]?" - Romans 2:4 We are so thankful for Gaelin (and his beautiful wife Micaela!) for spending time with us, and sharing their story with us. Gaelin, way to pour hope into teens who need it, and for changing your inner self, to reflect God's love to everyone you encounter! If you want to connect with him, you can do so via his <a href="https://www.gaelinspeaks.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">website</a>, or on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/giv.elmore/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">social media</a>. And as always, you can contact us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">social media</a> and at <a href="mailto:hello@fosteringvoices.com">hello@fosteringvoices.com</a> . Thanks and have a great week, friends! Also, feel free to leave us a review on iTunes if you haven't done so!

Episode 87: Part 2 of Interview with Former Foster Youth

This week's episode features our girl, Cate, who has been living with us for over a year! You can hear Cate's story on Episode 23, where she shares with the rough start that she had in life. Basic synopsis: Cate's parents dropped her and her 3 siblings off at her uncle's house, and never came back.  But Cate is a fighter, a hard worker, a grace-receiver and grace-giver, and she is not a victim of her circumstances, and she also happens to love mopping and sweeping, so she is basically the best person alive. Tune in to hear more about this gem of a human. The Good Word of the Day 12 Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. 13 Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other. 14 And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. 15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. 16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. -1 Thessalonians 5:12-17 SUCH A GREAT WORD! Perfect for our household, but also for all of us to remember as we try to live peaceably among each other! We also heard an amazing sermon by Robert Watson and Sam Collie, and they spoke on Racism. It is absolutely worth a listen! If you would like to connect: Jihae on Facebook Chris on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com  AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This week's episode features our girl, Cate, who has been living with us for over a year! You can hear Cate's story on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-23-the-girl-with-the-clean-socks/id1342406624?i=1000417627284" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episode 23</a>, where she shares with the rough start that she had in life. Basic synopsis: Cate's parents dropped her and her 3 siblings off at her uncle's house, and never came back.  But Cate is a fighter, a hard worker, a grace-receiver and grace-giver, and she is not a victim of her circumstances, and she also happens to love mopping and sweeping, so she is basically the best person alive. Tune in to hear more about this gem of a human. The Good Word of the Day 12 Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. 13 Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other. 14 And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. 15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. 16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. -1 Thessalonians 5:12-17 SUCH A GREAT WORD! Perfect for our household, but also for all of us to remember as we try to live peaceably among each other! We also heard an amazing sermon by Robert Watson and Sam Collie, and they spoke on Racism. It is absolutely worth a listen! If you would like to connect: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/geehaywatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a>  AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 73: 1 Year Anniversary of Our Full House

Jeremy Sharp is our friend, one of our financial advisors at Stewardship, and fellow foster parent. He started his life as a foster baby, born to a teenage mom in Maine, adopted by a Christian couple, and now living his best life in sunny Arizona. He shares how he got from his humble beginnings, to where he is now, in this week's episode. Some noteworthy tidbits from this episode: Born in a tiny town in Maine to a teenage mother, Jeremy grew up in New England (only reason he's a Patriot's fan. Right, Jeremy?... ) . He recently submitted his DNA kit to see what his official background is. He is hoping to be part Micmac and part Jewish. Which is where we came up with Mac Jew. You have to listen to the episode to hear this part of the conversation. Jeremy and his wife, Grace (episode 45), started their foster care journey 3 times! The first two times were just not the right timing, and they used those times to grow, work on their marriage and family, and patiently wait until it was the right time to start fostering.   The Good Word of the Day: "For the revelation (vision) awaits an appointed time;     it speaks of the end     and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it;     it will certainly come     and will not delay." -Habakkuk 2:3 What a perfect verse for Jeremy's life! Especially in light of wanting to be involved in foster care, but having to wait for the right timing for that. But this is applicable for us all, that it is important to have vision AND patience. If you want to connect on Social Media: You can find me at: Jihae Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Jeremy Sharp is our friend, one of our financial advisors at <a href="https://moneywellrooted.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Stewardship</a>, and fellow foster parent. He started his life as a foster baby, born to a teenage mom in Maine, adopted by a Christian couple, and now living his best life in sunny Arizona. He shares how he got from his humble beginnings, to where he is now, in this week's episode. Some noteworthy tidbits from this episode: Born in a tiny town in Maine to a teenage mother, Jeremy grew up in New England (only reason he's a Patriot's fan. Right, Jeremy?... ) . He recently submitted his <a href="https://www.ancestry.com/dna/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">DNA kit</a> to see what his official background is. He is hoping to be part <a href="https://www.accessgenealogy.com/native/micmac-tribe.htm" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Micmac</a> and part Jewish. Which is where we came up with Mac Jew. You have to listen to the episode to hear this part of the conversation. Jeremy and his wife, Grace (<a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-45-grace-for-teens-and-the-unknown/id1342406624?i=1000429987087&amp;mt=2" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">episode 45</a>), started their foster care journey 3 times! The first two times were just not the right timing, and they used those times to grow, work on their marriage and family, and patiently wait until it was the right time to start fostering. The Good Word of the Day: "For the revelation (vision) awaits an appointed time;     it speaks of the end     and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it;     it will certainly come     and will not delay." -Habakkuk 2:3 What a perfect verse for Jeremy's life! Especially in light of wanting to be involved in foster care, but having to wait for the right timing for that. But this is applicable for us all, that it is important to have vision AND patience. If you want to connect on Social Media: You can find me at: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Interview with a Sharp Adult Adoptee and Foster Dad

Do you think your kids may be abusing drugs? Do you know what signs to look for? This week's episode will help you to learn basic signs and symptoms of drug abuse. We have a great interview with the hottest law enforcement officer around. My hubs.   Everyone's lives have been touched by drugs in some way, whether you have been a victim of a property crime, or maybe you have a relative who have become addicted to drugs. This is no different for kids in foster care, where it has been cited that  32% of kids are in foster care due to their parents' drug abuse issues.   Some basic signs that your child may be abusing drugs:    The medicine cabinet is suddenly emptier. The abuse of prescription drugs is very common. Make sure you are  safely disposing of your unused prescription pills. Your child's mood and circle of friends changes suddenly, or strangely. Obviously children have mood swings, especially as they grow into adolescence. But truly knowing your kids, and knowing their friends, will greatly help in identifying whether they are possibly abusing substances There is a chance that your child's health, and appearance starts to decline for no apparent reason. Drug use will affect your immune system and cause you to get sick more often. Long term use of some drugs can also cause your teeth to rot, and for you to have open lesions on your skin. You find drug paraphernalia in your child's room, including little ziploc baggies, burnt foil, burnt apples (this was new info to me as well!), needles, etc. Or, if your kid is terrible at hiding things, you find actual drugs in their room, in their bag, or on their person.    For additional resources:   You can find some  documentaries on Netflix, you can just  GOOGLE it, or  read books on drugs and how to know what to look for. Arm yourselves! Educate yourselves! And above all - talk talk talk to your kids, know your kids well, build up a trusting and open relationship with your children.   If you do find out that your child is abusing drugs - there is always help and hope! Find a rehabilitation center, a hospital, a church, or center that can help you walk through this journey.   Talk to your kids. Talk about how damaging drugs are on their body and lives. If they are old enough, take them to a Soup Kitchen (click here to find one near you) and serve food to the homeless. Much of the homeless population is affected by drug abuse.   Set up 'safe words/phrases' that they can use to call you in an emergency. They don't want to look 'uncool' in front of their friends, but they also may not be comfortable staying in a situation where people are abusing drugs or alcohol. Make sure they know it is always safe to call you at any time, and that you will happily pick them up at any time to get them out of a dangerous situation.   The (Good) Word of the Day   Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8   Drugs are no joke! We have definitely seen its impact on friends and family, and in the lives of our foster kids'. None of us are immune from falling into addiction. Don't be ignorant to the fact that drugs are readily available to your kids! Even if you are doing your best to provide a safe and loving Christian home. I shared that my youth pastor, who was a pastor's kid, was a drug dealer at the tender age of 12!   If you have any other questions regarding potential drug abuse, you can email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com. (Yes, this is such a lame and unofficial email address, but we have had this for 13 years!)   If you want to connect on Social Media:   You can find us at:   Jihae Watson on Facebook   Chris Watson on Facebook   Fostering Voices on Instagram   Jihae Watson on Instagram   AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast. We want to share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Do you think your kids may be abusing drugs? Do you know what signs to look for? This week's episode will help you to learn basic signs and symptoms of drug abuse. We have a great interview with the hottest law enforcement officer around. My hubs. Everyone's lives have been touched by drugs in some way, whether you have been a victim of a property crime, or maybe you have a relative who have become addicted to drugs. This is no different for kids in foster care, where it has been cited that <a href="https://www.rehabcenter.net/drug-alcohol-addiction-foster-care-impact/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> 32% of kids are in foster care due to their parents' drug abuse issues</a>. Some basic signs that your child may be abusing drugs: <ul> <li>The medicine cabinet is suddenly emptier. The abuse of prescription drugs is very common. Make sure you are <a href="https://www.fda.gov/drugs/resourcesforyou/consumers/buyingusingmedicinesafely/ensuringsafeuseofmedicine/safedisposalofmedicines/ucm186187.htm" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> safely disposing</a> of your unused prescription pills.</li> <li>Your child's mood and circle of friends changes suddenly, or strangely. Obviously children have mood swings, especially as they grow into adolescence. But truly knowing your kids, and knowing their friends, will greatly help in identifying whether they are possibly abusing substances</li> <li>There is a chance that your child's health, and appearance starts to decline for no apparent reason. Drug use will affect your immune system and cause you to get sick more often. Long term use of some drugs can also cause your teeth to rot, and for you to have open lesions on your skin.</li> <li>You find <a href="https://www.justice.gov/archive/ndic/pubs6/6445/6445p.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">drug paraphernalia</a> in your child's room, including little ziploc baggies, burnt foil, burnt apples (this was new info to me as well!), needles, etc.</li> <li>Or, if your kid is terrible at hiding things, you find actual drugs in their room, in their bag, or on their person.</li> </ul> For additional resources: You can find some <a href="https://www.google.com/search?ei=krmoXLS6LfTY9AOEt4nwBw&amp;q=documentaries+on+drugs+on+netflix&amp;oq=documentaries+on+drugs&amp;gs_l=psy-ab.1.1.0l2j0i22i30l8.15473.23086..25313...0.0..1.141.4294.12j27......0....1..gws-wiz.....0..0i67j0i131j0i10i67.bAqW5O5RsT4" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> documentaries on Netflix</a>, you can just <a href="https://www.google.com/search?ei=krmoXLS6LfTY9AOEt4nwBw&amp;q=how+to+spot+drug+abuse&amp;oq=how+to+spot+drug+abuse&amp;gs_l=psy-ab.3...0.0..3818...0.0..0.0.0.......0......gws-wiz.TV2xmjyXWS8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> GOOGLE it</a>, or <a href="https://www.amazon.com/High-Everything-About-Alcohol-Addiction/dp/0544644344/ref=zg_bs_3246_2?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=1G4XKCJM6CQ068J2869J" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> read books</a> on drugs and how to know what to look for. Arm yourselves! Educate yourselves! And above all - talk talk talk to your kids, know your kids well, build up a trusting and open relationship with your children. If you do find out that your child is abusing drugs - there is always help and hope! Find a rehabilitation center, a hospital, a church, or center that can help you walk through this journey. Talk to your kids. Talk about how damaging drugs are on their body and lives. If they are old enough, take them to a Soup Kitchen (<a href="https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/foodbanks/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">click here</a> to find one near you) and serve food to the homeless. Much of the homeless population is affected by drug abuse. Set up 'safe words/phrases' that they can use to call you in an emergency. They don't want to look 'uncool' in front of their friends, but they also may not be comfortable staying in a situation where people are abusing drugs or alcohol. Make sure they know it is always safe to call you at any time, and that you will happily pick them up at any time to get them out of a dangerous situation. The (Good) Word of the Day Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8 Drugs are no joke! We have definitely seen its impact on friends and family, and in the lives of our foster kids'. None of us are immune from falling into addiction. Don't be ignorant to the fact that drugs are readily available to your kids! Even if you are doing your best to provide a safe and loving Christian home. I shared that my youth pastor, who was a pastor's kid, was a drug dealer at the tender age of 12! If you have any other questions regarding potential drug abuse, you can email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com. (Yes, this is such a lame and unofficial email address, but we have had this for 13 years!) If you want to connect on Social Media: You can find us at: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast. We want to share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 52: Are Your Kids Abusing Drugs?

Arizona Association for Foster and Adoptive Parents (aka AZAFFAP) is a fantastic organization here in Arizona, that stands to create a community of support for foster and adoptive parents. They are for families, by families!  This interview is with the wonderful Kristi Sharp, the office administrator at AZAFFAP, and she is also a former foster parent. If you join AZAFFAP, Kristi will be your point of contact, and I am so thankful that she is so great at her job!  There are 2 levels of memberships - a basic one, which is FREE! And this membership comes with emails and resources to help you on your foster care journey. The next membership is $35 for a single adult, or $50 for a couple. This membership comes with extra perks that far exceed $50! Some of those perks include: - Annual Shoes Giveaway: Foster children, and any other children living in the home, are able to go to DSW or WSS to pick out a new pair of shoes! - Recycle Your Bicycle: Foster children, and any other children living in the home, are able to come on an appointed day, to get a new or refurbished bicycle! - Top Golf with Dad: A fun 3 hours to go to Top Golf with dad, and hang out with other foster families. - Nutcracker Ballet: Free tickets to the Nutcracker ballet! - Family Picnic with ASU: an event put on by ASU for foster families to come together and have a giant picnic. - Staycation: This is a paid event, so it is also available for the basic members. But foster families are able to enjoy a staycation at a great resort (last year was at The Arizona Grand) in Phoenix, or in Tuscon, at a very discounted rate!  - Christmas in July: which is exactly what it sounds like! Thanks so much to Kristi, for all that she does with AZAFFAP, and also to the fine folks behind this incredible organization! Fostering and adopting are not easy, but it is so wonderful to be able to be supported by amazing organizations like this one.

<a href="http://www.azafap.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Arizona Association for Foster and Adoptive Parents</a> (aka AZAFFAP) is a fantastic organization here in Arizona, that stands to create a community of support for foster and adoptive parents. They are for families, by families!  This interview is with the wonderful Kristi Sharp, the office administrator at AZAFFAP, and she is also a former foster parent. If you join AZAFFAP, Kristi will be your point of contact, and I am so thankful that she is so great at her job!  There are 2 levels of memberships - a basic one, which is FREE! And this membership comes with emails and resources to help you on your foster care journey. The next membership is $35 for a single adult, or $50 for a couple. This membership comes with extra perks that far exceed $50! Some of those perks include: - Annual Shoes Giveaway: Foster children, and any other children living in the home, are able to go to DSW or WSS to pick out a new pair of shoes! - Recycle Your Bicycle: Foster children, and any other children living in the home, are able to come on an appointed day, to get a new or refurbished bicycle! - Top Golf with Dad: A fun 3 hours to go to Top Golf with dad, and hang out with other foster families. - Nutcracker Ballet: Free tickets to the Nutcracker ballet! - Family Picnic with ASU: an event put on by ASU for foster families to come together and have a giant picnic. - Staycation: This is a paid event, so it is also available for the basic members. But foster families are able to enjoy a staycation at a great resort (last year was at The Arizona Grand) in Phoenix, or in Tuscon, at a very discounted rate!  - Christmas in July: which is exactly what it sounds like! Thanks so much to Kristi, for all that she does with AZAFFAP, and also to the fine folks behind this incredible organization! Fostering and adopting are not easy, but it is so wonderful to be able to be supported by amazing organizations like this one.

Episode 85: Interview with Arizona Association for Foster and Adoptive Parents

This week's episode is brought to you straight from the Showit United conference, on our very short lunch break! I met Devin and Kathryn Robinson last year at this conference for photographers, and have had the pleasure of watching their journey from afar via Instagram. The Robinsons have been married for 7 years, full-time professional photographers for 4 years, and run an amazingly beautiful business called Anchor &amp; Veil. They have been fostering for 7 months now, and have an 8 year old, 2 year old, and a 1 year old. They share very candidly, the highs and lows of their foster care journey. Big thanks to:  - ProLink Fence in North Carolina for providing the Robinsons with an INCREDIBLE new fence for their house.  - Children's Home Society is the agency that the Robinsons are licensed through, and they are so thankful for them. - Big shout out to Hickory Grove Baptist Church for their kindness and care for the Robinsons! Everyone can play a role in foster care, and we are thankful for the role all of these people have played in the Robinson's journey! Good Word of the Day "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." -James 1:2-4 What a beautiful mindset that we need all of our trials to prepare us and make us complete! If you want to connect: Kathryn on Instagram Anchor and Veil on Instagram Jihae on Facebook Chris on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com  AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This week's episode is brought to you straight from the <a href="https://united.showit.co/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Showit United</a> conference, on our very short lunch break! I met Devin and Kathryn Robinson last year at this conference for photographers, and have had the pleasure of watching their journey from afar via Instagram. The Robinsons have been married for 7 years, full-time professional photographers for 4 years, and run an amazingly beautiful business called <a href="https://anchorandveilphotography.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Anchor &amp; Veil</a>. They have been fostering for 7 months now, and have an 8 year old, 2 year old, and a 1 year old. They share very candidly, the highs and lows of their foster care journey. Big thanks to:  - ProLink Fence in North Carolina for providing the Robinsons with an INCREDIBLE new fence for their house.  - <a href="https://www.chsnc.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Children's Home Society</a> is the agency that the Robinsons are licensed through, and they are so thankful for them. - Big shout out to <a href="https://www.hickorygrove.org/?fbclid=IwAR0BXXj1mynufnR2GN8kt08FX4Ty_eMofbe55_qYCPLx5ati7SfC6ZX7lC8" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Hickory Grove Baptist Church</a> for their kindness and care for the Robinsons! Everyone can play a role in foster care, and we are thankful for the role all of these people have played in the Robinson's journey! Good Word of the Day "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[<a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+1%3A2-4&amp;version=NIV#fen-NIV-30269a" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">a</a>] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." -James 1:2-4 What a beautiful mindset that we need all of our trials to prepare us and make us complete! If you want to connect: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/kp_robinson/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Kathryn</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/anchorandveil/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Anchor and Veil</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/geehaywatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a>  AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 75: Fostering Love in North Carolina

We start off this episode with an apology and clarification! In episode 70, we talked about court, FCRBs, and TDMs. We completely forgot about CFTs! We have only been to one CFT and one TDM, and they were both for our 4th placement, and we just lumped them together. SO our apologies for our mistake, and thanks to Grace Sharp and Kristen Friend for lovingly pointing that out.  A CFT is a Child Family Team meeting. It usually happens near the beginning of a case, and it's purpose is to have all the team members discuss the family's strengths, needs, and problems. There is supposed to be discussion about how everyone will play a role in the lives of the children. We didn't get a lot out of our meeting, except that we were able to see some of the other team members (case workers, social workers), and also hear from other members on the phone (parents).  A TDM is a Team Decision-Making Meeting, and they are held for all decisions involving a child's removal, change of placement and permanency plan. The one we went to, was very intense and stressful. Maybe ones you go to will not be so.  As we mentioned earlier - we have only been to ONE of EACH of these meetings. So as much as there should be a CFT and a TDM for each of the cases you have - that's not what always happens. So, as always - just go with the flow! And it's going to be different every time! We also discussed how Jihae got an endometrial ablation the day we recorded this podcast. If you want to read more about those (ladies...) then feel free to check this article out. The meat of this episode talked about how Chris and Lily went on a week long mission trip to Nicaragua. Lily is 12, and Chris was scared. But it was a huge step of faith for everyone, and the thing CHris took away from the trip is to TAKE THE NEXT STEP. So What does that look like for you? For those looking to get involved in foster care, you can always offer to babysit for a foster family (for free!). There is a HUGE need for people who would be willing and able to help out with medically fragile children. These parents really need a break sometimes! And another amazing way you can get involved is to donate your old car to a bio family who is getting reunified with their children! Our friends, the Piepers and the Tinters (episodes 5 and 55 respectively), both did that this year, and what a massive blessing! The Good Word of the Day 6 Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their ancestors to give them. Joshua 1:6. So be bold! If there is something you feel led to do - just go ahead and try it out! Especially if it's for the benefit of others, not yourself. We hope you enjoyed this episode! Jihae on Facebook Chris on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com  AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

We start off this episode with an apology and clarification! In <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-70-court-and-foster-care/id1342406624?i=1000452459904" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">episode 70</a>, we talked about court, FCRBs, and TDMs. We completely forgot about CFTs! We have only been to one CFT and one TDM, and they were both for our 4th placement, and we just lumped them together. SO our apologies for our mistake, and thanks to Grace Sharp and Kristen Friend for lovingly pointing that out.  A CFT is a Child Family Team meeting. It usually happens near the beginning of a case, and it's purpose is to have all the team members discuss the family's strengths, needs, and problems. There is supposed to be discussion about how everyone will play a role in the lives of the children. We didn't get a lot out of our meeting, except that we were able to see some of the other team members (case workers, social workers), and also hear from other members on the phone (parents).  A TDM is a Team Decision-Making Meeting, and they are held for all decisions involving a child's removal, change of placement and permanency plan. The one we went to, was very intense and stressful. Maybe ones you go to will not be so.  As we mentioned earlier - we have only been to ONE of EACH of these meetings. So as much as there should be a CFT and a TDM for each of the cases you have - that's not what always happens. So, as always - just go with the flow! And it's going to be different every time! We also discussed how Jihae got an endometrial ablation the day we recorded this podcast. If you want to read more about those (ladies...) then feel free to check <a href="https://www.webmd.com/women/endometriosis/what-is-endometrial-ablation#1" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">this article</a> out. The meat of this episode talked about how Chris and Lily went on a week long mission trip to Nicaragua. Lily is 12, and Chris was scared. But it was a huge step of faith for everyone, and the thing CHris took away from the trip is to TAKE THE NEXT STEP. So What does that look like for you? For those looking to get involved in foster care, you can always offer to babysit for a foster family (for free!). There is a HUGE need for people who would be willing and able to help out with medically fragile children. These parents really need a break sometimes! And another amazing way you can get involved is to donate your old car to a bio family who is getting reunified with their children! Our friends, the Piepers and the Tinters (<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-5-the-d-word/id1342406624?i=1000404679070" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">episodes 5</a> and <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-55-how-to-lead-from-the-future/id1342406624?i=1000436642257" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">55</a> respectively), both did that this year, and what a massive blessing! The Good Word of the Day 6 Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their ancestors to give them. Joshua 1:6. So be bold! If there is something you feel led to do - just go ahead and try it out! Especially if it's for the benefit of others, not yourself. We hope you enjoyed this episode! <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/geehaywatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a>  AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 72: Just Take The Next Step

This episode features our precious eldest child, Lily, who is almost 12, and has been a foster sibling since she was 7!   Some of her favorite things to do are: playing Gaga Ball (What is Gaga Ball??), hanging out with her cousins, and running with her dad. Basically, she is an angel sent from heaven, especially since Jihae hates to run.   In this episode, we also talked about:   Electives. We completely forgot that word, and it never came to us during the episode. But it's 'electives' (Lily called them blocks), and the ones that kids have to choose from are so much cooler than when we were in Jr. High School.   Going to the library!   Especially during Spring Break! If you live in our area (Chandler, AZ), you should check out the Spring Break reading challenge they are doing where you can earn free In N Out!!!! Google what your public library is doing!   Having a Gardener's, vs a Consumer's, mentality for your relationships.   (Taken from  ONE, a Marriage Devotional by Jimmy Evans). What this means is that as consumers, we buy things, and if there is something wrong with it, we feel no qualms about returning it, with no thoughts of having any responsibility in its defects. But as gardeners, we see things that are not thriving and think 'what did I do wrong here, and how can I fix this?' This is how we need to look at our marriages, as well as all of our relationships (with foster kids, friends, etc)   Draining your pool every few years. Chris is learning about this. Jihae takes for granted that she doesn't have to think about this. But, Jihae is concerned that people will think they are BOUGIE for having a pool.   Which lead to a conversation about what is BOUGIE.   Apparently Chris has NEVER heard anyone use this word before.   "Urban Dictionary’s top entry for bougie defines it thus:   “Aspiring to be a higher class than one is. Derived from bourgeois - meaning middle/upper class, traditionally despised by communists.”   So in modern-day English, someone who is bougie is creating an air of wealth or upper class status — whether it's true or not." (taken from an article on  USA Today)   The (Good) Word of the Day:   Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8   This is Lily's 'life verse' which we picked out for her when she was a baby. She has really grown in this, which we are so thankful for! Even though being a foster sister can be very difficult, especially when you have to say good bye to the cutest babies in the world, she would not trade that experience for the non-traumatic experience of not knowing those babies.   Thanks for tuning into another episode of our podcast! We appreciate you listeners so very very much!   If you want to connect on Social Media:   You can find us at:   Jihae Watson on Facebook   Fostering Voices on Instagram   Jihae Watson on Instagram   AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This episode features our precious eldest child, Lily, who is almost 12, and has been a foster sibling since she was 7! Some of her favorite things to do are: playing Gaga Ball (What is <a href="https://www.gagacenter.com/nyc/about/what-is-gaga/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Gaga Ball</a>??), hanging out with her cousins, and running with her dad. Basically, she is an angel sent from heaven, especially since Jihae hates to run. In this episode, we also talked about: Electives. We completely forgot that word, and it never came to us during the episode. But it's 'electives' (Lily called them blocks), and the ones that kids have to choose from are so much cooler than when we were in Jr. High School. Going to the library! Especially during Spring Break! If you live in our area (Chandler, AZ), you should check out the <a href="https://www.chandlerlibrary.org/spring-reading-program.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Spring Break reading challenge</a> they are doing where you can earn free In N Out!!!! Google what your public library is doing! Having a Gardener's, vs a Consumer's, mentality for your relationships. (Taken from <a href="https://www.amazon.com/One-Devotional-Marriage-Building-Devotions-Thriving/dp/1931585237" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> ONE, a Marriage Devotional by Jimmy Evans</a>). What this means is that as consumers, we buy things, and if there is something wrong with it, we feel no qualms about returning it, with no thoughts of having any responsibility in its defects. But as gardeners, we see things that are not thriving and think 'what did I do wrong here, and how can I fix this?' This is how we need to look at our marriages, as well as all of our relationships (with foster kids, friends, etc) Draining your pool every few years. Chris is learning about this. Jihae takes for granted that she doesn't have to think about this. But, Jihae is concerned that people will think they are BOUGIE for having a pool. Which lead to a conversation about what is BOUGIE. Apparently Chris has NEVER heard anyone use this word before. "Urban Dictionary’s top entry for bougie defines it thus: “Aspiring to be a higher class than one is. Derived from bourgeois - meaning middle/upper class, traditionally despised by communists.” So in modern-day English, someone who is bougie is creating an air of wealth or upper class status — whether it's true or not." (taken from an article on <a href="https://www.usatoday.com/story/college/2017/06/30/what-youre-really-saying-when-you-call-something-bougie/37433439/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> USA Today</a>) The (Good) Word of the Day: Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8 This is Lily's 'life verse' which we picked out for her when she was a baby. She has really grown in this, which we are so thankful for! Even though being a foster sister can be very difficult, especially when you have to say good bye to the cutest babies in the world, she would not trade that experience for the non-traumatic experience of not knowing those babies. Thanks for tuning into another episode of our podcast! We appreciate you listeners so very very much! If you want to connect on Social Media: You can find us at: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 49: Interview with a Foster Sibling

Court in foster care can seem like a scary, gigantic ordeal. But it isn't, especially when you realize how little say that foster parents have in their foster child's court case.   This episode goes through our 5 years of court cases - which pretty much means nothing to you - since court is so different for everyone! But what you basically need to know is this- if you can go, THEN GO! Even if you don't have a chance to speak, you usually learn more about the case, and about the children you are caring for. This is also a great opportunity to meet the bio family, and possibly forge a relationship with them. FCRBs, aka Foster Care Review Boards, are an opportunity for foster parents to make a statement in front of a board of volunteers who work hard to get official statements in front of a judge. There is some debate whether these are given much weight or not, but that may depend on the judge. When given an opportunity to advocate for your foster child, we say to take it. We thought FCRBs were just for foster parents, but it is also for bio parents. That's actually the first time we met Wesley's parents - at an FCRB. And it was interesting. Which leads to another point we made, which is to be aware of how you are dressing for court, and other official meetings like an FCRB. You don't have to be dressed to the nines. Even nice jeans will do. But be aware that you may see bio families, and other people who may be judging you on first appearances. TDMs are Team Decision Meetings, and are supposed to include all parties on a child's team - case managers, bio and foster parents, lawyers, etc. These are usually supposed to be pretty low key. But we did go to one, after parents' rights were severed, and it was INTENSE. So, again - anything can happen! If you want to hear more about court, and especially about GALs (Guardian Ad Litems), you can check out episode 53 where we interview Kim Turner, an awesome lawyer for foster kids. The Good Word of the Day: "The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed,     a stronghold in times of trouble. Those who know your name trust in you,     for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you." -Psalm 9:9-10 God is a refuge for the oppressed - and sometimes that feels like us - the foster families. But no one is more oppressed than our foster kids. Sometimes all this court stuff, and meetings, and appointments feels like a major hassle, and a little inconvenient, but when we can remember the inconvenience and hassle of our foster babes' lives - I think we as the responsible adults can continue to endure, and advocate, and provide for these kids! If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae on Facebook Chris on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Court in foster care can seem like a scary, gigantic ordeal. But it isn't, especially when you realize how little say that foster parents have in their foster child's court case.  This episode goes through our 5 years of court cases - which pretty much means nothing to you - since court is so different for everyone! But what you basically need to know is this- if you can go, THEN GO! Even if you don't have a chance to speak, you usually learn more about the case, and about the children you are caring for. This is also a great opportunity to meet the bio family, and possibly forge a relationship with them. FCRBs, aka Foster Care Review Boards, are an opportunity for foster parents to make a statement in front of a board of volunteers who work hard to get official statements in front of a judge. There is some debate whether these are given much weight or not, but that may depend on the judge. When given an opportunity to advocate for your foster child, we say to take it. We thought FCRBs were just for foster parents, but it is also for bio parents. That's actually the first time we met Wesley's parents - at an FCRB. And it was interesting. Which leads to another point we made, which is to be aware of how you are dressing for court, and other official meetings like an FCRB. You don't have to be dressed to the nines. Even nice jeans will do. But be aware that you may see bio families, and other people who may be judging you on first appearances. TDMs are Team Decision Meetings, and are supposed to include all parties on a child's team - case managers, bio and foster parents, lawyers, etc. These are usually supposed to be pretty low key. But we did go to one, after parents' rights were severed, and it was INTENSE. So, again - anything can happen! If you want to hear more about court, and especially about GALs (Guardian Ad Litems), you can check out <a href="https://fosteringvoices.libsyn.com/episode-53-interview-with-the-best-gal" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">episode 53</a> where we interview Kim Turner, an awesome lawyer for foster kids. The Good Word of the Day: "The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed,     a stronghold in times of trouble. Those who know your name trust in you,     for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you." -Psalm 9:9-10 God is a refuge for the oppressed - and sometimes that feels like us - the foster families. But no one is more oppressed than our foster kids. Sometimes all this court stuff, and meetings, and appointments feels like a major hassle, and a little inconvenient, but when we can remember the inconvenience and hassle of our foster babes' lives - I think we as the responsible adults can continue to endure, and advocate, and provide for these kids! If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a> AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 70: Court and Foster Care

Dr. Carol Dweck wrote a great book called  Mindset: The Psychology of Success, and we talk about it in this episode. Everyone talks about having a growth mindset, but how do you do that? What does that look like? And why is this so vital, especially for foster kids?   Developing a growth mindset, which is not easy, or natural. But with effort and the right attitude, it can happen.   In this episode, other random things we discussed:   Where does the name 'Dweck' originate from? Carol Dweck is from New York (is NOT blond. My mistake) and is of Jewish descent.   It is easy for kids (and adults) to have a fixed mindset, and it takes intentional language and attitudes to develop a growth mindset for yourself, and your children. Instead of complimenting children on the fact that they are smart, it is better to highlight the effort and attitude that went into their success.   'Hillbilly Elegy' by J.D. Vance   We mentioned this book (very well worth the read!) and it's such a great example of having a growth mindset despite growing up among a culture that was stuck in a fixed mindset. His growth mindset was pivotal to his success, as were his grandparents, who really helped to encourage him to achieve more than what he saw around him.   “If you believe that hard work pays off, then you work hard; if you think it’s hard to get ahead even when you try, then why try at all? Similarly, when people do fail, this mind-set allows them to look outward... His status in life is directly attributable to the choices he’s made, and his life will improve only through better decisions. But for him to make better choices, he needs to live in an environment that forces him to ask tough questions about himself. J.D. Vance   Vanessa Hicks is an amazing photographer based in Hawaii. She openly shares how hard her past was, to encourage those who may find themselves in similar circumstances. Many of those hard things were not of her choosing. But instead of having a fixed mindset, and staying stuck, she broke free and has created a life that she loves, for her and her kids. She recently shared this post on FB:     I can't do that...   This is a common phrase uttered for those stuck in a fixed mindset. (And disclaimer, we may have a growth mindset in some areas of our lives, while having a fixed mindset in others.) Something we struggled with was having a 'holier than thou mindset' as new foster parents. And our 'we can't do that' attitude translated into whether we could help other people, especially in terms of serving at church. But we broke free of that mindset, and we are so happy to be serving in the 456 ministry at our church. What areas in your life are you stuck in the 'I can't do that...'?   ASMR Jerry Eats Food Videos   So, we have some sweet friends - Dee and Jerry Lavigne. They are LEGIT YouTubers. And we are actually fortunate enough to be using their podcasting equipment (for episode 49 and 50) while they are on a break from their Deenut Butter And Jerry Podcast. Jihae's 'Lightbulb moment of the week was that the kids LOVE these ASMR videos. They had never seen them before, and Cate even educated us on the magic of ASMR Soap Cutting. Very satisfying.   The (Good) Word of the Day   5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 1:5-8   See, we can possess these qualities in increasing measure! It doesn't say we are given a special amount at birth and that's it. We have to make EVERY EFFORT to add goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, mutual affection, AND love, to our faith. We have to try. Trying shows growth. This is always a good thing.   We will be having a GIVEAWAY with this episode to celebrate #50! We are always so thankful for our friends, Bekah and Kevin Tinter, of Tinter Health, for donating a $100 Amazon Gift Card for one lucky winner! And we will also be giving away a copy of Mindset to a runner up!   Thanks for tuning in, friends!   If you want to connect on Social Media:   You can find us at:   Jihae Watson on Facebook   Chris Watson on Facebook   Fostering Voices on Instagram   Jihae Watson on Instagram   AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Dr. Carol Dweck wrote a great book called <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322/ref=sr_1_1?hvadid=241609395275&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvlocphy=9030091&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvpos=1t2&amp;hvqmt=e&amp;hvrand=1032142540671246302&amp;hvtargid=kwd-4613541806&amp;keywords=mindset+by+carol+dweck&amp;qid=1553352537&amp;s=gateway&amp;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Mindset: The Psychology of Success</a>, and we talk about it in this episode. Everyone talks about having a growth mindset, but how do you do that? What does that look like? And why is this so vital, especially for foster kids? Developing a growth mindset, which is not easy, or natural. But with effort and the right attitude, it can happen. In this episode, other random things we discussed: Where does the name 'Dweck' originate from? Carol Dweck is from New York (is NOT blond. My mistake) and is of Jewish descent. It is easy for kids (and adults) to have a fixed mindset, and it takes intentional language and attitudes to develop a growth mindset for yourself, and your children. Instead of complimenting children on the fact that they are smart, it is better to highlight the effort and attitude that went into their success. '<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Hillbilly-Elegy-Memoir-Family-Culture/dp/0062300555/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1GPSF31WSB5KD&amp;keywords=hillbilly+elegy&amp;qid=1553352781&amp;s=gateway&amp;sprefix=hillbilly+%2Caps%2C187&amp;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hillbilly Elegy' by J.D. Vance</a> We mentioned this book (very well worth the read!) and it's such a great example of having a growth mindset despite growing up among a culture that was stuck in a fixed mindset. His growth mindset was pivotal to his success, as were his grandparents, who really helped to encourage him to achieve more than what he saw around him. “If you believe that hard work pays off, then you work hard; if you think it’s hard to get ahead even when you try, then why try at all? Similarly, when people do fail, this mind-set allows them to look outward... His status in life is directly attributable to the choices he’s made, and his life will improve only through better decisions. But for him to make better choices, he needs to live in an environment that forces him to ask tough questions about himself. J.D. Vance Vanessa Hicks is an amazing photographer based in Hawaii. She openly shares how hard her past was, to encourage those who may find themselves in similar circumstances. Many of those hard things were not of her choosing. But instead of having a fixed mindset, and staying stuck, she broke free and has created a life that she loves, for her and her kids. She recently shared this post on FB: I can't do that... This is a common phrase uttered for those stuck in a fixed mindset. (And disclaimer, we may have a growth mindset in some areas of our lives, while having a fixed mindset in others.) Something we struggled with was having a 'holier than thou mindset' as new foster parents. And our 'we can't do that' attitude translated into whether we could help other people, especially in terms of serving at church. But we broke free of that mindset, and we are so happy to be serving in the 456 ministry at our church. What areas in your life are you stuck in the 'I can't do that...'? <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zCt3n9L45Y" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ASMR Jerry Eats Food Videos</a> So, we have some sweet friends - Dee and Jerry Lavigne. They are LEGIT YouTubers. And we are actually fortunate enough to be using their podcasting equipment (for episode 49 and 50) while they are on a break from their Deenut Butter And Jerry Podcast. Jihae's 'Lightbulb moment of the week was that the kids LOVE these ASMR videos. They had never seen them before, and Cate even educated us on the magic of <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjd4ykxd7VU" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ASMR Soap Cutting</a>. Very satisfying. The (Good) Word of the Day 5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 1:5-8 See, we can possess these qualities in increasing measure! It doesn't say we are given a special amount at birth and that's it. We have to make EVERY EFFORT to add goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, mutual affection, AND love, to our faith. We have to try. Trying shows growth. This is always a good thing. We will be having a GIVEAWAY with this episode to celebrate #50! We are always so thankful for our friends, Bekah and Kevin Tinter, of Tinter Health, for donating a $100 Amazon Gift Card for one lucky winner! And we will also be giving away a copy of Mindset to a runner up! Thanks for tuning in, friends! If you want to connect on Social Media: You can find us at: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 50: Fostering a Growth Mindset

This week we just want to encourage our fellow foster families out there! Encouragement 1: Sometimes your family, and even friends, may not be on board with your journey in foster care. You aren't alone in this! We have run into different people who have not been supportive of our choices. That's ok! We are still very thankful for the people who continue to walk by us! And we are here to walk alongside YOU! Encouragement 2: If you are in need of supplies - like clothes, beds, cribs, mattresses, birthday presents - there are resources out there for you! For Free! Check out your local Facebook Groups for foster and adoptive parents. We get lots of great stuff from various groups we are in. Also, we will throw out requests on our personal Facebook pages and we have gotten great things donated like bunk beds, an amazing trumpet, clothes, etc. Don't be afraid to ask others for help! We also just discovered Arizona Helping Hands, and they are amazing! Check them out if you are in need of anything! Encouragement 3: Change your mindset if you are in a rut feeling like you are stuck in a cycle of dislike, head-butting, with someone in your family (or social circle) - you may need to change your attitude towards them.  We read 'The Connected Child' which has so many great tips to connect with your children. Open hand touch has been a great one for us and our kids. Good Word of the Day: "Fear of man will prove to be a snare,     but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe." Proverbs 29:25 If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae Watson on Facebook Chris Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This week we just want to encourage our fellow foster families out there! Encouragement 1: Sometimes your family, and even friends, may not be on board with your journey in foster care. You aren't alone in this! We have run into different people who have not been supportive of our choices. That's ok! We are still very thankful for the people who continue to walk by us! And we are here to walk alongside YOU! Encouragement 2: If you are in need of supplies - like clothes, beds, cribs, mattresses, birthday presents - there are resources out there for you! For Free! Check out your local Facebook Groups for foster and adoptive parents. We get lots of great stuff from various groups we are in. Also, we will throw out requests on our personal Facebook pages and we have gotten great things donated like bunk beds, an amazing trumpet, clothes, etc. Don't be afraid to ask others for help! We also just discovered Arizona Helping Hands, and they are amazing! Check them out if you are in need of anything! Encouragement 3: Change your mindset if you are in a rut feeling like you are stuck in a cycle of dislike, head-butting, with someone in your family (or social circle) - you may need to change your attitude towards them.  We read 'The Connected Child' which has so many great tips to connect with your children. Open hand touch has been a great one for us and our kids. Good Word of the Day: "Fear of man will prove to be a snare,     but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe." Proverbs 29:25 If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a> AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 63: Encouragement for Foster Families

This episode features an interview with JT and Ashley Pals, new parents to their precious son, Case. Case is also on the podcast, which is why there are baby noises every now and again. He is a bit more vocal in the beginning, but keep on listening as he is enthralled with his own story for most of the rest of the podcast! We like to give voice to all members of the family, whenever possible. :) So the Pals' journey to adopt started with their decision to adopt in 2017, after they babysat our sweet Evie for us a handful of times. Of course they had thought about it before, but the time finally felt right for them to move forward with this decision. Especially since they had waited for years to be able to have a family. The process was long, filled with paper work and hurrying up and waiting. It wasn't until June 2019 that they finally got a call that they had been matched with a family! They brought Case home after he was born in July, and had to wait 72 hours for the birth family to legally and officially sign their rights over to the Pals'. In other states, the wait is very different, so if you are interested in in-state infant adoption, please make sure you are aware of how long the signing process is. Also, there are many different costs that need to be paid to do this kind of adoption. The Pals' was about $25,000, which they raised in about 2 weeks! Talk about having a community around them that was eager to help and see the Pals become parents! Their Good Word of the Day was PATIENCE. And you will know why after you listen to their episode. But we also talked about how 'You are Loved' is a logo that they created to symbolize every member of their adoption journey.  And the people that the Pals picked to play them if they were to make a movie of their life are: Kiefer Southerland or Jesse Ferguson. Julia Roberts. And Frankie Munez!  What a cute family! Thank you Pals' for sharing your story with us, and for being a great example of WAITING, and doing hard things! If you have any other questions, you can reach out to the Pals via Instagram. You can also connect with us on Social Media, or you can email us at hello@fosteringvoices.com Also, if you enjoyed this episode, we would love for you to leave us a review on iTunes! Thanks so much and have a great week!

This episode features an interview with JT and Ashley Pals, new parents to their precious son, Case. Case is also on the podcast, which is why there are baby noises every now and again. He is a bit more vocal in the beginning, but keep on listening as he is enthralled with his own story for most of the rest of the podcast! We like to give voice to all members of the family, whenever possible. :) So the Pals' journey to adopt started with their decision to adopt in 2017, after they babysat our sweet Evie for us a handful of times. Of course they had thought about it before, but the time finally felt right for them to move forward with this decision. Especially since they had waited for years to be able to have a family. The process was long, filled with paper work and hurrying up and waiting. It wasn't until June 2019 that they finally got a call that they had been matched with a family! They brought Case home after he was born in July, and had to wait 72 hours for the birth family to legally and officially sign their rights over to the Pals'. In other states, the wait is very different, so if you are interested in in-state infant adoption, please make sure you are aware of how long the signing process is. Also, there are many different costs that need to be paid to do this kind of adoption. The Pals' was about $25,000, which they raised in about 2 weeks! Talk about having a community around them that was eager to help and see the Pals become parents! Their Good Word of the Day was PATIENCE. And you will know why after you listen to their episode. But we also talked about how 'You are Loved' is a logo that they created to symbolize every member of their adoption journey.  And the people that the Pals picked to play them if they were to make a movie of their life are: Kiefer Southerland or Jesse Ferguson. Julia Roberts. And Frankie Munez!  What a cute family! Thank you Pals' for sharing your story with us, and for being a great example of WAITING, and doing hard things! If you have any other questions, you can reach out to the Pals via <a href="https://www.instagram.com/palsadopt/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>. You can also connect with us on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Social Media</a>, or you can email us at <a href="mailto:hello@fosteringvoices.com">hello@fosteringvoices.com</a> Also, if you enjoyed this episode, we would love for you to leave us a review on iTunes! Thanks so much and have a great week!

Episode 84: In-State Adoption Story

Gotcha Day. This is common vernacular for adoptive families. We just celebrated Wesley's this last week. But then we got to thinking - is that ok to call it that? How do adoptees feel about the word and the spirit of Gotcha Day? We opened this conversation up to Social Media, and we got a lot of really great responses. Most of our friends who have adopted like to celebrate this day as a family, as a means to lift up the culture that the adopted child has come from, and as a celebration of the great joy the adopted child has brought to the family. But a perspective that a lot of adoptive families are missing is that of the adoptee - especially if they have adopted very young children. But speaking to adult adoptees who are able to voice their thoughts and opinions - we got some of those!  You can see the whole post here. We, at the Watson home, have decided to no longer call Wesley's adoption day 'Gotcha Day'. We will continue to recognize it as a celebration day for our family, and we do love to celebrate with our friends who have adopted as well. We are mindful that it is a great day of celebration for us, but may cause sadness for Wesley, and other adoptees for missing their biological families. We want to be open to the many layers of emotions that surround most momentous occasions in an adoptees life.   We are always so thankful to be able to have communication with all parties involved in the adoption triad - the birth family, the adoptive family, and the adoptee. All these voices are so important, and when they are in communication with one another, it makes the triangle stronger! Thank you Arrow and Root (if you are looking for someone to create a beautiful and ethical adoption profile book, check her out!) and Alison Shiloh, and of our amazing followers for contributing to this conversation! We love having respectful, humble, and open-minded conversation with everyone who has something to share.  We have no judgment for people who have been using the term 'Gotcha Day', and continue to use it. We will try to educate people on the choice that we have made. But something to remember is that 'you don't know what you don't know', but it's important to have a spirit of wanting to learn, grow, and improve, every day. For the good of yourself, and especially your children. The (Good) Word of the Day: "But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen." 2 Peter 3:18 May we all be growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus! It will cause us all to be kinder, more compassionate, and more forgiving. This leads us to be able to understand others, and to seek to be understood afterwards. May we all try to grow in the grace and knowledge of one another, as well. Thanks for tuning in to another week of the Fostering Voices Podcast! If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae Watson on Facebook Chris Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Gotcha Day. This is common vernacular for adoptive families. We just celebrated Wesley's this last week. But then we got to thinking - is that ok to call it that? How do adoptees feel about the word and the spirit of Gotcha Day? We opened this conversation up to Social Media, and we got a lot of really great responses. Most of our friends who have adopted like to celebrate this day as a family, as a means to lift up the culture that the adopted child has come from, and as a celebration of the great joy the adopted child has brought to the family. But a perspective that a lot of adoptive families are missing is that of the adoptee - especially if they have adopted very young children. But speaking to adult adoptees who are able to voice their thoughts and opinions - we got some of those! You can see the whole post <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BxRD5PzBXzx/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. We, at the Watson home, have decided to no longer call Wesley's adoption day 'Gotcha Day'. We will continue to recognize it as a celebration day for our family, and we do love to celebrate with our friends who have adopted as well. We are mindful that it is a great day of celebration for us, but may cause sadness for Wesley, and other adoptees for missing their biological families. We want to be open to the many layers of emotions that surround most momentous occasions in an adoptees life.   We are always so thankful to be able to have communication with all parties involved in the adoption triad - the birth family, the adoptive family, and the adoptee. All these voices are so important, and when they are in communication with one another, it makes the triangle stronger! Thank you <a href="https://www.arrowandroot.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Arrow and Root</a> (if you are looking for someone to create a beautiful and ethical adoption profile book, check her out!) and Alison Shiloh, and of our amazing followers for contributing to this conversation! We love having respectful, humble, and open-minded conversation with everyone who has something to share.  We have no judgment for people who have been using the term 'Gotcha Day', and continue to use it. We will try to educate people on the choice that we have made. But something to remember is that 'you don't know what you don't know', but it's important to have a spirit of wanting to learn, grow, and improve, every day. For the good of yourself, and especially your children. The (Good) Word of the Day: "But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen." 2 Peter 3:18 May we all be growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus! It will cause us all to be kinder, more compassionate, and more forgiving. This leads us to be able to understand others, and to seek to be understood afterwards. May we all try to grow in the grace and knowledge of one another, as well. Thanks for tuning in to another week of the Fostering Voices Podcast! If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 58: Family Day vs Gotcha Day

Robert Watson

This week we are happy to have an interview with Robert Watson, pastor, and newly published author! He wrote 'Upside Down Crown' which is now available on Kindle and at most major bookstores. The premise of the book is based on the only sermon that Jesus ever preached - which is the Sermon on the Mount (found in Matthew 5-7). There are so many lessons in it, and once applied to our lives, we find that we have peace and joy, instead of anxiety and disappointment.  You may remember that Robert was also on episode 31, where he talked about porn and sex, and this topic is also covered in this book, as Jesus refers to sexual purity in his sermon. This is such an important conversation to have with your pre-teen and older kids, and spouse! We know that you guys already know that, as episode 31 is in the top 3 most-listened to episodes we have! So, we encourage all of you to look at your heart, and not just your behavior. Do you just cheer Jesus on, but then refuse to get your hands dirty and join in on what he is calling you to? And are you doing great things for him, or for yourself? Good Word of the Day: Then I saw “a new heaven and a new earth,” for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. 2 I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. 3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”5 He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” -Revelation 21:1-5  This is another great reminder that as Christians, we are living for more than we can see here on earth. Sometimes it is too easy to trust Jesus with ALL OF ETERNITY, yet we refuse to trust him with simple things like relationships, finances, struggles, etc. God is Lord of all! And for all time. Salvation is a past, present, and future action. We are invited to receive the Lord's salvation today and every day! You've Been Served: - Most of our service actions involved LISTENING, and empathizing! We don't have to have the right words to say, but we do all have the right ears to listen! So let's listen to each other, hear each other, and serve one another in this simple way! Thanks for joining us for another episode of our podcast. We hope you have an amazing week this week with your families! If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae Watson on Facebook Chris Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This week we are happy to have an interview with Robert Watson, pastor, and newly published author! He wrote 'Upside Down Crown' which is now available on <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Upside-Down-Crown-Jesus-sermon/dp/1792788665/ref=asc_df_1792788665/?tag=hyprod-20&amp;linkCode=df0&amp;hvadid=343252337456&amp;hvpos=1o1&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=15436470664546581975&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9030091&amp;hvtargid=pla-812899052764&amp;psc=1&amp;tag=&amp;ref=&amp;adgrpid=71765243711&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvadid=343252337456&amp;hvpos=1o1&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=15436470664546581975&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9030091&amp;hvtargid=pla-812899052764" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Kindle and at most major bookstores</a>. The premise of the book is based on the only sermon that Jesus ever preached - which is the Sermon on the Mount (found in Matthew 5-7). There are so many lessons in it, and once applied to our lives, we find that we have peace and joy, instead of anxiety and disappointment.  You may remember that Robert was also on <a href="https://fosteringvoices.com/episode-31-sex-porn-yeah-we-just-went-there/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">episode 31</a>, where he talked about porn and sex, and this topic is also covered in this book, as Jesus refers to sexual purity in his sermon. This is such an important conversation to have with your pre-teen and older kids, and spouse! We know that you guys already know that, as episode 31 is in the top 3 most-listened to episodes we have! So, we encourage all of you to look at your heart, and not just your behavior. Do you just cheer Jesus on, but then refuse to get your hands dirty and join in on what he is calling you to? And are you doing great things for him, or for yourself? Good Word of the Day: Then I saw “a new heaven and a new earth,” for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. 2 I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. 3 And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. 4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”5 He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” -Revelation 21:1-5  This is another great reminder that as Christians, we are living for more than we can see here on earth. Sometimes it is too easy to trust Jesus with ALL OF ETERNITY, yet we refuse to trust him with simple things like relationships, finances, struggles, etc. God is Lord of all! And for all time. Salvation is a past, present, and future action. We are invited to receive the Lord's salvation today and every day! You've Been Served: - Most of our service actions involved LISTENING, and empathizing! We don't have to have the right words to say, but we do all have the right ears to listen! So let's listen to each other, hear each other, and serve one another in this simple way! Thanks for joining us for another episode of our podcast. We hope you have an amazing week this week with your families! If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a> AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 62: Interview with Robert Watson 

This is the last episode of Season 3!  We do a brief book review on 'Garbage Bag Suitcase' by Shenandoah Chefalo. It's a memoir of Shenandoah's life - filled with difficult years with her mother and a man she thought was her father, and difficult years in foster care, and aging out of the system. This book is Heavy, and made Jihae feel a bit depressed for a day or two. BUT, it's not all depressing. Shenandoah shares her thoughts on how to improve the lives of kids in care, and they include boarding schools (like the Milton Hershey School and The Crossnore School), and fostering the whole family - mostly moms who are losing their kids to the system. Another highlight of reading this memoir was seeing a successful woman who overcame the odds. The children in care are not doomed to be like their parents. Mental illness is not a definitive life sentence for the next generation, neither is drug addiction, or abuse, or any of the things that we are afraid that kids are 'definitely' going to be like. Chris mentioned this teen, Hunter Beaton, from Texas who has started this company that provides great bags for children in foster care. There are so many companies that you can support if you google 'garbage bags for foster kids' or look on social media. The (Good) Word of the Day Gracious words are a honeycomb,     sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. - Proverbs 16:24 Shenandoah had SO FEW people who spoke any words of hope or love to her in her first 20 years of life. We all need to speak words of kindness and hope to those around us - whether they are adults or children, whether they are foster kids, or kids you have borne. Lightbulb moments: Yay for the Toronto Raptors making it to the NBA Finals for the first time in history! Foster care and adoption are HARD! Waiting, not knowing, caring, saying bye - IT'S ALL HARD! But it's all worth it! So, keep on keeping on fellow foster and adoptive friends. Thanks SO MUCH for your support this season, friends! We will be back at the end of July with season 4! If you want to connect on Social Media: Jihae Watson on Facebook Chris Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

This is the last episode of Season 3!  We do a brief book review on '<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Garbage-Bag-Suitcase-Shenandoah-Chefalo-ebook/dp/B01BDXSXB0/ref=sr_1_1?crid=31YUM99L1EOJ0&amp;keywords=garbage+bag+suitcase+a+memoir+by+shenandoah+chefalo&amp;qid=1559363560&amp;s=gateway&amp;sprefix=garbage+bag+sui%2Caps%2C182&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Garbage Bag Suitcase</a>' by Shenandoah Chefalo. It's a memoir of Shenandoah's life - filled with difficult years with her mother and a man she thought was her father, and difficult years in foster care, and aging out of the system. This book is Heavy, and made Jihae feel a bit depressed for a day or two. BUT, it's not all depressing. Shenandoah shares her thoughts on how to improve the lives of kids in care, and they include boarding schools (like the <a href="https://www.mhskids.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Milton Hershey School</a> and <a href="https://www.crossnore.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Crossnore School</a>), and fostering the whole family - mostly moms who are losing their kids to the system. Another highlight of reading this memoir was seeing a successful woman who overcame the odds. The children in care are not doomed to be like their parents. Mental illness is not a definitive life sentence for the next generation, neither is drug addiction, or abuse, or any of the things that we are afraid that kids are 'definitely' going to be like. Chris mentioned this teen, Hunter Beaton, from Texas who has started <a href="https://www.onesimplewish.org/giveday1bags" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">this company</a> that provides great bags for children in foster care. There are so many companies that you can support if you google 'garbage bags for foster kids' or look on social media. The (Good) Word of the Day Gracious words are a honeycomb,     sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. - Proverbs 16:24 Shenandoah had SO FEW people who spoke any words of hope or love to her in her first 20 years of life. We all need to speak words of kindness and hope to those around us - whether they are adults or children, whether they are foster kids, or kids you have borne. Lightbulb moments: Yay for the Toronto Raptors making it to the NBA Finals for the first time in history! Foster care and adoption are HARD! Waiting, not knowing, caring, saying bye - IT'S ALL HARD! But it's all worth it! So, keep on keeping on fellow foster and adoptive friends. Thanks SO MUCH for your support this season, friends! We will be back at the end of July with season 4! If you want to connect on Social Media: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 60: Garbage bag suitcases

Tax season is officially upon us, and so we decided to have the best tax preparer in all the land join us for an interview. We are thankful that Wes Watson (who happens to be Chris' dad) was able to make time for us, so he could share everything related to taxes for foster and adoptive families. In this episode we talked about: The Keymaster from Ghost Busters. This is what happens when Chris has someone else to talk about obscure movies with. We also talked about how if you have had a child in your care for more than 6 months, you are able to claim them as a dependent on your tax return.  It can be VERY annoying trying to get your foster child's Social Security Number, so start asking your case worker NOW so that you have it before April 15th! If a child was born after June, and wasn't officially in your home for more than 6 months, BUT was in your care for most of their life, you still get to claim that infant. There are changes to many tax laws. The new federal standard deduction for a couple is $24k. HOWEVER, in Arizona, the standard deduction is $10k per couple, so you are still going to want to itemize your taxes for your State return. Did you know that there is a $13k credit if you adopted a child? You can read more here.  Charitable giving is a great way to dictate how your want your tax dollars to be used. For a list of qualifying organizations, you can check out Az Tax Credit. A few of our favorite organizations are: Christian Family Care, Advocacy 31 nine, and Foster Arizona. The Good Word of the Day: "Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it."  -Prov. 3:27 So, whether it's your time, or money, or other resources, if you see someone in need - help them! But especially with our finances, there is so much good that we can do when we allocate our money properly. We hope you enjoyed this week's podcast! Thank you so much Wes, for your time and expertise. To connect with Wes, you can find him here. And to find out more about Watson CPA, you can find them on Facebook. You do not need to use a tax preparer for your taxes. You do need to know what you are doing so you can maximize your return! So be educated, and take care of your finances throughout the year! If you Want to Connect on Social Media: You can find us at: Jihae Watson on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae Watson on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Tax season is officially upon us, and so we decided to have the best tax preparer in all the land join us for an interview. We are thankful that Wes Watson (who happens to be Chris' dad) was able to make time for us, so he could share everything related to taxes for foster and adoptive families. In this episode we talked about: The <a href="https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&amp;ei=wElVXOzHN-Xf0gK566qgDQ&amp;q=key+master+ghostbusters&amp;oq=key+master&amp;gs_l=psy-ab.1.5.0l10.1355.2957..5226...0.0..0.98.875.11......0....1..gws-wiz.....0..0i131.jLlLYE0LH_c" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Keymaster from Ghost Busters</a>. This is what happens when Chris has someone else to talk about obscure movies with. We also talked about how if you have had a child in your care for more than 6 months, you are able to claim them as a dependent on your tax return.  It can be VERY annoying trying to get your foster child's Social Security Number, so start asking your case worker NOW so that you have it before April 15th! If a child was born after June, and wasn't officially in your home for more than 6 months, BUT was in your care for most of their life, you still get to claim that infant. There are changes to many tax laws. The new federal standard deduction for a couple is $24k. HOWEVER, in Arizona, the standard deduction is $10k per couple, so you are still going to want to itemize your taxes for your State return. Did you know that there is a $13k credit if you adopted a child? You can read more <a href="https://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc607" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  Charitable giving is a great way to dictate how your want your tax dollars to be used. For a list of qualifying organizations, you can check out <a href="http://azcredits.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Az Tax Credit</a>. A few of our favorite organizations are: <a href="https://cfcare.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Christian Family Care</a>, <a href="https://www.advocacy31nine.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Advocacy 31 nine</a>, and <a href="https://fosterarizona.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Foster Arizona.</a> The Good Word of the Day: "Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it."  -Prov. 3:27 So, whether it's your time, or money, or other resources, if you see someone in need - help them! But especially with our finances, there is so much good that we can do when we allocate our money properly. We hope you enjoyed this week's podcast! Thank you so much Wes, for your time and expertise. To connect with Wes, you can find him <a href="https://www.facebook.com/wesleywat" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. And to find out more about <a href="https://www.facebook.com/WatsonCPAAZ/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Watson CPA</a>, you can find them on Facebook. You do not need to use a tax preparer for your taxes. You do need to know what you are doing so you can maximize your return! So be educated, and take care of your finances throughout the year! If you Want to Connect on Social Media: You can find us at: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jihaewatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae Watson</a> on Instagram AND we would LOVE it if you would leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 43: Tax Info for Foster and Adoptive Families

Thanksgiving has come and gone, but we are truly in the thick of the holidays! We get this season can be SO STRESSFUL for so many people, but it doesn't have to be that way if we can plan appropriately (or as much as possible.) Don't forget to create some margin for your family! It's easy to get wrapped up in all of the holiday parties and events, but don't forget to intentionally make time to be home, have dinner as a family, and REST. This is good for you as the parent, but also good for your kids! It is also important to Over-Communicate with your kids! Tell them what is happening today, tomorrow, and what things are expected of them. Whether that's dress code, food choices, people they are going to encounter, etc. Episodes 38 and 39 feature Christie Priem, a speech-language pathologist, and even though we spoke primarily on detecting developmental delays in children, she also gave so many great tips on avoiding, and dealing with behaviors in all children. So those episodes are definitely worth a listen if you have toddlers in the house! Make sure you have BOUNDARIES around your time, relationships, expectations, and so on. We also spoke on those in episode 40, and we always highly recommend the book, Boundaries, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Chris is passionate about people keeping boundaries on their MONEY, so make a budget for your holiday spending, and stick to it! Don't make emotional decisions based on what is on sale, and what other people are getting for their loved ones. Have a plan, stick to the plan, and if the things you were planning on happen to be on sale - that's a win! Good Word of the Day "But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him?  Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth." - 1 John 3:17-18 Let's also PLAN to GIVE! Donating to those in need during the holidays may seem even more stressful, or not possible. But if you plan to give, and make it a family activity, then it makes it possible, and even more rewarding. We hope you enjoyed this episode, and if you want to connect, we are always happy to hear from you guys! Thank you for being the best listeners! If you would like to connect: Jihae on Facebook Chris on Facebook Fostering Voices on Instagram Jihae on Instagram You can also email us at jihaeandchris@yahoo.com AND we would LOVE it if you would  SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Thanksgiving has come and gone, but we are truly in the thick of the holidays! We get this season can be SO STRESSFUL for so many people, but it doesn't have to be that way if we can plan appropriately (or as much as possible.) Don't forget to create some margin for your family! It's easy to get wrapped up in all of the holiday parties and events, but don't forget to intentionally make time to be home, have dinner as a family, and REST. This is good for you as the parent, but also good for your kids! It is also important to Over-Communicate with your kids! Tell them what is happening today, tomorrow, and what things are expected of them. Whether that's dress code, food choices, people they are going to encounter, etc. <a href="https://fosteringvoices.com/episode-38-detecting-developmental-delays/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Episodes 38</a> and <a href="https://fosteringvoices.com/episode-39-detecting-developmental-delays-part-2/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">39</a> feature Christie Priem, a speech-language pathologist, and even though we spoke primarily on detecting developmental delays in children, she also gave so many great tips on avoiding, and dealing with behaviors in all children. So those episodes are definitely worth a listen if you have toddlers in the house! Make sure you have BOUNDARIES around your time, relationships, expectations, and so on. We also spoke on those in <a href="https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/7851872" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">episode 40</a>, and we always highly recommend the book, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Boundaries</a>, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Chris is passionate about people keeping boundaries on their MONEY, so make a budget for your holiday spending, and stick to it! Don't make emotional decisions based on what is on sale, and what other people are getting for their loved ones. Have a plan, stick to the plan, and if the things you were planning on happen to be on sale - that's a win! Good Word of the Day "But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him?  Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth." - 1 John 3:17-18 Let's also PLAN to GIVE! Donating to those in need during the holidays may seem even more stressful, or not possible. But if you plan to give, and make it a family activity, then it makes it possible, and even more rewarding. We hope you enjoyed this episode, and if you want to connect, we are always happy to hear from you guys! Thank you for being the best listeners! If you would like to connect: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/jihae.watson" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/creestoph.wahtsuhn" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris</a> on Facebook <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fosteringvoices/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fostering Voices</a> on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/geehaywatson/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jihae</a> on Instagram You can also email us at <a href="mailto:jihaeandchris@yahoo.co">jihaeandchris@yahoo.com</a> AND we would LOVE it if you would <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fostering-voices-podcast/id1342406624" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> SUBSCRIBE</a> and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people!

Episode 78: Navigating the Holidays with a lot of Kids!

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