Our Happy Divorce: How Ending Our Marriage Brought US Together with Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond
We Should Talk About That
From dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.The Two Jess(es) sit down with Nikki and Ben and witness this phenomenon first hand. Two people who are self-aware enough to realize they "got the path of being in love and loving each other mixed up," in itself is incredible, but to hear them speak of their commitment and respect for their son, and how putting him first became the only thing that mattered, is not only inspiring, but an important example for parents everywhere- married or divorced.To find out more about Ben and Nikki's experience you can go to https://ourhappydivorce.com/ and read their book: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)
52. Our Happy Divorce with Benjamin Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo
Happy Even After with Ms. Renee Bauer
Can you stay close with your ex and have a happy divorce? ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY!Don’t just take my word for it!From dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.It wasn’t fast. And it wasn’t easy. But together they created a happy post-divorce modern family.They share the message that if they can do it, anyone can.Check out today’s episode of Happy Even After to find out how.Guest InfoIG:https://instagram.com/ourhappydivorceWebsite: http://ourhappydivorce.com
Nikki and Ben are more fun than a barrel of monkeys. This was one FUN conversation and a truly inspiring and empowering example Nikki knows firsthand how being supported by a strong, loving family can influence the way a person navigates life, love, marriage, and motherhood. Having grown up as a member of the iconic San Francisco 49ers football family, she was thrown into the limelight at a young age. The values her family instilled in her have helped shape who she is today, and she continues to live by them. As Vice President of the DeBartolo Family Foundation, Nikki has made it her mission to give back to her community in every way possible, from supporting local grassroots movements to national charities, all while being a strong, supportive wife and mother. Nikki resides in Tampa Bay, Florida, with her son Asher and her husband Chad Chronister, who also serves the Tampa community as Sheriff of Hillsborough County. Ben graduated from the University of California, Berkeley with a Bachelor of Science degree in African American History and Business Administration. He is the owner of Heldfond Holdings, LLC, a holding company that invests in a wide variety of companies, including private equities, restaurants, and a record label. He is also a member of the board for Swig Company, LLC. Ben is involved with many organizations supporting those who struggle with addiction and substance abuse. An avid golfer and sports enthusiast, he currently resides in South Tampa with his wife, Nadia; fifteen-year-old son, Asher; six-year-old daughter, Isabella; and three-year-old son, Jackson. You must GRAB this book! https://ourhappydivorce.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thriving-in-chaos/message
Our Happy Divorce: Building a Strong Post-Divorce Family with Ben Helfond and Nikki DeBartolo
How to Split a Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships
Our guests today have worked hard to craft a loving and tight-knit family. Their effort to create that family has only intensified since their divorce in 2007. In an effort to help others see what’s possible, Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo created “Our Happy Divorce,” a book, channel, and community dedicated to building a healthy, happy, post-divorce modern family. This week on the show, Ben and Nikki share their perspectives on building a family as family membership changes. They share their dating stories, and how they introduced new partners successfully to the family unit. And, most important, they tell us how their efforts are guided by their love and dedication to the children in both their lives. This passion has made their family an aspiration for others and we’re thrilled to have them on the show with us today. ### Links & Notes - [*Our Happy Divorce* by Ben Helfond & Nikki DeBartolo][book] - [Subscribe to Our Happy Divorce on YouTube][channel] - [OurHappyDivorce.com][site] [book]:https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?sr=8-1&keywords=Our%2BHappy%2BDivorce&tag=trustoryfm-20&qid=1568927277 [channel]:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDavSqivnV-rmzDaX7L7P2w [site]:https://ourhappydivorce.com
Love After Divorce with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo
The Challenger Podcast
On this week's episode, we are joined by Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, co-authors of Our Happy Divorce, a personal story of divorce and coming together as a team to raise their son. I too went through an unhappy divorce from my daughter's mother and can resonate a lot to Ben's account of taking ownership and a need to face his ego. What does it take to set aside the need to win in divorce? We dig deep into this question with a new mindset from our guests today that have a mission to share their story in the hopes that it will help others navigate the waters of divorce and coparenting with their new partners. If their message resonated with you today, please connect with them at ourhappydivorce.com Are you struggling with a divorce or know someone who is? Introduce them to our private small support group that meets weekly with a passion for sharing tools to navigate conflict, love, and dating. Click here for more details and to apply today!
How to Turn Divorce Conflict Into a Strong Friendship with Ben Heldfond & Nikki DeBartolo:
Heartbreak to Happiness
How do you turn Divorce Conflict Into a Strong Friendship & Top tips on co-parenting through disagreements.When Nikki and Ben knew their marriage was ending, little did they didn’t know that their new relationship would bring them closer together. “Our Happy Divorce,” a book authored by Nikki and Ben, they have tackled how they created a modern family despite both being remarried. Communication and a desire to put their son Asher’s needs before their own have been the keys to turning their hurt into friendship.
Everything Always Episode 69: How to Have a Happy Divorce with Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond
If you’re feeling totally helpless about your relationship with your ex, or are looking for inspiration and information on how to have a better relationship with them, this episode is for you. Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond join the show today for an incredible episode all about creating a happy and successful relationship post-divorce. They are happily divorced and have a ton of insight on how to navigate the tough emotion and business of it all. Listen in to hear from two people who have been through a lot,but were still mature enough to come together and do what was best for their son. You'll learn how Ben and Nikki collaborated, as well as the various trials and triumphs that occurred while they worked on their own unique approach to divorce. Whether you are just entering into divorce and still separated, or if you’re years into it with a relationship full of drama, you will get so much out of this interview. 3:42 – 9:03 - Introducing Ben and Nikki and their unique approach to divorce. 9:30 – 18:13 - The difficulty of dealing with ego and truly putting the child first. 20:12 – 25:26 - The effect of divorce on children and dealing with the loss of control. 25:38 – 36:24 - How to deal with new partners coming into the picture. 37:25 – 43:30 - The best way to begin working on your relationship. Takeaways: A new approach to divorce. Learning to put aside your ego in favor of your child’s best interests. Why your divorce is way more than just the two of you. How to build a good relationship even when new partners enter the picture. Why you shouldn’t text. Quotes: “Because we dealt with the emotional side of divorce first, it made it that much easier to deal with the business side of it.” “When there is conflict, there are ways to not feed into the conflict and there are ways to control yourself and your emotions and your perspective—even when you can’t control the situation.” “We had to keep our son front and center. It wasn’t about us, so we had to take all of our garbage and keep it aside because, in the long run, the only thing that’s important is making sure he is happy and he is safe.” 3 Interesting Clips: 9:40 – 10:22 - The power of ego and how it hurts us and everyone around us. 26:28 – 26:52 - The importance of making amends and building a good foundation. 38:27 – 39:34 - The reality of a happy divorce and what got Nikki and Ben to that place. Links: Nikki and Ben: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Our Happy Divorce by Nikki Debartolo and Benjamin Heldfond Connect with us: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube Everything Always Podcast Website Subscribe & Review in iTunes! Are you subscribed to our podcast? If not, we would strongly suggest you do. This way you won’t miss a thing! Subscribe here: Everything Always And now for the pretty please with a Bordeaux Maraschino Cherry on top. We would be so incredibly grateful if you left us a review on for Everything Always as well. This will help other parents and families like you find our podcast. Plus, it’s fun for Mike and I to sit and read them together on date night! Just click here, click open in iTunes, select “Ratings and Reviews”, tell us your favorite moment and best take away and we will send a huge cyber hug and kiss right to you! Find the Everything Always Podcast wherever you listen! Apple Podcasts (iTunes) acast Pocketcasts ListenNotes Spotify player.fm
Our Happy Divorce with Nikki Debartolo and Ben Heldfond
Mimosas with Moms
This week on the Mimosas with Moms Podcast, Abbey welcomes Nikki Debartolo and Ben Heldfond, co-authors of Our Happy Divorce. Nikki and Ben talk about the beginning process of divorce and the high emotions involved. They stress how, Our Happy Divorce is built on accountability and forgiveness and a daily desire to not hand their son the emotional bill for their decisions. Now both remarried, they live 7 houses apart and have created a Coparenting relationship with respect for their son. How can you achieve a Happy Divorce? Let's talk about it, CHEERS!———————————————You can find Nikki Debartolo and Ben Heldfond:IG: @ourhappydivorce Book: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1FB: Our Happy Divorce ———————————————Instagram @mimosaswithmoms FB /mimosaswithmomsEmail email@example.com
Ep. 132 HOW TO HAVE A HAPPY DIVORCE - Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Helfond
Most divorcing couples are good at the blame game. They cast their former partner as the villain and spend a lot of time stewing in bitterness and anger. But if that kind of ongoing adversarial relationship is not what you want for your kids, there is a way to clean up the wreckage of the past and build something new. There is a way to have a happy divorce.
A Happy Divorce, with Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldfond
In this episode, I have a genuine and candid conversation with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo about how they used their personal experience with divorce, to put their children first, put their egos aside and focus on healing to now share with us an inspirational story of a truly happy divorce with a long list of benefits for all as a result!