In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Michelle Hy from Polyamorous While Asian: polyamorous blogger, content creator and fresh from the Smith's Red Table. In this episode they discuss Part Two of the book and ways to prevent polyamorous break-ups. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok @polypages. You can find your Michelle on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. More on Gottmans's Four Horsemen can be found here --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Michelle Hy from <a href="https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Polyamorous While Asian</a>: polyamorous blogger, content creator and fresh from the Smith's <a href="https://www.facebook.com/redtabletalk/videos/904644817023031/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Red Table</a>. In this episode they discuss Part Two of the book and ways to prevent polyamorous break-ups. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok <a href="http://linktr.ee/polypages" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages.</a> You can find your Michelle on Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/polyamorouswhileasian/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> @polyamorouswhileasian</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: <a href="https://linktr.ee/mintgreenmusic" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. More on Gottmans's Four Horsemen can be<a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> found here </a>--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

3 - Preventing Polyamorous Break-ups w/ Polyamorous While Asian 

In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Sydney Rae Chin, survivor and non-monogamous sexual healing coach, to discuss Part Three of the book which goes over ways to survive polyamorous break-ups.    You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok @polypages. You can find your Sydney as sexy soup dumplings on Instagram and TikTok. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Sydney Rae Chin, survivor and non-monogamous sexual healing coach, to discuss Part Three of the book which goes over ways to survive polyamorous break-ups.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok <a href="http://linktr.ee/polypages" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages.</a> You can find your Sydney as <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sexysoupdumplings/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">sexy soup dumplings on Instagram</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@smexysoupdumplings?_d=secCgYIASAHKAESPgo8i%2B%2FUrVAmXu6xzDeLHSislz0ExgtkAU9LrTyR3fdA7IIGd9x2g0u4NC1u5%2BhnJsxonmK7i8dIMcHgP%2FexGgA%3D&amp;checksum=6cd65f519fd49ce0bc4ba637577abca6de0eef51a647075e5434c8345e934feb&amp;language=en&amp;sec_uid=MS4wLjABAAAArteAtiD05JvuiPm-UpcHoUmSZthWfybzGFGhdj9Y5KsplnMIZjnk2cEG8jlE4onn&amp;sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAArteAtiD05JvuiPm-UpcHoUmSZthWfybzGFGhdj9Y5KsplnMIZjnk2cEG8jlE4onn&amp;share_app_id=1233&amp;share_author_id=6873922884650861573&amp;share_link_id=0E634FEA-0E65-4837-B9A5-EBCADEA7ADC5&amp;social_sharing=v4&amp;tt_from=copy&amp;u_code=def8c38k0km725&amp;user_id=6873922884650861573&amp;utm_campaign=client_share&amp;utm_medium=ios&amp;utm_source=copy&amp;_r=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TikTok</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: <a href="https://linktr.ee/mintgreenmusic" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

2 - Surviving Polyamorous Break-ups w/ Sydney Rae Chin

In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Laura Boyle, author of Ready for Polyamory, to discuss Part One of the book which goes over the 7 most common causes of break-ups. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok @polypages. You can find your Laura Boyle on Instagram and TikTok @readyforpolyamory. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In Season Two, join host Krista Varela Posell as we read The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola. In this episode Krista is joined by guest host Laura Boyle, author of Ready for Polyamory, to discuss Part One of the book which goes over the 7 most common causes of break-ups.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram and TikTok @polypages. You can find your Laura Boyle on Instagram and TikTok @readyforpolyamory. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

1 - Why We Break Up w/ Ready for Polyamory 

Decoupling in Polyamory; a global live event, on the 9th January. Get tickets at here, at www.polypages.org/events, or join our Patreon as an Early Bird Supporters and get in completely free. www.patreon.com/polypages  De-coupling is the transition from a partnership - usually romantic and intimate - to another dynamic. In polyamorous dynamics, break-ups often include a period of transition; from lovers to friends, from metamours to acquittances, or even to strangers. In this one-off, live event - join three polyamorous and relationship educators in a global conversation about how to navigate de-coupling in healthy, productive and supported ways. Facilitated by Poly Pages, this panel includes Evita Sawyers, Andy Adams, and Sydney Rae Chin.  Join this is a facilitated discussion around the causes of polyamorous breakups, the unique challenges de-coupling presents for polyam folx, and some skills and scripts for individuals and communities to make decoupling easier/less harmful.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Decoupling in Polyamory; a global live event, on the 9th January. Get tickets at <a href="http://www.polypages.org/store/p3/Global_Live_Event%3A_Decoupling_in_Polyamory_.html#/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, at <a href="//www.polypages.org/events" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.polypages.org/events</a>, or join our Patreon as an Early Bird Supporters and get in completely free. <a href="https://www.patreon.com/polypages" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.patreon.com/polypages </a> De-coupling is the transition from a partnership - usually romantic and intimate - to another dynamic. In polyamorous dynamics, break-ups often include a period of transition; from lovers to friends, from metamours to acquittances, or even to strangers. In this one-off, live event - join three polyamorous and relationship educators in a global conversation about how to navigate de-coupling in healthy, productive and supported ways. Facilitated by Poly Pages, this panel includes <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Evita Sawyers</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thegrowtharc/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Andy Adams</a>, and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sydneyraechin/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sydney Rae Chin</a>.  Join this is a facilitated discussion around the causes of polyamorous breakups, the unique challenges de-coupling presents for polyam folx, and some skills and scripts for individuals and communities to make decoupling easier/less harmful.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

EVENT ANNOUNCEMENT 

In this bonus episode, Claire is joined by Andy Adams, from the Growth Arc. Together they read through Life History and Multi-Partner Mating: A Novel Explanation for Moral Stigma Against Consensual Non-monogamy. The article uses a new categorization for CNM - either multi-partner or open relationship. And they exclude non-consensual non-monogamy (yay!). But was Life History Theory the best explanation for their findings? What does risk and romance have to do with one another? And do people assume the worst of one another?  This article was published in 2020, and was written by Mogilski, Justin &amp; Mitchell, Virginia &amp; Reeve, Simon &amp; Donaldson, Sarah &amp; Nicolas, Sylis &amp; Welling, Lisa. It was published in Frontiers in Psychology, 10 (10.3389/fpsyg.2019.03033).  The Growth Arc is an educational-based coaching program for your relationships needs - whether that’s a relationship with yourself, another person, or multiple people. You can find The Growth Arc on Facebook, Instagram, twitter, and of course at https://www.thegrowtharc.com/. Life History Theory as presented by Claire draws on the library of resources found here and you can find Sarah Hill’s interview on puberty and Life History Theory on the ‘Here We Are’ podcast episode 126.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In this bonus episode, Claire is joined by Andy Adams, from the Growth Arc. Together they read through Life History and Multi-Partner Mating: A Novel Explanation for Moral Stigma Against Consensual Non-monogamy. The article uses a new categorization for CNM - either multi-partner or open relationship. And they exclude non-consensual non-monogamy (yay!). But was Life History Theory the best explanation for their findings? What does risk and romance have to do with one another? And do people assume the worst of one another?  This article was published in 2020, and was written by Mogilski, Justin &amp; Mitchell, Virginia &amp; Reeve, Simon &amp; Donaldson, Sarah &amp; Nicolas, Sylis &amp; Welling, Lisa. It was published in Frontiers in Psychology, 10 (10.3389/fpsyg.2019.03033).  The Growth Arc is an educational-based coaching program for your relationships needs - whether that’s a relationship with yourself, another person, or multiple people. You can find The Growth Arc on<a href="https://www.facebook.com/andy.thegrowtharc" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Facebook</a>,<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thegrowtharc/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Instagram</a>,<a href="https://twitter.com/thegrowtharc" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> twitter</a>, and of course at<a href="https://www.thegrowtharc.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.thegrowtharc.com/</a>. Life History Theory as presented by Claire draws on the library of resources found<a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/earth-and-planetary-sciences/life-history-theory" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> here</a> and you can find Sarah Hill’s interview on puberty and Life History Theory on the ‘<a href="https://www.herewearepodcast.com/episodes" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Here We Are</a>’ podcast episode 126. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

BONUS - Life History and Multi-Partner Mating

In this bonus episode, Sebastian is joined by special guest co-host Matthew Thomas, a polyamorous lawyer from Somerville, MA to talk about a recently passed ordinance which expands the definition of domestic partnership beyond two people. Not only is this an incredible step forward for poly people, but this ordinance is likely the first of its kind in the US. Join Matt and Sebastian as they talk about how this came to be and what it might mean for us going forward. Additional resources: The Poly-friendly directory of legal professionals can be found here. Diana Adams, Esq. who's NYC firm specializes in family law can be found here. The ordinance in question can be viewed here. For another discussion on Polyamory and the Law, see here for ep 167 by the Multiamory pod. **Note: Matthew is a practicing lawyer in Massachussetts but is not an expert in family law. Our discussion is not meant to be legal advice, but a general discussion of the ordinance and its possible implications. If you need legal support or advice regarding polyamorous or non-traditional family structures please consult someone who specializes in this including those listed in the resources above. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In this bonus episode, Sebastian is joined by special guest co-host Matthew Thomas, a polyamorous lawyer from Somerville, MA to talk about a recently passed ordinance which expands the definition of domestic partnership beyond two people. Not only is this an incredible step forward for poly people, but this ordinance is likely the first of its kind in the US. Join Matt and Sebastian as they talk about how this came to be and what it might mean for us going forward. Additional resources: The Poly-friendly directory of legal professionals can be <a href="https://www.polyfriendly.org/list.php?category=Legal%20Professionals#USA-MA" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">found here</a>. Diana Adams, Esq. who's NYC firm specializes in family law can be <a href="http://www.dianaadamslaw.net/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">found here</a>. The ordinance in question can be <a href="http://jtforward2.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/2020-16-Domestic-Partnerships.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">viewed here</a>. For another discussion on Polyamory and the Law, <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/167-polyamory-and-the-law" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">see here for ep 167</a> by the Multiamory pod. **Note: Matthew is a practicing lawyer in Massachussetts but is not an expert in family law. Our discussion is not meant to be legal advice, but a general discussion of the ordinance and its possible implications. If you need legal support or advice regarding polyamorous or non-traditional family structures please consult someone who specializes in this including those listed in the resources above. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

BONUS - Somerville Domestic Partnerships

In chapter 18, Dossie and Janet are talking about a stereotypical if problematic entry point to non-monogamy. A person in a dyad (couple) has got involved with an outside lover, and this is the impetus for discussions about opening up your partnership to accommodate. Although neither of our hosts have come to polyamory this way, Claire and Sebastian take us through the quintessential moments of anger, discussion, guilt, and risk-taking that you might be experiencing as you begin to open up.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Serial monogamy is introduced in ‘Ep 4 - Slut Styles’ Guilt is explored in ep 239 of Multiamory Pod Information on Franklin Veaux can be found in this medium article, Anger as a helpful emotion - there is a great article to get your starter, and of course the noted ep 205 of Multiamory Pod For couples opening up for the first time, Claire begs you not to ask your new unicorn/third all your questions. Here are some polyam-friendly therapists/professionals for you to pay and use: The Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory, The Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP), The Open List, The Polyamory Loving More Member Professionals List, The “Meet our Experts” section of The Affirmative Couch.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In chapter 18, Dossie and Janet are talking about a stereotypical if problematic entry point to non-monogamy. A person in a dyad (couple) has got involved with an outside lover, and this is the impetus for discussions about opening up your partnership to accommodate. Although neither of our hosts have come to polyamory this way, Claire and Sebastian take us through the quintessential moments of anger, discussion, guilt, and risk-taking that you might be experiencing as you begin to open up.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Serial monogamy is introduced in <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/4---Slut-Styles-e4vd80" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">‘Ep 4 - Slut Styles’</a> Guilt is explored in <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/239-guilt-in-relationships" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ep 239 </a>of Multiamory Pod Information on Franklin Veaux can be found in this<a href="https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/on-light-and-shadow-polyamorys-metoo-411e0275c2fe?fbclid=IwAR1snRBCO7zeVjWpW9gPYVZ5XtSErRijnyprvY8zXrfj4SFxnng9SIQkwZk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> medium article</a>, Anger as a helpful emotion - there is a great <a href="https://uhs.berkeley.edu/sites/default/files/understanding_anger_0.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">article</a> to get your starter, and of course the noted <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/205-anger-is-for-good" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ep 205 </a>of Multiamory Pod For couples opening up for the first time, Claire begs you not to ask your new unicorn/third all your questions. Here are some polyam-friendly therapists/professionals for you to pay and use: The Polyamory-Friendly <a href="https://www.polyfriendly.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Professionals Directory</a>, The <a href="https://www.ncsfreedom.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Kink Aware Professionals Directory (KAP</a>), The <a href="http://openingup.net/open-list" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Open List</a>, The Polyamory Loving More Member<a href="https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Professionals List</a>, The “Meet our Experts” section of The <a href="https://affirmativecouch.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Affirmative Couch</a>.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

18 - Opening an Existing Relationship

This exercise is called ‘8 steps to win-win conflict resolution’ and is found in Chapter 17 of the Ethical Slut (3rd edition). For the full chapter, please see the full episode: Making Agreements (Ep17) and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to agree solutions for an issue in any relationship, and requires uninterrupted time with your partner(s) as well as a whiteboard or piece of paper.  This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

This exercise is called ‘8 steps to win-win conflict resolution’ and is found in Chapter 17 of the Ethical Slut (3rd edition). For the full chapter, please see the full episode: <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/17---Making-Agreements-efvtng" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Making Agreements (Ep17)</a> and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to agree solutions for an issue in any relationship, and requires uninterrupted time with your partner(s) as well as a whiteboard or piece of paper.  This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> @polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">claireltravers </a>and @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, facebook and Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Minisode: 8 steps to win-win conflict resolution

Claire and Sebastain, 2 polyamorous people, are talking about making agreements. After fangirling over a great definition of consent - ‘the active collaboration for the pleasure and well-being of all concerned’- Claire and Sebastain talk about the power of making explicit our agreements. Avoiding legalistic hair splitting, moral condemnation, manipulation, and loophole-finding and figure out how to start making the agreements you need to open up your relationship. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments.  Show Notes: Social Contact Theory is well introduced in Ethics in Law Enforcement by Steve McCartney and Rick Parent  The difference between agreements and rules by poly coach. Kitchen Table Polyamory is defined in Jess Mahler’s 2016 article. One Penis Policy is described here as a version of Polygyny   ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Claire and Sebastain, 2 polyamorous people, are talking about making agreements. After fangirling over a great definition of consent - ‘the active collaboration for the pleasure and well-being of all concerned’- Claire and Sebastain talk about the power of making explicit our agreements. Avoiding legalistic hair splitting, moral condemnation, manipulation, and loophole-finding and figure out how to start making the agreements you need to open up your relationship. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Social Contact Theory is well introduced in <a href="https://opentextbc.ca/ethicsinlawenforcement/chapter/2-9-social-contract-theory/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ethics in Law Enforcement</a> by Steve McCartney and Rick Parent  The difference between agreements and rules by <a href="https://poly-coach.com/polyamory-support/rules-vs-agreements-with-multiple-loves/#:~:text=Creating%20an%20agreement%20with%20someone,created%20from%20an%20outside%20force." rel="nofollow" target="_blank">poly coach</a>. Kitchen Table Polyamory is defined in <a href="https://jessmahler.com/kitchen-table-polyamory-parallel-polyamory-etiquette/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess Mahler’s 2016 article</a>. One Penis Policy is described <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201601/the-one-penis-policy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here </a>as a version of Polygyny  --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

17 - Making Agreements

This exercise is called ‘Feelings Dyad’ and is found in Chapter 16 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Embracing Conflict (ep 16) and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to share your feelings in a safe and open way and requires about 30-45 minutes of uninterrupted time with a partner. This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

This exercise is called ‘Feelings Dyad’ and is found in Chapter 16 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/16---Embracing-Conflict-efn6ud" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Embracing Conflict (ep 16)</a> and don’t forget to rate and review and subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise provides a useful framework to share your feelings in a safe and open way and requires about 30-45 minutes of uninterrupted time with a partner. This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> @polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">claireltravers </a>and @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, facebook and Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Minisode: Feelings Dyad

The Academic Non-Monogamous podcast, reading the texts that have shaped our community and culture. BOOKS! In Season one, Sebastian and Claire are closely reading The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton [3rd edition] chapter by chapter, discussing the ideas in an unabridged way, adding extra info where needed, and suggesting extra readings. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Claire and Sebastian are talking about conflict in intimate relationships. We have probably learnt that conflict is bad, and we don't usually spend a lot of time thinking about how we behave in and after conflicts. Dossie and Janet contend that conflict is actually a good thing, giving us opportunities to learn more about each other and ourselves. If you are polyamorous/non-monogamous there are going to be more times for conflict to crop up because more people are involved, and will have less practice and support for resolving them. In this episode, we talk about about how to act better in a fight or disagreement. What is the difference between venting and constructive disagreement? How do you avoid triggering each other? What are some quick communication tool to upgrade your conflict communication inc a time out, i-messages and journaling? Check out our minisode for this chapter's homework here! You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments.  Show notes: Multiamory offer a wonderful crash course in ep 151, here, and also cover toxic habits in relationships in ep 223, here. Brene Brown Netflix Special: The Call to Courage The Intimate Enemy: How to Fight Fair in Love and Marriage, by George Robert Bach, Peter Wyden  Non-violent Communication: A Language of Life  by Marshall B. Rosenberg Use You're Words by Dr Stephanie K Webb See Ep 8: Abundance here  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Claire and Sebastian are talking about conflict in intimate relationships. We have probably learnt that conflict is bad, and we don't usually spend a lot of time thinking about how we behave in and after conflicts. Dossie and Janet contend that conflict is actually a good thing, giving us opportunities to learn more about each other and ourselves. If you are polyamorous/non-monogamous there are going to be more times for conflict to crop up because more people are involved, and will have less practice and support for resolving them. In this episode, we talk about about how to act better in a fight or disagreement. What is the difference between venting and constructive disagreement? How do you avoid triggering each other? What are some quick communication tool to upgrade your conflict communication inc a time out, i-messages and journaling? Check out our minisode for this chapter's homework <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/Minisode-Feelings-Dyad-efvfs9" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>! You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show notes: Multiamory offer a wonderful crash course in ep 151, <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/151-conflict" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and also cover toxic habits in relationships in ep 223, <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/223-six-secretly-toxic-relationship-behaviors" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Brene Brown Netflix Special: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;rct=j&amp;q=&amp;esrc=s&amp;source=web&amp;cd=&amp;cad=rja&amp;uact=8&amp;ved=2ahUKEwi16KT4lpLqAhUYHM0KHYv6D-YQFjAAegQIAhAB&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.netflix.com%2Ftitle%2F81010166&amp;usg=AOvVaw1Nq2Zwblkgr0OliE59xxHN" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Call to Courage</a> <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/703328.The_Intimate_Enemy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Intimate E</a>nemy: How to Fight Fair in Love and Marriage, by George Robert Bach, Peter Wyden  <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/71730.Nonviolent_Communication" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Non-violent Communication</a>: A Language of Life  by Marshall B. Rosenberg <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/49684668-use-your-words" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Use You're Words</a> by Dr Stephanie K Webb See Ep 8: Abundance <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/8---Abundance-e6e0t6" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

16 - Embracing Conflict

This exercise is called ‘Treasures’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed to help you and your partner(s) to remember the good stuff. You will need a pen and paper and access to one or more of your partners. This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

This exercise is called ‘Treasures’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed to help you and your partner(s) to remember the good stuff. You will need a pen and paper and access to one or more of your partners. This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Minisode: Treasures

This exercise is called ’15 ways to be kind to yourself’and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed to help you, the reader, to identify easy ways that you can self-sooth. You will need a pen and some index cards to get involved! This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

This exercise is called ’15 ways to be kind to yourself’and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed to help you, the reader, to identify easy ways that you can self-sooth. You will need a pen and some index cards to get involved! This exercise is ©by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Minisode: 15 ways to be kind to yourself

This exercise is called ‘Reassurance’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed for you, the reader, to consider how you would like your partner(s) to take care of you when times are hard. For this exercise you will need a pen and paper and access to one or more of your partners. This exercise is © by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

This exercise is called ‘Reassurance’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This exercise is designed for you, the reader, to consider how you would like your partner(s) to take care of you when times are hard. For this exercise you will need a pen and paper and access to one or more of your partners. This exercise is © by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Minisode: Reassurance

This exercise is called ‘How do you experience jealousy?’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This is an exercise designed to facilitate introspection about some very difficult thoughts. You will need a pen and some paper to follow along. This exercise is © by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages, who you can find on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou.  Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth.  Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

This exercise is called ‘How do you experience jealousy?’ and is found in Chapter 15 of the Ethical Slut third edition. If you want about the full chapter, please see the full episode: Roadmaps through Jealousy (ep 15) and don’t forget to rate and review a subscribe to Poly Pages for more content. This is an exercise designed to facilitate introspection about some very difficult thoughts. You will need a pen and some paper to follow along. This exercise is © by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy and is shared here under the exceptions related to teaching. This is a non-commodified resource produced by Poly Pages, who you can find on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>.  Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth.  Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Minisode: How do you experience jealousy?

As Part Three kicks off,  Claire and Sebastian talk through Chapter 15 and it's all about the green-eyed monster: what is jealousy? why is it scary? should we avoid it or learn how to work with it? This episode is packed full of excellent resources on how to speak about jealousy, how to self-sooth when you are experiencing it, and how to exercise sharing jealousy safely. Claire also rants about the way jealousy is depicted in mono-culture, and Sebastian talks us through the 'relationship escalator'.  Don't forget to check for homework exercises in mini-sodes! 15.1, 15.2, 15.3, 15.4 You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Check out Probably Poly live show on Jealousy here Check out Multiamory podcast, ep 217 on the Science of Jealousy here and ep 110 on Deconstructing Jealousy here Some other good resources are given on the Affirmative Couch blog post here--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

As Part Three kicks off,  Claire and Sebastian talk through Chapter 15 and it's all about the green-eyed monster: what is jealousy? why is it scary? should we avoid it or learn how to work with it? This episode is packed full of excellent resources on how to speak about jealousy, how to self-sooth when you are experiencing it, and how to exercise sharing jealousy safely. Claire also rants about the way jealousy is depicted in mono-culture, and Sebastian talks us through the 'relationship escalator'.  Don't forget to check for homework exercises in mini-sodes! <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/Minisode-How-do-you-experience-jealousy-efcm4g" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">15.1</a>, <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/Minisode-Reassurance-efcm70" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">15.2</a>, <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/Minisode-15-ways-to-be-kind-to-yourself-efcm85" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">15.3</a>, <a href="https://anchor.fm/polypages/episodes/Minisode-Treasures-efcm9o" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">15.4</a> You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - hello@polypages.org - for any questions or comments. Show Notes: Check out Probably Poly live show on Jealousy <a href="https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-30-jealousy-live-at-apw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> Check out Multiamory podcast, ep 217 on the Science of Jealousy <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/215-the-science-of-jealousy?rq=jealousy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> and ep 110 on Deconstructing Jealousy <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/110-deconstructing-jealousy?rq=jealousy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> Some other good resources are given on the Affirmative Couch blog post <a href="https://affirmativecouch.com/managing-jealousy-in-a-polyamorous-relationship/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>--- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

15 - Roadmaps through Jealousy

Claire and Sebastian slide into your feed to give you a little status update.  After six months of hiatus, Poly Pages is ramping up to release Part Three of Season One entitled "Navigating Challenges". And we are giving you plenty of time to dust off your copy of The Ethical Slut and get ready! Check out the chapter-by-chapter recap on our Instagram @polypages, and look out for Part Three coming soon! And as a special thank you for bearing with us, we leave you with the complete cut of Curtains by Mint Green, which you usually hear in our intro/outro. Mint Green can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. We highly recommend purchasing their entire EP Growth. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Claire and Sebastian slide into your feed to give you a little status update.  After six months of hiatus, Poly Pages is ramping up to release Part Three of Season One entitled "Navigating Challenges". And we are giving you plenty of time to dust off your copy of The Ethical Slut and get ready! Check out the chapter-by-chapter recap on our Instagram @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">polypages</a>, and look out for Part Three coming soon! And as a special thank you for bearing with us, we leave you with the complete cut of Curtains by Mint Green, which you usually hear in our intro/outro. Mint Green can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. We highly recommend purchasing their entire EP Growth. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

STATUS UPDATE

In this bonus episode, we are joined by special guest co-host Jenelle Marie Pierce of The STI Project: Breaking the Stigma®, to discuss whether non-monogamy agreements can improve ones perceived sense of sexual self-control, and therefore make us more likely to engage in condom negotiation and use. And boy, do we get in it!  Reading a fantastic article by David L Rodrigues, Diniz Lopes and Terri D. Conley, first published February 13, 2019. This can be found on Taylor &amp; Francis Online here.  You can find more about Jenelle on here instagram @thestiproject, at the Herpes Activist Network (HANDS) and at her current bylines on O.School, SELF, HepatitisC.net, Kinkly, PornHub’s Sexual Wellness Center, and Allure. We also encourage you to check out PositiveSingles.com.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In this bonus episode, we are joined by special guest co-host Jenelle Marie Pierce of The STI Project: Breaking the Stigma®, to discuss whether non-monogamy agreements can improve ones perceived sense of sexual self-control, and therefore make us more likely to engage in condom negotiation and use. And boy, do we get in it!  Reading a fantastic article by David L Rodrigues, Diniz Lopes and Terri D. Conley, first published February 13, 2019. This can be found on Taylor &amp; Francis Online here.  You can find more about Jenelle on here instagram @thestiproject, at the Herpes Activist Network (HANDS) and at her current bylines on O.School, SELF, <a href="http://HepatitisC.net" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HepatitisC.net</a>, Kinkly, PornHub’s Sexual Wellness Center, and Allure. We also encourage you to check out <a href="http://PositiveSingles.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">PositiveSingles.com</a>.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

BONUS - Non-monogamy agreements and safer sex behaviors 

In this freestanding bonus episode, Claire and Sebastian are joined by special guest co-host Michael Hagg to discuss whether Polyamory is an identity, intimate practice or sexual orientation. In their 2014  article, Kleese surveys academic and activist discussions on sexual orientation and traces contradictory voices in current debates on polyamory.  While some consider polyamory to be nothing more than a convenient label for their current relationship constellations or a handy tool for communicating their willingness to enter more than one relationship at a time, others claim it as one of their core identities. But is there something political in using sexual orientation language? Could polyamory join the LGBTQIA+ movement? And how much do labels actually help us in the first place? Polyamory: Intimate practice, identity or sexual orientation? by Christian Klesse was first published February 5, 2014. This can be found on Sage Pub here. We also mention another Kleese article in this episode, regarding 'slippery slope' arguments made about polyamory, which can be found here.  To hear more from Michael Haff, we urge you to check out Probably Poly! For more on the Young Poly Carolinas you can see their facebook here, or listen to their Probably Poly guest episode here.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In this freestanding bonus episode, Claire and Sebastian are joined by special guest co-host Michael Hagg to discuss whether Polyamory is an identity, intimate practice or sexual orientation. In their 2014  article, Kleese surveys academic and activist discussions on sexual orientation and traces contradictory voices in current debates on polyamory.  While some consider polyamory to be nothing more than a convenient label for their current relationship constellations or a handy tool for communicating their willingness to enter more than one relationship at a time, others claim it as one of their core identities. But is there something political in using sexual orientation language? Could polyamory join the LGBTQIA+ movement? And how much do labels actually help us in the first place? Polyamory: Intimate practice, identity or sexual orientation? by Christian Klesse was first published February 5, 2014. This can be found on Sage Pub <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1363460713511096?journalCode=sexa" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. We also mention another Kleese article in this episode, regarding 'slippery slope' arguments made about polyamory, which can be found <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2017.1373264" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  To hear more from Michael Haff, we urge you to check out <a href="https://www.probablypoly.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Probably Poly</a>! For more on the Young Poly Carolinas you can see their facebook <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/343874912834559" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, or listen to their Probably Poly guest episode <a href="https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-39-let-s-talk-young-poly-carolinas" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

BONUS - Polyamory as Identity, Sexual Orientation, or Intimate Practice

In Chapter 14, Childrearing, Claire and Sebastian cover media representation of multi-parent households, how to talk to your kids about sex and non-monogamy, and how to navigate entering and exiting family structures as a solo-poly. But there is an elephant in the room but not in the book - culture. Claire talks about childrearing in polyamorous units across Eastern Africa and Sebastian explains how culture influences sex ed. To finish up this chapter, and Part Two of The Ethical Slut, we talk about Wonderwomen and the polycule that birthed her.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Music is provided by @mintgreenmusic. Show Notes:  A brief history of television and diverse family portrayal can be found here. The articles Sebastian mentioned discussing whether raising children in polyamorous households is beneficial can be found: in this article in Psychology Today, this Vice article, and this Reddit thread. There are many other articles and editorials out there.  The articles Claire speaks about on multi-parent households in Eastern Africa can be found here and here. The a specific discussion based on studies in Tanzania can be found here, and the rebuttal can be found here. Children’s books that are referenced here are: ‘Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ by J Sanders and These are My Eyes, This is My Nose, This is My Vulva, These are My Toes by Lexx Brown James Check out Sex Positive Families on Instagram for sex positive resources, booklists, podcasts and blogs. Healthline offers a platform for queer sex-ed, available here. An interesting article on the ways your family can protect multi-parent living a rights-based way is found on LGBT Bar here. Other podcast episodes to check out: The Multiamory podcast, episode 171, is available here, on raising children featuring E Sheff. The KNP podcast, episode 4, is available here, on Prof Marston and Wonderwomen. For more on the Dominance Submission model of behavior pioneered by Marston please see the history of DiSC.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In Chapter 14, Childrearing, Claire and Sebastian cover media representation of multi-parent households, how to talk to your kids about sex and non-monogamy, and how to navigate entering and exiting family structures as a solo-poly. But there is an elephant in the room but not in the book - culture. Claire talks about childrearing in polyamorous units across Eastern Africa and Sebastian explains how culture influences sex ed. To finish up this chapter, and Part Two of The Ethical Slut, we talk about Wonderwomen and the polycule that birthed her.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Music is provided by <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. Show Notes:  A brief history of television and diverse family portrayal can be found <a href="https://family.jrank.org/pages/1680/Television-Family-Portrayal-Family-on-Television.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. The articles Sebastian mentioned discussing whether raising children in polyamorous households is beneficial can be found: in <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-without-limits/201103/polyamory-and-children" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this article in Psychology Today</a>, <a href="https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/9bgy5z/i-grew-up-in-a-polyamorous-household-528" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this Vice article</a>, and <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/8lrl77/children_of_polyamorouspolygamist_parents_how_was/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this Reddit thread</a>. There are many other articles and editorials out there.  The articles Claire speaks about on multi-parent households in Eastern Africa can be found <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24222395/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> and <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4785970/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. The a specific discussion based on studies in Tanzania can be found <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15386215/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and the rebuttal can be found <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/26504213/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Children’s books that are referenced here are: ‘<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17293367-some-secrets-should-never-be-kept" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ by J Sanders</a> and <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/42977560-these-are-my-eyes-this-is-my-nose-this-is-my-vulva-these-are-my-toes" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">These are My Eyes, This is My Nose, This is My Vulva, These are My Toes by Lexx Brown James</a> Check out <a href="https://linktr.ee/sexpositive_families" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sex Positive Families</a> on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sexpositive_families/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> for sex positive resources, booklists, podcasts and blogs. Healthline offers a platform for queer sex-ed, available <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health-news/sex-ed-platform-for-people-schools-leave-out#1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. An interesting article on the ways your family can protect multi-parent living a rights-based way is found on LGBT Bar <a href="https://lgbtbar.org/bar-news/what-polyamorous-multi-parent-families-should-do-to-protect-their-rights/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Other podcast episodes to check out: The Multiamory podcast, episode 171, is available <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/171-family-children-eli-sheff" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, on raising children featuring E Sheff. The KNP podcast, episode 4, is available <a href="https://knppodcast.com/2019/02/26/episode-4-professor-marston-and-the-wonder-women/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, on Prof Marston and Wonderwomen. For more on the Dominance Submission model of behavior pioneered by Marston please see the history of <a href="https://www.discprofile.com/what-is-disc/history-of-disc/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">DiSC</a>. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

14 - Childrearing

This podcast is so engaging and genuine. I love listening and reading along! Thank you and keep up the good work

A must listen!

The Academic Non-Monogamous podcast, reading the texts that have shaped our community and culture. BOOKS! In Season one, Sebastian and Claire are closely reading The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton [3rd edition] chapter by chapter, discussing the ideas in an unabridged way, adding extra info where needed, and suggesting extra readings. Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

Poly Pages 

Back at it, Sebastian and Claire are still together in Boston because Claire has missed her flight! They talk about all the ways 'sluthood' has been expressed through the ages, and in different subcultures, and in the end, we feel less alone in our difference. We talk about being queer, coming out, and skillfully avoid explaining what pegging is whilst at the same time basically explaining to you what pegging is.     Show Notes  Wild Wild Country is a Netflix documentary series about the ‘guru’ behind the Rajneeshpuram community located in Wasco County, Oregon, and was release on Netflix in March 2018. The Indiewire overview can be read here. Peter Tupper, A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism. Rowman &amp; Littlefield, August 10, 2018. The author was interviewed by Sluts and Scholars in episode 80 available here. Peter also runs his own website called a History of BDSM. Sebastian references Terry Gould, The Lifestyle: a look at the erotic rites of swingers. (Vintage Canada, November 23, 1999.) However, has referred to the wrong war (Vietnam not WWII).  Allure offers a wonderful article on pegging your man, which you can find here. And for those that want to learn how, check out the Pegging 101 live webinar (22 Aug 2019) by Luna Matatas (get tickets here) or ask at your local adult toy store.  Claire was interviewed further on the theme of polyam cross-cultural dating by the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast (episode 66) which you can listen to here. Black and Poly can be visited here and is explored more in the next episode.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Back at it, Sebastian and Claire are still together in Boston because Claire has missed her flight! They talk about all the ways 'sluthood' has been expressed through the ages, and in different subcultures, and in the end, we feel less alone in our difference. We talk about being queer, coming out, and skillfully avoid explaining what pegging is whilst at the same time basically explaining to you what pegging is.    Show Notes  Wild Wild Country is a Netflix documentary series about the ‘guru’ behind the Rajneeshpuram community located in Wasco County, Oregon, and was release on Netflix in March 2018. The Indiewire overview can be read <a href="https://www.indiewire.com/2018/03/wild-wild-country-netflix-review-1201940304/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Peter Tupper, A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism. Rowman &amp; Littlefield, August 10, 2018. The author was interviewed by <a href="https://slutsscholars.libsyn.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sluts and Scholars</a> in episode 80 available <a href="http://slutsscholars.libsyn.com/episode-080" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Peter also runs his own website called a <a href="http://historyofbdsm.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">History of BDSM</a>. Sebastian references Terry Gould, The Lifestyle: a look at the erotic rites of swingers. (Vintage Canada, November 23, 1999.) However, has referred to the wrong war (Vietnam not WWII).  Allure offers a wonderful article on pegging your man, which you can find <a href="https://www.allure.com/story/pegging-with-strap-on-fetish-guide" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. And for those that want to learn how, check out the Pegging 101 live webinar (22 Aug 2019) by Luna Matatas (get tickets <a href="http://lunamatatas.com/sexywebinars/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>) or ask at your local adult toy store.  Claire was interviewed further on the theme of polyam cross-cultural dating by the <a href="https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Normalizing Non-Monogamy</a> podcast (episode 66) which you can listen to <a href="https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/single-post/episode66" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Black and Poly can be visited <a href="http://blackandpoly.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> and is explored more in the next episode. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

4 - Slut Styles

Claire and Sebastian connect long distance to discuss the many different ways we relate to one another.  From monkish celibacy to orgies to multiple life partners, there are so many way to practice intentional relationships it's almost overwhelming. But Claire and Sebastian still find something missing and talk about political anarchy, metamours and the relationship escalator. This episode was our first recorded long-distance with Claire in Cambridge, UK and Sebastian still stateside.  Show Notes: The relationship between Kiney’s infamous ‘X’ category to modern day asexuality is explore by Justin J. Lehmiller (2017) by the The Psychology of Human Sexuality. John Wiley &amp; Sons. Asexual flag as per the Asexual Visibility and Education Network found here. Also see the Trevor Project here. We will not give airtime to discussing this particular sub-section of celibate persons given the recent terror attacks on women. We recommend episode 120 of the podcast Reply All, which cover the history of the ‘InvCEL’ or ‘InCEL’ community. Relationship Anarchy was introduced by Andie Nordgren as a political manifesto. See here. It was also used in 2010 Open Con and in 2013 by Dr Meg-John Barker in her lecture ‘Rewriting the Rules: Non/monogamies’. Solo-poly is outlined well in an article by Polyamory Today on Medium, written by Shannon Ashley and available here. Poly Wanna Podcast discuss the Relationship Escalator in episode 14. For more on the difference between Prescriptive and Descriptive Hierarchy see this fun post by Chelsey Dagger on Polyfor.us Metamour is introduced by Polyamory School on Medium and can be found here.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Claire and Sebastian connect long distance to discuss the many different ways we relate to one another.  From monkish celibacy to orgies to multiple life partners, there are so many way to practice intentional relationships it's almost overwhelming. But Claire and Sebastian still find something missing and talk about political anarchy, metamours and the relationship escalator. This episode was our first recorded long-distance with Claire in Cambridge, UK and Sebastian still stateside.  Show Notes: The relationship between Kiney’s infamous ‘X’ category to modern day asexuality is explore by Justin J. Lehmiller (2017) by the <a href="https://www.wiley.com/en-us/The+Psychology+of+Human+Sexuality%2C+2nd+Edition-p-9781119164708" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Psychology of Human Sexuality. John Wiley &amp; Sons</a>. Asexual flag as per the Asexual Visibility and Education Network found <a href="http://wiki.asexuality.org/Asexual_flag" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Also see the Trevor Project <a href="https://www.thetrevorproject.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. We will not give airtime to discussing this particular sub-section of celibate persons given the recent terror attacks on women. We recommend <a href="https://gimletmedia.com/shows/reply-all/emh82l" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">episode 120</a> of the podcast Reply All, which cover the history of the ‘InvCEL’ or ‘InCEL’ community. Relationship Anarchy was introduced by Andie Nordgren as a political manifesto. See <a href="https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. It was also used in 2010 Open Con and in 2013 by Dr Meg-John Barker in her lecture ‘Rewriting the Rules: Non/monogamies’. Solo-poly is outlined well in an article by Polyamory Today on Medium, written by Shannon Ashley and available <a href="https://medium.com/polyamory-today/so-i-guess-im-solo-poly-2f5ab8ce0b90" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Poly Wanna Podcast discuss the Relationship Escalator in <a href="http://www.mockingbirdnetwork.com/polywanna/2017/2/15/episode-14-the-relationship-escalator" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">episode 14</a>. For more on the difference between Prescriptive and Descriptive Hierarchy see this fun post by Chelsey Dagger on <a href="http://polyfor.us/who-comes-first-difference-prescriptive-descriptive-hierarchy/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Polyfor.us</a> Metamour is introduced by Polyamory School on Medium and can be found <a href="https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/free-chapter-metamours-2ddb7ad6a8e0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

7 - Infinite Possibilities

Claire and Sebastian dive into Part Two of the Ethical Slut, and in Chapter 8 we tackle Abundance. There is more than you need! Unpacking the imagined fear of starvation, we find that sex, love, friendship and support are probably never going run out if we all just chill a little bit. When talking about finite resources such as time, money, space and stuff, we offer some helpful anecdotes about how to navigate and overcome those limitations. And what about sex? The biological limitations of our bodies require us to rework our definition of sex and intimacy. We finish up with our snapshot of the Oneida Community - an original hub of abundant love, support and nurturing.   Show notes The quote from Lynne Twist is taken from her book – The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life, which is reviewed on goodreads.com here. Recommended reading for attachment theory: Understanding Attachment and Attachment Disorders: Theory, Evidence and Practice in Child and Adolescent Mental Health (by Vivien Prior and Danya Glaser, 2006) on Amazon here. NRE is explained wonderfully in the Probably Poly Podcast episode 29.  Tips for safely sharing sex toys can be found here, courtesy of Refinery29.com On the folly of orgasm-centred loving, check out Humans In Love Podcast, episode 3. A beginning to understanding sex after PTSD check out Wear Your Voice. You can check out Oneida House here.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

Claire and Sebastian dive into Part Two of the Ethical Slut, and in Chapter 8 we tackle Abundance. There is more than you need! Unpacking the imagined fear of starvation, we find that sex, love, friendship and support are probably never going run out if we all just chill a little bit. When talking about finite resources such as time, money, space and stuff, we offer some helpful anecdotes about how to navigate and overcome those limitations. And what about sex? The biological limitations of our bodies require us to rework our definition of sex and intimacy. We finish up with our snapshot of the Oneida Community - an original hub of abundant love, support and nurturing.  Show notes The quote from Lynne Twist is taken from her book – The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life, which is reviewed on <a href="http://goodreads.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">goodreads.com</a> <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/185526.The_Soul_of_Money" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Recommended reading for attachment theory: Understanding Attachment and Attachment Disorders: Theory, Evidence and Practice in Child and Adolescent Mental Health (by Vivien Prior and Danya Glaser, 2006) on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Attachment-Disorders-Evidence-Adolescent/dp/1843102455" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. NRE is explained wonderfully in the Probably Poly Podcast episode <a href="https://www.probablypoly.com/post/episode-29-understanding-nre" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">29</a>.  Tips for safely sharing sex toys can be found <a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2016/07/116176/share-clean-sex-toys-vibrators-different-partners" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, courtesy of <a href="http://Refinery29.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Refinery29.com</a> On the folly of orgasm-centred loving, check out Humans In Love Podcast, episode <a href="https://www.zfstockill.com/sex-in-long-term-relationships/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">3</a>. A beginning to understanding sex after PTSD check out <a href="https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex/sex-and-ptsd" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Wear Your Voice</a>. You can check out Oneida House <a href="http://www.oneidacommunity.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

8 - Abundance

In Episode 9, Slut Skills, we look at Hardy and Dossie’s suggested tools for successful relationships. Claire uncovers the philosophical assumptions implied in this chapter, and we suggest some additions to our metaphorical toolbelt – saying sorry, defining words, forgiveness of others, assuming the best. Finishing up, Sebastian sets us all some affirmation-themed homework, and we talk about shame and curiosity.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. -- Show Notes Communication as a skill can be developed in many ways. An introduction to active listening and conscious talking is given here. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (1992) by Gary Chapman is available on Amazon here.  Zarnitsyn, A. (2015). The Cognitive Value of Fiction in Thought Experiments in Personal Identity. The Journal of Aesthetic Education, 49(2), 62-81. is available here.  Abuse is serious, real and there is support available. For an introduction to gaslighting please see this article by the National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you are affected by these, or fear someone you know is affected, please contact RAINN in the USA, and the National Domestic Violence Hotline in the UK.  For those interested in the theories of causation and emotions, we invite you to read the introduction to theories of emotions available here.  For an introduction into the role of shame in society, we invite you to read Nir, Bina (2018). The individual and society: the social role of shame in the Journal of Philosophical Criticism 1 (2):36-70. Available here.  Coria-Avila, Genaro A et al. “The role of orgasm in the development and shaping of partner preferences.” Socioaffective neuroscience &amp; psychology vol. 6 is available here.     ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In Episode 9, Slut Skills, we look at Hardy and Dossie’s suggested tools for successful relationships. Claire uncovers the philosophical assumptions implied in this chapter, and we suggest some additions to our metaphorical toolbelt – saying sorry, defining words, forgiveness of others, assuming the best. Finishing up, Sebastian sets us all some affirmation-themed homework, and we talk about shame and curiosity. You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. -- Show Notes Communication as a skill can be developed in many ways. An introduction to active listening and conscious talking is given <a href="https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-improve-communication-with-effective-listening-skills-1215157" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (1992) by Gary Chapman is available on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Five-Love-Languages-Heartfelt-Commitment/dp/1881273156" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  Zarnitsyn, A. (2015). The Cognitive Value of Fiction in Thought Experiments in Personal Identity. The Journal of Aesthetic Education, 49(2), 62-81. is available <a href="https://www.jstor.org/stable/10.5406/jaesteduc.49.2.0062?seq=1#page_scan_tab_contents" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  Abuse is serious, real and there is support available. For an introduction to gaslighting please see <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-gaslighting/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this article</a> by the National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you are affected by these, or fear someone you know is affected, please contact <a href="https://www.rainn.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RAINN </a>in the USA, and the <a href="http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">National Domestic Violence Hotline </a>in the UK.  For those interested in the theories of causation and emotions, we invite you to read the introduction to theories of emotions available <a href="https://www.iep.utm.edu/emotion/#H4" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  For an introduction into the role of shame in society, we invite you to read Nir, Bina (2018). The individual and society: the social role of shame in the Journal of Philosophical Criticism 1 (2):36-70. Available <a href="https://philpapers.org/rec/NIRTIA-2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here.</a> Coria-Avila, Genaro A et al. “The role of orgasm in the development and shaping of partner preferences.” Socioaffective neuroscience &amp; psychology vol. 6 is available <a href="Coria-Avila, Genaro A et al. “The role of orgasm in the development and shaping of partner preferences.” Socioaffective neuroscience &amp; psychology vol. 6 31815. 25 Oct. 2016, doi:10.3402/snp.v6.31815" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

9 - Slut Skills

**Trigger warning: In this episode we discuss consent in depth as well as violations of consent and different types of trauma. If this is something you aren’t comfortable hearing or thinking about, please don’t listen to this episode. Know that you are not alone, it will get better, and we love you. **  How can we build an intentional culture of consent? In Episode 6, Claire and Sebastian examine some of the barriers to and benefits of building just such a culture. This chapter examines consent not only from the perspective of polyamorous relationships, but also for any relationships and more broadly how to build a community culture of consent. Next, we discuss common reactions to breaches consent and why these are both unproductive and often damaging. Finally, the chapter explores the specific implications of a culture of consent on polyamory and we talk about how to encourage a consenting and open culture. The chapter ends with a vignette on love “Clean love is love without expectation.”  Show notes:  Claire’s suggested guides and readings to help with trauma:  Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists, by Suzette Boon, Onno van der Hart, Kathy Steele  Trust After Trauma - A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them, by Aphrodite T. Matsakis  Evicting The Perpetrator: A Male Survivor’s Guide for Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse, by Ken Singer  Overcoming Trauma and PTSD - A Workbook Integrating Skills from ACT, DBT, and CBT, by Sheela Raja  You can find iSurvivor by Wondery here.  Learn more about restorative justice in high schools in this article and this report by the WestEd Justice and Prevention Resource Center.  This recent article about Aziz Ansari talks about what happened and where it is at now. Aziz also talks about the situation in his recent Netflix special 'Right Now.'  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

**Trigger warning: In this episode we discuss consent in depth as well as violations of consent and different types of trauma. If this is something you aren’t comfortable hearing or thinking about, please don’t listen to this episode. Know that you are not alone, it will get better, and we love you. **  How can we build an intentional culture of consent? In Episode 6, Claire and Sebastian examine some of the barriers to and benefits of building just such a culture. This chapter examines consent not only from the perspective of polyamorous relationships, but also for any relationships and more broadly how to build a community culture of consent. Next, we discuss common reactions to breaches consent and why these are both unproductive and often damaging. Finally, the chapter explores the specific implications of a culture of consent on polyamory and we talk about how to encourage a consenting and open culture. The chapter ends with a vignette on love “Clean love is love without expectation.”  Show notes:  Claire’s suggested guides and readings to help with trauma:  <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9593379-coping-with-trauma-related-dissociation" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists, by Suzette Boon, Onno van der Hart, Kathy Steele </a> <a href="https://www.newharbinger.com/trust-after-trauma" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Trust After Trauma - A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them, by Aphrodite T. Matsakis </a> <a href="https://nearipress.org/press/product/evicting-the-perpetrator/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Evicting The Perpetrator: A Male Survivor’s Guide for Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse, by Ken Singer </a> <a href="https://www.newharbinger.com/overcoming-trauma-and-ptsd" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Overcoming Trauma and PTSD - A Workbook Integrating Skills from ACT, DBT, and CBT, by Sheela Raja </a> You can find iSurvivor by Wondery <a href="https://wondery.com/shows/i-survivor/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  Learn more about restorative justice in high schools in <a href="https://www.salon.com/2019/04/21/these-schools-use-restorative-justice-to-remedy-racial-disparities-in-discipline/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this article</a> and <a href="https://jprc.wested.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/1447101213resourcerestorativejusticeinusschoolssummaryfindingsfrominterviewswithexperts.pdf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this report</a> by the WestEd Justice and Prevention Resource Center.  <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/09/arts/television/aziz-ansari-netflix.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">This recent article</a> about Aziz Ansari talks about what happened and where it is at now. Aziz also talks about the situation in his recent Netflix special 'Right Now.' You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

6 - Building a Culture of Consent

As we dive into the murky waters of Chapter 10, Boundaries, Claire and Sebastian find themselves disappointed. A clear understanding of boundaries is fundamental to your health, happiness and your polyamory, and a hot topic in the community. So listen as our hosts attempt to paint a clear picture of what the authors are trying to say.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. _______ Show notes We strongly encourage you to listen to episode 178 of the Multiamory podcast, found here, in which they cover the basics of boundaries. Also see the short video by Relationship Anarchy here, on the difference between rules and boundaries.  Whilst we speak quickly on BDSM, it is important to note that the word 'boundary' and 'limit' have a specific meaning within kink scene play and negotiation and we do not cover this here. For more on this we suggest Perverted Podcast, found here. Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

As we dive into the murky waters of Chapter 10, Boundaries, Claire and Sebastian find themselves disappointed. A clear understanding of boundaries is fundamental to your health, happiness and your polyamory, and a hot topic in the community. So listen as our hosts attempt to paint a clear picture of what the authors are trying to say.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. _______ Show notes We strongly encourage you to listen to episode 178 of the Multiamory podcast, found <a href="https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/178-basics-boundaries" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, in which they cover the basics of boundaries. Also see the short video by Relationship Anarchy <a href="http://www.relationship-anarchy.com/videos/2016/4/27/boundaries-not-rules" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, on the difference between rules and boundaries.  Whilst we speak quickly on BDSM, it is important to note that the word 'boundary' and 'limit' have a specific meaning within kink scene play and negotiation and we do not cover this here. For more on this we suggest Perverted Podcast, found <a href="https://pervertedpodcast.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

10 - Boundaries 

In this freestanding bonus episode, Claire and Sebastian are joined by special guest co-host Michael Greer to discuss how masculinity is defined and challenged in non-monogamous spaces. In her 2006 article, Sheff explores the ways that polyamorous men, through their emotional expressions and management, are complicit with, subordinate to, and resistant of hegemonic codes of masculinity. But what elements of the hegemonic masculinity complex are carried into poly spaces?  Is emotional labour more egalitarian in non-mono spaces? How does the alpha male work when sexual monogamy is abandoned? Are men more 'woke' if they are poly? And what does all of this mean for the women who love them? Poly-Hegemonic Masculinities by Elisabeth Sheff was first published December 1, 2006. This can be found on Sage Pub here. For more from this author – which is a lot – please see her personal website here. NB: Sheff does not use the terms ‘toxic masculinity’ or ‘prototypical male’ in this article. Your hosts do use these in this episode to refer to different facets of Hegemonic Masculinity. We apologize for the confusion.   You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In this freestanding bonus episode, Claire and Sebastian are joined by special guest co-host Michael Greer to discuss how masculinity is defined and challenged in non-monogamous spaces. In her 2006 article, Sheff explores the ways that polyamorous men, through their emotional expressions and management, are complicit with, subordinate to, and resistant of hegemonic codes of masculinity. But what elements of the hegemonic masculinity complex are carried into poly spaces?  Is emotional labour more egalitarian in non-mono spaces? How does the alpha male work when sexual monogamy is abandoned? Are men more 'woke' if they are poly? And what does all of this mean for the women who love them? Poly-Hegemonic Masculinities by Elisabeth Sheff was first published December 1, 2006. This can be found on Sage Pub <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1363460706070004" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. For more from this author – which is a lot – please see her personal website <a href="https://elisabethsheff.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. NB: Sheff does not use the terms ‘toxic masculinity’ or ‘prototypical male’ in this article. Your hosts do use these in this episode to refer to different facets of Hegemonic Masculinity. We apologize for the confusion.  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

BONUS - Poly-Hegemonic Masculinities 

In Episode 5, Claire and Sebastian enumerate the multiple barriers to safe, positive sexual and romantic relationships. From the lack of legal support for consensual, multiple partner living to the shame we carry inside ourselves. From lack of access to comprehensive family planning, to cultural norms that slut shame and victim blame. It's a cruel world out there. This chapter concludes by discussing Easton and Hardy's through experiment - if sex workers were judged like any other workers - and explain the differences between decriminalization and legalization.  This chapter is prefaced by the end of Episode 4 - a spotlight on Black and Poly (can be visited here).  Show Notes Crystal (@crystalbfarmer) was interviewed on the NNM podcast (episode 38) which you can listen to here. Polyam sub-reddit can be accessed here. This edition of the Ethical Slut is informed by Dylan Miles Esq,  mediation and family lawyer who can be found here (although he is not at the time of release, taking on new clients). For DIY legal documents, the publishing company NOLO press. If you are a lawyer or legal academic able and willing to give advise, be featured on a guest episode, or wishing to expand or correct anything we have said on this episode please contact us on polypages@gmail.com. If you are a sex worker, former or current, and are able and willing to give advise, be featured on a guest episode, or wishing to expand or correct anything we have said on this episode please contact us on polypages@gmail.com. We expand on types of CNM in Episode 7 – Slut Styles. Disclaimer – the thought experiment at the end of the episode is led from the chapter and regarding sex work. We acknowledge our language is not politically correct in parts of this and promise this does not come from a place of judgement, hate or disrespect (obviously).  You can support Poly Pages on Instagram @polypages,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram @claireltravers and @sebastiandaou. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on bandcamp, facebook and Instagram: @mintgreenmusic. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments.  ---   Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support

In Episode 5, Claire and Sebastian enumerate the multiple barriers to safe, positive sexual and romantic relationships. From the lack of legal support for consensual, multiple partner living to the shame we carry inside ourselves. From lack of access to comprehensive family planning, to cultural norms that slut shame and victim blame. It's a cruel world out there. This chapter concludes by discussing Easton and Hardy's through experiment - if sex workers were judged like any other workers - and explain the differences between decriminalization and legalization.  This chapter is prefaced by the end of Episode 4 - a spotlight on Black and Poly (can be visited <a href="http://blackandpoly.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>). Show Notes Crystal (@<a href="https://twitter.com/crystalbfarmer?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">crystalbfarmer</a>) was interviewed on the NNM podcast (episode 38) which you can listen to <a href="https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/single-post/episode38?fbclid=IwAR2hJ17GXtwaEQYodkJAGqiTXU-5Jzg_i7bXI9kOo0grTVi65ia5AxIGpdk" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Polyam sub-reddit can be accessed <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. This edition of the Ethical Slut is informed by Dylan Miles Esq,  mediation and family lawyer who can be found <a href="http://www.milesfamilylaw.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> (although he is not at the time of release, taking on new clients). For DIY legal documents, the publishing company <a href="https://www.nolo.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">NOLO press</a>. If you are a lawyer or legal academic able and willing to give advise, be featured on a guest episode, or wishing to expand or correct anything we have said on this episode please contact us on <a href="mailto:polypages@gmail.com">polypages@gmail.com</a>. If you are a sex worker, former or current, and are able and willing to give advise, be featured on a guest episode, or wishing to expand or correct anything we have said on this episode please contact us on <a href="mailto:polypages@gmail.com">polypages@gmail.com</a>. We expand on types of CNM in Episode 7 – Slut Styles. Disclaimer – the thought experiment at the end of the episode is led from the chapter and regarding sex work. We acknowledge our language is not politically correct in parts of this and promise this does not come from a place of judgement, hate or disrespect (obviously). You can support Poly Pages on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/polypages/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@polypages</a>,. You can find your co-hosts on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/claireltravers/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@claireltravers</a> and <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sebastiandaou/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@sebastiandaou</a>. Our wonderful music is lovingly provided by the amazing Mint Green who can be found on <a href="https://mintgreenma.bandcamp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">bandcamp</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/MintGreenMusic/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">facebook </a>and Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mintgreenmusic/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@mintgreenmusic</a>. The track we use is Curtains from their EP Growth. Feel free to contact our email - polypages@gmail.com - for any questions or comments. --- Support this podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support" rel="payment nofollow" target="_blank">https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/polypages/support</a>

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