In order to give you the best content possible, the podcast will be transitioning to a season format instead of a weekly one. Here I explain a little bit of the reasons why, and I can't wait to start publishing episodes again this fall!

In order to give you the best content possible, the podcast will be transitioning to a season format instead of a weekly one. Here I explain a little bit of the reasons why, and I can't wait to start publishing episodes again this fall!

Announcement- see you in October!

How To Not Fight on Vacation Throwback

Understanding Adam and Eve's Marriage ft. Milkmaid's Honey

It’s Zach’s turn to take the mic as he gives husbands and fathers all the things he wishes he had known before pregnancy and parenthood. Zach takes this episode in three distinct sections: pregnancy, labor and birth, and parenthood.Zach reassures fathers-to-be that changes that occur  during pregnancy do go back to normal. Pregnancy brings a lot of changes, and it can feel like your wife isn’t the same person, but don’t worry, she’ll recover and be that person again. He talks about adjusting expectations with your wife’s diminished abilities to keep up with her normal routines and responsibilities. He also emphasizes the importance of helping your wife feel supported.Zach recommends taking some classes or watching birthing videos to prepare for the delivery. He also talks about setting expectations for the birth plan so dad knows how to best support mom, and process anxieties and emotions that can come to new fathers.Zach talks about some Brownie points for new fathers, and planning on how to help your wife with feeling supported post birth, from needing clothes, or how to help baby.For all things Dad-to-Be, check out episode 59! 

It’s Zach’s turn to take the mic as he gives husbands and fathers all the things he wishes he had known before pregnancy and parenthood. Zach takes this episode in three distinct sections: pregnancy, labor and birth, and parenthood.Zach reassures fathers-to-be that changes that occur  during pregnancy do go back to normal. Pregnancy brings a lot of changes, and it can feel like your wife isn’t the same person, but don’t worry, she’ll recover and be that person again. He talks about adjusting expectations with your wife’s diminished abilities to keep up with her normal routines and responsibilities. He also emphasizes the importance of helping your wife feel supported.Zach recommends taking some classes or watching birthing videos to prepare for the delivery. He also talks about setting expectations for the birth plan so dad knows how to best support mom, and process anxieties and emotions that can come to new fathers.Zach talks about some Brownie points for new fathers, and planning on how to help your wife with feeling supported post birth, from needing clothes, or how to help baby.For all things Dad-to-Be, check out episode 59!

Zach's Tips for Soon-To-Be Dads

Sofia Jacobsen

Grace brings back professional doula, Sofia Jacobsen, to talk about all things postpartum, and introduce Sofia’s new online course.Women are so amazing, and honoring our bodies after creating life is so important. Grace and Sofia cover everything from describing what is happening to the body from an anatomical perspective, to how to help recovery. They discuss the importance of proper nutrition and rest, and how that correlates with anthropological traditions.They also talk about the emotional needs of a mother. Sofia offers tips for communicating more effectively with your spouse. Communicating needs, emotions and even about intimacy can shift after postpartum. Grace and Sofia also discuss getting help from neighbors and in laws and how to communicate if that help is. . . less than helpful.Sofia also talks about the importance of building a support system of professionals.  Don’t miss this information packed episode! You can find Sofia on Instagram @themotherseed and at her website themotherseed.com!

Grace brings back professional doula, Sofia Jacobsen, to talk about all things postpartum, and introduce Sofia’s new online course.Women are so amazing, and honoring our bodies after creating life is so important. Grace and Sofia cover everything from describing what is happening to the body from an anatomical perspective, to how to help recovery. They discuss the importance of proper nutrition and rest, and how that correlates with anthropological traditions.They also talk about the emotional needs of a mother. Sofia offers tips for communicating more effectively with your spouse. Communicating needs, emotions and even about intimacy can shift after postpartum. Grace and Sofia also discuss getting help from neighbors and in laws and how to communicate if that help is. . . less than helpful.Sofia also talks about the importance of building a support system of professionals.  Don’t miss this information packed episode! You can find Sofia on Instagram @themotherseed and at her website <a href="http://themotherseed.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">themotherseed.com</a>!

Honoring Your Postpartum ft. Sofia Jacobsen

Scott Woolley

Grace welcomes back Dr. Scott Woolley for this week's episode to discuss negative patterns couples develop in dealing with conflict. Dr. Woolley introduces the three main patterns of fighting in marriage, "Find the Bad Guy," "The Protest Polka," and "Freeze and Flee".Grace and Dr. Woolley discuss why being able to identify the patterns in your own marriage allow you to change your perspective, and come together as a couple, or even individually start to address the patterns, to help change behaviors. They discuss how often, fights may seem to be about something surface level, but when actually addressed, can really about something much more vulnerable, such as self-worth, or feeling safe or supported in the relationship.They then discuss how to allow ourselves to become more vulnerable, by acknowledging surface emotions and defense mechanisms, to really address the true problems that cause conflict in a relationship. Dr. Woolley addresses how to ask the right questions about how to change behavior, by figuring out why the fights start, and how to address them differently. He gives ideas for battle plans for couples to work together to improve how they address conflict in their marriage, and cause less hurt during. Grace adds several ideas of conferences, classes or seminars to attend to help boost a couple's skills with these techniques:Hold Me Tight(er) Online Building a Lasting ConnectionJeremy Boden’s Newlywed Course

Grace welcomes back Dr. Scott Woolley for this week's episode to discuss negative patterns couples develop in dealing with conflict. Dr. Woolley introduces the three main patterns of fighting in marriage, "Find the Bad Guy," "The Protest Polka," and "Freeze and Flee".Grace and Dr. Woolley discuss why being able to identify the patterns in your own marriage allow you to change your perspective, and come together as a couple, or even individually start to address the patterns, to help change behaviors. They discuss how often, fights may seem to be about something surface level, but when actually addressed, can really about something much more vulnerable, such as self-worth, or feeling safe or supported in the relationship.They then discuss how to allow ourselves to become more vulnerable, by acknowledging surface emotions and defense mechanisms, to really address the true problems that cause conflict in a relationship. Dr. Woolley addresses how to ask the right questions about how to change behavior, by figuring out why the fights start, and how to address them differently. He gives ideas for battle plans for couples to work together to improve how they address conflict in their marriage, and cause less hurt during. Grace adds several ideas of conferences, classes or seminars to attend to help boost a couple's skills with these techniques: <a href="https://drsuejohnson.com/programs/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hold Me Tight(er) Online</a> <a href="https://www.buildingalastingconnection.com/locations/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Building a Lasting Connection</a> <a href="https://www.drjeremyboden.com/landing-page" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jeremy Boden’s Newlywed Course</a>

Demon Dialogues ft. Dr. Scott Woolley, PhD

Budgeting can be so hard, with every guru having a different system, and most of them are, well, complicated. This week I convinced Zach to come and share how we simplified and finally found a stable budgeting and saving system we've used for the last year and a half! Feeling in control of our money, and being able to communicate about our finances and savings goals is so helpful! Learn tips for prioritizing your savings goals, so that savings are meaningful, and not just saving to save. Learn tips to help fund your retirement, and diversify your finances a little. To use our referral to get a Capital One credit card, click here. Also, I forgot to mention this on the episode, but if you're looking for an approach to money that is NOT Dave Ramsey, I really like @deeperthanmoneyco on IG! Speaking of, my account is @gracewjensen, come hang out with me!If you enjoyed this episode, PLEASE rate and review on Apple Podcasts! It would mean so much to me!

Budgeting can be so hard, with every guru having a different system, and most of them are, well, complicated. This week I convinced Zach to come and share how we simplified and finally found a stable budgeting and saving system we've used for the last year and a half! Feeling in control of our money, and being able to communicate about our finances and savings goals is so helpful! Learn tips for prioritizing your savings goals, so that savings are meaningful, and not just saving to save. Learn tips to help fund your retirement, and diversify your finances a little. To use our referral to get a Capital One credit card, click <a href="https://capital.one/3u5JcdG" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.  Also, I forgot to mention this on the episode, but if you're looking for an approach to money that is NOT Dave Ramsey, I really like @deeperthanmoneyco on IG! Speaking of, my account is @gracewjensen, come hang out with me! If you enjoyed this episode, PLEASE rate and review on Apple Podcasts! It would mean so much to me!

How's That Budget Working For Ya?

I give you some fun (mostly) free summer date ideas according to what your spouse's love language is, and I also share a little idea of how to honor Memorial Day if you're feeling a little guilty for not honoring the day more!

I give you some fun (mostly) free summer date ideas according to what your spouse's love language is, and I also share a little idea of how to honor Memorial Day if you're feeling a little guilty for not honoring the day more!

Summer Love Language Date Ideas

What did I do this weekend that got me thinking about family history? What can family history teach you about your spouse? How can it improve your marriage? There's research about how knowing your family history influences you?!

What did I do this weekend that got me thinking about family history? What can family history teach you about your spouse? How can it improve your marriage? There's research about how knowing your family history influences you?!

Family History Has Scientific Benefits?!

Zach and I share our personal story of how we would get stuck in the criticism/defensiveness spiral with each other and how we got out of it, with a special emphasis on how recognizing your partner's strengths makes a big difference!IG: @gracewjensenUse code GRACE20 at www.meetjovi.com for $20 off!

Zach and I share our personal story of how we would get stuck in the criticism/defensiveness spiral with each other and how we got out of it, with a special emphasis on how recognizing your partner's strengths makes a big difference!IG: @gracewjensenUse code GRACE20 at <a href="http://www.meetjovi.com/discount/GRACE20?redirect=%2F%3Fafmc%3DGRACE20%26utm_campaign%3DGRACE20%26utm_source%3Dleaddyno%26utm_medium%3Daffiliate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.meetjovi.com</a> for $20 off!

The Criticism/Defensiveness Spiral Sucks

Being a newlywed can be such a fun time of life! But from personal experience, Grace Jensen knows that it can come with some pretty hard moments. With optimism but a willingness to discuss the serious stuff, Grace discusses all things newlywed, from the little, fun stuff to the big, important stuff.

Ep. 42. 
Unlistenable to in a car. Volume difference between host and guest is way too much.

Poor audio

Grace is so easy to listen to! I have loved everything I’ve heard on this podcast and think everyone needs to give it a listen. It’s my favorite podcast! Very real, super helpful advice.

So helpful

The Newlywed Show

Grace Jensen and her husband Zach discuss both the helpful conversations to have before having sex for the first time as well as things to keep in mind as you are further figuring out your sexual relationship together. They start by suggesting helpful conversations to have about your sexual conditioning and what the meaning of sex will be in your marriage, and then give more practical advice for the wedding night and honeymoon.They then cover how and when to have productive conversations about sex and important biological differences between men and women (Even some ones that will probably surprise you!). Considerations to make concerning sex during different phases of a woman's menstrual cycle and when trying to have a baby are also briefly covered.Resources:https://coconu.com/https://www.amazon.com/Slippery-Stuff-Personal-Lubricant-Soluble/dp/B00009Q95R

Grace Jensen and her husband Zach discuss both the helpful conversations to have before having sex for the first time as well as things to keep in mind as you are further figuring out your sexual relationship together. They start by suggesting helpful conversations to have about your sexual conditioning and what the meaning of sex will be in your marriage, and then give more practical advice for the wedding night and honeymoon. They then cover how and when to have productive conversations about sex and important biological differences between men and women (Even some ones that will probably surprise you!). Considerations to make concerning sex during different phases of a woman's menstrual cycle and when trying to have a baby are also briefly covered. Resources: <a href="https://coconu.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://coconu.com/</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Slippery-Stuff-Personal-Lubricant-Soluble/dp/B00009Q95R" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Slippery-Stuff-Personal-Lubricant-Soluble/dp/B00009Q95R</a>

To the Wedding Night, and Beyond!

Chelsea Petersen

Chelsea Peterson, a marriage and family therapist and owner of Cache Valley Counseling, joins Grace to discuss a long-awaited topic: how to understand and maneuver different levels of desire in the bedroom.Mrs. Peterson explains that partners differ in sexual desire far more often than not and that which partner is which can change (8:30). She then dives into the patterns that can arise when this situation is not handled well (12:05) and where the patterns can come from (18:20). (That’s when Good Girl Syndrome is explained.) Thankfully, Mrs. Peterson takes us through how to retrain our brains (31:00). The brake/gas pedal analogy is helpful in identifying what triggers changes in the bedroom (42:15). After the host and her guest go down a bunny trail about sex and  nursing (46:15), Mrs. Peterson helps us lessen judgement around sexual preferences (51:15). Grace reminds us of the long term nature of the sex game and the motivation behind working hard now (57:00). Next, Mrs. Peterson discusses how to maneuver life as a high-desire partner (60:25). In closing, Grace and Mrs. Peterson clarify that no one needs sex, but everyone needs emotional connection (82:45). Recommended resources on sex (the anatomy and relational sides) are as follows: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (on Amazon here)And It Was Very Good by Our Earthly Parents (on Amazon here or email Chelsea at info@cvcounselingservices.com for a free PDF)Attached by Amir Levine (on Amazon here)Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch (on Amazon here)“The Intimacy Podcast” with Rhonda Farr (link to Apple podcasts here) Instagram accounts:@kristinbhodson (website here)@finalysonfife (website here)@marriagelaboratory (website here). Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear from you! And a HUGE thank you to Cache Valley Counseling Services for connecting Grace with their therapists to bring information to you! You can reach them at https://www.cvcounselingservices.com/.You can also support the podcast by snatching up quality, trendy, comfy clothes with a 10% coupon. Check out with code “newlywedshow” at https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/ You can access more discounts and giveaways by joining the shop’s Facebook page, Alice Loves Clothes. 

Chelsea Peterson, a marriage and family therapist and owner of Cache Valley Counseling, joins Grace to discuss a long-awaited topic: how to understand and maneuver different levels of desire in the bedroom.Mrs. Peterson explains that partners differ in sexual desire far more often than not and that which partner is which can change (8:30). She then dives into the patterns that can arise when this situation is not handled well (12:05) and where the patterns can come from (18:20). (That’s when Good Girl Syndrome is explained.) Thankfully, Mrs. Peterson takes us through how to retrain our brains (31:00). The brake/gas pedal analogy is helpful in identifying what triggers changes in the bedroom (42:15). After the host and her guest go down a bunny trail about sex and  nursing (46:15), Mrs. Peterson helps us lessen judgement around sexual preferences (51:15). Grace reminds us of the long term nature of the sex game and the motivation behind working hard now (57:00). Next, Mrs. Peterson discusses how to maneuver life as a high-desire partner (60:25). In closing, Grace and Mrs. Peterson clarify that no one needs sex, but everyone needs emotional connection (82:45). Recommended resources on sex (the anatomy and relational sides) are as follows: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1E2INU22KJ6RI&amp;keywords=come+as+you+are+by+emily+nagowski&amp;qid=1571848541&amp;s=books&amp;sprefix=come+as+you+are+%2Cstripbooks%2C221&amp;sr=1-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>)And It Was Very Good by Our Earthly Parents (on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Was-Very-Good-Latter-day-Lovemaking-ebook/dp/B07NBSM2YY/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?keywords=and+it+was+very+good+by+our+earthly+parents&amp;qid=1571848584&amp;s=books&amp;sr=8-1-fkmr0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> or email Chelsea at info@cvcounselingservices.com for a free PDF)Attached by Amir Levine (on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2HOOY2442IR0D&amp;keywords=attached+amir+levine&amp;qid=1571848623&amp;sprefix=attached+amir%2Caps%2C187&amp;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>)Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch (on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Passionate-Marriage-Intimacy-Committed-Relationships/dp/0393334279/ref=sr_1_2?crid=CMS6MUHUGOYC&amp;keywords=passionate+marriage+by+david+schnarch&amp;qid=1571848654&amp;sprefix=passionate+marriage%2Caps%2C345&amp;sr=8-2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>)“The Intimacy Podcast” with Rhonda Farr (link to Apple podcasts <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intimacy-podcast/id1439013011" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>) Instagram accounts:@kristinbhodson (website <a href="https://www.kristinbhodson.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>)@finalysonfife (website <a href="http://www.finlayson-fife.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>)@marriagelaboratory (website <a href="https://www.marriagelaboratory.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>). Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear from you! And a HUGE thank you to Cache Valley Counseling Services for connecting Grace with their therapists to bring information to you! You can reach them at <a href="https://www.cvcounselingservices.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.cvcounselingservices.com/</a>.You can also support the podcast by snatching up quality, trendy, comfy clothes with a 10% coupon. Check out with code “newlywedshow” at <a href="https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/</a> You can access more discounts and giveaways by joining the shop’s Facebook page, Alice Loves Clothes.

So One of You Wants Sex More Than the Other ft. Chelsea Petersen, LMFT

John Brailsford

Dr. John Brailsford, therapist of twenty years, comes onto the show to discuss how unhealthy relationship dynamics often form when a spouse is struggling with pornography and how to replace them with healthy dynamics. They start off by discussing the different reasons why men and women can become involved in pornography (14:10). Grace suggests that pornography use is a spectrum, to which Dr. Brailsford agrees (18:40). For more information on why pornography can be damaging, check out https://fightthenewdrug.org/.He then describes the typical reaction of a spouse discovering their partner’s pornography use (28:50), and shares that this reaction is the biggest indicator of the relationship’s proceeding health (32:30). Simply put, for the benefit of everyone, compassion is key (33:50). During this discussion Grace mentions The Betrayed, the Addicted, and the Expert podcast and ACT therapy, which introduced the idea to Grace of being a spouse in accordance with your values (44:00).The two then focus on the response of the spouse discovered (47:30). Dr. Brailsford expounds upon the differences gender energies can make in this scenario (48:00). He then lists various triggers and factors in pornography use (59:40).Next, Dr. Brailsford shares his recommendation on what to do now that both partners are aware of the addiction (64:00). They spend a significant amount of time detailing the mindset needed for healing and growth (67:00). His final message is that doing your best as an individual to heal your relationship is far more important than whether the relationship is saved in the end (78:40). And a HUGE thank you to Cache Valley Counseling Services for connecting Grace with their therapists to bring information to you! You can reach them at https://www.cvcounselingservices.com/.Check out our sponsors for today’s episode: Shop Little Honey. This mom-run boutique has just introduced the latest thing the people want: a bow subscription! You can get a wide variety of fun, themed bows for just $12.99 a month. Check it out at https://www.shoplittlehoney.com/.You can also support the podcast by snatching up quality, trendy, comfy clothes with a 10% coupon. Check out with code “newlywedshow” at https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/ You can access more discounts and giveaways by joining the shop’s Facebook page, Alice Loves Clothes.Another way to support this podcast is to follow it on Instagram @thenewlywedshow. Sharing an episode with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would also be appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Thank you!

Dr. John Brailsford, therapist of twenty years, comes onto the show to discuss how unhealthy relationship dynamics often form when a spouse is struggling with pornography and how to replace them with healthy dynamics. They start off by discussing the different reasons why men and women can become involved in pornography (14:10). Grace suggests that pornography use is a spectrum, to which Dr. Brailsford agrees (18:40). For more information on why pornography can be damaging, check out <a href="https://fightthenewdrug.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://fightthenewdrug.org/</a>.He then describes the typical reaction of a spouse discovering their partner’s pornography use (28:50), and shares that this reaction is the biggest indicator of the relationship’s proceeding health (32:30). Simply put, for the benefit of everyone, compassion is key (33:50). During this discussion Grace mentions <a href="https://www.betrayedaddictedexpert.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Betrayed, the Addicted, and the Expert podcast</a> and ACT therapy, which introduced the idea to Grace of being a spouse in accordance with your values (44:00).The two then focus on the response of the spouse discovered (47:30). Dr. Brailsford expounds upon the differences gender energies can make in this scenario (48:00). He then lists various triggers and factors in pornography use (59:40).Next, Dr. Brailsford shares his recommendation on what to do now that both partners are aware of the addiction (64:00). They spend a significant amount of time detailing the mindset needed for healing and growth (67:00). His final message is that doing your best as an individual to heal your relationship is far more important than whether the relationship is saved in the end (78:40). And a HUGE thank you to Cache Valley Counseling Services for connecting Grace with their therapists to bring information to you! You can reach them at <a href="https://www.cvcounselingservices.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.cvcounselingservices.com/</a>.Check out our sponsors for today’s episode: Shop Little Honey. This mom-run boutique has just introduced the latest thing the people want: a bow subscription! You can get a wide variety of fun, themed bows for just $12.99 a month. Check it out at <a href="https://www.shoplittlehoney.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.shoplittlehoney.com/</a>. You can also support the podcast by snatching up quality, trendy, comfy clothes with a 10% coupon. Check out with code “newlywedshow” at <a href="https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/</a> You can access more discounts and giveaways by joining the shop’s Facebook page, Alice Loves Clothes.Another way to support this podcast is to follow it on Instagram @thenewlywedshow. Sharing an episode with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would also be appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Thank you!

Discovering Pornography Betrayal Moment By Moment and Seeing Beyond the Moment ft John Brailsford, PhD

Carolina Schubert

Carolina Schubert joins Grace Jensen to give tips on living with in-laws. She is both a marriage coach with various certifications and has lived with her in-laws for the past two years. Carolina recommends newlyweds wait a little bit before moving in with parents in order to establish their marital relationship. She lists important factors to include when considering moving into or out of an in-laws’ house. Grace and Carolina agree that clear expectations are a must, especially on privacy, time, and responsibilities. They also talk about what to do when expectations are not met.Finally, they discuss Grace’s particular questions around her prospective living situation with her in-laws. We’re reminded that moving out of your in-laws won’t fix any marital struggles you may have; your mindset is a make-it-or-break-it part of your experience. The episode ends with Carolina’s heart-encouragement to all couples who live with their in-laws at least once. You can find Carolina at carolinaschubert.com and @carolina_shchubert on Instagram. Thank you so much to our sponsors Building a Lasting Connection and Pretties by Courtney! Visit them at buildingalastingconnection.com and prettiesbycourtney.com.

Carolina Schubert joins Grace Jensen to give tips on living with in-laws. She is both a marriage coach with various certifications and has lived with her in-laws for the past two years. Carolina recommends newlyweds wait a little bit before moving in with parents in order to establish their marital relationship. She lists important factors to include when considering moving into or out of an in-laws’ house. Grace and Carolina agree that clear expectations are a must, especially on privacy, time, and responsibilities. They also talk about what to do when expectations are not met.Finally, they discuss Grace’s particular questions around her prospective living situation with her in-laws. We’re reminded that moving out of your in-laws won’t fix any marital struggles you may have; your mindset is a make-it-or-break-it part of your experience. The episode ends with Carolina’s heart-encouragement to all couples who live with their in-laws at least once. You can find Carolina at <a href="http://carolinaschubert.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">carolinaschubert.com</a> and @carolina_shchubert on Instagram.  Thank you so much to our sponsors Building a Lasting Connection and Pretties by Courtney! Visit them at <a href="http://buildingalastingconnection.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">buildingalastingconnection.com</a> and <a href="http://prettiesbycourtney.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">prettiesbycourtney.com</a>.

Living With In-Laws ft. Carolina Schubert

Couples therapist Dr. Scott Woolley returns to the show to discuss how to deal with intrusive in-laws. The interview is preluded by Grace and Zach’s new segment “We’re In It With Ya” (1:20). They analyze their communication skills during a vulnerable and sensitive situation (8:20). Grace then shares Dr. Woolley’s credentials (12:05).Grace’s first question is why some in-laws feel entitled to deep involvement in their children’s marriages and lives (15:30) Dr. Woolley’s answer includes the in-laws’ own experience with their in-laws (16:40) and insecurity (20:15).The two then turn to how to navigate situations where the in-laws encroach upon the couple’s time (24:45). Dr. Woolley recommends that the biological child of the in-laws does the talking when approaching their parents (25:15).  He also talks about what to do when only one spouse feels the in-laws’ behavior is unacceptable (27:05). A common trap is debating what is “normal,” when what really matters is how the behavior feels—does it feel respectful or disrespectful? (30:00) Relating to that, Dr. Woolley identifies a key question that drives most marital disputes (32:15). He also spends some time talking about the importance of being aware of cultural differences (36:10).Next, in-laws intruding into the home is discussed (40:00). The nuances of how to talk to the in-laws are traversed again. Grace and Dr. Woolley then turn to dealing with in-laws whose opinions feel intrusive and controlling (45:05). After outlining strategies, he reminds us to keep perspective (53:30). Finally, Grace presents the situation of an in-law breaking boundaries that were set up for safety reasons (58:00). Dr. Woolley ends the episode with a message of hope (63:15).Thank you for listening to this episode of the Newlywed Show! If you enjoyed it, it would mean the world to Grace if you did one of two things to help other people find the podcast: either screenshot this episode and share it with someone you think it would be helpful for, or leave a rating and review on iTunes. It makes a big difference! You can connect with the podcast on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and the show’s host @gracewjensen. Thank you again.

Couples therapist Dr. Scott Woolley returns to the show to discuss how to deal with intrusive in-laws. The interview is preluded by Grace and Zach’s new segment “We’re In It With Ya” (1:20). They analyze their communication skills during a vulnerable and sensitive situation (8:20). Grace then shares Dr. Woolley’s credentials (12:05).Grace’s first question is why some in-laws feel entitled to deep involvement in their children’s marriages and lives (15:30) Dr. Woolley’s answer includes the in-laws’ own experience with their in-laws (16:40) and insecurity (20:15).The two then turn to how to navigate situations where the in-laws encroach upon the couple’s time (24:45). Dr. Woolley recommends that the biological child of the in-laws does the talking when approaching their parents (25:15).  He also talks about what to do when only one spouse feels the in-laws’ behavior is unacceptable (27:05). A common trap is debating what is “normal,” when what really matters is how the behavior feels—does it feel respectful or disrespectful? (30:00) Relating to that, Dr. Woolley identifies a key question that drives most marital disputes (32:15). He also spends some time talking about the importance of being aware of cultural differences (36:10).Next, in-laws intruding into the home is discussed (40:00). The nuances of how to talk to the in-laws are traversed again. Grace and Dr. Woolley then turn to dealing with in-laws whose opinions feel intrusive and controlling (45:05). After outlining strategies, he reminds us to keep perspective (53:30). Finally, Grace presents the situation of an in-law breaking boundaries that were set up for safety reasons (58:00). Dr. Woolley ends the episode with a message of hope (63:15).Thank you for listening to this episode of the Newlywed Show! If you enjoyed it, it would mean the world to Grace if you did one of two things to help other people find the podcast: either screenshot this episode and share it with someone you think it would be helpful for, or leave a rating and review on iTunes. It makes a big difference! You can connect with the podcast on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and the show’s host @gracewjensen. Thank you again.

In-Laws Invading! In-Laws Invading! ft. Dr. Scott Woolley

World-renowned couples therapist Dr. Scott Woolley joins his daughter Grace Jensen to explain the science behind falling in and out of love. Simply put, love is fueled by emotional vulnerability being seen, accepted, and reciprocated. (6:10) Because emotional safety is essential to love, being able to repair emotional wounds is vital for a continued loving relationship. (13:18) Dr. Woolley and Grace discuss the process of digging deeper, pausing to gain perspective, and how emotional perspective is crucial to healing these hurts.Typical conflict styles are described starting at 20:10. “Hold Me Tight” by Dr. Sue Johnson is highly recommended, along with her online program, which can be found here. Dr. Woolley then shares “the secret to a happy marriage” when Grace asks him what he thinks of the mantra that communication is everything. (44:55)Get Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson here.Get Love Sense by Dr. Sue Johnson here.Huge thank you to our sponsors for this episode!Get 40% off hair scarves and scrunchies at https://www.prettiesbycourtney.com/ by using the code NEWLYWEDSHOWGet 50% off bows and bow ties at https://www.shoplittlehoney.com/ by using the code NEWLYWEDSHOW

World-renowned couples therapist Dr. Scott Woolley joins his daughter Grace Jensen to explain the science behind falling in and out of love. Simply put, love is fueled by emotional vulnerability being seen, accepted, and reciprocated. (6:10) Because emotional safety is essential to love, being able to repair emotional wounds is vital for a continued loving relationship. (13:18) Dr. Woolley and Grace discuss the process of digging deeper, pausing to gain perspective, and how emotional perspective is crucial to healing these hurts.Typical conflict styles are described starting at 20:10. “Hold Me Tight” by Dr. Sue Johnson is highly recommended, along with her online program, which can be found <a href="https://holdmetightonline.com/the-program/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Dr. Woolley then shares “the secret to a happy marriage” when Grace asks him what he thinks of the mantra that communication is everything. (44:55) Get Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X/ref=asc_df_031611300X/?tag=hyprod-20&amp;linkCode=df0&amp;hvadid=316783146717&amp;hvpos=1o2&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=1350713394943022381&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9029805&amp;hvtargid=pla-436971915038&amp;psc=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Get Love Sense by Dr. Sue Johnson <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Love-Sense-Revolutionary-Romantic-Relationships/dp/0316133760/ref=asc_df_0316133760/?tag=hyprod-20&amp;linkCode=df0&amp;hvadid=312152840806&amp;hvpos=1o1&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=1350713394943022381&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9029805&amp;hvtargid=pla-449476917819&amp;psc=1&amp;tag=&amp;ref=&amp;adgrpid=61316181319&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvadid=312152840806&amp;hvpos=1o1&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=1350713394943022381&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=c&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9029805&amp;hvtargid=pla-449476917819" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. Huge thank you to our sponsors for this episode!Get 40% off hair scarves and scrunchies at <a href="https://www.prettiesbycourtney.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.prettiesbycourtney.com/</a> by using the code NEWLYWEDSHOWGet 50% off bows and bow ties at <a href="https://www.shoplittlehoney.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.shoplittlehoney.com/</a> by using the code NEWLYWEDSHOW

How to Fall in Love. . .and Fall BACK in Love with Dr. Scott Woolley

Jaimee Smart (from episodes 7 and 8 on grief) returns to discuss mental health with Grace Jensen. Jaimee discovered through experience that once one partner comes into a marriage with mental illness, the illness becomes a part of both partners’ stories. Open, non-judgemental communication is key to helping the ill partner. You may be able to create game plans together to combat the mental illness that one spouse on their own wouldn’t have been able to see. Both partners need outside support when there is mental illness in a marriage, such as support groups, therapists, or trusted friends.Grace and Jaimee then turn to talking about mental illness in extended family. Jaimee shares how controlling behavior is often an indicator of mental illness in parents. The pair discusses the importance of communicating boundaries and always being on your spouse’s team, as well as the benefits of medication. They end by reminding the listener that being mentally ill does not equal being broken. Asking for help or just talking about your mental illness could be life-changing, for you and for someone else.

Jaimee Smart (from episodes 7 and 8 on grief) returns to discuss mental health with Grace Jensen. Jaimee discovered through experience that once one partner comes into a marriage with mental illness, the illness becomes a part of both partners’ stories. Open, non-judgemental communication is key to helping the ill partner. You may be able to create game plans together to combat the mental illness that one spouse on their own wouldn’t have been able to see. Both partners need outside support when there is mental illness in a marriage, such as support groups, therapists, or trusted friends.Grace and Jaimee then turn to talking about mental illness in extended family. Jaimee shares how controlling behavior is often an indicator of mental illness in parents. The pair discusses the importance of communicating boundaries and always being on your spouse’s team, as well as the benefits of medication. They end by reminding the listener that being mentally ill does not equal being broken. Asking for help or just talking about your mental illness could be life-changing, for you and for someone else.

Mental Illness in Marriage ft. Jaimee Smart

Grace and Zach are back, with tips on how to handle holiday traditions, balance family time, and keeping the gifts inexpensive but meaningful. They kick off the episode with a new segment called “We’re in it With You,” a time to describe a recent experiences in their marriage--either positive and negative--to let you know you’re not alone (2:30). The two then tackle the complex topic of how to share holidays between families (13:45). Grace and Zach focus on Thanksgiving and Christmas, but the principles can apply to all holidays. Think through the year and decide which holidays you as a couple think are the most important to spend with family. When both sides of the family live near each other, determine what aspects or traditions of the holiday are the most meaningful to each of you (15:50). Is Christmas Eve really important to one part of the family? Is time together on Christmas morning more important to another part of the family? Decide as a couple how to divide your time and energies. Next, determine how much your family willing to work with you (18:00). Communicate with all parties so plans and expectations are clear. You may need to experiment year by year until you find a system that seems to work best. Finally, our hosts remind us to reserve time for relaxing and being on vacation (21:45). You might need to say no to some activities.  As Brene Brown says, “Choose discomfort over resentment.” For more tips on how to create time together as a couple while on vacation with family, see episode 18 here.Grace and Zach then discuss how to handle holidays when your families live far apart from each other (24:30). They acknowledge that the first several years of not being with your nuclear family might be hard. Hang in there—you’ll discover traditions and relationships with your spouse’s family that you’ll look forward to. Be patient with yourselves and other family members. Grace and Zach encourage using technology! (26:15) Skype, call, text with family not in the area--but do so in ways that show respect to the hosting family. Our hosts encourage the mindset of using the time with your spouse’s family to learn about and better understand your spouse (27:00). Reserve judgement on traditions that seem odd to one spouse (27:40), and be open to contributing a tradition of your own to your spouse’s holiday experience. Next, Grace and Zach talk about how to develop your own traditions (30:20). They throw out ideas for how to make cheap, newly-wed versions of things like Christmas trees and lights (32:00). Creating traditions with friends can also be fun, such as hosting a graham cracker house contest (35:55). Grace and Zach have started writing letters to each other and to Jesus each Christmas (37:15). The goal is to create traditions focusing on meaning rather than money (39:00).The next topic is how to buy gifts for everyone in your life on a tight budget (39:45). The first tip is to use credit card points (41:20). Grace is a strong advocate for starting to shop early in the year and going for the meaningful gifts (43:00). Utilize your resources, like using the tools provided by your university or tapping into the talents and knowledge of friends. Another tip is to tag-team the shopping, you know, since there are two of you (50:50). Lastly, consider combining holiday gifts if it allows you to give a more expensive present (52:40).The two end with a thought from each. Zach encourages a spirit of love and forgiveness during the holiday season (56:15), and Grace speaks to those who’ve had difficult experiences with Christmas (57:15). If you have a challenging relationship with your in-laws, DM Grace before Friday, December 6th to get your questions answered in next week’s episode. 

Grace and Zach are back, with tips on how to handle holiday traditions, balance family time, and keeping the gifts inexpensive but meaningful. They kick off the episode with a new segment called “We’re in it With You,” a time to describe a recent experiences in their marriage--either positive and negative--to let you know you’re not alone (2:30). The two then tackle the complex topic of how to share holidays between families (13:45). Grace and Zach focus on Thanksgiving and Christmas, but the principles can apply to all holidays. Think through the year and decide which holidays you as a couple think are the most important to spend with family. When both sides of the family live near each other, determine what aspects or traditions of the holiday are the most meaningful to each of you (15:50). Is Christmas Eve really important to one part of the family? Is time together on Christmas morning more important to another part of the family? Decide as a couple how to divide your time and energies. Next, determine how much your family willing to work with you (18:00). Communicate with all parties so plans and expectations are clear. You may need to experiment year by year until you find a system that seems to work best. Finally, our hosts remind us to reserve time for relaxing and being on vacation (21:45). You might need to say no to some activities.  As Brene Brown says, “Choose discomfort over resentment.” For more tips on how to create time together as a couple while on vacation with family, see episode 18 <a href="https://www.newlywedshow.com/post/18-how-to-not-fight-on-vacation-and-wedding-disaster-would-you-rather" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>.Grace and Zach then discuss how to handle holidays when your families live far apart from each other (24:30). They acknowledge that the first several years of not being with your nuclear family might be hard. Hang in there—you’ll discover traditions and relationships with your spouse’s family that you’ll look forward to. Be patient with yourselves and other family members. Grace and Zach encourage using technology! (26:15) Skype, call, text with family not in the area--but do so in ways that show respect to the hosting family. Our hosts encourage the mindset of using the time with your spouse’s family to learn about and better understand your spouse (27:00). Reserve judgement on traditions that seem odd to one spouse (27:40), and be open to contributing a tradition of your own to your spouse’s holiday experience. Next, Grace and Zach talk about how to develop your own traditions (30:20). They throw out ideas for how to make cheap, newly-wed versions of things like Christmas trees and lights (32:00). Creating traditions with friends can also be fun, such as hosting a graham cracker house contest (35:55). Grace and Zach have started writing letters to each other and to Jesus each Christmas (37:15). The goal is to create traditions focusing on meaning rather than money (39:00).The next topic is how to buy gifts for everyone in your life on a tight budget (39:45). The first tip is to use credit card points (41:20). Grace is a strong advocate for starting to shop early in the year and going for the meaningful gifts (43:00). Utilize your resources, like using the tools provided by your university or tapping into the talents and knowledge of friends. Another tip is to tag-team the shopping, you know, since there are two of you (50:50). Lastly, consider combining holiday gifts if it allows you to give a more expensive present (52:40).The two end with a thought from each. Zach encourages a spirit of love and forgiveness during the holiday season (56:15), and Grace speaks to those who’ve had difficult experiences with Christmas (57:15). If you have a challenging relationship with your in-laws, DM Grace before Friday, December 6th to get your questions answered in next week’s episode.

Balancing Traditions, Families, and Finances During the Holidays

Happy 2020! Today Grace brings you strategie on how to reconnect and get out of a relationship funk. Let’s get a good year going! Grace gives an update on her life (2:15). She and Zach have moved to San Diego and are enjoying being among family. The first tip on how to reconnect is probably the most obvious—weekly date nights (6:20). Newlyweds may not feel   this practice is important, but as life becomes more of a routine, connection should be a priority on the schedule. The next piece of advice is to create your own traditions (8:05). Third, meet weekly to talk about schedules, plans, logistics, and kids (9:45). This will allow couples to spend their date nights enjoying each other rather than discussing the domestic scene. Finally, one therapist recommended not complaining about your spouse on social media, and another even suggested having joint social media accounts (11:20). In talking about social media use, Grace recalls the need she felt early in her marriage for examples of happy couples with very different personalities. For those who feel the same need she recommends episode 16 of this podcast. Next, Grace shares couples’ New Year’s resolutions from friends and family to give you more ideas on how to realign. (14:15) If your spouse is resistant to goal-setting in the New Year, episode 20 will be a treasure for your marriage (15:20). One couple wishes to be more spiritually aligned with studying scripture together (16:05). Kelbie from episode 2 and her husband are setting micro-goals to pay off specific debt while making sure to enjoy life (17:45). An elderly widower commented on the importance of balance between goal-setting, connecting, and personal growth (19:00). Meghan and Mickayeen from episode 16 set yearly intentions and bi-weekly meetings to check in on their progress (21:05). Another couple reward themselves upon reaching milestones (22:15). Grace ends with a slew of ideas from other sources: record when you learn new things about each other (25:00), add a new couple to your social circle (25:25), take a risk together (25:40), write down memories of the last year (27:30), read and discuss a helpful book about relationships/marriage (28:50), choose a cause to volunteer for together (30:30), host a dinner party for other couples (31:25), break a bad habit together (33:00), commit to being spontaneous (33:15), monthly money talks (follow @ameskiefer on Instagram) (34:15), practice gratitude regularly (35:35).Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear your responses, questions, and ideas.Another way to support the podcast is to use the Newlywed Show shop. This dream resource includes every product recommended throughout the podcast. Access now at https://www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen It’s clearly organized by topic and kept up to date. Enjoy!

Happy 2020! Today Grace brings you strategie on how to reconnect and get out of a relationship funk. Let’s get a good year going! Grace gives an update on her life (2:15). She and Zach have moved to San Diego and are enjoying being among family. The first tip on how to reconnect is probably the most obvious—weekly date nights (6:20). Newlyweds may not feel   this practice is important, but as life becomes more of a routine, connection should be a priority on the schedule. The next piece of advice is to create your own traditions (8:05). Third, meet weekly to talk about schedules, plans, logistics, and kids (9:45). This will allow couples to spend their date nights enjoying each other rather than discussing the domestic scene. Finally, one therapist recommended not complaining about your spouse on social media, and another even suggested having joint social media accounts (11:20). In talking about social media use, Grace recalls the need she felt early in her marriage for examples of happy couples with very different personalities. For those who feel the same need she recommends episode 16 of this podcast. Next, Grace shares couples’ New Year’s resolutions from friends and family to give you more ideas on how to realign. (14:15) If your spouse is resistant to goal-setting in the New Year, episode 20 will be a treasure for your marriage (15:20). One couple wishes to be more spiritually aligned with studying scripture together (16:05). Kelbie from episode 2 and her husband are setting micro-goals to pay off specific debt while making sure to enjoy life (17:45). An elderly widower commented on the importance of balance between goal-setting, connecting, and personal growth (19:00). Meghan and Mickayeen from episode 16 set yearly intentions and bi-weekly meetings to check in on their progress (21:05). Another couple reward themselves upon reaching milestones (22:15). Grace ends with a slew of ideas from other sources: record when you learn new things about each other (25:00), add a new couple to your social circle (25:25), take a risk together (25:40), write down memories of the last year (27:30), read and discuss a helpful book about relationships/marriage (28:50), choose a cause to volunteer for together (30:30), host a dinner party for other couples (31:25), break a bad habit together (33:00), commit to being spontaneous (33:15), monthly money talks (follow @ameskiefer on Instagram) (34:15), practice gratitude regularly (35:35).Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear your responses, questions, and ideas.Another way to support the podcast is to use the Newlywed Show shop. This dream resource includes every product recommended throughout the podcast. Access now at <a href="https://www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen</a> It’s clearly organized by topic and kept up to date. Enjoy!

Getting Out of a Relationship Funk

Mikayla Ockey

The founders of Centsei Financial Mikayla and Dan Ockey come onto the show to give tips on finding cohesion in finances as a couple. Before diving in, they relate the extraordinary tale of their meeting and courtship (1:45).The two share their financial journey. While Mikayla grew up as a moderate spender and consistent saver (15:15), Dan spent extravagantly in college, amassing considerable debt in an astoundingly short period of time (16:50). Once married, they realized they needed to figure out a mutually agreeable plan (21:30). The process of figuring this out inspired Dan and Mikayla to create their current business, a third party to help collaborate different financial values and goals between couples. Unlike most of the financial world, they account for the emotion behind money, especially in regards to marriage (27:00). Once the newlyweds set up a plan, Dan and Mikayla were debt-free within six months. (32:30). They list everything they did to achieve that, and explain the perspective that made it possible (34:15).Next, Mikayla and Dan describe who Centsei Financial is for and how it started (46:10). The program on budgeting comes in the form of short videos divided into ten modules, so not a big time commitment (54:10). They also offer a course on investing. Grace asks more about how to budget successfully, and the CAP method is explained (57:30). The tracking app Mint is highly recommended as part of that. Dan also reveals how budgeting is not about managing your money (65:10). They emphasize keeping perspective; no phase of financial planning or marriage lasts forever. Time will pass, and you will be more than okay.Check out Dan and Mikayla’s courses at centseifinancial.com and @centseifinancial on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode, it would be deeply appreciated if you helped others find the podcast, by doing something as quick and easy as texting it to a friend or rating the show on iTunes. Connect with the podcast on Instagram @thenewlywedshow or personally with Grace @gracewjensen. Your host has created the podcast listener’s dream resource! Every product recommended during the Newlywed Show can now be found in one place: https://www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen It’s clearly organized by topic and kept up to date. Enjoy!

The founders of Centsei Financial Mikayla and Dan Ockey come onto the show to give tips on finding cohesion in finances as a couple. Before diving in, they relate the extraordinary tale of their meeting and courtship (1:45).The two share their financial journey. While Mikayla grew up as a moderate spender and consistent saver (15:15), Dan spent extravagantly in college, amassing considerable debt in an astoundingly short period of time (16:50). Once married, they realized they needed to figure out a mutually agreeable plan (21:30). The process of figuring this out inspired Dan and Mikayla to create their current business, a third party to help collaborate different financial values and goals between couples. Unlike most of the financial world, they account for the emotion behind money, especially in regards to marriage (27:00). Once the newlyweds set up a plan, Dan and Mikayla were debt-free within six months. (32:30). They list everything they did to achieve that, and explain the perspective that made it possible (34:15).Next, Mikayla and Dan describe who Centsei Financial is for and how it started (46:10). The program on budgeting comes in the form of short videos divided into ten modules, so not a big time commitment (54:10). They also offer a course on investing. Grace asks more about how to budget successfully, and the CAP method is explained (57:30). The tracking app Mint is highly recommended as part of that. Dan also reveals how budgeting is not about managing your money (65:10). They emphasize keeping perspective; no phase of financial planning or marriage lasts forever. Time will pass, and you will be more than okay.Check out Dan and Mikayla’s courses at <a href="http://centseifinancial.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">centseifinancial.com</a> and @centseifinancial on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode, it would be deeply appreciated if you helped others find the podcast, by doing something as quick and easy as texting it to a friend or rating the show on iTunes. Connect with the podcast on Instagram @thenewlywedshow or personally with Grace @gracewjensen. Your host has created the podcast listener’s dream resource! Every product recommended during the Newlywed Show can now be found in one place: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen</a> It’s clearly organized by topic and kept up to date. Enjoy!

Managing Money as Emotional Beings ft. Dan and Mikayla Ockey

Grace and Zach settle down to have a conversation about serving as a couple and handling body image on Thanksgiving. They first talk about how serving together benefits your relationship. It’s a valuable gateway to meaningful connection (9:00), and prompts gratitude and humility (15:20). Then, they share a daily service opportunity provided by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in the month of December (18:30). Details can be found at lighttheworld.org. Justserve.org is also a fantastic resource and highly recommended. Grace talks about “giving machines,” which are part of the Light the World initiative (22:25). Their locations are listed at here. She reminds us to not feel guilty if scripted service is one thing too many to put on the calendar this year (25:00). Grace next speaks to individuals with anxiety around Thanksgiving, specifically in relation to food (33:00). Her first piece of advice is to prepare a grounding, warm, grateful thought to come back to in moments of rising anxiety (34:30). Grace speaks of a common mindset to avoid, reminding us that our amazing existence should not be defined by a calculator (38:15). Eat like we normally would on Thanksgiving Day (40:10). Our number one priority on Thanksgiving Day and every day should be to be kind to ourselves; food will come and food will go, but we always live with ourselves (41:40). Grace gives advice on how to handle triggering table talk (50:15), and ends with the powerful reassurance that not every Thanksgiving has to be like this (51:20).If you connected with anything in this episode, please help share the podcast by rating it on iTunes or texting a screenshot of the episode to a friend. Grace deeply appreciates your vulnerability and support. Remember to check the show out at Instagram @thenewlywedshow and stay connected with Grace personally @gracewjensenThe booming business Shop Little Honey is still a staunch supporter of our show. And they’re having a Black Friday sale! This includes their monthly subscription and much more. Find darling presents for the youngin’s in your life at @shoplittlehoney or shoplittlehoney.comYou can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, iHeart Radio, or TuneIn.

Grace and Zach settle down to have a conversation about serving as a couple and handling body image on Thanksgiving. They first talk about how serving together benefits your relationship. It’s a valuable gateway to meaningful connection (9:00), and prompts gratitude and humility (15:20). Then, they share a daily service opportunity provided by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in the month of December (18:30). Details can be found at <a href="https://www.comeuntochrist.org/light-the-world" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">lighttheworld.org</a>. <a href="https://www.justserve.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Justserve.org</a> is also a fantastic resource and highly recommended. Grace talks about “giving machines,” which are part of the Light the World initiative (22:25). Their locations are listed at <a href="https://www.comeuntochrist.org/light-the-world/giving-machines" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. She reminds us to not feel guilty if scripted service is one thing too many to put on the calendar this year (25:00). Grace next speaks to individuals with anxiety around Thanksgiving, specifically in relation to food (33:00). Her first piece of advice is to prepare a grounding, warm, grateful thought to come back to in moments of rising anxiety (34:30). Grace speaks of a common mindset to avoid, reminding us that our amazing existence should not be defined by a calculator (38:15). Eat like we normally would on Thanksgiving Day (40:10). Our number one priority on Thanksgiving Day and every day should be to be kind to ourselves; food will come and food will go, but we always live with ourselves (41:40). Grace gives advice on how to handle triggering table talk (50:15), and ends with the powerful reassurance that not every Thanksgiving has to be like this (51:20).If you connected with anything in this episode, please help share the podcast by rating it on iTunes or texting a screenshot of the episode to a friend. Grace deeply appreciates your vulnerability and support. Remember to check the show out at Instagram @thenewlywedshow and stay connected with Grace personally @gracewjensenThe booming business Shop Little Honey is still a staunch supporter of our show. And they’re having a Black Friday sale! This includes their monthly subscription and much more. Find darling presents for the youngin’s in your life at @shoplittlehoney or <a href="http://shoplittlehoney.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">shoplittlehoney.com</a>You can also listen to this episode on<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-newlywed-show/id1462182725" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Apple Podcasts</a>,<a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/38kn2hY9ZJ1wEYnbkFvQdU" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Spotify</a>,<a href="https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8yODk4NDQucnNz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Google Podcasts</a>,<a href="https://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=397775" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Stitcher</a>,<a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-newlywed-show-46609920/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> iHeart Radio</a>, or<a href="https://tunein.com/podcasts/Health--Wellness-Podcasts/The-Newlywed-Show-p1221575/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> TuneIn</a>.

Service and Body Image: the Holiday Editions

Ali Crane

Grace’s friend Ali Crane sits down to share the tea on military life and long-distance marriage. Her husband of one year, Jaden, is a chaplain’s assistant in the National Guard and studying to become a psychologist for the army. (4:45)Ali talks through their experiences, from having only four months together to start their marriage (14:00) to spending 17 weeks apart (19:00) to adjusting back to married life. She shares tips on how to best prepare for separation and how to take care of oneself as a separated spouse. (24:30) For the nitty-gritty of her hard-earned advice, listen to the episode. This podcast is supported by the darling store Shop Little Honey. Get a whopping 50% off your entire order by using code “NEWLYWEDSHOW” on shoplittlehoney.com. Monthly giveaways can be found on their Instagram @shoplittlehoneyAlice Parkinson’s cute and classy clothing boutique also helps make this podcast possible. Don’t forget to check it out at aliceshootspeople.com/shop and use the code “NEWLYWEDSHOW” for 10% off her already fair prices.

Grace’s friend Ali Crane sits down to share the tea on military life and long-distance marriage. Her husband of one year, Jaden, is a chaplain’s assistant in the National Guard and studying to become a psychologist for the army. (4:45)Ali talks through their experiences, from having only four months together to start their marriage (14:00) to spending 17 weeks apart (19:00) to adjusting back to married life. She shares tips on how to best prepare for separation and how to take care of oneself as a separated spouse. (24:30) For the nitty-gritty of her hard-earned advice, listen to the episode. This podcast is supported by the darling store Shop Little Honey. Get a whopping 50% off your entire order by using code “NEWLYWEDSHOW” on <a href="http://shoplittlehoney.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">shoplittlehoney.com</a>. Monthly giveaways can be found on their Instagram @shoplittlehoneyAlice Parkinson’s cute and classy clothing boutique also helps make this podcast possible. Don’t forget to check it out at <a href="http://aliceshootspeople.com/shop" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">aliceshootspeople.com/shop</a> and use the code “NEWLYWEDSHOW” for 10% off her already fair prices.

Long-Distance Marriage and Military Life ft. Ali Crane

Grace and Zach Jensen sit down to give advice to any couples who may struggle during family vacations. (That is, if there are any but themselves--please let them know they’re not alone!)Tip number one is to not take a vacation from preparation for your vacation; be sure to sit down before leaving, and review expectations and ways to support each other. (3:10) Grace and Zach each share more specific ways to prepare that they have found personally helpful. (3:55) Next on the list is how to make sure it’s a vacation for both of you. (10:00) Both spouses describe what vacation means to them and how they’ve adjusted to ensure both enjoy themselves. Remember, your love buckets remaining filled significantly decreases the chances of tension and fighting. Grace and Zach are strong believers in making time specifically for each other--vacationing with your spouse as well as your family. (17:55) Over all, as Zach wisely puts it, making the happiness of your spouse a priority helps make you happier and promotes security and love in your relationship. (20:25) If you find fights happening regularly, as Grace and Zach once did, identify the pattern and sources. (22:35)The show’s host then introduces something new: a game! Grace and Zach play Would You Rather: Disaster Wedding Edition, and have a blast. (25:00) Again, they’d love to hear your opinions, ideas for more games, and any crazy stories you have!**You can reach Grace and Zach through email: thenewlywedshow@gmail.com, through DM on Instagram: @thenewlywedshow, or Grace specifically on her Instagram: @gracewjensen. Alice Parkinson’s cute and classy clothing boutique helps make this podcast possible. Don’t forget to check it out at aliceshootspeople.com/shop and use the code “NEWLYWEDSHOW” for 10% off.Lastly, it would mean a lot to Grace if you showed your support for the show by sharing it with friends, following it on Instagram, or giving it a quick rating on iTunes. Thank you!

Grace and Zach Jensen sit down to give advice to any couples who may struggle during family vacations. (That is, if there are any but themselves--please let them know they’re not alone!)Tip number one is to not take a vacation from preparation for your vacation; be sure to sit down before leaving, and review expectations and ways to support each other. (3:10) Grace and Zach each share more specific ways to prepare that they have found personally helpful. (3:55) Next on the list is how to make sure it’s a vacation for both of you. (10:00) Both spouses describe what vacation means to them and how they’ve adjusted to ensure both enjoy themselves. Remember, your love buckets remaining filled significantly decreases the chances of tension and fighting. Grace and Zach are strong believers in making time specifically for each other--vacationing with your spouse as well as your family. (17:55) Over all, as Zach wisely puts it, making the happiness of your spouse a priority helps make you happier and promotes security and love in your relationship. (20:25) If you find fights happening regularly, as Grace and Zach once did, identify the pattern and sources. (22:35)The show’s host then introduces something new: a game! Grace and Zach play Would You Rather: Disaster Wedding Edition, and have a blast. (25:00) Again, they’d love to hear your opinions, ideas for more games, and any crazy stories you have!**You can reach Grace and Zach through email: <a href="mailto:thenewlywedshow@gmail.com">thenewlywedshow@gmail.com</a>, through DM on Instagram: @thenewlywedshow, or Grace specifically on her Instagram: @gracewjensen. Alice Parkinson’s cute and classy clothing boutique helps make this podcast possible. Don’t forget to check it out at <a href="http://aliceshootspeople.com/shop" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">aliceshootspeople.com/shop</a> and use the code “NEWLYWEDSHOW” for 10% off.Lastly, it would mean a lot to Grace if you showed your support for the show by sharing it with friends, following it on Instagram, or giving it a quick rating on iTunes. Thank you!

How to Not Fight on Vacation and Wedding Disaster Would You Rather

Debi Gilmore

The magnetic Dr. Debi Gilmore joins Grace Jensen for an episode packed with tools for building and maintaining bonds. We first hear about how Dr. Gilmore’s passion for sharing the truth of attachment theory inspired her to create and teach a groundbreaking workshop called “Building a Lasting Connection”. It has been perfected over the last decade and targets couples in all stages. Participants learn interactively and bond intensely over the course of two days. Register for a workshop or request a workshop be created at buildingalastingconnection.com. You can also visit them on Instagram @buildingalastingconnection.Grace then takes us back to talking about how attachment theory applies to adults. (14:35) Dr. Gilmore reviews different attachment styles and explains where they come from. (19:00) The two discuss the complexities of communication, as it’s the first step to fulfilling the (marvelously universal) need of connection. (28:00) Next, Dr. Gilmore teaches Grace the Four Mantras of Love, key concepts to communicate to your partner in order to sustain and strengthen your bond. (32:30) These mantras form the base of a pyramid that will be covered over this and the next episode. The second layer is “the mat,” a tool for slowing and deepening communication. (42:00) Each ring on the physical mat represents a different topic for each partner to share as they physically step on it and move further inward. This episode is filled with lines you’ll want to write down as quotes and tools you and your partner want to have as soon as possible! Visit our sponsors’ websites below to grab their cute, classy items while helping support this show. Alice Loves Clothes: aliceshootspeople.com/shop - code “Newlywed Show” for 10% discountShop Little Honey: shoplittlehoney.com - code “Newlywed Show” for 50% off your entire order! You can also find monthly giveaways on their Instagram @shoplittlehoneyThough unrelated to today’s topic, Grace mentions and highly recommends the book “The Moment of Lift: How Empowering Women Changes the World” by Melinda Gates.

The magnetic Dr. Debi Gilmore joins Grace Jensen for an episode packed with tools for building and maintaining bonds. We first hear about how Dr. Gilmore’s passion for sharing the truth of attachment theory inspired her to create and teach a groundbreaking workshop called “Building a Lasting Connection”. It has been perfected over the last decade and targets couples in all stages. Participants learn interactively and bond intensely over the course of two days. Register for a workshop or request a workshop be created at <a href="http://buildingalastingconnection.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">buildingalastingconnection.com</a>. You can also visit them on Instagram @buildingalastingconnection.Grace then takes us back to talking about how attachment theory applies to adults. (14:35) Dr. Gilmore reviews different attachment styles and explains where they come from. (19:00) The two discuss the complexities of communication, as it’s the first step to fulfilling the (marvelously universal) need of connection. (28:00) Next, Dr. Gilmore teaches Grace the Four Mantras of Love, key concepts to communicate to your partner in order to sustain and strengthen your bond. (32:30) These mantras form the base of a pyramid that will be covered over this and the next episode. The second layer is “the mat,” a tool for slowing and deepening communication. (42:00) Each ring on the physical mat represents a different topic for each partner to share as they physically step on it and move further inward. This episode is filled with lines you’ll want to write down as quotes and tools you and your partner want to have as soon as possible! Visit our sponsors’ websites below to grab their cute, classy items while helping support this show. Alice Loves Clothes: <a href="http://aliceshootspeople.com/shop" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">aliceshootspeople.com/shop</a> - code “Newlywed Show” for 10% discountShop Little Honey: <a href="http://shoplittlehoney.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">shoplittlehoney.com</a> - code “Newlywed Show” for 50% off your entire order! You can also find monthly giveaways on their Instagram @shoplittlehoneyThough unrelated to today’s topic, Grace mentions and highly recommends the book “The Moment of Lift: How Empowering Women Changes the World” by Melinda Gates.

Building a Lasting Connection Part 1 ft. Dr. Debi Gilmore

Despite technical difficulties, Grace and Zach sit down to discuss a topic they wish they’d had more information on early in marriage--goal-setting. To start off, they discuss the challenges and benefits of trying to do this within a marriage. (1:40) Next, they cover different styles people can have in setting goals, working on them, and being motivated to accomplish them. (6:30) Figuring out that these differences exist and what they are was super important for Grace and Zach! A helpful framework they now use is a system created by best-selling author and podcaster Gretchen Rubin. Her book “The Four Tendencies” can be found on Amazon and Audible, and the free quiz to find out your Tendency is here: https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com Grace and Zach describe each Tendency: Upholder (9:20), Obliger (10:20), Questioner (11:00), and Rebel (13:30). After talking about how each spouse helps the other in accomplishing goals (15:15), Grace and Zach move to practical tips. They share a system they created together early in their marriage, which equated goals met to spending money. (25:45) Grace reviews how habits formed early in marriage affect the goals you and your spouse have for your lives and family. (30:20) They talk about food, fitness (35:45), finances (42:30), roles/dreams (46:00), generosity (49:55), and religion (51:15). Finally, Grace and Zach remind us why intentional goal-setting is crucial to a healthy marriage and why healthy marriages are important for society. They thank you, the listener, for learning with and from them, and for working to make this world a better place. Rating this podcast, following it on Instagram (@thenewlywedshow), or sharing with friends would be deeply appreciated!

Despite technical difficulties, Grace and Zach sit down to discuss a topic they wish they’d had more information on early in marriage--goal-setting. To start off, they discuss the challenges and benefits of trying to do this within a marriage. (1:40) Next, they cover different styles people can have in setting goals, working on them, and being motivated to accomplish them. (6:30) Figuring out that these differences exist and what they are was super important for Grace and Zach! A helpful framework they now use is a system created by best-selling author and podcaster Gretchen Rubin. Her book “The Four Tendencies” can be found on Amazon and Audible, and the free quiz to find out your Tendency is here: <a href="https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://quiz.gretchenrubin.com</a> Grace and Zach describe each Tendency: Upholder (9:20), Obliger (10:20), Questioner (11:00), and Rebel (13:30). After talking about how each spouse helps the other in accomplishing goals (15:15), Grace and Zach move to practical tips. They share a system they created together early in their marriage, which equated goals met to spending money. (25:45) Grace reviews how habits formed early in marriage affect the goals you and your spouse have for your lives and family. (30:20) They talk about food, fitness (35:45), finances (42:30), roles/dreams (46:00), generosity (49:55), and religion (51:15). Finally, Grace and Zach remind us why intentional goal-setting is crucial to a healthy marriage and why healthy marriages are important for society. They thank you, the listener, for learning with and from them, and for working to make this world a better place. Rating this podcast, following it on Instagram (@thenewlywedshow), or sharing with friends would be deeply appreciated!

Goal Setting and Life Planning in Marriage

Jake Vause

Jake Vause joins Grace today to discuss an unusual but well informed financial philosophy. After sharing his background in finances, they start off by looking at the effect social media is having on today’s financial culture. They note the role that differences in location and generation play (6:00), and why money is a socially taboo topic (13:40).Next Jake explains loans (21:00) and “good” and “bad” credit (24:30). He leads us through specific scenarios to help us see how going into debt on smaller items helps us to not get stuck with huge debt on bigger items. (26:40)Finally, we learn how credit scores actually works (38:40) and get a step by step guide to building credit (50:00). The three talk about being financially harmonious in marriage (63:45), and Jake gives us his closing thoughts (67:00).Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. You can also support the podcast by snatching up quality, trendy, comfy clothes with a 10% coupon. Check out with code “newlywedshow” at https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/ You can access more discounts and giveaways by joining the shop’s Facebook page, Alice Loves Clothes. 

Jake Vause joins Grace today to discuss an unusual but well informed financial philosophy. After sharing his background in finances, they start off by looking at the effect social media is having on today’s financial culture. They note the role that differences in location and generation play (6:00), and why money is a socially taboo topic (13:40).Next Jake explains loans (21:00) and “good” and “bad” credit (24:30). He leads us through specific scenarios to help us see how going into debt on smaller items helps us to not get stuck with huge debt on bigger items. (26:40)Finally, we learn how credit scores actually works (38:40) and get a step by step guide to building credit (50:00). The three talk about being financially harmonious in marriage (63:45), and Jake gives us his closing thoughts (67:00).Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. You can also support the podcast by snatching up quality, trendy, comfy clothes with a 10% coupon. Check out with code “newlywedshow” at <a href="https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.aliceshootspeople.com/shop/</a> You can access more discounts and giveaways by joining the shop’s Facebook page, Alice Loves Clothes.

Why You Should Go into Debt ft. Jake Vause

Jan Jensen

Zach Jensen and his parents Robin and Jan join Grace to share wisdom from thirty-eight years of marriage. They have a tradition of giving their kids a talk at three different points in their lives. Today we hear what they share in Talk #2, which is about traits important to maintaining a good marriage. The first one is loyalty. Jan tells the story of how she learned to be loyal to Robin in the way she talks to and about him. (14:10) Grace follows up with discussing how to be loyal to one’s spouse while being able to go to outside people to help work through issues. (16:45)Robin next covers friendship and positive communication. (22:00) Friendship in marriage takes nurturing, and it gives you a foundation for difficult times. The attentiveness, kindness, and generosity shown initially should not deteriorate in marriage, and is due just as much to our family members as strangers. (23:45) The third section encourages couples to serve others, take the higher road, be aware of compromise, rationalization, and self-justification, and teach your children kindness and humility through example. (26:50)Mutual support is incredibly important to a marriage, meaning that you have each other’s backs. (34:30) Make what is important to your partner important to you. (35:20) The couples finish up by discussing more ways on how to support and communicate. This podcast wouldn’t be possible without our wonderful sponsors:Alice Loves Clothes: aliceshootspeople.com/shop - code “Newlywed Show” for 10% discountShop Little Honey: shoplittlehoney.com - code “Newlywed Show” for 50% off your entire order! You can also find monthly giveaways on their Instagram @shoplittlehoney

Zach Jensen and his parents Robin and Jan join Grace to share wisdom from thirty-eight years of marriage. They have a tradition of giving their kids a talk at three different points in their lives. Today we hear what they share in Talk #2, which is about traits important to maintaining a good marriage. The first one is loyalty. Jan tells the story of how she learned to be loyal to Robin in the way she talks to and about him. (14:10) Grace follows up with discussing how to be loyal to one’s spouse while being able to go to outside people to help work through issues. (16:45)Robin next covers friendship and positive communication. (22:00) Friendship in marriage takes nurturing, and it gives you a foundation for difficult times. The attentiveness, kindness, and generosity shown initially should not deteriorate in marriage, and is due just as much to our family members as strangers. (23:45) The third section encourages couples to serve others, take the higher road, be aware of compromise, rationalization, and self-justification, and teach your children kindness and humility through example. (26:50)Mutual support is incredibly important to a marriage, meaning that you have each other’s backs. (34:30) Make what is important to your partner important to you. (35:20) The couples finish up by discussing more ways on how to support and communicate. This podcast wouldn’t be possible without our wonderful sponsors:Alice Loves Clothes: <a href="http://aliceshootspeople.com/shop" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">aliceshootspeople.com/shop</a> - code “Newlywed Show” for 10% discountShop Little Honey: <a href="http://shoplittlehoney.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">shoplittlehoney.com</a> - code “Newlywed Show” for 50% off your entire order! You can also find monthly giveaways on their Instagram @shoplittlehoney

Wisdom from 38 Years of Marriage (a.k.a. Talk 2) ft Robin and Jan Jensen

Brene Brown

Grace and Zach sit down to share the definitions of Brené Brown’s most important concepts. They would not be married without the work of researcher Brené Brown PhD LMSW, so listen up! Zach celebrates that the show hit 10,000 listens this week (5:20), and they share their “We’re In It With Ya!” story about accessibility (7:30). PSA: Every definition discussed in today’s episode can be found at https://brenebrown.com/definitions/.The first words are the foundations of Brown’s work: “vulnerability” (17:20) and “shame” (19:00). Grace and Zach review them in the particular context of marriage. Next is “integrity,” which closely relates to “value” (23:40). Grace emphasizes the importance of practicing your values as a spouse, bringing you integrity. Brown has also defined “connection,” interestingly enough (28:10). One of Grace’s favorite concepts is “true belonging” (31:40). She and Zach spend some time picking it apart and discussing how it looks in marriage. They then discuss Brown’s controversial definition of “love” (38:40), something Grace is also passionate about. Lastly, the créme de la créme, is “wholehearted living” (45:00).If you found this episode helpful, help others find the podcast! It can be as quick and easy as texting it to a friend or rating the show on iTunes. Grace and Zach would LOVE to hear from you--how you found the show, how it’s helped you, and your thoughts on the ideas it shares. Connect with them on Instagram @thenewlywedshow or personally with Grace @gracewjensen. 

Grace and Zach sit down to share the definitions of Brené Brown’s most important concepts. They would not be married without the work of researcher Brené Brown PhD LMSW, so listen up! Zach celebrates that the show hit 10,000 listens this week (5:20), and they share their “We’re In It With Ya!” story about accessibility (7:30). PSA: Every definition discussed in today’s episode can be found at <a href="https://brenebrown.com/definitions/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://brenebrown.com/definitions/</a>.The first words are the foundations of Brown’s work: “vulnerability” (17:20) and “shame” (19:00). Grace and Zach review them in the particular context of marriage. Next is “integrity,” which closely relates to “value” (23:40). Grace emphasizes the importance of practicing your values as a spouse, bringing you integrity. Brown has also defined “connection,” interestingly enough (28:10). One of Grace’s favorite concepts is “true belonging” (31:40). She and Zach spend some time picking it apart and discussing how it looks in marriage. They then discuss Brown’s controversial definition of “love” (38:40), something Grace is also passionate about. Lastly, the créme de la créme, is “wholehearted living” (45:00).If you found this episode helpful, help others find the podcast! It can be as quick and easy as texting it to a friend or rating the show on iTunes. Grace and Zach would LOVE to hear from you--how you found the show, how it’s helped you, and your thoughts on the ideas it shares. Connect with them on Instagram @thenewlywedshow or personally with Grace @gracewjensen.

The Genius of Brene Brown

Jason Jensen

This episode is the sequel to Grace and Zach’s discussion with Jason and Lauren Jensen on keeping up a strong marriage during a busy life. Jason and Lauren find technology priceless, using texting to stay connected and Marco Polo to share little moments (3:10). Lauren has learned how to celebrate and creatively take advantage of time they have together rather than bemoaning time they don’t have. (4:30). The two share ways they include Jason in their child’s life (5:50) and how they stay flexible and responsive to each other’s needs (6:40). Kind, humble communication is all the more important when you don’t have much time together (9:30). The difference between arguing and talking is clarified (15:20) and the importance of service is discussed (19:00). Jason and Lauren share the pivotal concept that each person’s effort at 100% looks different at different times (20:00).The couple shares what they went through during Jason’s residency, including the death of Lauren’s brother Jeff. (23:00) Communicating his priorities to his work, Jason was completely there for Lauren (25:50). They then talk about moving to a new place (again) and exactly how Lauren quickly created a community of friends for herself (31:00). Moving on to after their daughter was born, Jason shares his pain over missed time with Holly and his strategies on how to stay connected (33:30.) One strategy for strengthening family ties is taking “mini vacations,” going out of the house on days off and making memories (36:20). Jason confesses feelings of jealousy towards Lauren and describes how he deals with that (39:30). Love in action, communication, and intention are essentials for the busy couple. Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear from you!You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, iHeart Radio, or TuneIn.

This episode is the sequel to Grace and Zach’s discussion with Jason and Lauren Jensen on keeping up a strong marriage during a busy life. Jason and Lauren find technology priceless, using texting to stay connected and Marco Polo to share little moments (3:10). Lauren has learned how to celebrate and creatively take advantage of time they have together rather than bemoaning time they don’t have. (4:30). The two share ways they include Jason in their child’s life (5:50) and how they stay flexible and responsive to each other’s needs (6:40). Kind, humble communication is all the more important when you don’t have much time together (9:30). The difference between arguing and talking is clarified (15:20) and the importance of service is discussed (19:00). Jason and Lauren share the pivotal concept that each person’s effort at 100% looks different at different times (20:00).The couple shares what they went through during Jason’s residency, including the death of Lauren’s brother Jeff. (23:00) Communicating his priorities to his work, Jason was completely there for Lauren (25:50). They then talk about moving to a new place (again) and exactly how Lauren quickly created a community of friends for herself (31:00). Moving on to after their daughter was born, Jason shares his pain over missed time with Holly and his strategies on how to stay connected (33:30.) One strategy for strengthening family ties is taking “mini vacations,” going out of the house on days off and making memories (36:20). Jason confesses feelings of jealousy towards Lauren and describes how he deals with that (39:30). Love in action, communication, and intention are essentials for the busy couple. Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear from you! You can also listen to this episode on<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-newlywed-show/id1462182725" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Apple Podcasts</a>,<a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/38kn2hY9ZJ1wEYnbkFvQdU" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Spotify</a>,<a href="https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5idXp6c3Byb3V0LmNvbS8yODk4NDQucnNz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Google Podcasts</a>,<a href="https://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=397775" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Stitcher</a>,<a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-newlywed-show-46609920/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> iHeart Radio</a>, or<a href="https://tunein.com/podcasts/Health--Wellness-Podcasts/The-Newlywed-Show-p1221575/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> TuneIn</a>.

What If We Barely See Each Other?? Part 2 ft. Lauren and Dr. Jason Jensen, M.D.

Dr. Scott Woolley, a marriage therapist who specializes in affairs, comes back onto the show to discuss the role the online world now plays in affairs and how to protect your marriage. He first explains what emotional affairs are (6:45) and the importance of setting up expectations and boundaries with your partner. (9:05) Grace then asks what motivates people to have affairs. (22:00) She mentions the podcast “Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Caussin”, which can be found here: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-whine-down-w-jana-kramer-29262403/episode/connecting-love-sex-30735819/. The book Dr. Woolley recommends, “Not ‘Just Friends’”, is by Shirley Glass and can be found on Amazon and Audible. The two then turn to how social media and dating apps affect marriages. (31:00) One example is that it’s much easier for people to look at other couples and be envious and unsatisfied, which isn’t productive or even based in reality. Grace quotes Brannon Patrick with advice on how to combat that: “If you want a healthy relationship then you need to grieve the loss of the marriage you think you SHOULD have and step into the one that you are in." Their next topic is the differences in what men and women view as being unfaithful, and why those are. (41:35) The cited study can be found here at Deseret News: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.deseretnews.com/article/900081779/millennials-and-gen-x-see-infidelity-differently-from-their-elders-heres-how-it-could-impact-their-relationships.amp.Dr. Woolley then gives his closing thoughts and advice. (50:20) Grace mentions a movie that gives a clear example of an emotional affair. If watching that play out on screen would be helpful to your understanding, you can find it at https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B008Y6UTBM.This episode was sponsored by the “Building a Lasting Connection” workshop described in episodes 12 and 13. It is coming to Salt Lake City, UT on September 6 and 7 of this year and there are STILL spots available! Grab your tickets at https://www.buildingalastingconnection.com/ to learn from the creators themselves. Prepare to have an amazing, empowering, and connecting experience with your partner!Shop Little Honey also helps make this podcast possible. Find their handmade, one-size-fits-all baby bows at shoplittlehoney.com and get a 50% discount using code “NEWLYWEDSHOW”.

Dr. Scott Woolley, a marriage therapist who specializes in affairs, comes back onto the show to discuss the role the online world now plays in affairs and how to protect your marriage. He first explains what emotional affairs are (6:45) and the importance of setting up expectations and boundaries with your partner. (9:05) Grace then asks what motivates people to have affairs. (22:00) She mentions the podcast “Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Caussin”, which can be found here: <a href="https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-whine-down-w-jana-kramer-29262403/episode/connecting-love-sex-30735819/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-whine-down-w-jana-kramer-29262403/episode/connecting-love-sex-30735819/</a>. The book Dr. Woolley recommends, “Not ‘Just Friends’”, is by Shirley Glass and can be found on Amazon and Audible. The two then turn to how social media and dating apps affect marriages. (31:00) One example is that it’s much easier for people to look at other couples and be envious and unsatisfied, which isn’t productive or even based in reality. Grace quotes Brannon Patrick with advice on how to combat that: “If you want a healthy relationship then you need to grieve the loss of the marriage you think you SHOULD have and step into the one that you are in." Their next topic is the differences in what men and women view as being unfaithful, and why those are. (41:35) The cited study can be found here at Deseret News: <a href="https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.deseretnews.com/article/900081779/millennials-and-gen-x-see-infidelity-differently-from-their-elders-heres-how-it-could-impact-their-relationships.amp" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.deseretnews.com/article/900081779/millennials-and-gen-x-see-infidelity-differently-from-their-elders-heres-how-it-could-impact-their-relationships.amp</a>.Dr. Woolley then gives his closing thoughts and advice. (50:20) Grace mentions a movie that gives a clear example of an emotional affair. If watching that play out on screen would be helpful to your understanding, you can find it at <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B008Y6UTBM" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B008Y6UTBM</a>.This episode was sponsored by the “Building a Lasting Connection” workshop described in episodes 12 and 13. It is coming to Salt Lake City, UT on September 6 and 7 of this year and there are STILL spots available! Grab your tickets at <a href="https://www.buildingalastingconnection.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.buildingalastingconnection.com/</a> to learn from the creators themselves. Prepare to have an amazing, empowering, and connecting experience with your partner!Shop Little Honey also helps make this podcast possible. Find their handmade, one-size-fits-all baby bows at <a href="http://shoplittlehoney.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">shoplittlehoney.com</a> and get a 50% discount using code “NEWLYWEDSHOW”.

Affair-proofing your Marriage in an age of Social Media ft. Dr. Scott Woolley

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