This is just an update of the family. 27 Months after losing Mommy!

This is just an update of the family. 27 Months after losing Mommy!

27 Months Without Mommy

This Episode is a continuation of what went on after Mommy was picked up.

This Episode is a continuation of what went on after Mommy was picked up.

Life After Caregiving Part 2

This is the first of a few episodes that goes through what you may feel right immediately after your loved one has passed away. There's not a whole lot to show notes with these episodes it's just me talking about what had happened immediately after Mama's death. What I thought would happen that didn't and that kind of thing. I hope these few episodes help you get along for a few months immediately following your loved one's death.

This is the first of a few episodes that goes through what you may feel right immediately after your loved one has passed away. There's not a whole lot to show notes with these episodes it's just me talking about what had happened immediately after Mama's death. What I thought would happen that didn't and that kind of thing. I hope these few episodes help you get along for a few months immediately following your loved one's death.

Life After Care Giving

This episode is just a brief message to all those that are still downloading the podcast happy Thanksgiving to all.

This episode is just a brief message to all those that are still downloading the podcast happy Thanksgiving to all.

A Happy Thanksgiving Message

Caregiving journey ended

Episode # 93         There comes a time in caregivers journey that they know time is very close to running out. We hear caregiving for dementia have realized that fact.   The past five days Mama has not eat anything at all, the past four days Mama has not drank anything, and for the past three days Mama’s been very hard to wake up at all. When she is awake it’s about two minutes and she’s right back out.   Mamas, breathing has also changed its no longer normal breathing. Doesn’t look the same, doesn’t sound the same as the normal breathing does Mama breeze through her mouth now and has for the past three days. And also she’s breathing through her mouth it’s not as loud as you would think it should be.   If you listen to me anytime at all you know that we keep my older brother and his wife informed as to what mamas doing anytime something changes with Mama last night we had the hardest conversation the family can have. We talked about what to do when this journey is over. What to expect and what not to expect from Mama. From the people that we need to talk to when it’s done. What we want and what we don’t want as for his funeral arrangements.   I guess I’m kind of lucky in this respect because my older brothers always told me that he married mom, meaning that his wife and mom think an awful lot alike and I know from my own standpoint I’ve had conversations with mom and turned around had same conversation with his wife and dam near had the same conversation and there was no way, absolutely no way that mom and his wife had talked.   So now I find myself trying to come to grips with the fact of not having mom in the living room. Mama not be in there when I come home from the store. Not knowing exactly how to fill. All kind of emotions are floating through my head, my heart, and I’m sure that the same kind of things are going on with Stephanie and Michael I’m sure they have all kind of feelings running through their brains as well. Feeling helpless is probably my number one feeling right now. Not being able to help mom do anything at all.    Everything is changing so rapidly this week, although mom is still with us for now we are getting prepared for Mama’s last trip to West Virginia.    I’m not sure if there will be in episode next couple weeks I’ll have to play that by ear.

Episode # 93 There comes a time in caregivers journey that they know time is very close to running out. We hear caregiving for dementia have realized that fact. The past five days Mama has not eat anything at all, the past four days Mama has not drank anything, and for the past three days Mama’s been very hard to wake up at all. When she is awake it’s about two minutes and she’s right back out. Mamas, breathing has also changed its no longer normal breathing. Doesn’t look the same, doesn’t sound the same as the normal breathing does Mama breeze through her mouth now and has for the past three days. And also she’s breathing through her mouth it’s not as loud as you would think it should be. If you listen to me anytime at all you know that we keep my older brother and his wife informed as to what mamas doing anytime something changes with Mama last night we had the hardest conversation the family can have. We talked about what to do when this journey is over. What to expect and what not to expect from Mama. From the people that we need to talk to when it’s done. What we want and what we don’t want as for his funeral arrangements. I guess I’m kind of lucky in this respect because my older brothers always told me that he married mom, meaning that his wife and mom think an awful lot alike and I know from my own standpoint I’ve had conversations with mom and turned around had same conversation with his wife and dam near had the same conversation and there was no way, absolutely no way that mom and his wife had talked. So now I find myself trying to come to grips with the fact of not having mom in the living room. Mama not be in there when I come home from the store. Not knowing exactly how to fill. All kind of emotions are floating through my head, my heart, and I’m sure that the same kind of things are going on with Stephanie and Michael I’m sure they have all kind of feelings running through their brains as well. Feeling helpless is probably my number one feeling right now. Not being able to help mom do anything at all.  Everything is changing so rapidly this week, although mom is still with us for now we are getting prepared for Mama’s last trip to West Virginia.  I’m not sure if there will be in episode next couple weeks I’ll have to play that by ear.

The hardest talk a family can never have.

Episode #92         Show Notes       There are so many things in life that normal people take for granted. This becomes more apparent the longer you take care of your loved one. There are things that I take for granted because there things that come natural to me that Mama can no longer do for herself.   Mama can no longer wash her face, brush her hair, brush her teeth, or even talk. Mama tries so hard to talk to us and you can see the frustration in her face as she tries to say something and can’t. Mama tries to hold a cup of something to drink and because of her Parkinson’s she shakes so bad that some of whatever’s in the cup spills out. Mama so apologetic when she makes a mess.   One of the things that I have taken for granted myself in my caregiving was the fact that when Mama was taking care of my grandmother who fortunately was not as bad as Mama is Mama never asked me to stay with grandma to help with grandma. I always had free time on my hands to do whatever I wanted to do. And I’ve forgotten that in my caregiving because we were leaving Michael with his grandmother way too much. We sought that it was good training for a after all he is old enough to have a child of his own. And until recently here we did not realize that Michael was having a troubled time taking care of his grandmother. And I’ve forgotten how much free time I had with my grandmother.   A lot of times I’ll go out and check on Mama and mamas asleep, but there are other times where mamas really fidgety, and the only thing I can do is just sit there to chair and hold her hand. Tell her she’s okay, tell her that she’s safe, that I love her.   A lot of the time in my own caregiving, I take for granted the fact that I can go brush my teeth, my mouth. Mama can no longer do that and here the other day I was trying to give her some ice water out of a spoon and this white flaky something another come out of her mouth. I asked Mama said Mama what is that and of course I didn’t get a straight answer, all I got the beat was mumbo-jumbo, come to find out what ever this crap was all through her mouth, was on her tongue, the roof of her mouth. Now I don’t have nerve enough to stick my fingers in my mother’s mouth! That’s just not going to happen. So I ended up taking a toothbrush and brushing her mouth her teeth, the roof of her mouth.   So if your loved one stops eating check their mouth make sure this pasty crusty group is not in their mouth. Because it could stop them from eating could stop them from swallowing.

Episode #92 Show Notes There are so many things in life that normal people take for granted. This becomes more apparent the longer you take care of your loved one. There are things that I take for granted because there things that come natural to me that Mama can no longer do for herself. Mama can no longer wash her face, brush her hair, brush her teeth, or even talk. Mama tries so hard to talk to us and you can see the frustration in her face as she tries to say something and can’t. Mama tries to hold a cup of something to drink and because of her Parkinson’s she shakes so bad that some of whatever’s in the cup spills out. Mama so apologetic when she makes a mess. One of the things that I have taken for granted myself in my caregiving was the fact that when Mama was taking care of my grandmother who fortunately was not as bad as Mama is Mama never asked me to stay with grandma to help with grandma. I always had free time on my hands to do whatever I wanted to do. And I’ve forgotten that in my caregiving because we were leaving Michael with his grandmother way too much. We sought that it was good training for a after all he is old enough to have a child of his own. And until recently here we did not realize that Michael was having a troubled time taking care of his grandmother. And I’ve forgotten how much free time I had with my grandmother. A lot of times I’ll go out and check on Mama and mamas asleep, but there are other times where mamas really fidgety, and the only thing I can do is just sit there to chair and hold her hand. Tell her she’s okay, tell her that she’s safe, that I love her. A lot of the time in my own caregiving, I take for granted the fact that I can go brush my teeth, my mouth. Mama can no longer do that and here the other day I was trying to give her some ice water out of a spoon and this white flaky something another come out of her mouth. I asked Mama said Mama what is that and of course I didn’t get a straight answer, all I got the beat was mumbo-jumbo, come to find out what ever this crap was all through her mouth, was on her tongue, the roof of her mouth. Now I don’t have nerve enough to stick my fingers in my mother’s mouth! That’s just not going to happen. So I ended up taking a toothbrush and brushing her mouth her teeth, the roof of her mouth. So if your loved one stops eating check their mouth make sure this pasty crusty group is not in their mouth. Because it could stop them from eating could stop them from swallowing.

Things we take for granted as Caregivers

In your caregiving a lot of times you do things in the heat of the moment. After time goes by you wonder whether or not what you did was the right thing to do. A lot of caregivers won’t tell you everything that they go through in their caregiving. I am one of those people who won’t tell you every little thing that goes on in in the house with the caregiving I am one that won’t tell you what Mama has done to us I won’t tell you what we’ve done to Mama. What I tried to do in this podcast is tell you what we do and what we don’t do because of dementia. When we first started caregiving we didn’t know what we were doing at all. I’ve gone out to Facebook to the caregiving support groups and I have found that a lot of posts in those groups are things that we have had questions about in our caregiving. So I try to take this podcast and tell you what we have done in that situation and what we haven’t been in that situation All to try to help you in your caregiving. I am also taking some courses in podcasting through the school of podcasting and you can find out at www.schoolofpodcasting.com and while taking these courses we have meetings every once in a while and in one of those meetings I had a lady asked me, if I had any regrets in my caregiving? Immediately the answer was no. If you hurt listen to me anytime at all you know that I have the attitude of I’m not doing anything for Mama that Mama didn’t do for me when I was a kid. So now I don’t have any regrets taking care Mama. There are times when Mama doesn’t want to eat or drink anything. That seems to of gotten worse for some reason this past week. We don’t know why all we do know is that there are times when we could get her Glucerna shakes down her when we couldn’t get her to eat anything but for some reason this week were having a lot of problems getting her to drink anything. We’re having to take a spoon and try to get her to take a sip out of the spoon. We’ll have to see how long that takes. If you don’t get anything down her and she doesn’t get her medicine the right way the right time. There comes a time in your caregiving where a lot of things don’t matter anymore. If the one that your caregiving for doesn’t eat or drink anything, there’s not a whole lot you can do about it. That would probably be my, if I had to pick a regret, in my caregiving that would probably be it, the fact that you can’t make them eat, you can put food in front of them, you can put drink in front of them, but you can’t make them drink, and that that would be my one regret the fact that I can’t force Mama to eat or drink although I may try you can’t force them to take anything in.

In your caregiving a lot of times you do things in the heat of the moment. After time goes by you wonder whether or not what you did was the right thing to do. A lot of caregivers won’t tell you everything that they go through in their caregiving. I am one of those people who won’t tell you every little thing that goes on in in the house with the caregiving I am one that won’t tell you what Mama has done to us I won’t tell you what we’ve done to Mama. What I tried to do in this podcast is tell you what we do and what we don’t do because of dementia. When we first started caregiving we didn’t know what we were doing at all. I’ve gone out to Facebook to the caregiving support groups and I have found that a lot of posts in those groups are things that we have had questions about in our caregiving. So I try to take this podcast and tell you what we have done in that situation and what we haven’t been in that situation All to try to help you in your caregiving. I am also taking some courses in podcasting through the school of podcasting and you can find out at <a href="http://www.schoolofpodcasting.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.schoolofpodcasting.com</a> and while taking these courses we have meetings every once in a while and in one of those meetings I had a lady asked me, if I had any regrets in my caregiving? Immediately the answer was no. If you hurt listen to me anytime at all you know that I have the attitude of I’m not doing anything for Mama that Mama didn’t do for me when I was a kid. So now I don’t have any regrets taking care Mama. There are times when Mama doesn’t want to eat or drink anything. That seems to of gotten worse for some reason this past week. We don’t know why all we do know is that there are times when we could get her Glucerna shakes down her when we couldn’t get her to eat anything but for some reason this week were having a lot of problems getting her to drink anything. We’re having to take a spoon and try to get her to take a sip out of the spoon. We’ll have to see how long that takes. If you don’t get anything down her and she doesn’t get her medicine the right way the right time. There comes a time in your caregiving where a lot of things don’t matter anymore. If the one that your caregiving for doesn’t eat or drink anything, there’s not a whole lot you can do about it. That would probably be my, if I had to pick a regret, in my caregiving that would probably be it, the fact that you can’t make them eat, you can put food in front of them, you can put drink in front of them, but you can’t make them drink, and that that would be my one regret the fact that I can’t force Mama to eat or drink although I may try you can’t force them to take anything in.

Caregiving Mistakes,Regrets

Care Giving for Dementia Know It All Doctors Episode # 90 While in your caregiving journey there will be a lot of things that happened that you don’t understand. I know when not when we first started there was a whole lot that went on that we didn’t understand there’s a whole lot that I haven’t gone into with this podcast that went on when Mama first got dementia. That’s one reason why I started this podcast. What is a post on Facebook was talking about talking to a loved one’s doctor who asked the question, why are you getting your mothers hair done? He was told because Mama used to get her hair done Mama feels better getting her hair done Mama likes getting her hair done. I’m here to tell you after dealing with this stuff for eight years or more there are times when my mother still knows what’s going on around her. She may not know exactly what it is or who it is or exactly what’s being said but she still knows that somebody stalking door she knows it’s something’s been said to her. Stephanie and I asked Mama if you want to go get her hair done this week and she said yes. So we made her hair appointment to go get her hair done but when it comes time to go Mama, decided she didn’t want to go she didn’t feel good she didn’t feel like getting dressed to go get her hair done. Now fortunately we’ve got it fixed to where the lady that does mom’s hair knows what what’s going on and so we can work within that couple hour window. But if Mama would’ve told us yes that within that two-hour window to go get her hair cut we do gone and I don’t care what the doctor would’ve said about it. If I stop for one minute it made mom feel better we to take her. I’m here to say you can’t tell me that the doctors know everything about this dementia. Because I’m here to tell you that they don’t have seen too many reactions good and bad for mom was conversations that have gone on with mom. For any doctor to ask the question why would you do something they had your loved one doesn’t know what’s going on is BS. If you to left every decision that you make four or about your loved one up to the doctors you would have a absolute living zombie on your hands. They’ve proven that to me and if I get mom all the medication that the doctor wanted to give mom mom would be a living zombie. All all they want to do is push pills that make him sleep all the time. Mama sleeps enough the way it is let alone with more medication to make her sleep. So I just said all that just to say the doctors don’t know what everything. Doctors may think they do but they are not God! They do not know everything and for some doctor to say they don’t know what’s going on around them just because they have dementia doesn’t know what he’s talking about I’ve seen too many changes to many expressions good and bad for my mother for any doctor to convince me that she doesn’t know what’s going on. So just make the right decision for you and your loved one and don’t worry a whole lot about whether or not to Dr. seems that think they know what’s going on because they do Mama has proven that to me and yours will to given the chance.

Care Giving for Dementia Know It All Doctors Episode # 90 While in your caregiving journey there will be a lot of things that happened that you don’t understand. I know when not when we first started there was a whole lot that went on that we didn’t understand there’s a whole lot that I haven’t gone into with this podcast that went on when Mama first got dementia. That’s one reason why I started this podcast. What is a post on Facebook was talking about talking to a loved one’s doctor who asked the question, why are you getting your mothers hair done? He was told because Mama used to get her hair done Mama feels better getting her hair done Mama likes getting her hair done. I’m here to tell you after dealing with this stuff for eight years or more there are times when my mother still knows what’s going on around her. She may not know exactly what it is or who it is or exactly what’s being said but she still knows that somebody stalking door she knows it’s something’s been said to her. Stephanie and I asked Mama if you want to go get her hair done this week and she said yes. So we made her hair appointment to go get her hair done but when it comes time to go Mama, decided she didn’t want to go she didn’t feel good she didn’t feel like getting dressed to go get her hair done. Now fortunately we’ve got it fixed to where the lady that does mom’s hair knows what what’s going on and so we can work within that couple hour window. But if Mama would’ve told us yes that within that two-hour window to go get her hair cut we do gone and I don’t care what the doctor would’ve said about it. If I stop for one minute it made mom feel better we to take her. I’m here to say you can’t tell me that the doctors know everything about this dementia. Because I’m here to tell you that they don’t have seen too many reactions good and bad for mom was conversations that have gone on with mom. For any doctor to ask the question why would you do something they had your loved one doesn’t know what’s going on is BS. If you to left every decision that you make four or about your loved one up to the doctors you would have a absolute living zombie on your hands. They’ve proven that to me and if I get mom all the medication that the doctor wanted to give mom mom would be a living zombie. All all they want to do is push pills that make him sleep all the time. Mama sleeps enough the way it is let alone with more medication to make her sleep. So I just said all that just to say the doctors don’t know what everything. Doctors may think they do but they are not God! They do not know everything and for some doctor to say they don’t know what’s going on around them just because they have dementia doesn’t know what he’s talking about I’ve seen too many changes to many expressions good and bad for my mother for any doctor to convince me that she doesn’t know what’s going on. So just make the right decision for you and your loved one and don’t worry a whole lot about whether or not to Dr. seems that think they know what’s going on because they do Mama has proven that to me and yours will to given the chance.

Know It All Doctors

v Care Giving for Dementia Trying to get your loved one to do what ever Episode # 89   There are times when you try to get your loved one to do something that they don’t want to do. When that happens the only thing that you can do is back off and give a little better time and try again you just need to keep trying until it works. There are times where your loved one doesn’t want to eat now here with Mama sometimes that’s three days. We usually are able to get her drinks down her but not always. Mama sometimes just takes these spells where she just doesn’t want to eat anything at all doesn’t want to drink anything at all, and most of the time she’ll let you know that she doesn’t want it. We have come to the understanding that these ensures, boost, and Glucerna drinks are meal within themselves so as long as we can get mamas Glucerna her, she’s okay. With taking a bath there are times that Mama doesn’t want to take a bath I have come to conclusion that this is part of dementia. A lot of times we have to bath mom whether or not she wants to take a bath. And a lot of times you have to back off and give her a little better time and go back to trying to give her a bath and she’s fine with a bath. As far as sleeping when Mama was first diagnosed with this dementia and at times it was a pain to get Mama to go to bed. The boy had to get up early in the morning and go to school when the wife had to get up and go to work in various things and Mama didn’t always want to go to bed when we went. I didn’t like going to bed and leaving her awake by yourself so I stayed up as late as she did and then I would lay down most of the time when she was down.v         Cowboy Theme Pacav 1711860633 is Royalty Free Music

v Care Giving for Dementia Trying to get your loved one to do what ever Episode # 89 There are times when you try to get your loved one to do something that they don’t want to do. When that happens the only thing that you can do is back off and give a little better time and try again you just need to keep trying until it works. There are times where your loved one doesn’t want to eat now here with Mama sometimes that’s three days. We usually are able to get her drinks down her but not always. Mama sometimes just takes these spells where she just doesn’t want to eat anything at all doesn’t want to drink anything at all, and most of the time she’ll let you know that she doesn’t want it. We have come to the understanding that these ensures, boost, and Glucerna drinks are meal within themselves so as long as we can get mamas Glucerna her, she’s okay. With taking a bath there are times that Mama doesn’t want to take a bath I have come to conclusion that this is part of dementia. A lot of times we have to bath mom whether or not she wants to take a bath. And a lot of times you have to back off and give her a little better time and go back to trying to give her a bath and she’s fine with a bath. As far as sleeping when Mama was first diagnosed with this dementia and at times it was a pain to get Mama to go to bed. The boy had to get up early in the morning and go to school when the wife had to get up and go to work in various things and Mama didn’t always want to go to bed when we went. I didn’t like going to bed and leaving her awake by yourself so I stayed up as late as she did and then I would lay down most of the time when she was down.v Cowboy Theme Pacav 1711860633 is Royalty Free Music

Getting your loved one to do whatever

The show is about the Delaney Family's caregiving for someone with dementia. My mother has had dementia for four years now, In the show, we talk about things we do and don't do because of dementia.  I 'm hoping that this podcast will help someone Who's in the same situation.So basically the show is a little bit about things to do and things not to do with someone with dementia.

My husband died on September 1st of fronto temporal (frontal lobe) demenia.  Michael Delaney&#39;s infromation helped me cope with my husband&#39;s disease.  I thought for sure that my husband would outlive Michael&#39;s mother, but that was not to be the case.  I cared for my husband mostly by myself at home.  We visited a memory care nursing home once for a few hours.  NOT FOR US!  Being home was best for us, but not easy.  Thank you Michael.

Helped me cope with my husband

The show is about the Delaney Family's caregiving for someone with dementia. My mother has had dementia for four years now, In the show, we talk about things we do and don't do because of dementia. I 'm hoping that this podcast will help someone Who's in the same situation. So basically the show is a little bit about things to do and things not to do with someone with dementia.

Caregiving For Dementia

Caregiving For Dementia EPISODE # 35 Not Being Able To do The Things You Know You Should Do. This week’s show notes are going to be short and sweet to the point, ladies and gentlemen, you see, we’ve had a death in the family. Fortunately, it was not m

Caregiving For Dementia EPISODE # 35 Not Being Able To do The Things You Know You Should Do. This week’s show notes are going to be short and sweet to the point, ladies and gentlemen, you see, we’ve had a death in the family. Fortunately, it was not m

Not Able to do Things You Know You Should Do

DEMENTIA Episode # 26 Show Notes Talking to other Podcasters about the content. Is my content good enough to keep going Podcasters who have been podcasting for years are reachable folks Cliff Ravenscraft http://podcastanswerman.com/ Daniel J Lewis https:/

DEMENTIA Episode # 26 Show Notes Talking to other Podcasters about the content. Is my content good enough to keep going Podcasters who have been podcasting for years are reachable folks Cliff Ravenscraft <a href="http://podcastanswerman.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://podcastanswerman.com/</a> Daniel J Lewis https:/

Dementia

Dementia Episode # 10 1. A different set of problems that we can’t talk to mom about. 2. Taking a ride in the truck. 3. Waking up angry. 4. Still worrying about the dog. 5. Still being afraid of her own shadow. 6. A little girl has showed up. 7. Wanting

Dementia Episode # 10 1. A different set of problems that we can’t talk to mom about. 2. Taking a ride in the truck. 3. Waking up angry. 4. Still worrying about the dog. 5. Still being afraid of her own shadow. 6. A little girl has showed up. 7. Wanting

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Not Understanding Dementia   Episode # 76   This week’s episode, I talk a little bit about some of the things that I don’t understand about dementia. One of the things that I don’t understand is where dementia comes from 2 how you get dementia and 3 why does it act the way it does.   It doesn’t seem that anyone knows exactly where or how you get this devastating disease of dementia. No one seems to know why it acts the way it does. There are some that say it’s connected to concussions, but the problem I have with that so far is the fact that, as far as I know. Mamas never had a concussion. So if dementia is connected to concussions why or how did mom get it.   I also don’t understand the way it affects some people so quickly because at  episode 46, I talk about your personal appearance, because I had gotten my haircut and shave my beard. Episode 46 is a recording of the reactions I got from mom. When I recorded episode 46 Mama was so happy that I cleaned up. She was happy she ran her fingers through my hair and I got a lot of goo goo gaga from her. Approximately 4 days ago I got totally 360° different reaction from her, when I got my haircut and shave my beard once again. This reaction that I received 4 days ago was a terrifying look she didn’t want anything to do with me. She didn’t want to talk to me. She didn’t want to have anything at all to do with me. She was absolutely terrified of me.   I don’t have any real good explanations as to why she was so terrified, other than the fact that it was a quick and sudden change. I don’t believe she handle the quick and sudden change very well. I think she was very confused as to who I was, so that would explain the terrifying look that I getting for approximately 4 or 5 hours.   I also don’t understand why for some reason, Mama is getting nightmares. You know when you have small children, your 1st reaction to a nightmare is to just put your child in the bed with you and let them go to sleep as you are comforting them and let them know that it’s all right. You can’t do that with an adult who has dementia that has nightmares. The only thing you can do an adult is just comfort them. The best you can sit with them hold their hand and love on them until they calmed down from their nightmare. They will eventually just fall asleep in their own bed.   Medications are another thing that I don’t understand, When you have a child who’s on medication, you can somewhat force that child to take its medication. With an adult, you can’t force them to take their medication when they don’t want to take it. Trying to force them to take their medications is only going to upset them, which is going to upset you, which is going to upset them even more, and that’s not good for either one of you. The only thing you can do with their medication time is to take your time and if they don’t want to take it on time back off and come back in a little while and they will eventually take their medications. You may end up happening to do this several times in order for them to take their medication.   These are just some of the areas that I do not understand why dementia acts the way it does. Mama never had nightmares before, Mama never had a problem taking medications before. These are some signs of the dementia getting a little worse. I believe. The only thing I can think to say is don’t lose your patience with them, which I know is easier said than done, been there done that. When you feel yourself losing it just walk away. They’ll be okay even if they’re on the pot they will be okay. Come back and just tell them you love them, calm them down, if you can, because one day sooner than you may think they may not be here to tell them that you love them. They may not be here to give you problems with their medication. They may not be here to wake up from a nightmare. So just  love on them as much as you can now, because one day they may not be here at all.

Not Understanding Dementia Episode # 76 This week’s episode, I talk a little bit about some of the things that I don’t understand about dementia. One of the things that I don’t understand is where dementia comes from 2 how you get dementia and 3 why does it act the way it does. It doesn’t seem that anyone knows exactly where or how you get this devastating disease of dementia. No one seems to know why it acts the way it does. There are some that say it’s connected to concussions, but the problem I have with that so far is the fact that, as far as I know. Mamas never had a concussion. So if dementia is connected to concussions why or how did mom get it. I also don’t understand the way it affects some people so quickly because at <a href="http://traffic.libsyn.com/babymountainradio/Personal_Appearance.mp3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> episode 46</a>, I talk about your personal appearance, because I had gotten my haircut and shave my beard. Episode 46 is a recording of the reactions I got from mom. When I recorded episode 46 Mama was so happy that I cleaned up. She was happy she ran her fingers through my hair and I got a lot of goo goo gaga from her. Approximately 4 days ago I got totally 360° different reaction from her, when I got my haircut and shave my beard once again. This reaction that I received 4 days ago was a terrifying look she didn’t want anything to do with me. She didn’t want to talk to me. She didn’t want to have anything at all to do with me. She was absolutely terrified of me. I don’t have any real good explanations as to why she was so terrified, other than the fact that it was a quick and sudden change. I don’t believe she handle the quick and sudden change very well. I think she was very confused as to who I was, so that would explain the terrifying look that I getting for approximately 4 or 5 hours. I also don’t understand why for some reason, Mama is getting nightmares. You know when you have small children, your 1st reaction to a nightmare is to just put your child in the bed with you and let them go to sleep as you are comforting them and let them know that it’s all right. You can’t do that with an adult who has dementia that has nightmares. The only thing you can do an adult is just comfort them. The best you can sit with them hold their hand and love on them until they calmed down from their nightmare. They will eventually just fall asleep in their own bed. Medications are another thing that I don’t understand, When you have a child who’s on medication, you can somewhat force that child to take its medication. With an adult, you can’t force them to take their medication when they don’t want to take it. Trying to force them to take their medications is only going to upset them, which is going to upset you, which is going to upset them even more, and that’s not good for either one of you. The only thing you can do with their medication time is to take your time and if they don’t want to take it on time back off and come back in a little while and they will eventually take their medications. You may end up happening to do this several times in order for them to take their medication. These are just some of the areas that I do not understand why dementia acts the way it does. Mama never had nightmares before, Mama never had a problem taking medications before. These are some signs of the dementia getting a little worse. I believe. The only thing I can think to say is don’t lose your patience with them, which I know is easier said than done, been there done that. When you feel yourself losing it just walk away. They’ll be okay even if they’re on the pot they will be okay. Come back and just tell them you love them, calm them down, if you can, because one day sooner than you may think they may not be here to tell them that you love them. They may not be here to give you problems with their medication. They may not be here to wake up from a nightmare. So just  love on them as much as you can now, because one day they may not be here at all.

Not Understanding Dementia

In this episode of caregiving for dementia I talk a little bit about caregiver pressure. Caregiver pressures to pressure that you have as you care for someone with any kind of physical or mental disability. I talk about life pressure and the pressure that you have that you put on yourself as you care for someone else. The pressure builds and comes to where it just explodes and you jump on anybody and everybody that’s around. This was the case I found myself into with my son the other night I jumped all over him for something that he may or may not be able to control. I felt like he didn’t care, wasn’t doing anything to help the problem, was creating more pressure for me. When I leave the house for a few hours I get to feeling like I’m the one that needs to be there to take care of mom. I get the feeling that it’s my responsibility not someone else’s to take care of her. The longer I’m out the board the feeling gets that I’m the one that needs to be home so the pressure and the stress start to build. I don’t always leave the house because of this stress that it builds the pressure that it builds when I leave. There’s all kind of pressure there’s all kinds of stress in life. Some of the stress and pressure is self-induced. Some of the other pressure is just life stress in general. It don’t always get away from the pressure and the stress totally. A lot of the times things that you do to relieve the stress and relieve the presser adds a different kind of stress or pressure to you. I think that’s a lot of the reason why it has taken me a year and a half to put out 52 episodes of this podcast because deadlines add pressure. Life has enough stress and pressure that we don’t need to add stress to our lives of having a deadline for everything that we do in life. And don’t get me wrong I’m enjoying this podcast I enjoy coming in talking to you. Meeting a deadline adds undue stress to an already stressed situation. I honestly think stress and pressure starts back at the first grade. When you start school, the teacher gives you homework to do by a certain deadline. The deadline is what starts the pressure of having something done on time. Pressure starts at a very young age and you try to find different ways of relieving that stress. For me I started smoking at 14. Made me feel big made me feel like a man. Now that I’m in my 50s I’m paying for that mistake of picking up the first cigarette that I enjoyed so much that made me and cough so bad. In your 50s and 60s sometimes even in your 40s you start paying for the things that you did coming up through life.You find yourself throughout life paying for things that you did as a kid. You find yourself in a certain spot or certain place for a very long time. You find yourself having to move out of that certain spot due to the fact of some things that you did in life. I’ve said all this just to say that stress and pressure of life can never really seem to get away from it all together. It seems to follow you no matter where you go what you do or how you do it. The things that we do to relieve this pressure of life doesn’t always relieve that pressure altogether. It may relieve it for a time but you may end up paying for it later on in life. I don’t always leave the house to get away from the pressure because it creates more pressure although it may be a different kind of pressure it’s still pressure. I don’t have any answers to get completely away from the stress the pressure of caregiving. I don’t have any answers to get away from the life pressure. Yes you couldn’t go away for weekend, you can go be by yourself for a while, but I have come to realize that the pressure still that of be there no matter what, where, when, or how you try to deal with it. We just got a deal with what life hands us the best we can, the easiest way we can and go on with life.

In this episode of caregiving for dementia I talk a little bit about caregiver pressure. Caregiver pressures to pressure that you have as you care for someone with any kind of physical or mental disability. I talk about life pressure and the pressure that you have that you put on yourself as you care for someone else. The pressure builds and comes to where it just explodes and you jump on anybody and everybody that’s around. This was the case I found myself into with my son the other night I jumped all over him for something that he may or may not be able to control. I felt like he didn’t care, wasn’t doing anything to help the problem, was creating more pressure for me. When I leave the house for a few hours I get to feeling like I’m the one that needs to be there to take care of mom. I get the feeling that it’s my responsibility not someone else’s to take care of her. The longer I’m out the board the feeling gets that I’m the one that needs to be home so the pressure and the stress start to build. I don’t always leave the house because of this stress that it builds the pressure that it builds when I leave. There’s all kind of pressure there’s all kinds of stress in life. Some of the stress and pressure is self-induced. Some of the other pressure is just life stress in general. It don’t always get away from the pressure and the stress totally. A lot of the times things that you do to relieve the stress and relieve the presser adds a different kind of stress or pressure to you. I think that’s a lot of the reason why it has taken me a year and a half to put out 52 episodes of this podcast because deadlines add pressure. Life has enough stress and pressure that we don’t need to add stress to our lives of having a deadline for everything that we do in life. And don’t get me wrong I’m enjoying this podcast I enjoy coming in talking to you. Meeting a deadline adds undue stress to an already stressed situation. I honestly think stress and pressure starts back at the first grade. When you start school, the teacher gives you homework to do by a certain deadline. The deadline is what starts the pressure of having something done on time. Pressure starts at a very young age and you try to find different ways of relieving that stress. For me I started smoking at 14. Made me feel big made me feel like a man. Now that I’m in my 50s I’m paying for that mistake of picking up the first cigarette that I enjoyed so much that made me and cough so bad. In your 50s and 60s sometimes even in your 40s you start paying for the things that you did coming up through life.You find yourself throughout life paying for things that you did as a kid. You find yourself in a certain spot or certain place for a very long time. You find yourself having to move out of that certain spot due to the fact of some things that you did in life. I’ve said all this just to say that stress and pressure of life can never really seem to get away from it all together. It seems to follow you no matter where you go what you do or how you do it. The things that we do to relieve this pressure of life doesn’t always relieve that pressure altogether. It may relieve it for a time but you may end up paying for it later on in life. I don’t always leave the house to get away from the pressure because it creates more pressure although it may be a different kind of pressure it’s still pressure. I don’t have any answers to get completely away from the stress the pressure of caregiving. I don’t have any answers to get away from the life pressure. Yes you couldn’t go away for weekend, you can go be by yourself for a while, but I have come to realize that the pressure still that of be there no matter what, where, when, or how you try to deal with it. We just got a deal with what life hands us the best we can, the easiest way we can and go on with life.

Care Giving Pressure

1st off, let me assure everyone that Mama is still with us, so that is not the reason why I haven’t put a podcast out in about 5 weeks. We’ve had some devastating changes in mom this past month, but for the most part she’s holding her own. When your child, you don’t think that one day your parents will forget who you are. I don’t know about you but when we were kids. Every once in a while when we were talking to mom about something, she would end up calling the role, in other words, she name off a couple of us kids name instead of the one that she was actually talking to. I didn’t think anything about it, it was just something that happened every once in a while. Looking back on it now, though I wonder if that wasn’t the 1st actual signs of Mama having dementia. I’ve said before the podcast of Mama knew something was wrong, long before any rest of us did, including her doctors. This past month there’s been some devastating changes in mom. I called it devastating changes because there are now times that Mama forgets who I am. I think that may have a lot to do with the fact that Stephanie’s out of school for the summer. Stephanie’s been doing a lot for mom throughout the summer, that has really given me a huge break. I didn’t have to run every time Mama needed something. Stephanie was been able to take care of a lot of that for me, once we got mom to let her do some things for her. So I backed off throughout the summer, except for when Mama needed to be moved from place to place. Stephanie just doesn’t have the muscle to move mom from place to place, throughout the summer, there’s been times when Mama didn’t want me doing things for her, she’d rather have Stephanie do some things for her. We now have 3 weeks and Stephanie goes back to work, and I’m wondering how much of a hard time, I’m going to have getting back into being the full-time caregiver for Mama, when Stephanie goes back to work. Even if I do have a hard time getting back into becoming the full-time caregiver it’ll be fine. When things need done. They just need done. If the one that your caregiving for doesn’t like it, then they just don’t like it. You have to do things to keep them healthy for as long as you can. No matter whether what. We may have an interesting start to the school year. I’m sure it’ll take time for Mama to get used to me taking over again. But I’m sure that eventually she’ll get used to me again, she may or may not know who I am all the time. But she’ll get to the point where she realized that I’m the only one here in the house with her. She may not like it for a while, but she will eventually get used to me again. I’m sure.

1st off, let me assure everyone that Mama is still with us, so that is not the reason why I haven’t put a podcast out in about 5 weeks. We’ve had some devastating changes in mom this past month, but for the most part she’s holding her own. When your child, you don’t think that one day your parents will forget who you are. I don’t know about you but when we were kids. Every once in a while when we were talking to mom about something, she would end up calling the role, in other words, she name off a couple of us kids name instead of the one that she was actually talking to. I didn’t think anything about it, it was just something that happened every once in a while. Looking back on it now, though I wonder if that wasn’t the 1st actual signs of Mama having dementia. I’ve said before the podcast of Mama knew something was wrong, long before any rest of us did, including her doctors. This past month there’s been some devastating changes in mom. I called it devastating changes because there are now times that Mama forgets who I am. I think that may have a lot to do with the fact that Stephanie’s out of school for the summer. Stephanie’s been doing a lot for mom throughout the summer, that has really given me a huge break. I didn’t have to run every time Mama needed something. Stephanie was been able to take care of a lot of that for me, once we got mom to let her do some things for her. So I backed off throughout the summer, except for when Mama needed to be moved from place to place. Stephanie just doesn’t have the muscle to move mom from place to place, throughout the summer, there’s been times when Mama didn’t want me doing things for her, she’d rather have Stephanie do some things for her. We now have 3 weeks and Stephanie goes back to work, and I’m wondering how much of a hard time, I’m going to have getting back into being the full-time caregiver for Mama, when Stephanie goes back to work. Even if I do have a hard time getting back into becoming the full-time caregiver it’ll be fine. When things need done. They just need done. If the one that your caregiving for doesn’t like it, then they just don’t like it. You have to do things to keep them healthy for as long as you can. No matter whether what. We may have an interesting start to the school year. I’m sure it’ll take time for Mama to get used to me taking over again. But I’m sure that eventually she’ll get used to me again, she may or may not know who I am all the time. But she’ll get to the point where she realized that I’m the only one here in the house with her. She may not like it for a while, but she will eventually get used to me again. I’m sure.

Being Forgotten

In this episode, I refer back to several different episodes of caregiving for dementia about changes. If you would like to hear those episodes that I refer to, I put the direct links for downloads in the show notes. And yet in this episode, I bring you yet another change in mom with her dementia in this episode, I discuss a lot about drinking, Mama is forgetting how to drink. And it’s a major turning point because when she forgets to drink altogether. We have lost any way of getting any nourishment to her at all. I also talk about my belief in the fact that I don’t believe the doctors really know where this dementia comes from. They just seem to chalk it up to be an old. The problem that I have with that thought is the fact that you have 85-year-olds that are acting like they’re in their 50s and 60s. And then you have people in their 60s and 50s with dementia like the 85-year-olds. So I don’t believe just being old has anything to do with dementia. Once again in this episode, though I know that mom is not totally gone. You see, I’ve made up some T-shirts for the show in which I have used the cover art as front of the T-shirt, which is in fact, Mama ’s high school graduation picture that we have altered to black and white. I was sitting out with Mama one evening working with her on her drinking and she recognized that I had a T-shirt on with a picture of a girl on the front she looked at that point in looked at me and said that girls pretty, I looked at mom and I said that you she pointed to shirt looked at me and she said yeah, I know. Now whether or not she actually knew that the picture with her not I don’t know, but that ’s a glimpse of Mama still be in there. Thank God that Mama’s still with us. Here are the direct links for the episodes that I have referred to in this podcast. # 1 Losing History Episode number 14 # 2 Physical Problems episode number 20 # 3 Changes episode number 27 # 4 Christmas Changes episode number 36 # 5 and last but not least Losing Spunk episode number 51 I hope you enjoy this episode, or the past episodes of caregiving for dementia. Have a good week. Have a safe week and will talk to you next week. I have one last link I’d like to share with you for the international podcast day. https://internationalpodcastday.com/

In this episode, I refer back to several different episodes of caregiving for dementia about changes. If you would like to hear those episodes that I refer to, I put the direct links for downloads in the show notes. And yet in this episode, I bring you yet another change in mom with her dementia in this episode, I discuss a lot about drinking, Mama is forgetting how to drink. And it’s a major turning point because when she forgets to drink altogether. We have lost any way of getting any nourishment to her at all. I also talk about my belief in the fact that I don’t believe the doctors really know where this dementia comes from. They just seem to chalk it up to be an old. The problem that I have with that thought is the fact that you have 85-year-olds that are acting like they’re in their 50s and 60s. And then you have people in their 60s and 50s with dementia like the 85-year-olds. So I don’t believe just being old has anything to do with dementia. Once again in this episode, though I know that mom is not totally gone. You see, I’ve made up some T-shirts for the show in which I have used the cover art as front of the T-shirt, which is in fact, Mama ’s high school graduation picture that we have altered to black and white. I was sitting out with Mama one evening working with her on her drinking and she recognized that I had a T-shirt on with a picture of a girl on the front she looked at that point in looked at me and said that girls pretty, I looked at mom and I said that you she pointed to shirt looked at me and she said yeah, I know. Now whether or not she actually knew that the picture with her not I don’t know, but that ’s a glimpse of Mama still be in there. Thank God that Mama’s still with us. Here are the direct links for the episodes that I have referred to in this podcast. # 1 Losing History Episode number 14 # 2 Physical Problems episode number 20 # 3 Changes episode number 27 # 4 Christmas Changes episode number 36 # 5 and last but not least Losing Spunk episode number 51 I hope you enjoy this episode, or the past episodes of caregiving for dementia. Have a good week. Have a safe week and will talk to you next week. I have one last link I’d like to share with you for the international podcast day. <a href="https://internationalpodcastday.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://internationalpodcastday.com/</a>

A Turning Point

Thanksgiving Day Dinner episode # 32 In this episode we talk about the Thanksgiving dinner family members, including the dogs for both families. All 3 grandkids helping to prepare dinner, Including a 1st time turkey carving.

Thanksgiving Day Dinner episode # 32 In this episode we talk about the Thanksgiving dinner family members, including the dogs for both families. All 3 grandkids helping to prepare dinner, Including a 1st time turkey carving.

Thanksgiving Dinner

1. Not having a whole lot to talk about this week 2. Thinking that after you get to be a certain age. The doctors are going to over medicate you 3. Mama’s has done 380 after taking have of her medication away 4. Mama not being hard to deal with, yes, sh

1. Not having a whole lot to talk about this week 2. Thinking that after you get to be a certain age. The doctors are going to over medicate you 3. Mama’s has done 380 after taking have of her medication away 4. Mama not being hard to deal with, yes, sh

Dementia Episode #23

Episode # 82         This episode is about some feelings I have after reading some Facebook support group posts. Some news from a very old friend that reinforces the thought that dementia kills. I also asked the question whether or not we are taking care Mama correctly or not.   A lot of times I get into the support groups on Facebook and the post that some people make often get me upset after reading them, because those post are sometimes nothing more than complaining about every day, normal things that happen when your caregiving for someone. Often times I forget the ones that are caregiving for someone else’s loved one. Although at the time, it does not stop me from getting upset.   I’ve received some news from a very old friend that I haven’t talked to since I have been 17 years old that just reinforces the fact that dementia kills. I learned about 3 months ago that this friend’s mother had dementia unfortunately she lost her battle with dementia on Monday night. I reached out to the old friend and we had approximately and hours conversation. About her mom and how things were going with her dad, now that her mom had passed.   While caregiving for someone, you always have in the back to your mind. The question is this right, in my taking care of this person correctly? Should I or shouldn’t I do this. These are questions that only you can answer as your taking care of the one that you're taking care of your the only one that knows whether or not it would be easier for you or easier for them with your decisions.

Episode # 82 This episode is about some feelings I have after reading some Facebook support group posts. Some news from a very old friend that reinforces the thought that dementia kills. I also asked the question whether or not we are taking care Mama correctly or not. A lot of times I get into the support groups on Facebook and the post that some people make often get me upset after reading them, because those post are sometimes nothing more than complaining about every day, normal things that happen when your caregiving for someone. Often times I forget the ones that are caregiving for someone else’s loved one. Although at the time, it does not stop me from getting upset. I’ve received some news from a very old friend that I haven’t talked to since I have been 17 years old that just reinforces the fact that dementia kills. I learned about 3 months ago that this friend’s mother had dementia unfortunately she lost her battle with dementia on Monday night. I reached out to the old friend and we had approximately and hours conversation. About her mom and how things were going with her dad, now that her mom had passed. While caregiving for someone, you always have in the back to your mind. The question is this right, in my taking care of this person correctly? Should I or shouldn’t I do this. These are questions that only you can answer as your taking care of the one that you're taking care of your the only one that knows whether or not it would be easier for you or easier for them with your decisions.

The Effects of Dementia

Dementia Episode # 18 Show Notes   Unapologetic for last week's episode Thank you to the wife The talk between pod casters. My own health issues mamas eating and sleeping habits a ruler from kindergarten listening to other pod casters and one was talking about growing up as a child having the best of both worlds is a kid losing the family stories that you heard as a kid. Not having anyone to go to to know the truth of those stories things that Michael should and shouldn't know/Stephanie knows dementia locking doors to memories reading the Christmas story on Christmas Eve not decorating for Christmas this year Mama not being able to tell Michael your daddy did this your daddy did that siblings telling the family stories my stepfather and I 3 out of 4 parents dementia robbing mom of her grandkids/great grandkids Mama sisters losing track of thought and being able to regain it not searching for the truth, this close to losing mom your health, your actions affect your kids starting family traditions of your own telling kids in your stories tell your kids you love them Michael's responses a lot of the time to his mother and I when we want to love on him the wife walked in the detail in and said I should of said when I was talking about love on them to add a hug on them too.

Dementia Episode # 18 Show Notes Unapologetic for last week's episode Thank you to the wife The talk between pod casters. My own health issues mamas eating and sleeping habits a ruler from kindergarten listening to other pod casters and one was talking about growing up as a child having the best of both worlds is a kid losing the family stories that you heard as a kid. Not having anyone to go to to know the truth of those stories things that Michael should and shouldn't know/Stephanie knows dementia locking doors to memories reading the Christmas story on Christmas Eve not decorating for Christmas this year Mama not being able to tell Michael your daddy did this your daddy did that siblings telling the family stories my stepfather and I 3 out of 4 parents dementia robbing mom of her grandkids/great grandkids Mama sisters losing track of thought and being able to regain it not searching for the truth, this close to losing mom your health, your actions affect your kids starting family traditions of your own telling kids in your stories tell your kids you love them Michael's responses a lot of the time to his mother and I when we want to love on him the wife walked in the detail in and said I should of said when I was talking about love on them to add a hug on them too.

Dementia Episode # 18

Dementia Episode # 15 Show Notes Not being able to tell us this and that about the washing machines because of dementia. The boys needing to take a break from work to be with the family do other things. Mama’s reaction to being woke up. I don’t know a

Dementia Episode # 15 Show Notes Not being able to tell us this and that about the washing machines because of dementia. The boys needing to take a break from work to be with the family do other things. Mama’s reaction to being woke up. I don’t know a

Dementia Episode # 15

This is Just an update to episode # 35. 

This is Just an update to episode # 35.

Update To Episode # 35

Getting Old with Dementia Episode # 83 The longer you take care of someone with a mental disease. The more problems you have. In the past 2 weeks, Mama has developed a few new problems, one of which is not being able to set up from a lying down position, all by herself. The longer I’m taking care mom, the harder it’s becoming to move her around. Now that she not only can’t set up. It’s also causing a problem with her standing up even though she has a hold on me. I’m finding out that I am not that it be able to pick her up, hold her up and do what I need to do after a bathroom trip, all by myself. The longer you take care of someone; it begins to dawn on you that there are just some things that you’re not going to be able to do all by yourself. It’s a lot easier to do some things with 2 or more people than it is with just one person doing it all. I find it much easier to move Mama around when someone else’s in the house. We started looking for someone to come help a few hours a week. We were able to find a lady from our church that was willing to come and sit with mom and help us out with mom. And we’ve had this lady for now, for about 6 months, but now this lady may have the opportunity to make a little more money than we can afford to pay her here. So we believe that were going to lose this lady due to financial needs. Fortunately, Stephanie only has 2 weeks of all of school left, so she’ll be here for 3 months or almost 3, to help me with mom. In the fall however, she’ll go back to work, which will leave me with mom once again, all by myself. I know how much easier it is to care of Mama with 2 people that it is one, so I contacted Medicare to see if I can get this lady’s time paid for. Unfortunately Medicare does not pay for a ny one caring for someone that is not certified in caregiving. However, Medicare did say to talk to mom is Dr. and have Mama’s Dr. set things up for in-home care giving, and then Medicare would take care of it from there. With that said, though, let me make it perfectly clear, I am not now nor will I ever plan to put Mama in a nursing home and if you have listened to this podcast for any length of time you know my feelings on nursing homes. Assisted living places may be a little better; however, that’s not an option either. I will take care Mama until Mama is gone If I have to crawl on my knees to do it. It’s just a lot easier with 2 people that it is one on one.

Getting Old with Dementia Episode # 83 The longer you take care of someone with a mental disease. The more problems you have. In the past 2 weeks, Mama has developed a few new problems, one of which is not being able to set up from a lying down position, all by herself. The longer I’m taking care mom, the harder it’s becoming to move her around. Now that she not only can’t set up. It’s also causing a problem with her standing up even though she has a hold on me. I’m finding out that I am not that it be able to pick her up, hold her up and do what I need to do after a bathroom trip, all by myself. The longer you take care of someone; it begins to dawn on you that there are just some things that you’re not going to be able to do all by yourself. It’s a lot easier to do some things with 2 or more people than it is with just one person doing it all. I find it much easier to move Mama around when someone else’s in the house. We started looking for someone to come help a few hours a week. We were able to find a lady from our church that was willing to come and sit with mom and help us out with mom. And we’ve had this lady for now, for about 6 months, but now this lady may have the opportunity to make a little more money than we can afford to pay her here. So we believe that were going to lose this lady due to financial needs. Fortunately, Stephanie only has 2 weeks of all of school left, so she’ll be here for 3 months or almost 3, to help me with mom. In the fall however, she’ll go back to work, which will leave me with mom once again, all by myself. I know how much easier it is to care of Mama with 2 people that it is one, so I contacted Medicare to see if I can get this lady’s time paid for. Unfortunately Medicare does not pay for a ny one caring for someone that is not certified in caregiving. However, Medicare did say to talk to mom is Dr. and have Mama’s Dr. set things up for in-home care giving, and then Medicare would take care of it from there. With that said, though, let me make it perfectly clear, I am not now nor will I ever plan to put Mama in a nursing home and if you have listened to this podcast for any length of time you know my feelings on nursing homes. Assisted living places may be a little better; however, that’s not an option either. I will take care Mama until Mama is gone If I have to crawl on my knees to do it. It’s just a lot easier with 2 people that it is one on one.

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The Michael Delaney Show Episode # 4                                                      2/17/2017    Up Date on Kaiser Web Site Renting a rv for a trip to West Va Sound Bites Feb 14 2017 Valentine’s Dayv 

The Michael Delaney Show Episode # 4                                                     2/17/2017 <ol> <li>Up Date on Kaiser Web Site</li> <li>Renting a rv for a trip to West Va</li> <li>Sound Bites</li> <li>Feb 14 2017 Valentine’s Dayv</li> </ol>

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The Michael Delaney Show Episode # 3   In today’s show we cover the following  I have some shout outs for the gamers of call of duty III  Gen Death, Fear, Cliff Ravescraft  Mom / Kaiser, Mom’s fall, Mom seeing things and people. The Super ball Presidents Trump’s Ben 

The Michael Delaney Show Episode # 3 In today’s show we cover the following <ol> <li>I have some shout outs for the gamers of call of duty III</li> </ol> Gen Death, Fear, Cliff Ravescraft <ol> <li>Mom / Kaiser, Mom’s fall, Mom seeing things and people.</li> <li>The Super ball</li> <li>Presidents Trump’s Ben</li> </ol>

THe Michael Delaney Show Episode # 3

Episode # 87         This week’s episode of caregiving for dementia was inspired by a Facebook group post someone said something about their siblings giving them a hard time about caregiving for their loved one.   If you are the main caregiver for your loved one you are the one that is dealing with the aftereffects of your siblings coming to visit. If they are not around 24 seven 365 days a year like you are, if they are not sharing in the caregiving you’ll need to be able to tell your siblings to kiss your you know what, if they start trying to telling you what you need to do and what you don’t need to do.   Mamma’s had six of us kids five of us are still living. Three of the five have just up and disappeared. They don’t call, they don’t write, and they definitely, definitely don’t come around to see mom. They have been gone for 5 or 6 years and if they were to show up today I don’t know that I’d would let them in the house. I’m not even sure I’d have a long drawn out conversation with any of them.   Your siblings should have enough respect for you and for your loved one that they would not argue too awful much about what you’re doing and what you’re not doing. If your siblings don’t have enough respect for you or your loved one then you need to be able to put them in their place. After all you are the one that’s taking care of your loved one not them. The siblings would have a hard time forcing you to do anything other than what you’re doing, especially if you have a doctor’s letter saying that your loved one is incompetent. So believe me and my siblings showed up and started trying to tell me how to take care mom or how not to take care mom I would waste no time putting them in their place and if need be waive the doctor’s letter at them just let them know that the Dr. knows that she’s incompetent and that you know that the Dr. knows.   When Mama divorced my stepfather the three siblings stayed with their father instead of living with mom and I. Now I’m not really going to whole lot of details here but they abandoned mom then.   When the siblings decided that they wanted to go to college they knew where to go to get the help for college they knew that mom would help them any way that she could. Mama helped all three of them through college one she even helped with other bills and did without a lot of things and we didn’t do a lot of things when it was just mom and I in my 20s because the three of them were in school. They needed mom while they were in school. Now then that Mama needs them, and they have all, once again up and disappeared.   Mama has two great grandkids that she’s never even laid eyes on. Mama is now so far gone that even if you brought the kids around Mama wouldn’t know them so Mama will never actually know those two great grandkids because their mother is not around.   Before Mama got sick my sister would come down and see mom and take mom shopping and whatever else they wanted to do but when they got home,all  Mama wanted to do  in the evening was rest. When she wasn’t here she would call every evening and talk to mom for at least an hour or so. But since Mama has been diagnosed with this devastating disease of dementia none of them are around. Mama

Episode # 87 This week’s episode of caregiving for dementia was inspired by a Facebook group post someone said something about their siblings giving them a hard time about caregiving for their loved one. If you are the main caregiver for your loved one you are the one that is dealing with the aftereffects of your siblings coming to visit. If they are not around 24 seven 365 days a year like you are, if they are not sharing in the caregiving you’ll need to be able to tell your siblings to kiss your you know what, if they start trying to telling you what you need to do and what you don’t need to do. Mamma’s had six of us kids five of us are still living. Three of the five have just up and disappeared. They don’t call, they don’t write, and they definitely, definitely don’t come around to see mom. They have been gone for 5 or 6 years and if they were to show up today I don’t know that I’d would let them in the house. I’m not even sure I’d have a long drawn out conversation with any of them. Your siblings should have enough respect for you and for your loved one that they would not argue too awful much about what you’re doing and what you’re not doing. If your siblings don’t have enough respect for you or your loved one then you need to be able to put them in their place. After all you are the one that’s taking care of your loved one not them. The siblings would have a hard time forcing you to do anything other than what you’re doing, especially if you have a doctor’s letter saying that your loved one is incompetent. So believe me and my siblings showed up and started trying to tell me how to take care mom or how not to take care mom I would waste no time putting them in their place and if need be waive the doctor’s letter at them just let them know that the Dr. knows that she’s incompetent and that you know that the Dr. knows. When Mama divorced my stepfather the three siblings stayed with their father instead of living with mom and I. Now I’m not really going to whole lot of details here but they abandoned mom then. When the siblings decided that they wanted to go to college they knew where to go to get the help for college they knew that mom would help them any way that she could. Mama helped all three of them through college one she even helped with other bills and did without a lot of things and we didn’t do a lot of things when it was just mom and I in my 20s because the three of them were in school. They needed mom while they were in school. Now then that Mama needs them, and they have all, once again up and disappeared. Mama has two great grandkids that she’s never even laid eyes on. Mama is now so far gone that even if you brought the kids around Mama wouldn’t know them so Mama will never actually know those two great grandkids because their mother is not around. Before Mama got sick my sister would come down and see mom and take mom shopping and whatever else they wanted to do but when they got home,all  Mama wanted to do  in the evening was rest. When she wasn’t here she would call every evening and talk to mom for at least an hour or so. But since Mama has been diagnosed with this devastating disease of dementia none of them are around. Mama

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