Parent Driven Development Episode 067: Goodbye, for now. 1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast  Imposter syndrome Multiple purposes to be an effective parent  Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques Ability to relate with one another  8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast  There is no one way to parent  You’ll continue to grow as a parent You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different  13:30 What would we have done differently?  Earlier sponsorship  Episode format  16:15 Parting words for listeners  Thank you!! You’re doing a great job.   17:17 Final genius and fail moments  Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her. Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident. KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped! Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow.   How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Chris Arcand Chris Sexton KWu Allison 

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 067: Goodbye, for now.</h2> <h3>1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast</h3> <ul> <li>Imposter syndrome</li> <li>Multiple purposes to be an effective parent </li> <li>Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques</li> <li>Ability to relate with one another</li> </ul> <h3>8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast</h3> <ul> <li>There is no one way to parent </li> <li>You’ll continue to grow as a parent</li> <li>You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different</li> </ul> <h3>13:30 What would we have done differently?</h3> <ul> <li>Earlier sponsorship </li> <li>Episode format</li> </ul> <h3>16:15 Parting words for listeners</h3> <ul> <li>Thank you!!</li> <li>You’re doing a great job. </li> </ul> <h3>17:17 Final genius and fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her.</li> <li>Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident.</li> <li>KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped!</li> <li>Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow. </li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/chrisarcand" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Arcand</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> </p>

067: Goodbye, for now

Parent Driven Development 66: Finding a new job during the pandemic. Welcome, Jean Hsu! Jean Hsu is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at Range Labs and Co-founder of Co Leadership, which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it. 0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic  Desire strikes for leadership The hiring process  5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process  Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over  7:30 What would Jean do differently now?  Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies  13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales  Feels like a different lifetime  15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic  Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels Core hours for team meetings Setting boundaries   19:40 Genius and fail moments  KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius Chris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius  How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Allison  KWu Chris SextonSpecial Guest: Jean Hsu.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>66: Finding a new job during the pandemic.</h2> <h3>Welcome, Jean Hsu!</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/jyhsu" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jean Hsu</a> is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at <a href="https://www.range.co/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Range Labs</a> and Co-founder of <a href="https://coleadership.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Co Leadership</a>, which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it.</p> <h3>0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic</h3> <ul> <li>Desire strikes for leadership</li> <li>The hiring process</li> </ul> <h3>5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process</h3> <ul> <li>Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility</li> <li>Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over</li> </ul> <h3>7:30 What would Jean do differently now?</h3> <ul> <li>Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other</li> <li>Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies</li> </ul> <h3>13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales</h3> <ul> <li>Feels like a different lifetime</li> </ul> <h3>15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic</h3> <ul> <li>Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels</li> <li>Core hours for team meetings</li> <li>Setting boundaries </li> </ul> <h3>19:40 Genius and fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail</li> <li>Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius</li> <li>Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius</li> <li>Chris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius</li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> <br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jean Hsu.</p>

066: Finding a new job during the pandemic 

Parent Driven Development Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne Welcome, Felienne! Felienne is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “The Programmer’s Brain” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research. 0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education?  Research field towards programming education Love of kids  3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand  Relevant for professionals  Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases  6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids  Learn their preferences Challenges their default learning style  9:57 Felienne’s new book  How people learn programming The more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn  11:40 Interesting findings  Cognitive load  14:00 Top tips related to programming  Refactoring for personal comprehension  Let go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like  17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids  Motivation  Concrete vs open ended expression  20:50 - 1 take away  Take the kids hands, and guide them  22:20  Allison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius Felienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail  How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Allison Special Guest: Felienne Hermans.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne</h2> <h3>Welcome, Felienne!</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/Felienne" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Felienne</a> is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “<a href="https://www.felienne.com/book" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Programmer’s Brain</a>” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research.</p> <h3>0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education?</h3> <ul> <li>Research field towards programming education</li> <li>Love of kids</li> </ul> <h3>3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand</h3> <ul> <li>Relevant for professionals </li> <li>Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load</li> <li>After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases</li> </ul> <h3>6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids</h3> <ul> <li>Learn their preferences</li> <li>Challenges their default learning style</li> </ul> <h3>9:57 Felienne’s new book</h3> <ul> <li>How people learn programming</li> <li>The more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn</li> </ul> <h3>11:40 Interesting findings</h3> <ul> <li>Cognitive load</li> </ul> <h3>14:00 Top tips related to programming</h3> <ul> <li>Refactoring for personal comprehension </li> <li>Let go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like</li> </ul> <h3>17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids</h3> <ul> <li>Motivation </li> <li>Concrete vs open ended expression</li> </ul> <h3>20:50 - 1 take away</h3> <ul> <li>Take the kids hands, and guide them</li> </ul> <h3>22:20</h3> <ul> <li>Allison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius</li> <li>Felienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail</li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> </p><p>Special Guest: Felienne Hermans.</p>

065: Teaching Programming to Kids

Parent Driven Development Episode 064: Moving and Renovating 0:30 Moving and renting realities  KWu moves Allison’s home renovations Preparation before the kids  4:30 Toys  Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind)  10:05 Establishing new house rules  Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes Furniture socks Furniture caster cups Respect and Take Care of Things Learning to get along book series  18:35 Caution police in new house  Acceptance is key Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;)   22:40 Genius and fail moments  KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables!  Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband.   How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. KWu Allison 

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 064: Moving and Renovating</h2> <h3>0:30 Moving and renting realities</h3> <ul> <li>KWu moves</li> <li>Allison’s home renovations</li> <li>Preparation before the kids</li> </ul> <h3>4:30 Toys</h3> <ul> <li>Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys</li> <li>Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind)</li> </ul> <h3>10:05 Establishing new house rules</h3> <ul> <li>Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SD38SGV/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;pldnSite=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Furniture socks</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQMYMKW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;pldnSite=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Furniture caster cups</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Respect-Take-Things-Learning-Along%C2%AE/dp/1575421607" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Respect and Take Care of Things</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.freespirit.com/series/learning-to-get-along/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Learning to get along book series</a></li> </ul> <h3>18:35 Caution police in new house</h3> <ul> <li>Acceptance is key</li> <li>Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;) </li> </ul> <h3>22:40 Genius and fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables! </li> <li>Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband. </li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> </p>

064: Moving and Renovating 

Parent Driven Development Episode 063: Fear in Parenting 0:40 Fear and stress of parenting  From independent… to having dependents  Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent  2:50 Decision making process  High alert, more burden than non-parents  Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids Background buzz of constant anxiety   6:40 Different stresses  Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards Trying to avoid helicopter parenting  Screen interest, programming, and patience   10:55 Big anxieties  Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents  How to foster new sibling relationships  Siblings Without Rivalry - book  How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn   21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week  KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius  Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius  How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Jess Chris S KWu

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 063: Fear in Parenting</h2> <h3>0:40 Fear and stress of parenting</h3> <ul> <li>From independent… to having dependents </li> <li>Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent</li> </ul> <h3>2:50 Decision making process</h3> <ul> <li>High alert, more burden than non-parents </li> <li>Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids</li> <li>Background buzz of constant anxiety </li> </ul> <h3>6:40 Different stresses</h3> <ul> <li>Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards</li> <li>Trying to avoid helicopter parenting </li> <li>Screen interest, programming, and patience </li> </ul> <h3>10:55 Big anxieties</h3> <ul> <li>Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids</li> <li>Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents </li> <li>How to foster new sibling relationships</li> </ul> <h3><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0393342212" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Siblings Without Rivalry</a> - book</h3> <ul> <li>How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child</li> <li>Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn </li> </ul> <h3>21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week</h3> <ul> <li>KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail</li> <li>Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius </li> <li>Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius</li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris S</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a></p>

063: Fear in Parenting 

Parent Driven Development 062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years! Episode Highlights KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments! 1:30  Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means 3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler 7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda 10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu 13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber 14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman 15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark 18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy 19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments 22:40 Genius / fails  Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus  Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school. KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall!   How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. KWu Josh Allison  Chris S

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years!</h2> <h2>Episode Highlights</h2> <p>KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments!</p> <h3>1:30  Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means</h3> <h3>3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler</h3> <h3>7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda</h3> <h3>10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu</h3> <h3>13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber</h3> <h3>14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman</h3> <h3>15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark</h3> <h3>18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy</h3> <h3>19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments</h3> <h3>22:40 Genius / fails</h3> <ul> <li>Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong</li> <li>Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus </li> <li>Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school.</li> <li>KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall! </li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> <br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris S</a></p>

062: 3-Year Anniversary - Episode Highlights

Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids 1:48 Welcome, DHH David is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder &amp; CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man. 2:50 Security concerns  Social Media COVID times Parenting boundaries  13:45 Privacy  Picture surplus  Authenticity   16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web  The highlight parenting reel Avoid the humble brag as a parent Internet jousts   DHH recommended books:  The Myth of the Spoiled Child - Alfie Kohn Punished by Rewards - Alfie Kohn * The Self-Driven Child - Ned Johnson  26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids  Capitalism  Against artificial constraints placed on by parents A life not centered around materialism  The Road To Wigan Pier - George Orwell 38:38 Genius / Fails  Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids Chris fails on fail this week DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time  How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Allison  Chris S Arit KWuSpecial Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .Sponsored By:Honeybadger: So Let’s face it, your code is going to have errors, even code written by an amazing developer such as yourself. When errors happen, it's nice to know that Honeybadger has your back.   Honeybadger makes you a DevOps hero by combining error monitoring, uptime monitoring and check-in monitoring into a single, easy to use platform.  Honeybadger sends you alerts real time with all the context needed to see what's causing the error and where it's hiding so you can quickly fix it and get on with your day.  The included uptime and cron monitoring also lets you know when your external services are having issues or your background jobs go missing or silently fail.  Go to Honeybadger.io and discover how Starr, Josh, and Ben created a 100% bootstrapped monitoring solution.   Why is this important? Self funding means they only answer to you, the developer, rather than a venture capital overlord.  Visit Honeybadger.io today and mention this podcast to get started for 30% off 

<h1>Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids</h1> <h3>1:48 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/dhh" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">DHH</a></h3> <p><a href="https://dhh.dk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">David</a> is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder &amp; CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man.</p> <h3>2:50 Security concerns</h3> <ul> <li>Social Media</li> <li>COVID times</li> <li>Parenting boundaries</li> </ul> <h3>13:45 Privacy</h3> <ul> <li>Picture surplus </li> <li>Authenticity </li> </ul> <h3>16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web</h3> <ul> <li>The highlight parenting reel</li> <li>Avoid the humble brag as a parent</li> <li>Internet jousts </li> </ul> <h3>DHH recommended books:</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Spoiled-Child-Challenging-Conventional/dp/0738217247/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=1609190913&amp;sr=8-1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Myth of the Spoiled Child</a> - Alfie Kohn</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Punished-Rewards-Trouble-Incentive-Praise/dp/0618001816" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Punished by Rewards</a> - Alfie Kohn *<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Self-Driven-Child-Science-Giving-Control/dp/0735222517" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Self-Driven Child</a> - Ned Johnson</li> </ul> <h3>26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids</h3> <ul> <li>Capitalism </li> <li>Against artificial constraints placed on by parents</li> <li>A life not centered around materialism</li> </ul> <p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Road-Wigan-Pier-George-Orwell/dp/0156767503" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Road To Wigan Pier</a> - George Orwell</p> <h3>38:38 Genius / Fails</h3> <ul> <li>Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle</li> <li>KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids</li> <li>Chris fails on fail this week</li> <li>DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts</li> <li>Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time</li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> <br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris S</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/AritAmana" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Arit</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.honeybadger.io/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Honeybadger</a>: <a href="https://www.honeybadger.io/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">So Let’s face it, your code is going to have errors, even code written by an amazing developer such as yourself. When errors happen, it's nice to know that Honeybadger has your back.   Honeybadger makes you a DevOps hero by combining error monitoring, uptime monitoring and check-in monitoring into a single, easy to use platform.  Honeybadger sends you alerts real time with all the context needed to see what's causing the error and where it's hiding so you can quickly fix it and get on with your day.  The included uptime and cron monitoring also lets you know when your external services are having issues or your background jobs go missing or silently fail.  Go to Honeybadger.io and discover how Starr, Josh, and Ben created a 100% bootstrapped monitoring solution.   Why is this important? Self funding means they only answer to you, the developer, rather than a venture capital overlord.  Visit Honeybadger.io today and mention this podcast to get started for 30% off </a></li></ul>

061: DHH - Internet Famous with Kids

Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys  Subculture for wooden toys The Nugget couch  Parents become hyper focused on specific products Careful what your Google How to choose your Facebook groups The Social Dilemma  Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful.. Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases The lottery Lucie's List Pandemic toys for the New Year More pressure for parents  Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece”   Parents: You are doing a GREAT job. Genius / Fails KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well. Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. KWu Allison 

<h1>Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents</h1> <h3>Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys</h3> <ul> <li>Subculture for wooden toys</li> <li><a href="https://nuggetcomfort.com/products/the-nugget" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Nugget couch</a> </li> <li>Parents become hyper focused on specific products</li> <li>Careful what your Google</li> <li>How to choose your Facebook groups</li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Social Dilemma</a> </li> <li>Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful..</li> <li>Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases</li> <li>The lottery</li> <li><a href="https://www.lucieslist.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Lucie's List</a></li> <li>Pandemic toys for the New Year</li> <li>More pressure for parents </li> <li>Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups</li> <li>Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” </li> </ul> <h2>Parents: You are doing a GREAT job.</h2> <h3>Genius / Fails</h3> <p>KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well.<br/> Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids</p> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> </p>

60: Must Haves

Parent Driven Development 059: Hiring and Interviewing Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible.  01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech  Jess writes a book and gets a new job How to reduce bias in interviewing process  03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers  Take-home vs pairing session  Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario  6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings  09:50 How to access talent  Everyway is flawed Take-home - kids constantly interrupting  Paired - many engineers are introverted Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt   13:30 Bias  How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas  16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing  Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call Companies reward evenly Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee  Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc  20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing  The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave.. Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents   22:00 Handing flexibility  Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave  Be honest with needs  Workplace flexibility   28:37 Genius / fail  Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly  Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite  Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out.  How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Jess Allison  Chris SSponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help! The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!  Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!  These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!  And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on! The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!  Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together! Head over right now to: thepreschoolbox.com and use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>059: Hiring and Interviewing</h2> <p>Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. </p> <h3>01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech</h3> <ul> <li>Jess writes a book and gets a new job</li> <li>How to reduce bias in interviewing process</li> </ul> <h3>03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers</h3> <ul> <li>Take-home vs pairing session </li> <li>Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario </li> <li>6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings</li> </ul> <h3>09:50 How to access talent</h3> <ul> <li>Everyway is flawed</li> <li>Take-home - kids constantly interrupting </li> <li>Paired - many engineers are introverted</li> <li>Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt </li> </ul> <h3>13:30 Bias</h3> <ul> <li>How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias</li> <li>Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically<br/></li> <li>Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas<br/></li> </ul> <h3>16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing</h3> <ul> <li>Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call</li> <li>Companies reward evenly</li> <li>Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee </li> <li>Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc</li> </ul> <h3>20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing</h3> <ul> <li>The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave..</li> <li>Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents </li> </ul> <h3>22:00 Handing flexibility</h3> <ul> <li>Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave </li> <li>Be honest with needs </li> <li>Workplace flexibility </li> </ul> <h3>28:37 Genius / fail</h3> <ul> <li>Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly </li> <li>Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite </li> <li>Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out.</li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> <br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris S</a></p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Preschool Box</a>: <a href="https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help! The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!  Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!  These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!  And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on! The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!  Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together! Head over right now to: thepreschoolbox.com and use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>

059: Hiring and Interviewing 

Parent Driven Development Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays Welcome Brandon! Brandon Hays is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college. 02:40 Brandon's co-parenting  Starting with traditional gender roles Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work.. The invisible work becomes more visible Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids  06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic  Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic  The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before  10:53 Working out responsibility between partners  Clear contracts Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner Alternating cooking dinner and clean up Family clean day Creating activities for kids, even after a long day Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden?   14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths  Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents Recognition of each partner Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed  17:30 Working together 19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!  Strengthened the team mentality  Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic Constant change, the on-call parent  24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values? 27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection 28:35 Genius / fail moments  Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt…  Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win! Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius  Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat  How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Chris Arcand Jess Arit Allison  KWuSpecial Guest: Brandon Hays.Sponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help! The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!  Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!  These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!  And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on! The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!  Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together! Head over right now to: thepreschoolbox.com and use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays</h2> <h3>Welcome Brandon!</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/tehviking" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Brandon Hays</a> is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.</p> <h3>02:40 Brandon's co-parenting</h3> <ul> <li>Starting with traditional gender roles</li> <li>Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..</li> <li>The invisible work becomes more visible</li> <li>Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids</li> </ul> <h3>06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic</h3> <ul> <li>Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school</li> <li>Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic </li> <li>The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down</li> <li>Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help</li> <li>Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before</li> </ul> <h3>10:53 Working out responsibility between partners</h3> <ul> <li>Clear contracts</li> <li>Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner</li> <li>Alternating cooking dinner and clean up</li> <li>Family clean day</li> <li>Creating activities for kids, even after a long day</li> <li>Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? </li> </ul> <h3>14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths</h3> <ul> <li>Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents<br/></li> <li>Recognition of each partner</li> <li>Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in</li> <li>Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed</li> </ul> <h3>17:30 Working together</h3> <h3>19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!</h3> <ul> <li>Strengthened the team mentality </li> <li>Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic</li> <li>Constant change, the on-call parent</li> </ul> <h3>24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?</h3> <h3>27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection</h3> <h3>28:35 Genius / fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… </li> <li>Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!</li> <li>Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius</li> <li>Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius</li> <li>KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius </li> <li>Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat</li> </ul> <h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/chrisarcand" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Arcand</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/AritAmana" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Arit</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison</a> <br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Brandon Hays.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Preschool Box</a>: <a href="https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help! The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!  Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!  These monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!  And the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on! The work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!  Let The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together! Head over right now to: thepreschoolbox.com and use code "PARENTDRIVEN" to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>

058: Co-Parenting

Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!

I don’t have kids, but I’m IN. TO. THIS. Great information about overcoming social pressures and navigating difficult situations in the context of kids, but you know, adults can be a little childish sometimes too. :)

No kids, still great.

Great panel discussion about being a software professional while juggling the raising of kids.

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Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.<br>Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.<br>Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.<br>We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.<br>Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.<br>And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (<a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!</a>

Parent Driven Development

Parent Driven Development Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids 00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark  Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog. Ruby community  Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band.  Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team  01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids  Barrett’s son involved with band The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest carpools with fellow parents   08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?  Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)  12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion  Signing your kids up for more activities  Kids getting wiped out from over activity  Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age  15:15 Help kids find their community  Friends of similar interests and ideals Creating deeper bonds  Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group  17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities  More time with your children  Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids Flexibility in being involved “part-time”  20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents  Single parents Younger kids in school  Parents helping each other get their kids to activities  Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy  25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community  Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved  Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates  27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved   Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs? Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child  30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities  Don’t yell at refs Overly involved parent envy  32:14 The financial side  Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers Kids take responsibility (older kids) Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids  Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s  Budgeted financial support for activity or sport  42:35 Genius / fail moments  The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius  New favorite child when they take on your same activity  Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment  Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Chris Sexton JC Avena Allison McMillan Josh PuetzSpecial Guest: Barrett Clark.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids</h2> <h3>00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark</h3> <ul> <li><p>Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog.</p></li> <li><p>Ruby community </p></li> <li><p>Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band. </p></li> <li><p>Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team</p></li> </ul> <h3>01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids</h3> <ul> <li>Barrett’s son involved with band</li> <li>The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest</li> <li>carpools with fellow parents </li> </ul> <h3>08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?</h3> <ul> <li>Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)</li> </ul> <h3>12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion</h3> <ul> <li>Signing your kids up for more activities </li> <li>Kids getting wiped out from over activity </li> <li>Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age</li> </ul> <h3>15:15 Help kids find their community</h3> <ul> <li>Friends of similar interests and ideals</li> <li>Creating deeper bonds </li> <li>Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group</li> </ul> <h3>17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities</h3> <ul> <li>More time with your children </li> <li>Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids</li> <li>Flexibility in being involved “part-time”</li> </ul> <h3>20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents</h3> <ul> <li>Single parents</li> <li>Younger kids in school </li> <li>Parents helping each other get their kids to activities </li> <li>Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy</li> </ul> <h3>25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community</h3> <ul> <li>Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved </li> <li>Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates</li> </ul> <h3>27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved</h3> <ul> <li> Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs?</li> <li>Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child</li> </ul> <h3>30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities</h3> <ul> <li>Don’t yell at refs</li> <li>Overly involved parent envy</li> </ul> <h3>32:14 The financial side</h3> <ul> <li>Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well</li> <li>Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers</li> <li>Kids take responsibility (older kids)</li> <li>Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids </li> <li>Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s </li> <li>Budgeted financial support for activity or sport</li> </ul> <h3>42:35 Genius / fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius </li> <li>New favorite child when they take on your same activity </li> <li>Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail</li> <li>Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment </li> <li>Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail</li> <li>Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jcavena" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JC Avena</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Barrett Clark.</p>

034: Extracurricular Activities

Parent Driven Development Episode 019: Being Adults 00:25 Welcome, Jonan Scheffler! Jonan is a free-range computer sciencer at Heroku and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of RubyTogether and all-around swell human being! We recorded this episode live and in-person at this year's RubyConf in Los Angeles. 01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points  Conferences are NOT vacations, y'all! Traveling as a job. Being present at home. Partying is WORK.  11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home  Facetiming, calling, audio messaging.  18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World 25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away 29:30 Self-Care While Away  Treats! Massage! Movies on the plane! Room service! Fancy coffee! Tattoos!?!  32:34 Genius / Fail Moments   Allison: Her son drew her a picture "so Mommy doesn't scream as much". (#Fail); Attending an anger management for parents of small children class. (#Genius)  Mandy: Forgot to download things to her devices on the way to LA! (#Fail)  Josh: Mistook a sprained ankle for growing pains. (#Fail)  KWu: Mistook roseola for windburn! (#Fail)  Jonan: Ruined waffles for his kids. (#Fail)  Andy: His daughter learned how to swim! (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Andy Croll Mandy Moore Allison McMillan Josh Puetz KWuSpecial Guest: Jonan Scheffler.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 019: Being Adults</h2> <h3>00:25 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/thejonanshow" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jonan Scheffler</a>!</h3> <p>Jonan is a free-range computer sciencer at <a href="https://www.heroku.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Heroku</a> and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of <a href="https://rubytogether.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RubyTogether</a> and all-around swell human being!</p> <p>We recorded this episode live and in-person at this year's <a href="http://rubyconf.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RubyConf</a> in Los Angeles.</p> <h3>01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points</h3> <ul> <li>Conferences are NOT vacations, y'all!</li> <li>Traveling as a job.</li> <li>Being present at home.</li> <li>Partying is WORK.</li> </ul> <h3>11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home</h3> <ul> <li>Facetiming, calling, audio messaging.</li> </ul> <h3>18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World</h3> <h3>25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away</h3> <h3>29:30 Self-Care While Away</h3> <ul> <li>Treats!</li> <li>Massage!</li> <li>Movies on the plane!</li> <li>Room service!</li> <li>Fancy coffee!</li> <li>Tattoos!?!</li> </ul> <h3>32:34 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Allison: Her son drew her a picture "so Mommy doesn't scream as much". (#Fail); Attending an anger management for parents of small children class. (#Genius)</li> <li> Mandy: Forgot to download things to her devices on the way to LA! (#Fail)</li> <li> Josh: Mistook a sprained ankle for growing pains. (#Fail)</li> <li> KWu: Mistook roseola for windburn! (#Fail)</li> <li> Jonan: Ruined waffles for his kids. (#Fail)</li> <li> Andy: His daughter learned how to swim! (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/andycroll" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Andy Croll</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jonan Scheffler.</p>

019: Being Adults

Parent Driven Development Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family 00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit  Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together. This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members.   03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family  Lack of support Career trade offs  Finding a sitter   07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family  Who can help with childcare? Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older  Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive?   13:30 - Coping with coordination  Co-op babysitting Drop off playdates with neighbors   17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match  Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids “it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids   22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support  Effective response to kids Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well  23:37 Work Flexibility  Staying organized as a working parent Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children. The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.  30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents  Potential extra PTO for one the parents  One parent typically has a more flexible schedule  32:30 Fail Moments  More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail  36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids  Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!?  Allowing kids to figure things out on their own.   39:30 Genius Moments  Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius  KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Allison McMillan Adarsh Pandit

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family</h2> <h3>00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit</h3> <ul> <li><p>Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.</p></li> <li><p>This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members. </p></li> </ul> <h3>03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family</h3> <ul> <li>Lack of support</li> <li>Career trade offs </li> <li>Finding a sitter </li> </ul> <h3>07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family</h3> <ul> <li>Who can help with childcare?</li> <li>Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older </li> <li>Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive? </li> </ul> <h3>13:30 - Coping with coordination</h3> <ul> <li>Co-op babysitting</li> <li>Drop off playdates with neighbors </li> </ul> <h3>17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match</h3> <ul> <li>Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along</li> <li>Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids</li> <li>“it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids </li> </ul> <h3>22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support</h3> <ul> <li>Effective response to kids</li> <li>Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well</li> </ul> <h3>23:37 Work Flexibility</h3> <ul> <li>Staying organized as a working parent</li> <li>Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.</li> <li>The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.</li> </ul> <h3>30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents</h3> <ul> <li>Potential extra PTO for one the parents </li> <li>One parent typically has a more flexible schedule</li> </ul> <h3>32:30 Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail</li> </ul> <h3>36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids</h3> <ul> <li>Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!? </li> <li>Allowing kids to figure things out on their own. </li> </ul> <h3>39:30 Genius Moments</h3> <ul> <li>Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius </li> <li>KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius</li> <li>Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/adarshp" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Adarsh Pandit</a></p>

033: Raising Children Away From Family

Parent Driven Development Episode 030: Moving and Traveling Internationally 00:11 Welcome, Annyce Davis!  Annyce spends her day-to-day working as a Software Developer and Leader. She has specifically been focused on Android applications for the past several years. She's also an Android Google Developer Expert. This means that she spends a lot of time developing videos, blog posts, and conference talks for the Developer Community. Annyce is currently the Software Group Lead at a social impact startup called Zola Electric. They provide clean, transformative energy to households that suffer from expensive, unreliable grids or have no grid access at all. She gets to help impact the lives of people across Africa by developing a high-quality Android application that’s used by their entire sales force.  01:25 Moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam  Fell in love with Europe about 4-5 years ago. 2 years ago, had an opportunity to move for a job opportunity.  02:55 Kids' Reactions to the Prospect of Moving / Transitioning After Moving  Were worried about their grandparents and what the food would be like. Curiousity around schooling. Now attend an International School and take Dutch language lessions twice a week. Adjusting and acceptance of differences between life in the U.S. vs Amsterdam.  09:35 Logistics of Relocation to Another Country  A cleaning process for your life and letting things go. If it wasn't sentimental, it went. Renting a furnished home. Take what you need to get through a few months. Shipping containers take a loooong time to be delivered.  15:20 Giving Kids Worldly Experience at a Young Age  Exposure to diverse cultures. Status/prestige differences. Blissful ignorance to certain things.  19:26 Networks of Support &amp; Feeling American While Not in America  Having family send U.S. essentials!! Stock up while visiting. Visiting at least once a year.  25:39 Travel Tips  Bring snacks. Have laundry soap. Wear compression socks on the plane. Figure out the money situation in advance.  31:43 Traveling Without Your Kids: Maintaining Relationships  Having a transparent schedule. Talk every day. Bring souveniers. Being a parent and pursuing your career:   People ask me for career advice all of the time. Here's a cheer:Self-deprecate, self-deprecateJust smile and congratulateWork twice as hard for half the payPlay with your kids every other day GOOOOOOOOO CAREER!!! #happytuesday #morningthoughts pic.twitter.com/sEH2xkl4y0— Annyce Davis (@brwngrldev) April 23, 2019  Set limits. Make it count when you're home. When you're away, the kids will be okay. And half the time, they don't even care! (They'll just make you feel guilty leading up to the trip.)  What Do Teenagers Want? Potted Plant Parents 45:37 Genius / Fail Moments  KWu found convenient vegetables! (#Genius) Annyce messed up the train schedule, so they walked and tired the kids out! (#Genius/Fail) Mandy didn't pay attention to where her daughter way playing. Heeeeyyyyy, poison ivy! (#Fail)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Mandy MooreSpecial Guest: Annyce Davis.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 030: Moving and Traveling Internationally</h2> <h3>00:11 Welcome, Annyce Davis!</h3> <ul> <li>Annyce spends her day-to-day working as a Software Developer and Leader. She has specifically been focused on Android applications for the past several years. She's also an Android <a href="https://developers.google.com/programs/experts/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Google Developer Expert</a>. This means that she spends a lot of time developing videos, blog posts, and conference talks for the Developer Community.</li> <li>Annyce is currently the Software Group Lead at a social impact startup called <a href="http://zolaelectric.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Zola Electric</a>. They provide clean, transformative energy to households that suffer from expensive, unreliable grids or have no grid access at all. She gets to help impact the lives of people across Africa by developing a high-quality Android application that’s used by their entire sales force.</li> </ul> <h3>01:25 Moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam</h3> <ul> <li>Fell in love with Europe about 4-5 years ago.</li> <li>2 years ago, had an opportunity to move for a job opportunity.</li> </ul> <h3>02:55 Kids' Reactions to the Prospect of Moving / Transitioning After Moving</h3> <ul> <li>Were worried about their grandparents and what the food would be like.</li> <li>Curiousity around schooling. Now attend an International School and take Dutch language lessions twice a week.</li> <li>Adjusting and acceptance of differences between life in the U.S. vs Amsterdam.</li> </ul> <h3>09:35 Logistics of Relocation to Another Country</h3> <ul> <li>A cleaning process for your life and letting things go.</li> <li>If it wasn't sentimental, it went.</li> <li>Renting a furnished home.</li> <li>Take what you need to get through a few months. Shipping containers take a loooong time to be delivered.</li> </ul> <h3>15:20 Giving Kids Worldly Experience at a Young Age</h3> <ul> <li>Exposure to diverse cultures.</li> <li>Status/prestige differences.</li> <li>Blissful ignorance to certain things.</li> </ul> <h3>19:26 Networks of Support &amp; Feeling American While Not in America</h3> <ul> <li>Having family send U.S. essentials!! Stock up while visiting.</li> <li>Visiting at least once a year.</li> </ul> <h3>25:39 Travel Tips</h3> <ul> <li>Bring snacks.</li> <li>Have laundry soap.</li> <li>Wear compression socks on the plane.</li> <li>Figure out the money situation in advance.</li> </ul> <h3>31:43 Traveling Without Your Kids: Maintaining Relationships</h3> <ul> <li>Having a transparent schedule.</li> <li>Talk every day.</li> <li>Bring souveniers.</li> <li>Being a parent and pursuing your career: </li> </ul> <blockquote><p>People ask me for career advice all of the time. Here's a cheer:<br/><br/>Self-deprecate, self-deprecate<br/>Just smile and congratulate<br/>Work twice as hard for half the pay<br/>Play with your kids every other day <br/>GOOOOOOOOO CAREER!!! <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/happytuesday?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">#happytuesday</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/morningthoughts?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">#morningthoughts</a> <a href="https://t.co/sEH2xkl4y0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">pic.twitter.com/sEH2xkl4y0</a></p>— Annyce Davis (@brwngrldev) <a href="https://twitter.com/brwngrldev/status/1120567701364199426?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">April 23, 2019</a></blockquote> <ul> <li>Set limits.</li> <li>Make it count when you're home.</li> <li>When you're away, the kids will be okay. And half the time, they don't even care! (They'll just make you feel guilty leading up to the trip.)</li> </ul> <p><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/14/well/family/what-do-teenagers-want-potted-plant-parents.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">What Do Teenagers Want? Potted Plant Parents</a></p> <h3>45:37 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>KWu found convenient vegetables! (#Genius)</li> <li>Annyce messed up the train schedule, so they walked and tired the kids out! (#Genius/Fail)</li> <li>Mandy didn't pay attention to where her daughter way playing. Heeeeyyyyy, poison ivy! (#Fail)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a></p><p>Special Guest: Annyce Davis.</p>

030: Moving and Traveling Internationally

Parent Driven Development Episode 031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek 00:16 Welcome, Itamar Turner-Trauring Itamar Turner-Trauring started his software career in the cutting-edge field of multimedia CD-ROMs. He currently works as a consultant helping speed up Python code and deployments, and shares his software and career mistakes every week with 3700 programmers on his Software Clown newsletter. His crowning achievement as a parent was when months of brainwashing paid off and his daughter stopped saying "my legs are tired" and started saying "my legs are getting stronger! Itmar is that author of "You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend". 00:51 Working Part-Time as a Programmer and Writing a Book  "You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend  03:54 Overcoming "This Isn't Normal" or "Entitlement" Feelings  Negotiation is easier at your current job. Your work ethic is already established. Frame/approach it as a problem-solving situation.  08:05 Difficult Parts of Negotiation  Harder to do up-front at new companies. Communication concerns. What about emergencies? Worries about getting work done and job commitment.  11:26 Scheduling Your Shorter Workweek  Be courteous of your team. Plan around regularly-scheduled meetings.  14:40  Utilizing Extra Time as a Parent 17:52 Taking on Remote-Friendly Tasks + Peer Reactions 20:12 Output Value + Impact  You can be productive and work shorter hours. The better the management, the less of an issue. Asking yourself, "What is enough work?" can be a struggle to measure when you're not counting hours. Honor your commitments.  Parents are excellent multitaskers!!!  28:44 Genius / Fail Moments  KWu uses a sippy cup at night so she doesn't knock it over. (#Genius) Chris told his daughter, "You are not your homework," which was adapted from "You are not your code!" (#Genius) Itmar's daughter's snack negotiation skills are getting more sophisticated. (#Genius/Fail) It took less than 90 seconds for Allison's life to fall apart in her household! (#Fail)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Chris Sexton Allison McMillanSpecial Guest: Itamar Turner-Trauring.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek</h2> <h3>00:16 Welcome, Itamar Turner-Trauring</h3> <p>Itamar Turner-Trauring started his software career in the cutting-edge field of multimedia CD-ROMs. He currently works as a consultant helping <a href="https://pythonspeed.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">speed up Python code and deployments</a>, and shares his software and career mistakes every week with 3700 programmers on his <a href="https://softwareclown.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Software Clown</a> newsletter. His crowning achievement as a parent was when months of brainwashing paid off and his daughter stopped saying "my legs are tired" and started saying "my legs are getting stronger! Itmar is that author of <a href="https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">"You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend"</a>.</p> <h3>00:51 Working Part-Time as a Programmer and Writing a Book</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">"You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend</a></li> </ul> <h3>03:54 Overcoming "This Isn't Normal" or "Entitlement" Feelings</h3> <ul> <li>Negotiation is easier at your current job. Your work ethic is already established.</li> <li>Frame/approach it as a problem-solving situation.</li> </ul> <h3>08:05 Difficult Parts of Negotiation</h3> <ul> <li>Harder to do up-front at new companies.</li> <li>Communication concerns.</li> <li>What about emergencies?</li> <li>Worries about getting work done and job commitment.</li> </ul> <h3>11:26 Scheduling Your Shorter Workweek</h3> <ul> <li>Be courteous of your team.</li> <li>Plan around regularly-scheduled meetings.</li> </ul> <h3>14:40  Utilizing Extra Time as a Parent</h3> <h3>17:52 Taking on Remote-Friendly Tasks + Peer Reactions</h3> <h3>20:12 Output Value + Impact</h3> <ul> <li>You can be productive and work shorter hours.</li> <li>The better the management, the less of an issue.</li> <li>Asking yourself, "What is enough work?" can be a struggle to measure when you're not counting hours.</li> <li>Honor your commitments. </li> <li>Parents are excellent multitaskers!!!</li> </ul> <h3>28:44 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>KWu uses a sippy cup at night so she doesn't knock it over. (#Genius)</li> <li>Chris told his daughter, "You are not your homework," which was adapted from "You are not your code!" (#Genius)</li> <li>Itmar's daughter's snack negotiation skills are getting more sophisticated. (#Genius/Fail)</li> <li>It took less than 90 seconds for Allison's life to fall apart in her household! (#Fail)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guest: Itamar Turner-Trauring.</p>

031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek

Parent Driven Development Episode 013: Babies at Work?! 00:15 Welcome, Leah Silber! Leah is the CEO of Tilde Inc.  She is also an organizer of EmberConf, RustConf and RailsConf, and Ember.js Core Team Member, a jQuery Core Team alum, author of Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences, and all around technophile. 01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son's 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They? Don't let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child's age in months when they turn 2. 04:05 Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird In August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks about a lot of the objections and concern she had at first that turned out to be unfounded. It turns out, bringing her baby to work changed the mood and culture of Tilde in a positive way -- even among self-proclaimed "non-baby people".  09:26 What About The Fussy Days?  Working from home can be an option especially on days like vaccination days.  Having a quiet area like a conference room or an empty office gets people through short fussy spells.  If that doesn't work, going home is encouraged.  Leah says that having the babies at work made actually for a much happier baby!  17:56 Nursing  Up to the mom! Breastfeeding in public is acceptable, and there are dedicated nursing rooms/spaces to keep it legal (and more private) It becomes normalized! People don't even notice   Squatty Potty   23:53 Culture From The Core  Stating expectations for parents/non-parents during the interview process Scaling as children age Bring the Nanny to work too! Older children must be up to date on vaccinations Becomes a routine  32:43 Does Company Size Matter?  Just because there are 50 people in a company does not mean that the volume of babies is going to go up Setting a limit is an option: luck of the draw The bigger the company, the more space non-baby people have to stay away from the babies  35:02 Program Evolution  Effects on Nannies Beneficial for dads too!  42:37 Avoiding Judgement  Turns out, people (who aren't the child's parents) are more helpful than judgemental Pets are not babies...no, your dog can not come to work because my baby is here  48:31 Genius / Fail Moments  KWu: Water coming out of the tub faucet is fascinating and acts as a baby magnet to draw them to the bathroom for a bath! (#Genius) Allison: Creating an insane schedule of hodgepodge childcare that involves massive amounts of logistics. (#Fail) Leah: Shoutout to the parents who think their kids will never walk. Her son started walking at 18 months! (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Allison McMillan Katherine WuSpecial Guest: Leah Silber.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 013: Babies at Work?!</h2> <h3>00:15 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/wifelette" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Leah Silber!</a></h3> <p>Leah is the CEO of <a href="https://www.tilde.io/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tilde Inc.</a>  She is also an organizer of <a href="https://emberconf.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">EmberConf</a>, <a href="https://rustconf.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RustConf</a> and <a href="https://railsconf.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RailsConf</a>, and <a href="https://www.emberjs.com/team/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ember.js Core Team</a> Member, a <a href="https://jquery.org/team/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">jQuery Core Team</a> alum, author of <a href="https://leanpub.com/eventdriven/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences</a>, and all around technophile.</p> <h3>01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son's 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They?</h3> <p>Don't let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child's age in months when they turn 2.</p> <h3>04:05 <a href="https://hackernoon.com/babies-at-work-its-weird-that-it-s-weird-b285b070d456" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird</a></h3> <p>In August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks about a lot of the objections and concern she had at first that turned out to be unfounded. It turns out, bringing her baby to work changed the mood and culture of Tilde in a positive way -- even among self-proclaimed "non-baby people". </p> <h3>09:26 What About The Fussy Days?</h3> <ul> <li>Working from home can be an option especially on days like vaccination days. </li> <li>Having a quiet area like a conference room or an empty office gets people through short fussy spells. </li> <li>If that doesn't work, going home is encouraged. </li> <li>Leah says that having the babies at work made actually for a much happier baby!</li> </ul> <h3>17:56 Nursing</h3> <ul> <li>Up to the mom! Breastfeeding in public is acceptable, and there are dedicated nursing rooms/spaces to keep it legal (and more private)</li> <li>It becomes normalized! People don't even notice  <ul> <li><a href="https://www.squattypotty.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Squatty Potty</a></li> </ul></li> </ul> <h3>23:53 Culture From The Core</h3> <ul> <li>Stating expectations for parents/non-parents during the interview process</li> <li>Scaling as children age</li> <li>Bring the Nanny to work too!</li> <li>Older children must be up to date on vaccinations</li> <li>Becomes a routine</li> </ul> <h3>32:43 Does Company Size Matter?</h3> <ul> <li>Just because there are 50 people in a company does not mean that the volume of babies is going to go up</li> <li>Setting a limit is an option: luck of the draw</li> <li>The bigger the company, the more space non-baby people have to stay away from the babies</li> </ul> <h3>35:02 Program Evolution</h3> <ul> <li>Effects on Nannies</li> <li>Beneficial for dads too!</li> </ul> <h3>42:37 Avoiding Judgement</h3> <ul> <li>Turns out, people (who aren't the child's parents) are more helpful than judgemental</li> <li>Pets are not babies...no, your dog can not come to work because my baby is here</li> </ul> <h3>48:31 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>KWu: Water coming out of the tub faucet is fascinating and acts as a baby magnet to draw them to the bathroom for a bath! (#Genius)</li> <li>Allison: Creating an insane schedule of hodgepodge childcare that involves massive amounts of logistics. (#Fail)</li> <li>Leah: Shoutout to the parents who think their kids will never walk. Her son started walking at 18 months! (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br/> We are listener supported. Please consider <a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Katherine Wu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Leah Silber.</p>

013: Babies at Work

Parent Driven Development Episode 032: Tackling More 00:45 Welcome, Dana Jones Our guest, Dana Jones, Engineering Manager at Abstract. Dana has 4 children. Came in to software development from an untraditional path. 2:00 Dana goes back to school Dana has also recently gone back to school to get her college degree and talks about her experience 5:15  talking about the people side of our work and people management 8:40 how do you organize yourself? 14:00 kids and driving 16:30 how are challenges different at different times in your life and when you’re kids are different ages 20:20 professional development with non-tiny children and child development/phases 22:00 Meeting kids where they’re at 23:00 how has family time changed as children have gotten older 25:00 ask more questions and give fewer answers at work and at home 28:00 moderating your reactions as a parent 35:37 Genius and Fail moments! Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Chris Sexton Allison McMillanSpecial Guest: Dana Jones.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 032: Tackling More</h2> <h3>00:45 Welcome, Dana Jones</h3> <p>Our guest, <a href="https://twitter.com/danabrit" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dana Jones</a>, Engineering Manager at <a href="https://www.abstract.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Abstract</a>.<br/> Dana has 4 children. Came in to software development from an untraditional path.</p> <h3>2:00 Dana goes back to school</h3> <p>Dana has also recently gone back to school to get her college degree and talks about her experience</p> <h3>5:15  talking about the people side of our work and people management</h3> <h3>8:40 how do you organize yourself?</h3> <h3>14:00 kids and driving</h3> <h3>16:30 how are challenges different at different times in your life and when you’re kids are different ages</h3> <h3>20:20 professional development with non-tiny children and child development/phases</h3> <h3>22:00 Meeting kids where they’re at</h3> <h3>23:00 how has family time changed as children have gotten older</h3> <h3>25:00 ask more questions and give fewer answers at work and at home</h3> <h3>28:00 moderating your reactions as a parent</h3> <h3>35:37 Genius and Fail moments!</h3> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guest: Dana Jones.</p>

032: Tackling More

Parent Driven Development Episode 014: Conferencing After Babies 00:16 Welcome, Tess and Sean Griffin! Tess is a Site Engineer at GitHub.  Sean is a developer at Shopify,  renowned Rails committer, the creator of the Diesel Framework, host of The Yak Shave podcast, and a former host of The Bike Shed podcast. 02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At Conferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to Ruby Central conferences and Rust Belt Rust!  09:56 Evening Childcare Going through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like UrbanSitter and Care.com are options in a pinch. Conferences that offer child/kid-friendly after-hours activities are also great for parents. It seems like more conferences like that are popping up and opting for less bar atomosphere gatherings. 👍 16:38 Awesome Conference-Provided Amenities / Wishlist Items  Swag Options for Kids (onesies and t-shirts!) Badges for Kids and Babies A list of kid-tolerant folks / Babysitting Co-ops for parents amongst attendees / Equipment share (Could be in the form of a Slack channel.  23:34 Having Answers BEFORE Asking People to Commit Just having people click a box saying they will need childcare but not having any details about what those plans are isn't cool. (It also gives them a great excuse to turn down coming.) Parents want to know from the get-go that there is a solid childcare plan in place before they commit to going to a conference. Remember, the younger the child, the more logistics are involved around needs and stuff (equipment).   Is there a supermarket or supermarket delivery service nearby? How will I get from the airport to the conference hotel?  Is there additional costs for children?  27:31 Getting Around Public transportation around your conference is key. 10-15 minutes away from the airport is an ideal distance.  29:26 School-Age Children and Conferences 32:43 Genius / Fail Moments  Chris: Print-and play projects (#Genius)  Tess: Investing in a nice child gate (#Genius) Allison: Having thoughtful and interactive conversations with your kids (#Genius) Sean: Teaching babies words is hilarious! 🤣  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton Allison McMillanSpecial Guests: Sean Griffin and Tess Griffin.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 014: Conferencing After Babies</h2> <h3>00:16 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/GriffinTess" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tess</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/sgrif" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sean Griffin</a>!</h3> <p>Tess is a Site Engineer at <a href="https://github.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">GitHub</a>.  Sean is a developer at <a href="https://www.shopify.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Shopify</a>,  renowned Rails committer, the creator of the <a href="http://diesel.rs/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Diesel Framework</a>, host of <a href="http://yakshave.fm/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Yak Shave</a> podcast, and a former host of <a href="http://bikeshed.fm/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Bike Shed</a> podcast.</p> <h3>02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At</h3> <p>Conferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to <a href="http://rubycentral.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Ruby Central</a> conferences and <a href="https://www.rust-belt-rust.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Rust Belt Rust</a>! </p> <h3>09:56 Evening Childcare</h3> <p>Going through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like <a href="https://www.urbansitter.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">UrbanSitter</a> and <a href="https://www.care.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Care.com</a> are options in a pinch.</p> <p>Conferences that offer child/kid-friendly after-hours activities are also great for parents. It seems like more conferences like that are popping up and opting for less bar atomosphere gatherings. 👍</p> <h3>16:38 Awesome Conference-Provided Amenities / Wishlist Items</h3> <ul> <li>Swag Options for Kids (onesies and t-shirts!)</li> <li>Badges for Kids and Babies</li> <li>A list of kid-tolerant folks / Babysitting Co-ops for parents amongst attendees / Equipment share (Could be in the form of a Slack channel.</li> </ul> <h3>23:34 Having Answers BEFORE Asking People to Commit</h3> <p>Just having people click a box saying they will need childcare but not having any details about what those plans are isn't cool. (It also gives them a great excuse to turn down coming.) Parents want to know from the get-go that there is a solid childcare plan in place before they commit to going to a conference. Remember, the younger the child, the more logistics are involved around needs and <em>stuff</em> (equipment). </p> <ul> <li>Is there a supermarket or supermarket delivery service nearby?</li> <li>How will I get from the airport to the conference hotel? </li> <li>Is there additional costs for children?</li> </ul> <h3>27:31 Getting Around</h3> <p>Public transportation around your conference is key. 10-15 minutes away from the airport is an ideal distance. </p> <h3>29:26 School-Age Children and Conferences</h3> <h3>32:43 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>Chris: Print-and play projects (#Genius) </li> <li>Tess: Investing in a nice child gate (#Genius)</li> <li>Allison: Having thoughtful and interactive conversations with your kids (#Genius)</li> <li>Sean: Teaching babies words is hilarious! 🤣</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br/> We are listener supported. Please consider <a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guests: Sean Griffin and Tess Griffin.</p>

014: Conferencing After Babies

Kari Clark

Parent Driven Development Episode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents Welcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder Uplift Parents, a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms! 00:50 Welcome, Kari  Had two kids during her time at google Became incredibly focused after kids Interviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created Uplift  02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office?  There is success in many ways Common trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency  04:45 Ruthless efficiency  Make more of your time Details are huge after having kids OCD tendencies?!   7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest  Uplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path.  Take time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important! Your careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time  12:08 Enjoying work-life balance  Feeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women Creating intentional boundaries to spend time with family  14:10 Pushback from women mentorship  Difference between mentorship and coaching Everyone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood?? Networking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids  19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice  New life changes encourage new life habits Uplift promotes big changes 2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes!  24:30 Moms and dads treated differently  Dads are praised more than moms  25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms  Be kind to yourself! Logistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things  Be comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge Assign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it  34:20 How to delegate  More intentionality behind choices  Uplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc Do you enjoy it? If not, delegate  39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents 41:15 Genius / Fail moments  Kwu’s son falls down the stairs :(  Chris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers…  Kari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule  Josh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win Allison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils!  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. *As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases. Panel KWu Allison McMillan Chris Arcand Josh PuetzSpecial Guest: Kari Clark.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents</h2> <p>Welcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder <a href="https://www.upliftparents.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Uplift Parents</a>, a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms!</p> <h3>00:50 Welcome, Kari</h3> <ul> <li>Had two kids during her time at google</li> <li>Became incredibly focused after kids</li> <li>Interviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created <a href="https://www.instagram.com/getuplifted/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Uplift</a></li> </ul> <h3>02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office?</h3> <ul> <li>There is success in many ways</li> <li>Common trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency</li> </ul> <h3>04:45 Ruthless efficiency</h3> <ul> <li>Make more of your time</li> <li>Details are huge after having kids</li> <li>OCD tendencies?! </li> </ul> <h3>7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest</h3> <ul> <li>Uplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path. </li> <li>Take time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important!</li> <li>Your careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time</li> </ul> <h3>12:08 Enjoying work-life balance</h3> <ul> <li>Feeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women</li> <li>Creating intentional boundaries to spend time with family</li> </ul> <h3>14:10 Pushback from women mentorship</h3> <ul> <li>Difference between mentorship and coaching</li> <li>Everyone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood??</li> <li>Networking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids</li> </ul> <h3>19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice</h3> <ul> <li>New life changes encourage new life habits</li> <li>Uplift promotes big changes</li> <li>2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes!</li> </ul> <h3>24:30 Moms and dads treated differently</h3> <ul> <li>Dads are praised more than moms</li> </ul> <h3>25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms</h3> <ul> <li>Be kind to yourself!</li> <li>Logistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things </li> <li>Be comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge</li> <li>Assign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it</li> </ul> <h3>34:20 How to delegate</h3> <ul> <li>More intentionality behind choices </li> <li>Uplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc</li> <li>Do you enjoy it? If not, delegate</li> </ul> <h3>39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents</h3> <h3>41:15 Genius / Fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>Kwu’s son falls down the stairs :( </li> <li>Chris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers… </li> <li>Kari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule </li> <li>Josh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win</li> <li>Allison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils!</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/chrisarcand" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Arcand</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Kari Clark.</p>

038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark

Parent Driven Development Episode 028: Primary Caregiving 00:17 Introducing Guest, Nick Gauthier! Becoming a Full-time Parent Nick is currently the CTO and Co-founder at Nomics. Before co-founding Nomics, Nick created MeetSpace, a video conferencing application for distributed teams. Before that, Nick worked at Codeship on the Codeship Pro Continuous Delivery platform, as well as various other web application consulting projects in Ruby on Rails, Go, and JavaScript.  03:55 Being a Full-Time Parent as a Man  "Aww, you're babysitting!" 🙄 Experiences with "Mommy and Me" groups and Meetups. Feeling instrusive in Mom spaces. Breaking into a "Mommy Group".  08:17 Partner Dynamics and Making Decisions  Getting the scoop and being thankful to not have other parents' problems. Liking vs not liking the baby phase.  11:07 Changes as Baby Grows  Transitioning to a nanny but still working from home. When going to work is a "vacation" or an "escape". Fielding distractions.  17:11 How Having a Child Has Changed the Way Nick Works  Working with other parents. Context switching and protecting time. Asynchronous communication.  24:16 Communication Service Level Agreements (SLAs)  Any communication, the normal expected turnaround time is 24 hours; unless in text is says urgent. Cell phone calls are last resort, but must be answered. Everything is "Do Not Disturb". Keep communcation very close to or 100% on topic.  29:06 Team Relationship Building + Watercooler Talk  Optional "huddles" with no agenda. Explicit watercooler time. Company retreats.  31:21 Genius / Fail Moments  Nick's daughter announced "Oh yeah! Get some beer!" in the middle of the store. (#Fail) But, she is mastering potty training with M&amp;Ms as rewards! (#Genius) Chris: M&amp;M inflation. (#Fail) "Scream Parade" on the other hand... (#Genius) Allison: Flow picture charts for the morning on what her son needs to do to leave the house 👍🏻. (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Josh Puetz Chris Sexton Allison McMillanSpecial Guest: Nick Gauthier.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 028: Primary Caregiving</h2> <h3>00:17 Introducing Guest, Nick Gauthier! Becoming a Full-time Parent</h3> <p>Nick is currently the CTO and Co-founder at <a href="https://nomics.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Nomics</a>. Before co-founding Nomics, Nick created <a href="https://www.meetspaceapp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">MeetSpace</a>, a video conferencing application for distributed teams. Before that, Nick worked at <a href="http://codeship.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Codeship</a> on the Codeship Pro Continuous Delivery platform, as well as various other web application consulting projects in Ruby on Rails, Go, and JavaScript. </p> <h3>03:55 Being a Full-Time Parent as a Man</h3> <ul> <li>"Aww, you're babysitting!" 🙄</li> <li>Experiences with "Mommy and Me" groups and Meetups.</li> <li>Feeling instrusive in Mom spaces.</li> <li>Breaking into a "Mommy Group".</li> </ul> <h3>08:17 Partner Dynamics and Making Decisions</h3> <ul> <li>Getting the scoop and being thankful to not have other parents' problems.</li> <li>Liking vs not liking the baby phase.</li> </ul> <h3>11:07 Changes as Baby Grows</h3> <ul> <li>Transitioning to a nanny but still working from home.</li> <li>When going to work is a "vacation" or an "escape".</li> <li>Fielding distractions.</li> </ul> <h3>17:11 How Having a Child Has Changed the Way Nick Works</h3> <ul> <li>Working with other parents.</li> <li>Context switching and protecting time.</li> <li>Asynchronous communication.</li> </ul> <h3>24:16 Communication Service Level Agreements (SLAs)</h3> <ul> <li>Any communication, the normal expected turnaround time is 24 hours; unless in text is says urgent.</li> <li>Cell phone calls are last resort, but must be answered.</li> <li>Everything is "Do Not Disturb".</li> <li>Keep communcation very close to or 100% on topic.</li> </ul> <h3>29:06 Team Relationship Building + Watercooler Talk</h3> <ul> <li>Optional "huddles" with no agenda. Explicit watercooler time.</li> <li>Company retreats.</li> </ul> <h3>31:21 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>Nick's daughter announced "Oh yeah! Get some beer!" in the middle of the store. (#Fail) But, she is mastering potty training with M&amp;Ms as rewards! (#Genius)</li> <li>Chris: M&amp;M inflation. (#Fail) "Scream Parade" on the other hand... (#Genius)</li> <li>Allison: Flow picture charts for the morning on what her son needs to do to leave the house 👍🏻. (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guest: Nick Gauthier.</p>

028: Primary Caregiving

Parent Driven Development Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries 00:16 Welcome, Chris Arcand! Chris is a Software Engineer at HashiCorp where he works on Terraform Enterprise, a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, Terraform. As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as Red Hat. He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, RubyMN, as well as moderates the ‘MSP Tech’ community Slack. Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old. 01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old  The Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy "Shift Work" vs Having Flexible Hours   Hashicorp's "Flexible Time Off" Policy vs "Paid Time Off"  Approaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day  06:46 Making Family Plans 09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home  Location is Vital Having an At-Home Nanny  13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare 18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions  Noise. Cancelling. Headphones. Shutting The Door  21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working  Give Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time Mindfulness/Meditation   25:23 Exposing Kids to "I'm working, and this is how I'm working."  43:42 Genius / Fail Moments   JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius)  Josh: Andrew Bredow's Chore Chart  Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail)  Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren't very good at it. (#Fail)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton JC Avena Josh PuetzSpecial Guest: Chris Arcand.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries</h2> <h3>00:16 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/chrisarcand" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Arcand</a>!</h3> <p>Chris is a Software Engineer at <a href="https://www.hashicorp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">HashiCorp</a> where he works on <a href="https://www.hashicorp.com/products/terraform" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Terraform Enterprise</a>, a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, <a href="https://www.terraform.io/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Terraform</a>. As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as <a href="https://www.redhat.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Red Hat</a>. He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, <a href="https://www.meetup.com/ruby-mn/?_cookie-check=tTPtT3O5bUmbVkoy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">RubyMN</a>, as well as moderates the <a href="http://msptech.herokuapp.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">‘MSP Tech’ community Slack</a>. Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old.</p> <h3>01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old</h3> <ul> <li>The Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy</li> <li>"Shift Work" vs Having Flexible Hours  <ul> <li>Hashicorp's "Flexible Time Off" Policy vs "Paid Time Off"</li> </ul></li> <li>Approaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day</li> </ul> <h3>06:46 Making Family Plans</h3> <h3>09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home</h3> <ul> <li>Location is Vital</li> <li>Having an At-Home Nanny</li> </ul> <h3>13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare</h3> <h3>18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions</h3> <ul> <li>Noise. Cancelling. Headphones.</li> <li>Shutting The Door</li> </ul> <h3>21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working</h3> <ul> <li>Give Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time</li> <li>Mindfulness/Meditation </li> </ul> <h3>25:23 Exposing Kids to "I'm working, and this is how I'm working."</h3> <p></p> <h3>43:42 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius)</li> <li> Josh: <a href="https://github.com/andrewbredow/kid-chores" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Andrew Bredow's Chore Chart</a></li> <li> Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail)</li> <li> Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren't very good at it. (#Fail)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jcavena" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JC Avena</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Chris Arcand.</p>

017: Work and Family Boundaries

Parent Driven Development Episode 022: Single Parenting 00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common...  ... but events can feel ostracizing. Logistics are hard to navigate. There are full-time and half-time single parents.  04:06 It takes a village  Having a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members) Non-nuclear families / modern family situations.  10:55 Dating as a single parent  Introducing kids to significant others. When is it appropriate? When kids do/don't get attached to partners.  21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting  Drama: engaging and avoiding. Making decisions solo vs with someone else. Holding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent. Questions from kids as they get older. Sometimes you just want to quit!  35:15 Supporting single parents  Talk to them. Don't ask intrusive questions. Don't assume single parents live off of child support. Just don't assume, period.  39:43 Genius / Fail Moments   Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#Genius)  Allison: Her son specifically wants to donate to a hospital on a beach that helps Jewish boys with broken bones that are healing. (#Genius)  Jess: Took her son's stuffed animal on adventures because he forgot him at home. (#Genius)  KWu: Her son is trying awesome new foods and less than 50% ends up on the floor! (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore KWu Jess Szmajda Allison McMillan

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 022: Single Parenting</h2> <h3>00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common...</h3> <ul> <li>... but events can feel ostracizing.</li> <li>Logistics are hard to navigate.</li> <li>There are full-time and half-time single parents.</li> </ul> <h3>04:06 It takes a village</h3> <ul> <li>Having a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members)</li> <li>Non-nuclear families / modern family situations.</li> </ul> <h3>10:55 Dating as a single parent</h3> <ul> <li>Introducing kids to significant others.</li> <li>When is it appropriate?</li> <li>When kids do/don't get attached to partners.</li> </ul> <h3>21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting</h3> <ul> <li>Drama: engaging and avoiding.</li> <li>Making decisions solo vs with someone else.</li> <li>Holding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent.</li> <li>Questions from kids as they get older.</li> <li>Sometimes you just want to quit!</li> </ul> <h3>35:15 Supporting single parents</h3> <ul> <li>Talk to them.</li> <li>Don't ask intrusive questions.</li> <li>Don't assume single parents live off of child support.</li> <li>Just don't assume, period.</li> </ul> <h3>39:43 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#Genius)</li> <li> Allison: Her son specifically wants to donate to a hospital on a beach that helps Jewish boys with broken bones that are healing. (#Genius)</li> <li> Jess: Took her son's stuffed animal on adventures because he forgot him at home. (#Genius)</li> <li> KWu: Her son is trying awesome new foods and less than 50% ends up on the floor! (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess Szmajda</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p>

022: Single Parenting

Parent Driven Development Episode 021: Self-Care For Parents 00:25 Defining Self-Care  Refilling your energy bucket. Naps. Taking care of your human body. Parenting yourself.  04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules  Treating yourself with respect and kindness. Doing things for the good of the family.  10:56 Parenting Identities  Time spent caregiving vs adulting. Having different strengths as parents. Having a network of "other" parents and families. "Intentional Community."  17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions  Setting your environment. Meditation. Having non-distracting routines and activities. Cooking. Creative outlets: Music, etc.  27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort  Yes Spaces. Ignoring tantrums.  30:49 Genius / Fail Moments   KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius)  Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius)  Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius)  Mandy: Mazie's first chorus concert. (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore KWu Jess Szmajda Chris Sexton

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 021: Self-Care For Parents</h2> <h3>00:25 Defining Self-Care</h3> <ul> <li>Refilling your energy bucket.</li> <li>Naps.</li> <li>Taking care of your human body.</li> <li>Parenting yourself.</li> </ul> <h3>04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules</h3> <ul> <li>Treating yourself with respect and kindness.</li> <li>Doing things for the good of the family.</li> </ul> <h3>10:56 Parenting Identities</h3> <ul> <li>Time spent caregiving vs adulting.</li> <li>Having different strengths as parents.</li> <li>Having a network of "other" parents and families. "Intentional Community."</li> </ul> <h3>17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions</h3> <ul> <li>Setting your environment.</li> <li>Meditation.</li> <li>Having non-distracting routines and activities.</li> <li>Cooking.</li> <li>Creative outlets: Music, etc.</li> </ul> <h3>27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/08/play-space-inspiration/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Yes Spaces</a>.</li> <li>Ignoring tantrums.</li> </ul> <h3>30:49 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius)</li> <li> Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius)</li> <li> Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius)</li> <li> Mandy: Mazie's first chorus concert. (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess Szmajda</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a></p>

021: Self-Care For Parents

Anne Halsall

Sara Mauskopf

Parent Driven Development Episode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents 00:24 Welcome, Anne Halsall and Sara Mauskopf! Anne is the co-founder &amp; head of product of at Winnie. Sara is the CEO. 01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children  Great app to use for travel! Gives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see.  03:12 Content Moderation and Quality  Winnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice. You can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated.   05:23 Gathering Information  Grew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family.  06:23 Monetization  Winnie is venture-backed.  It's very important to keep the app free and accessible to all.  08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting  Parents are wonderful participants and well-behaved to boot. Content that could be considered harmful is not distributed.  11:06 How do you have time to be a parent AND work a full-time J-O-B?!?!  Family-friendly workplace. Kids give you motivation. Attitudes towards parents are changing.  15:53 Winnie's Childcare Discovery Platform  Links to the Licensing Database to make sure that places are legit. Childcare providers aren't necessarily web marking gurus -- many do not have sweet websites or the time/budget to create them. Rage-driven Development.  21:21 Holy Crap! Kids and Parents Exist in San Francisco?! 22:23 Topic Channels  Connecting parents based on special interests.  24:10 Favorite Parts of Being a Parent and a Founder 27:11 Genius / Fail Moments   Mandy: Her daughter reffered to Hillary Clinton as Harley Quinn (#Fail)  Jess: Comparing voting to choosing between chocolate cake and ice cream (#Genius)  Allison: Suggesting her toddler to "stop and think." (#Genius)  Sara: Her daughter needs to cut back on the watching of Daniel Tiger after renaming her sister after the sister on the show! (#Fail)  Anne: Her 4-year-old confused "voting day" with "boating day" and broke his heart. (#Fail)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton Mandy Moore Josh Puetz Jess Szmajda Allison McMillan

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents</h2> <h3>00:24 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/annekate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Anne Halsall</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/sm" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sara Mauskopf</a>!</h3> <p>Anne is the co-founder &amp; head of product of at <a href="https://winnie.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Winnie</a>. Sara is the CEO.</p> <h3>01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children</h3> <ul> <li>Great app to use for travel!</li> <li>Gives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see.</li> </ul> <h3>03:12 Content Moderation and Quality</h3> <ul> <li>Winnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice.</li> <li>You can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated. </li> </ul> <h3>05:23 Gathering Information</h3> <ul> <li>Grew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family.</li> </ul> <h3>06:23 Monetization</h3> <ul> <li>Winnie is venture-backed. </li> <li>It's very important to keep the app free and accessible to all.</li> </ul> <h3>08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting</h3> <ul> <li>Parents are wonderful participants and well-behaved to boot.</li> <li>Content that could be considered harmful is not distributed.</li> </ul> <h3>11:06 How do you have time to be a parent AND work a full-time J-O-B?!?!</h3> <ul> <li>Family-friendly workplace.</li> <li>Kids give you motivation.</li> <li>Attitudes towards parents are changing.</li> </ul> <h3>15:53 Winnie's Childcare Discovery Platform</h3> <ul> <li>Links to the Licensing Database to make sure that places are legit.</li> <li>Childcare providers aren't necessarily web marking gurus -- many do not have sweet websites or the time/budget to create them.</li> <li>Rage-driven Development.</li> </ul> <h3>21:21 Holy Crap! Kids and Parents Exist in San Francisco?!</h3> <h3>22:23 Topic Channels</h3> <ul> <li>Connecting parents based on special interests.</li> </ul> <h3>24:10 Favorite Parts of Being a Parent and a Founder</h3> <h3>27:11 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Mandy: Her daughter reffered to Hillary Clinton as Harley Quinn (#Fail)</li> <li> Jess: Comparing voting to choosing between chocolate cake and ice cream (#Genius)</li> <li> Allison: Suggesting her toddler to "stop and think." (#Genius)</li> <li> Sara: Her daughter needs to cut back on the watching of Daniel Tiger after renaming her sister after the sister on the show! (#Fail)</li> <li> Anne: Her 4-year-old confused "voting day" with "boating day" and broke his heart. (#Fail)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess Szmajda</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p>

018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents with Anne Halsall and Sara Mauskopf of Winnie

** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children. Parent Driven Development Episode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective 00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family...  When families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions Code-switching  12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions!  Elf on the Shelf NORAD Santa Tracker  17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting  When kids are younger, the holidays don't matter as much. You want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren)  25:31 The Reality  When no one pays attention to your wishes Thoughts about the future  31:05 Genius / Fail Moments   Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius)  Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius)  KWu: Her son blew his diaper in the carseat on the way home from her parent's house and uninstalled the carseat. (#Fail)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore KWu Allison McMillan

<p>** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children.</p> <h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective</h2> <h3>00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family...</h3> <ul> <li>When families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions</li> <li><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Code-switching</a></li> </ul> <h3>12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions!</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.elfontheshelf.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Elf on the Shelf</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.noradsanta.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">NORAD Santa Tracker</a></li> </ul> <h3>17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting</h3> <ul> <li>When kids are younger, the holidays don't matter as much.</li> <li>You want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren)</li> </ul> <h3>25:31 The Reality</h3> <ul> <li>When no one pays attention to your wishes</li> <li>Thoughts about the future</li> </ul> <h3>31:05 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius)</li> <li> Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius)</li> <li> KWu: Her son blew his diaper in the carseat on the way home from her parent's house and uninstalled the carseat. (#Fail)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a></p>

023: The Holidays: A Retrospective

Parent Driven Development Episode 020: Fertility Struggles 00:23 Welcome, Adam Cuppy! Adam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned Oregon Shakespeare Festival before making his way into creative direction for Dutch Bros. Coffee, where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded Zeal. When not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage. 01:17 Adam's Background with Fertility Struggles Adam and his wife tried for many years to conceive a child naturally before deciding to undergo medical testing to better determine any underlying issues as to why they were unable to do so. Initially, everyone assumed it was his wife, Julia, who was experiencing problems and was unable to get pregnant, however, it turned out that Adam was the one experiencing problems across the board.  Roughly 15% of couples have issues with getting pregnant.  Adam first went an got a personal trainer in attempt to increase testosterone levels naturally, and though they explored more invasive means of conception including IVF, they did not have to go that route and ending up conceiving about four months later. 08:55 The Emotional Weight of the Journey The feeling of failure weighed heavily, especially when it seemed like everyone around them (but them) was getting pregnant and having kids. Unfortunately, there was also a miscarriage involved at one point which contributed to a deep sense of loss and more failure. Julia and Adam did differ emotionally whereas Adam felt it would always work out and they would become parents one way or another. Julia felt that maybe it just wasn't in their destiny. Julia was also a high school teacher at the time, so watching teen pregnancies during school or shortly after they graduated was hard on her as well. 15:38 The Lack of Community for Males with Fertility Struggles Adam stresses how important as a man and 50% a part of the conception equation it is to have conversations around these problems. There are a lot less moving parts for men then there are for women to become a pregnant couple, therefore a lot of people equate fertility issues in men with masculinity or lack thereof. 21:43 Loving Parenting After the Conception and Birthing Journey Adam gets asked the question often of whether or not he values being a parent more because it was such a struggle to get where he and his wife are today. He's discovered he values the journey a lot more, and it has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard and worth pursuing. 26:46 Finding Your Acceptance and Allowing Other Parents to Find Their Own Whether it's because you cannot have more children, do not feel comfortable having more children, or want to or need to pursue different ways of becoming a parent again in the future, everyone has to find their own path and no path is the wrong path. No one is less of a parent than anyone else regardless of the journey. 28:56 Resources  Being open about the challenge with close friends and/or family. Comminity support groups. (Hospitals/Fertility Clinics.) "Those who struggle together, learn together." Going online and look for the positive things. Tracking ovulation.  32:50 Genius / Fail Moments   Mandy: Cut down her own Christmas tree and got it out of the forrest, into her truck, out of her truck, into her house, and up her stairs into a standing position in the corner of her living room (albeit after four hours), but she did it and she did it her damn self! (#Genius)  Jess: Daniel Tiger songs are pretty cool, therefore strategic screentime is okay! (#Genius)  Adam: "Tooter Checks"! (#Genius)  Allison: Not traveling far for Thanksgiving and bring the kid's pajamas with you if you do go anywhere. (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Mandy Moore Allison McMillan Jess SzmajdaSpecial Guest: Adam Cuppy.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 020: Fertility Struggles</h2> <h3>00:23 Welcome, <a href="https://twitter.com/AdamCuppy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Adam Cuppy</a>!</h3> <p>Adam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned <a href="https://www.osfashland.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Oregon Shakespeare Festival</a> before making his way into creative direction for <a href="https://www.dutchbros.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Dutch Bros. Coffee</a>, where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded <a href="https://codingzeal.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Zeal</a>.</p> <p>When not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage.</p> <h3>01:17 Adam's Background with Fertility Struggles</h3> <p>Adam and his wife tried for many years to conceive a child naturally before deciding to undergo medical testing to better determine any underlying issues as to why they were unable to do so. Initially, everyone assumed it was his wife, Julia, who was experiencing problems and was unable to get pregnant, however, it turned out that Adam was the one experiencing problems across the board.</p> <ul> <li>Roughly 15% of couples have issues with getting pregnant.</li> </ul> <p>Adam first went an got a personal trainer in attempt to increase testosterone levels naturally, and though they explored more invasive means of conception including IVF, they did not have to go that route and ending up conceiving about four months later.</p> <h3>08:55 The Emotional Weight of the Journey</h3> <p>The feeling of failure weighed heavily, especially when it seemed like everyone around them (but them) was getting pregnant and having kids. Unfortunately, there was also a miscarriage involved at one point which contributed to a deep sense of loss and more failure.</p> <p>Julia and Adam did differ emotionally whereas Adam felt it would always work out and they would become parents one way or another. Julia felt that maybe it just wasn't in their destiny. Julia was also a high school teacher at the time, so watching teen pregnancies during school or shortly after they graduated was hard on her as well.</p> <h3>15:38 The Lack of Community for Males with Fertility Struggles</h3> <p>Adam stresses how important as a man and 50% a part of the conception equation it is to have conversations around these problems. There are a lot less moving parts for men then there are for women to become a pregnant couple, therefore a lot of people equate fertility issues in men with masculinity or lack thereof.</p> <h3>21:43 Loving Parenting After the Conception and Birthing Journey</h3> <p>Adam gets asked the question often of whether or not he values being a parent more because it was such a struggle to get where he and his wife are today. He's discovered he values the journey a lot more, and it has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard and worth pursuing.</p> <h3>26:46 Finding Your Acceptance and Allowing Other Parents to Find Their Own</h3> <p>Whether it's because you cannot have more children, do not feel comfortable having more children, or want to or need to pursue different ways of becoming a parent again in the future, everyone has to find their own path and no path is the wrong path. No one is less of a parent than anyone else regardless of the journey.</p> <h3>28:56 Resources</h3> <ul> <li>Being open about the challenge with close friends and/or family.</li> <li>Comminity support groups. (Hospitals/Fertility Clinics.) "Those who struggle together, learn together."</li> <li>Going online and look for the positive things.</li> <li>Tracking ovulation.</li> </ul> <h3>32:50 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Mandy: Cut down her own Christmas tree and got it out of the forrest, into her truck, out of her truck, into her house, and up her stairs into a standing position in the corner of her living room (albeit after four hours), but she did it and she did it her damn self! (#Genius)</li> <li> Jess: Daniel Tiger songs are pretty cool, therefore strategic screentime is okay! (#Genius)</li> <li> Adam: "Tooter Checks"! (#Genius)</li> <li> Allison: Not traveling far for Thanksgiving and bring the kid's pajamas with you if you do go anywhere. (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/therubyrep" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Mandy Moore</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess Szmajda</a></p><p>Special Guest: Adam Cuppy.</p>

020: Fertility Struggles

Parent Driven Development Episode 024: Teaching Kids to Code 01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding 02:58  Teaching younger vs older audiences 03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space  Scratch   05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy  The Hour of Code  08:16 Kevin's background in coding 08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code 13:31 Resources &amp; Tools  Glitch CodeCombat  15:24 Is Minecraft useful? 18:11 Next level resources  Codecademy Learn Python the Hard Way TwilioQuest  19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away)  Events, Hackathons, and Conferences   THAT Conference   31:05 Genius / Fail Moments   Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass screen protector) over his daughter's broken iPad screen. (#Genius)  Chris: Letting his daughter make pasta! (#Genius)  Kevin:  Letting his daughter make pancakes! (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton Josh PuetzSpecial Guest: Kevin Whinnery.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 024: Teaching Kids to Code</h2> <h3>01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding</h3> <h3>02:58  Teaching younger vs older audiences</h3> <h3>03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://scratch.mit.edu/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Scratch</a> </li> </ul> <h3>05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://hourofcode.com/us" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Hour of Code</a></li> </ul> <h3>08:16 Kevin's background in coding</h3> <h3>08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code</h3> <h3>13:31 Resources &amp; Tools</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://glitch.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Glitch</a></li> <li><a href="https://codecombat.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">CodeCombat</a></li> </ul> <h3>15:24 Is <a href="https://minecraft.net/en-us/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Minecraft</a> useful?</h3> <h3>18:11 Next level resources</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.codecademy.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Codecademy</a></li> <li><a href="https://learnpythonthehardway.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Learn Python the Hard Way</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.twilio.com/quest/welcome" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">TwilioQuest</a></li> </ul> <h3>19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away)</h3> <ul> <li>Events, Hackathons, and Conferences  <ul> <li><a href="https://www.thatconference.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">THAT Conference</a></li> </ul></li> </ul> <h3>31:05 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass screen protector) over his daughter's broken iPad screen. (#Genius)</li> <li> Chris: Letting his daughter make pasta! (#Genius)</li> <li> Kevin:  Letting his daughter make pancakes! (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Kevin Whinnery.</p>

024: Teaching Kids to Code

Parent Driven Development Episode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids 01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion  The Good Place (Josh)  05:56 Music Avoid "Kids" Music!!  Bee Gees - Stayin' Alive (Allison) Apple Music (Chris)  08:54 Games  A great bluffing game is Sheriff of Nottingham (Chris) Go Fish (Allison) Chutes and Ladders (Allison) Fish Stix (Allison) How to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun) (Josh) What Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders (Josh) BoardGameGeek (Josh) Survive: Escape from Atlantis (Chris) Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle (Josh) PBS Kids App (Allison)  20:08 T.V. Shows (Cont'd)  Phineas and Ferb (Chris)  21:05 Asking Alexa  She tells stories! She's got jokes! She'll play music! She can even add toilet paper to your grocery list!  23:16 'yesmum' Cards 24:31 YouTube Channels  SciShow vlogbrothers  27:10 Apps (Cont'd)  Toca Boca  28:55 What We Wish We Had  Filtering options that work on services like Hulu and Netflix Better screen time controls Devices that let kids know what the limits are for time budgeting  36:03 Genius / Fail Moments  Chris: Using bribes. (#Genius) Josh: Cookbooks! Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids Will Love to Make (and Eat!) and Cooking Rocks! by Rachael Ray. (#Genius) Allison: Her son and her had a little argument and Allison yelled (#Fail), but then they came together and calmed down and walked away better and unscathed. (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. We are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community. Panel Chris Sexton Allison McMillan Josh Puetz

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids</h2> <h3>01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.nbc.com/the-good-place" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Good Place</a> (Josh)</li> </ul> <h3>05:56 Music</h3> <p>Avoid "Kids" Music!!</p> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNFzfwLM72c" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Bee Gees - Stayin' Alive</a> (Allison)</li> <li><a href="https://www.apple.com/music/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Apple Music</a> (Chris)</li> </ul> <h3>08:54 Games</h3> <ul> <li>A great bluffing game is <a href="https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/157969/sheriff-nottingham" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sheriff of Nottingham</a> (Chris)</li> <li><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Go_Fish" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Go Fish</a> (Allison)</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Chutes-Ladders-Game-Amazon-Exclusive/dp/B00000DMF6" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chutes and Ladders</a> (Allison)</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Peaceable-Kingdom-Award-Winning-Fish/dp/B002CG87Z0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fish Stix</a> (Allison)</li> <li><a href="http://blankdrums.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-to-make-candy-land-tolerable-even.html?m=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">How to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun)</a> (Josh)</li> <li><a href="http://blog.minitab.com/blog/fun-with-statistics/what-are-the-odds-chutes-and-ladders" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">What Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders</a> (Josh)</li> <li><a href="https://boardgamegeek.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BoardGameGeek</a> (Josh)</li> <li><a href="https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/2653/survive-escape-atlantis" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Survive: Escape from Atlantis</a> (Chris)</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Hogwarts-Cooperative-Building-Official-Merchandise/dp/B01EIKRP0K/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1541527232&amp;sr=8-3&amp;keywords=harry+potter+hogwarts+battle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle</a> (Josh)</li> <li><a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/pbs-kids-games/id1050773989?mt=8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">PBS Kids App</a> (Allison)</li> </ul> <h3>20:08 T.V. Shows (Cont'd)</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phineas_and_Ferb" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Phineas and Ferb</a> (Chris)</li> </ul> <h3>21:05 Asking Alexa</h3> <ul> <li>She tells stories!</li> <li>She's got jokes!</li> <li>She'll play music!</li> <li>She can even add toilet paper to your grocery list!</li> </ul> <h3>23:16 <a href="http://www.londonhypnobirthing.co.uk/shop/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">'yesmum' Cards</a></h3> <h3>24:31 YouTube Channels</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/scishow" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SciShow</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/vlogbrothers" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">vlogbrothers</a></li> </ul> <h3>27:10 Apps (Cont'd)</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://tocaboca.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Toca Boca</a></li> </ul> <h3>28:55 What We Wish We Had</h3> <ul> <li>Filtering options that work on services like Hulu and Netflix</li> <li>Better screen time controls</li> <li>Devices that let kids know what the limits are for time budgeting</li> </ul> <h3>36:03 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li>Chris: Using bribes. (#Genius)</li> <li>Josh: Cookbooks! <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1612124003?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids Will Love to Make (and Eat!)</a> and <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Cooking-Rocks-Rachael-30-Minute-Meals/dp/1891105159/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1541530540&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=rachael+ray+kid+cookbook" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Cooking Rocks! by Rachael Ray</a>. (#Genius)</li> <li>Allison: Her son and her had a little argument and Allison yelled (#Fail), but then they came together and calmed down and walked away better and unscathed. (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br/> We are listener supported. Please consider <a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/joshpuetz" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Josh Puetz</a></p>

016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids

Parent Driven Development Episode 025: Girls in STEM 00:34 Why Joulez?  Getting girls and women engaged in technology Lending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket The Juelez Formula:   Identity Vocabulary Skills Tribe   06:05 Designing Into Motivation  Fixed vs Growth Mindset Tufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach Marrying fun and education Programming and Computer Programming  15:35 How can parents help?  Context Vocabulary Building with them  22:38 Gender  Expanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM Where are the toys that build empathy in boys? Providing opportunity for people of all sorts As a society we have a lot of unlearning to do  33:41 Genius / Fail Moments   Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail)  Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius)  KWu: Buying a "Baby's First Chinese New Year" book....when it was his second. (#Fail)  Stephanie: Extensive troubleshooting...when it was just a loose pin. (#Fail) Lesson learned? Troubleshooting is important! (#Genius)  Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu Jess Szmajda Chris SextonSpecial Guest: Stephanie Rowe.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 025: Girls in STEM</h2> <h3>00:34 Why <a href="https://www.joulez.co/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Joulez</a>?</h3> <ul> <li>Getting girls and women engaged in technology</li> <li>Lending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket</li> <li>The Juelez Formula:  <ul> <li>Identity</li> <li>Vocabulary</li> <li>Skills</li> <li>Tribe</li> </ul></li> </ul> <h3>06:05 Designing Into Motivation</h3> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Fixed vs Growth Mindset</a></li> <li><a href="https://ceeo.tufts.edu/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach</a></li> <li>Marrying fun and education</li> <li>Programming and <em>Computer</em> Programming</li> </ul> <h3>15:35 How can parents help?</h3> <ul> <li>Context</li> <li>Vocabulary</li> <li>Building with them</li> </ul> <h3>22:38 Gender</h3> <ul> <li>Expanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM</li> <li>Where are the toys that build empathy in boys?</li> <li>Providing opportunity for people of all sorts</li> <li>As a society we have a lot of unlearning to do</li> </ul> <h3>33:41 Genius / Fail Moments</h3> <ul> <li> Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail)</li> <li> Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius)</li> <li> KWu: Buying a "Baby's First Chinese New Year" book....when it was his second. (#Fail)</li> <li> Stephanie: Extensive troubleshooting...when it was just a loose pin. (#Fail) Lesson learned? Troubleshooting is important! (#Genius)</li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugrl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jszmajda" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jess Szmajda</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Stephanie Rowe.</p>

025: Girls in STEM

Parent Driven Development Episode 036: Adoption  This episode will discuss the process of international adoption, the major changes that hit home, and future challenges adopting parents and children face  00:28 Welcome, Kalimar  How long does it take to adopt a child internationally? It took Kalimar 2 ½-3 years! Kalimar and his wife have had their baby girl for 6 months, she is now 21 month old Huge learning curve welcoming a child that already has mobility  01:12 Why choose adoption?  Kalimar and his wife are 35+ and decided this was the right option for them  01:39 What is process for international adoption?  Adoption ad in paper, an option International adoption agencies is most common and safe International adoption requirements: Micro scale of state approval, social workers, background checks, reading, workshops, cultural events, then moving to federal approval then international country approval  4:43 How hard is it to adopt a child? Is parenting easier or harder?  The paperwork is tough, but Kalimar says parenting is harder! Everyone and every book has a different advice on parenting Kids don't come with instructions  6:05 Challenges of being a new parent?  No more late nights because baby doesn’t sleep in The need for more friendly activities with friends, luckily most of Kalimar's friends already have kids! Secret sledding hills that have mostly been kid only zones are now opened up to play at  8:08 Experiencing everything with fresh eyes  KWU's son is full of excitement and the energy is contagious Kalimar's daughter eats spaghetti for the first time and its adorable New toddlers like to explore their limits and gravity  10:36 Things to consider when adopting a child  The challenges in adopting a newborn verse a toddler Kalimar had to baby proof before bringing his daughter home The danger kid zone within the house, everyone has one  12:20 Are post adoption services and consultants available?  Yes! Massive support from adoption agency, trainings, workshops, other families and community members Why parenting classes are important and how biological parents should be put through parenting school just like adoption parents First day with adopted child - the bumps, triumphs and everything in between  15:23 How do you decide which agency or country to choose from?  First google agency, then attend an open house and adoption seminars, see who you mesh with Factor in expense of international adoption cost and timeline that it will take  17:45 How do the adoption seminars prepare you?  Kalimar reflects on the self question of making it known that his daughter is adopted in daycare or not Adoption transition tips - understanding the child is going through HUGE emotional changes Kalimar feels lucky his daughter is so adaptable  How to talk about the adoption process with your child at the level they can understand. Open discussion is best, remove the taboo Adoptive parents do a whole lot of work and are totally the parents  24:13 Top parent concerns, are they adoption based?  Kalimar worries about his daughter being treated as a minority, as he and his wife are caucasion and their daughter is Indian. Girl and dad relationship, other common worries Become a part of the local community of their daughters orgin Pros and cons of exposing your child to their origin country  28:46 Genius / Fail moments  Chris stores old legos and toys in his attic until his friends with new babies need them. Out of the house and supporting a friend #parentingwin Allison gets crafty by using walkie-talkies to keep in touch with her 4-year-old son at her office HQ #genius JC’s 10-year-old daughter is a total catch! She learns how to put in the work to improve her skills as her teams catcher.  KWU’s son is repeating everything. She’s noted to watch her language, but proud that her son has picked up on her good habits and is mimicking new language. Kalimar temps his daughter back to the dinner table by making it look like the most delicious time ever! Kids continue to throw food on the ground... to learn reaction and explore new roles #fail   Follow &amp; Support Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.  Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com. Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community. Panel KWu JC Avena Allison McMillan Chris SextonSpecial Guest: Kalimar Maia.

<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1> <h2>Episode 036: Adoption</h2> <ul> <li>This episode will discuss the process of international adoption, the major changes that hit home, and future challenges adopting parents and children face</li> </ul> <h3>00:28 Welcome, Kalimar</h3> <ul> <li>How long does it take to adopt a child internationally? It took Kalimar 2 ½-3 years!</li> <li>Kalimar and his wife have had their baby girl for 6 months, she is now 21 month old</li> <li>Huge learning curve welcoming a child that already has mobility</li> </ul> <h3>01:12 Why choose adoption?</h3> <ul> <li>Kalimar and his wife are 35+ and decided this was the right option for them</li> </ul> <h3>01:39 What is process for international adoption?</h3> <ul> <li>Adoption ad in paper, an option</li> <li>International adoption agencies is most common and safe</li> <li>International adoption requirements: Micro scale of state approval, social workers, background checks, reading, workshops, cultural events, then moving to federal approval then international country approval</li> </ul> <h3>4:43 How hard is it to adopt a child? Is parenting easier or harder?</h3> <ul> <li>The paperwork is tough, but Kalimar says parenting is harder!</li> <li>Everyone and every book has a different advice on parenting</li> <li>Kids don't come with instructions</li> </ul> <h3>6:05 Challenges of being a new parent?</h3> <ul> <li>No more late nights because baby doesn’t sleep in</li> <li>The need for more friendly activities with friends, luckily most of Kalimar's friends already have kids!</li> <li>Secret sledding hills that have mostly been kid only zones are now opened up to play at</li> </ul> <h3>8:08 Experiencing everything with fresh eyes</h3> <ul> <li>KWU's son is full of excitement and the energy is contagious</li> <li>Kalimar's daughter eats spaghetti for the first time and its adorable</li> <li>New toddlers like to explore their limits and gravity</li> </ul> <h3>10:36 Things to consider when adopting a child</h3> <ul> <li>The challenges in adopting a newborn verse a toddler</li> <li>Kalimar had to baby proof before bringing his daughter home</li> <li>The danger kid zone within the house, everyone has one</li> </ul> <h3>12:20 Are post adoption services and consultants available?</h3> <ul> <li>Yes! Massive support from adoption agency, trainings, workshops, other families and community members</li> <li>Why parenting classes are important and how biological parents should be put through parenting school just like adoption parents</li> <li>First day with adopted child - the bumps, triumphs and everything in between</li> </ul> <h3>15:23 How do you decide which agency or country to choose from?</h3> <ul> <li>First google agency, then attend an open house and adoption seminars, see who you mesh with</li> <li>Factor in expense of international adoption cost and timeline that it will take</li> </ul> <h3>17:45 How do the adoption seminars prepare you?</h3> <ul> <li>Kalimar reflects on the self question of making it known that his daughter is adopted in daycare or not</li> <li>Adoption transition tips - understanding the child is going through HUGE emotional changes</li> <li>Kalimar feels lucky his daughter is so adaptable </li> <li>How to talk about the adoption process with your child at the level they can understand.</li> <li>Open discussion is best, remove the taboo</li> <li>Adoptive parents do a whole lot of work and are totally the parents</li> </ul> <h3>24:13 Top parent concerns, are they adoption based?</h3> <ul> <li>Kalimar worries about his daughter being treated as a minority, as he and his wife are caucasion and their daughter is Indian.</li> <li>Girl and dad relationship, other common worries</li> <li>Become a part of the local community of their daughters orgin</li> <li>Pros and cons of exposing your child to their origin country</li> </ul> <h3>28:46 Genius / Fail moments</h3> <ul> <li>Chris stores old legos and toys in his attic until his friends with new babies need them. Out of the house and supporting a friend #parentingwin</li> <li>Allison gets crafty by using walkie-talkies to keep in touch with her 4-year-old son at her office HQ #genius</li> <li>JC’s 10-year-old daughter is a total catch! She learns how to put in the work to improve her skills as her teams catcher. </li> <li>KWU’s son is repeating everything. She’s noted to watch her language, but proud that her son has picked up on her good habits and is mimicking new language.</li> <li>Kalimar temps his daughter back to the dinner table by making it look like the most delicious time ever!</li> <li>Kids continue to throw food on the ground... to learn reaction and explore new roles #fail </li> </ul> <h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3> <p>Please follow us <a href="https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href="mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p> <p>Our website is at <a href="https://parentdrivendevelopment.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p> <p><a href="https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p> <h3>Panel</h3> <p><a href="https://twitter.com/kwugirl" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">KWu</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/jcavena" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JC Avena</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/allie_p" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Allison McMillan</a><br/> <a href="https://twitter.com/crsexton" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Kalimar Maia.</p>

036: The Process for International Adoption

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