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Do you often feel like you do so much for your family but no seems to value or appreciate your efforts? In this episode we outline and discuss what to do in this situation and learn to request for and appreciate the appreciation! Here's what we discussed:  Part 1: dealing with yourself  Validate the need for appreciation Show yourself compassion for feeling this longing. Notice when you do feel cared for  Name the feeling Stay with the feeling Growing resource to draw upon.   Appreciate yourself. Allow yourself to feel good when you do something for others. Pat yourself on the back. Say “that’s like me”.  Part 2: Deal with overfunctioning  Why are you doing what you are doing? Do you feel forced? “I should” “I have to”. These signs that you feel compelled – breeding ground for resentment. Notice choice. And get in touch with the value and meaning of doing things for your family.  Love for family Own values about cleanliness for example Pleasing God    Part 3: Dealing with others  Lead by example. Role model appreciation. Value yourself and value others Figure out if it is not valuing or not expressing Speak up: xyz. Not blaming but sharing your experience and need Request change Appreciate their appreciation – give positive feedback. It felt really good. Learn to take compliments gracefully Grow your circle – build culture of appreciation with friends and colleagues  Thank you for listening – please follow me on social media to keep updated about new content and programs. Check out www.memprogram.com 

Do you often feel like you do so much for your family but no seems to value or appreciate your efforts? In this episode we outline and discuss what to do in this situation and learn to request for and appreciate the appreciation! Here's what we discussed:  Part 1: dealing with yourself <ol> <li>Validate the need for appreciation</li> <li>Show yourself compassion for feeling this longing.</li> <li>Notice when you do feel cared for <ol> <li>Name the feeling</li> <li>Stay with the feeling</li> <li>Growing resource to draw upon.</li> </ol> </li> <li>Appreciate yourself. Allow yourself to feel good when you do something for others. Pat yourself on the back. Say “that’s like me”.</li> </ol> Part 2: Deal with overfunctioning <ol> <li>Why are you doing what you are doing? Do you feel forced? “I should” “I have to”. These signs that you feel compelled – breeding ground for resentment.</li> <li>Notice choice. And get in touch with the value and meaning of doing things for your family. <ol> <li>Love for family</li> <li>Own values about cleanliness for example</li> <li>Pleasing God</li> </ol> </li> </ol> Part 3: Dealing with others <ol> <li>Lead by example. Role model appreciation. Value yourself and value others</li> <li>Figure out if it is not valuing or not expressing</li> <li>Speak up: xyz. Not blaming but sharing your experience and need</li> <li>Request change</li> <li>Appreciate their appreciation – give positive feedback. It felt really good.</li> <li>Learn to take compliments gracefully</li> <li>Grow your circle – build culture of appreciation with friends and colleagues</li> </ol> Thank you for listening – please follow me on social media to keep updated about new content and programs. Check out <a href="http://www.memprogram.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.memprogram.com</a>

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In this short presentation, we outline three simple and practical ways to manage family relationships during the lockdown To access lots of free resources on relationships and personal growth, please sign up for #DailyWisdom at www.marziahassan.org/dailywisdom

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How to raise an emotionally intelligent child.  What it means to be emotionally literate, why we need to focus on this and how parents can nurture emotional intelligence in their children To join our free Facebook group on Positive Parenting please visit   https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/?ref=bookmarks And to sign up for DailyWisdom emails please visit  https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms

How to raise an emotionally intelligent child.  What it means to be emotionally literate, why we need to focus on this and how parents can nurture emotional intelligence in their children To join our free Facebook group on Positive Parenting please visit  <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/?ref=bookmarks" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/?ref=bookmarks</a> And to sign up for DailyWisdom emails please visit  <a href="https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms</a>

Raising an emotionally intelligent child

In this episode, we covered the following points: Introduction – the Islamic foundation What is attachment – difference between bonding and attachment Why is it important – the lifelong effects of attachment on the child What does secure attachment look like Obstacles to secure attachment Tips to foster the attachment bond  Introduction: The 3 stages of the Islamic Parenting Contract  “The child is the master for seven years; and a slave for seven years and a vizier for seven years; so if he grows into a good character within 21 years, well and good; otherwise leave him alone because you have discharged your responsibility before Allah.”   Stage 1: Birth to 7 years – the child as Sayed The Imprint Period Child like sponge, absorb everything as true. Period of attachment and trauma. “Give me the child and I will give you the man”.   Needs of child:                                                                                                                                             Bonding with mother and to have a responsive caregiver                                                                The concept of attachment and providing a secure base – internal working models of relationships                                                                                                                                                The role of parent: To be responsive to the needs of the child (follow the needs of the child) To be a role model (internalized by the child) To create a secure and appropriate environment for the child which stimulates and nurtures To provide intentional and purposeful play activities READ to the child and talk the child   What is the difference between attachment and bonding? Attachment has a broader meaning than bonding. Bonding about the parental bond of love and care. Attachment is about both parent and baby. It's about how you build a relationship over time that helps your baby feel secure, loved, and ready to face the world. Attachment and bonding go hand-in-hand. A strong bond makes it more likely to develop a secure attachment to parent.   Children need something more than love and caregiving in order for their brains and nervous systems to develop in the best way possible.   Children need to be able to engage in a nonverbal emotional exchange with their primary caretaker in a way that communicates their needs and makes them feel understood, secure, and balanced. Children who feel emotionally disconnected from their primary caregiver are likely to feel confused, misunderstood, and insecure, even if they’re loved. What exactly is attachment? According to attachment theory,almost all infants develop an attachment to their caregiver during their first year. The type of attachment your baby develops will greatly depend on daily interactions between parent and baby. Secure attachment Mamas who respond to baby’s needs quickly and accurately are likely to have securely attached infants. These tots seem to know that their caregiver will respond when they are feeling insecure. Avoidant attachment Mamas who are indifferent to baby’s needs or reject baby’s attempts at closeness may foster avoidant attachment. Avoidant infants often seem to know that their caregiver is not likely to respond to their needs. Ambivalent attachment Mamas who respond to baby’s needs inconsistently may foster ambivalent attachment. Ambivalent infants are often unsure about whether their caregiver will respond to their needs. Disorganized attachment A small number of infants develop disorganized attachment, exhibiting confusion over their caregivers’ availability. Researchers aren’t sure why some infants show disorganized attachment, but abusive behaviors may play a role.    A secureattachment bond ensures that your child will feelsecure, understood, and be calm enough to experience optimal development of his or her nervous system. Your child’s developing brain organizes itself to provide your child with the best foundation for life: a feeling of safety that results in eagerness to learn, healthy self-awareness, trust, and empathy. An insecureattachment bond fails to meet your child’s need for security, understanding, and calm, preventing the child’s developing brain from organizing itself in the best ways. This can inhibit emotional, mental, and even physical development, leading to difficulties in learning and forming relationships in later life.    The benefits of a securely attached child   Children who have secure attachments tend to be happier, kinder, socially competent, and more trusting of others, and they have better relations with parents, siblings, and friends. They do better in school, stay physically healthier, and create fulfilling relationships as adults.   What does secure attachment look like?   Developmental milestones related to secure attachment Between birth and 3 months, does your baby...  Follow and react to bright colors, movement, and objects? Turn toward sounds? Show interest in watching people’s faces? Smile back when you smile?  Between 3 and 6 months, does your baby...  Show joy when interacting with you? Make sounds, like cooing, babbling or crying, if happy or unhappy? Smile a lot during playtime?  Between 4 and 10 months, does your baby...  Use facial expressions and sounds when interacting, like smiling, giggling, or babbling? Have playful exchanges with you? Alternate back and forth with gestures (giving and taking), sounds, and smiles?  Between 10-18 months, does your baby...  Play games with you, like pee-a-boo or patty cake? Use sounds like ma, ba, na, da, and ga? Use different gestures (sometimes one after another) to show needs like giving, pointing, or waving? Recognize his or her name when called?  Between 18 and 20 months, does your baby...  Know and understand at least 10 words? Use at least four consonants in words or babbling, like b, d, m, n, p, t? Use words, gestures and signals to get needs met, like pointing at something, leading you to something? Enjoy simple pretend play, like hugging or feeding a doll or stuffed animal? Demonstrate familiarity with people or body parts by pointing or looking at them when named?  At 24 Months, does your baby...  Know and understand at least 50 words? Use two or more words together to say something, like “want milk,” or “more crackers?” Show more complex pretend play, like feeding the stuffed animal and then putting the animal in the stroller? Show interest in playing with other children by giving objects or toys to others? Respond to questions about familiar people or objects not present by looking for them?  At 36 Months, does your baby...  Put thoughts and actions together, like “sleepy, want blanket,” or “hungry for yogurt and going to the refrigerator?” Enjoy playing with children and talking with other children? Talk about feelings, emotions and interests, and show knowledge about time (past and future)? Answer “who,” “what,” “when,” and “where” questions without too much trouble? Pretend to play different characters—either by dressing up and acting or with toy figures or dolls?    Obstacles to creating a secure attachment bond Since infants cannot calm and soothe themselves, they rely on you to do so for them. 1)  Infant’s well-being can affect the secure attachment bond  When a baby experiences difficulty in the womb or in the birth process—during a cesarean birth, for example—their nervous system may be compromised. Adopted babies or those who spend time in hospital neonatal units away from a parent may have early life experiences that leave them feeling stressed, confused, and unsafe. Infants who never seem to stop crying—whose eyes are always tightly closed, fists clenched, and bodies rigid—may have difficulty experiencing the soothing cues of even a highly attuned caretaker.  Fortunately, as the infant brain is so undeveloped and influenced by experience, a child can overcome any difficulties at birth. It may take a few months, but if the primary caretaker remains calm, focused, understanding, and persistent, a baby will eventually relax enough for the secure attachment process to occur. 2)  An older child’s well-being can affect the secure attachment bond A child’s experience and environment can affect their ability to form a secure attachment bond. Sometimes the circumstances that affect the secure attachment bond are unavoidable, but the child is too young to understand what has happened and why. To a child, it just feels like no one cares and they lose trust in others and the world becomes an unsafe place.  A child gets attention only by acting out or displaying other extreme behaviors. Sometimes the child’s needs are met and sometimes they aren’t. The child never knows what to expect. A child is hospitalized or separated from his or her parents. A child is moved from one caregiver to another A child is mistreated or abused. A caretaker’s well-being can affect the secure attachment bond Parental stress or grief Parents own attachment history Distracted parenting Technology    How to Cultivate a Secure Attachment with Your Child 1) providing comfort when needed and 2) offering the freedom to explore when desired.   Circle of Security. The circle represents the ebb and flow of how babies and young children need their caregivers—at times coming close for care and comfort, and at other times following their inspiration to explore the world around them. The caregivers’ role is to tune in to where on the circle their child is at the moment and act accordingly.   1)   Be happy yourself The youngest babies can sense ease versus impatience, delight versus resentment or irritation, comfort versus restlessness, genuine versus pretending, or other positive versus negative responses in a parent when these reactions aren’t evident to a casual observer. Little babies may pick up on the smallest sigh, the subtlest shift in tone of voice, a certain glance, or some type of body language and know the parent is genuinely comfortable or definitely not pleased.   No one can be attuned to another person at all times, though. In fact, the authors assert that the myth of “complete availability” actually undermines a child’s development.   Ruptures, small and large, happen all the time in the fabric of human relationships, and so it becomes important that repairs, small and large, become second nature to parents.   Children are not keeping a parenting score, but rather assessing whether the relationship is safe and secure overall. Good enough is truly good enough.   let go of any pressures they feel to constantly prepare their child for the future, which can inadvertently fill children with anxiety. Instead “being with” or cultivating sensitivity to what children are feeling at the moment and helping them label, understand, and manage their feelings…or simply sitting still and waiting with kindness and understanding they have their feelings. As psychiatrist Dan Siegel says, “feeling felt” is one of the most important needs children have.  “every heart is still seeking the love it was born to know.” Ways to help your baby form secure attachments  Be sensitive to baby’s needs and follow their cue  Follow  Follow your baby’s interests. Be in sync with each other.  Follow  Offer a variety of stimulation.Stimulate baby using the “ABC’s” of child development.  A is for affect B is for behavior C is for cognition 5. Provide emotional support. 6. Use Nonverbal Communication Eye contact. Facial expression Tone of voice Touch Body language Pacing, timing, and intensity   Resources:   Parenting a Secure Child by Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper and Bert Powell.  https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/creating-secure-infant-attachment-video.htm     Some resources to keep the learning going   Daily Wisdom Email Newsletter Daily Wisdom email newsletter is a short daily burst of inspiration to live your best self every day. Daily Wisdom email sign up: https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms Once podcasts and videos are uploaded will inform the email list inshallah.   Websites:  Main website: marziahassan.com Archive for Daily Wisdom and information on private therapy practice: marziahassan.org Quran website: livingthequran.org Online courses (more to come inshallah). This is the only paid content. Everything else is freely offered. https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com      Podcasts: (You can subscribe and listen on your phone)    Loving and living the Quran: Over 100 episodes of past lectures and Quran tafsir  http://marziahassan.libsyn.com OR  https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/loving-and-living-the-quran/id1039955011?mt=2    Family Connections Podcast:  http://familyconnectionsradio.libsyn.com/podcast   OR   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/familyconnections-podcast/id1097401454?mt=2     You Tube Channel: (2 channels – please google my name and they should come up)   Facebook:  Public Facebook pages:     @marziahassan.fc – public page with lots of content on relationships and self development https://www.facebook.com/lovingandlearningthequran     Private Facebook groups – still free but you have to request to join:  Please search “groups” tab in Facebook and look for these names. Then go to the group and click “request to join”  Quran Study Circle– focused on Quran study and tafsir via FB live sessions Positive Parenting Community– focused on parenting skills  https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/    Twitter  https://twitter.com/marziahassanTO  Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/marziahassan/    Pintrist  https://www.pinterest.ca/marziahassan Additionally, many archived courses on the Academy for Learning Islam Website. https://www.academyofislam.co Contributing expert on the web project: http://parentinginthedigitalworld.com

In this episode, we covered the following points: Introduction – the Islamic foundation What is attachment – difference between bonding and attachment Why is it important – the lifelong effects of attachment on the child What does secure attachment look like Obstacles to secure attachment Tips to foster the attachment bond  Introduction: The 3 stages of the Islamic Parenting Contract  “The child is the master for seven years; and a slave for seven years and a vizier for seven years; so if he grows into a good character within 21 years, well and good; otherwise leave him alone because you have discharged your responsibility before Allah.” Stage 1: Birth to 7 years – the child as Sayed The Imprint Period Child like sponge, absorb everything as true. Period of attachment and trauma. “Give me the child and I will give you the man”. Needs of child:                                                                                                                                             Bonding with mother and to have a responsive caregiver                                                                The concept of attachment and providing a secure base – internal working models of relationships                                                                                                                                                The role of parent: To be responsive to the needs of the child (follow the needs of the child) To be a role model (internalized by the child) To create a secure and appropriate environment for the child which stimulates and nurtures To provide intentional and purposeful play activities READ to the child and talk the child What is the difference between attachment and bonding? Attachment has a broader meaning than bonding. Bonding about the parental bond of love and care. Attachment is about both parent and baby. It's about how you build a relationship over time that helps your baby feel secure, loved, and ready to face the world. Attachment and bonding go hand-in-hand. A strong bond makes it more likely to develop a secure attachment to parent. Children need something more than love and caregiving in order for their brains and nervous systems to develop in the best way possible. Children need to be able to engage in a nonverbal emotional exchange with their primary caretaker in a way that communicates their needs and makes them feel understood, secure, and balanced. Children who feel emotionally disconnected from their primary caregiver are likely to feel confused, misunderstood, and insecure, even if they’re loved. What exactly is attachment? According to attachment theory,almost all infants develop an attachment to their caregiver during their first year. The type of attachment your baby develops will greatly depend on daily interactions between parent and baby. Secure attachment Mamas who respond to baby’s needs quickly and accurately are likely to have securely attached infants. These tots seem to know that their caregiver will respond when they are feeling insecure. Avoidant attachment Mamas who are indifferent to baby’s needs or reject baby’s attempts at closeness may foster avoidant attachment. Avoidant infants often seem to know that their caregiver is not likely to respond to their needs. Ambivalent attachment Mamas who respond to baby’s needs inconsistently may foster ambivalent attachment. Ambivalent infants are often unsure about whether their caregiver will respond to their needs. Disorganized attachment A small number of infants develop disorganized attachment, exhibiting confusion over their caregivers’ availability. Researchers aren’t sure why some infants show disorganized attachment, but abusive behaviors may play a role. <ul> <li>A secureattachment bond ensures that your child will feelsecure, understood, and be calm enough to experience optimal development of his or her nervous system. Your child’s developing brain organizes itself to provide your child with the best foundation for life: a feeling of safety that results in eagerness to learn, healthy self-awareness, trust, and empathy.</li> <li>An insecureattachment bond fails to meet your child’s need for security, understanding, and calm, preventing the child’s developing brain from organizing itself in the best ways. This can inhibit emotional, mental, and even physical development, leading to difficulties in learning and forming relationships in later life.</li> </ul> The benefits of a securely attached child Children who have secure attachments tend to be happier, kinder, socially competent, and more trusting of others, and they have better relations with parents, siblings, and friends. They do better in school, stay physically healthier, and create fulfilling relationships as adults. What does secure attachment look like? Developmental milestones related to secure attachment Between birth and 3 months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Follow and react to bright colors, movement, and objects?</li> <li>Turn toward sounds?</li> <li>Show interest in watching people’s faces?</li> <li>Smile back when you smile?</li> </ul> Between 3 and 6 months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Show joy when interacting with you?</li> <li>Make sounds, like cooing, babbling or crying, if happy or unhappy?</li> <li>Smile a lot during playtime?</li> </ul> Between 4 and 10 months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Use facial expressions and sounds when interacting, like smiling, giggling, or babbling?</li> <li>Have playful exchanges with you?</li> <li>Alternate back and forth with gestures (giving and taking), sounds, and smiles?</li> </ul> Between 10-18 months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Play games with you, like pee-a-boo or patty cake?</li> <li>Use sounds like ma, ba, na, da, and ga?</li> <li>Use different gestures (sometimes one after another) to show needs like giving, pointing, or waving?</li> <li>Recognize his or her name when called?</li> </ul> Between 18 and 20 months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Know and understand at least 10 words?</li> <li>Use at least four consonants in words or babbling, like b, d, m, n, p, t?</li> <li>Use words, gestures and signals to get needs met, like pointing at something, leading you to something?</li> <li>Enjoy simple pretend play, like hugging or feeding a doll or stuffed animal?</li> <li>Demonstrate familiarity with people or body parts by pointing or looking at them when named?</li> </ul> At 24 Months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Know and understand at least 50 words?</li> <li>Use two or more words together to say something, like “want milk,” or “more crackers?”</li> <li>Show more complex pretend play, like feeding the stuffed animal and then putting the animal in the stroller?</li> <li>Show interest in playing with other children by giving objects or toys to others?</li> <li>Respond to questions about familiar people or objects not present by looking for them?</li> </ul> At 36 Months, does your baby... <ul> <li>Put thoughts and actions together, like “sleepy, want blanket,” or “hungry for yogurt and going to the refrigerator?”</li> <li>Enjoy playing with children and talking with other children?</li> <li>Talk about feelings, emotions and interests, and show knowledge about time (past and future)?</li> <li>Answer “who,” “what,” “when,” and “where” questions without too much trouble?</li> <li>Pretend to play different characters—either by dressing up and acting or with toy figures or dolls?</li> </ul> Obstacles to creating a secure attachment bond Since infants cannot calm and soothe themselves, they rely on you to do so for them. 1)  Infant’s well-being can affect the secure attachment bond <ul> <li>When a baby experiences difficulty in the womb or in the birth process—during a cesarean birth, for example—their nervous system may be compromised.</li> <li>Adopted babies or those who spend time in hospital neonatal units away from a parent may have early life experiences that leave them feeling stressed, confused, and unsafe.</li> <li>Infants who never seem to stop crying—whose eyes are always tightly closed, fists clenched, and bodies rigid—may have difficulty experiencing the soothing cues of even a highly attuned caretaker.</li> </ul> Fortunately, as the infant brain is so undeveloped and influenced by experience, a child can overcome any difficulties at birth. It may take a few months, but if the primary caretaker remains calm, focused, understanding, and persistent, a baby will eventually relax enough for the secure attachment process to occur. 2)  An older child’s well-being can affect the secure attachment bond A child’s experience and environment can affect their ability to form a secure attachment bond. Sometimes the circumstances that affect the secure attachment bond are unavoidable, but the child is too young to understand what has happened and why. To a child, it just feels like no one cares and they lose trust in others and the world becomes an unsafe place. <ul> <li>A child gets attention only by acting out or displaying other extreme behaviors.</li> <li>Sometimes the child’s needs are met and sometimes they aren’t. The child never knows what to expect.</li> <li>A child is hospitalized or separated from his or her parents.</li> <li>A child is moved from one caregiver to another</li> <li>A child is mistreated or abused.</li> <li>A caretaker’s well-being can affect the secure attachment bond</li> <li>Parental stress or grief</li> <li>Parents own attachment history</li> <li>Distracted parenting</li> <li>Technology</li> </ul>   How to Cultivate a Secure Attachment with Your Child 1) providing comfort when needed and 2) offering the freedom to explore when desired. Circle of Security. The circle represents the ebb and flow of how babies and young children need their caregivers—at times coming close for care and comfort, and at other times following their inspiration to explore the world around them. The caregivers’ role is to tune in to where on the circle their child is at the moment and act accordingly. 1)   Be happy yourself The youngest babies can sense ease versus impatience, delight versus resentment or irritation, comfort versus restlessness, genuine versus pretending, or other positive versus negative responses in a parent when these reactions aren’t evident to a casual observer. Little babies may pick up on the smallest sigh, the subtlest shift in tone of voice, a certain glance, or some type of body language and know the parent is genuinely comfortable or definitely not pleased. No one can be attuned to another person at all times, though. In fact, the authors assert that the myth of “complete availability” actually undermines a child’s development. Ruptures, small and large, happen all the time in the fabric of human relationships, and so it becomes important that repairs, small and large, become second nature to parents. Children are not keeping a parenting score, but rather assessing whether the relationship is safe and secure overall. Good enough is truly good enough. let go of any pressures they feel to constantly prepare their child for the future, which can inadvertently fill children with anxiety. Instead “being with” or cultivating sensitivity to what children are feeling at the moment and helping them label, understand, and manage their feelings…or simply sitting still and waiting with kindness and understanding they have their feelings. As psychiatrist Dan Siegel says, “feeling felt” is one of the most important needs children have.  “every heart is still seeking the love it was born to know.” Ways to help your baby form secure attachments <ol> <li>Be sensitive to baby’s needs and follow their cue</li> </ol> <a href="https://instagram.com/mother.ly/?utm_source=ig_embed" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Follow</a> <ol> <li>Follow your baby’s interests.</li> <li>Be in sync with each other.</li> </ol> <a href="https://instagram.com/mother.ly/?utm_source=ig_embed" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Follow</a> <ol> <li>Offer a variety of stimulation.Stimulate baby using the “ABC’s” of child development.</li> </ol> A is for affect B is for behavior C is for cognition 5. Provide emotional support. 6. Use Nonverbal Communication Eye contact. Facial expression Tone of voice Touch Body language Pacing, timing, and intensity Resources: Parenting a Secure Child by Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper and Bert Powell. <a href="https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/creating-secure-infant-attachment-video.htm" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/creating-secure-infant-attachment-video.htm</a> Some resources to keep the learning going Daily Wisdom Email Newsletter Daily Wisdom email newsletter is a short daily burst of inspiration to live your best self every day. Daily Wisdom email sign up: <a href="https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms</a> Once podcasts and videos are uploaded will inform the email list inshallah. Websites: <ul> <li>Main website: <a href="http://www.marziahassan.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">marziahassan.com</a></li> <li>Archive for Daily Wisdom and information on private therapy practice: <a href="http://www.marziahassan.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">marziahassan.org</a></li> <li>Quran website: <a href="http://www.livingthequran.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">livingthequran.org</a></li> <li>Online courses (more to come inshallah). This is the only paid content. Everything else is freely offered. <a href="https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com</a></li> </ul> Podcasts: (You can subscribe and listen on your phone) <ul> <li>Loving and living the Quran: Over 100 episodes of past lectures and Quran tafsir</li> </ul> <a href="http://marziahassan.libsyn.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://marziahassan.libsyn.com</a> OR <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/loving-and-living-the-quran/id1039955011?mt=2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/loving-and-living-the-quran/id1039955011?mt=2</a> <ul> <li>Family Connections Podcast:</li> </ul> <a href="http://familyconnectionsradio.libsyn.com/podcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://familyconnectionsradio.libsyn.com/podcast</a> OR <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/familyconnections-" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/familyconnections-</a>podcast/id1097401454?mt=2 You Tube Channel: (2 channels – please google my name and they should come up) Facebook: <ol> <li>Public Facebook pages:</li> </ol> <ul> <li>@marziahassan.fc – public page with lots of content on relationships and self development</li> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/lovingandlearningthequran" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/lovingandlearningthequran</a></li> </ul> <ol> <li>Private Facebook groups – still free but you have to request to join:</li> </ol> Please search “groups” tab in Facebook and look for these names. Then go to the group and click “request to join” <ul> <li>Quran Study Circle– focused on Quran study and tafsir via FB live sessions</li> <li>Positive Parenting Community– focused on parenting skills</li> </ul> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/</a> <ol> <li>Twitter</li> </ol> <a href="https://twitter.com/marziahassanTO" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/marziahassanTO</a> <ol> <li>Instagram</li> </ol> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/marziahassan/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/marziahassan/</a> <ol> <li>Pintrist</li> </ol> <a href="https://www.pinterest.ca/marziahassan" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.pinterest.ca/marziahassan</a> Additionally, many archived courses on the Academy for Learning Islam Website. <a href="https://www.academyofislam.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.academyofislam.co</a> Contributing expert on the web project: <a href="http://parentinginthedigitalworld.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://parentinginthedigitalworld.com</a>

Attachment parenting 101

In this episode we discuss Self-Compassion, What it is and why it matters. We also discuss the common misconceptions about self compassion, we explore the difference between guiding with compassion and guiding with criticism. We end the session with some simple but powerful self-compassion excercises.

In this episode we discuss Self-Compassion, What it is and why it matters. We also discuss the common misconceptions about self compassion, we explore the difference between guiding with compassion and guiding with criticism. We end the session with some simple but powerful self-compassion excercises.

Practicing Self-Compassion

We all know the saying “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” But what happens after that? The transition from “married” to “married with children” can be tough. Suddenly your time is not your own, you are tired, sleep deprived and pulled in so many directions. Although having children is a big blessing, it is also a huge responsibility and the challenges that come with parenthood can put a strain on the strongest of relationships. In this session, we will explore ways to navigate the challenges and nurture your marriage while parenting.

We all know the saying “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” But what happens after that? The transition from “married” to “married with children” can be tough. Suddenly your time is not your own, you are tired, sleep deprived and pulled in so many directions. Although having children is a big blessing, it is also a huge responsibility and the challenges that come with parenthood can put a strain on the strongest of relationships. In this session, we will explore ways to navigate the challenges and nurture your marriage while parenting.

Nurturing Your Marriage After Children

What are the differences between Religion and Spirituality? While many parents focus on teaching children the basics of religious practice, it is important to also focus on fostering a spiritual outlook to life. There is a difference and what parents do, matters. We outline how parents can foster a relationship with God in their children and nurture a spiritual perspective while teaching the basics about religion.  To sign up for DailyWisdom emails, please visit: https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms

What are the differences between Religion and Spirituality? While many parents focus on teaching children the basics of religious practice, it is important to also focus on fostering a spiritual outlook to life. There is a difference and what parents do, matters. We outline how parents can foster a relationship with God in their children and nurture a spiritual perspective while teaching the basics about religion.  To sign up for DailyWisdom emails, please visit: <a href="https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms</a>

Nurturing Spirituality in Children

Nurturing Spirituality in Our Children 

As parents we are busy taking care of our families and can sometimes feel that we are running on empty. When we feel like we are running on empty, it can impact the emotional climate of the home and that is a big reason to remember to take care of ourselves as well.  In this session, we had a very interesting discussion about what it means to take self-care seriously and how we can adopt it as a way of life For more resources, please visit www.marziahassan.org and sign up for DailyWisdom on www.marziahassan.org/dailywisdom 

As parents we are busy taking care of our families and can sometimes feel that we are running on empty. When we feel like we are running on empty, it can impact the emotional climate of the home and that is a big reason to remember to take care of ourselves as well.  In this session, we had a very interesting discussion about what it means to take self-care seriously and how we can adopt it as a way of life For more resources, please visit <a href="http://www.marziahassan.org" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.marziahassan.org</a> and sign up for DailyWisdom on <a href="http://www.marziahassan.org/dailywisdom" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.marziahassan.org/dailywisdom</a>

Self Care For Busy Parents

A recording of a live session at a milad for a wedding. Please excuse the sounds of the toddler who really wanted to be heard :) In this session we cover a necessary ingredient for a Muslim home - that of sukun or tranquility. What is tranquility, what are reasons why it is so important, and how do we create sukun within ourselves and in our homes. Here is a link to the blog posts mentioned in the audio The Trouble Tree: https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/do-you-have-a-trouble-tree The 36 questions that lead to love  https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/The%2036%20Questions%20that%20lead%20to%20love To sign up for the DailyWisdom emails please visit  https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms

A recording of a live session at a milad for a wedding. Please excuse the sounds of the toddler who really wanted to be heard :) In this session we cover a necessary ingredient for a Muslim home - that of sukun or tranquility. What is tranquility, what are reasons why it is so important, and how do we create sukun within ourselves and in our homes. Here is a link to the blog posts mentioned in the audio The Trouble Tree: <a href="https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/do-you-have-a-trouble-tree" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/do-you-have-a-trouble-tree</a> The 36 questions that lead to love <a href="https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/The%2036%20Questions%20that%20lead%20to%20love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/The%2036%20Questions%20that%20lead%20to%20love</a> To sign up for the DailyWisdom emails please visit  <a href="https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms</a>

A tranquil home

What is the new reality for parents and how does this impact family wellbeing and happiness? Parents today are trying harder than ever to be good parents and create a family culture that is peaceful and happy. And despite this many families are struggling with knowing what to do - what works and what doesn't.  In this session we offer a research based blueprint on what makes families happy. Some of the information is sure to surprise you.  Keep in touch by signing up for the DailyWisdom emails:  https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms

What is the new reality for parents and how does this impact family wellbeing and happiness? Parents today are trying harder than ever to be good parents and create a family culture that is peaceful and happy. And despite this many families are struggling with knowing what to do - what works and what doesn't.  In this session we offer a research based blueprint on what makes families happy. Some of the information is sure to surprise you.  Keep in touch by signing up for the DailyWisdom emails:  <a href="https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms</a>

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