In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.     It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of Dave Weale. His biological dad left when he was a child, and his step-father was his dad. Dave, a men's coach in Vancouver, talks about how he met his biological father. He also shares how his relationship with his step-father has improved over the years.    If you'd like to reach out to Dave, you can find him on Facebook, and that's where you can find his show about psychedelics!    If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.   This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of Dave Weale. His biological dad left when he was a child, and his step-father was his dad. Dave, a men's coach in Vancouver, talks about how he met his biological father. He also shares how his relationship with his step-father has improved over the years.    If you'd like to reach out to Dave, you can find him on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/DavidJamesWeale" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, and that's where you can find his show about psychedelics!    If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP163: Double Dad Drama - Father Wound EP 4/5

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.     It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of a man, Sam Gray, who had a distant relationship with his dad, even though his father was home. Counterintuitively, even though he lived with his dad, his relationship was quite distant.   If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.   This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of a man, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/EquanimityEducation" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Sam Gray</a>, who had a distant relationship with his dad, even though his father was home. Counterintuitively, even though he lived with his dad, his relationship was quite distant.   If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP162: My Distant Father - Father Wound EP 3/5

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.     It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of a man, Max Dabrowski, who constantly had conflicts and arguments with his "old school" father. And now, they're.....well...listen in and find out.   If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.   This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of a man, <a href="vancouver.artist" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Max Dabrowski</a>, who constantly had conflicts and arguments with his "old school" father. And now, they're.....well...listen in and find out.   If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP161: Constant Conflict with My Dad - Father Wound Ep 2/5

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.     It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the stories of men who grew up with varying relationships with their fathers, the emotional turmoil they struggled with, and how they reached a healthier relationship them.  If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the stories of men who grew up with varying relationships with their fathers, the emotional turmoil they struggled with, and how they reached a healthier relationship them. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP160: My Father Abandoned Me - Father Wound Ep 1/5

This episode is all about the King, Warrior, Magician, Lover archetypes. Every man has a King in him. And a Warrior, and a Magician and a Lover. If one of these "energies" is being neglected, it will sabotage your life, perhaps through procrastination on work projects. Or avoidance of hard conversations or a lot of relationship breakups.  When you understand which of your archetypes is being neglected, you can bring yourself back to balance and into your natural power. If you enjoy deep psychological work, Jungian psychology, and getting into what makes each of us tick as men, then this is up your alley.  If you'd like Jeevan to run a constellation for you and your friends or men's group, then you can reach him here: Instagram.com/11hanuman11. To book in with him, you can go here. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This episode is all about the King, Warrior, Magician, Lover archetypes. Every man has a King in him. And a Warrior, and a Magician and a Lover. If one of these "energies" is being neglected, it will sabotage your life, perhaps through procrastination on work projects. Or avoidance of hard conversations or a lot of relationship breakups.  When you understand which of your archetypes is being neglected, you can bring yourself back to balance and into your natural power. If you enjoy deep psychological work, Jungian psychology, and getting into what makes each of us tick as men, then this is up your alley.  If you'd like Jeevan to run a constellation for you and your friends or men's group, then you can reach him here: <a href="http://instagram.com/11hanuman11?fbclid=IwAR3Q_5KevqAsAZvvojX84loGLvvgPT6nM_CuJFVijJa2VLkgwL-tAb1NCGo" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Instagram.com/11hanuman11</a>. To book in with him, you can go <a href="https://hanuman11.setmore.com/?fbclid=IwAR3Q_5KevqAsAZvvojX84loGLvvgPT6nM_CuJFVijJa2VLkgwL-tAb1NCGo" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP159: Warrior VS Lover, King VS Magician

Do you ever really like someone, and then get all nervous and weird? Do you ever feel like you lose your sense of self when trying to date? Here's a skill that I've learned to help build a genuine connection with someone, without having to suppress any feelings of nervousness. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

Do you ever really like someone, and then get all nervous and weird? Do you ever feel like you lose your sense of self when trying to date? Here's a skill that I've learned to help build a genuine connection with someone, without having to suppress any feelings of nervousness. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP158: How To Get An Authentic Connection

Many people put on a mask when they make a new friend, or start dating someone. They assume that wearing a mask is the same as being private. But that's not true. You can still be you, but not disclose information about your thoughts or your feelings. If you wear a mask, you're attempting to lie to the other person, trying to control their perception of you by telling them you're something other than who you are.  Wearing a mask will always result in feeling unfulfilled. Even if you get what you want, you'll never feel truly seen or truly loved. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

Many people put on a mask when they make a new friend, or start dating someone. They assume that wearing a mask is the same as being private. But that's not true. You can still be you, but not disclose information about your thoughts or your feelings. If you wear a mask, you're attempting to lie to the other person, trying to control their perception of you by telling them you're something other than who you are.  Wearing a mask will always result in feeling unfulfilled. Even if you get what you want, you'll never feel truly seen or truly loved. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

 EP158: Opening Up to Authentic Connections

This was a juicy episode with Gillian Pothier. Gillian is a depth psychologist with advanced immersion in Jungian and Archetypal psychology. Gillian specializes in the masculine/feminine relationship and how, in order to maintain deep passion in a relationship, there needs to be hierarchy. For instance, that hierarchy states that the man (the masculine) leads, and the woman (the feminine) submits. At first glance, this seems archaic in thinking but, when you listen to Gillian, she speaks not of subservient, disempowered women. Rather, she speaks of honour, and how women can honour men (the masculine) and vice versa. But, in order for us to do so, we need to accept our energetic differences. That means that one person, energetically, is going to be the leader (the masculine), and the other the follower (the feminine. Typically the woman). It's in our differences as men and women that we can compliment one another. If we're the same, there's nothing to compliment. But, when we give up some of our power to the other person, that can be triggering, because it's vulnerable. But it's that vulnerability that brings us closer together.  This episode won't suit everyone. If you like what Gillian speaks of, you can find her here and here. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This was a juicy episode with Gillian Pothier. Gillian is a depth psychologist with advanced immersion in Jungian and Archetypal psychology. Gillian specializes in the masculine/feminine relationship and how, in order to maintain deep passion in a relationship, there needs to be hierarchy. For instance, that hierarchy states that the man (the masculine) leads, and the woman (the feminine) submits. At first glance, this seems archaic in thinking but, when you listen to Gillian, she speaks not of subservient, disempowered women. Rather, she speaks of honour, and how women can honour men (the masculine) and vice versa. But, in order for us to do so, we need to accept our energetic differences. That means that one person, energetically, is going to be the leader (the masculine), and the other the follower (the feminine. Typically the woman). It's in our differences as men and women that we can compliment one another. If we're the same, there's nothing to compliment. But, when we give up some of our power to the other person, that can be triggering, because it's vulnerable. But it's that vulnerability that brings us closer together.  This episode won't suit everyone. If you like what Gillian speaks of, you can find her <a href="https://www.gillianpothier.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a> and <a href="https://www.facebook.com/gillian.pothier" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP157: Feminine Submission to Masculine Leadership

First and foremost, as a disclaimer, if you're looking for emotional healing, go to a trained therapist and/or counsellor.  Coaches can help moving forward in life, but a coach can't replace therapists/counsellors. the best combination is to work with a coach and a therapist in tandem. If you can't afford either, then this episode will give you a start in your emotional healing journey. I've had a lot of people ask "How can I get rid of negative emotions?" There are many ways one go about doing this on their own. This episode is a start to that answer. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

First and foremost, as a disclaimer, if you're looking for emotional healing, go to a trained therapist and/or counsellor.  Coaches can help moving forward in life, but a coach can't replace therapists/counsellors. the best combination is to work with a coach and a therapist in tandem. If you can't afford either, then this episode will give you a start in your emotional healing journey. I've had a lot of people ask "How can I get rid of negative emotions?" There are many ways one go about doing this on their own. This episode is a start to that answer. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP156: How To Release Emotions

A crude example, with a tinge of anger, but a necessary lesson for those people sitting on the fence about going to therapy/counselling/coaching.  If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

A crude example, with a tinge of anger, but a necessary lesson for those people sitting on the fence about going to therapy/counselling/coaching.  If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go <a href="https://theintimatelifestyle.com/application/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here</a>, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to <a href="https://trylgc.com/intimate" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://trylgc.com/intimate</a> and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit.

EP155: The Impact of Not Taking a (emotional) Shit

Bringing balance to men’s inner warrior and lover energies. If a sword is too hard, it becomes brittle and it shatters. Too soft, and the sword bends in half. The samurai sword is the perfect combination of hard and soft metals. In the same way, in order for a man to have an incredibly fulfilling relationship and amazing sex, he needs to learn to find that balance of hard and soft inside himself. As a result, he becomes magnetically attractive as the perfect balance of a lover and a warrior.This show uses several modalities and topics to help men cultivate that inner balance, in order to get the relationship and sex life they desire.

I stumbled across your podcast after it popped up in my suggestion list.  I am really enjoying how fun and information your show is.

Great listen

I have been listening to Modern Sex Talk podcast, now The Intimate Lifestyle, since mid-2016.  I have found the podcasts to be interesting, informative, and entertaining - three things I demand if a podcast is to hold my attention for long. Ryan is a good host and interviewer, and he always finds interesting people to interview.  This podcast is on my short list.

On a related note, I purchased the “A Man’s Guide to Female Orgasm” mid-last year, and my wife LOVES the skills and techniques I’ve learned from it. Highly recommended.

More Than Just The Tip

Bringing balance to men’s inner warrior and lover energies. If a sword is too hard, it becomes brittle and it shatters. Too soft, and the sword bends in half. The samurai sword is the perfect combination of hard and soft metals. In the same way, in order for a man to have an incredibly fulfilling relationship and amazing sex, he needs to learn to find that balance of hard and soft inside himself. As a result, he becomes magnetically attractive as the perfect balance of a lover and a warrior. This show uses several modalities and topics to help men cultivate that inner balance, in order to get the relationship and sex life they desire.

The Intimate Lifestyle

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our growing Resource page. This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage. They also get into their profession, the legalities of it in Canada, and why some people would want to go for a sensual massage. Such as after a hard breakup, and wanting some physical touch, but not ready to date or sleep with someone new. This is a very interesting episode with a ton of useful tips for single people and couples who want to spark even more desire in their bedroom, and improve their own, and their partner’s sexual experience. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on www.massagebyki.com and www.erosha.com. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. We’re open to constructive criticism here! Thanks again, and until next time, go be confident, playful and sexual.

Like us on <a href="facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://www.instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>! And check out our growing <a href="theintimatelifestyle.com/my-resources" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Resource</a> page. This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage. They also get into their profession, the legalities of it in Canada, and why some people would want to go for a sensual massage. Such as after a hard breakup, and wanting some physical touch, but not ready to date or sleep with someone new. This is a very interesting episode with a ton of useful tips for single people and couples who want to spark even more desire in their bedroom, and improve their own, and their partner’s sexual experience. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on <a href="http://www.massagebyki.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.massagebyki.com</a> and <a href="http://www.erosha.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.erosha.com</a>. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. We’re open to constructive criticism here! Thanks again, and until next time, go be confident, playful and sexual.

EP007: Erotic Massage

Sometimes, no matter how turned on we get with a partner, we simply won’t cum.  It’s frustrating as hell for us guys, and it can be insulting for our partners. “Am I not hot enough, or turning you on enough?” are some thoughts that might be rolling around in his/her head.   The truth is, it shouldn’t be insulting. Because when we can’t orgasm, it’s rarely our partner. 95% of the time, it’s our shit that’s preventing us from either knowing our own arousal or communicating our needs or dealing with our sexual shame.  This goes for both women and men.   Today's episode is a conversation between me and a past client and friend who's dealt with not being able to ejaculate during sex.  I offer him a few solutions.  Some may resonate well with you, and others may not.  It's a subjective thing, orgasm.  If you want some personalized, more in depth help, you can reach me at ryan@modernsextalks.com for a free 20min consult.

Sometimes, no matter how turned on we get with a partner, we simply won’t cum.  It’s frustrating as hell for us guys, and it can be insulting for our partners. “Am I not hot enough, or turning you on enough?” are some thoughts that might be rolling around in his/her head. The truth is, it shouldn’t be insulting. Because when we can’t orgasm, it’s rarely our partner. 95% of the time, it’s our shit that’s preventing us from either knowing our own arousal or communicating our needs or dealing with our sexual shame.  This goes for both women and men. Today's episode is a conversation between me and a past client and friend who's dealt with not being able to ejaculate during sex.  I offer him a few solutions.  Some may resonate well with you, and others may not.  It's a subjective thing, orgasm.  If you want some personalized, more in depth help, you can reach me at <a href="mailto:ryan@modernsextalks.com">ryan@modernsextalks.com</a> for a free 20min consult.

EP038: Delayed Ejaculation

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP061: Male Multiple Orgasm with Steven Seva. In today's segment, Steven clarifies that if a man can't not have sex or masturbate without reaching an ejaculatory orgasm, then he is in fact, unknowingly addicted to his ejaculation. Interesting frame of mind, but it will take you very far in your sexual enlightenment.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP061: Male Multiple Orgasm with Steven Seva. In today's segment, Steven clarifies that if a man can't not have sex or masturbate without reaching an ejaculatory orgasm, then he is in fact, unknowingly addicted to his ejaculation. Interesting frame of mind, but it will take you very far in your sexual enlightenment.

EP068 - Just the Tip Tuesday - Male Multiple Orgasm

These are the three things central to this episode and I have Lianna Walden back on the show to talk about these concepts and how they play out in real-life relationships.   Lianna is a sex and relationship coach and sexual energy healer who works on non-traditional relationships including bisexuality and non-monogamy. She connects with people, finds out about what’s happening to them sexually and uses this knowledge to help them get through their relationships and lives.   Some of the areas we’ve discussed today are:  What her partner revealed that led into opening up their relationship and exploring non-monogamy (8:37). The phases of jealousy and types of fears that Lianna and her partner went through during this experimentation phase, the relationships they had, and how they worked their way through that experience (11:31). Tackling non-monogamy and the inevitable jealousy in the setup, and how it affects the parties involved in her workshops (19:40). The role threat, insecurity, and low self-esteem plays in the experience of jealousy and decoding the difference between jealousy and envy (21:11; 39:10). How awareness/mindfulness can make one distinguish if jealousy or whatever emotion they’re feeling is healthy or unhealthy (26:25). Practicing consensual decisions and communication, which leads to the gradual process towards compersion and freedom, as the healthiest path to get over the darker emotions related with jealousy (30:20; 42:25). The idea that you are not being loving when you are in a jealous state (39:20). How to slowly transition into or experience a non-traditional or non-monogamous relationship by laying out boundaries, seeing how the emotions play out, and gradually figuring out if those boundaries can be expanded through constant communication (52:20). Jealousy to be seen as an opportunity to explore and communicate our needs, boundaries, insecurities, understand self-love and relationships – a means to an end – instead of just seeing it as a sole negative feeling, and why I likened jealousy to brussel sprouts (53:15). Why jealousy can be the catalyst to create a spark and reignite passion in a relationship (1:00:23).    To connect with Lianna, you can find her at liannawalden.com or on her Facebook Page. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

These are the three things central to this episode and I have Lianna Walden back on the show to talk about these concepts and how they play out in real-life relationships. Lianna is a sex and relationship coach and sexual energy healer who works on non-traditional relationships including bisexuality and non-monogamy. She connects with people, finds out about what’s happening to them sexually and uses this knowledge to help them get through their relationships and lives. Some of the areas we’ve discussed today are: <ul> <li>What her partner revealed that led into opening up their relationship and exploring non-monogamy (8:37).</li> <li>The phases of jealousy and types of fears that Lianna and her partner went through during this experimentation phase, the relationships they had, and how they worked their way through that experience (11:31).</li> <li>Tackling non-monogamy and the inevitable jealousy in the setup, and how it affects the parties involved in her workshops (19:40).</li> <li>The role threat, insecurity, and low self-esteem plays in the experience of jealousy and decoding the difference between jealousy and envy (21:11; 39:10).</li> <li>How awareness/mindfulness can make one distinguish if jealousy or whatever emotion they’re feeling is healthy or unhealthy (26:25).</li> <li>Practicing consensual decisions and communication, which leads to the gradual process towards compersion and freedom, as the healthiest path to get over the darker emotions related with jealousy (30:20; 42:25).</li> <li>The idea that you are not being loving when you are in a jealous state (39:20).</li> <li>How to slowly transition into or experience a non-traditional or non-monogamous relationship by laying out boundaries, seeing how the emotions play out, and gradually figuring out if those boundaries can be expanded through constant communication (52:20).</li> <li>Jealousy to be seen as an opportunity to explore and communicate our needs, boundaries, insecurities, understand self-love and relationships – a means to an end – instead of just seeing it as a sole negative feeling, and why I likened jealousy to brussel sprouts (53:15).</li> <li>Why jealousy can be the catalyst to create a spark and reignite passion in a relationship (1:00:23).</li> </ul> To connect with Lianna, you can find her at <a href="liannawalden.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">liannawalden.com</a> or on her <a href="https://www.facebook.com/lianna.walden" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Page</a>. Like us on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://www.instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

EP094: Jealousy and it's "Cure"

If you've been following The Intimate Lifestyle, you’d know that I've been MIA on the podcast scene for a bit as I decided to focus on other aspects of the brand. However, this episode is just too good to pass up on, and so here I am talking about passion, sex and wellness with Susan Bratton. Susan Bratton is at the forefront of a movement in sex and relationships. Alongside her husband, she is the CEO and co-founder of Personal Life Media. Through this initiative she has produced numerous online courses and publications including the Amazon best-seller  Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials For Connected Sex. An expert in this arena, she’s helped millions of people ignite and rekindle the passion in their sex lives and relationships. It’s something different having a woman’s point of view talking about penile health. The topics Susan and I covered run the gamut, from thrusting techniques, freezies, how heart disease starts in the penis, and the life changing magic of lickin’ and dickin’. Other points we’ve chatted about are:  An anecdote about a guy who kicked Susan out of the bedroom, Facebook stalking and getting the last laugh (05:12) Being an intercourse-orgasm late bloomer and the process towards mind-blowing sex and orgasms. (07:34) Thrusting techniques that create better, longer, and more intense stimulation for women. (13:29) Shrinking penises and loosening vaginas, other sexual health issues, and methods of sexual restoration. (20:08) Penis pumps, my experience using one, and what penis pumping should feel like. (25:31) The shame surrounding penis size and determining the need for penis enlargement. (32:08) How non-ejaculatory orgasms and multi-orgasmic states can result to a bigger penis, the concepts of edging and riding the wave, and improving sexual stamina and orgasms through breathing. (35:10) Tips and tricks to maintain prostate health. (45:54) How our lifestyle choices negatively impact hormone levels, libido, and whole well-being. (57:01)  This was a refreshing episode, and I gotta admit, I think I missed sharing experiences and absorbing wisdom through these conversations. Susan and I really just scratched the surface but if you want to learn more about Susan and her life’s work, visit BetterLover.com or keep updated through Instagram @susanbratton. She’s also provided useful resources for anyone who wants to improve their relationships, sex, and lives through Personal Life Media.  Sexual Vitality Summit  Get Hard Instantly on Command eBook Penis Pumping Guide Tuning Fork Technique  Thanks for spending your time with me on the Intimate Lifestyle Podcast. Browse through past podcast episodes and articles if you want more sex-positive, relationship-enriching and life-changing content. For feedback, questions, or suggestions on who might be good guests and/or resources, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. If you’re struggling with your sex life, intimacy, relationships, or your life in general, I currently have openings for new clients and I’m also running my 3-month Noble Lover Program. Feel free to reach out and connect for more immersive learning and guidance.

If you've been following The Intimate Lifestyle, you’d know that I've been MIA on the podcast scene for a bit as I decided to focus on other aspects of the brand. However, this episode is just too good to pass up on, and so here I am talking about passion, sex and wellness with Susan Bratton. Susan Bratton is at the forefront of a movement in sex and relationships. Alongside her husband, she is the CEO and co-founder of Personal Life Media. Through this initiative she has produced numerous online courses and publications including the Amazon best-seller <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Soulmates-Essentials-Connected-Sex/dp/1546608079/ref=as_li_ss_tl?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_i=1546608079&amp;pd_rd_r=S39FCT8GS3W0T636DPNH&amp;pd_rd_w=zDBgS&amp;pd_rd_wg=mtFNZ&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=S39FCT8GS3W0T636DPNH&amp;linkCode=ll1&amp;tag=perlifmed-20&amp;linkId=94a516331d8c9a58f00d5f2d9d368d86&amp;_ga=2.200629806.183082593.1567408426-338742444.1567408426." rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials For Connected Sex</a>. An expert in this arena, she’s helped millions of people ignite and rekindle the passion in their sex lives and relationships. It’s something different having a woman’s point of view talking about penile health. The topics Susan and I covered run the gamut, from thrusting techniques, freezies, how heart disease starts in the penis, and the life changing magic of lickin’ and dickin’. Other points we’ve chatted about are: <ul> <li>An anecdote about a guy who kicked Susan out of the bedroom, Facebook stalking and getting the last laugh (05:12)</li> <li>Being an intercourse-orgasm late bloomer and the process towards mind-blowing sex and orgasms. (07:34)</li> <li>Thrusting techniques that create better, longer, and more intense stimulation for women. (13:29)</li> <li>Shrinking penises and loosening vaginas, other sexual health issues, and methods of sexual restoration. (20:08)</li> <li>Penis pumps, my experience using one, and what penis pumping should feel like. (25:31)</li> <li>The shame surrounding penis size and determining the need for penis enlargement. (32:08)</li> <li>How non-ejaculatory orgasms and multi-orgasmic states can result to a bigger penis, the concepts of edging and riding the wave, and improving sexual stamina and orgasms through breathing. (35:10)</li> <li>Tips and tricks to maintain prostate health. (45:54)</li> <li>How our lifestyle choices negatively impact hormone levels, libido, and whole well-being. (57:01)</li> </ul> This was a refreshing episode, and I gotta admit, I think I missed sharing experiences and absorbing wisdom through these conversations. Susan and I really just scratched the surface but if you want to learn more about Susan and her life’s work, visit <a href="http://betterlover.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">BetterLover.com</a> or keep updated through <a href="https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram @susanbratton</a>. She’s also provided useful resources for anyone who wants to improve their relationships, sex, and lives through Personal Life Media. <ul> <li><a href="http://sexualvitalitysummit.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sexual Vitality Summit</a></li> <li><a href="https://personallifemedia.com/get-hard-instantly-on-command-ebook-promo/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Get Hard Instantly on Command eBook</a></li> <li><a href="http://pumpingguide.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Penis Pumping Guide</a></li> <li><a href="https://personallifemedia.com/mol-tuning-fork-promo/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tuning Fork Technique</a></li> </ul> Thanks for spending your time with me on the Intimate Lifestyle Podcast. Browse through past podcast episodes and articles if you want more sex-positive, relationship-enriching and life-changing content. For feedback, questions, or suggestions on who might be good guests and/or resources, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. If you’re struggling with your sex life, intimacy, relationships, or your life in general, I currently have openings for new clients and I’m also running my 3-month Noble Lover Program. Feel free to reach out and connect for more immersive learning and guidance.

EP135: Grow, Strengthen and Heal Your Penis

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past. For those men who still, from time to time have to deal with it, the next 4 Humpday Shares on Premature Ejaculation will shed some light on some solutions. Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past. For those men who still, from time to time have to deal with it, the next 4 Humpday Shares on Premature Ejaculation will shed some light on some solutions. Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

EP023: Humpday Share - Premature Ejaculation Part 1/4

Did you know that men can experience Multiple Orgasms? And did you know that they can be non-ejaculatory orgasms? Yes. It's true. And no, you don't get blue balls. It's quite astounding, especially when you have your first experience. Today's guest is Steven Seva, a tantra coach who's been teaching for the better part of a decade. He'll be sharing with you how you can retrain your nervous system to experience multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms. And he also goes through what our partners need to do to help.  This show was an absolute blast. Enjoy

Did you know that men can experience Multiple Orgasms? And did you know that they can be non-ejaculatory orgasms? Yes. It's true. And no, you don't get blue balls. It's quite astounding, especially when you have your first experience. Today's guest is Steven Seva, a tantra coach who's been teaching for the better part of a decade. He'll be sharing with you how you can retrain your nervous system to experience multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms. And he also goes through what our partners need to do to help.  This show was an absolute blast. Enjoy

EP033: Multiple Orgasms for Men

Do you really want to get your ex back? Why? What is it that they gave you that you need so much that you can't give yourself? Those questions are kind of bullshit. Getting broken up with sucks, and when you become single, you miss that companionship, touch, sex, and all those other things that you can't "give yourself" while you're single. So I get why you'd want your partner back. But there's a healthy way to get them back, and an unhealthy way. One involves changing who you are, and the other one involves changing who you are. (yes you read that correctly) In this episode I explain myself better. (or so I like to think) Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And check out our Resources page for a ton of cool stuff. And lastly, leave us a rating and a review in  iTunes. It's a great way to say thank you and give us some support.

Do you really want to get your ex back? Why? What is it that they gave you that you need so much that you can't give yourself? Those questions are kind of bullshit. Getting broken up with sucks, and when you become single, you miss that companionship, touch, sex, and all those other things that you can't "give yourself" while you're single. So I get why you'd want your partner back. But there's a healthy way to get them back, and an unhealthy way. One involves changing who you are, and the other one involves changing who you are. (yes you read that correctly) In this episode I explain myself better. (or so I like to think) Like us on <a href="facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>! And check out our <a href="theintimatelifestyle.com/my-resources" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Resources page</a> for a ton of cool stuff. And lastly, leave us a rating and a review in <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/modern-sextalks/id1055798748?mt=2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> iTunes</a>. It's a great way to say thank you and give us some support.

EP084: How Can I Get My Ex Back?

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP015: Erotic Massage. This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage. Today they touch on how erotic massage can be a great tool for resolving conflict in your relationships. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on www.massagebyki.com and www.erosha.com.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis.  Today's episode is a short segment from EP015: Erotic Massage. This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage. Today they touch on how erotic massage can be a great tool for resolving conflict in your relationships. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on <a href="http://www.massagebyki.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.massagebyki.com</a> and <a href="http://www.erosha.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.erosha.com</a>.

EP048: Just the Tip Tuesday - Erotic Massage

Have you ever thought you wanted a threesome, but didn't know how to get one, or how to make sure everyone was happy and included?  This is the show to listen to. In this VERY conversational episode, Veronica and I share personal stories of situations that went well, and not-so-well. And we give you the sure fire ways to make sure those who want this experience, have a good one.

Have you ever thought you wanted a threesome, but didn't know how to get one, or how to make sure everyone was happy and included?  This is the show to listen to. In this VERY conversational episode, Veronica and I share personal stories of situations that went well, and not-so-well. And we give you the sure fire ways to make sure those who want this experience, have a good one.

EP032: Threesomes

For some, the idea of being in a relationship with just one person can downright drive them crazy. But imagine being in a relationship with FOUR. That is bound to get crazy, right?   Wrong.   My friend, who will remain unnamed, lets us take a peek into his world. One where polyamory and group sex is preferred, if not the norm. Join us as we try to understand him and his lifestyle, and unpack the intricacies and dynamics of a polyamorous relationship.   Below are some of the things we’ve touched on our conversation:    His interests and the role sexuality plays in his life (02:41). How I recall meeting him at a sex party and how our interesting our introduction was(04:50). His explanation on the way he approaches people, and what he perceives as the reason why other people do not do this (08:07). His approach to relationships that provides self-reliance and freedom from concepts of possession and jealousy (10:04). How many partners he has and his primary partner's lovers (13:03). The process of getting educated about polyamory, jealousy, and compersion (15:36). The type of relationships he had prior his awakening to the life and relationships that he authentically wants (18:41). The dynamics of the lifestyle, relationship, and sexual encounters he and his partners are in (23:21). Navigating his partners’ feelings before, during and after a relationship with him (31:28). Cultivating deep connections and intimacy with all the individuals involved in the relationship (36:01). Dealing with feelings of insecurity and being left out in a group sex scenario (38:22). Why he chose not to compartmentalize his sexuality from his life (40:14). What he sees as foremost before getting into a relationship (43:14). How he opens up the subject of polyamory and introducing group sex to a new lover (45:00).    We also throw in some pop culture references and anecdotes about sexual repression, past relationships, and group sex. This episode made me understand what goes on a polyamorous person's mind, or at least, His version of it. As he has stressed, there really is no one template or formula to navigate this type of relationship. Or any relationship, really. If there’s a key takeaway, it is to live as authentically as possible.   STAY TUNED FOR PART 2 NEXT WEEK!   I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you know other individuals living an authentic lifestyle – someone in an off the beaten path who can be an informative resource and guest… email me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com with your suggestions!   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.

For some, the idea of being in a relationship with just one person can downright drive them crazy. But imagine being in a relationship with FOUR. That is bound to get crazy, right? Wrong. My friend, who will remain unnamed, lets us take a peek into his world. One where polyamory and group sex is preferred, if not the norm. Join us as we try to understand him and his lifestyle, and unpack the intricacies and dynamics of a polyamorous relationship. Below are some of the things we’ve touched on our conversation: <ul> <li>His interests and the role sexuality plays in his life (02:41).</li> <li>How I recall meeting him at a sex party and how our interesting our introduction was(04:50).</li> <li>His explanation on the way he approaches people, and what he perceives as the reason why other people do not do this (08:07).</li> <li>His approach to relationships that provides self-reliance and freedom from concepts of possession and jealousy (10:04).</li> <li>How many partners he has and his primary partner's lovers (13:03).</li> <li>The process of getting educated about polyamory, jealousy, and compersion (15:36).</li> <li>The type of relationships he had prior his awakening to the life and relationships that he authentically wants (18:41).</li> <li>The dynamics of the lifestyle, relationship, and sexual encounters he and his partners are in (23:21).</li> <li>Navigating his partners’ feelings before, during and after a relationship with him (31:28).</li> <li>Cultivating deep connections and intimacy with all the individuals involved in the relationship (36:01).</li> <li>Dealing with feelings of insecurity and being left out in a group sex scenario (38:22).</li> <li>Why he chose not to compartmentalize his sexuality from his life (40:14).</li> <li>What he sees as foremost before getting into a relationship (43:14).</li> <li>How he opens up the subject of polyamory and introducing group sex to a new lover (45:00).</li> </ul> We also throw in some pop culture references and anecdotes about sexual repression, past relationships, and group sex. This episode made me understand what goes on a polyamorous person's mind, or at least, His version of it. As he has stressed, there really is no one template or formula to navigate this type of relationship. Or any relationship, really. If there’s a key takeaway, it is to live as authentically as possible. STAY TUNED FOR PART 2 NEXT WEEK! I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you know other individuals living an authentic lifestyle – someone in an off the beaten path who can be an informative resource and guest… email me at info [at] <a href="http://theintimatelifestyle.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">theintimatelifestyle.com</a> with your suggestions! Like us on <a href="http://facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes. Check out our <a href="http://www.theintimatelifestyle.com/my-resources" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Resource Page</a>.

EP114: Part 1 - Group sex and Multiple Partners

Did you know that women can experience up to 11 types of orgasm?  Yea. Women can actually experience more than that. But as Devi says in this interview, we model our understanding of orgasm off of a teenage boys experience of ejaculation.   Our understanding of orgasm is currently a climax, where there is a quick rise, huge peak, and then a quick rush down.  But an orgasm doesn’t need to have a climax like that. Instead, it can be an extended peak of pleasure. Or a rush of pleasure or tingling, or any other peak that sticks around.  It can show up in multiple different ways.   And Devi shares 3 MAIN BLOCKS that prevent women from experiencing:  -clitoral orgasms -G-spot Orgasms -Urethral Opening Orgasms -Cervical Orgasms -Uteran Orgasms -Ear gasms -Throat gasms -and a whole lot more. You can kind more info on how you can reach her in our show notes at www.modernsextalks.com.

Did you know that women can experience up to 11 types of orgasm?  Yea. Women can actually experience more than that. But as Devi says in this interview, we model our understanding of orgasm off of a teenage boys experience of ejaculation.   Our understanding of orgasm is currently a climax, where there is a quick rise, huge peak, and then a quick rush down.  But an orgasm doesn’t need to have a climax like that. Instead, it can be an extended peak of pleasure. Or a rush of pleasure or tingling, or any other peak that sticks around.  It can show up in multiple different ways.   And Devi shares 3 MAIN BLOCKS that prevent women from experiencing:  -clitoral orgasms -G-spot Orgasms -Urethral Opening Orgasms -Cervical Orgasms -Uteran Orgasms -Ear gasms -Throat gasms -and a whole lot more. You can kind more info on how you can reach her in our show notes at <a href="http://www.modernsextalks.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.modernsextalks.com</a>.

EP050: 11 Types of Female Orgasms

If you’re interested in the art of seduction and even sex work, it is known that the allure of the Japanese Geisha is unrivaled in the erotic world. It’s an art and finesse that is not observed in most cultures – especially the Western ones – and this episode will let you have a peek at it.   Raven is a retired sex worker, who went to Japan at a young age to escape a humdrum routine she calls life. There she learned the art and trade of being a modern geisha and a high-end-escort-slash-sex-worker, under the care of a mama-san who ensures the clients treat the women in her club like princesses.   Today, Raven and I talked about the nitty gritty of the adult entertainment, escort service, and sex work. She then provides insights from both provider and client point of view of the industry.   Our conversation took us on her 15-year journey in the sex industry where we discussed:    How she decided to leave school, her job and then partner for a Japan trip and how this supposed 3-month itinerary extended to 3 years which became her start in the adult entertainment industry (2:18). The transition from working at a hostess club to her introduction to escort service and sex work as a geisha (3:33; 11:51). The fancy setting, the princess treatment, the training on how to interact and be affectionate with clients, how to anticipate a man’s needs, and the emotional connection geishas provide their clients (; 12:39). The courtship and intricacies involved for a client to bring a hostess out of the club which is based on the principle of mutual respect where the mama-san and the women communicate and negotiate with the clients (16:01). How people's point of views and judgment is shaped by the society they grew up in, the level of acceptance of the practice of having escorts in Japan, and an instance when she was introduced to the client's wife (18:10). Coming back to the US, treading the escort service and sex industry, and its difference to the etiquette and safety standards upheld in Japan (5:20; 20:25). Getting to know the US sex industry which is mostly run by men based on a pimp-hoe dynamics, wanting to fix this setting, starting her own agency with an objective to make booking ladies as easy and comfortable as booking a haircut, and finally a virtual assistance service for high-end escorts (6:03; 21:15). What she regards as a notable achievement with her business operations shifting how law enforcement sees the escort service industry, making it much safer, and the protocol where her workers go through one-on-one legal talk to empower them (8:01). Dealing with clients you're not attracted to – which entails emotional work, pulling from compassion and genuine love, a principle rooted from her geisha background where sex workers are not only being paid for the performance but the connection too (24:19). Safety and security issues she experienced including dealing with the legalities, screening clients, and safeguarding worker's health, on a physical level like STDs, and on an emotional/psychological aspect by setting boundaries and dealing with violence (29:49). The screening process which involves getting identification, references, work verification and how it significantly improved with the help of technology (34:05). Red flags for sex workers to turn away clients with shady characters, and on the other end how can clients verify the provider and service they are availing (39:15). Her insights and options on how sex workers should work in the industry, providing each option’s benefits and drawbacks (44:05). How her company does marketing and leads generation for their providers (50:20). Her stance on the idea that sex workers are not supposed to enjoy their work (54:40).      Now, this is just the first part of Raven's interview, and to be honest, the wealth of information she's provided me on this first part alone about the industry, as well as the client-provider relationship, is very insightful - and I can't wait to talk to her again and learn even more. Remember to like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes. Stay tuned for next week for some more incredible information and insights.

If you’re interested in the art of seduction and even sex work, it is known that the allure of the Japanese Geisha is unrivaled in the erotic world. It’s an art and finesse that is not observed in most cultures – especially the Western ones – and this episode will let you have a peek at it. Raven is a retired sex worker, who went to Japan at a young age to escape a humdrum routine she calls life. There she learned the art and trade of being a modern geisha and a high-end-escort-slash-sex-worker, under the care of a mama-san who ensures the clients treat the women in her club like princesses. Today, Raven and I talked about the nitty gritty of the adult entertainment, escort service, and sex work. She then provides insights from both provider and client point of view of the industry. Our conversation took us on her 15-year journey in the sex industry where we discussed: <ul> <li>How she decided to leave school, her job and then partner for a Japan trip and how this supposed 3-month itinerary extended to 3 years which became her start in the adult entertainment industry (2:18).</li> <li>The transition from working at a hostess club to her introduction to escort service and sex work as a geisha (3:33; 11:51).</li> <li>The fancy setting, the princess treatment, the training on how to interact and be affectionate with clients, how to anticipate a man’s needs, and the emotional connection geishas provide their clients (; 12:39).</li> <li>The courtship and intricacies involved for a client to bring a hostess out of the club which is based on the principle of mutual respect where the mama-san and the women communicate and negotiate with the clients (16:01).</li> <li>How people's point of views and judgment is shaped by the society they grew up in, the level of acceptance of the practice of having escorts in Japan, and an instance when she was introduced to the client's wife (18:10).</li> <li>Coming back to the US, treading the escort service and sex industry, and its difference to the etiquette and safety standards upheld in Japan (5:20; 20:25).</li> <li>Getting to know the US sex industry which is mostly run by men based on a pimp-hoe dynamics, wanting to fix this setting, starting her own agency with an objective to make booking ladies as easy and comfortable as booking a haircut, and finally a virtual assistance service for high-end escorts (6:03; 21:15).</li> <li>What she regards as a notable achievement with her business operations shifting how law enforcement sees the escort service industry, making it much safer, and the protocol where her workers go through one-on-one legal talk to empower them (8:01).</li> <li>Dealing with clients you're not attracted to – which entails emotional work, pulling from compassion and genuine love, a principle rooted from her geisha background where sex workers are not only being paid for the performance but the connection too (24:19).</li> <li>Safety and security issues she experienced including dealing with the legalities, screening clients, and safeguarding worker's health, on a physical level like STDs, and on an emotional/psychological aspect by setting boundaries and dealing with violence (29:49).</li> <li>The screening process which involves getting identification, references, work verification and how it significantly improved with the help of technology (34:05).</li> <li>Red flags for sex workers to turn away clients with shady characters, and on the other end how can clients verify the provider and service they are availing (39:15).</li> <li>Her insights and options on how sex workers should work in the industry, providing each option’s benefits and drawbacks (44:05).</li> <li>How her company does marketing and leads generation for their providers (50:20).</li> <li>Her stance on the idea that sex workers are not supposed to enjoy their work (54:40).</li> </ul> Now, this is just the first part of Raven's interview, and to be honest, the wealth of information she's provided me on this first part alone about the industry, as well as the client-provider relationship, is very insightful - and I can't wait to talk to her again and learn even more. Remember to like us on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://www.instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes. Stay tuned for next week for some more incredible information and insights.

EP930: Sex Work Secrets from an Ex-Madam

The ‘swinging’ community, better and more properly termed the Lifestyle, has a bit of a bad reputation. People seem to think it’s for horn dogs, or people who aren’t happy in their relationships, or their relationship is missing something. Turns out that their relationships, and their emotional health, is stronger than the majority of people’s “monogamous” relationships. Cindy and James have been in the Lifestyle for over 17 years, and they even have a business and podcast dedicated to helping people enter the Lifestyle, be that kink, fetish, swinging or any form of ‘monoga’mish’ relationship dynamic. They’ve been through the worst of it together, and even went through a separation, only to return even stronger, with all the tools to successfully enter the lifestyle. And they’re going to share that with you. If you’d like to reach out to them, head to our website for their contact information at www.modernsextalks.com Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/modernsextalks. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.

The ‘swinging’ community, better and more properly termed the Lifestyle, has a bit of a bad reputation. People seem to think it’s for horn dogs, or people who aren’t happy in their relationships, or their relationship is missing something. Turns out that their relationships, and their emotional health, is stronger than the majority of people’s “monogamous” relationships. Cindy and James have been in the Lifestyle for over 17 years, and they even have a business and podcast dedicated to helping people enter the Lifestyle, be that kink, fetish, swinging or any form of ‘monoga’mish’ relationship dynamic. They’ve been through the worst of it together, and even went through a separation, only to return even stronger, with all the tools to successfully enter the lifestyle. And they’re going to share that with you. If you’d like to reach out to them, head to our website for their contact information at <a href="http://www.modernsextalks.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.modernsextalks.com</a> Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at <a href="http://www.facebook.com/modernsextalks" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.facebook.com/modernsextalks</a>. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.

EP017: How to have a Swinger Relationship

A few weeks ago, a woman named Elizabeth Morris who works in a Sex Toy Store in the UK, contacted me with a link to an article about anal sex. Elizabeth is a content researcher and company merchandiser for Carvaka Sex Toys – which aims to get more people informed and educated about their sex lives. Elizabeth is a self-acclaimed anal sex fan and describes that it is more physically and mentally pleasurable and fulfilling when done right.  I am personally not as familiar or experienced with anal sex, so I definitely learned a lot on this episode. Elizabeth found herself giggling over my questions while I fumble for words, further highlighting my inexperience and awkwardness on the subject. Some of the subjects we’ve covered are:  How Elizabeth (and the Carvaka Sex Toys store) wants to educate people about the full spectrum of sexual activities, including anal sex (3:23), thus the article she wrote. Guidelines on anal sex etiquette, the most basic of which being cleanliness where Elizabeth detailed the hygiene rituals recommended pre-anal sex (5:32). My personal experience with anal sex and the issues I encountered, as Elizabeth clarified how to avoid such issues through planning your meals and restroom habits (9:24). Elizabeth introduces the P-Spot and the important role it plays in anal sex, and how it can be stimulated (11:06). The stigma of society towards anal sex, especially when it is men that are being penetrated, and how it correlates with the traditional gender/sexual roles of dominants and submissives (14:15). Elizabeth sets straight the very important question – is the anus tighter than the vagina (19:40)? Kegel exercises, and how it affects the muscles surrounding the vagina and the anus for women (21:27). The recommended pace for thrusting in anal sex, what are good methods (23:00), and preferred tools to slowly introduce anal stimulation and enjoy anal sex for both men and women (30:31; 31:32; 34:16). Elizabeth’s educated insights on the risks and dangers of anal sex, from simple bacterial infection, tissues tearing, sexually transmitted infections and diseases (27:47), and even anal leakage (36:44). Elizabeth also expounded on people putting odd objects in their bodies and how to make sure it is safe and doesn’t get lost inside (39:00).  To learn more about Elizabeth Morris and Carvaka Sex Toys, go to: www.intimatelifestyle.com/analsex

A few weeks ago, a woman named Elizabeth Morris who works in a Sex Toy Store in the UK, contacted me with a link to an article about anal sex. Elizabeth is a content researcher and company merchandiser for Carvaka Sex Toys – which aims to get more people informed and educated about their sex lives. Elizabeth is a self-acclaimed anal sex fan and describes that it is more physically and mentally pleasurable and fulfilling when done right.  I am personally not as familiar or experienced with anal sex, so I definitely learned a lot on this episode. Elizabeth found herself giggling over my questions while I fumble for words, further highlighting my inexperience and awkwardness on the subject. Some of the subjects we’ve covered are: <ul> <li>How Elizabeth (and the Carvaka Sex Toys store) wants to educate people about the full spectrum of sexual activities, including anal sex (3:23), thus the article she wrote.</li> <li>Guidelines on anal sex etiquette, the most basic of which being cleanliness where Elizabeth detailed the hygiene rituals recommended pre-anal sex (5:32).</li> <li>My personal experience with anal sex and the issues I encountered, as Elizabeth clarified how to avoid such issues through planning your meals and restroom habits (9:24).</li> <li>Elizabeth introduces the P-Spot and the important role it plays in anal sex, and how it can be stimulated (11:06).</li> <li>The stigma of society towards anal sex, especially when it is men that are being penetrated, and how it correlates with the traditional gender/sexual roles of dominants and submissives (14:15).</li> <li>Elizabeth sets straight the very important question – is the anus tighter than the vagina (19:40)?</li> <li>Kegel exercises, and how it affects the muscles surrounding the vagina and the anus for women (21:27).</li> <li>The recommended pace for thrusting in anal sex, what are good methods (23:00), and preferred tools to slowly introduce anal stimulation and enjoy anal sex for both men and women (30:31; 31:32; 34:16).</li> <li>Elizabeth’s educated insights on the risks and dangers of anal sex, from simple bacterial infection, tissues tearing, sexually transmitted infections and diseases (27:47), and even anal leakage (36:44).</li> <li>Elizabeth also expounded on people putting odd objects in their bodies and how to make sure it is safe and doesn’t get lost inside (39:00).</li> </ul> To learn more about Elizabeth Morris and Carvaka Sex Toys, go to: <a href="http://www.intimatelifestyle.com/analsex" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.intimatelifestyle.com/analsex</a>

EP073: Anal Sex

People often see conflicts in a bad light and try to avoid it at all costs – be it with your family, friends, colleagues… and especially with your partner. But what would you think if I tell you that conflict can actually be a positive thing?   Our guest for this episode is Vienna Pharaon, and conflict is one of her specialties. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and is behind New York Couples Counseling where she helps individuals, couples and families traverse different issues. She offers services based on the issues experienced by her clients where she uses compassion, intuition, and collaboration to encourage transformation.   People are afraid to face conflict and avoid it as much as possible, yet it is inevitable. Vienna, however, welcomes conflict and sees it as a gateway to deeper connections and better relationships. This is what we deep-dived into in our conversation.   Some of the topics we discussed are:  Her work as a marriage and family therapist (05:26), and the systemic nature of the job looking at how different systems shape our lives and belief systems (11:50). The dating culture in New York and the horror stories brought about by a career-centric city culture causing misalignment in priorities (07:56). My sunglasses analogy relating to awareness and subconscious (14:57), and the importance of working on both ourselves and our relationships towards happiness (16:07). The role that our past plays on how we perceive conflicts, and how conflicts give us the opportunity to learn and understand our partners more (20:55). Transforming unhealthy to healthy conflict through our behavior and reaction (27:58). How to shift our perspective when you're in the moment by claiming your ‘adult time out’ to bring gentleness into the space (30:20; 42:41). Seeing anger as an informative emotion that is often the result of another emotion (35:20). Distinguishing unhealthy and healthy conflict based on how the parties accept their responsibility and contribution to the interaction and conflict (38:15). Striking a balance of accepting responsibility for your behavior and getting the other person to acknowledge and do the same on their end (44:43). Gottman’s insights on couples’ issues, the statistic of which is unsolvable, and the concept of positive to negative ratio of healthy relationships (53:32). The concept of negativity threshold and how this impacts conflict management (57:36). Why I see the idea of giving parts of ourselves into a relationship is comparable to the science of sword-making (1:00:07). How to deal with conflicts in a healthy manner that it becomes transformative and a source of deeper intimacy (1:03:31).    If you want to reach Vienna, you may check New York Couples Counseling | Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulMFT) | Instagram   Vienna provided a very enlightening outlook that hopefully will help us all in dealing with our relationships. The insights she shared are great techniques and hacks to diffuse conflicts and improve our relationships, whether it is with our partners, families and other people in general.   I learned a ton on this conversation and hope know that you did too. If you think someone will benefit from listening to this, feel free to share this with them as well.   For feedback and inquiries, give me a shout out at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com – I’d love to hear from you.   Help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Like us on Facebook!   Check out our Resource Page.

People often see conflicts in a bad light and try to avoid it at all costs – be it with your family, friends, colleagues… and especially with your partner. But what would you think if I tell you that conflict can actually be a positive thing? Our guest for this episode is Vienna Pharaon, and conflict is one of her specialties. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and is behind New York Couples Counseling where she helps individuals, couples and families traverse different issues. She offers services based on the issues experienced by her clients where she uses compassion, intuition, and collaboration to encourage transformation. People are afraid to face conflict and avoid it as much as possible, yet it is inevitable. Vienna, however, welcomes conflict and sees it as a gateway to deeper connections and better relationships. This is what we deep-dived into in our conversation. Some of the topics we discussed are: <ul> <li>Her work as a marriage and family therapist (05:26), and the systemic nature of the job looking at how different systems shape our lives and belief systems (11:50).</li> <li>The dating culture in New York and the horror stories brought about by a career-centric city culture causing misalignment in priorities (07:56).</li> <li>My sunglasses analogy relating to awareness and subconscious (14:57), and the importance of working on both ourselves and our relationships towards happiness (16:07).</li> <li>The role that our past plays on how we perceive conflicts, and how conflicts give us the opportunity to learn and understand our partners more (20:55).</li> <li>Transforming unhealthy to healthy conflict through our behavior and reaction (27:58).</li> <li>How to shift our perspective when you're in the moment by claiming your ‘adult time out’ to bring gentleness into the space (30:20; 42:41).</li> <li>Seeing anger as an informative emotion that is often the result of another emotion (35:20).</li> <li>Distinguishing unhealthy and healthy conflict based on how the parties accept their responsibility and contribution to the interaction and conflict (38:15).</li> <li>Striking a balance of accepting responsibility for your behavior and getting the other person to acknowledge and do the same on their end (44:43).</li> <li>Gottman’s insights on couples’ issues, the statistic of which is unsolvable, and the concept of positive to negative ratio of healthy relationships (53:32).</li> <li>The concept of negativity threshold and how this impacts conflict management (57:36).</li> <li>Why I see the idea of giving parts of ourselves into a relationship is comparable to the science of sword-making (1:00:07).</li> <li>How to deal with conflicts in a healthy manner that it becomes transformative and a source of deeper intimacy (1:03:31).</li> </ul> If you want to reach Vienna, you may check <a href="http://www.newyorkcouplescounseling.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">New York Couples Counseling | Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mindfulMFT/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulMFT) | Instagram</a> Vienna provided a very enlightening outlook that hopefully will help us all in dealing with our relationships. The insights she shared are great techniques and hacks to diffuse conflicts and improve our relationships, whether it is with our partners, families and other people in general. I learned a ton on this conversation and hope know that you did too. If you think someone will benefit from listening to this, feel free to share this with them as well. For feedback and inquiries, give me a shout out at info [at] <a href="http://theintimatelifestyle.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">theintimatelifestyle.com</a> – I’d love to hear from you. Help us out by leaving a rating and a review in <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/modern-sextalks/id1055798748?mt=2" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">iTunes</a>. Like us on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>! Check out our <a href="http://www.theintimatelifestyle.com/myresources" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Resource Page</a>.

EP108: Is Your Relationship to Conflict Ruining Your Relationships?

We are celebrating the 100th episode of Modern Sex Talks today, and we have an extra-special guest. Our resource person will be using the pseudonym Mae, and she is a sex worker. Contrary to common perception though, she does not engage in penetrative sex, but instead uses her touch to express sensuality through tantric massages.   In this episode, Mae will expound on the concepts of tantra, spirituality, compassion, love and sexuality. Together we will learn about an industry society has filled with stigma and misconception. Let us all listen as Mae discusses:    Tantric massage, how she does her job (2:15), how she views her work, and how it affects other people’s lives (8:20). What she does as a sex worker, the limitations in this line of work, and the difference of sex work vs. human trafficking (4:55). The story on how she got into this trade, and how it transformed her life (12:13). How she asserts her boundaries (20:54), the dangers involved in this type of work (27:07), and how she protects herself from negativity (48:18) The concept of two types of prostitutes (23:36). The stigma that sex workers use drugs, undergone trauma, or has a mental condition (31:40), and how she dealt with these (36:00). Practical tips she can give to other sex workers on an emotional and psychological level (41:50). Her insights on the gender dynamics (53:51), the power of sexuality or how it ties up to spirituality (57:36).    I also share a personal story about the darkness I experienced when I was in the army, where darkness is being celebrated. And how this juxtaposes to sex workers healing people from trauma, offering intimate therapies, and yet they’re being looked at with disdain (59:51).   Mae is also working on a project that will transform the sex industry and provide support to its workers, though she decided to keep the details in the meantime. But we’ll make sure to cover that once it launches. For now, you can check out http://sensualgenius.com/ if you want to connect with her.   I hope you enjoyed this very special 100th episode, and we'd love it if you'll show us your support by giving us a rating and review, as well as follow us @ModernSexTalks on all Social Media. 

We are celebrating the 100th episode of Modern Sex Talks today, and we have an extra-special guest. Our resource person will be using the pseudonym Mae, and she is a sex worker. Contrary to common perception though, she does not engage in penetrative sex, but instead uses her touch to express sensuality through tantric massages. In this episode, Mae will expound on the concepts of tantra, spirituality, compassion, love and sexuality. Together we will learn about an industry society has filled with stigma and misconception. Let us all listen as Mae discusses: <ul> <li>Tantric massage, how she does her job (2:15), how she views her work, and how it affects other people’s lives (8:20).</li> <li>What she does as a sex worker, the limitations in this line of work, and the difference of sex work vs. human trafficking (4:55).</li> <li>The story on how she got into this trade, and how it transformed her life (12:13).</li> <li>How she asserts her boundaries (20:54), the dangers involved in this type of work (27:07), and how she protects herself from negativity (48:18)</li> <li>The concept of two types of prostitutes (23:36).</li> <li>The stigma that sex workers use drugs, undergone trauma, or has a mental condition (31:40), and how she dealt with these (36:00).</li> <li>Practical tips she can give to other sex workers on an emotional and psychological level (41:50).</li> <li>Her insights on the gender dynamics (53:51), the power of sexuality or how it ties up to spirituality (57:36).</li> </ul> I also share a personal story about the darkness I experienced when I was in the army, where darkness is being celebrated. And how this juxtaposes to sex workers healing people from trauma, offering intimate therapies, and yet they’re being looked at with disdain (59:51). Mae is also working on a project that will transform the sex industry and provide support to its workers, though she decided to keep the details in the meantime. But we’ll make sure to cover that once it launches. For now, you can check out <a href="http://sensualgenius.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://sensualgenius.com/</a> if you want to connect with her. I hope you enjoyed this very special 100th episode, and we'd love it if you'll show us your support by giving us a rating and review, as well as follow us @ModernSexTalks on all Social Media.

EP057: Interview with a Sacred Sex Worker

Today’s guest is Dr. Robert Glover – an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He wrote No More Mr. Nice Guy – a book I have read twice and found to be really insightful in understanding the male psyche. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of nice guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males.   A self-professed recovering nice guy himself, he took the time to chat with me about bad boys and nice guys, and how being nice can cause resentment, anxiety and repressed anger in relation to getting the sex life, relationship, success, among other things that they think they deserve.   Specific areas we discussed are:    His background as a psychotherapist on marriage and family therapy, and even earlier as a minister for a fundamentalist church (1:40). His current life living in a place where the sun always shines, with his amazing wife, and the ‘complications’ of having grandkids and kids of e’ (0). The events precedent to writing No More Mr. Nice Guy: marriages, affairs, sex-life issues, therapies, and why he wished his book had been available during all those experiences (9:28). How working as a relationship and marriage therapist led him to found the No More Mr. Nice Guy men’s group, and eventually writing an autobiographical chronicle of his failures (16:14). Why he sees authenticity as the reason for his success, how it played a big part in naming a book he is currently working on, and how it still challenges him in certain parts of his life (20:40). What is the nice guy mantra, how the nice guy is created, the psychological principles behind it, and how it gives birth to shame (27:45). The concept of the three covert contracts that nice guys live by to get their needs met, and manage the underlying shame (34:22). Why there are more similarities than differences between the nice guys and the bad boys (39:35). The common themes and complementary principles that run across self-help towards success books despite coming from different sources (42:15). His perspective on feminism and society’s tendency to express things as a dichotomy (46:07). ing boundaries by inviting people to higher consciousness and be more introspective (52:22). The key takeaways of the idea of a reciprocal cooperative relationship and turning covert contracts into overt contracts (1:01:03). His recommendations to consciously practice honesty, integrity, and authenticity, and keeping connection with other men (1:02:30)  This episode provided an introspective look into the male mind and I truly hope that you enjoyed and learned as much I did. To get in touch with Robert Glover, you can find his contact details in our show notes at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/nomoremrniceguy. You can also buy a copy of his book by going to www.theintimatelifestyle.com/myresources  Remember to like and follow us on Instagram and Facebook. And if you liked this episode, help us out by leaving a rating a review in iTunes.

Today’s guest is Dr. Robert Glover – an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He wrote No More Mr. Nice Guy – a book I have read twice and found to be really insightful in understanding the male psyche. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of nice guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. A self-professed recovering nice guy himself, he took the time to chat with me about bad boys and nice guys, and how being nice can cause resentment, anxiety and repressed anger in relation to getting the sex life, relationship, success, among other things that they think they deserve. Specific areas we discussed are: <ul> <li>His background as a psychotherapist on marriage and family therapy, and even earlier as a minister for a fundamentalist church (1:40).</li> <li>His current life living in a place where the sun always shines, with his amazing wife, and the ‘complications’ of having grandkids and kids of</li> <li>e’ (0).</li> <li>The events precedent to writing No More Mr. Nice Guy: marriages, affairs, sex-life issues, therapies, and why he wished his book had been available during all those experiences (9:28).</li> <li>How working as a relationship and marriage therapist led him to found the No More Mr. Nice Guy men’s group, and eventually writing an autobiographical chronicle of his failures (16:14).</li> <li>Why he sees authenticity as the reason for his success, how it played a big part in naming a book he is currently working on, and how it still challenges him in certain parts of his life (20:40).</li> <li>What is the nice guy mantra, how the nice guy is created, the psychological principles behind it, and how it gives birth to shame (27:45).</li> <li>The concept of the three covert contracts that nice guys live by to get their needs met, and manage the underlying shame (34:22).</li> <li>Why there are more similarities than differences between the nice guys and the bad boys (39:35).</li> <li>The common themes and complementary principles that run across self-help towards success books despite coming from different sources (42:15).</li> <li>His perspective on feminism and society’s tendency to express things as a dichotomy (46:07).</li> <li>ing boundaries by inviting people to higher consciousness and be more introspective (52:22).</li> <li>The key takeaways of the idea of a reciprocal cooperative relationship and turning covert contracts into overt contracts (1:01:03).</li> <li>His recommendations to consciously practice honesty, integrity, and authenticity, and keeping connection with other men (1:02:30)</li> </ul> This episode provided an introspective look into the male mind and I truly hope that you enjoyed and learned as much I did. To get in touch with Robert Glover, you can find his contact details in our show notes at <a href="http://www.theintimatelifestyle.com/nomoremrniceguy" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.theintimatelifestyle.com/nomoremrniceguy</a>. You can also buy a copy of his book by going to <a href="http://www.theintimatelifestyle.com/myresources" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.theintimatelifestyle.com/myresources</a> Remember to like and follow us on <a href="instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> and <a href="facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a>. And if you liked this episode, help us out by leaving a rating a review in iTunes.

EP086: No More Mr Nice Guy

The male ego gets a bad rep. But it serves a purpose. What is that purpose? The same one that the female ego serves. To be desireable.  A woman's ego is centered around beauty and youth.  A man's ego is centered around strength.  How does that strength play out? By having a larger ego, and never showing weakness.  Target a man's ego, and you target his entire value as a human being.

The male ego gets a bad rep. But it serves a purpose. What is that purpose? The same one that the female ego serves. To be desireable. A woman's ego is centered around beauty and youth.  A man's ego is centered around strength.  How does that strength play out? By having a larger ego, and never showing weakness.  Target a man's ego, and you target his entire value as a human being.

EP047: Male Ego, a brief explanation

When you hear the word sex worker, usually the first thing that comes to mind are prostitutes, and most of the time, they’re women.   Modern SexTalks has significantly covered the topic of healing sex work with a variety of guests – most of them, however, are female. This time around, we’re looking at sacred sex service from a man’s point of view – and we have James Randall Smith as our guest resource.   James is the founder of Sky Dancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts. He is a sex worker-slash-healer, working with both men and women – aged 18 to 88. As a sexual healer, his aim is to have people awaken their potential for bliss through sacred sex.   Today we discuss his backstory, shifting careers, the concept of sacred sex and understanding life doing sex work. We also just downright bro’d out. Extra, extra! For our male listeners, tune in if you are interested in a secret to prolonging sexual stamina.   Areas we covered in our discussion include:    Transitioning from a career in the music industry towards the spiritual path of sexual healing (06:26). The early beginnings of his sexual awareness and exploration (09:06). An interesting first date that became the gateway to finally transitioning into the spiritual path of sexual healing (12:49). What is MDMA therapy and how it impacts cognitive, emotional and sexual perspectives (14:20). How things started lining up for during his career shift, and how things went in the first few years of it (18:13). Where he places himself in the gender-sexual spectrum (19:53). Engaging sexually with someone you are not necessarily attracted or attached to (23:07). The unfolding of James' sacred calling of providing spiritual sexual pleasure (32:24). Personal challenges in a career that involves physical contact (35:58). What it means to awaken people to bliss, and the different ways to tap into this (38:10). The various methods and techniques James keeps in his toolbox as a sex worker (43:51). What scared sex is and its difference to the regular, typical sex that majority of society is accustomed to (44:32). What clients want and expect in James' sacred sex sessions and what actually happens in them (51:08). Special elixirs he uses to keep things in tip-top shape (58:32). What he wants his clients to have as a key takeaway from sessions with him (1:02:39). His advice to people who might be considering a similar path to take (1:05:03). The profile of his female clients and what they're looking for (1:08:07). Getting the buy-in of someone who might not necessarily be into spirituality (1:11:14). How can women distinguish and find safe and legit sex service providers (1:12:24).    To get in touch with James, or check out his services, you may reach him through the following links: SkyDancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts james@skydancer.ca James Randall Smith | Facebook   Having been surrounded by divine feminine energy a lot with my roster of female guests, it is refreshing to hear a man’s point of view from time to time. This a whole new perspective to sex work, and I indeed enjoy talking to James about it. So much that I forgot to ask him some questions. Good thing he was nice enough to allow me to ask him a few more even after we "finished" the initial conversation.   I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you think other people – specifically other men – can benefit from this episode share it with them. If you know other individuals living an off the beaten path who can be a guest… email me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com with your suggestions!   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.

When you hear the word sex worker, usually the first thing that comes to mind are prostitutes, and most of the time, they’re women. Modern SexTalks has significantly covered the topic of healing sex work with a variety of guests – most of them, however, are female. This time around, we’re looking at sacred sex service from a man’s point of view – and we have James Randall Smith as our guest resource. James is the founder of Sky Dancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts. He is a sex worker-slash-healer, working with both men and women – aged 18 to 88. As a sexual healer, his aim is to have people awaken their potential for bliss through sacred sex. Today we discuss his backstory, shifting careers, the concept of sacred sex and understanding life doing sex work. We also just downright bro’d out. Extra, extra! For our male listeners, tune in if you are interested in a secret to prolonging sexual stamina. Areas we covered in our discussion include: <ul> <li>Transitioning from a career in the music industry towards the spiritual path of sexual healing (06:26).</li> <li>The early beginnings of his sexual awareness and exploration (09:06).</li> <li>An interesting first date that became the gateway to finally transitioning into the spiritual path of sexual healing (12:49).</li> <li>What is MDMA therapy and how it impacts cognitive, emotional and sexual perspectives (14:20).</li> <li>How things started lining up for during his career shift, and how things went in the first few years of it (18:13).</li> <li>Where he places himself in the gender-sexual spectrum (19:53).</li> <li>Engaging sexually with someone you are not necessarily attracted or attached to (23:07).</li> <li>The unfolding of James' sacred calling of providing spiritual sexual pleasure (32:24).</li> <li>Personal challenges in a career that involves physical contact (35:58).</li> <li>What it means to awaken people to bliss, and the different ways to tap into this (38:10).</li> <li>The various methods and techniques James keeps in his toolbox as a sex worker (43:51).</li> <li>What scared sex is and its difference to the regular, typical sex that majority of society is accustomed to (44:32).</li> <li>What clients want and expect in James' sacred sex sessions and what actually happens in them (51:08).</li> <li>Special elixirs he uses to keep things in tip-top shape (58:32).</li> <li>What he wants his clients to have as a key takeaway from sessions with him (1:02:39).</li> <li>His advice to people who might be considering a similar path to take (1:05:03).</li> <li>The profile of his female clients and what they're looking for (1:08:07).</li> <li>Getting the buy-in of someone who might not necessarily be into spirituality (1:11:14).</li> <li>How can women distinguish and find safe and legit sex service providers (1:12:24).</li> </ul> To get in touch with James, or check out his services, you may reach him through the following links: <a href="http://www.skydancer.ca/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SkyDancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts</a> <a href="mailto:james@skydancer.ca">james@skydancer.ca</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=624281502&amp;ref=br_rs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">James Randall Smith | Facebook</a> Having been surrounded by divine feminine energy a lot with my roster of female guests, it is refreshing to hear a man’s point of view from time to time. This a whole new perspective to sex work, and I indeed enjoy talking to James about it. So much that I forgot to ask him some questions. Good thing he was nice enough to allow me to ask him a few more even after we "finished" the initial conversation. I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you think other people – specifically other men – can benefit from this episode share it with them. If you know other individuals living an off the beaten path who can be a guest… email me at info [at] <a href="http://theintimatelifestyle.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">theintimatelifestyle.com</a> with your suggestions! Like us on <a href="http://facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook</a> and <a href="http://instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes. Check out our <a href="http://www.theintimatelifestyle.com/my-resources" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Resource Page</a>.

EP123: A "Gigolo's" Life in Sex Work

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