Varvara Erochina's guest appearances

Varvara Erochina

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

The Fill Your Cup Podcast

Everything Belongs with Madison Morrigan

Amy E. Smith

Erin Claire Jones

Michael McNulty

Arielle Ford

Becca Piastrelli

Erin Telford

Allison Fallon

Nicole LePera

Robert Glover

Linda Bloom

Harville Hendrix

Helen LaKelly Hunt

Christy Harrison

Virgie Tovar

Evelyn Tribole

OwlTail

As a practitioner, Varvara originally trained in psychotherapy and spiritual development. Because of her personal journey, she later found out that our fear of relating doesn’t necessarily come from our brain, but from our body and the lack of safety we experienced as an infant. This is where her passion for somatic teaching comes from. Varvara joins us in today’s episode to explain how developmental trauma can limit intimacy and connection in adult partnership, how our implicit memories can create conflict in our relationships, and how healing can help us take responsibility for our experience and reach out to our partner for support. Varvara Erochina is a somatic teacher and coach dedicated to personal and collective healing. She offers a multi-disciplinary approach to healing, informed by trauma resolution, Gestalt psychotherapy, spirituality, and life coaching. Her popular course 'How to Feel' offers practical education and embodied practice for feeling your feelings. She is the creator of Cards for Self-Care and offers 1-1 and group coaching, workshops, retreats, classes, and more. Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode: 04:35 The lived experience of each individual comes from the very first relationships we form with ourselves and our caregivers when we were born. It also goes back to how that relationship is built upon memories that form in the body as we grow. 13:51 Talking about trauma can scare and put so many of us into defense. However, it’s essential to recognize trauma as a chronic experience of not having our needs met as an infant. 15:44 The habits of blaming our partners or shutting ourselves off emotionally are the wise survival mechanisms we unconsciously developed as infants. Reclaiming those habits as such will help us move into greater self-connectedness. 21:03 Implicit memories, which is a formal term for feeling memories, are the thought patterns developed in response to a feeling we couldn't process as an infant. 23:18 Corrective experience happens when a new neural pathway gets created. This neural pathway gets deepened when we’re being honest about how we feel, and when we experience appropriate co-regulation and safe attachment. 27:02 Corrective experience is also one of the best ways to experience a newfound safety, freedom, and possibility in our relationships. In order to access this, we must start by acknowledging our feeling of shame, understanding why it has developed in our younger years, and naming its impact by knowing whether it works in our relational life. 33:20 Whether or not our partner is ready to work with the process, we should always start with ourselves; then we go on and take that as far as we want in our relationship. 37:26 Babies experience chronic stress responses when parents appear frightened or frightening to them. If we have this kind of parenting, our infant implicit memory gets activated when we experience ourselves or our partners being frightened or frightening. Therefore, it's incredibly important to use our sensation and non-verbal clues at that moment to notice and differentiate between our adult selves and that very young response. 42:31 How to get in touch with Varvara Mentioned       Be With website   Varvara Erochina Instagram    Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!    *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

As a practitioner, Varvara originally trained in psychotherapy and spiritual development. Because of her personal journey, she later found out that our fear of relating doesn’t necessarily come from our brain, but from our body and the lack of safety we experienced as an infant. This is where her passion for somatic teaching comes from. Varvara joins us in today’s episode to explain how developmental trauma can limit intimacy and connection in adult partnership, how our implicit memories can create conflict in our relationships, and how healing can help us take responsibility for our experience and reach out to our partner for support. Varvara Erochina is a somatic teacher and coach dedicated to personal and collective healing. She offers a multi-disciplinary approach to healing, informed by trauma resolution, Gestalt psychotherapy, spirituality, and life coaching. Her popular course 'How to Feel' offers practical education and embodied practice for feeling your feelings. She is the creator of Cards for Self-Care and offers 1-1 and group coaching, workshops, retreats, classes, and more. <a href="https://drjessicahiggins.com/erp-284-how-our-relational-attachment-system-is-experienced-in-the-body-an-interview-with-varvara-erochina/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.</a> In this episode: 04:35 The lived experience of each individual comes from the very first relationships we form with ourselves and our caregivers when we were born. It also goes back to how that relationship is built upon memories that form in the body as we grow. 13:51 Talking about trauma can scare and put so many of us into defense. However, it’s essential to recognize trauma as a chronic experience of not having our needs met as an infant. 15:44 The habits of blaming our partners or shutting ourselves off emotionally are the wise survival mechanisms we unconsciously developed as infants. Reclaiming those habits as such will help us move into greater self-connectedness. 21:03 Implicit memories, which is a formal term for feeling memories, are the thought patterns developed in response to a feeling we couldn't process as an infant. 23:18 Corrective experience happens when a new neural pathway gets created. This neural pathway gets deepened when we’re being honest about how we feel, and when we experience appropriate co-regulation and safe attachment. 27:02 Corrective experience is also one of the best ways to experience a newfound safety, freedom, and possibility in our relationships. In order to access this, we must start by acknowledging our feeling of shame, understanding why it has developed in our younger years, and naming its impact by knowing whether it works in our relational life. 33:20 Whether or not our partner is ready to work with the process, we should always start with ourselves; then we go on and take that as far as we want in our relationship. 37:26 Babies experience chronic stress responses when parents appear frightened or frightening to them. If we have this kind of parenting, our infant implicit memory gets activated when we experience ourselves or our partners being frightened or frightening. Therefore, it's incredibly important to use our sensation and non-verbal clues at that moment to notice and differentiate between our adult selves and that very young response. 42:31 How to get in touch with Varvara Mentioned <ul> <li> <a href="https://www.bewith.org/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Be With website</a> </li> <li> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/bewithvarvara/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Varvara Erochina Instagram</a> </li> </ul> Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">instagram.com/drjessicahiggins</a> Podcast: <a href="https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/</a> Pinterest: <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation</a> LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins</a> Twitter: <a href="https://www.twitter.com/DrJessHiggins" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">@DrJessHiggins</a> Website: <a href="https://mailtrack.io/trace/link/1cee07aed4f714529e68184a2637e3ca090cf73b?url=https%3A%2F%2Fdrjessicahiggins.com%2F&amp;userId=3518992&amp;signature=9552b7d993cf042e" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">drjessicahiggins.com</a> Email: <a href="mailto:jessica@drjessicahiggins.com" rel="noopener">jessica@drjessicahiggins.com</a> If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button <a href="https://drjessicahiggins.com/ask-dr-jessica-higgins/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">here.</a> Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/empowered-relationship-podcast/id969874173" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">clicking here</a>.  Thank you!   <a href="https://drjessicahiggins.lpages.co/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank"></a> *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

ERP 284: How Our Relational Attachment System Is Experienced In The Body - An Interview With Varvara Erochina

Today on the Everything Belongs Podcast, Madison is in conversation with Varvara Erochina. Varvara's work as a somatic depth coach, teacher and facilitator was born of her own unrelenting devotion to personal and collective healing. Varvara is the founder of Be With through which she offers a multi-disciplinary approach to healing, combining Gestalt psychotherapy, spiritual care, peer support, coaching and somatic trauma resolution. As the creator of How to Feel, a six week course offering education and embodied practice for feeling your feelings, Varvara is passionate about making psychoeducation accessible to more people. She is the creator of Cards for Self-Care and has supported hundreds of clients through 1-1 and group coaching, workshops, retreats, classes and more. She is a queer femme and Russian immigrant invested in mutual liberation and relationships of interdependant care. In this episode, Madison and Varvara speak on self sabotage and why we destroy the goodness in our life. They dive into rising the emotional wave, building capacity for joy and the reality of our daily experience of healing.Listen in and find the full show notes here: http://madisonmorrigan.com/podcast-rss-feed/Guest LinksVarvara's How to Feel course: https://www.bewith.org/Varvara's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bewithvarvara/Varvara's Podcast: https://soundcloud.com/thebewithpodcast

Today on the Everything Belongs Podcast, Madison is in conversation with Varvara Erochina. Varvara's work as a somatic depth coach, teacher and facilitator was born of her own unrelenting devotion to personal and collective healing. Varvara is the founder of Be With through which she offers a multi-disciplinary approach to healing, combining Gestalt psychotherapy, spiritual care, peer support, coaching and somatic trauma resolution. As the creator of How to Feel, a six week course offering education and embodied practice for feeling your feelings, Varvara is passionate about making psychoeducation accessible to more people. She is the creator of Cards for Self-Care and has supported hundreds of clients through 1-1 and group coaching, workshops, retreats, classes and more. She is a queer femme and Russian immigrant invested in mutual liberation and relationships of interdependant care. In this episode, Madison and Varvara speak on self sabotage and why we destroy the goodness in our life. They dive into rising the emotional wave, building capacity for joy and the reality of our daily experience of healing.Listen in and find the full show notes here: <a href="http://madisonmorrigan.com/podcast-rss-feed/25" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://madisonmorrigan.com/podcast-rss-feed/</a>Guest LinksVarvara's How to Feel course: <a href="https://www.bewith.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.bewith.org/</a>Varvara's Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/bewithvarvara/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/bewithvarvara/</a>Varvara's Podcast: <a href="https://soundcloud.com/thebewithpodcast" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://soundcloud.com/thebewithpodcast</a>

Varvara Erochina on why we self-sabotage and how to hold the good

Barbara Erochina

Last week I launched my NEW virtual emotional eating support program, The Break Free Method, which teaches a whole new way of looking at and managing emotional eating. One of the strategies I discuss in great depth in the course is the importance of learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions, rather than flee them by turning to food. It’s something we aren’t really taught as kids. Fast forward to adulthood, and we’re thrown into a society filled with stressors and varying emotions left, right and centre without any idea as to how to cope or deal with them.  Enter: Varvara Erochina; coach, teacher and lifelong student of embodiment. Varvara is formally trained in experiential psychotherapy, spiritual care and coaching. Varvara has spent the last thirteen years offering embodied emotional and spiritual support through one on one and group work, writing, teaching, ritual and facilitation. In this episode we discuss:  The fear of sitting with emotions Reframing emotions and feelings How our emotions can be here for us The influence white supremacy, race and gender have on our emotions  The intensity of emotions lasting 90 seconds Hot seat coaching: processing anger Learning to sit with emotions to manage emotional eating  How parents can positively support their kids in embracing their emotions Nudity and embodiment  THANKS FOR LISTENING! SIGN UP: THE BREAK FREE METHOD The Break Free Method is a 4-week self-paced, virtual emotional eating support program for stressed-out, high achieving women who want to stop feeling out of control around food. Learn more and sign up here.  Resources:    Varvara Erochina website: bewith.org Varvara Erochina Instagram: @bewithcards Sign Up: Back In My Body Workshop Get On The Waitlist: Loving The Child Within 8-Week Workshop Series Feelings 101 Webinar Replay Hot Seat Coaching for Anger ft.Varvara Erochina &amp; Rachel Molenda 

Last week I launched my NEW virtual emotional eating support program, <a href="https://www.rachelmmolenda.com/break-free-method" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">The Break Free Method</a>, which teaches a whole new way of looking at and managing emotional eating. One of the strategies I discuss in great depth in the course is the importance of learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions, rather than flee them by turning to food. It’s something we aren’t really taught as kids. Fast forward to adulthood, and we’re thrown into a society filled with stressors and varying emotions left, right and centre without any idea as to how to cope or deal with them.  Enter: Varvara Erochina; coach, teacher and lifelong student of embodiment. Varvara is formally trained in experiential psychotherapy, spiritual care and coaching. Varvara has spent the last thirteen years offering embodied emotional and spiritual support through one on one and group work, writing, teaching, ritual and facilitation. In this episode we discuss: <ul> <li>The fear of sitting with emotions</li> <li>Reframing emotions and feelings</li> <li>How our emotions can be here for us</li> <li>The influence white supremacy, race and gender have on our emotions </li> <li>The intensity of emotions lasting 90 seconds</li> <li>Hot seat coaching: processing anger</li> <li>Learning to sit with emotions to manage emotional eating </li> <li>How parents can positively support their kids in embracing their emotions</li> <li>Nudity and embodiment</li> </ul> THANKS FOR LISTENING! <a href="https://www.rachelmmolenda.com/break-free-method" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">SIGN UP: THE BREAK FREE METHOD</a> The Break Free Method is a 4-week self-paced, virtual emotional eating support program for stressed-out, high achieving women who want to stop feeling out of control around food. <a href="https://www.rachelmmolenda.com/break-free-method" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Learn more and sign up here. </a> Resources:  <ul> <li><a href="https://www.bewith.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Varvara Erochina website: bewith.org</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/bewithcards/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Varvara Erochina Instagram: @bewithcards</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.bewith.org/shop/back-in-my-body-workshop" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Sign Up: Back In My Body Workshop</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.bewith.org/howtogrowup" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Get On The Waitlist: Loving The Child Within 8-Week Workshop Series</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.bewith.org/feelings101" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Feelings 101 Webinar Replay</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/tv/B_X1FFGgg5a/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Hot Seat Coaching for Anger ft.Varvara Erochina &amp; Rachel Molenda</a></li> </ul>

063: When You Need Support To Process Uncomfortable Emotions - Varvara Erochina 