Tim Tedder's guest appearances

Tim Tedder

Undone Redone

From Betrayal To Breakthrough

Sheri Keffer

Henry Cloud

Ian Cron

Andrew Bauman

Scott Perkins

Stephanie Dodier

Sachin Patel

Jessica Thompson

Elyse Fitzpatrick

William Paul Young

Debi Silber

Maya Shetreat

Jen Rozenbaum

Alan Christianson

Mo Isom

OwlTail

Tim Tedder entered into an affair sixteen years into his marriage and was equally as surprised by his actions as those closest to him. Tim decided to take a good look in the mirror to understand exactly how he had gotten to that place internally, as well as within part of a team. What he found was a lack of vulnerability and honesty, which he has since harnessed into a counseling career to help others avoid the regret that he has experienced. Get ready for a brand new perspective as we go inside the mind of a betrayer to gain an understanding of why someone betrays, what an affair looks like from a betrayers standpoint, and how to be honest with the mess that you have made to move on either as a couple or individually. Tim opens up about the shifting inner dialogue he had with himself that lead to his infidelity, signs that a betrayer is ready to change and heal versus one that has no intention to change, and how to gain peace of mind knowing that your partner's decisions weren't about you. Even in the worst situations, Tim believes that healing can still be possible as long as both people are willing to put in the work. By working with a counselor such as Tim you can navigate the road bumps of living with someone day in and day out, and learn how to work through change instead of shutting down. It is time to take responsibility for your actions and create a context where you can be truly open and vulnerable with your partner and with yourself. Tim is living proof that with enough awareness and an openness to healing, it is possible to learn from betrayal and move forward. Let us know how infidelity has impacted your relationship with marriage in the comments on the episode page.   In This Episode  Gain an understanding as to why someone betrays and the steps taken to get there Being honest about how you need to change and grow as a person and a couple Indicators that your partner is not willing to do the necessary work to heal with you Forgiving yourself for the underserved blame you may receive from your partner An exploration of insights and changes that may lead a betrayer towards healing    Quotes “Friends and people around me said, ‘hey maybe that's what you should do, you should be a counselor to help people get through things in a different way than you did’. So low and behold here I am.” (5:19) “In my mind, I was creating this space for the possibility [to cheat] instead of stepping into my marriage in an honest and vulnerable way.” (8:19) “Putting the blame on her was undeserved. And I wish more wives could hear that with greater clarity sooner.” (11:38) “Although we would never want someone to experience an affair, we are very thankful for what it caused in our life because of the choices we made afterward.” (20:57) “I want to be that person that can step into another person's life and help them make sense of things before they experience the regret that I did.” (30:43)   Links Visit the Special Affair Healing Breakthrough Page Here Affair Healing Website Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/47 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform  Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

<a href="https://www.affairhealing.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Tim Tedder</a> entered into an affair sixteen years into his marriage and was equally as surprised by his actions as those closest to him. Tim decided to take a good look in the mirror to understand exactly how he had gotten to that place internally, as well as within part of a team. What he found was a lack of vulnerability and honesty, which he has since harnessed into a counseling career to help others avoid the regret that he has experienced. Get ready for a brand new perspective as we go inside the mind of a betrayer to gain an understanding of why someone betrays, what an affair looks like from a betrayers standpoint, and how to be honest with the mess that you have made to move on either as a couple or individually. Tim opens up about the shifting inner dialogue he had with himself that lead to his infidelity, signs that a betrayer is ready to change and heal versus one that has no intention to change, and how to gain peace of mind knowing that your partner's decisions weren't about you. Even in the worst situations, Tim believes that healing can still be possible as long as both people are willing to put in the work. By working with a counselor such as Tim you can navigate the road bumps of living with someone day in and day out, and learn how to work through change instead of shutting down. It is time to take responsibility for your actions and create a context where you can be truly open and vulnerable with your partner and with yourself. Tim is living proof that with enough awareness and an openness to healing, it is possible to learn from betrayal and move forward. Let us know how infidelity has impacted your relationship with marriage in the <a href="https://pbtinstitute.com/47" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">comments on the episode page</a>. In This Episode <ul> <li>Gain an understanding as to why someone betrays and the steps taken to get there</li> <li>Being honest about how you need to change and grow as a person and a couple</li> <li>Indicators that your partner is not willing to do the necessary work to heal with you</li> <li>Forgiving yourself for the underserved blame you may receive from your partner</li> <li>An exploration of insights and changes that may lead a betrayer towards healing</li> </ul> Quotes “Friends and people around me said, ‘hey maybe that's what you should do, you should be a counselor to help people get through things in a different way than you did’. So low and behold here I am.” (5:19) “In my mind, I was creating this space for the possibility [to cheat] instead of stepping into my marriage in an honest and vulnerable way.” (8:19) “Putting the blame on her was undeserved. And I wish more wives could hear that with greater clarity sooner.” (11:38) “Although we would never want someone to experience an affair, we are very thankful for what it caused in our life because of the choices we made afterward.” (20:57) “I want to be that person that can step into another person's life and help them make sense of things before they experience the regret that I did.” (30:43) Links <a href="https://www.affairhealing.com/breakthrough.html" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Visit the Special Affair Healing Breakthrough Page Here</a> <a href="https://www.affairhealing.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Affair Healing Website</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mistakes-Were-Made-But-Not/dp/1491514132" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris</a> Find the full episode post here: <a href="https://pbtinstitute.com/47" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://pbtinstitute.com/47</a> Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: <a href="https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/</a> Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: <a href="https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/</a> Connect: Facebook page: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform</a> Free Facebook group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/</a> Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/DebiSilber" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/DebiSilber</a> LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/</a> Watch my TEDx: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro</a>

047: When Vows Are Shattered: A Betrayer's Story w/ Tim Tedder

On episode 129, Tray and Melody are joined by therapist Tim Tedder to discuss infidelity, betrayal, and affairs. Tim walks us through how he came into counseling, personal experiences that continue to impact him today, and how he brings hope and healing to wounded people around him. This is a truly impactful and resource-filled episode that you don’t want to miss. Prior to earning his Master’s Degree in Counseling from Indiana Wesleyan University. Tim spent nearly 20 years as a leader and teacher, focusing on spiritual and personal growth issues for individuals and families. In his speaking and counseling, he aims to creatively communicate a message of hope and healing to wounded people with a special focus on helping couples in crisis. This passion of helping to provide healing and hope to wounded people was made clear in his early 20s. Tim is a father and grandfather. He worked as a family therapist in Indiana before moving with his wife, Sharon, to Orlando in 2008 to join the staff of Charis Counseling Center. In 2009, he began developing Affairhealing.com, which has become a popular affair recovery resource for people around the world. In the summer of 2013, Time and Sharon started their own private practice: Currents Counseling Services, LLC.  Tim is the Author of Affair Healing which is available for purchase at http://www.affairhealingbook.com/. The book provides chapters with guided activities, 18 worksheets, and a free download of Affair Healing: A Recovery Guide for Couples. Learn more about The Recovery Room podcast here. affairhealing.com/podcast.html For a FREE 5-day course and 50% off of Tim’s books for you our Undone Redone listeners, go to www.affairhealing.com/redone. Find out more about coaching available through Undone Redone at www.undoneredone.com/coaching. To learn more about the resources Melody has created to help women through betrayal visit www.Lifebeyondbetrayal.com or text lifebeyondbetrayal to 44222 to receive her 3 FREE videos. Don’t forget to see The Heart Of Man in theaters, October 17th, for its encore presentation! Find tickets and learn more at http://www.heartofmanmovie.com.  If you would like to become a monthly ministry partner to help support the show, please visit www.undoneredone.com/ministry-partners to make your tax-deductible gift securely online. Your gift helps us reach more people with Undone Redone's message of hope and reconciliation.

On episode 129, Tray and Melody are joined by therapist Tim Tedder to discuss infidelity, betrayal, and affairs. Tim walks us through how he came into counseling, personal experiences that continue to impact him today, and how he brings hope and healing to wounded people around him. This is a truly impactful and resource-filled episode that you don’t want to miss. Prior to earning his Master’s Degree in Counseling from Indiana Wesleyan University. Tim spent nearly 20 years as a leader and teacher, focusing on spiritual and personal growth issues for individuals and families. In his speaking and counseling, he aims to creatively communicate a message of hope and healing to wounded people with a special focus on helping couples in crisis. This passion of helping to provide healing and hope to wounded people was made clear in his early 20s. Tim is a father and grandfather. He worked as a family therapist in Indiana before moving with his wife, Sharon, to Orlando in 2008 to join the staff of Charis Counseling Center. In 2009, he began developing <a href="http://www.affairhealing.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Affairhealing.com</a>, which has become a popular affair recovery resource for people around the world. In the summer of 2013, Time and Sharon started their own private practice: Currents Counseling Services, LLC. Tim is the Author of Affair Healing which is available for purchase at <a href="http://www.affairhealingbook.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.affairhealingbook.com/</a>. The book provides chapters with guided activities, 18 worksheets, and a free download of Affair Healing: A Recovery Guide for Couples. Learn more about The Recovery Room podcast here. <a href="http://www.affairhealing.com/podcast.html" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">affairhealing.com/podcast.html</a> For a FREE 5-day course and 50% off of Tim’s books for you our Undone Redone listeners, go to <a href="http://www.affairhealing.com/redone" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.affairhealing.com/redone</a>. Find out more about coaching available through Undone Redone at <a href="http://www.undoneredone.com/coaching" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.undoneredone.com/coaching</a>. To learn more about the resources Melody has created to help women through betrayal visit <a href="http://www.Lifebeyondbetrayal.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.Lifebeyondbetrayal.com</a> or text lifebeyondbetrayal to 44222 to receive her 3 FREE videos. Don’t forget to see The Heart Of Man in theaters, October 17th, for its encore presentation! Find tickets and learn more at <a href="http://www.heartofmanmovie.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">http://www.heartofmanmovie.com</a>.  If you would like to become a monthly ministry partner to help support the show, please visit <a href="http://www.undoneredone.com/ministry-partners" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">www.undoneredone.com/ministry-partners</a> to make your tax-deductible gift securely online. Your gift helps us reach more people with Undone Redone's message of hope and reconciliation.

UR 129: Healing After An Affair — Tim Tedder