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If you’re going through a divorce, you’ve likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT.   But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want.   So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment?   David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic.   On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT.   David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT.   Listen in for David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation!   Topics Covered:   The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works   What differentiates victimhood from victimization   How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT   Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce   How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT   The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach   Why it’s challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes   David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce   Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation   Connect With David Emerald Womeldorff:  Center for the Empowerment Dynamic   The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook   David on LinkedIn Topics Covered Connect With David Emerald Womeldorff  Connect With Katherine Miller: The Center for Understanding Conflict Miller Law Group Katherine on LinkedIn The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller Email: katherine@miller-law.com  Call (914) 685-9805   Resources   The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald   The Karpman Drama Triangle   Karen Horney’s Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment   Oprah Interview with Adele

If you’re going through a divorce, you’ve likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT. But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want. So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment? David is the Creator-in-Chief of <a href="https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Empowerment Dynamic</a> and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including <a href="https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic</a>. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT. David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT. Listen in for David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation! Topics Covered: The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works What differentiates victimhood from victimization How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach Why it’s challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation Connect With David Emerald Womeldorff: <a href="https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Center for the Empowerment Dynamic</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook</a> <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">David on LinkedIn</a> Topics Covered Connect With David Emerald Womeldorff Connect With Katherine Miller: <a href="http://understandinginconflict.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The Center for Understanding Conflict</a> <a href="https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/?__hstc=104015327.ef66ecf6cd3d1235b1d81f1cf274d950.1666286399360.1680804662170.1680895975784.138&amp;__hssc=104015327.3.1680895975784&amp;__hsfp=3338797934" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Miller Law Group</a> <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/kemiller1/" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">Katherine on LinkedIn</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce</a> by Katherine Miller Email: <a href="mailto:katherine@miller-law.com" rel="noopener">katherine@miller-law.com</a> Call (914) 685-9805 Resources   <a href="https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald</a> <a href="https://karpmandramatriangle.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Karpman Drama Triangle</a> <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Karen Horney’s Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Oprah Interview with Adele</a>

Ep. 199 Alternatives To The Dreaded Drama Triangle Of Divorce With David Emerald Womeldorff

If you’re going through a divorce, you’ve likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT.But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want.So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment?David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic.On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT.David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT.Listen in for David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation!Topics Covered  The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it worksWhat differentiates victimhood from victimizationHow the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDTWhy we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorceHow The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDTThe TED roles of creator, challenger and coachWhy it’s challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomesDavid’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorceDisrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperationConnect with David Emerald WomeldorffCenter for the Empowerment Dynamic:https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updatesThe Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamicDavid on LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/Connect with Katherine Miller  The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246Email: katherine@miller-law.com Call (914) 738-7765ResourcesThe Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald:https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802The Karpman Drama Triangle:https://karpmandramatriangle.com/Karen Horney’s Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment:https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/Oprah Interview with Adele:https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996

If you’re going through a divorce, you’ve likely fallen into what David Emerald Womeldorff calls the Dreaded Drama Triangle or DDT. But this framework keeps you and your ex focused on your problems rather than the outcomes you want. So, what is the antidote to the toxicity of DDT? How do you shift out of fear and reactivity into creativity and empowerment? David is the Creator-in-Chief of The Empowerment Dynamic and Cofounder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center. He is also the bestselling author many books, including The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, David joins Katherine to explain the concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle, exploring how the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT. David describes why we fall into the roles of victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce and challenges us to leverage The Empowerment Dynamic as an antidote to DDT. Listen in for David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce and learn how to disrupt the pattern of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation! Topics Covered The concept of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it works What differentiates victimhood from victimization How the traditional approach to divorce perpetuates the DDT Why we fall into our roles as victim, persecutor or rescuer in divorce How The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) serves as an antidote to the DDT The TED roles of creator, challenger and coach Why it’s challenging to shift our focus from problems to outcomes David’s insight on applying TED to the circumstances of divorce Disrupting the patten of DDT with or without your ex’s cooperation Connect with David Emerald Womeldorff Center for the Empowerment Dynamic: <a href="https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://theempowermentdynamic.com/#updates</a> The Empowerment Dynamic on Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/theempowermentdynamic</a> David on LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/</a> Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: <a href="http://understandinginconflict.org/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://understandinginconflict.org/</a> Miller Law Group: <a href="https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/</a> Katherine on LinkedIn: <a href="http://linkedin.com/in/kemiller1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">linkedin.com/in/kemiller1</a> The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246</a> Email: katherine@miller<a href="http://-law.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">-law.com</a> Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Power of TED: The Empowerment Dynamic by David Emerald: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802</a> The Karpman Drama Triangle: <a href="https://karpmandramatriangle.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://karpmandramatriangle.com/</a> Karen Horney’s Interpersonal Theory of Adjustment: <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34748442/</a> Oprah Interview with Adele: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=432173685235996</a>

Alternatives to the Dreaded Drama Triangle of Divorce With David Emerald Womeldorff

David Emerald

David Emerald is the author of the best-selling books, The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) and 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama. He is also Creator-in-Chief of the Center for The Empowerment Dynamic. David specializes in personal development, leadership education, executive and organizational development, and is an expert at translating his frameworks into simple language for practical application in work and life. When faced with adversity, we evidently see the roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, not only in personal relationships but also in leadership, which results in drama. Drama is defined as any thought or interaction that takes our attention away from the desired outcomes. The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) illustrates the toxic nature of these roles which roots in a problem-oriented approach. Understand that all three roles can be reasonable and appropriate at times, so they aren't necessarily bad; they just limit your potential. The truth is that we will never be able to completely eliminate organizational drama. Victimization and drama are natural parts of the human experience, but recognizing it earlier and making conscious choices can make a big difference. In this episode, David takes us on a deeper understanding of the negative impact of DDT in our lives and how we can find our way out using The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) approach and ultimately bring forward the best version of ourselves. Here are a few of the topics we’ll discuss on this episode of The Anthony Sarandrea Show:  Understand The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it’s limiting your potential. A leadership perspective on organizational drama. The three dimensions of work. Some daily practices that you can do to start rewriting the rules. Three vital questions you need to ask yourself. How to manage dynamic tensions in 5 quick steps. What the two basic aspects of current reality are. How The Empowerment Dynamic can help you shift to a more positive, constructive, empowering, resilient, and outcome-based.  Find The Anthony Sarandrea Show useful? Subscribe to our podcast and like this episode! Resources:  The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) (book) 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama (book) Creating Your Life by Robert Fritz Where Focus Goes, Energy Flows  Connecting with David Emerald:  Website LinkedIn Youtube  Connecting with the host:  Anthony Sarandrea on LinkedIn  Quotes:  1:57 "I have a foundational belief, if you will, that all leadership starts with self-leadership, that the way we lead our own lives has everything to do with how we lead in organizations, our families, our communities, etc." 7:25 "Drama is frankly, any thought, any interaction that gets us off the focus on outcomes and what we're trying to create." 13:16 "If we can upgrade our operating system, so to speak, to the outcome-focused, passion-based creative behavior, then that creates the conditions for the antidote to the toxic DDT." 19:44 "I don't want people to hear that the problem orientation is necessarily bad. It's just limiting." 22:47 "This notion that victimization and being in drama is part of the human experience but if we can recognize it sooner, make conscious choices, that's what this journey is all about." 26:03 "Just like in organizations, to say no drama is not realistic thinking that we can always be in those empowered roles is not realistic, but it's about progress. And you can't make the shift without some sort of a pause, practice." 31:18 "See problems as they are, but not worse than they are." 33:49 "Part of the discipline of being a creator is being able to hold this tension and to not react to it." 38:01 "The tongue is the most powerful weapon on the entire planet." 39:38 "All three of the drama roles victim persecutor rescuer, they're not bad. There are times where they may be reasonable or appropriate. It's just that they're limiting."  How to Get Involved: Anthony Sarandrea, the founder of SiteFlood, is a philanthropist, entrepreneur, and keynote speaker known as a renowned customer and lead generator across the globe.  Be sure to follow him on LinkedIn, Instagram, and gain access to his consulting and speaking engagements via his website. Let us know you enjoyed this episode by visiting us on Apple Podcasts and giving us a review! We love hearing from you and appreciate your support of the show!

David Emerald is the author of the best-selling books, The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) and 3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama. He is also Creator-in-Chief of the Center for The Empowerment Dynamic. David specializes in personal development, leadership education, executive and organizational development, and is an expert at translating his frameworks into simple language for practical application in work and life. When faced with adversity, we evidently see the roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer, not only in personal relationships but also in leadership, which results in drama. Drama is defined as any thought or interaction that takes our attention away from the desired outcomes. The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) illustrates the toxic nature of these roles which roots in a problem-oriented approach. Understand that all three roles can be reasonable and appropriate at times, so they aren't necessarily bad; they just limit your potential. The truth is that we will never be able to completely eliminate organizational drama. Victimization and drama are natural parts of the human experience, but recognizing it earlier and making conscious choices can make a big difference. In this episode, David takes us on a deeper understanding of the negative impact of DDT in our lives and how we can find our way out using The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) approach and ultimately bring forward the best version of ourselves. Here are a few of the topics we’ll discuss on this episode of The Anthony Sarandrea Show: <ul> <li>Understand The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how it’s limiting your potential.</li> <li>A leadership perspective on organizational drama.</li> <li>The three dimensions of work.</li> <li>Some daily practices that you can do to start rewriting the rules.</li> <li>Three vital questions you need to ask yourself.</li> <li>How to manage dynamic tensions in 5 quick steps.</li> <li>What the two basic aspects of current reality are.</li> <li>How The Empowerment Dynamic can help you shift to a more positive, constructive, empowering, resilient, and outcome-based.</li> </ul> Find The Anthony Sarandrea Show useful? Subscribe to our podcast and like this episode! Resources: <ul> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/POWER-TED-EMPOWERMENT-DYNAMIC-Anniversary/dp/0996871802/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1U28UF3RD55PY&amp;keywords=power+of+ted+book&amp;qid=1641938077&amp;sprefix=power+of+ted+book%2Caps%2C177&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)</a> (book)</li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Vital-Questions-Transforming-Workplace-Drama/dp/0996871837/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1WWCZKG2EUMK5&amp;keywords=3+vital+questions&amp;qid=1641938087&amp;sprefix=3+vital+question%2Caps%2C166&amp;sr=8-1" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">3 Vital Questions: Transforming Workplace Drama</a> (book)</li> <li><a href="https://www.robertfritz.com/wp/creating-your-life/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Creating Your Life by Robert Fritz</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.tonyrobbins.com/career-business/where-focus-goes-energy-flows/#:~:text=As%20Tony%20Robbins%20says%2C%20energy,your%20energy%2C%20amazing%20things%20happen.)" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Where Focus Goes, Energy Flows</a></li> </ul> Connecting with David Emerald: <ul> <li><a href="http://theempowermentdynamic.com" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Website</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-emerald-womeldorff-bab4494/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/DavidEmerald" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Youtube</a></li> </ul> Connecting with the host: <ul> <li>Anthony Sarandrea on <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-sarandrea/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a></li> </ul> Quotes: <ul> <li>1:57 "I have a foundational belief, if you will, that all leadership starts with self-leadership, that the way we lead our own lives has everything to do with how we lead in organizations, our families, our communities, etc."</li> <li>7:25 "Drama is frankly, any thought, any interaction that gets us off the focus on outcomes and what we're trying to create."</li> <li>13:16 "If we can upgrade our operating system, so to speak, to the outcome-focused, passion-based creative behavior, then that creates the conditions for the antidote to the toxic DDT."</li> <li>19:44 "I don't want people to hear that the problem orientation is necessarily bad. It's just limiting."</li> <li>22:47 "This notion that victimization and being in drama is part of the human experience but if we can recognize it sooner, make conscious choices, that's what this journey is all about."</li> <li>26:03 "Just like in organizations, to say no drama is not realistic thinking that we can always be in those empowered roles is not realistic, but it's about progress. And you can't make the shift without some sort of a pause, practice."</li> <li>31:18 "See problems as they are, but not worse than they are."</li> <li>33:49 "Part of the discipline of being a creator is being able to hold this tension and to not react to it."</li> <li>38:01 "The tongue is the most powerful weapon on the entire planet."</li> <li>39:38 "All three of the drama roles victim persecutor rescuer, they're not bad. There are times where they may be reasonable or appropriate. It's just that they're limiting."</li> </ul> How to Get Involved: Anthony Sarandrea, the founder of SiteFlood, is a philanthropist, entrepreneur, and keynote speaker known as a renowned customer and lead generator across the globe.  Be sure to follow him on <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-sarandrea/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">LinkedIn</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/anthonysarandrea/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a>, and gain access to his consulting and speaking engagements via his <a href="https://www.anthonysarandrea.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">website</a>. Let us know you enjoyed this episode by visiting us on <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-anthony-sarandrea-show/id1553143241" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Apple Podcasts and giving us a review!</a> We love hearing from you and appreciate your support of the show!