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EP46 Having Room for Humanness in Relationships with Angus & Rohini Ross

Rewilding Love

Making room for our partner's humanness is important for the health of relationships. It is helpful to understand the inner workings of the nervous system that are at play when we and our partners are caught up so we can see their psychological innocence. Realizing that our fight, flight, or freeze responses are involuntary can help us take our partner's behavior (or lack thereof) less personally. Ultimately the fight, flight, and freeze responses are meant to keep us safe. Our nervous system is triggered inside of us when we perceive we are in danger -- we have no control over this natural response. But what we can do is practice self-care and support our nervous system. Taking care of ourselves helps us to maintain perspective, and this helps us to have greater clarity to see what is a threat and what isn't. Respecting a settled and relaxed state of mind is important too. The more time we spend in a settled state, the less often our nervous system is involuntarily triggered. But perhaps most important, is to understand that we're all on a learning curve with this, and our partner is acting the best way they know how for protecting themselves, even if the threat is just perceived. So if we can see the psychological innocence of our partner, and afford them that grace as their nervous system activates, we can wait for a better time to address issues and lessen the amount of escalation in the relationship. The more we see our own psychological innocence, the better we'll get at this. This episode explores:the nervous system is involuntary and protectiveif we're suffering it's because we're identifying with our painful thinkingour partners are human and have their own responses to perceived threatsthe less time we spent caught up, the more our nervous system settles Show NotesSpit out the dummy: To have a childish overreaction or angry outburst to a negative situation or outcomePear-shaped: A British idiom that means something went wrong or "went south" as Angus would also say. Fight, fight, or freeze: Angus's version of the nervous system fear responsesAngus Ross & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate a private couples' intensives retreat program that rewilds relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.Episode 46 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

47mins

25 Oct 2021

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EP44 Angus Ross & Rohini Ross: Embodying Our Full Experience

Rewilding Love

Angus and Rohini talk about the healing power of embodying the full human experience, or put another way, the full breadth of human emotions. They each reflect on how they used to turn to coping mechanisms to avoid their more painful emotions, but these strategies just made the experience more difficult and had a negative impact on their relationship. Their coping mechanisms tended to push the other away. It's in resisting our emotional experience that we suffer. As Sydney Banks, the man whose teachings inspired ours, said: "if the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world." The fear-based thoughts we have about our emotional experience is what paralyzes us. For example, Angus shares about his fear of heights and how once he saw the role his thinking was playing in magnifying that fear, he was able to just feel the emotion and still approach the activity involving the heights (like riding a roller coaster). Letting himself feel the fear instead of being stuck in the thoughts about the fear, allows him to still take part and ultimately enjoy the activity. Embracing our emotional experience, without judgement of ourselves, also allows us to experience deeper connection with others. It is difficult to have an authentic experience with someone else if we are "white-knuckling" our way through our own emotional experience. If we aren't being authentic then we aren't being vulnerable -- and our relationships require vulnerability for there to be true connection. This episode explores:Resisting our emotions causes sufferingBeing with our emotions is authentic and supports connectionLetting go of control is actually the most pleasurable choiceThe healing power of experiencing all of our emotionsShow NotesKnott's Berry Farm: "California's Best Theme Park" and where Angus rode a rollercoaster eyes-wide-open, screaming like a babyAngus Ross & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate a private couples' intensives retreat program that rewilds relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.Episode 44 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

54mins

11 Oct 2021

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EP42 Angus Ross & Rohini Ross: Cultivating Desire

Rewilding Love

Rohini and Angus talk about the journey they've been on with desire and intimacy in their marriage and their reflections on, and insights around, how they overcame the challenges they experienced in the past.At the beginning of their relationship, sexual desire was spontaneous and Rohini had no issue matching Angus' libido. But as time went on, and as intimacy and comfort ramped up, she found her sexual desire waning. This made her feel self-conscious and wonder if there was something wrong with her. When she became aware of this understanding, found herself feeling more relaxed and at ease in herself. One of the byproducts of this was she found herself more present and able to enjoy sexual intimacy. She saw she didn't need to fix anything to help her experience more desire, she just needed to relax. She experienced for herself desire can be cultivated. Angus' initial response to Rohini's lack of desire was to question his manhood and feel insecure. He realized with time that he was blaming her for the way he felt. Rohini not matching his libido was something he was taking personally. This blame and pressure further perpetuated Rohini's dwindling desire for sex. Once Angus saw this for what it was, that he was reacting to his own insecurity, he was able to take the pressure off and meet Rohini where she was. This in turn made helped Rohini to feel more open.This episode explores:How noticing that we're caught up allows us to naturally relax and open to pleasureTurning inward rather than outward when experiencing less desire can help us rekindle desireHow sexual intimacy can be a doorway to experiencing the divineShow notesMichelin Star Ranking System: how the finest dining restaurants are ranked, from 1 lowest to 3 exceptional. Also a way Angus almost stumbled into ranking his and Rohini's sex.Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm: one of the resources Rohini turned to during the lack of desire insecurity phaseTed Talk Masturbation is the New Meditation: self-explanatory but made Angus feel a bit prickly when Rohini brought it up.Angus Ross & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate a private couples' intensives retreat program that rewilds relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.Episode 42 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

44mins

27 Sep 2021

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EP40 Angus Ross & Rohini Ross: Navigating Low Moods

Rewilding Love

Just back from vacation, we wanted to share how to more easily navigate low moods and how seeing them as transient and impersonal can make relationships so much easier and more graceful.Angus has a perfect example of this from our vacation in Hawaii when he was feeling very caught up and upset with our daughters, he stepped outside, and by looking up at the night sky and seeing the moon, he was distracted just enough from his low mood that his mind settled naturally. Once his mind settled, he was able to re-approach the situation with more ease and grace.Rohini shares about how it was through experiencing more of her own safety and well-being within herself that allowed her to get more perspective on her human psychology. Once she was freed up to see her psychology at work, she could lean into her built-in navigation system and ride out low moods instead of giving them more meaning than they warranted. When you get caught up, if you can attend to what you need to do to help regulate your own internal state, rather than searching for someone to blame, or a "fall guy" as Angus likes to say, you can then bypass escalation and return to connection more quickly. This doesn't mean you should always be in a good mood and that low moods are shameful, it means accepting where you're at in the moment, instead of blaming someone else for your current state of mind.This episode explores:How to handle a low moodWatching the fight or flight experienceTaking care of ourselves first helps relationshipsThe power of seeing the impersonal in a low moodThe character we play when we're caught up vs. when we're seeing things clearlyShow NotesSlapping one's thighs and pinching one's leg: when Angus is caught up and frustrated he might do thisPulling down pants: when Angus approaches the airport security line, he might instinctively start to do thisAlien creature: the sum of our conditioned thinking and habitsAngus Ross & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.Episode 40 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

59mins

13 Sep 2021

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EP39 Angus Ross & Rohini Ross: Rewilding Love Season Recap

Rewilding Love

We thought we would offer you a  recap of season one of Rewilding Love before taking a summer break and take the opportunity to respond to a reviewer who requested we speak more tangibly about the understanding that informs our work. Angus provides a beautiful and comprehensive description of the "Three Principles", one of the names given to the non-dual spiritual teaching revealed to Sydney Banks. Our rewilding metaphor is informed by Syd's teachings, and we have been mentored by many of his original students. Rohini speaks to how this understanding helps relationships and why our work always begins with helping individuals experience a deeper connection to their innate well-being. The by-product of this allows couples to experience more love and understanding in their relationships.We use the rewilding metaphor to describe and inform our work because rewilding captures the aliveness of being connected to our spiritual essence -- it's wild, it's messy, but like nature, it is always looking to optimize our experience here. It's always moving toward health and vitality.Our next Rewilding Love episode will be available on September 13th. Until then, have a lovely summer, and we hope you enjoy your rewilding!This episode explores:The rewilding metaphor behind our workBeing with the full human emotional experienceA description of the Three Principles of mind, consciousness, and thought based on the teachings of Sydney BanksThe power of seeing the answer lies withinShow NotesWheat from the chaff: chiefly a British saying that means to judge which people or things in a group are bad and which ones are goodUnderstanding behind the rewilding metaphor: the three principles of mind, consciousness, and thought, as described by Sydney BanksNon-dual spiritual teaching: Nonduality is about oneness. It is expressed in various traditions but has traditionally come from India. However, it is not limited to India, because the core truth of oneness is evident in all traditions even though it may be expressed in different ways.When you go beyond awareness, there is a state of non-duality, in which there is no cognition, only pure being. In the state of non-duality, all separation ceases. ~ Nisargadatta MaharajAltar boy: One of Angus's childhood rolesAngus Ross & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.Episode 39  features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.

1hr 5mins

2 Aug 2021

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In conversation with Rohini Ross

Working From Wisdom

I am joined by the lovely Rohini Ross for a lovely chat about all things love and what it means to rewild a relationship. Rohini has had a varied career from working as an international model to becoming a family and marriage therapist, she now works as a transformational coach and trainer. If you would like to know more about Rohini, her work or her podcast Rewilding Love here is the link you will need https://rohiniross.com/

45mins

9 Apr 2021

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Rohini Ross and Julieanne Chazotte

Insightful Conversations with Del Adey-Jones

Please join me right now on my "Insightful Conversations with Del Adey-Jones" Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/deladeyjones/ as I welcome Rohini Ross and Julieanne Chazotte. Together we are going to be talking about “Reimagining Our Spiritual Communities….. Loving, Authentic Conversations Around Healing Racism”Rohini is the co-founder of The Rewilders, where she and her partner Angus Ross, help individuals, couples and organizations rewild themselves back to their natural state of peace, balance, and harmony. They also co-facilitate the online Rewilding Community - a supportive group experience, designed to help you break free from limiting conditioning, so you can uncover and recover your natural rewilded state.Julie is a co-founder of SimpleSHIFT, a forthcoming platform based on the "Three Principles" understanding, whose mission it is to help people create more health, well-being, and ease across all areas of life and the way we do business. With master’s degrees, in education and in spiritual psychology, Julie brings over 18 years of experience in the field of education and coaching to each person, project and company she works with.*For more information on my coaching and mentoring packages, please contact me at https://www.deladeyjones.com

28mins

18 Feb 2021

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Ep. 6 Julie Chazotte & Rohini Ross "Reimagining Our Spiritual Communities"

We‘re Listening

When minds open to love, wisdom, insight and equality for all humans, it allows for creative collaboration to flow and new thought to emerge. For Julie and Rohini, the serendipitous weaving of ideas led to creating a webinar series of open conversation to allow deeper understanding of our common humanity to unfold.

26mins

12 Feb 2021

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EP0: Introducing Rewilding Love with Angus and Rohini Ross

Rewilding Love

Between the two of them, transformative coaches Angus and Rohini Ross have worked with hundreds of couples. They created the Rewilding Love podcast because they believe there is too much suffering in relationships. Too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity.In each season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus will help a couple face different kinds of relationship issues: from divorce papers on the table to rediscovering trust and intimacy to reigniting the spark. Angus and Rohini guide couples to find their own well-being so they can rediscover the natural state of love in their relationships. Listening to the podcast allows you to reflect and see a different way of being in relationship with others and with yourself. Their relationship work is inspired by rewilding, an approach to nature conservation grounded in allowing natural processes to restore balance and harmony. They invite you to join in the rewilding back to your natural state. Season 1 is a raw, intimate exploration with a real couple whose marriage is on the brink of divorce. Sit back, relax, and listen in, as Rohini and Angus share their fresh perspective and guide Alicia and Mateo away from the hurtful behaviors of reactivity, blame, and righteousness back to their own peace of mind so they have the opportunity to rewild the love in their relationship independent of whether or not they stay together.Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org.

2mins

11 Nov 2020

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111: How Business Can Show Us More of Who We Really Are with Angus & Rohini Ross

Real Business Real Lives

Today I’m in conversation with Angus & Rohini Ross, also known in business as “the Rewilders”. Together they share their personal journeys of navigating their business partnership alongside their romantic partnership. Angus and Rohini explore the full gamut of experiences, from overcoming self-doubt and insecurity to reaching new levels of confidence and impact. Their stories highlight how our businesses can serve both ourselves and others when we’re willing to bravely show up as our full selves. Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. They are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community.

50mins

16 Oct 2020

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