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Marlena Tillhon

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Consider the following:“I am more focused on changing my partner, than I am on changing myself.”“If my partner is unhappy, I am incredibly uncomfortable and feel I need to fix or change their emotional state.“I need to sacrifice my own happiness and/or well-being in order to ensure my partner is happy.”If these statements rang true for you, you may have a tendency towards codependency.Codependency is a dynamic in relationships that lends itself to dissatisfaction, resentment, and having unmet needs. Once identified, you have an opportunity to shift it. You can work to:Become aware of what triggers codependent behavior for youExplore the ways codependence has tried to keep you “safe”Identify alternative behaviors, when these triggers arise, that are healthier and will serve you bestIn this week’s episode, we’re talking with codependency expert, Marlena Tillhon, MSc. She’s sharing common traits of codependency in relationships, how codependency can create challenges in a partnership, and strategies for moving towards a healthier dynamic.Marlena Tillhon, MSc, is an experienced psychotherapist specializing in helping people end their struggles with codependency and insecure attachment and learn how to create healthy relationships so that they can finally get the love they need. You can visit her website at marlena.love, follow her on Instagram @lovewithclarity, and join her Love with Clarity community on Facebook. Marlena has a free video course, Losing Yourself in Relationships, that you can access here.

Consider the following:“I am more focused on changing my partner, than I am on changing myself.”“If my partner is unhappy, I am incredibly uncomfortable and feel I need to fix or change their emotional state.“I need to sacrifice my own happiness and/or well-being in order to ensure my partner is happy.”If these statements rang true for you, you may have a tendency towards codependency.Codependency is a dynamic in relationships that lends itself to dissatisfaction, resentment, and having unmet needs. Once identified, you have an opportunity to shift it. You can work to:Become aware of what triggers codependent behavior for youExplore the ways codependence has tried to keep you “safe”Identify alternative behaviors, when these triggers arise, that are healthier and will serve you bestIn this week’s episode, we’re talking with codependency expert, Marlena Tillhon, MSc. She’s sharing common traits of codependency in relationships, how codependency can create challenges in a partnership, and strategies for moving towards a healthier dynamic.Marlena Tillhon, MSc, is an experienced psychotherapist specializing in helping people end their struggles with codependency and insecure attachment and learn how to create healthy relationships so that they can finally get the love they need. You can visit her website at <a href="https://www.marlena.love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">marlena.love</a>, follow her on Instagram <a href="https://instagram.com/lovewithclarity" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@lovewithclarity</a>, and join her <a href="https://facebook.com/groups/lovewithclarity" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Love with Clarity community</a> on Facebook. Marlena has a free video course, Losing Yourself in Relationships, that you can <a href="https://join.marlena.love" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">access here.</a>

SGR 092: How to Know if You’re Codependent with Marlena Tillhon, MSc

In this episode, I visit with Marlena Tillhon, psychotherapist, relationship coach, and clinic director in the UK. We discuss her article,  The Negative Impact of Not Feeling Your Feelings, and a little bit about how she came to the conclusions that inform her current beliefs and therapeutic practice. Feeling negative feelings can be extraordinarily challenging, but there can be grave consequences to perpetually avoiding such experiences. I find Marlena to be a compassionate soul, and her message both important and timely! I really enjoyed chatting with her about this topic and I hope you do as well. This conversation starts around the 9:25 mark. If you would like to know more about Marlena and/or follow her on social media, you can find her via any of the links below:  Web: https://marlena.love/ On Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lovewithclarity/  On Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/marlena.tillhon/  There were several books that Marlena mentioned that she found helpful on her journey. Here are links to several of those (all links are through my amazon affiliate account, which kicks back a small percentage to me at no cost to you):   Healing the Shame that Binds You  Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child  Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child   To follow me and my work on social media, I am most active on my company Facebook page, and am working towards a similar presence on Instagram... below are those links:  On Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/NewDirections4L On Instagram @shawndinkel   If you would like to support this podcast, there are several ways:  leave a review share the podcast with a friend send a comment or question you'd like me to explore on a future episode by visiting my contact page here. and, of course... financial support:   If you shop on Amazon, you can use this affiliate link and a small portion of what you spend will get kicked back my way at no cost to you. Please click here. If you'd like to make a financial donation, please click the "donate" button found about half way down my podcast page by clicking here.    Disclaimer: This podcast is intended to aid you in making the best determinations for yourself when it comes to your mental-health and general well-being. However, it is important to note that while I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Addiction Counselor in the state of Colorado (USA), I am not recommending you follow any suggestion without the help of a qualified counselor or guide who knows your situation better than I do. Nothing discussed in these episodes constitutes “therapy,” and I am not acting as a “therapist” to anyone in this medium. These discussions are intended for an audience that has the outside therapeutic resources that may directly facilitate their own healing.

In this episode, I visit with Marlena Tillhon, psychotherapist, relationship coach, and clinic director in the UK. We discuss her article, <a href="https://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-negative-impact-of-not-feeling-your-feelings/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> The Negative Impact of Not Feeling Your Feelings</a>, and a little bit about how she came to the conclusions that inform her current beliefs and therapeutic practice. Feeling negative feelings can be extraordinarily challenging, but there can be grave consequences to perpetually avoiding such experiences. I find Marlena to be a compassionate soul, and her message both important and timely! I really enjoyed chatting with her about this topic and I hope you do as well. This conversation starts around the 9:25 mark. If you would like to know more about Marlena and/or follow her on social media, you can find her via any of the links below: <ul> <li>Web: <a href="https://marlena.love/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://marlena.love/</a></li> <li>On Instagram at <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lovewithclarity/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/lovewithclarity/</a> </li> <li>On Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/marlena.tillhon/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/marlena.tillhon/</a></li> </ul> There were several books that Marlena mentioned that she found helpful on her journey. Here are links to several of those (all links are through my amazon affiliate account, which kicks back a small percentage to me at no cost to you): <ul> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2TNTBXM38DKCN&amp;keywords=healing+the+shame+that+binds+you+-+john+bradshaw&amp;qid=1574367860&amp;s=books&amp;sprefix=healing+the+shame%2Cstripbooks%2C165&amp;sr=1-3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Healing the Shame that Binds You</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Reconciliation-Healing-Thich-Nhat-Hanh/dp/1935209647/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=inner+child&amp;qid=1574367994&amp;s=books&amp;sr=1-3" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Inner-Bonding-Becoming-Loving-Adult/dp/0062507109/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1UNAWSJHSCLR6&amp;keywords=inner+bonding+margaret+paul&amp;qid=1574368188&amp;s=books&amp;sprefix=inner+bonding+m%2Cstripbooks%2C175&amp;sr=1-2" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child</a> </li> </ul> To follow me and my work on social media, I am most active on my company Facebook page, and am working towards a similar presence on Instagram... below are those links: <ul> <li>On Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/NewDirections4L" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/NewDirections4L</a></li> <li>On Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/shawndinkel/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">@shawndinkel</a> </li> </ul> If you would like to support this podcast, there are several ways: <ul> <li>leave a review</li> <li>share the podcast with a friend</li> <li>send a comment or question you'd like me to explore on a future episode by visiting my contact page <a href="https://nd4life.com/contact-shawn/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here.</a></li> <li>and, of course... financial support:</li> <li> <ul> <li>If you shop on Amazon, you can use this affiliate link and a small portion of what you spend will get kicked back my way at no cost to you. Please click <a href="https://amzn.to/2PHjLh8" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here.</a></li> <li>If you'd like to make a financial donation, please click the "donate" button found about half way down my podcast page by clicking <a href="https://nd4life.com/shawns-podcasts/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here.</a></li> </ul> </li> </ul> Disclaimer: This podcast is intended to aid you in making the best determinations for yourself when it comes to your mental-health and general well-being. However, it is important to note that while I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Addiction Counselor in the state of Colorado (USA), I am not recommending you follow any suggestion without the help of a qualified counselor or guide who knows your situation better than I do. Nothing discussed in these episodes constitutes “therapy,” and I am not acting as a “therapist” to anyone in this medium. These discussions are intended for an audience that has the outside therapeutic resources that may directly facilitate their own healing.