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#359: The Hard Questions That Might Save Your Relationship | Susan Piver

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23 Jun 2021

1hr 1min

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#359: The Hard Questions That Might Save Your Relationship | Susan Piver

23 Jun 2021

1hr 1min

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Quote

"Listening is when you stop hearing your thoughts and hearing mine"

Ideas

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Being in love is enough for a love affair, but not enough for a long term relationship.
You can love someone but if you don't love your life with that someone, then it won't work.

Relationships don't end because you don't love each other, but because you couldn't find a way to create a life together you both loved.

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Being in love is enough for a love affair, but not enough for a long term relationship.
You can love someone but if you don't love your life with that someone, then it won't work.

Relationships don't end because you don't love each other, but because you couldn't find a way to create a life together you both loved.

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When you wonder about how you can get your partner to have the same interests as you, the answer is you can't.
You can introduce them to those things and hope they like it, but you ultimately can't control how they react.

You ultimately have to find some things to connect on, but they don't have to love everything you love.

It's up to you what are you willing to accept and what aren't you willing to accept.



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When you wonder about how you can get your partner to have the same interests as you, the answer is you can't.
You can introduce them to those things and hope they like it, but you ultimately can't control how they react.

You ultimately have to find some things to connect on, but they don't have to love everything you love.

It's up to you what are you willing to accept and what aren't you willing to accept.



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There are three primary ways of responding to challenges that apply to when you have fights in a relationship.
The first is to move against, to be defensive and discredit and go against what the other person is saying.

The second is to move towards, where the other person says 'it's okay' and they just want to sit down to fix the issue.

The third way is to move away, where you just avoid.

Knowing what you and your partners approach to this is can help you better manage and understand each others approaches, particularly when they're different.



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There are three primary ways of responding to challenges that apply to when you have fights in a relationship.
The first is to move against, to be defensive and discredit and go against what the other person is saying.

The second is to move towards, where the other person says 'it's okay' and they just want to sit down to fix the issue.

The third way is to move away, where you just avoid.

Knowing what you and your partners approach to this is can help you better manage and understand each others approaches, particularly when they're different.



Questions

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Can you think about which one of the three ways you react to fights?

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Can you think about which one of the three ways you react to fights?

What else is in the episode

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Why hard questions are so key to building the foundation of healthy relationships

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Why hard questions are so key to building the foundation of healthy relationships

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Common dealbreaker topics and questions for relationships

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Common dealbreaker topics and questions for relationships

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What happens when the boundaries between you and another person begin to dissolve

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What happens when the boundaries between you and another person begin to dissolve

Who is Susan Piver?

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An author and meditation teacher. She is the author on books such as The Hard Questions, the award-winning How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life, The Wisdom of a Broken Heart, and most recently The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships.

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An author and meditation teacher. She is the author on books such as The Hard Questions, the award-winning How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life, The Wisdom of a Broken Heart, and most recently The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships.

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