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#361: Why Men Armor Up | Daniel Ellenberg

Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris

30 Jun 2021

1hr 10mins

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#361: Why Men Armor Up | Daniel Ellenberg

30 Jun 2021

1hr 10mins

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"Male and female represent the two sides of the great radical dualism. But in fact they are perpetually passing into one another. There is no wholly masculine man, no purely feminine woman."

Ideas

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The hard thing is that much of our language for identification results in separation & delineation as opposed to unity.
The words masculinity and femininity inherently push us towards viewing certain traits being more for males and females respectively. Whereas in reality, men and women all have varying degrees of both masculinity and femininity within them.

If we keep on talking about masculine and feminine and following those stereotypes, then we will make women suppress and despise their so called masculine qualities and men suppress and despise their so called feminine ones, and that's where all the troubles.

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The hard thing is that much of our language for identification results in separation & delineation as opposed to unity.
The words masculinity and femininity inherently push us towards viewing certain traits being more for males and females respectively. Whereas in reality, men and women all have varying degrees of both masculinity and femininity within them.

If we keep on talking about masculine and feminine and following those stereotypes, then we will make women suppress and despise their so called masculine qualities and men suppress and despise their so called feminine ones, and that's where all the troubles.

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Often when we have an intense reaction, it can tell us more about ourselves than the external stimulus.
When something someone says offends us, it's usually less about what they've said, and more about our self image. For example, we react strongly to a comment when we fear there's potential truth in what they're saying.

People don't really install our buttons, our buttons come installed and they're triggered by others.

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Often when we have an intense reaction, it can tell us more about ourselves than the external stimulus.
When something someone says offends us, it's usually less about what they've said, and more about our self image. For example, we react strongly to a comment when we fear there's potential truth in what they're saying.

People don't really install our buttons, our buttons come installed and they're triggered by others.

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We're all innately sexist. It's almost impossible for us not to be.
So much of our culture and language, as well as the history of our species have been marked with sexism from subtle to extreme.

These things are so often ingrained into our subconscious that it's like the air we breathe and the water we drink.

But just because we're innately sexist, doesn't mean that we can't to uncover and change our actions and our culture to right what is wrong.

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We're all innately sexist. It's almost impossible for us not to be.
So much of our culture and language, as well as the history of our species have been marked with sexism from subtle to extreme.

These things are so often ingrained into our subconscious that it's like the air we breathe and the water we drink.

But just because we're innately sexist, doesn't mean that we can't to uncover and change our actions and our culture to right what is wrong.

Questions

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Can you think of a time where you've tried to suppress either a masculine or feminine trait?

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Can you think of a time where you've tried to suppress either a masculine or feminine trait?

What else is in the episode

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What prevents men from forming bonds with other men

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What prevents men from forming bonds with other men

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Traditional masculinity ideology

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Traditional masculinity ideology

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How to be a good role model as a dad, friend, and fellow man

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How to be a good role model as a dad, friend, and fellow man

Who is Daniel Ellenberg,?

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The president of Relationships That Work - an organization that supports people to create more emotionally intelligent personal relationships - and vice president of the Rewire Leadership Institute, an organization that helps individuals, teams and organizations thrive in the business world. He is also the co-author of Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust and True Partnership.

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The president of Relationships That Work - an organization that supports people to create more emotionally intelligent personal relationships - and vice president of the Rewire Leadership Institute, an organization that helps individuals, teams and organizations thrive in the business world. He is also the co-author of Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust and True Partnership.

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