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21 Jun 2021
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The Power of Apologies
21 Jun 2021
49mins
Quote
""An apology started with your acknowledgement and persists with your actions.""
Ideas
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When we apologise, we relinquish a bit of power and control to the other person.
Because when we're admitting that we've done something wrong, we're handing over the control to the other person as to whether or not we're deserving of forgiveness.
After you've apologised, it is out of your hands as to whether or not they accept your apology, which can often impact how you feel as a person of good moral standing.
After you've apologised, it is out of your hands as to whether or not they accept your apology, which can often impact how you feel as a person of good moral standing.
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When we apologise, we relinquish a bit of power and control to the other person.
Because when we're admitting that we've done something wrong, we're handing over the control to the other person as to whether or not we're deserving of forgiveness.
After you've apologised, it is out of your hands as to whether or not they accept your apology, which can often impact how you feel as a person of good moral standing.
After you've apologised, it is out of your hands as to whether or not they accept your apology, which can often impact how you feel as a person of good moral standing.
2
In the short term, choosing not to apologize actually boosts our self esteem.
When we apologise, we admit we've done something wrong, that is inconsistent with our own values.
This then, can actually lower our self image in comparison to when we deny that we've done something wrong.
But in the longer run, if we only care about our self image and never apologise, we sacrifice our relationships with others.
This then, can actually lower our self image in comparison to when we deny that we've done something wrong.
But in the longer run, if we only care about our self image and never apologise, we sacrifice our relationships with others.
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In the short term, choosing not to apologize actually boosts our self esteem.
When we apologise, we admit we've done something wrong, that is inconsistent with our own values.
This then, can actually lower our self image in comparison to when we deny that we've done something wrong.
But in the longer run, if we only care about our self image and never apologise, we sacrifice our relationships with others.
This then, can actually lower our self image in comparison to when we deny that we've done something wrong.
But in the longer run, if we only care about our self image and never apologise, we sacrifice our relationships with others.
3
Often, it is human nature to think of ourselves as a good person or competent.
It's hard to live with yourself if you're constantly thinking that you're severely flawed.
But it should be a red flag if you never find situations where you've made mistakes or can improve.
Part of being a moral and good person is intentionally looking for opportunities where you can become better, so make sure you're aware if you haven't found ways to improve.
But it should be a red flag if you never find situations where you've made mistakes or can improve.
Part of being a moral and good person is intentionally looking for opportunities where you can become better, so make sure you're aware if you haven't found ways to improve.
3
Often, it is human nature to think of ourselves as a good person or competent.
It's hard to live with yourself if you're constantly thinking that you're severely flawed.
But it should be a red flag if you never find situations where you've made mistakes or can improve.
Part of being a moral and good person is intentionally looking for opportunities where you can become better, so make sure you're aware if you haven't found ways to improve.
But it should be a red flag if you never find situations where you've made mistakes or can improve.
Part of being a moral and good person is intentionally looking for opportunities where you can become better, so make sure you're aware if you haven't found ways to improve.
Questions
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Can you think of something where you can find more opportunities to improve?
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Can you think of something where you can find more opportunities to improve?
What else is in the episode
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The right amount of time between apologies, how you can wait both too little and too long
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The right amount of time between apologies, how you can wait both too little and too long
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Differences between genuine and disingenuous apologies
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Differences between genuine and disingenuous apologies
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How apologies aren't always the right response
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How apologies aren't always the right response
Who is Tyler Okimoto?
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A Professor in Management and Deputy Head of the Business School at the University of Queensland. His research aims to better facilitate collaboration and consensus between diverse points of view, and to understand the role of leadership in overcoming those challenges.
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A Professor in Management and Deputy Head of the Business School at the University of Queensland. His research aims to better facilitate collaboration and consensus between diverse points of view, and to understand the role of leadership in overcoming those challenges.
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