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Weight Loss Enlightenment - Stop Binge Eating and Compulsive Eating

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Free yourself from chronic dieting and naturally lose weight with Weight Loss Enlightenment! From binge eater to Buddhist Monk and award winning personal trainer, Jared enlighten chronic dieters to the scientific and spiritual path of Weight Loss Enlightenment. Be prepared to eat anything and lose weight without any stress! Visit https://weightlossenlightenment.com to discover how you can make weight loss a spiritual journey and effortlessly lose weight.

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Free yourself from chronic dieting and naturally lose weight with Weight Loss Enlightenment! From binge eater to Buddhist Monk and award winning personal trainer, Jared enlighten chronic dieters to the scientific and spiritual path of Weight Loss Enlightenment. Be prepared to eat anything and lose weight without any stress! Visit https://weightlossenlightenment.com to discover how you can make weight loss a spiritual journey and effortlessly lose weight.

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Weight Loss Enlightenment - Stop Binge Eating and Compulsive Eating

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Free yourself from chronic dieting and naturally lose weight with Weight Loss Enlightenment! From binge eater to Buddhist Monk and award winning personal trainer, Jared enlighten chronic dieters to the scientific and spiritual path of Weight Loss Enlightenment. Be prepared to eat anything and lose weight without any stress! Visit https://weightlossenlightenment.com to discover how you can make weight loss a spiritual journey and effortlessly lose weight.

Rank #1: Yoga For Binge Eating Motivation In San Jose

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I recently was interviewed on the topic of Yoga For Binge Eating Motivation. Yay! Here’s what this Binge Eating Motivation interview is about: My story living as a Yoga Zen monk at Tassajara for 13 months How yoga can be used for binge eating motivation The relationship between yoga and intuitive eating Click here to learn about FREE upcoming workshop this weekend, Saturday at 12pm in Santa Clara!

Feb 21 2019
44 mins
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Rank #2: What Does It Mean When You Crave Chocolate? YouTube video interview with Deborah

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My most surprising moment occurred a few days ago in the library when a lady asked me, very specifically, “What does it mean when you crave chocolate?”   I was surprised because normally people don’t ask about my cravings. To make sure I heard her question right, I checked with her. Yes, she was asking about my cravings. Specifically, my cravings for chocolate. “What does it mean when you crave chocolate?”   I knew the question represented something bigger. This woman wasn’t just asking about my thoughts about chocolate, she asking about her body. She wasn’t sure she could trust her body. She was asking about feeling confused in her body and not knowing what to do.   Fortunately, I just interviewed Deborah from MyMindMyBody.net.   Deborah comes from the ‘Almost Anorexic’ side of things. Back years ago, Deborah wasn’t eating enough. She was controlling her emotions, in part, by controlling her food. If she ate less, she could give herself permission to feel better.   But deep down, Deborah knew her body was screaming for something different.   This is where Deborah’s book ‘The Beginning of the End of My Eating Disorder’ starts.   She details her journey from disorder eating to healing her emotional eating and making peace with food.   I have downloaded the book on Kindle and started reading it and it’s great! Her book is a collection of essays which makes things very personal and accessible. To get her book on Amazon, you can visit this affiliate link: https://amzn.to/2D7TxNL   Have you ever felt the same way, that your approach to ‘health’ is making your body scream?   If so, you are definitely going to want to contact Deborah, or at least check out her website, message and content. She has a ton of videos, ebooks, and blog articles on this topic! Plus, she’s from Silicon Valley!   I was so delighted to hear that she Silicon Valley nerd like me! I really enjoyed our interview together. Below is a snippet of our conversation along.

Apr 12 2019
50 mins
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Rank #3: How Do You Know If You Have An Eating Disorder With Aimie Epoch

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A story about How Do You Know If You Have An Eating Disorder? I almost laughed out loud during the podcast recording. Aimie was in the middle of reading off a science study. It was an incredible study. 500 obese people were monitored for 32 years … But only the obese people who engaged in weight cycling or ‘yo yo dieting’ behaviors had negative effects. In other words, there is a huge needless weight stigma against heavier people! But what got me to laugh out loud during the podcast recording … Was when Aimie pulled 10 books out of thin air! She reached behind a curtain, just like a magician reaching behind some dark fabric before his trick. And lo’ and behold’ Aimie pulls forth about 10 books! It was a good moment. My How Do You Know If You Have An Eating Disorder I learned a ton of stuff from Aimie this episode. The following bullet points are just some ideas, concepts, musings that I particularly resonated with. Side note – I am relistening to the podcast right now as I take these notes. I am taking notes as I review the podcast to ingrain the wisdom Aimie shared from her eating disorder transformation: The most common sign you have an eating disorder is an obsession with food. For example, you may constantly think about food while in class, or even be afraid of food before you eat it. You may experience fear or anxiety nearly every time you eat food. Aimie mentions how she used to be afraid of food, exhibit bulimia symptoms, and how this fear basically made her stop eating, until large binges. Aimie’s advice to get rid of obsessive thoughts by catching them and seeing how true these thoughts are. How do you work with compulsions? Aimie’s advice: Get a therapist or nutritionist Taking a step back and recognizing the reasons you are thinking something versus the actual fact. For example, if you have the compulsion to exhibit a compulsory behavior. Compulsory behaviors are usually in response to eating, where you think you have to vomit or exercise or not eat to ‘make up’ for eating. Aimie used to have a compulsory behavior to exercise. To work with her exercise compulsive behavior, Aimie would examine her reasons. Her reasons to exercise were things like thinking ‘If I miss a run, my body will become fat’ or ‘Would I be exercising if I knew my body wouldn’t change? (if Yes, then No) Emotional eating is part of life Human beings eat for so many different reasons Eating when sad or hungry is fine The only problem of emotional eating is when you only know how to handle difficult emotions with food. If you do use food primarily to handle difficult emotions, the key is building up your resilience and incorporating other self-care behaviors like journaling or sitting still. If after using these behaviors, you still want to have the food, do so without guilt. When asked about the 3 biggest transformations Aimie experienced, here’s how she replied: Having more opportunities to enjoy life without thinking about food. When you are obsessed with food, you can’t live life. You just spend your time worrying, and what you focus on grows. She embraces a progress not perfection mindset. Free up headspace – allows much more room in life for good things to happen. Allows you to change your perspective towards life. Aimie never thought she would be living in Ireland, but now she is living in Ireland. Intuitive Eating Science Study’s Aimie Mentioned Intuitive-Eating-Diabetes Whats-Wrong-War-Obesity Well-being-v-weight-loss Is-Food-Addiction-Valid-Useful-Concept You can visit her site at https://nowbodywellness.com. For one of the book’s Aimie mentioned, when she pulled the books out from behind the curtain, was the Intuitive Eating Workbook. I cracked up because I had the book right behind me too! That’s why I am proud

May 01 2019
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Rank #4: Does Intuitive Eating Work For Vegan or Vegetarian?

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Yes! intuitive eating does work if you are vegan or vegetarian. The key is having internal rather than external motivation. Diets are external motivation. Doctors, well-intentioned friends, and meal plans come from outside of you. However, internal motivation is good. For this reason, most vegan and vegetarians do not crave meat. This is because their motivation is intrinsic. If you still crave meat as a vegetarian or vegan, that's okay. However, we must also be aware we are not aiming for a status. Sometimes vegan or vegetarian becomes a another food rule like a diet. For more info on Listening To Your Body, watch this video interview with Erika Salaman, Registered Dietitian and Certified Intuitive Eating here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kizUB... Visit WeightLossEnlightenment.com for more information

Apr 24 2019
13 mins
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Rank #5: Surprising Keto Weight Loss Advice For Beginners From Dieting Woman Who Tried Intuitive Eating

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I witnessed this conversation firsthand. This was the most Surprising Keto Weight Loss Advice For Beginners I have ever heard ... The most surprising thing was who this advice was coming from ... From a Dieting Woman Who Tried Intuitive Eating. Check out this video for more info on "Setpoints" versus "Weight Loss" https://youtu.be/76bYPgtOxsc

Apr 19 2019
16 mins
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Rank #6: How To Lose Weight Fast? My Best Tip: Think Different!

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How to lose weight fast ... Is the wrong question. I'm sorry, but asking how to lose weight quickly is setting you up for failure. Why? Oversimplication. Here's an example: BMI is commonly touted as a good weight loss goal. But BMI doesn't distinguish between fat and muscle! BMI is too simple!! Asking how to lose weight fast means you are thinking too simply. I don't mean this to be insulting. It's totally common question. But I urge you to ... Pause. Breathe. Don't panic. Calm your body. You aren't going to die anytime soon, contrary to what health professionals may be implying. If your weight has you stressing, reduce the stress and be patient so you can think more clearly. I know this is tough. But has weight loss failed you before? If so then you to go slow and take your time elsewise you fail again. Here is another video about Shifting Your Mindset Around Weight Loss - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mlnEX...

Apr 19 2019
15 mins
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Rank #7: Health at every size "setpoint" versus weight loss

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These 5 steps will help free you from hunger cravings. 1. Eliminate "good" vs "bad" food rules 2. Mindfully Eat - make it simple 3. Sugar cravings - make a list 4. How much fiber are you getting? 5. Go through food fear by unconditionally eating learn how you can experience weight loss 'enlightenment' at https://weightlossenlightenment.com

Apr 18 2019
21 mins
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Rank #8: How To Enhance Body Positivity Without Body Shaming with Linda Tucker

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I just went with the flow. I had a whole lesson planned out but life had different plans. I had no idea we were going to talk about ‘body shame’ which is at the heart of Intuitive Eating. I am so excited to share with you this episode with Linda Tucker. I believe this conversation with Linda provided the ‘key’ for me to deepen my understanding of Intuitive Eating in a much more resonant and powerful way than before. In the episode I share a bit about my struggles with shame. If you’ve been listening to the podcast before or reading my articles, you know I’m pretty open with shame. It’s my core problem. But … BODY shame, specifically, was never my problem. So I always felt a little distant from Intuitive Eating Principle 8 of Respecting Your Body, which addresses body shame. But fortunately, I was speaking to the exact right expert in the field, Coach Linda Tucker, a vibrant woman who I highly recommend you check out! She also made the graphic of the banana split too – a true artist! Linda was able to give me (and you when you listen) the key to understanding shame. Shame is what prevents people from becoming an Intuitive Eater!!! I see this so clearly now. How did I not see this deep, relevant and powerful connection before? As I write this, I feel the creeping familiar feeling of shame and embarrassment – how did I not see this before? Yet as Linda so beautifully brought up in the podcast, we just need to reject this thoughts/feelings that tell us we are unworthy. So for me, now as a I write, I release the thought/feeling that I am not worthy. And when some of the guilty feeling stays and lingers on, I practice compassion with myself for being a human being on planet earth, steeped in a culture of shame. Shame is prevalent. It’s reinforced by our relationships, our doctors, billboards and magazines. The message is the same – you are not good enough as you are … And as Linda powerfully pointed out, the message of shame is also LIFE THREATENING. This isn’t just hippie nonsense about shame. Shame activates regions in the brain because we experience shame whenever we feel rejected. Back hundreds of years ago, rejection from the tribe meant death! So shame is a life-or-death feeling that’s incredibly powerful. Shame is what keeps us from honoring our hunger, because out shame springs fear that if we honor our hunger, our body’s will betray us. If our body’s betray us, then we are out of control. If we lose control, we won’t be able to manage our lives. Shame is the underlying problem, hidden underneath the layers. So how did I begin with the Intention to speak about Unconditional Eating, but end up exploring shame? I began the podcast by asking about how Linda overcame her problems like: How Linda overcome fatigue How Linda healed from dieting How Linda connected with her body for more energy Yet my curiosity peaked when Linda said her biggest enlightenment, her biggest insight was regarding ‘body shame’. I couldn’t resist exploring. The vibrant energy with which Linda spoke … I knew she had a goldmine of wisdom to share! I felt the spirit of ‘genuine curiosity’ in my veins and I had to learn more! So in the moment, I completely forgot about my plan to talk about Unconditional Eating. I felt my soul resonating with her description of shame, and how to overcome shame. I hope your soul resonates too. If your soul does resonate, I highly suggest you schedule a complimentary session with Linda. She really is legit and knows so much about this field and has a ton of experience working with people. She’s great! Below is a quick audio snippet and transcript of my conversation with Linda. Further below is the entire podcast, and then below the podcast is a stream of conscious I wrote as I re-listened to the podcast. These ‘enlightenments’ are my own.

Apr 11 2019
42 mins
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Rank #9: What Does It Mean When You Crave Salty Foods? Food Cravings in South Bay Area

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"What Does It Mean When You Crave Salty Foods?" he groaned. He continued telling his story … “I just walked parked and had no sweet tooth. Yet then I saw an image of a “Philly Cheesesteak!” “The weird thing is … I don’t even want the Philly Cheesesteak, but Cheesesteak sounds like Cheesecake and all I want is Cheesecake now!!!!” True story. Just happened this weekend at the Stop Binge and Emotional Eating Free workhop. And by the end of the workshop, simple but valuable information had been conveyed: How to tell the difference between cravings and hunger Simple trick of thinking “head” hunger versus “belly” hunger Why listening to your hunger is like becoming a music conductor What Does It Mean When You Crave Salty Foods? There are many reasons you are cravings sweets all of a sudden. But the key is to realize “suddenly”. Cravings can arise almost instantaneously. When cravings arise instantaneously, cravings can feel like hunger. Many people get confused. They feel a craving and think they are hungry.   Click Here  Many times this confusion leads to feeling bloated, uncomfortably full, and guilty. So how do you tell the difference between Real Hunger versus Cravings (or False Hunger)? Well, one key indicator is thinking about how quickly you got ‘hungry’. If you got hungry instantly, this is a sign you’re experiencing false hunger, or a craving. You might have seen a billboard with the image of a twinkie and now you just want a twinkie. Maybe you are like my friend, who saw an image of something, but then got triggered into wanting something else. Whatever the case is … A really important sign is noticing how quickly you became hungry. Food Cravings in South Bay Area The simple advice I gave was … Where is your hunger coming from? Your head or your belly? The man who was craving Cheesecake put his hands up to his head. “All around here,” he said, “I am seeing images of cheesecake and I can even smell and taste the cheesecake. It’s all I can think of right now!” I told him this is a classic example of “head” hunger. This is where you are experiencing the feelings, sensations, images, etc of “hunger” in your head. It feels like hunger. BUT … It’s not. Tis’ false hunger. You are feeling a craving disguised as hunger. It’s not real. If you ‘follow’ this sign of hunger you’ll regret it. You’ll end up feeling guilty or eating too much. Especially if this ‘head hunger’ came on instantly. If you are curious for more info, you can check out this great article by SkinnyFitalicious here. Musical Cravings and Hunger I asked him to feel his belly hunger, to see if there was any. He said he couldn’t tell. He wasn’t sure if he was hungry, full, or in between. So I said, that’s okay. You are learning to listen to your belly. Eventually you will be able to discern different ‘sounds of hunger.’ Like a music conductor. A music conductor can hear all the instruments playing. The clarinets, even the soft flutes. The analogy to hunger is that you will be able to hear the ‘gentle’ sounds of hunger. Not just the loud sounds of ‘bloated’ or ‘starving’. Now if you need help getting in touch with your hunger, we have two options. If you are totally convinced intuitive eating is for you, then schedule a complimentary strategy session with me If you are not totally sure about intuitive eating and would like to learn more – and get group online classes, learning modules, and an exclusive online group – then click here to learn more about the free trial for the $20/month membership.

Apr 07 2019
17 mins
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Rank #10: I Have An Eating Disorder Now What? Eating Disorder Expert Wendy Wright Answers Your Questions

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“I Have An Eating Disorder Now What?” The other day a friend of mine asked me this question… She had been seeing my posts on facebook and started realizing her relationship with food wasn’t ideal. But now what? It’s a great first step to identify you have a problem like an eating disorder. But now you have to do something about it! And that’s scary. So I asked Wendy Wright, an eating disorder expert with over 20 years of experience in the field. She has a free counseling session you can access on her website, and she’s located in Colorado. And OH My God!!! I loved our conversation!!! Here’s what I liked most about our conversation: Wendy used to struggled with an eating disorder for many years and she has been through the trenches! So her advice is proven. Wendy likes skiing and so do I! Just a random tidbit that made me smile 🙂 She gives a TON of actionable advice on eating disorders from recognizing them to starting the process of healing. I Have An Eating Disorder Now What? Here are a few practical techniques and action steps: To identify if you have a food struggle: Notice how much distress food causes you when you “break” a rule or do something “bad”. Ideally, food emotional reactions should be neutral. So if you are having strong emotional reactions to food this could be a warning sign you have an eating disorder How many thoughts throughout the day are about food? If you constantly think and worry and fret and panic about food, then that’s a sign you might have an eating disorder. To start the process of Intuitive Eating: Shift away from judgment and into curiosity. For one week just notice what comes up around food. If you are able to catch yourself eating a bag of chips, in response to a feeling of anger, you’ve already made a lot of progress bringing awareness to your automatic tendencies! To understand and release the fear of eating “unhealthy”: It can be scary to start to eat foods you previously forbid yourself. You might think “I’ll be eating donuts 10 years from now”! But let’s test that hypothesis. You probably will start tiring of donuts much quicker than that!!! Wendy said the process of eating foods you forbid and normalizing them, in longer situations, takes a few months. In my experience, most people see a dramatic relief almost right away. Finally, I want to wrap up this article by sharing a story that Wendy shared … She was having a hard time in life, to say the least. Divorce, housing problems, two kids, career change, etc, etc. She’d been struggling with an eating disorder for years … And she decided to call one of the founders of Intuitive Eating, Elyse. Elyse just said “You’re OK.” Lastly, if you haven’t seen my article on Weight Watchers, where I dive into the ‘science’ Weight Watcher’s uses to support their weight loss claims, I highly suggest you do so! Basically Weight Watcher’s uses ‘science’ that only lasts up to 12 months and they conveniently forget to mention all the negative side effects of dieting! And this is on their own website too! Click here to read more.

Mar 27 2019
45 mins
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Rank #11: Stop Overeating Without Dieting – Bay Area Intuitive Eating Coach

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How to stop overeating without dieting is a 50 year old question, and here’s the the anti diet approach to weight loss. And in this article I’m going to show you: Why cooking natural foods is the key to health Video of me cooking lunch to demonstrate cooking can be easy, quick and nutritious But before we get into the content, let’s examine where we were 50 years ago … I say 50 years old because people only started paying attention to weight loss in a much more serious way about 50 years ago. In the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s we saw the growth of Huge Corporate Weight Loss Industry, approximately worth $585 Billion Dollars globally. The Weight Loss Industry pushed diets on us, tracking calories, and short-term weight loss. We discovered short-term weight loss didn’t work. So now what? Well… There’s a movement. Many movements. Health At Every Size and Intuitive Eating are two of the more prominent movements. These movements are about: Health At Every Size: Realizing you don’t have to be skinny in order to be healthy, focusing on health behaviors instead of weight loss Intuitive Eating: Ditching diets and listening to your body and learning what health means to you Now … These movements emphasize a few different things in relation to nutrition. I’m not going to go too deep into their principles and lessons here … We’re going to keep things short and simple: Here’s the basic advice … (and perhaps the main point is that you don’t need more than the basics) How to lose weight without dieting So first things first… All these movements and this website/business – Weight Loss Enlightenment – they all emphasize letting go of weight loss. Forget about it! When you focus on weight loss, you stop focusing on the process of health. Plus, weight loss is one of the top causes of eating disorders, body shame, and gaining MORE weight than you started with!!! See this article where I research Weight Watchers and show you directly how they cleverly present their ‘research’ to avoid showing you the TRUE costs of weight loss. So … Let go of weight loss! Now you might start to panic … “What’s the point if not to lose weight?” Here’s an excellent article about balancing nutrition an intuitive eating, if you are curious to learn more, by Dr. Claudia Felty. The point is: energy confidence joy not feeling floated feeling rejuvenated feeling light And … reaching out body’s natural weight set point. The goal is NOT to become an Instagram Model. The goal is to reach your body’s natural set point, which is partly determined by genes. Some people have bigger natural bodies and there is nothing wrong with that. Some people, if you have been dieting, may be heavier than their natural set point. These people, when they start following the nutritional principles below and eating intuitively, will lose weight. Other times due to stress and the ability to quasi-diet, people are underweight. These people will gain weight as they learn to eat intuitively and follow these principles. Now I know, weight gain seems like the worst thing ever. Yet, staying skinny often comes at a high price: anxiety obsession low energy fatigue irritability mood swings lack of confidence and self esteem So … Here are the basic nutritional principles Eat natural unprocessed foods Eat balanced meals Cook your food at home Now the biggest objection people will say is … “Eating healthy takes time” Well… That’s why I made the video above to demonstrate eating healthy doesn’t take much time. I know Rachel Ray has her 30 minute meals … But as you can tell, I got mine done in much shorter of a time! You have to cook at home!!! It doesn’t take long. And that’s basically it!!!! Can y

Mar 26 2019
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Rank #12: How Do I Know If I Have An Eating Disorder? Intuitive Eating Bay Area

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How do i know if I have an eating disorder? It’s a good question. The #1 sign that comes up is fear of food. Sometimes the fear of food manifests in the consequences you fear food will do to your body: you fear food will make you gain weight you fear bad things will happen if you eat unhealthy you obsessive, ruminate, punish, and compensate excessively if you ‘screw’ up around food This is the main sign – fear. Some eating disorders people tend to be more slender (anorexia), but other times people struggle with weight (binge eating but not always). Some eating disorders you eat quick (binge), but other times you eat over time (emotional) So the real, root sign of an eating disorder is fear around food. That’s how you can answer the question – How Do You Know If You Have An Eating Disorder? But it’s not just enough to know you have an eating disorder! You have to do something about it. And the reason I’m writing this post is because I just recently spoke with a few people at my last workshop. (full run down on workshop stories, right here) A powerful story emerged from one of my private conversations … Occasionally at a social event a woman would suddenly find her throat stuck with fear. Fear of binging. She told me on of her binging fears was of fondue. A rarer item, but nonetheless you’ll see Fondue at social events every now and then. You’d think Fondu wasn’t as bad as say donuts, chips or pizza. Fondu is just fruit and chocolate. Donuts, chips and pizza have a lot of calories!!! But … The first time my friend binged on fondue at event, she just kept eating and going back for more or more. She was at a social event, and no one was paying attention her getting 2nd’s, 3rd’s of these sugary fruits. And eventually she had the realization: She would have to go to her car. So she sat in her car and and felt like throwing up she was so full. And fast forward a few years … A few more social events with fondue… And my friend now believes if there is fondu at a party, she is going to binge. Cause and effect. Her memories have an experience of Causation. Fondue causes binge eating. (or more precisely, social event + fondue causes binge eating) This is where Intuitive Eating Bay Area comes in Intuitive eating helps her realize … She was in deprivation… Which caused the binge eating. Deprivation was the cause of binge eating … Not fondue. (If you want to learn more about deprivation, check out this excellent article by Erica) And intuitive eating is getting her to see her food fear differently. She’s realizing that yes… She does have an instinctual, programmed association with binge eating and fondue. This association is similar to PSD (formerly known as PTSD). In PSD, you associate a stimulus (like a bomb going off) with an effect (harm). The problem is … In real life there are all sorts of noises, so it’s easy to mistake a loud noise with the sound of a bomb. Like a car honk might cause an automatic association to think you’re in EXTREME danger! (When in reality someone is just honking at you because it’s a green light and you zoned out texting your friend while driving – stop doing that!) The same thing occurred, with my friend, with binge eating. Fondue (stimulus) and effect (binge eating). Yet … she had mistaken deprivation for fondue. Early on when she developed the fondue pattern, my friend was living in deprivation. She was dieting and not letting herself eat what she wanted to eat. There would be days when she just wanted to eat something healthy! But her diet wouldn’t allow it. She was starving herself on her diet. And starvation can be either physical or emotion, and in my friends case, she was starving herself physically and emotionally. She was livin

Mar 22 2019
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Rank #13: Eat Like A Normal Person By Learning Intuitive Eating – Bay Area Workshop

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This past Sunday we gathered together in the serene Nulife Yoga Studio to talk about how to Eat Like A Normal Person. Sitting next to the gently trickling waterfall, we talked about many things: Why people feel confused about dieting – is dieting good or bad? Why Intuitive Eating is great despite not claiming ‘weight loss’ 3 Steps to become an intuitive eater You can see/download the slides I used in this post here. But there was something unique about this workshop… I focused less on information and more on connection. Meaning I would give a simple slide and tell a simple story. 2 mins tops. Yet then … We’d go into a yoga pose – supine twists, child’s pose, etc… And the best and most important part … We then broke into small groups and then shared as a large group. This allowed people to really share their personal experiences with others and get to know other people’s stories as well. See, the goal of this workshop wasn’t money. It was to build community and to connect people. And to share the message of weight loss enlightenment! click here to view weight loss enlightenment on instagram Eat Like A Normal Person? We started off the workshop by looking into dieting. Specifically, we talked about diet confusion. Diet confusion is where you feel confused. You feel confused because you know DIETS are a bad word. Yet on the other hand, you see your friend losing weight on a diet. So we dove into the research: Showed how diets DO work in the short-term Went to Weight Watchers website to see ONLY UP to 12 months! Showed long-term research – DIETS FAIL This gave people clarity. Diets work in the short run. That’s when you see people losing weight. Yet diets fail in the long run. So we got rid of any confusion. But then someone asked “Does Intuitive Eating Work For Weight Loss?” We had just finished up learning about the scientific benefits of Intuitive Eating… (listening to a success video of someone vividly describing how Intuitive Eating has changed their life) That’s when someone noticed – Intuitive Eating doesn’t mention weight loss. (Intuitive Eating doesn’t mention weight gain either) This was a really important point to address. This point – Intuitive Eat NOT being for weight loss – is what Weight Loss Enlightenment is about!!! It’s about losing the obsession to lose weight! Oftentimes this obsession to lose weight is the very thing preventing you from connecting to your body in a more meaningful way. Other Intuitive Eating Questions Other questions were brought up as well: “What if I can’t feel my hunger?” “I’m scared I’m going to keep eating bad foods.” “Hard to accept diets don’t work” Let’s address these two questions. The first about hunger came from a woman who had been a weight watcher’s participant for years … When she saw the research weight watcher’s used … She realized they had a financial incentive for ‘repeat’ customers. This gave her strength and motivation to give up dieting and try something that actually worked! Yet … Just saying you want to stop dieting isn’t exactly easy. A critical step is feeling your hunger. And this lady said feeling her hunger was tough. And so one exercise I gave to her was to: Record how hungry and full she was before/after eating. By journaling how hungry and full you are before/after eating, you still start to attune to your hunger levels. Over time, you won’t need a journal. (Note: not everybody loses connection with their hunger. But a fair amount of people do. After dieting for so long, it’s easy to lose connection to hunger) “I’m scared I’m going to keep eating bad foods.” This question comes up fairly frequently. For most people, just this visual exercise r

Mar 20 2019
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Rank #14: What Is The Opposite Of Intuitive? Intuitive Eating For Beginners Workshop In San Jose

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Over the weekend a few people showed up to learn about “What Is The Opposite Of Intuitive?” in an Intuitive Eating For Beginners   The opposite is dieting!! Here was the flyer I posted in the Nulife Yoga Studio. But perhaps more importantly … Here are the slides I used in the “What Is The Opposite Of Intuitive” training workshop! You can use this link to see the Power Point slides. The link will take you to my Google Drive, which contains the files.

Mar 20 2019
27 mins
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Rank #15: Weight Loss Dizzy Feeling From Too Healthy Eating in Mountain View

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I just spoke with a guy today about that Weight Loss Dizzy Feeling. He came in and said something fairly typical: “I’m trying to eat healthier. My doctor said I should eat less carbs and eat more vegetables. But I get light headed at night and can’t stop eating.” His question to me was straightforward – how do I stop the light headed feelings? I thought I’d answer his question, in this post today, in which you’ll learn: Tunnel Vision Mistake: How Most People Overfocus On Cravings Understand The 3 Forces of Cravings With Examples Why You Must Avoid The Deprivation Setup Am I experiencing Weight Loss Dizzy Feelings? Here was this guy’s typical day. He’d start with a quick breakfast, usually fastfood on the way to work. He’d then hustle and bustle, grind and sweat life out. He’d eat during the day. But he kept getting home at night and feel light headed. As he told me his story, he put his hands to his head, closed his eyes and looked nauseous. He would try eating healthy, but his stomach never felt full after eating healthy. In fact, his doctor told him to have a powerbar at night stop cravings. (As if a powerbar can stop cravings. Seriously, I respect doctors, but does this doctor REALLY think a powerbar will stop cravings?) (I remember when my wrestling coach looked at me and said I needed to lose 7 lbs in one day. Was he crazy too?) (It’s just funny how these authority figures in our lives are wrong.) Anyways … The powerbar didn’t do jack s**t. He’d try to eat healthy, and instead feel light headed. He’d try a powerbar. But still … his belly DEMANDED he eat more food. So this struggle had been going on for around a year! (and for many other people I work with, much longer!) The Tunnel Vision Mistake I told this gentle man he was falling for the classic tunnel vision mistake. This is where you focus on the problem, but ignore the context. Like when someone insults you, you might focus on the person insulting you and get really mad. You might do something seemingly logical in the moment, like punch this dude in the face. Yet then, of course, you realize your in the wrong side of town and his friends are now going to beat the crap out of you. Basically, you OverFocused on the problem, took action to solve the problem, but missed the context. You didn’t see the big picture. You created a myth in your head. Don’t let dieting myths trick you! Myths will make you get tunnel vision and you’ll miss something that made you make a foolish decision. In this guy’s case, his foolish decision was trying to control cravings. In weight loss terms, the myth is control over cravings. Cravings Are Unstoppable When These 3 Things Happen Notice how before cravings, there are 3 labels Restriction Good / Bad Foods Deprivation Here’s the bottom line: if you reach a point of physical deprivation, your body will think it’s starving. This guy really related to this analogy because his daughter was having a baby soon… Ignoring your hunger is like ignoring a screaming child. It’s not going to make things better. So first things first. When you try to control cravings – despite being in a deprivation state – you’re in tunnel vision. There’s no way you can win. (This is perhaps one of the biggest things I cover with people like you in the Free Strategy Session. We identify your tunnel vision and blindspots and get you clear on how you need to implement intuitive eating steps) Avoid The Deprivation Setup At All Costs!!!! I know you’re busy. I know. This guy worked construction. He’s busy too. Yet deprivation is a FORCE LIKE NOTHING YOU’VE EVER SEEN. Well, you may have experienced it before… In those dark moments where you lose control and just. can’t.stop.eating. I can

Mar 15 2019
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Rank #16: Why Can’t I Stop Eating Asks Food Addict In Recovery (podcast)

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Why can’t I stop eating?” The Overeater’s Anonymous meeting had just started when someone popped the question. “I’m a food addict in recovery. I know all about the 12 steps and how my rage leads to binges… “But I’ve calmed down. I’ve made progress. Yet why can’t I stop eating?” In this post I am going to: Give you a blueprint to identify the underlying reason why you can’t stop eating List common blindspots that may be blocking you from food peace Give a step-by-step exercise to identify food rules Why Can’t I Stop Eating? I remember when I first started living as a monk. Paradoxically, there was an abundance of food. Normally you’d think living as a monk you’d have very LITTLE food. (That was my experience in thailand when I begged for food) But not in America. No, living as a Zen Monk at Tassajara, on the coast of California, the food was GOOD. And every 5th day I would STUFF my face full of food. I’d have the day off, every 5th day, so I could gorge like a starving hyena. Nuts, fresh bread, a whole table of fig and pasta and fruit spreads for various cheeses, crackers, cookies … All presented in fine expression, linen clothes, red table clothes, and of course, glass tuppaware to put this handcrafted food into. YUM. I’d get my plate … And GOBBLE it down privately in my room. I’d then go to sleep, and wake up feeling BLOATED and GUILTY. I felt like a food addict. Yet then, I saw this diagram: Seeing this diagram literally changed my life. For once, I could study my binge eating habits! Understanding this cycle is the blueprint to stopping your binge eating. Because binge eating is complex. It’s tricky. There’s no single easy solution. So to answer the original question … Why Can’t I Stop Binge Eating? The answer is that one of those points in the above diagram … Somehow you are ‘misaligned’ in one or more of those points. It’s like a hose. You are trying to get water out of the hose, but no water is coming out. This means the hose has a kink in it. Now does the hose have many kinks in it? Or just one? I don’t know. But we know there’s at least one kink. That’s why you can’t stop binge eating. So here are some of the most common incorrect beliefs you might not be aware of for each of the points: Restriction Limiting your calories to lose weight: might seem good, but is actually a surefire strategy to temporarily lose weight, then regain the weight, and feel terrible about yourself Food rules: Thinking food as either Unhealthy or Healthy: might seem like commonsense, but sets you up for black and white perfectionist rules which lead to rigid behaviors, feelings of missing out, and leads to deprivation. Deprivation: Trying to avoid bad foods: might seem like a good idea, but you’ll give in eventually Cravings: Thinking you use willpower to ‘beat’ cravings: might seem logical, but won’t work long run. You must learn to handle difficult emotions, self-care strategies, and so forth. Binge eating: Might seem like a failure: but is not a sign that you failed, but a sign you need to study where in the ‘hose’ you are misaligned. Where are you depriving yourself? Where are you restricting yourself? What food rules do you have unconsciously? And lastly, shame (ahhh my old friend): Might seem like you deserve the ‘negative thoughts’: but really is a chance for you to practice self-love, feel and turn towards painful emotions, practice ‘distress’ tolerance, and the best time to rewire your brain (from rumination and depression to silver-lining-thinking) Practical Exercise To Stop Binge Eating Food rules are tricky. You learn food rules growing up from your parents, culture, upbringing, etc Which means most of your food rules are unco

Mar 03 2019
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Rank #17: How To Stop Emotional Eating Forever and Binge Eating in San Jose

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Wouldn’t it be nice to stop emotional eating forever? Someone asked me this recently, saying “I just want to stop eating emotionally!” I took a deep breath and explained to them, “Even normal people around food emotionally eat. We evolved around food. It’s okay to manage your emotions with food, to a degree.” So what does stopping emotional eating and binge eating really mean? Do you even have a problem? And you do have an emotional eating problem, what can you do about it? By browsing this article you’ll: Discover the symptoms of problematic emotional eating Understand the underlying pattern causing your emotional eating Now please keep in mind this post is the first in a three-part series about Emotional Eating… This information is intended to be digested slowly… Perhaps you sip on some coffee and take some notes … And go through, skimming lightly, highlighting, etc … This post The 2nd post The 3rd post Stop Emotional Eating Forever Do you really never want to comfort yourself with food again? No! And you don’t have to. All you have to do … Is understand WHAT emotional eating IS. Quick story – a construction worker just came into my free workshop I host in the Bay Area. We talked. And I said, “You know when you get really pissed off and then eat food to feel better? That’s emotional eating.“ He looked sad. He said, “Really!? I didn’t know that. That’s pretty much the only thing I do when I get pissed off.“ Now in a moment I’ll cover some symptoms of problematic Emotional Eating … But the basic of problematic Emotional Eating … (As opposed to regular emotional eating, which everyone does and is okay) Is that you NEARLY ALL THE TIME use FOOD to COPE with Negative Emotions. Do you have a problem with Emotional Eating? Here are some questions commonly asked to determine if you have an Emotional Eating Disorder (according HelpGuide.com). (Side note: I think these questions highlight very well the different aspects of Emotional Eating and where Emotional Eating might show up in your life. However, the same rule applies. These are only problematic when you primarily use food in these situations to handle negative emotions. I’m not trying to scare you because yes, these are pretty general.) Do you eat more when you’re feeling stressed? Do you eat when you’re not hungry or when you’re full? Do you eat to feel better (to calm and soothe yourself when you’re sad, mad, bored, anxious, etc.)? Do you reward yourself with food? Do you regularly eat until you’ve stuffed yourself? Does food make you feel safe? Do you feel like food is a friend? Do you feel powerless or out of control around food? From Stuck Emotional Eater To Aware Emotional Eater The first thing this construction did to transform his emotional eating … (and one of the most neglected steps) Was to admit, realize, and open up about Emotional Eating. He also exhibited TONS of courage by admitting he primarily used food to cope with tough times. I want to highlight this transformation in becoming aware … Because I have met soooo many people who are STUCK trying to lose weight … And can’t. Not because they are lazy. Not because they lack willpower or have bad genes … Simply because they have an image in their head … That they AREN’T an Emotional Eater. Yet once this guy ADMITTED HIS POWERLESSNESS… He was able to open his eyes and see … The Underlying Cycle of Emotional Eating And this my friend, is the KEY on how you can stop emotional eating forever. You MUST realize … These 3 pillars. Emotional Eating is CAUSED by negative emotion. Using Food helps you feel better but … Is ONLY temporary By investigating these aspects, which you can dive more into in “How to stop emotional ea

Feb 27 2019
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Rank #18: Youtube Meditation Weight Loss Video Blog in Silicon Valley

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Here’s a meditation weight loss video blog conversation I had with Tony from Food Karma. This article includes keto, binge eating and mindset. This conversation is really great because Tony has lost over 50 pounds and has tried dieting many times before. But perhaps even more importantly … Tony has lost weight without starving himself, without beating himself up, and by enjoying the food he eats. This truly is a meditation on weight loss in the sense that this conversation will get you thinking about what mainstream weight loss recommends versus what actually works for you.

Feb 21 2019
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Rank #19: Bulimia Symptoms, Causes and Recovery in Bay Area

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Bulimia. You’ve heard the word before. Here is a quick overview of bulimia symptoms, causes and recovery: Symptoms: binging and then behavior to not gain weight (doesn’t need to be vomiting but excessive exercise counts too) Causes: no definitive cause but risk factors include biology, past behavior of dieting, and emotional issues Recovery: various options for recovery Bulimia Causes There is no one definitive cause of Bulimia. However, based on my past experience of helping people, I can safely say that every person I have worked with with bulimia has had a history of dieting. This is why I place sooo much educational awareness on dieting. Dieting harms people. If you have bulimia, odds are high you have dieted before. Other causes include genes (if you have a close family member or cousin or who also binge eats) and emotional issues. For an excellent resource article on causes of Bulimia, you can read this Mayo clinic article here. Bulimia Symptoms The tricky part about bulimia is that you may not lose a ton of weight like anorexia. When someone is anorexic, you can sometimes tell. Anorexic people are notorious for having incredibly thin bodies. Yet bulimia no weight loss (or weight gain) may occur. This makes bulimia very secretive and easier to hide. However, there are some common symptoms: Binge: you eat a lot of food in a short period of time and feel out of control Compensation: You exercise for hours at a time, you take pills to flush your system or stop eating. You may make yourself vomit as well Body image distortion: You view your body as the source of your problems. If only your body looked a certain way or if your weight was lower, then your life would be better. These thoughts preoccupy your mind nearly all the time Here is a WebMD article for more info about Bulimia symptoms. Bulimia Recovery There are many different options to recover from bulimia and you can see my previous posts herewhere I review three options. If you’d like to talk with me personally about bulimia recovery, you may schedule a free strategy session here.

Feb 21 2019
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Rank #20: 3 Steps To Stop Stress Eating At Work In Bay Area

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There is a ton of stress eating at work in the Bay Area. It doesn’t help your efforts when Google conveniently places nice, fresh macaroni and pizza a few feet away from you. In this post we’ll cover 3 steps to stop stress eating at work in the Bay Area. Honor Your Hunger Defeat Cognitive Distortions Enjoy Your Food Stress Eating Stress eating, is well, stressful. I’ve worked with many immigrant tech workers who are incredibly surprised about how much weight they gain once they start working at tech companies in the Bay Area. The story is common. Back in India (or wherever) they didn’t really think about food. Food wasn’t an issue. Then in America, where there is an overabundance of food, you see yourself gaining 20-30 lbs per year. You know there is a problem going on, and your situation is even worse because your incredibly stressed about keeping your job, visa status, language, making friends, fitting in, etc. So stress eating is quite natural. If you’d like a free assessment on how you can stop stress eating, please book a conversation with me here. 1st Step To Overcome Stress Eating Honor your hunger. This is something I’ve talked about before. Honoring your hunger is the 2nd Step in the Intuitive Eating framework I was trained in while getting my Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology at Santa Clara University. If you are letting 5 or more hours go by without eating, you will not be able to stop yourself from overeating. So you need to feed yourself. So many times workers in the Bay Area get so busy with work they forget to eat. You need to break free of this mindset and embrace the fact that you need to either bring food with you to work, or get some meal breaks during work. 2nd Step To Stop Stress Eating You must defeat your cognitive distortions! Let’s examine the picture below: This is pretty typical. Something bad happens. You get stressed. You eat. First, remember – you must not be starving. You can’t be starving. Otherwise step 2 doesn’t work. But if you are feeding yourself regularly, then you can overcome cognitive distortions. In this example, you might think: “Oh my god my boss is going to fire me. I am going to have to go back to India and my whole family will be disappointed. I’ll have to work at a restaurant the rest of my life. I am hopeless.” The first step is to write your thoughts down. All of them. Then begin to question the truth of your thoughts. Has your boss yelled at you before? If so, did he/she fire you back then? Can you correct your mistake? Did you even make a mistake? Is it possible your boss is out of line? By questioning your thoughts you will be able to see that most of them are based on doomsday future scenarios. For more in depth information about this type of therapeutic technique, check out my article here on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. 3rd Step To Stop Stress Eating Lastly … Eat mindfully! Enjoy your food. If you are wolfing food down, you aren’t enjoying it. If you are distracted, you aren’t enjoying your food. So slow down, and enjoy your food. Pause and notice your emotions. That’s it! If you’d like to book a conversation with me and plan out how you can implement these steps more precisely to your personal circumstances, click here.

Feb 10 2019
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