Rank #1: Episode 2: Wedding Season
Rank #2: Episode 68: Rage Phase
Rank #3: Adult Sex Ed
Everything you’ve ever wanted to know about sex and still haven’t learned, even though you’re an adult now. Our expert panel includes Myisha Battle and Jaclyn Friedman. You’ve got sex questions, and they have answers! Full NSFW show notes + resources at callyourgirlfriend.com. Kinda goes without saying, but you probably don't want to listen to this one with young kids around.
Rank #4: White Fragility
Let's talk about race, baby, and what white people really mean when they say they don't see it. Whether it's willful ignorance about collective racial identity or an unexpectedly defensive flare-up from someone who claims to be progressive or an intersectional feminist, white fragility has serious consequences. We discuss its impact on people of color with Rachel Cargle, and explore ways for white people to break down internal barriers to growth with Robin DiAngelo. If you are white and listening to this, stick with it, even if you're confused or uncomfortable.
White Fragility book
Robin DiAngelo's resources
Rank #5: Friends with Babies
Binaries aren't good for babies or friendships. We discuss angst around the "gender reveal" party from the blogger who popularized it. How to avoid judgement around a friend's parenting and their choice about whether to become a parent. Crucially, how to weather change when a friend has kids and you don't. Hint: communicate! Also, untested but good-smelling mosquito repellents. And, we have brand new merch + don't forget to buy tickets to CYG Live!
Childfree By Choice by Dr Amy Blackstone
No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol
Rank #6: Instagram Anxiety
We watched both Fyre Festival documentaries. Beyond the quirks of those films we're left with qualms about the social media platforms that ensconce our lives, Instagram in particular. Tech companies evolve, their products change, but we don't have laws or norms that govern the many different digital lives we lead. We get into it about FOMO, the history of personal photography, features that tag your 'close friends' and old pictures, and their ties to capitalism. Plus, how we think about what we post, and the accounts we love to follow.
Rank #7: Episode 97: The Pursuit of Female Pleasure
Rank #8: Marriage vs. Friendship
Marriage didn't always wreck friendships among women, as it did the 1950s, or strain both beloved relationships, as often happens today. Stephanie Coontz studies the long history of family structures from forager society to the present. History has some stark (and cheering) lessons about the ways that friendship functions as a deep human bond. Plus, we're renewed, refreshed, and restored after taking a break and doing a full home reorganization.
We're going on tour!
Rank #9: Episode 34: Sexy Bellybutton Feeling
taylor’s colonial fantasy
the williams sisters
Rank #10: Episode 50: Joy of Missing Out
Rank #11: Terrible, Thanks for Asking
Have you experienced a big loss? The death of a friend, family member, illness, even a breakup or losing a job can be devastating. Help and support pour in for a day, a week. And then what? We're supposed to just be fine and pretend like it never happened? We realtalk grief and suffering with Nora McInerny, host of the podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking, and author of funny-sad books like her latest, No Happy Endings.
Rank #12: Episode 49: SHE ILL
Rank #13: Ask A Man
We're taking 420 off to get stoned, but fear not, some of our favorite men are here to answer questions from listeners and some of ours, including: Why aren't men funny? Why are men so emotional all the goddamn time? And, can men have it all?
Chris Roan (aka Mr. Of a Kind)
Chris's skin care picks, Ezra's book list and more at callyourgirlfriend.com
Rank #14: Episode 111: Hillary
Amina talks with Hillary Rodham Clinton about the friends who helped her through her election defeat, how she's resisting, and what's next. Plus, "authenticity" in politics, the Good Wife, and Elena Ferrante. Stay tuned after the interview for the debrief with Ann, all the way from Australia.
Rank #15: Episode 104: How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
How to lose a Mooch in 10 days. Shoutout to the women Senators who stopped the repeal of Obamacare. Cheeto Watch: the White House commission on opioids comes up with a surprising recommendation (fund Medicaid!), Barron Trump's cyber genius didn't stop many officials from getting drawn into a phishing scheme. The Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee is *just fine* funding anti-choice candidates. Fleeing from Central America after being accused, prosecuted and jailed for an illegal abortion, which was simply a miscarriage. Plus, listeners defend the Girl Scouts and questions about debt, depression and a body-shaming group text.
Rank #16: How to Do Nothing
Constant smart phone use may not be great for us, but what are we supposed to do instead? Artist and writer Jenny Odell explores how we reclaim our time and attention in her new book, How to Do Nothing.
Rank #17: The death and life of Julie Yip-Williams (sponsored by Pineapple Street Media)
What if you knew you were dying? How would you prepare your family, and yourself? In a special episode sponsored by Pineapple Street Media, we talk with Eleanor Kagan, producer and host of a new podcast, Julie, that explores the extraordinary life and death of Julie Yip-Williams.
Rank #18: Episode 94: Wear Sunscreen
Rank #19: Episode 52: Vegan Bernie Madoff
Rank #20: That Don't Impress Me Much
We discuss the fears black customers face in stores and coffee shops (white people stop calling the cops!) Thank you to everyone who's been #bleedin4Amina, no thank you forever to human housecat Jonathan Chait's opinions about female politicians, and we are devastated about Shania Twain's support for Trump/inability to apologize like a proper Canadian.
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