Rank #1: Heal the Hurt of Divorce - Step 2
(Listener Note: This is Step #2 of this 12 step series. To take full advantage of this please visit our show archive and listen to the episodes in their proper order).
Divorce is deeply painful. We may experience different emotions ranging from hurt or anger, shame or disappointment, fear or bitterness. In order to heal as we go through this transition, it is vital that we not judge or avoid our feelings but rather accept that they simply are.
In our quick fix society we see the devastation of avoiding our feelings with pharmaceutical drugs and personal addictions. Emotional pain seems too hard to handle so we stuff it, numb it, work harder, play harder, shop more, binge on Netflix reruns, etc. Yet no matter where we go, or how fast we try to get there, we can't outrun our feelings. Wherever we go, there we are...with our pain.
The only way out is through. Karen and Carrie share gentle, practical, and doable strategies for feeling and processing painful emotions in a way that enables us to move through them and engage in essential conversations and decisions about the future with calm and clarity. Learn the practice of creating space through breath that provides a path back to your center - who you are and want to be in all your interactions.
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For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.
Rank #2: Should I Stay or Should I go? - Navigating Divorce
While all decision during divorce are challenging, deciding whether to stay and mend your marriage or to divorce is one of the most stressful and emotionally charged. It is often drenched in judgement, shame, guilt, fear and uncertainty.
Today we help you to unweave your fears and limiting beliefs from the circumstances you are assessing so that you can become clear in determining your best next steps. We also share the huge value in staying long enough to work on your shortcoming so that, regardless of your choice, you emerge healthier in all your relationships.
For more on Karen McMahon and Journey Beyond Divorce or to book a private session, visit: www.JourneyBeyondDivorce.com.
Rank #3: Getting Over an Ex
Welcome to March! It's been a hard, cold winter and we're all ready for Spring.
Toni and Steve begin March with a ton of topics guaranteed to warm you up including:
- Why are air fares soaring?
- Does Playgirl Magazine still exist?
- Sons of Anarchy vs. Breaking Bad
- Can Divorce attorneys fire their clients?
- How long does it take to get over your ex?
- Astrological Forecast with Nadiya Shaw
- And much more.
- For more information on Toni visit: www.YouRiseAbove.com. For more programs on divorce and life after divorce visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. And don't forget to join our Facebook community at: www.Facebook.com/BeingSingleRadio.com.
Rank #4: Better Than Ever after Divorce
Welcome to our latest and greatest episode of Single Again! Now What? with Joanie Winberg and Steve Peck!
Joining us on the show is Dr. Dee Adio-Moses, an International Spiritual Teacher, ordained Minister and a Life Coach. Dr. Dee is a modern day key proponent of Oneness Consciousness as a healing strategy, providing step by step programs to help encourage your oneness journey, teaching you to ways to master your emotions, your body, your relationships, your finances, and your life.
Dr. Dee’s personal devastating divorce experience and her journey of overcoming as a single mother of three sons is the reason why she is in the forefront of mentoring and empowering divorced women and their kids end the trauma and devastation of divorce, and how they can pick up the pieces and create a “Better than Ever After Divorce” life for themselves.
In this program, we discuss the effect physical and emotional abuse has on relationships and explore why some divorced couples stay in confrontational relationships with each other years after their divorce at the expense of their children's well being. Dr. Dee offers advice how to put the past behind and move on to a healthier new life for everyone concerned.
Other topics include:
- How each person has to take their own responsibility for their divorce and be willing to work on themselves, not only for future relationships, but most importantly for their children.
- What to do when a parent calls or communicates with only one of their young adult siblings and ignores the other.
- How Joanie and Dr. Dee are on a mission to help divorced parents stop fighting even after years of being divorced, especially since this effects children in such a negative way. For more information, go to: www.DivorcedParentsItsTimeToWakeUp.com.
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Rank #5: Financial Issues Women Face During Divorce
In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, Megan Stirrat joins us to discuss the financial issues divorcing women face.
Megan is a Vice President, Wealth Management Advisor, Certified Financial Planner and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst with Merrill Lynch. She has been guiding individuals through significant transitions in life, such as retirement and divorce, for over a decade. Megan understands clients changing and complex financial picture, sitting down with them to understand what is truly important. She serves as an integral member of the divorce team and proves to be an invaluable resource.
In the program Megan addresses:
- What you need to know to protect you financially if you are considering divorce
- Negotiating to retain the marital home and is keeping it a good idea?
- Thinking ahead to your retirement
- The false belief the a 50/50 split is always an equitable division of property
- The need for accurate financial information to protect spousal and child support
- A "sugar daddy" is not a good future financial plan
- How to create a new financial plan
- And much more.
If you'd like to ask Meagan a question, email her at: Megan_Stirrat@ML.com
Rank #6: Be Smart About Mediation
Understanding what mediation is as a process, and finding the right mediator, are critical elements to developing a smart and long lasting parenting and financial agreements that are predicated on informed, thoughtful decision making. A good mediator will discuss what your goals are for the process, what is important to each of you and will help you to craft a plan that addresses those goals and intentions. This is important to understand, as all mediators are not created equal!
Our guest, Cara Raich, (http://www.srmediators.com/mediators/cara-raich-esq/) (http://mediatetrix.wordpress.com/) explores the specifics of mediation in this episode of The Smart Divorce, with Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck. Cara is a mediator and attorney who specializes in helping people find non-adversarial resolutions to conflict. She mediates a wide range of cases including divorce, family conflicts, and organizational and civil disputes.
Cara is dedicated to helping her clients avoid the challenges and acrimony that frequently accompany adversarial proceedings. She does this by enabling her clients to come to realistic and informed agreements that work for them and their families. Cara believes that separation and divorce are family matters with a legal element, not a lawsuit that happens to be about a family.
To understand how these goals are accomplished in a fair and reasonable manner – and gain perspectives on alternative ways to view mediation and settlement we discuss:
- What does neutrality really mean?
- What are the process choices that people have when contemplating divorce?
- How do we as a society view divorce?
- What is a successful divorce?
- What is the role the law will play in your divorce? Is the law relevant, determinative or something in between?
This interview will surely help you understand the many aspects of mediation.
Rank #7: What It's Like To Be The Hurt Partner In An Affair Pt. One
Affair expert, David Feder interviews a "hurt" partner of an affair in this three part series. Affairs are never easy. In this episode we hear from on of Davids clients as she bravely discusses the details of her husband's affair.
For more on David visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.
Rank #8: Tips for Divorced Dads - Single Again! Now What? Audition #3
This edition of Single Again! Now What? begins with exciting news from Joanie.
Steve tells of reinventing a past relationship. He has learned to be single and his current relationship has morphed into the "friends with benefits" type, and it seems to be working for everyone. Joanie provides tips for healing after a break-up, and together, Joanie and Steve show that living alone isn't so bad after all. If you are going through this now and having a tough time, rest assured that you will become settled in time.
Steve decided to cold call a potential co-host who had emailed for a chance to be on the show and we introduce you to Tommy Maloney, author of 25 Tips for divorced Dads. Tommy shares some of his wit and wisdom and turns out to be a very interesting guest. If you're looking for ways to improve the relationship with your kids after a divorce or find it hard to get along with your stepchildren, Tommy provides some valuable advice.
Let us know what you think of Tommy by writing us at DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com and be sure to "like" us on our show Facebook page at www.Facebook.com/SingleAgainNowWhat.
Rank #9: Child Support - What No One Really Tells You
Child support payments can be a source of concern, conflict, frustration, and confusion for many. On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest is lawyer Mike Marra. Mike helps us to understand what parents really need to think about where child support is concerned. Mr. Marra is a skilled lawyer family law lawyer with expertise in the areas of spousal support, complex financial situations, fraudulent spouses, trust claims, unfair agreements, protection of children's rights, estate litigation, high conflict custody and access situations and mediation methods. He also worked for many years as legal counsel for the Family Responsibility Office, which enforces child and domestic support orders and collects support payments for families in Ontario, Canada.Mr. Marra debunks the myths and misperceptions of child support. And he shares with us information on his solution for managing child expenses in a non invasive way, eliminating conflict, while obtaining full financial disclosure in a non threatening, cost effective manner through a new support tool - Support Information Exchange, available across North America. To understand how these goals are met in reasonable manner we explore:
- Protecting yourself from retroactive child support claims
- Ensure that your right to obtain a percentage share of children’s special expenses is not lost
- How to save legal fees and court costs on child support
- And many other suggestions about the difficult conversation people rarely want to have about child support
Rank #10: The Shared Custody Experience
On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest is Denise Whitehead, a lawyer with a Ph.D. in Family Relations & Human Development. She combines her legal and social science backgrounds and shares her important research on socio-legal practice and policy issues related to separation and divorce that affect all members of the family system – mothers, fathers and children.
Dr. Whitehead discusses her dissertation research that involved in-depth interviews with young adults who spent time in shared custody as children and examined their perspectives on transitions, relationships and fairness. The information is helpful on so many levels – but most importantly looks at what children really want, the outcomes and impact. Topics in this program include:
- How shared custody is influencing parent child relationships
- Fairness in decision making
- What children want in a custody arrangement
- The importance of quality time with children
- Who “owns the time”
- ‘Managing-up:’ Young adult children who experienced shared custody reflect on their efforts to make family relations work
- Custodial decision-making and fairness: Young adults who lived in shared custody give their ‘expert’ opinions
- And so much more…….
This is a must listen show if you are thinking of, working through or implementing your parenting plan. Dr. Whitehead provides practical and creative thinking about parenting and the relationship with your children. Don’t forget, Like us on our Facebook pages, The Smart Divorce and Divorce Source Radio. Join the community!
Rank #11: The Voice of a Child - Protecting Children During Divorce
This is the first in a series of programs recorded at The Family Support Expo, in Toronto, Canada, in October of 2012. Congratulations to Stephen Rosenfield for delivering a great show! In this program, attorney John Schuman joins Steve Peck to discuss the voice of a child during divorce. Divorcing is tough enough, but add children to the mix, and divorce just got more complicated. Some parents get so caught up in the drama of divorce that they forget to think about how their children might be processing this restructuring of their families. Protecting our children's innocence should be the priority when divorcing, and this program will help you gain insight into what your children might be experiencing, regardless of their ages. In this discussion, Mr. Schuman also provides valuable advice to parents, especially those in high-conflict situations. Topics in the program include:
- The effect divorce has on children
- Kids don't want to decide where to live
- Children want to have a voice in the situation too
- The harm of fighting with your ex at sporting and public events
- Co-parenting around your children's activities
- The concerns children have when their parents separate
- And much more.
Always remember, your children are watching you and how you handle your divorce. They will face their own conflicts in life, and, in many cases, model the behavior they witnessed in you. Be the best role model you can be during this very tough time. Your kids deserve it.For more on John Schuman, visit: http://www.devrylaw.ca/
Rank #12: Divorce - Help! I Don't Even Know Where to Begin!
Welcome to Start Over Smart, our new show featuring divorce and relationship experts Nicole Baras Feuer and Francine Baras.
This new series will guide you through all aspects of divorce whether you find yourself contemplating, going through or post-divorce
Episode #1 is titled "Help! I don't Even Know Where to Begin!" Nicole and Francine walk you through the steps you might need to take as you enter the divorce process.
- How to protect your children
- Your Divorce Process Choices - Mediation, collaborative, Litigation or Do-it-yourseelf
- What you need to know about finances during divorce
- The emotional toll od divorce
- And much more.
For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com. For more on Nicole and Francine and their new book 37 Things I wish I’d Known Before My Divorce visit: www.SOSDivorceAdvisors.com.
Rank #13: 12 Step Divorce Recovery Series Introduction
Journey Beyond Divorce launches its premier show introducing the best way to move from pain and chaos to a clear, calm, confident approach to divorce. You are challenged to see your divorce transition as not only challenging and tumultuous but an opportunity. Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, Karen McMahon invites you to consider the possibility for significant personal growth that can take place when you shift your focus off your spouse and keep it on yourself.
Journey Beyond’s 12 Step Divorce Discovery program has helped thousands of men and women navigate divorce with grace and dignity and emerge ready to create a new chapter of life. Beginning with raising your awareness to how you're wired and what triggers you, to finding that you have more options than you think, clients begin to get their heads above emotional waters.
As you continue through the steps, JBD coaches explain that you begin to detach from your anger and hurt, step ever so slowly into forgiveness, letting go of judgement of your spouse and your circumstances. Further down the 12 step line, you begin to accept rather than resist what is, become more capable of staying in the present and ultimately let go of limiting beliefs that hold you back and embrace life’s possibilities.
In short, this introductory show outlines the steps that are guaranteed to change both your divorce experience and your life. The tools and strategies that Journey Beyond shares will support you now as well and with any future challenges you face.
For more information on Journey Beyond Divorce visit: www.jbddivorcesupport.com.
Rank #14: Single and Finding Love Again
Lesley's back with Joanie and Steve on Single Again! Now What? to discuss finding love again after separation or divorce.
After divorce, many find themselves rushing back into a new relationship. Some do it out of loneliness, and some because of peer pressure or because their ex has moved on to a new relationship. The question is, what's the hurry, and how can you avoid becoming a divorce statistic the second time around?
The Single Again! trio share their thoughts on the subject and reference the book by Dr. Terri Orbuch, PhD, called Finding Love Again, 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. (Terri will be a guest on an upcoming show.)
Other topics discussed include:
- What to do when you're out with a friend and someone tries to pick you up
- The demise of family dinner time in America
- To remarry or not, that is the question
- And much more
Rank #15: Unfaithful - A Look Into Infidelity
On this episode of Being Single, Steve and Toni speak with a long-time Divorce Source Radio listener who has experienced infidelity in his past marriage.
As many of our listeners know, Toni was featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network's series titled Unfaithful. It's interesting to hear both a man's and woman's viewpoint of being cheated on.
Questions arise such as, What would make a partner cheat and how do you deal with this type of situation when you have children? Then their are the lessons of forgiveness and trying to move forward without bringing the baggage of bitterness from the past into the new relationship.
Even though Toni and Tren have been to Hell and back, it's refreshing to hear that they have moved on working to rebuild their lives with hope and trust. If you have ever been cheated on, you're going to relate to this show and hopefully find a sense of comfort in knowing that others have experienced your pain as well.
Rank #16: The Anatomy of An Affair - Part 5
Part 5 of our series, The Anatomy of An Affair continues with David Feder.
Listener note: This is Part 4 of this series, and if you are finding this program through our archive directory, iTunes or Stitcher Radio, it is advised you begin with program 1 and follow the podcasts in their original order.
In this episode, David answers questions on might have if they have been involved in an affair such as:
- Should I agree to therapy with my partner if he hasn’t ended his affair yet?
- What is the best way to end my affair with my Affair Partner?
- How do I make my partner feel safe when he/she pushes me away. It’s frustrating and I am feeling hopeless. I can’t seem to do anything right.
- How do I rebuild trust after an affair? Are there steps to follow?
- What about sex after an affair? I don’t feel like it but I’m afraid if I say no, it will be my fault that my partner goes back to his Affair Partner?
- What is Forgiveness?
- Should I tell my children about the affair?
- Affairs in the workplace - What do I do if you both work at the same company?
For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAn Affair.com.
Rank #17: Personality Disorders and Affairs Part 1
David Feder returns with another episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio to discuss personality disorders and affairs.
Many people suffer some form of personality disorder whether it be Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Disorder, Bipolar, or one of the many other types of mental illnesses that affect an individual's ability to form healthy relationships.
Some of these illnesses can even be the direct cause of a partner straying and becoming unfaithful. David explains how mental illness might play out during an affair and provides advice for the hurt partner dealing with the fallout.
Rank #18: Anger Management - Dealing with Anger Issues in Relationshiips
It's normal to get angry from time-to-time, but what happens when you or a partner lose control and anger turns to rage? In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, Latchman Narain, director-founder of the Anger Management Centre, joins us and helps decode anger and stress issues that can tear relationships apart.
Many people believe that they can control others by using excessive anger and that this is a permanent solution to an issue. However, this only causes deeper problems in the long run. Sooner or later, the person who is being controlled will rebel in one way or another, which will, of course, negatively impact the relationship.
In this program, we explore whether anger issues can be a result of something that happened during our childhood. Latchman offers insight on how to gain control over anger and offers hope for those seeking help. By learning to communicate with "solution talk," as opposed to "problem talk," disagreements with a partner become more productive and less confrontational.
By learning to recognize the signs of anger issues, and with the tools to deal with them, we can learn to communicate in much healthier ways.
Other topics covered included:
- What to do when your partner gets angry
- What's happening in an angry person's brain?
- Are angry people self-centered?
- How thought patterns can contribute to anger
- How therapy can help
- And much more.
For more on Latchman Narain and The Anger Management Centre of Toronto, visit: www.AngerManagementCentre.ca
Rank #19: Redesigning Your Life
For most people, rethinking their life path from time-to-time is a good idea, but for many divorcing individuals, they simply don't have a choice. Redesigning Your Life offers help in planning that next life you want to create.
In this episode of Divorce Source Radio with Steve Peck, motivational speaker, consultant, and facilitator, Kathey Batey joins us from The Divorce Expo in Chicago.
Kathey is the author of Suddenly Single and creator of ReDesigning Your Life, a program designed to assist women and men who have gone through a divorce, death of a spouse, the "empty nest," or any life transition. She is also a facilitator of Divorce Care, a faith-based, friendly and caring group of people that helps individuals going through divorce.
Is it time to review, revise, and reset your life, following divorce, death of a loved-one, or dissatisfaction with your life? Kathey shares how you can change your life, by changing your reaction to it. By Taking a more proactive stand and ceasing to react negatively to life’s many challenges, you can redesign your life for the better.
For more on Kathey Batey, visit: www.spiritedpresentations.com .
Rank #20: Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce
On this episode of Sex after Divorce with Juliana Neiman, the topic is How to Rebuild After Divorce.
For many, divorce hits with the force of a tsunami. You exit the process broken and feeling less than. After taking time to heal, it's time to get back up, dust yourself off and begin the process of rebuilding your new life.
Juliana Neiman takes us through the building blocks necessary to rebuilding our life and relationships. When your self esteem becomes bruised, you don't feel sexual. It takes some longer to get over a relationship than others.
Follow the building blocks mentioned in this program will help you move forward with more confidence in future relationships. For more on Juliana Neiman, visit: www.JulianaNeiman.com.