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The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

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The Scarlet Virgins podcast takes an in-depth look at the topics addressed in Rebecca's book, "The Scarlet Virgins," including purity culture, modesty, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, legalism, and the various ramifications of spiritual abuse.

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The Scarlet Virgins podcast takes an in-depth look at the topics addressed in Rebecca's book, "The Scarlet Virgins," including purity culture, modesty, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, legalism, and the various ramifications of spiritual abuse.

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Open and honest

By Bite-Sized Theology - Nov 08 2017
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While I may not be in absolute agreement on every point, I have found Rebecca’s podcast to be an open and honest working through of issues that especially those who have grown up in purity culture face. The episodes provide great platforms from which conversations should spring.

Mix of health, religion, self-esteem and self-identity, inspiration, sexuality

By @haroldrhee - Jun 10 2017
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Rebecca has this wonderful way of tackling some sensitive and difficult topics. She views each issue in every episode through a variety of lenses. Well done.

iTunes Ratings

8 Ratings
Average Ratings
7
1
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0
0

Open and honest

By Bite-Sized Theology - Nov 08 2017
Read more
While I may not be in absolute agreement on every point, I have found Rebecca’s podcast to be an open and honest working through of issues that especially those who have grown up in purity culture face. The episodes provide great platforms from which conversations should spring.

Mix of health, religion, self-esteem and self-identity, inspiration, sexuality

By @haroldrhee - Jun 10 2017
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Rebecca has this wonderful way of tackling some sensitive and difficult topics. She views each issue in every episode through a variety of lenses. Well done.
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The Scarlet Virgins Podcast

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The Scarlet Virgins podcast takes an in-depth look at the topics addressed in Rebecca's book, "The Scarlet Virgins," including purity culture, modesty, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, legalism, and the various ramifications of spiritual abuse.

Rank #1: Modesty

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Growing up, Rebecca Lemke was taught that modesty was a woman's issue. She was told that men were visual and didn't possess self-control, so it was the duty of her and her female friends to keep their male companions on the straight and narrow.  After leaving legalism and purity culture, Rebecca was introduced to the idea that women play no part in loving their male neighbors through their wardrobe. This rhetoric left her thinking: Am I my brother's keeper?

In this episode, she recounts her experiences with both of these schools of thought and offers her Christ-focused approach as an alternative. 

For more bonus content and to get your copy of Rebecca Lemke's "The Scarlet Virgins" - visit scarletvirgins.com

May 22 2017
11 mins
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Rank #2: Purity Culture and Sexual Band-Aids (BDSM, Rape Fantasy, etc)

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I talked about this a little in my book which is linked below, but I have observed a significant amount of people impacted by purity culture being drawn towards BDSM, Rape Fantasy, and other things that I would classify as sexual band-aids given the circumstances.

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If you like this content, you may enjoy The Scarlet Virgins book: https://www.amazon.com/Scarlet-Virgin...

Do you benefit from the content I put out? Please consider supporting me on Patreon (it is like giving a tip to your favorite artist): https://www.patreon.com/RebeccaLemke

Subscribe to my channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr3v...

Subscribe to my blog: http://rebeccalemke.com

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Oct 20 2017
11 mins
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Rank #3: Which is Worse, Promiscuity or Purity Culture?

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In this episode, Rebecca discusses the ways in which promiscuity and purity culture both lead us away from God, sometimes in very similar ways.

If you would like to find more of Rebecca’s content like media appearances, more podcast episodes, and her book The Scarlet Virgins, you can go to www.scarletvirgins.com!

If you would like to support Rebecca in her journey and help her fund more books and other content, please consider becoming a patron over at https://www.patreon.com/RebeccaLemke

Aug 03 2018
9 mins
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Rank #4: What About Masturbation?

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Masturbation is a taboo subject, sometimes even in secular culture. But if we never talk about it, we inadvertently add unnecessary shame to the topic. Most of us have learned that the Bible says it is wrong, but what does the Bible actually say about it?  In this episode, Rebecca talks about relevant Scripture on the topic, practical things to consider, and he own thoughts on the matter.    For more bonus content and to get your copy of Rebecca Lemke's "The Scarlet Virgins" - visit scarletvirgins.com.
Jun 23 2017
11 mins
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Rank #5: "I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye": An Interview with filmmaker Jessica Wyngaard

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In this episode, Rebecca interviews the director of I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Jessica Wyngaard.

They chat about how Jessica met Joshua Harris, how she deal with her emotions towards his book, her upcoming documentary, and women's vocations.

The documentary website:

Isurvivedikdg.com

Jessica's email:

Jessica@Isurvivedikdg.com

Mar 04 2018
1 hour 3 mins
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Rank #6: Counter Purity Movement: Trading one dysfunction for another ft. Justin Megna

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In this groundbreaking episode, Rebecca Lemke interviews Justin Megna about a topic no one else has touched: the "Counter Purity Movement." The Counter Purity Movement is a phrase they have coined for the scorched-earth social landscape some trod following purity culture, which includes outright hedonism, abuse within recovery communities, and versions of Christianity manipulated to be more sexually permissive.

Justin and Rebecca discuss purity culture, the Counter Purity Movement, and some of the ways in which these cultures are two sides of the same coin. They talk about their own - sometimes painful - journeys in finding their way to a healthy, holistic approach to life, love, and Christianity. They are in complete agreement that Jesus Christ should our all-in-all and any path that leads away from him, whether hyper-legalistic or licentious, should be rejected. 

Justin Megna is the creator of thatcrazychristianromance.com, a blog dedicated to sharing biblical wisdom for romantic relationships. Justin teaches a discipleship-based approach to romantic relationships that defies both legalism and licentiousness in romance. He completed a BA in Pastoral Ministry at University of Valley Forge.

Follow Justin on Twitter at @JustinMegna.

Feb 16 2018
1 hour
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Rank #7: Courtship, Criticism, and Christ - An Interview with Thomas Umstattd Jr.

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In this episode, Rebecca interviews Thomas Umstattd Jr., author of Courtship in Crisis. They discuss a variety of topics pertaining to courtship including the varying definitions it has, trying to find relationships after having been immersed in the courtship model, the differences between generations and how they view relationships and Christianity, facing criticism for critiquing courtship, and God's faithfulness.  You can buy Courtship in Crisis here: http://www.thomasumstattd.com/books/courtship-in-crisis/ You can listen to it by going to audibletrial.com/novelmarketing and selecting it for your free audiobook.  You can find Thomas on Twitter here @ThomasUmstattd

Or on his website http://www.thomasumstattd.com/ Thomas currently has two podcasts related to content creation which you can find below.  For novel marketing: https://www.novelmarketing.com/ For creative funding: https://creativefunding.show/

May 11 2018
1 hour 4 mins
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Rank #8: Men and Purity Culture

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"Men can't be sexually assaulted," "men are emotionless," "men are inherently bad because they are sexual," etc. These are all things Rebecca learned about men through purity culture. In this episode, she addresses these assumptions and calls out purity culture's failed promises by pointing out how the side effects of the movement are not unlike the ramifications of a pornography addiction.

For more bonus content and to get your copy of Rebecca Lemke's "The Scarlet Virgins" - visit scarletvirgins.com

Jul 08 2017
7 mins
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Rank #9: Mindset in Marriage

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Our assumptions and internalized beliefs about sex can have a negative impact on the intimacy that takes place in marriage, especially when you've been raised in legalism or purity culture. In this episode, Rebecca challenges some of the common mindset problems that disrupt healthy sexuality such as the nasty rumor that women aren't sexual. She also addresses some of the insecurities that crop up for both sexes, like body imagine issues and previous sexual encounters or assaults.

For more bonus content and to get your copy of "The Scarlet Virgins" by Rebecca Lemke - visit scarletvirgins.com

May 22 2017
11 mins
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Rank #10: The Dynamics of Sex

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In this episode, Rebecca discusses the dynamics of sex within purity culture and the focus on destruction rather than creation. 

If you would like to find more of Rebecca’s content like media appearances, more podcast episodes, and her book The Scarlet Virgins, you can go to www.scarletvirgins.com!

If you would like to support Rebecca in her journey and help her fund more books and other content, please consider becoming a patron over at https://www.patreon.com/RebeccaLemke

Jun 15 2018
4 mins
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Rank #11: Sexpectations

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Both purity culture and secular culture set our expectations of sex (or "sexpectations"). While it may be tempting to reduce one view to being right and the other view to being wrong, we must examine both through the truth of scripture and our own consciences. In this episode, Rebecca talks about what both cultures get wrong when it comes to setting sexual expectations, and encourages listeners to nix what they think they know about sex. 

For more bonus content and to get your copy of "The Scarlet Virgins" by Rebecca Lemke - visit scarletvirgins.com

May 22 2017
9 mins
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Rank #12: Interview with Nick Peters - Marriage, Chastity, and Aspergers

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In this episode, Rebecca interviews Nick Peters on what it is like to be married with Aspergers, his journey of waiting until marriage to have sex, and his insights and advice on men, sexuality, and marriage. Nick runs a Facebook group to support men who are about to get married, it is called As Christ Loved the Church. You can find Nick at Deeper Water Apologetics and on Twitter at @ApologiaNick

May 04 2018
1 hour 2 mins
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Rank #13: Fertility and Purity Culture

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In this episode, Rebecca discussing the second most important part of a woman's identity in purity culture: fertility.

If you would like to find more of Rebecca’s content like media appearances, more podcast episodes, and her book The Scarlet Virgins, you can go to www.scarletvirgins.com!

If you would like to support Rebecca in her journey and help her fund more books and other content, please consider becoming a patron over at https://www.patreon.com/RebeccaLemke

Aug 17 2018
6 mins
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Rank #14: The Truth About Failed Courtships

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When you break off a dating relationship, it hurts. But what happens when you get dumped (by a Dad or otherwise) in courtship? The stakes are the equivalent of a broken engagement, and some would even say a marriage. The pain is excruciating, but if you've had a failed courtship, you aren't alone!

In this episode, Rebecca talks about her own experience with a failed courtship (and her husband's) and what you can do to heal afterwards.

For more bonus content and to get your copy of Rebecca Lemke's "The Scarlet Virgins" - visit scarletvirgins.com

Jun 17 2017
8 mins
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Rank #15: "Why I Didn't Rebel" - Interview with Rebecca Lindenbach

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In this episode, Rebecca Lemke interviews Rebecca Lindenbach on her recently released book "Why I Didn't Rebel." They discuss the definition of rebellion, spanking, mental health, etc. Lindenbach's book is a wonderful resource for both evaluating your childhood and starting a conversation on how you would like to parent. Extra note: Due to the sensitive nature of topics like spanking and single parenthood addressed in this podcast episode, please be advised that it is not our intent to be inflammatory or derogatory in the conversation, but to approach it from our separate backgrounds and experiences and to offer a cross-cultural perspective.
Feb 05 2018
58 mins
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Rank #16: Sexual Suppression

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This is the second episode of The Scarlet Virgins Podcast that has been recorded for Youtube. This episode is on sexual suppression after growing up in purity culture and how it has had an impact on myself and my peers.

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If you enjoyed this topic, you can find more content on the same subjects by getting The Scarlet Virgins book: https://www.amazon.com/Scarlet-Virgin...

Do you benefit from the content I put out? Please consider supporting me on Patreon (it is like giving a tip to your favorite artist): https://www.patreon.com/RebeccaLemke

Subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr3v...

Subscribe to my blog: http://rebeccalemke.com

Follow me on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thatnewcrunchymom

Tweet me on Twitter: http:///www.twitter.com/newcrunchymom

Check out my Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/newcrunchymom

Email me: Rebecca@newcrunchymom.com

Sep 29 2017
8 mins
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Rank #17: Hangups in Marriage After Purity Culture

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Many purity culture "graduates" experience hangups when they get married when it comes to their sexual lives and relationship with their spouse. The fear and shame learned from purity culture often leads them to stay silent about their private thought lives and other intimate details that should be freely shared with their spouse. In this episode, Rebecca addresses a few of these hangups and encourages spouses to love one another fully by working together to overcome these hangups. 

For more bonus content and to get your copy of Rebecca Lemke's "The Scarlet Virgins" - visit scarletvirgins.com

May 26 2017
4 mins
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Rank #18: How to Get Used to Sex When You've Been Raised to be Ashamed

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Hey guys! This is a podcast episode that has been adapted from my article "How To Get Used To Sex When You've Been Raised To Be Ashamed" which you can find here:

http://rebeccalemke.com/2017/08/18/ho...

If you've been raised in purity culture and have trouble owning your own sexuality, this is the video for you.

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Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/Scarlet-Virgin...

Do you benefit from the content I put out? Please consider supporting me on Patreon (it is like giving a tip to your favorite artist): https://www.patreon.com/RebeccaLemke

Subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr3v...

Subscribe to my blog: http://rebeccalemke.com Follow me on

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thatnewcrunchymom

Tweet me on Twitter: http:///www.twitter.com/newcrunchymom

Check out my Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/newcrunchymom

Email me: Rebecca@newcrunchymom.com

Oct 06 2017
17 mins
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Rank #19: Why You Shouldn't "Fake It"

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If you've been raised in purity culture, sex can be incredibly frustrating and you may be tempted to fake an orgasm to make your spouse happy...but don't! In this episode of The Scarlet Virgins Podcast, Rebecca discusses why it isn't a good idea to "fake it" in your sexual relationship with your spouse.

Dec 29 2017
4 mins
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Rank #20: The Pros and Cons of No-Touch Courtship

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No-Touch courtship is a concept that is very popular in Conservative homeschooling circles. It has been made popular by famous families like the Duggars and glamorized to a certain degree that it may not deserve.

In this podcast episode of The Scarlet Virgins, Rebecca discusses the pros and cons of no-touch courtship.

If you like this content, you may enjoy The Scarlet Virgins book, available on Amazon!

Nov 03 2017
6 mins
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