Rank #1: FW 005 : 5 Ways To Get Pregnant Sooner
Rank #2: A Pep Talk For Anyone Struggling Today
Rank #3: Fertility Diet Myths Busted
BUT, I also know that there are certain things (like foods) that I spruik, knowing that there is a little bit more to it than that, so I decided to bring in the big guns!
Jo is a university-qualified nutritionist and really knows her stuff.
We talk about :
the Keto Diet (and her recommended alternative)
Whether or not there is such a thing as THE fertility diet
What foods we need to cut out to optimise our fertility
What gut health means and how we can go about improving it
What a nutritionist does exactly and how they can help people on their fertility journey
What supplements we should take for fertility
Some of our answers might surprise you!
Rank #4: TTC: Should I Go Keto?
Rank #5: 7 Tips For Dealing With TTC Depression 01 1
Rank #6: How To Survive The TWW
Oh man, I had so many two week waits on my journey.
They're maddening, right!
Today on the podcast I've talked about some of what I'm calling the two week wait ground rules.
Giving yourself permission to wonder and analyse the sensations in your body - it's totally OK and normal!
WILLING yourself to be pregnant. Staying positive and hopeful that this is your month #pupo
Trying to resist the urge to test - see my previous post for 10 reasons why you shouldn't test, but the number one reason is that you can often get a false positive or a false negative so you'll almost always need to test at the end of the 14 day period anyway, and whatever result you get initially, could be wrong
Keeping busy to keep your mind off testing. In the podcast I talk about a trip I had to Japan where my Doctor told me that staying busy was the key to avoiding homesickness, and he was right!
I also talk about my 14 day fertility warrior challenge - it's a free challenge that includes a daily love note with tips and stories from me, a colouring in mandala and a beautifully designed affirmation for each day PLUS my bumper list of 101 things to do during the two week wait. It's totally free and will add a bit of fun to your two week wait - what's to lose!
Rank #7: TTC Tips 5 Tips To Help You Nail It 05 1
Rank #8: FW 004 : 11 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship During Fertility Treatments
Rank #9: FW 010 : 8 Things You Need To Know About Ovulation
First up in the podcast I talk about how your ovulation works and all of the hormones at play and exactly what they do.
I also talk about how to track your ovulation using different methods such as tracking your basal body temperature, using your cervical mucus, and when that all gets too much (as it did for me after a number of months!), things that can help you calculate these like saliva tests, pee tests and these nifty devices that help tell whether you're fertile or not using a calculation of your cycle, menstruation dates and basal body temp.
There's so much that can go wrong and that we can get wrong when it comes to ovulation and fertility, that it's important to realise that it doesn't necessarily have to be just timing that is off, and that there are some healthy lifestyle changes we can make to help our fertility.
And lastly, while many of us will do everything in our power to fall pregnant from a lifestyle/timing/complimentary therapy perspective, some of us will still need help from western medicine, and that's ok, but while some of our fertility journey is taken out of our hands, it's important that we have a knowledge of the process and the medications so that we can ensure the right testing is done, and that we're not just given a band-aid approach... because after all.... time is money.... and time is time!!!
Let me know what you thought of this episode!
Rank #10: The Connection Between Stress, Adrenal Fatigue And Infertility
Jules lives in the incredible Byron Bay and works as a Naturopath. Her speciality is adrenal fatigue but Jules was great at explaining to me that adrenal fatigue is kind of like an end point to other things that can be going wrong in our bodies, so Jules is actually dealing with hormonal issues, thyroid issues, auto-immune conditions and all sorts of other gnarly chronic illnesses.
As we were going through the podcast, my brain was constantly thinking 'ding!' - that's a cause of infertility, and also 'ding!' - it's like she is talking to me.
Because I'm exactly the same as you guys - I'm a type A. I've always been driven and worked really hard to achieve my goals (and Jules is the same!), which, for women like us, can lead to burnout really quickly.
Jules shares her tips for how we can get better at stress, tweak our diet to help stop inflammation, and begin to heal.
Rank #11: FW 007 : 11 Questions To Ask Your Fertility Specialist
Or, you have your first appointment coming up and this whole fertility gig is so new to you that you want to ask questions, but you have absolutely no idea where to begin!
Well, I've had my fair share of fertility appointments and treatments, as many of you know! I think it's really important to trust your specialist, but I think it's moreso important to find a specialist you can trust. And, once you find that person, they are the main person responsible for helping you get pregnant, and you'll be paying them a small fortune, so make sure you're educated and ask questions! Don't be shy!
In this podcast I share my 11 questions to ask your fertility specialist.
If you'd like a copy of these questions, then click below to access a printable of them to take along to your appointment.
Rank #12: Episode 19 - Is The Stress Of Your Job Stopping You From Falling Pregnant
On this podcast, I'm encouraging you all to really examine your job and what it is you don't like about it, and delve into how that might look if you weren't working at all, or whether you were working in a different company but same industry or role, or whether a complete job downgrade would be a better fit for you in the season of life you're in right now. Because if your job is stopping you from falling pregnant, the time is right to make changes in your life.
If you don't change, things remain the same.
Rank #13: FW 011 : Interview With Zahra Haji, The Yoga Goddess About Mind-body, Relationships And Yoga
As I mention in the podcast, I just love the energy that Zahra has and the way she can help us all see our infertility in a different light and manage the process better.
I also love the concept that our cycles can be broken up into four different times and that things like menstruation have names like 'The Wise Women' - it makes it sound SO much more glamorous than how we so often see it
Zahra Haji - the yoga goddess
Can you please tell us a little bit more about yoga and your style of yoga?
Yoga has its roots in India, then called Indus Valley. No one really knows how far back exactly but it is estimated to be about 5000-10,000 years ago
According to the ancient science of yoga, the human body has seven energy centres or chakras. Kundalini yoga (which is the yoga I'm trained in) is a physical and spiritual practice of moving energy up from the root chakra of the body for deep healing and inner transformation. This energy flow is key for a woman's fertility because the first three chakras house all the reproductive organs of the female body.
Plus the kundalini energy itself is feminine in nature, and is often referred to as Mata Shakti, which is the feminine Mother energy of creation.
Personally, I have practiced yoga for over 20 years. And while I have deep respect and love for both Hatha and Kundalini, the powerful healing I have witnessed with my clients through Kundalini yoga has been like no other. When guided by a fertility yoga expert, I believe working with the kundalini energy is the fastest way to heal reproductive health challenges.
In the practice I share with my fertility clients, I give them a kriya (a set of prescribed postures) to optimise the functioning of the pituitary gland. The pituitary is the master gland of the endocrine system and is responsible for healthy hormonal and reproductive function. It regulates female reproductive hormones such as FSH (which matures the eggs in the ovaries), estrogen, progesterone, and even oxytocin in labour (which regulates pain).
From a yogic perspective, the pituitary gland also regulates a woman's mental and emotional health and outlook on life, which as we know through the extensive mind-body research on fertility can change a woman's pregnancy rates by over 50% after an average of three years of infertility when she follows a proven mind-body practice designed for fertility. See the show notes at moderndaymissus.com
Rank #14: Episode 21 - Is Your Diet Stopping You From Falling Pregnant
I've handed over the reigns again to one of my fertility warrior friends. This week, I'd like to introduce you to Sarah Clark from Fab Fertile and the reason I've called this podcast is your diet stopping you from falling pregnant, is because that is pretty much the best way to describe what happened with Sarah.
She ate a NORMAL diet, but her body was screaming for her to stop eating certain foods. Infertility, donor eggs, and two kiddos later, and she finally realised what the what was going on with her body, and has now been inspired to share that knowledge with others.
And I love that she isn't just about a one size fits all approach - functional testing (which she explains more in the podcast) is all part of her tailored approach.
Tune in to hear Sarah give advice on the top food items you should ditch from your diet, and how to go about making dietary change in order to supercharge your fertility.
Rank #15: 7 Steps To Surviving Infertility
I DID NOT see that coming!
When I turned 30, I felt the biological clock ticking and thought making babies would be a walk in the park.... until it wasn't.
Fast forward five years and I've had:
- 1 tracking cycle
- 2 ovulation inductions
- 2 IUI
- 2 egg retrievals
- 1 fresh IVF cycle
- 2 FET's
- 1 moderate OHSS
- A miscarriage
- 1 fresh ICSI cycle
... and this year, I had a hysterectomy.
Yup, what the what.
And I'm genuinely happy.
But it wasn't always that way, and in fact, when I had my miscarriage, I was pretty much at rock bottom, up to my ears in fertility diet advice, crashing every time a friend said the wrong thing and it seemed like EVERYONE around me was falling pregnant.
I had all the overwhelm. Sadness. Hopelessness.... and pretty much running around like a headless chook with no idea how to make the days easier on myself and bring myself up from the funk.
But I did.
It was a slow process, and I've spent such a long time helping others with fertility struggles, consulting experts, researching, reading.... and now, more than three years after my miscarriage, I can truly say that I've got this. I can hand on heart handle anything (like a hysterectomy!) the universe throws at me.
And you deserve to feel that way too.
And it's not too hard!
I've developed 7 Steps to Surviving Infertility - 7 interconnected little areas to focus on to help you survive infertility without feeling like you've had the life sucked out of you.
It's totally free and you can register here at http://moderndaymissus.com/7steps
I'm running the workshop on 16 October (there will be a replay available, but it won't be available for long!) and I truly feel that this is filled to the brim with practical yet powerful advice.
If you are struggling with baby making and it all feels like too much sometimes, I would LOVE to help you on your journey.
I've done the hard work and now I want to share it with you.
I'd love you to join my workshop - 7 Steps to Surviving Infertility - this will only be offered for a limited time only, so you snooze, you lose.
I promise you'll have some incredible AHA moments.
Love, light and pineapples
P.S. At the end you'll have the chance to be a part of my new program (woop woop! I'm seriously SO excited!), Be a Fertility Warrior. This is completely optional and for those out there who would like a little bit more support on their journey.
During the workshop you'll learn my best tips and advice on how to survive infertility without the overwhelm and added stress - no strings attached
Rank #16: FW 018 - Interview With Stephanie Roth
I just love that Stephanie's story is so different yet so similar to mine in that she really honed into mindset and engaging in positive mental habits to help her get through her fertility journey, and Stephanie is now a fertility coach, helping be that cheerleader and advice-giver to other women out there trying to conceive. She also runs things like smoothie challenges over on her blog, so make sure you check it out if you'd like to get involved.
Rank #17: FW 016 - Free Guided Meditation For Fertility Warriors
This is my first bash at a guided meditation, so I'd love to know what you think about it!
I've also made it quite generic because I know there are many circumstances when you might want to listen to this.
When you're in the midst of yet another two week wait
When you've just had another negative pregnancy result
Before your first appointment at the fertility clinic
When the clinic calls you and you're trying to absorb what they've just told you
When you're about to give yourself your first injection
When you're psyching yourself up for your first retrieval
When you're trying to wonder how the heck you're going to afford all this
When you finally fall pregnant and start to feel anxious that it all seems to good to be true
So. Many. Situations....
.... That's why I've kept this free guided meditation for fertility warriors a little bit generic!
If you'd like to listen and download it, without the beginning and the end of my podcast, feel free to become a member of Modern Day Missus (it's free, but it gives you access to my little library that has a bunch of free downloads), visit moderndaymissus.com to subscribe
Rank #18: Episode 17 - Saving For IVF
Where you live makes a big difference, and there are lots of differences between people in the US and people residing in Australia and Europe.
In the US, some people have insurance cover provided to them through their employer, and insurance often covers a portion of IVF. In Australia, private health insurance may cover standard hospital accommodation fees, and nothing else, but our Government contributes to a portion of the bill.
Either way, that sh*t's expensive!
And it often doesn't work the first time.
So, what's a gal to do?
Save for IVF, that's what?
Well, that's the money question right there (see what I did there?)
Rosco and I were lucky in that we had been saving to pay of our mortgage for a few years by the time we needed to undergo treatment, so we were able to dip into our savings, plus we both had quite well paying jobs. Second time around was a little bit different as I was no longer working full time, and those savings had evaporated from the first time around, but we were lucky enough to fall pregnant on our second frozen embryo transfer and therefore didn't need a retrieval.
But, I do have heaps of tips for you on how to save for IVF. To me, it comes down to three things:
Getting your money's worth
Rank #19: When To See A Dr About Not Falling Pregnant
Rank #20: How To Be A Better Patient At Your Fertility Clinic
Because the reality is, that we want to fall pregnant and have a baby.
But by working against our fertility clinic, we aren't giving ourselves the best odds, and sometimes the actions we take can work against us and actually harm our chances of falling pregnant.
Tune in to discover 8 ways you can be a better patient at your fertility clinic.