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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

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By JessH336 - Sep 13 2019
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This podcast is so helpful! As a coach I use it as a resource to help me guide my clients back to their own inner light. Thank you Christine, you are so relatable and so loving and so helpful to everyone! I hope to learn from you in person someday!

Great podcast

By Lexisev - Sep 06 2019
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Wonderful messages through some real life podcasts. My only criticism is that I don’t appreciate the in depth talk of health illnesses as I am a healthcare professional & some of the info related to health is incorrect. The messaging behind what Hassler is trying to communicate is fine but to talk about health issues & what happens to the body etc. is often inaccurate & takes away from the overall messaging. Take that aspect with a grain of salt and please consult a healthcare professional for actual biochemical health related issues.

iTunes Ratings

865 Ratings
Average Ratings
818
27
8
5
7

Love Christines coaching style

By JessH336 - Sep 13 2019
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This podcast is so helpful! As a coach I use it as a resource to help me guide my clients back to their own inner light. Thank you Christine, you are so relatable and so loving and so helpful to everyone! I hope to learn from you in person someday!

Great podcast

By Lexisev - Sep 06 2019
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Wonderful messages through some real life podcasts. My only criticism is that I don’t appreciate the in depth talk of health illnesses as I am a healthcare professional & some of the info related to health is incorrect. The messaging behind what Hassler is trying to communicate is fine but to talk about health issues & what happens to the body etc. is often inaccurate & takes away from the overall messaging. Take that aspect with a grain of salt and please consult a healthcare professional for actual biochemical health related issues.
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Over It And On With It

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Christine Hassler provides you with practical tools and spiritual principles to help you overcome whatever obstacles might be holding you back. Each episode, Christine coaches callers live on the air offering them inspiration and guidance to heal their past, change their present and create what they really want. Topics include: relationships, career, health, transitions, finances, life purpose, spirituality and whatever else callers have questions about. Christine coaches "regular people" on problems – and opportunities - we all face. It's a show that reminds you that you are not alone, while also teaching things you can implement in your own life.

Rank #1: CC: YOU are enough

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Listen to this reassuring message from Christine that will remind you of the truth of who you are.

Apr 22 2017
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Rank #2: EP 89: Stop Pleasing People with Laura

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This episode is about reassurance. Laura is a people pleaser. She goes above and beyond for people and doesn’t get it back in return. She then feels disappointed. I work with her on understanding why she people pleases, why it’s selfish to be a people pleaser, and how to shift out of the pattern.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode89]

You may have heard me say this many times before, but people pleasing is selfish. It’s really all about you. You are the one who doesn’t want to upset people, you want to avoid confrontation, and you are the one who is worried about how people perceive you.

Laura knows how to be loving and giving; she just needs to direct it towards herself. Use this call as a catalyst to look at your own patterns without judgment, and without beating yourself up. The key to personal development is to work on yourself, without thinking anything is wrong with you. No one outside of you can give you the acceptance and love you need.

And, to shift out of a pattern, we have to let go of things from our past. We have to come to peace with the fact that some people in our lives are never going to change. Many people don’t have the tools to change, or they don’t want to change. The older they get, the more their patterns are reinforced.

If you feel like the black sheep of the family, or you don’t fit it, it’s ok. You may be the change maker and the lightworker. You may be the one who is willing to break generational patterns. You can love and accept your biological family but find your soul family.

As Gandhi said, be the change you wish to see in the world.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you relate to being a people pleaser?

● Can you acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments, but struggle acknowledging yourself for just who you are?

● Do you feel like the black sheep of your family, and sometimes you are afraid to be who you are because you might lose your family’s approval?

Laura’s Question:

Laura feels she goes above and beyond for people, and they don’t return the effort. She wants to know how to break the pattern of being a people pleaser.

Laura’s Key Insights and Ahas:

● People don’t put as much effort into her as she does for them.

● She continues to look for the love and acceptance she wanted from her mother and father in other people.

● She is looking for attention and validation.

● She feels genuine in her job as a social worker.

● Her father never told her he loved her, and she resents him for it.

● She blames herself for what happened to her as a child.

● She is ready to break past patterns.

● She is the lightworker in her family.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should accept her parents didn’t give her the love and acceptance she wanted, and give herself the love, acceptance, and validation she didn’t get when she was little.

● Everything she wants people to say to her, she should say to herself.

● She should accept her position as the lightworker in her family.

Takeaways:

● When you are doing things for others, check in with yourself to see if you are giving without any expectations or attachment to getting something in return. Ask yourself is this giving really coming from love.

● Reverse the golden rule — Do unto yourself as you do unto others.

● Forgive the past. Let it go. and stop expecting people to change.

● Have gratitude and acceptance if you are the black sheep of the family, and find your soul family.

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May 24 2017
34 mins
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Rank #3: 78: How to Know if Leaving a Relationship is the Right Thing to Do with Anna

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This episode is about being conflicted when making a choice. Today’s caller, Anna, wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is “the right thing to do.”

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode78]

There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it’s hard or takes work is quitting, but opting out of something because it doesn’t align with your core values is a self-honoring choice. So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date?

I believe any relationship takes work, and can be transformed, but sometimes it doesn’t serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment, if there is a drastic difference in values and vision.

And, having guilt is useless. We feel guilty when we judge ourselves for doing something “bad or wrong,” and we think to suffer through the feeling of guilt somehow makes it better.

If you are not married yet, my advice is to wait to marry until you are in a place where you are not looking for someone to fill a void or to meet a need, but rather someone to share your life with.

Trusting ourselves is important. If you want to live in integrity, you have to have self-trust. You can learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community.

Retreat Information — Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the next Bali Retreat in September. If you have objections, but you really want to do it. Don’t let excuses stop you. Contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you in a situation that has reached its expiration date?

● Are you paying more attention to the opinions of others, rather than your own voice?

● Have you left a situation, but feel tremendous guilt about it?

● Do you tend to jump from relationship to relationship, believing that it will be different?

Anna's Question:

Anna wants to be sure she is not making a decision to leave her marriage from a place of fear.

Anna's Key Insights and Ahas:

● She doesn’t need someone to make her feel safe anymore.

● She doesn’t want her marriage to work out.

● She doesn’t know how to deal with the guilt of leaving.

● She needs to take ownership of her feelings.

● She felt she couldn’t trust her own voice.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should acknowledge and appreciate everything her husband has done for her.

● She should use listen to her inner voice and find her own truth.

● She needs to forgive herself for buying into the misunderstanding that she was a bad person.

● She should be clear about why she is leaving, and honor it by being a partner to herself.

Takeaways:

● If you are trying to stick it out in a situation out of pride, fear, or worry about what others will think, be honest with yourself, and make a self-honoring choice.

● Reach out to people who support you and can give you spiritual altitude.

● Make a list of all the qualities you want in a partner, and become all of those things.

● Find yourself during my retreat in Bali.

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Mar 08 2017
44 mins
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Rank #4: 69: Get Over the Pain From a Breakup and Get to the Lessons with Jackie

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Today’s episode is about breakups. I coach Jackie through what she calls an earth shattering, heartbreaking breakup, but the lessons that surface during the call can be applied to any type of Expectation Hangover.

After a breakup, our hearts hurt, we feel grief, and we miss the person we ended the relationship with. The way to get out of grief is not to obsess over your ex, beat yourself up, or go out looking for someone else. The way through the grief is to milk it for all it’s worth, and to see what it is bringing up for you to heal.

In Jackie’s case, her breakup is an opportunity to reframe old beliefs she had around betrayal. She continued to collect evidence for the story she believed from her childhood. Jackie was basically dating her dad. She was trying to get the love, attention and approval from her boyfriend that she never received from her dad.

Remember, whatever you are going through, no matter how challenging it is, remember it is happening for you, not to you. We can get stuck in the loop of pain if we are just looking at the current situation. Don’t think a relationship was a failure just because it ended. Some relationships have an expiration limit. Look for the lessons the relationship is there to teach you. Look for the reasons you brought the person into your life in the first place.

If your intention for the new year is to connect with a community of like-minded people and follow through with your meditation goals, joining my Inner Circle will assist you with both. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com with any questions you may have.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● If you are going through a breakup, are you willing to see the pain as a catalyst for growth?

● Are there breakups from your past you got through, but never really got over?

● Could old wounds be impacting the people you are attracting to a relationship?

● Is there someone you know is bad for you to be in a relationship with, but you find yourself going back for more?

Jackie's Question:

After a recent breakup, Jackie would like to know how she can move past a relationship that was bad for her.

Jackie's Key Insights and Ahas:

● She feels people are deceptive and tricky.

● She felt lucky her ex chose her.

● She played small around her ex.

● She feels like it’s unsafe to be her, and she wasn’t good enough.

● She collected evidence to confirm her long-held beliefs.

● She longed for attention from her dad.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should ask herself what she is learning, and why she drew this person to her.

● She should release the judgment that being vulnerable makes her messy or weak.

● She needs to confront the truth that she was the daughter of an alcoholic.

● She should go back and communicate to little Jackie.

● She should find a connection with the divine masculine.

● Write out a reality check letter to herself.

● She should attend My Signature Retreat in March 2017.

Assignments:

● Read and watch my blog and Vlog about How to Get Over a Breakup.

● Read my book Expectation Hangover.

● Take an inventory of your previous breakups, to see if you are repeating patterns in current relationships.

● Try to attend the ladies only Signature Retreat this March.

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Jan 04 2017
41 mins
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Rank #5: 80: How to Get Over Anxiety with Nicole

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This episode is about freeing yourself from pain and anxiety. Today’s caller, Nicole, is struggling to find her true intuition. She feels it may be lost to her, or clouded over by her deep-seated anxiety. She has used her anxiety for many years to protect herself, but she now realizes it is time to get over it and on with it. We made a beautiful discovery together I hope helps you connect some of the puzzle pieces in your own life.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode80]

The wonderful thing about pain and anxiety is that we have the power to free ourselves from it. Many of the overwhelming feelings we are having now are rooted somewhere in our past. Something devastating caused our young minds to create a program to follow, so we didn’t have to feel that way ever again.

As we grow, the ability to address our fears, and overcome our ‘victim story’ becomes available to us. We are able to comfort our younger selves by self-parenting and through work that is healing.

We also have the ability to acknowledge our need for protection, thank it for its service to us, and move our energy to where we need it now. We can then replace our impulsive responses with our inner voice, which is guided by our intuition. When we find our higher purpose, we find another more self-honoring, self-supportive way to get it.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you suffer from anxiety? Is there something you would like to be free of?

● Whenever you try anything new, does it come with a lot of fear?

● Do you prefer control over uncertainty?

● Did something happen in your past that might still be impacting you, but you are not sure what to do about it?

Nicole's Question:

Nicole has anxiety-driven panic attacks, and lacks self-confidence. She longs to have a deeper life and become connected to the world.

Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas:

● She uses her anxiety as a source of protection.

● She needs to feel she is in control of a situation.

● As a child, she felt vulnerable.

● Her intuition will be clearer when anxiety subsides.

● She needs to respond rather than react.

● It’s OK for her to make mistakes.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should tell her younger self, “things will be alright.”

● Say, “I accept,” and then, “I am choosing to.”

● Interrupt the patterns of anxiety.

● Turn up the volume of her calm inner voice.

● Understand the difference between resignation and acceptance.

Assignments:

● Think about the “big deals,” or significant events in your life. What belief systems were formed then, that might be impacting you today?

● Tell yourself the things you needed to hear during your “big deals.”

● Understand that it was not your fault.

● How does your protective mechanism serve you? Give it a new job description.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

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Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler

@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

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Mar 22 2017
27 mins
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Rank #6: CC: Get it Done! How to Stop Procrastinating and Get Over Feeling Blocked with Samantha Bennett

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Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling, "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library). She is the creator of the www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals. Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, CA, Bennett offers workshops, keynotes and private consulting. She also makes a heck of a roast chicken. 

Her latest book is, "Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers and Recovering Perfectionists" (New World Library, Nov. 2016)

Oct 15 2016
19 mins
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Rank #7: 52: Can You Change Someone? With Linsey

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Today’s caller, Linsey, is concerned her boyfriend may have an addiction to alcohol. She loves him and believes that if he can change they may be able to take their relationship to the next level. She thinks her problem is in her relationship but as our coaching session shows, it has very little to do with her partner and more to do with something deep within herself. 

You cannot change other people. Your desire to change and heal yourself should not be attached to changing someone else. Focus only on yourself.   

It is important to make healthy changes, even if it feels really scary. Unhealthy lifestyles feel familiar and safe because we have been in them for so long. It is crucial to find professional support and to be held accountable when we start making changes. It is difficult for us to do this on our own. Our ego doesn’t like it when we change because it craves certainty. And, as we start to grow in consciousness, the ego starts to hold on a little tighter.

If listening to this call was uncomfortable for you or if it brought up some awareness around your own addictions, consider what you may be using to avoid feeling and dealing. This is why I am creating an Over It and On With It course to give you tools and resources to feel, deal and heal.

Coaches — I could have coached Linsey to get out of her relationship. Personally, I hope she does distance herself from it to focus on her own healing. But, if I coached her in that direction she may have shut down. She said she loves him even though she knows he’s an addict. She feels safe being a co-dependent in the relationship due to her relationship with her mother. I didn’t want her ego to take over and for her to get defensive. It may not have been possible for her to get to the deeper awareness she reached during the call. It’s important to give someone the dignity of their process, instead of encouraging them to make a move they may not be ready to make.

Would you like to connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce? There is a free video training series on my site to help you build your business or obtain your desires from the inside out. Your Secret Sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions, which can help you to feel a sense of belonging and confidence. Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss to get the free videos.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you in a relationship with someone and hope they will change?

● Are you in a relationship with an addict? Are you using an external coping strategy to distract yourself from dealing with something you don’t want to face?

● Do you acknowledge that you may have tendencies towards co-dependency?

● Is your ego feeling dark, and would you like to feel more connected to your soul?

Linsey's Question:

Linsey is concerned her current relationship may be following the same path as her past relationships, and she is unsure about the future.

Linsey's Key Insights and Aha’s:

● She realizes she has co-dependency issues

● She wants her partner to change

● She knows she has walked on eggshells around her mother

● She uses food and television as numbing agents

● She became super-independent because she doesn't believe she can count on anyone else

● She knows she should disconnect from her relationship but doesn't want to

● She can heal this issue

How to get over it and on with it:

● She should be honest about who her partner really is

● She needs to deal with the hurt inside herself

● She needs professional help by way of a 12-step program or a therapist

● She should make a 1-year commitment to not take actions that can’t be done

● She should incorporate a spiritual practice into her life

Assignments and Takeaways:

● Take a serious look at your coping devices. Are they addictions or in the danger zone of becoming addictions?

● Take an honest look at your relationships. Ask people close to you what they notice about your relationships.

● Write a list of the things you desire and what you think will make you feel better.

● Ask the universe to guide you to the help you need and want.

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Sep 07 2016
44 mins
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Rank #8: 42: Dealing with Transitions and Figuring Out Next Steps

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We all go through different phases in life such as graduating, finding our first job, a mid-life crisis, marriage, having a child, starting a company, retiring, etc. There are also different seasons in life to go through which come more frequently than phases. Like the times when we are busy at work, slowed down because of an illness, distracted by a relationship or just going through internal growth; and things that require us to change our pace or priorities.

Consider this, life of an athlete, metaphor shared with me by my friend Lewis Howes. You are not always in the play-offs. In fact, you would burn out if you were. There is a training season, game season, the play-offs and then of course, offseason. To play at their best, players respect the season they are in. It’s important that we respect the seasons we are in to be our best in life.

As I have said before, we often wear our busyness like a badge of honor. Somehow we have made doing, doing, doing greater than being, being, being. We are constantly going for things as a distraction. When we are consistently going for the next big thing we don’t have to feel the little things (that are really big things) we sweep under the rug because we just don’t want to deal with them. AND, we are addicted to control. We are great at putting time and energy into the results we want. The more effort we put into getting what we want the more we feel entitled to get the results. When we get what we go after, we win. It brings a sense of security and accomplishment. We feel safe and on track and we want more. But why do we want more? Because it gives us the feeling of control and we love control because the unknown is downright scary.

The truth is we really don’t have control over our lives. And nothing illuminates that truth more brightly than an expectation hangover.

Today’s caller, Lisa, relates to being a doer and an overachiever. She wants to know what her next big thing is. Even though she may not have given herself time to experience some recent transitions and expectation hangovers in her life.

As our souls grow, our higher self and our inner wisdom know exactly when the right time is to process something. Sometimes we are not ready to deal with something. Sometimes we don’t remember something until later. But when it does start to come up, it is so, so crucial that we respect it and be with it.

Coach’s Tip - Coaches may notice my style is a bit different in this call. I could sense Lisa is a highly, intelligent woman who likes to figure things out. And, because I knew figuring things out was of value to her, I wanted her to have the experience of figuring things out but in a different way. It was important she connected to her own inner wisdom about what she really needed. It was simply my job to hold the space for her and to ask her questions. Remember, realizations people come to on their own are profound.

I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. I also invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you going through a transition and trying to “figure out” your next steps?
  • Do you respect the seasons of your life or are you consistently putting yourself in the play-offs?
  • Have you ever been called or referred to yourself as a control freak?
  • Do you relate to being more of a doer than a feeler?

Lisa's Question:

Several major changes in Lisa’s life have her confused about where to go and what to do next.

Lisa's Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She identifies with being an overachiever
  • She may be avoiding things she doesn’t want to deal with by keeping herself busy
  • It’s uncomfortable for her to feel in a child’s role and not in control
  • She is looking for validation
  • She knows she needs to give her heart more space and honor her feelings

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should create a space so her higher self can come forward and feel
  • She should parent herself to help her to deal with her many losses
  • She should let her heart break wide open and start feeling
  • Allow her mind to be a servant to her heart
  • She should have deep gratitude for where she is right now

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Make sure you make time for yourself. The better parent you are to yourself the better parent you will be to your children.
  • Be attuned to the triggers or memories your children may cause in you. Children are our spiritual teachers. Ask yourself if there is some healing you need to do.
  • Don’t be scared of letting your heart break wide open. Remember that underneath anger or hurt is love.
  • Let your mind be a servant of your heart. Don’t let your mind be your master.
  • A meditation practice of just 5 minutes a day will help you attune to your own inner wisdom and heart.

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Christine Hassler

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Jun 29 2016
30 mins
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Rank #9: 46: Should You Stay or Go? When to End a Relationship with Corinna

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Today’s caller, Corinna, is deciding whether or not to stay in her marriage. Many of us often struggle with whether to stay or go in a relationship. Sometimes the answer is clear, but often it is not. First, there is the love and the history of a relationship including shared assets, children and pets. Second, there is the uncertainty that goes along with making the decision. Ending any type of relationship is not easy and making the choice to do it is hard. We often look for reasons to blame the other person. We collect evidence against them so our decision to leave is easier.

We want to be happy and we think leaving the relationship is the answer. But, just leaving on the energy of blame and rebellion is not enough and does not give the opportunity to learn the lessons the relationship is there to teach us.

If we end something out of fear annoyance or blame, we will have to learn the same lesson over again, with someone else. 

I’ve heard people use the advice that the best way to get over someone is to get over someone else. That’s terrible advice. You only end up using the person you are getting over and once all the hormones wear off, you will be left with the same unresolved stuff you didn’t deal with in the previous relationship. You may then think you keep picking the wrong person, but in reality, the common denominator in the relationship is you.

Don’t do a reactionary breakup. Don’t leave because you refuse to take an honest look at your side of the street. Stop resisting the learning and stop blaming the other person. When we feel blocked about making a choice, it’s often because we are not ready to make it.

I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you currently in a relationship and questioning whether to stay or go?
  • Is there a big decision you are struggling with that you want clarity on?
  • Are there similar patterns that come up in all of your relationships?
  • Have you done self-work that makes you an incredible partner to yourself and consequently to another?
  • Is there something in your life you are missing or not feeling and you are blaming your partner for it?

Corinna's Question:

Corinna is having issues in her marriage. She feels she is isolating herself and is uncertain about her decision to stay married.

Corinna's Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She already knows what her decision is
  • She limits herself but blames her husband
  • She’s gotten lost in her roles of wife and mother
  • She is scared but relieved to start knowing herself
  • There’s a lot she hasn’t been facing

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should read the book Codependent No More
  • Find a counselor or coach to look at how she can show up differently
  • Give herself permission to not make the decision right now
  • Invest time and energy into her own discovery
  • Turn down the volume of the opinions of others 
  • Look at her husband through eyes of observation instead of judgment

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • If you are struggling with a decision, put it on hold. Make the choice not to choose.
  • Stop talking about your struggles with other people. Focus on listening to your own inner knowing.
  • If you are in a relationship, look at your partner through eyes of observation instead of judgement.

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Resources:

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@chrishassler on Snapchat

@christinhassler on Twitter

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Christine@christinehassler.com

Jill@christinehassler.com

Jul 27 2016
29 mins
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Rank #10: 30: The Fear of Being Alone: How to Get Over It!

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There is a difference between being alone and feeling the pain of loneliness. We do not have to suffer from the pain of loneliness if we are enjoying a connected relationship with our self and a higher power. We are never really alone, and the illusion of the separation of God, higher power source or universe, is one of the core misunderstandings we are all here to overcome.

If we tell ourselves things like “I’m alone, I hate being by myself, something must be wrong with me, I really need to be with other people”, then, of course we feel the pain of loneliness. It’s very human to want to be connected and to make sure we are getting our soul food by spending time with people we love.

Feeling isolated or disconnected is incredibly hard. But sometimes it is the pain of loneliness that inspires us to do the work to nurture a better relationship with our self, or to create or deepen a spiritual connection.   

This is exactly what is on the soul agenda for today’s caller, Christina. Her question initially is about the assumptions she’s making that are sabotaging her relationship, but her core issue is fear of being alone. She has a track record of being in toxic relationships or relationships she truly doesn’t want to be in just because it was better than being on her own.

Remember you are never truly alone. You are always connected to infinite and unconditional love from God.

I invite all of you to join me September 16-22 for my retreat in magical Bali which  will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • ● Is your fear of being alone so considerable that you jump from relationship to relationship?
  • ● Do you hesitate to do things alone?
  • ● Are you terrified you will end up old and alone?
  • ● Do you only feel safe when you are with another person?
  • ● Are you longing for a deeper connection to yourself and a higher power so you do not have to experience the pain of loneliness or separation?

Christina’s Question:

Christina feels she is sabotaging her relationship by assuming this partner will do the same things as her previous partner.

Christina’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • ● She panics when she thinks of being alone
  • ● She is trying to learn how to be in a relationship with herself
  • ● She grew up with a fear of losing the people she loved
  • ● She settles in relationships to keep herself from being alone

How to get over it and on with it:

  • ● Redefine what being alone is
  • ● Create a feeling of safety without having someone else there
  • ● Have honest communication with her partner about taking a break
  • ● Bring a spiritual practice into her life
  • ● Apply her own calming tactics into her own life

Tools and Takeaways:

  • ● Understand your default pattern when you feel lonely. What can you tell yourself instead of going into your default pattern? 
  • ● Think of someone you speak highly of and then talk about yourself the same way. You deserve to be the recipient of loving, self-talk.
  • ● Cultivate a spiritual practice.
  • ● Make connections with soul friends and your soul family.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Expectation Hangover

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@christinehassler on Instagram

Christine@christinehassler.com

Jill@christinehassler.com

Apr 07 2016
28 mins
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Rank #11: CC: Breakup Recovery with Chris Seiter

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Chris Seiter is a professional relationship consultant specializing in breakups. He teaches men and women how to get over a breakup or even how to get back with an ex if the situation calls for it. He has been featured in publications like YourTango, Elite Daily, She Knows, Readers Digest and LifeHack. You can learn more about him at www.exboyfriendrecovery.com and www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com.

Nov 26 2016
31 mins
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Rank #12: 51: Dealing with FOMO and Feeling Not Enough – Especially After a Breakup with Emma

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This episode is for anyone who feels like they are missing out, they are being left behind, they are not enough or they do not belong.

Today’s caller, Emma, is feeling left out and resentment towards friends who are continuing their relationships with her ex after their breakup. Her frustrations are  bringing up old issues she has been carrying around for a long time. We uncover the constant moving she went through as a child is still a core issue for her.

It’s important to remember not to minimize things from your past. As a human, there are things you have gone through that are challenging. Things that happen can create certain belief systems and misunderstandings that perpetuate patterns, behaviors and reactions you don’t like.

Resentment and anger protect us from our deeper feelings. It’s easier to feel mad about something than it is to feel the hurt of being left out. We all want to feel connected and that we belong. Feeling separate in any way is painful and it reinforces the core misunderstanding we are separate from God, separate from the universe or separate from each other. Healing that wound allows us to feel we are not separate and to feel we are connected.

If you have standards or conditions about what it takes for you to be good enough, know that you are good enough just the way you are.

Connect to who you really are and discover your Secret Sauce with the 4-video training series I put on my site for you. Your secret sauce is a unique combination of your experience, talents, life lessons and passions that can help you feel a sense of belonging and confidence.   Go to www.christinehassler.com/ss

I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How often do you experience FOMO (fear of missing out)? Have you just gone through a breakup and are having a hard time with all the transitions and all the loss?
  • Are you having challenges with sharing friends after a breakup? Do you want your friends to pick sides?
  • Do you feel the pressure to pick sides if you ARE the friend of a couple who recently broke up?

Emma's Question:

Emma is having difficulty releasing her emotions, which are triggered by her jealousy and frustration over shared friendships after her breakup.

Emma's Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She’s got a bad case of FOMO
  • She has always been hypersensitive about being left out
  • She has always felt like she needed to catch up
  • She feels frustration, anger and resentment
  • She feels relief being able to tie this experience back to core issues

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She can just be herself and be enough through self-acceptance
  • Let her younger self know there is nothing she needs to do to fit in
  • She should find a spiritual practice and talk to God and the Universe
  • She should free herself up emotionally so new soul friends can come into her life

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Look for ways you are trying to fit in or pretend to be someone you are not, and think of how you can show up as fully yourself.
  • Work with your limiting beliefs about being left out. Go back and talk to your younger self and make sure that part of you knows that you do belong.
  • Consider how your spiritual practice is not just about how you connect to a higher power inside you.  It’s about connection and love to the oneness we all are.
  • Practice the horseback rider technique from Expectation Hangover when you experience your limiting beliefs. Re-direct your thoughts to “I belong”.
  • If you are going through a breakup, don’t make your friends pick sides.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

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Christine Hassler Free E-book

@chrishassler on Snapchat

@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Christine@christinehassler.com

Jill@christinehassler.com

Aug 31 2016
41 mins
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Rank #13: Coaches Corner: How to manifest and co-create your year

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The New Year comes with the tradition of making resolutions, which are usually promises to do something “more, better, or different.” We vow to exercise more, get a better job, meditate regularly, fall in love, or find a different way to handle our stress. But does this really do us any good? Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions, yet by March (or even by the second week in January) we may not find ourselves so resolved. We revert back to old patterns and beat ourselves up for not sticking to our resolutions. Could there be a way to ring in the year that serves us better?

YES! And it has been my New Year ritual for the past ten years which I share in todays’ Coaching Corner.  NOTE: you can do this process ANYTIME during the year because it is always a good time to consciously let go of what is not serving you so then you can intentionally co-create your dreams and desires.

Jan 09 2016
7 mins
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Rank #14: EP 166: Moving from Toxic to Healthy Relationships with Elizabeth

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This call is about feeling worthy and transforming the inner critic. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a ‘toxic’ relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.
Nov 14 2018
35 mins
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Rank #15: EP108: Trusting Your Intuition in Love & Relationships with Sandra

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This episode is about listening to your intuition and getting clear about what you want from a relationship. Todays caller, Sandra, realizes she may want to continue her current relationship due to familiarity or comfort and not because it is truly what she wants from a relationship.
Be mindful of what you are scared of and what you are making your number one fear. Sandras fear of losing herself should have been the fear she is paying attention to.
Oct 04 2017
41 mins
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Rank #16: 82: Overcoming Your Inner Critic with Ravi

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This episode is about overcoming the pain our inner bullies create. Today’s caller, Ravi, was bullied as a child, and uses his inner critic as a protective measure. He became isolated and disconnected from his intuition, and he cut off listening to his heart because he didn’t want to feel.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode82]

When we cut off our feelings we not only cut off the pain, but we cut off the love and inspiration as well. What happened in the past does not have to create your future. You can get over it and on with it, but you must be consciously committed to letting it go.

To transform, you need love, wisdom, and compassion from your heart, and alchemy. I guided Ravi through a heart meditation, like this one from a Coaches Corner episode. Ravi experienced clarity after the meditation. His heart said it wanted expression through art.

The next step was to transform his trauma and pain, but Ravi said he didn’t want to go there. Remember, the fear of feeling pain is what keeps you from transforming it. It is possible to alchemize passion, or suffering, into something you love. It takes a lot of energy to suppress pain. If you have had trauma, it can be scary to go there on your own. You should find someone to work with, someone who can go there with you to hold a space for you.

The more you listen to your heart, the more it speaks to you!

Join me this September at my retreat in Bali. Visiting a magical place with like-minded people will transform your mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique experience where you can experience significant healing that will last the rest of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Are you trying to figure out your issues or challenges in your head?

● Were you bullied, teased or criticized as a child or a teenager, and it still haunts you today?

● Do you have a past trauma you are terrified to address and feel?

● Would you say you live more in your head than in your heart?

Ravi's Question:

Ravi wants to know how to find purpose in his life.

Ravi's Key Insights and Ahas:

● He disconnected from his conscious mind to cope with the trauma.

● He internalizes the external bullying.

● He’s scared of failure and being made fun of.

● He has managed his pain, but has not yet transformed it.

● He is in an avoidance pattern and protective mode.

● He’s been in the midst of self-loathing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● He should tap into the passion he experienced to create art.

● He could help other people who have been bullied.

● He needs to listen to his heart.

● He needs to start alchemizing his pain.

● He should practice release writing when he feels sadness.

Assignments:

● Read The Lesson Quest and Your Life’s Purpose in Chapter 9, The Spiritual Level in Expectation Hangover.

● Be honest about what you are attempting to figure out, and alchemize it.

● Listen to my Coaches Corner with Jim Kwik.

● Volunteer and be of service to someone else to help you with your inner critic.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Over It and On With It Listener Survey

Expectation Hangover

Inner Circle Membership Community

Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler

@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information

Bali Retreat Enrollment Page

Apr 05 2017
36 mins
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Rank #17: 62: Unfulfilled at Work? How Do You Know When It’s Time to Leave Your Job? with Corey

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This episode is about fulfillment and what to do when we start to feel restless, bored, or lose our passion for something. Today’s caller, Corey, is feeling unfulfilled regarding his job, but many of you may be feeling unfulfilled in your romantic relationship or friendships.

Corey thought the solution to his lack of fulfillment was changing his job, but he didn’t know what to do instead. A lack of fulfillment often comes with a lack of clarity. Corey will gain clarity and feel fully, authentically self-expressed, the more he takes risks and listens to his heart.

We think that changing the external situation of finding a new job, or finding someone new to be with, is the answer -- that is not often the solution. It could perpetuate the problem.

So, what are you truly longing for? Tap into the longing, and instead of thinking you need to change your external circumstances, think about how you can give yourself what you are longing for, now. How can you take action, and create behaviors that support you?  Before you quit your job, or end a relationship, get honest with yourself about what might be there for you to learn, and how you might be creating your own discontent.

Often, we feel an inner call to reach out to someone, or to share something, and we ignore it. Please don’t ignore it, because you never know what will happen. The only way you can get a no for sure, is if you never ask or never reach out. The only way you are ever going to fail, is if you never try. Regret is far more painful than risk. So, take that risk. Reach out to that person. Speak up.

Do that thing your intuition has been nudging you to do. You never know how it will impact the person on the other end. Don’t allow your self-doubt, or fear of another person’s reaction, to stop you from listening to your heart. Let your intuition be louder than your inner critic.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Is there an area of your life in which you feel unfulfilled? Are you fantasizing about leaving your current job or relationship?

● Do you relate to being a “yes man,” or a “yes woman”? Are you afraid to say no and stand up for yourself?

● Do you long to feel safe, validated, and accepted?

Corey's Question:

Corey is considering leaving his current job but is trying to figure out what is next for him.

Corey's Key Insights and Aha’s:

● He feels burnt out and unfulfilled in his current position.

● He felt he was always loved conditionally.

● He searches for external validation.

● He has no idea what is next for him.

● He comes up with excuses to keep himself safe.

● He doesn’t feel authentically self-expressed.

● He realizes he has built a box around himself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● He should take steps to change his behavior and take more risks.

● Transform himself in his current position, so he can move through the reactive energy.

● He should establish a better relationship with himself.

● He should listen to his heart, and act on his intuition.

● He should celebrate who he is, and receive the compliments given to him.

● He should carry a picture of his younger self, and when he is self-defeating he should look at his picture.

Assignments and Takeaways:

● If you feel unfulfilled how can you take responsibility, and change on the inside, instead of making an external change?

● What did you crave when you were little that you didn’t get, that you need to give yourself now?

● How can your current soul family support you in making changes?

● Take a deep breath and breathe into the truth of who you are. Then, set the intention to be more authentically self-expressed.

● Speak kindly to yourself.

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Nov 16 2016
41 mins
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Rank #18: 59: How to Feel More Connected Spiritually and Have Faith with Toni

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The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it’s challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today’s caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are. We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn’t feel there was any kind of God.

There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world. The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will.

While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is available to us all, is to make the choice to see the world through spiritual eyes. See ourselves through more spiritual eyes, without judgment; to see through the eyes of infinite and unconditional love. To heal our own pain that is preventing us from feeling connected to a higher power. We are moving into more acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude.

If you are craving a deeper spiritual connection, please don’t wait for God to prove itself to you -- instead, open your heart, and pray to be shown the way.

You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You are one. You are love. You are connected.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you feel you are operating more out of fear than faith?

● Are you making a lot of decisions with fear or self-doubt?

● Are you a people pleaser, who is afraid of disappointing people?

● Is connecting to a higher power challenging to you? If you do have a connection, would you like to deepen it?

● Are there situations in your life that make you doubt whether a God exists?

Toni's Question:

Toni feels all aspects of her life are affected by her making decisions from a place of fear. She would like to find a way to think more productively.

Toni's Key Insights and Aha’s:

● She fears failing and disappointing people.

● Her self-worth is based on her people pleasing.

● She’s confused about what security and love really are.

● She hasn’t felt protected, or connected to her spirituality, since her father passed.

● She feels like she would be clearer, if she had a spiritual connection.

● She has been operating in survival mode.

● She should know she is not broken.

● She can change her relationship with herself, today.

● She can focus on her blessings, not on her fears.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● She should realize she can access her spirituality.

● She should start processing her pain, and remove judgment, to arrive at forgiveness and love.

● She should put herself in an environment where she can heal.

● She can start cultivating her relationship with God, by talking to him/her.

Assignments and Takeaways:

● What is in your way of a connection to a higher power?

● What is keeping you in patterns of people pleasing and indecision?

● Do you have old trauma that needs to be processed?

● What beliefs may be keeping you from having beliefs?

● What religious upbringing did you have, which no longer resonates with you?

● You need to find which truth resonates with you.

● Look for a spiritual community of people who are committed to awakening, and who know we are all connected to source. 

● Start to develop a relationship with your higher power.

● Pray. Pray for experiences, feelings, and pray to be shown the way.

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Christine Hassler

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@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Christine@christinehassler.com

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Oct 26 2016
41 mins
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Rank #19: CC: A conversation with my man, Stef Sifandos, about men

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This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a “conscious man” means and requires.

Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/

A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and
Jul 21 2018
1 hour 16 mins
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Rank #20: 68: Overcoming Self Doubt and Fear with Anneke

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LIsten in as I coach Anneke on putting her self doubt behind her so she can make the career changes she longs for by tapping into her unique gifts.  It is important we all take time to look at the gifts we were born with. They are the gifts that lead to your calling, and the gifts that make you, you. Often, we disconnect from our gifts and the truth of who we are. It is when we are too paralyzed and blinded by self-doubt that we forget about and disconnect from our natural gifts.

This call with Anneke was the first episode of the Over and On With It podcast. This session stands out for me because we explored the question, “Who am I?” and because of the level of vulnerability Anneke shared.

Remember, we get to choose who we are. Not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people’s views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It’s up to us to embrace them and use them.

After listening to this call I welcome you to revisit and complete the ‘Who am I?’ essence exercise from my introductory episode, The Why Behind this Podcast.

Would you like to connect with a community of like-minded people and get all of my #lifehacks? You will when you join my Inner Circle. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

● Do you feel like you are really living authentically?

● Are you fully expressing who you are, or are you being a version of yourself?

● Do you struggle with loneliness?

● Are you in touch with your emotions?

● Are you concerned about what other people think of you?

Anneke's Question:

Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is, and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen.

Anneke's Key Insights and Ahas:

● Acknowledging she sugarcoats her difficult emotions.

● She doesn’t want to be a burden on others.

● Loneliness has been her friend, because it’s when she gives herself a break.

● It’s ok for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self.

● Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone, because those emotions are familiar.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

● Try taking actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic.

● Don’t compare yourself to other people, embrace your own essence.

● Be willing to remember the essence of who you truly are.

● Invite spirit into your space.

● Practice self-forgiveness.

● Don’t be defined by what other people have told you about you.

Assignments and Takeaways:

● Write out who you are, what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make ‘I am’ statements with your answers.

● Pick 2‒3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with.

● Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

The 'Who Am I?' Essence Exercise

Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler

@christinhassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Christine@christinehassler.com

Dec 28 2016
34 mins
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