Rank #1: "When they misbehave the most, that's when they need us the most." Speaking with Dr. Laura Markham for podcast episode 255!
posted an article by today's guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham.
As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too!
Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids.
I hope our conversation helps you gain a better understanding of this whole parenting thing. It sure helped me!Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:
During today's break I share about two helpful free guides I offer. While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.
You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )
- Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
- Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/255 for:
- Links to Dr. Laura's website, which contains tons of resources for you
- Information on my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out in the world!!
- The video of the week: "How to get my kids to stop fighting with each other"
And thank you so much for listening!
Rank #2: Bonus: Join the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!
If you want to: – Handle afterschool activities, bedtime routines, and homework like a ninja parent – Work better with everyone who looks after your child – Deal with the time crunches and scheduling issues that come with the parenting job – Feel better within yourself
I've got a 21-day challenge to help you!
Streamline your whole life during these 21 days (which begin as soon as you join, no need to wait at all), work closely with me on your toughest parenting conundrums, and feel like a new person at the end!
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Rank #3: 175: "How can I get my kids to listen to me the FIRST time I ask?"
Today we take on one of the toughest issues of all: getting our kids to listen to us.
This is something every parent deals with and in recent weeks I've been asked about it more than once.
Stephanie says "they seem to have come to me without the ability to listen;" Jocelyn says she struggles with "kids not listening and obeying the first time I ask (or the first ten times)"…
Is this you? Do you find yourself standing in the kitchen sometimes, with your son or daughter in the next room, and your voice is getting louder and louder and you're clenching your fists and rolling your eyes… And still you're not getting the response you need?
Well then, today's episode is for you.
Listen by going to weturnedoutokay.com/175 – that is where you can also sign up for the Streamline Your Mornings challenge, starting September 4 and helping you quell the weekday-morning chaos!
Rank #4: The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent's Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)
one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase.
It's dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids, which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it.
You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have.
Today I share: – Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent's vocabulary are – Why these words get used so often – What you can say instead for good behavior from your child
Today's episode helps you get past the bad behavior so you can fulfill your ultimate goal of truly enjoying family time!
Read more about these two dangerous words and what to say instead… Find every back episode of the We Turned Out Okay podcast… Sign up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class… All at weturnedoutokay.com/219.
Rank #5: 107: Toxic Stress, Child Development, and Your Questions – American Academy of Pediatrics President Dr. Benard Dreyer Joins Me Today
Welcome! To listen to today's episode, school on down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular "play" button.
About today's episode:
With the school year starting, a contentious election giving the feeling of continual hate and negativity in the air, and reports of yet another thing for parents to be worried about – toxic stress in their young children – I knew we needed some voices of reason in our lives.
This conversation marks the beginning of a series of interviews I'm offering this fall called Voices of Reason, where we hear from well-known and influential people with something to say that will make you feel better about the world you're raising your young children in.
I hope this series helps you get through the next few months with less worry and more hope in your life!
Today's guest is the head of an organization with many voices of reason…
In all likelihood your child's pediatrician is among them, because the organization is the American Academy of Pediatrics, and today I have the privilege of bringing you my conversation with the AAP's president, Dr. Benard Dreyer.
Over the summer I started to hear about this scary thing happening in younger and younger kids, called toxic stress. What I read chilled me to the bone: exposure to violence, deprivation, and neglect can affect kids' development in a lifelong way, both physically and mentally.
In his capacity as President of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Dr. Dreyer is working to raise awareness of this condition, and to help parents combat it.
But our conversation brings up much more than that.
We discuss the holy grail of parenting styles – the authoritative, sometimes called wise, style – and the kind of traits authoritative parents exhibit; Dr. Dreyer answers your questions about toxic stress, how to get kids to eat healthy foods, and the problems of antibiotics resistance; and Dr. Dreyer gives his three most important things parents can do each and every day to raise happy, curious, and resilient children.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/107 to listen, for detailed notes about our conversation, learn about the AAP's campaign against virtual violence,and to find out how to contact Dr. Dreyer!
Rank #6: 104: "Selective Mutism Is Not a Choice" - A Conversation with Mom and Globetrotter Sabrina Rizk
What if your child, while perfectly capable of speech, simply can't speak in certain situations, like at preschool, school or daycare?
That's the situation that Sabrina Rizk and her husband, Anthony, found themselves with their now-nine-year-old daughter Hannah was entering preschool.
My conversation with Sabrina starts off in another really cool direction: we get to talk about the round-the-world trip Sabrina, her husband, and their two daughters took during the 2015 academic year!
Sabrina shares about the trip, how Hannah and younger sister Amy adapted to the traveling, and how Anthony got a six-month leave of absence from his software development job for the trip.
Sabrina kept a blog – and is writing a book series for children – about their trip; visit weturnedoutokay.com/104 for podcast notes about selective mutism and traveling around the world, links to the book series and Sabrina's blog, and to listen!
Rank #7: 091: We Consider Family-Life-Work Balance on Today's Podcast Field Trip
Today we get kinda serious on our podcast field trip, but in the best way, as we visit The Broad Experience! It's "the show about women and the workplace," as host Ashley Milne-Tyte often says, and is relevant not just to every woman, but to every man who has a mother, a significant other, a female coworker, or a daughter in his life.
First, a quick note about the Ninja Parenting Community: I've had a technical glitch hold up the opening for a few weeks, which is a bummer. However, it can work out really well for you because, as compensation, I'm offering more one-to-one support to those who become part of my email group and join the community in its very first week! (Hopefully in late July.) Becoming part of the email group now means: – a weekly email about what's happening on We Turned Out Okay – the chance to join the Ninja Parenting Community at the best pricing that there will ever be, period. – a one-to-one parent coaching call every three months for all the time you're continuously in the community! – I'm offering this as compensation for the time we are all stuck waiting as I figure out the technical glitch, so you definitely want to jump into my email group! Become part of the email group by clicking this link or going to weturnedoutokay.com/ninja-parenting-community-login and signing up to get notified about when the Ninja Parenting Community opens.
Last summer I had the pleasure of interviewing Ashley, and I loved our conversation so much that I featured it again this spring! To hear our conversation, go to weturnedoutokay.com/069. For links to the specific Broad Experience episodes I talk about in today's We Turned Out Okay – and also for the link to my friend Geoff Woods's podcast, called The Mentee (and whom I speak about today because he and his wife gave me a lovely endorsement for my book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics) – go to weturnedoutokay.com/091.
Get on the bus and come to this week's Podcast Field Trip! – For Ashley's conversation about work and intimacy with guest Evelyn Resh, click: here – thebroadexperience.com/listen/2016/6/17/episode-86-work-and-intimacy-part-1 – for part one; here – thebroadexperience.com/listen/2016/6/24/episode-87-work-and-intimacy-part-2 – for part two; and here – thebroadexperience.com/listen/2013/5/24/episode-19-women-work-and-sex.html – for Ashley and Evelyn's first conversation back in 2013
Find out more about Geoff and his journey from employee to entrepreneur by going to menteepodcast.com.
Rank #8: 014: How to Take Great IPhone Pictures with Andre Nguyen of iPhoneographyinsiders.com
I'm so excited about this episode, part of our Summer Camp series in which we are setting aside our usual four themes (3R's, Unplanned Adventures, Kids through the Ages, and Risky Business), pouring a nice tall glass of iced tea – or Long Island Ice Tea, depending on your age and what time of day it is – and going on vacation! We will return to our regularly scheduled programming in September, but for now… Let's just enjoy summer!
Great news! During our interview today iPhoneography teacher Andre Ngyen offers you a week's free coaching by email! You can find out how to get this bonus by listening to the episode. Speaking as a student of his I know you're not going to want to miss out; his great ideas will help you take fantastic family vacation pictures!
If you want to see the pictures I took with Andre's guidance, click here – that will take you to last week's blog post in which I previewed the pictures we talk about in today's episode. Enjoy!
If you have any desire at all to capture great summer memories, great photographs of your kids and family – and pets – using just your iPhone, then you are going to love today's guest. Andre Nguyen of iPhoneographyinsiders.com is first and foremost a talented photographer, but most importantly he really wants to help the rest of us take great pictures.
Today's conversation includes lots of fun stuff: summer memories, dog stories, my excitement about sharing when I got to go see this amazing art installation in Boston on the Rose Kennedy Greenway… and because Andre gave us so many tips and apps, I'm going to list them here:
- the first, easy and fun, is to simply tap the light source on your phone to completely change the amount of light in the picture; in other words, if you want a picture of your husband kissing the top of your baby's head with his son in the background, tap the sun – you'll end up with a silhouette picture! Really, really cool
- next, be playful – take a variety of pictures of the same scene, in which you have tapped different places on the screen (which left in different amounts of light), try different poses, see if you can capture your kids jumping in the picture, use your imagination
- when indoors, capturing enough light can be tough for the iPhone which results in grainy photographs where you literally see many pixels; Andre recommends using a strong light source and once again tapping on that light source on the iPhone screen
- a great app: photographer's ephemerist, which tells you the angle of the sun, and exactly where it will be setting in the sky, on any given day; Andre uses this to plan his sunset photography, knowing exactly where and when the sun will be passing specific buildings, and then he can pull out his iPhone and play
- another great app, Slow Shutter Cam,which allows you to let more light in and thus get cool blurry effects – if you take Andre's suggestion of doing a selfie on a merry-go-round with your children, please send it along! This sounds like the coolest idea in the world, my boys are too old for merry-go-rounds, I gotta see this in action :-)
- Andre's favorite website for getting prints of his photos is called artifactuprising.com, where he's gotten beautiful print of his pictures at decent prices
- on instagram, Andre goes by@AndreHarrison, and I just know you're going to want to head over to instagram and check out his artwork, which is amazing! You can also find it at his two websites: techminimalist.com and iPhoneographyinsiders.com
Once you start taking amazing pictures using Andre's tips, please email me some pictures! You can do that by going to weturnedoutokay.com/contact, or just emailing Karen@weturnedoutokay.com. I can't wait to see what you come up with!
Rank #9: 098: How to Help Your Child Make Friends: Week 7 of Summer Camp!
Rank #10: 005: Four Risks To Our Kids' Well-Being That We Take Far Too Often
Sometimes as parents, we think we are limiting the risks to our kids by taking an action – or backing away from an action – when instead, their well-being and happiness would be better insured by doing something completely different. In this episode, I highlight four common things parents do (I know this, because I did them too!) where it would be better to go in the exact opposite direction.
- the dangers of sticking close by your child's side at all times; when we do this, we take away his or her chance to develop independence, creativity, and problem-solving capabilities
- the risks of using antibacterial soap; this one keeps me up at night, and it's pretty clear that it also keeps scientists and other super-smart people up at night too
- how we fail our children when we don't question a teacher or other authority figure who insists that our child has ADHD or ADD; while there is some risk that our son or daughter may have these or other learning disabilities, I share that during my years of teaching young children – and earning my Masters in Early Childhood Education – these diagnoses are given out far more often than they should be; increasingly, kids are put in an environment that is far too restrictive… In short, it is my opinion that schools, and not children, are often the problem when it comes to kids' misbehavior
- the importance of comics – yes, cartoons, graphic novels – in a kid's journey towards becoming a reader; when adults ban comics, or even disrespect them, we run the risk of limiting our kids' ability to thrive as readers
Whether you agree or disagree, I encourage you to really give some thought to the above Four Risks. Reasonable and intelligent adults can disagree, but the biggest risk of all that we can take is not giving consideration to any big issue that affects our children while they're young, because the effects of our choices compound when they are grown up.
Rank #11: 157: Three Steps to Well-Behaved Kids Out In The World
Any graduations, weddings, vacations, or visits with family coming up in your life? If you're nervous about how your child will behave, hopefully we can help you feel better by the end of this episode!
As I see it, there are three steps to getting our little kids to behave out in the world (at least – most of the time…)
Click weturnedoutokay.com/157 for the show notes, including an outline of the 3 steps, for a picture of "the wedding where we do karate," and for key links that come up in this episode!
Rank #12: 092: How NOT to Teach Your Young Child to Ride A Bike
Today, summer camp is all about the joys of bike riding! Have you tried to teach your child how to ride a bike, only to abandon the effort after she expresses fear and has many falls? Are you unable to get him off the training wheels?
We screwed up in trying to teach our first born how to ride a bike; by the second kid, we had figured it out.
Learn from our family experience – go to weturnedoutokay.com/092 to read about the two things you absolutely should never do when teaching your child how to ride a bike!
Rank #13: 102: Why Kids Need Music and Other Sensory Experiences Well Beyond Summer Camp
In today's last Summer Camp episode, we talk about how to get kids the musical and sensory experiences they need – and why they need these experiences so much.
My first job out of college, I worked in the infant room of a day care center with kids age about 6 months old to about 1-year-old. Each week, the center brought in a guitarist to sing and play to the babies, and I was absolutely amazed at how they responded: no matter where they were in our room, they crawled over to the guitarist, dancing in that bouncing-up-and-down way that babies have, grinning and laughing and trying to touch the guitarist in the guitar. It was amazing!
That experience was my first taste of how very badly children need music in their lives.
Then, as a preschool teacher and earning my master's degree in early childhood education I learned how important other sensory experiences are to help regulate the kid's mood, workout aggressions, and learn kinesthetically.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/102 to listen and for notes about how to get music and other sensory experiences into your child's life!
Rank #14: 017: Our First Q&A, and 4 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Challenging Situations
This week, we take a temporary break from We Turned Out Okay's Summer Camp series so that I can help you know how to talk with your children when a challenge arises.
Sometimes, even in beautiful summer, bad things happen, and today I share about the tough situation my family and I have found ourselves in over the last several weeks. But rest assured – we've still got three lovely, golden August weeks left to enjoy summer and we will do so!
One last thing before we get into the notes, this show has an epilogue, so after I have said "thanks for listening, see you next time" you still want to keep listening – I have something to share about both the Q&A, and about our dogs.… Not exactly a Hollywood ending, but a better one then I had ever thought could happen!
A Breakdown of Today's Show
Today's show is split into two parts, but before I get to those there is a really neat thing I wanted to share – friend-of-the-podcast Muttaqi Ismael, an amazing whiteboard video artist, has turned a favorite part of We Turned Out Okay: episode 5 – Four Risks That We Take With Our Children's Well-Being Every Day into a fantastic whiteboard video! He's a very talented guy, and to see the video just go to weturnedoutokay.com/017, where it is embedded… My plan is to give the video its own blog post during this month of August. Meantime, enjoy! And thank you Muttaqi – you did a great job!
Our First Q&A!
And now on to the Q&A – Jill asks: "why are my three kids awesome at swim lessons when daycare brings them, but when mommy brings them I'm practically holding their hand in the water (and that's if they actually get in the water) – we've been doing swim lesson since March BTW"
We've all noticed this at some point in our parenting lives, haven't we? Why do they behave incredibly well for somebody else, and freak out for us? Jill, I'm so glad you asked this question because it is such a common concern. My answer dives (pun totally intended) into my experiences with how my kids behaved when they were small at Grandma's versus how they behaved with me – and I recorded the epilogue because, almost as soon as I hit stop recording this episode, I realized that I had been in a very similar situation to yours!
I hope you find my answer helpful, and that it helps you think of other questions to ask. I love Q&A's, I think they're so helpful and also they help us know we are not alone. To submit a question, you can email Karen@weturnedoutokay.com, go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact, friend me on Facebook, find me on twitter@StoneAgeTechie, on instagram@weturnedoutokay… Heck, you can even snail mail me! My address is PO Box 61, Bellingham, MA, 02019.
4 Ways to Help Your Child Cope with Challenging Situations
The main part of this show focuses on the four ways you can help your child cope with challenging situations. This came up because my family has been in a very challenging situation: about six weeks before this episode aired for the first time, we adopted two amazing, awesome dogs… And then the stress of caring for them caused a relapse in tendinosis, this condition that I live with that, at times, has left me unable to walk (which I've since relearned) and with extremely limited upper body and hand use.
Long story short, these wonderful dogs entered our lives and within a very short time, we had to give them up. Truly, it was either them or my health and sanity.
In this episode, I share about how heartbreaking and difficult this has been. But I also share about how grateful I am to have had them in our lives, and how amazed I am by the strength and gentleness of both my husband and our two boys.
Most importantly for you, I share about how we got through this. Because when you are in a tough situation and you don't know how to help your kids get through it as well, it's really helpful to have a guide. I hope you will think of this podcast as your guide!
Here are my four steps to coping with challenging situations, and helping your kids cope as well:
1) communicate with your kids; they WILL know that something is wrong, and consequently you will notice, if you try to keep everything from them, an uptick in bad behavior, anxiety, and tears; sharing with them what you can on their level reassures your kids and helps them trust you
2) help them understand that you are all in this together; be there for tears, questions, reassurances
3) find a way for them to help; children need to be needed, and when you give them a job – a truly meaningful job that truly helps you, however small – they become part of the solution
4) cherish the time we have with our loved ones; because challenging situations often include the absence of a person that they used to see a lot – whether through divorce, or death, or a cross-country move – it is really helpful to talk with our kids about how people come in and out of our lives; sometimes, people are not meant to be with us for long, or not without long intervals between seeing them, and the most important thing is to appreciate the time we have with our loved ones, and cherish the memory of them when we are not with them
Giving up our dogs due to my illness is one of the hardest things we've faced as a family. I'm sharing this experience with you today because I really hope it will help you with the challenges that inevitably come up in your life. Kids are amazingly resilient, and cope well with life's challenges, especially when we grown-ups take the time to communicate with them, share in grief together, find meaningful ways for them to help, and above all teach them to enjoy the time we have with the people we love.
Rank #15: How to Help Kids Get Along: Masterclass | Podcast Episode 287
How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other?
(FYI: I'm taking your questions for an upcoming episode! What's on your mind about your kiddos right now? I'm a child development expert and parent coach, I'd love to help! Ask, and I'll address your question in our August 6 episode... I'm taking questions until Thursday, August 1 (which is when I'll record the episode.) Go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact to ask your question : )
No matter the season, there's always an opportunity for kids to come into conflict with other kids.
Whether siblings, cousins, classmates or just somebody at the playground, mean words, pushing, and other acts of frustration or aggression abound.
So, do we parents just have to live with it, put up with the bickering and hard feelings?
This masterclass is a distillation of three months' worth of work in the private, online community I run for parents of young children. During April, May, and June 2019 we dove headfirst into the problems real parents really experience, and how to alleviate it when kids aren't getting along.
Today I'm bringing you behind the scenes, directly into the Ninja Parenting Community, sharing the information you need to help your kids actually get along!
Some of these ideas may seem unconventional, and likely (unless you are a member of NPC) they are new to you, but they REALLY work.
In fact we finish out with a success story! How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other?
Find out in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!
Plus in Parenting News: This article in the Atlantic, on Fred Rogers (of Mister Rogers' Neighborhood) and how he approached speaking with children, is one of those articles I wanted to hug to my chest <3 I share why in today's Parenting News segment. Plus I read my recent review of Audrey Monke's wonderful book, Happy Campers!
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- Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you: remain sane while raising your kiddos! Past editions have included: – How to get your child to take more responsibility – How to teach your child social skills – Under what circumstances, if any, you should let your child watch YouTube. Useful stuff. Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to receive my Weekly Parenting Newsletter, so it zooms right into your inbox each week!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/287 for:
- Notes from this Masterclass on How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids
- The Masterclass video
- Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more
And thank you so much for listening!
Today's episode is brought to you by… You, if you have purchased one of my parenting books! I write books that help parents truly enjoy family time, by sharing tools and formulas that you can use to change your child's behavior from bad to good, and also that help you feel happy inside. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/books to check them out!
Rank #16: 139: 3 Ways to Help Your Anxious Child
When listener Marcy wrote recently, asking for help with her son, whom "counselors and therapists believe may be suffering from depression and anxiety," and the decision to either keep him in school or pull him out to homeschool, I initially thought I'd answer her question in a Your Child Explained episode, and address the school-homeschool decision.
On reflection, however, I saw something bigger in Marcy's question and decided to focus this Just You and Me episode on the bigger issue: how to help when a child is anxious or depressed.
Kids can be anxious and/or depressed for any number of reasons.
As parents, even if we are not completely sure what's causing the worries and anxiety, it's our job to do everything we can to help.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/139 to read Marcy's full question and the three ways I identify to help, as well as links to other helpful resources!
Rank #17: 140: How to Be Happier In Your Parenting: A Conversation with Mom, Author, Columnist and New York Times Contributing Editor KJ Dell' Antonia
Today's guest didn't set out to be a writer. But after getting her law degree and being a practicing attorney for six years, she made a discovery: law just wasn't her thing; instead, she found, she was a writer.
In the spirit of finding stuff out through writing, KJ Dell'Antonia began freelancing about motherhood; she's written for Slate magazine, Parenting magazine, Parents magazine, and many others. She is now a contributing editor and columnist on the Well Family page at the New York Times, and currently on book leave to write – what else? – a book that's going to help us be happier in our parenting.
KJ shares where her research for this as-yet-unnamed parenting book is taking her, and you're going to be thrilled because she's investigating all the problems that you are most likely currently living with!
To find out how to handle getting your kids to do more around the house, how to help with homework, and how to be a part of KJ's chores project (i.e.: getting your kids to do more chores) click weturnedoutokay.com/140!
Rank #18: 213: The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting
Are the frightening and persistent questions of life weighing on you right now?
Today I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn't leave me alone…
Today I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too.
This minicourse is all ready for you over at weturnedoutokay.com!
It's called The Three Secrets of Happy Parenting, and today's episode is also the intro to the course.
Sign up by going to weturnedoutokay.com/213!
And thank you so much for listening : )
Rank #19: Raising boys who are empowered, and not jerks: A Conversation with Dr. Michael Reichert | Podcast Episode 285
Hey my friend! Next week I'm teaching a FREE workshop on independence, for your child and you, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group: click this link to take part or scroll down right here in your podcatcher to find out more!
When I first saw How to Raise a Boy,
the book today's guest, Michael Reichert, PhD, wrote, I knew I was in for a treat. Dr. Reichert 's writing is a skillful blend of personal stories and relevant, amazing research, and before I knew it I was highlighting, marking pages with Post-it notes, and pumped to speak with Dr. Reichert!
And, our conversation does not disappoint. If you've got questions about: - Your son turning into a "mama's boy" - How to (in the words of one of our WTOO Facebook group members) "empower boys to be their best selves without being jerks" - Or even if you have questions about why – if you're raising girls and not boys – you should care; You'll find this conversation relevant and compelling.
I'm so thankful to Dr. Reichert for coming on the show today, and I hope you enjoy our conversation, and learn from it, as much as I did.
Plus in Parenting News: I've just learned of an amazing new resource for parents, the Revive Show, a live Internet radio show, and you need to hear about it too. I learned of it when I was invited on as a guest, and I think you will love the show!
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/285 for:
- A cheat sheet on highlights from this wonderful conversation
- Key links we talk about in this episode
- The video of the week: OFF this week for the July 4 holiday, returning July 11, so hang in there : )
And thank you so much for listening!I am teaching a FREE, weeklong workshop on how to get your child to be more independent so they don't have to rely on you!
We will address: how to stop being a helicopter parent, how to get kids to amuse themselves, independence with potty training and hygiene, food issues, and more, so join us if you need help with any of this!
This free workshop takes place all next week, July 8-12, in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group… Click here to join the group!
Rank #20: 166: Tell Don't Ask – A Ninja Tactic That Really Works
Have you ever had it happen where you're asking your child to do something, and he or she is saying "no"?
Depending on your child's age or developmental maturity level, I bet you hear that word – "no" – an awful lot.
Today's ninja tactic digs into one way to cut down on the noes!
It's all about giving kids directives instead of asking, which sounds simple but in reality can be pretty complicated: when do we give them choices, ask questions, and when is it time to give a directive and communicate to them that "this is not a choice"?
Click weturnedoutokay.com/166 for show notes and key links to this episode!