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Dating coach, Marni Battista, is the queen of making her clients irresistible to men and not just any men, high quality men. Marni is a certified professional Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, writer, and nationally recognized print and online magazine expert (Cosmopolitan Magazine, Yahoo! Shine, Huffington Post, YourTango.com, CupidsPulse.com, Men’s Fitness, Glamour and more). She has also had guest appearances on CBS, ABC, and Loveline (filling in for Dr. Drew!) Marni’s weekly dating and relationship web show, “The Dating Den,” has over 2.6 million views, and she was named one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts by @DatingAdviceCom.​

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Dating coach, Marni Battista, is the queen of making her clients irresistible to men and not just any men, high quality men. Marni is a certified professional Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, writer, and nationally recognized print and online magazine expert (Cosmopolitan Magazine, Yahoo! Shine, Huffington Post, YourTango.com, CupidsPulse.com, Men’s Fitness, Glamour and more). She has also had guest appearances on CBS, ABC, and Loveline (filling in for Dr. Drew!) Marni’s weekly dating and relationship web show, “The Dating Den,” has over 2.6 million views, and she was named one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts by @DatingAdviceCom.​

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Normally love it, but not this last one

By Ms. EC - Mar 10 2019
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I normally love listening to these podcasts because they are usually packed with authentic and useful information. However, I have to say i was disappointed with the last Adrianna Ford episode, because it really justifies felt like a 20 minute commercial for her new book disguised as a podcast. I wanted to give feedback because I would hate this to become a trend. Good stuff normally, but if there will more like this last one... I will probably stop listening.

So insightful!

By Christine San Diego - Oct 05 2017
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I love listening to this on a weekly basis - Marni's advice is so helpful.

iTunes Ratings

119 Ratings
Average Ratings
93
12
5
3
6

Normally love it, but not this last one

By Ms. EC - Mar 10 2019
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I normally love listening to these podcasts because they are usually packed with authentic and useful information. However, I have to say i was disappointed with the last Adrianna Ford episode, because it really justifies felt like a 20 minute commercial for her new book disguised as a podcast. I wanted to give feedback because I would hate this to become a trend. Good stuff normally, but if there will more like this last one... I will probably stop listening.

So insightful!

By Christine San Diego - Oct 05 2017
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I love listening to this on a weekly basis - Marni's advice is so helpful.
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The Dating Den

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Dating coach, Marni Battista, is the queen of making her clients irresistible to men and not just any men, high quality men. Marni is a certified professional Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, writer, and nationally recognized print and online magazine expert (Cosmopolitan Magazine, Yahoo! Shine, Huffington Post, YourTango.com, CupidsPulse.com, Men’s Fitness, Glamour and more). She has also had guest appearances on CBS, ABC, and Loveline (filling in for Dr. Drew!) Marni’s weekly dating and relationship web show, “The Dating Den,” has over 2.6 million views, and she was named one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts by @DatingAdviceCom.​

Rank #1: Damona Hoffman — How to Use Texting to Create Connection and Progress Through the Phases of Dating and Courtship with Dignity

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Marni welcomes dating expert, Damona Hoffman to the den to discuss pre-date texting. This in-depth discussion includes tips to get you out of the app and on to the date.

Key Takeaways:

● Should you text inside or outside a dating app?

● How often you should text before the first date?

● Is it appropriate to send a follow-up text after a date?

● The #1 thing you can do to become an excellent texter.

● 3 Pre-date texting rules.

● Should you use emojis when texting?

● How to respond to a simple ‘hey’ text.

Damona is a certified dating coach and the host of  the long-running podcast, Dates & Mates. She is a TV personality who has been in two A&E series, Black Love and A Question of Love. She is a contributor to CNN Headline News, BET, The Post and Oprah's O magazine.

Traps and Pitfalls of Texting [1:56]

Traps of pre-date texting:

● Remember the whole point of texting is to move forward to get to the date.

● One big mistake people make is sharing too much over text. There is very little context in texting and can be too revealing too soon.

● Texting is designed for information, not conversation.

3 Pre-date Texting Rules   [7:33]

The average text is responded to within 90 seconds. If the response doesn't happen in 24 hours there is a solid chance it won't happen.

A texting technique to adhere to is to make it feel like you are stepping into the middle of the conversation. Texting is designed for short burst communication and volleys back and forth. You want to be as concise as possible. If you thin it out you are more likely to get a response and it’s more likely to be read accurately.

3 Pre-date texting Rules

Keep it simple. Don't overwrite.

Add emojis or mood modifiers to enhance what you mean.

Avoid generic questions and ask compelling questions.

The #1 thing to do to be an excellent texter is to text like you talk to bring your personality out.

Is it OK to Send a Follow-up Text After a Date? [25:04]

In today’s dating scene, it is common place to send a text that night or the next morning. It's polite to say thank you, especially if a date bought dinner or drinks.

One trick is to send a statement or acknowledgement of something that happened on the date. Another technique, is to find a gif that adds humor and fun to the exchange. Think of texting as flirting with technology.

How to Respond to the ‘Hey’ Text [28:21]

If you receive a simple ‘Hey’ text respond with something cheeky. It depends on your interest level, of course. If you are using a dating app, and ‘Hey’ is their opening text, don’t respond. It's just weak.

Research says that men are worried about two things in dating:

1. That they will be thought of as a predator.

2. Being rejected.

Be clear when texting but give a guy some slack because a guy may not have the same awesome texting skills you do.

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Aug 02 2019
40 mins
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Rank #2: 049: How To Flirt, Even If You're Not Good (or really bad) at Flirting with Patty Contenta

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So many ladies ask me about flirting!  Does flirting have to be sexual? How do I flirt if I am an introvert? And the popular, how exactly does one flirt? 

I decided to bring in an expert to answer all of your questions.  

Patti Contenta is a professional dancer, choreographer and the Founder of Sensuality Secrets. Her e-book, Desirable and Deserving and her video series Sexy in Seconds help women to find more playful techniques to flirting, build self-esteem and to exude a self-confidence quality men are magnetized to. 

How to Flirt Without Putting Out a Sexual Vibe  [3:18]

So many women shut down because they don't want to send a sexual vibe when flirting. Internal self-confidence struggles can make a woman rigid and fearful.  Patty has developed a flirting formula which starts with being a charismatic person first. Her ‘How to Create Rapport Through Charisma & How to Use Body Language to Enhance the Experience and Make it More Romantic can transform the way you flirt.  

 4 Virtues to Becoming Charismatic [7:20]

Working with a woman’s natural style is important. Charisma is leaving someone with a positive impression of you and leaving the other person with a positive impression about themselves. 

The four virtues that someone else should feel in your presence are: 

A - Appreciation

C - Connection

E - Elevation 

S - Self-Expression 

Focus on the human connection, display your individuality, and be a good story teller.

Transition Tools for Women [32:08]

Patty says the key to connecting with another human being is to become the kind of person who owns their experiences in life. And, when you want to take it to the next level. Start with charisma and turn up the dial with non-verbal cues to make you feel more sensual. It will flow naturally. 

To get to Wa-Wa-Woo try self-touch. A man will notice you are more in your body as your feminine sensual nature slowly shows through. 

Be comfortable with who you are and the body you have.

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Sep 17 2017
38 mins
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Rank #3: Dating Den Episode 110 — Coaching with Amy - What To Do if You Can’t Figure Out If He’s Into You or If He’s the Real Deal for Real

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Amy wants to become a savvy dater. She finds herself over analyzing what a guy is thinking and what clues he may be sending her about how the date is going. She also puts up her love shield in defense of her uncertainty. Marni coaches her through understanding her own motivations for succumbing to anxiety and how she can release her fear by leaning into her faith.  

How to Know What is on a Guy’s Mind [2:41]

Amy really wants to make her dating journey enjoyable but gets hung up on how the guy is feeling about her. To size up how a date is going, she searches for clues from a guy’s body language or his facial expressions. She is looking for positive feedback. She reveals she has a history of domestic violence and dating narcissists. This creates insecurity in her so she puts up her love shield. This behavior is meant to protect her but it can also push people away.

Marni asks Amy to reflect on what makes her feel safe.

Amy says when guys exhibit these behaviors or attributes she feels safe:

  • Kindness
  • Politeness
  • Family oriented
  • Shared values
  • Faith

Coaching Notes:

  • If you have questions about things that are out of your control change your inquiry into a high-quality 'me' question. Consider what is going on inside of you to make you feel a certain way.

  • Even if you have been hurt in the past, be open to believing someone's words as long as their behavior matches.

How to Trust Ourselves [11:43]

Amy knows the negative consequences of attaching too quickly. She admits she has a pattern of doing this and it never works in her favor. She says wants a relationship and connection. She is quick to imagine how she might fit into a guy’s life.

She truly desires to be more relaxed and enjoy casual dating instead of expecting a relationship quickly.

Marni walks her through the ways she is putting the man in charge of her emotional safety. Marni reminds her that she is in charge of herself and not the guy. So why is she trying to give up her power?

Amy shares her longing for validation. She gets stuck in a rut about what the little things mean. She understands she needs to trust herself more.

Don’t get caught up in the outcome of a date. Instead, focus on making a human connection.

Understanding Your Triggers [19:01]

Amy says she may be enjoying a date and feel comfortable sharing her life stories with someone and then she falls into her feelings of uncertainty.

Marni recommends:

  • Dissecting this moment right when it happens to find out what is triggering her fear.
  • Amy should ask herself ‘What is the feeling I have in my body before I attach a story to what is happening?’
  • She should get curious about the story she makes up about not having her happily ever after.
  • When she feels the fear come upon her she needs to relax and move back into her God connection.  
  • She should add a physical, somatic aspect to her calming practice.

She is activating a new muscle and breaking an old pattern. When she feels disconnected from peace and calm she should consider what story she is making up.

When she is not anxious Amy knows she can chill out because God will be bringing her the perfect guy. She should relax and enjoy her dates. She vows to not put up her love shield and relish in her faith in God.

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Dating with Dignity Love Shield Episode #104

Mar 29 2019
35 mins
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Rank #4: The Bachelor 2019 Finale Recap with man panelist Chris Gillis - Ignoring the Red Flags: What Hannah B. taught us all about how we can avoid heartache and save time by filtering out the wrong guys faster.

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Marni welcomes Bachelor Nation’s Fanclub’s Rookie of the Year, Chris Gillis back to the Den to break down the Season Finale of The Bachelorette 2019. For all of you ladies out there, there are some important lessons to be learned from the episode.  

Key Takeaways: 

  • The importance of being a direct, honest communicator.
  • Why smart, beautiful, strong women still succumb to the devious wiles of their bad picker.
  • How to break up with a guy without disrespecting him.
  • Why it’s time to move past old-timey beliefs about male and female roles.
  • How to read a guy’s body language during a conversation.
  • Finding the courage to let someone go when they have done you wrong.

 

Bye, Bye Pilot Pete [2:51]

Pete seemed perfect. He is a gentleman. He has a stable job as a pilot and he was really into Hannah. So, why would she let him go? Marni and Chris discuss the possible reasons Hannah passed on what seemed to be a great opportunity. 

  • Was he was too into her?
  • Is he a pacifist?
  • Was he too nice of a guy?

Jed and Tyler Meet the Parents  [11:53]

It was obvious when Hannah’s parents met Jed they didn’t believe a singer/songwriter could financially provide for their daughter. Hannah, instead of stepping up to say what was important to her, immediately went into child mode and instead sought approval from her parents. 

Takeaway: As an adult,  you have the opportunity to decide what type of financial role you want your partner to play.

Unlike Jed, Tyler made an immediate connection to Hannah’s parents through his direct and thoughtful communication. 

Hannah Chooses Jed [20:10]

In spite of all the turmoil, Hannah still chose Jed. 

Marni’s take — It’s a good reminder to not take things personally. Hannah has an unhealthy picker. She gravitated toward someone who wasn't in it for her highest-interest. 

During Hannah’s last date with Jed on the boat, we could all feel the tension between the two of them. If Hannah’s spidey-sense was tingling she chose to ignore it because she is attracted to unhealthy relationships.  

When Hannah confronts Jed about a People magazine article stating that he had not yet broken up with his girlfriend before joining the show, he admits he has been dishonest with her. His comments and his body language were signaling that he was done. 

Takeaway: When we are dating we don't ask enough questions and we just accept what a guy says without asking for clarity.

Tyler Gives it Another Shot [38:59]

After breaking up with Jed, Hannah asks Tyler out on a date. Tyler being the class act that he is, made a safe space for Hannah to regain her composure and femininity. He refused to manipulate her. 

It exposes and reminds all of us that sometimes we have to let go of something and it takes courage.

Chris’s take — Hannah had a delectable smorgasbord in front of her and she still couldn't eat, she still went heart hungry.

Takeaway: In the end, a bad picker can get in the way of your finding your true partner. It’s important to learn how to attract the right guy into your life. 

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Aug 02 2019
50 mins
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Rank #5: Dating Den Episode 72 — Mary Shores: Defining Emotionally Unavailable — What If It’s You and Not Just Him?

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Have you accepted the life that’s been handed to you instead of the life you desire?

Let's get you out of meh and into marvelous.

My guest, Mary Shores is the best-selling author of Conscious Communications: Your Step by Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life. She is a Speaker and an Entrepreneur who started her empire at the age of 24. She blends her personal experience with neuroscience and human behavior to generate positive and pragmatic solutions for businesses and individuals who wish to defeat the freak-out and to create their ideal life.

Mary Openly Shares Her Story [3:10]

Mary was abandoned several times as a child. She says it planted a seed that grew into her becoming a teenage mother who lived on floors in emergency rooms with her child who had severe brain damage. As traumatic as her situation was it helped to build her strong character. She was a high-achiever who started her own business at 24. When she married she had little understanding of marriage or relationships and the relationship ended in divorce.

Dating in your early 20's is different than when you are more mature in your 30's and 40's.

Why Smart Women Do Not-So-Smart Things Around Men [7:33]

Smart women repeat patterns in their love life they would never do in their work life. When a smart woman attracts an emotionally unavailable man it may be a sign she needs to look inward to find the root cause because we attract what we are.

Women who are high-achievers often try to be something other than what they are.

Drop into your authentic and be more of who you are!

Hacks to Defeat Fear and How to Get the Life You Want [15:58]

Our journey through life is not necessarily supposed to be a graceful one. Mary suggests creating a one-page action plan for growth. Decide on the ‘Core Four’ goals you would like to achieve and then reverse engineer what you want the outcome to be. Get specific about what it is you truly want and then dissect the steps needed to get you there.

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Apr 15 2018
30 mins
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Rank #6: What Do I Do When He Disappears or He is Really Inconsistent?

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In this very special solo episode, Marni offers up some tools and guidelines about how to deal with a ‘ghoster’ or a non-communicative guy after you have started dating. She describes how you deal with the situation internally without having it kill your joy. And, when it’s appropriate to communicate with him to find out why he disappeared or is being inconsistent. 

It’s Him, Not You [4:04]

The most important thing to remember if a guy starts exhibiting this behavior is that you are awesome. His behavior is in no way a reflection of who you are. Know at your core that you are completely lovable and enough.

Are you initiating on a date? The man should have the space to pursue you and ask you out. Remember, the dating process is designed to help you know if another person is a match for you. Nothing more, nothing less. And, what happens between you and the person between dates is just as important as the data you collect on a date.

Ladies, Your job is to know you are awesome, to be cautiously optimistic, and to understand what the person has earned from you based on his behavior.

When we start to like someone we open up to get all mushy and soft and then something happens so we put our walls up and are not sure how to respond. If this happens:

  • ● Do not get attached to the outcome because you don't really know who the person is anyway.
  • ● Don't shut down and stand-offish.
  • ● Just stay empowered and chill.
  • If you have gone out on 3 or 4 dates and a gap exists in your communication it is ok to call and question the situation. A quality guy will respond and let you know what is up.
  • Don’t Waste Your Time [10:43]
  • When you finally have a conversation you need to figure out where things are going and get your questions answered.
Jul 19 2019
18 mins
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Rank #7: 059: Dating Den Episode 59 — with Sanjana: The Ghosting Epidemic, How to Handle it with Your Dignity Intact

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How to Avoid Ghosting Before it Happens [03:20]

Sanjana was just looking to meet new people when she started communicating with a guy. She hinted towards a long-term relationship if things went well and he agreed. Sanjana allowed herself to play the cool girl, never addressing her needs and letting him lead the relationship. For two years they hung out with no clear direction to where the relationship might be going.

When you tell a guy what you want he needs to decide if he is stepping up or stepping out.

Lapping Up the Crumbs [12:17]

When Sanjana got the courage to tell the guy what she needed from him he may have felt blindsided. He would try to tell her what she wanted to hear to make her happy but he would never fully lean into or follow through with the plans.

Don’t Lose Your Dignity [14:18]

Sanjana continues to look for closure even after her calls and text go unanswered. She wants to know if she did something wrong but she is tired of expending energy trying to figure it out.

But, Sanjana already knows the answer doesn’t she ladies? Why would she want to continue hurting herself by hanging on to the unknown? She needs to let him go, forgive him and get back out there. When you date with dignity you don’t take ghosting personally.

Youtube Homework: Look up ‘Swingers movie’ answering machine scene. So you know what not to do!

Ghosting on Dating Apps [30:16]

Always be the person you want to attract when dating online. If you are not attracted to someone be honest and tell them if they send you a message. Practice good dating karma.

Ladies no matter what always remember, you are important, you are loved and you are significant.

Quality men do not hide behind dating apps.

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Dec 03 2017
37 mins
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Rank #8: Dating Den Episode 85 — With Mike Goldstein: A Proven Strategy for How to Get a Boyfriend in Less than Four Months

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Mike Goldstein is back in the den for updated online dating advice. He is a successful private, one-on-one dating coach who has gotten 83% of his clients into a relationship! He is a public speaker, an author and has been featured on The Today Show, in Readers Digest and Shape Magazine. His unique methods for analyzing data from multiple online dating sites ensures his clients are in the top 5 % of successful daters. Ladies, heed this man’s advice!  

How to Find Someone You Like on Match [2:41]

Mike says all of his methods are based on math and science. It’s basically a numbers game. With his 50/12/1 rule, the woman sends out 50 emails to men based on their profile picture. 12 men normally respond and then she chooses the 1 she likes best from the responses.

Having a quick, 10-minute phone call can help ease a woman’s mind if she doesn’t feel comfortable yet. After that, let the man know you are ready to go on the date. Mike says to limit dating to one good date a week though to avoid confusion.

Men want to know what the endgame is and are happy to get to the date as soon as possible, so ask him out!  

Playing the Game & Getting the Info  [11:53]

Ladies, once you get to the date enjoy yourself. Be honest and if you had a good time end the date with a heartfelt thank you and tell the guy that you had a great time. And then, DO NOTHING! Don’t text him later, don’t call him, don’t do anything. Mike says this is important information gathering time. You will find out if he likes you and how much by waiting him out.

Online Dating Photos and the Profile [17:58]

The most important thing about your photos and possibly your entire profile is that your face should only fill 8-15% of the picture box. If you have 6 amazing photos and one lifestyle photo that is enough for the guy to figure out if he is attracted to you. He checks out your photos first and then reads your profile if he is attracted.

It is key to be specific in your profile. A man wants stats, clear information, easy to understand pieces of information. Ladies, don’t use adjectives to describe yourself! Again, be specific. Try starting a sentence would be ‘A typical Friday night would be…’.

So, How Should I Respond? [36:49]

The goal of online dating is to find love and you may not have time to respond to every message. If you feel like every message deserves a response, Mike recommends crafting a simple ‘this isn’t a good fit’ reply message you can copy and paste as needed.

And, don’t get caught in the texting loop. If you are looking for love you don’t have time to waste on a guy who won’t pull the trigger.

Men are the gas women are brakes in a relationship.

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Sep 07 2018
46 mins
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Rank #9: 051: The Secret Skill Nobody Talks About To Make A Quality Man Fall In Love With You with Dr. Kristin Neff

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Tired of getting nowhere by beating yourself up for every little imperfection?

Do you wish you had someone who knew exactly what you needed and when you needed it?

Well, you do. It’s you. You CAN comfort yourself and be stronger because of it.

Marni welcomes Dr. Kristin Neff  to the Den to discuss the beauty of self compassion, what it is and what it isn’t, and how your self esteem can be boosted by it so that you can get off the emotional roller coaster of dating. Dr. Neff is an Associate Professor of Human Development and Culture at the University of Texas at Austin.

 Her findings can help you to be a resilient dater, to achieve all the things you want in life, and to be an awesome partner for your high quality man.

 What is Self Compassion?  [2:08]

Normally, we give compassion to others but not inward towards ourselves.  If someone is suffering we feel the urge to help in some way. You are aware they are suffering, you respond with kindness and you offer support. In the case of self compassion you follow the same strategy but apply it to yourself.

Self compassion, is not self-pity.

If you have a tendency to be harsh or to unjustly judge yourself you can cause unnecessary anxiety and a fear of failure. When you practice self compassion you are not afraid of failure and when you do fail you are more likely to pick yourself up and try again.

Self-compassion is not self-care.

 You Have a Built-In Caregiving System [8:07]

Supportive Touch can be putting your hands on your heart, holding your own hand or giving yourself a hug. A gentle touch can make us feel safe and we can do it for ourselves. You can release oxytocin and opiates to help yourself relax.

 When something hurtful happens we can get lost in the story of what's happening. When we practice self compassion techniques we can step outside of ourselves and recognize that we need kindness and support.

Be a good friend to yourself.

 Accepting Ourselves for Who We Are [17:25]

For most people, their sense of self-worth is based on achieving success. As a result, our sense of self-worth goes up and down because we have “good” and “bad” days. Practicing self compassion can keep us more stable and it steps in when self-esteem  deserts us.

It's not about being good, it's just about being a human being worthy of love and respect. When we realize that everyone struggles we can be a loving, connected presence.

Approach things from a place of fullness instead of a place of lacking.

Resilience [27:20]

Self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of strength and resilience we have. Rigid things can break, if you are flexible you can bounce back. If you support yourself in difficult times it will be easier for you to get through things.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

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Center For Mindful Compassion

Sep 24 2017
35 mins
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Rank #10: 060: Dating Den Episode 60 — with Julie: How to Stop Putting Up with Crap From a Guy, Now! How to Tell a Guy You are Done Being His ‘Sort of’ Girlfriend

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Is your guy sending inconsistent signals?

If he is confused about what he wants? If so let him go.

Life is too short to be someone’s Geisha Girl!

Let’s Just Skip to the End [4:17]

Julie says she doesn’t understand why the process has to take so long? Why the dance of multiple dates?  After 15 dates, shouldn’t she already know where the relationship is headed?

Julie is exhibiting Geisha Girl behaviors. Guys react two ways to Geisha Girls. One, holy crap I have a girlfriend I never signed up for or two, they feel overwhelmed.

Making Assumptions About a Guy’s Values [9:53]

How do you know if a guy has the same values you desire if you don’t know him long-term? If he hasn’t had a conversation with you or proven any of your assumptions, how do you know he is what you believe him to be?

Julie understands that our time on this earth is limited. She wants to know why she should have to wait 6-months to see if the guy is the one. But, by the third date she should share what her expectations are and her timeline to make sure the guys shares the same values and goals. 

Ladies, leverage your assertiveness but do it in a feminine way.

Does He Have What it Takes or is He F’d Up? [20:19]

Julie describes her last interaction with a guy who constantly changes the game. He wants this, but then he feels smothered, blah, blah, blah.

Women need emotional safety in order to create true intimacy and he is not giving her any security. If he was really ready to be there for her, it wouldn’t be this hard. The guy’s inconsistency doesn’t make her feel safe.

It’s not your job to coach, fix or help a guy!

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Dec 10 2017
31 mins
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Rank #11: Dating Den Episode 81 — With Robert Kandell: How to Date and Create Deep Connections with the Good Guys in the Me Too Era

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Ladies, are you super frustrated with men right now?

Would you like to deepen your ability to connect with them?

In the den today, a man who is multilingual. He speaks both man and woman. Robert Kandell is a veteran who after spending time in Corporate America, went on to build an eight-figure business based on relationship, intimacy & sexuality.

He's a teacher, coach, and lecturer whose mission has been to help men find themselves and use their internal power to live their best life. He is the host of the Tuff Love Podcast and his book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them is soon to be released.

Why Men Hide Their Sensitive Side [2:45]

Robert says it's a tough time to be a man. People put a lot of expectations on men today. It creates a society of silence where men are taught to play small and to hide their feelings. There is no space for them to discuss their challenges. Men get a lot of confusing information.

Men don't have the emotional acumen or awareness to know when to bring a mix of their masculine and feminine sides to the conversation.

How a Woman Can Create a Deeper Connection with a Man [6:41]

If a man is willing to explore his feelings, he's a keeper. A man needs to feel safe before he is willing to share. Women can make a man feel safe by telling him she is ready to explore, expand and grow with him. But, she needs to make sure she doesn't become a coach to the man.

How Can Women Support Men Through the Me Too Movement? [9:43]

Men have been seeing programs for changes for women since the 1970's. But on the flip side, the powers that be didn't create complimentary programs for men to help them deal with intimacy and emotional intelligence. Girls went through and up-leveling and the unintended side effect was that programs for boys became stagnant. 

The Me Too movement gave women permission to release all the rage that has been underneath the surface for generations. And, instead of men stepping up to the challenge of meeting a modern woman they decided to stand aside.   

Women need to forgive the past trespasses of the patriarchy. Forgiveness can bring re-connection and intimacy!

What Does a Modern, Healthy Relationship Even Look Like? [20:16]

Robert says the way to build a modern, strong couple is:

1. Patience is important! Yelling 'Man Up' doesn't promote growth in a relationship.

2. Reward and approval instead of punishment for evolutionary changes.

3. Use humor and curiosity together.

If you are looking for a man who will give you what you need, set your boundaries. Know going in what you will put up with. Women tend to have scarcity, limit their beliefs and bypass their boundaries when dating. Create a high bar for men. If you set your bar high you tend to attract men at that level when you set bar low, you will attract a lower level man.

Men don’t think like women. Don’t get mad at a man for not acting or reacting like your girlfriends do.

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Aug 03 2018
35 mins
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Rank #12: Dating Den Episode 104 — With Sherrie Toews: The Little Things You Don't Know You Do and Say That Push Him Away

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Are you a successful woman who doesn’t need a man BUT wants to have a man?

Are you pushing men away without even realizing it?

Do you make unjust negative judgments about your date without considering the positives?

Marni welcomes Sherrie Toews back into the Den. Sherrie has been a licensed therapist in California for 25 years focusing on trauma and family systems.  She is an expert in her field who works with women in the elite program, 5 Keys to Being Irresistible. Sherrie focuses in on what is causing people to be stuck in their patterns, even if they don’t realize they are stuck. She shares the little ways women are influenced by their past traumas and how we can move forward into more positive dating experiences.

The Love Shield  [3:00]

Sherrie describes the Love Shield as a collection of negative thoughts, feelings, actions or behaviors women hide behind. This negative energy and uncomfortableness lay just underneath the surface and shows up in little ways during dates, even when women believe they are having good dates.

Examples of the Love Shield in action:

  • ● Do you minimize compliments people give you?
  • ● Do you resist making eye contact?
  • If you do you may unwittingly be sending out negative energy and putting up a love shield.
  • Your Love Shield comes up because there is a part of you that is scared a previous trauma or you feel your identity is at risk.
  • Sherri says that just understanding your childhood wounds doesn't mean they are healed. It's the emotional connection with the trauma as an adult that heals them.”
  • The Hidden Dangers of Over or Under Expressing Yourself [13:43]
  • There are fragments of our lives that don't seem like they should be causing any trauma but show up in different ways. If you are stuck in your head, overanalyzing every aspect of a date, when he called last, every single word he said — you may be stuck in your head.
  • When you are stuck in your head it means your heart is not leading. And in relationships and love, it’s all about the heart! You could be missing out on queues about how he really feels about you when you think too much.
  • Think about one of your positive attributes. Do you overexpress it to the point of it becoming unsettling? Or, do you under-express it because you are scared it will be too much? It could be hurting your dating life.
  • So What? Now What? How to Move Forward. [20:29]
  • Sherrie says in order to move forward women should take care to notice their judgments. How do you judge yourself? How do you judge other people? Remember your date is a human being who wants love, wants to avoid pain and wants to be happy, just like you. 
  • She suggests journaling about the negative judgments you make about yourself. Write each judgment down and then and make a positive script to replace the negative. 
  • When you are on a date,  collect ten pieces of positive evidence.
Feb 01 2019
31 mins
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Rank #13: 062: Dating Den Episode 62 — with Debra Poneman: Why Visioning Is the Worst Thing You Can Do to Manifest Your Man

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Do you do what is necessary to manifest miracles in your life? 

Would you like to manifest your miracle man?

My guest, Debra Poneman, has been teaching and preaching about how to be successful for over 40-years. She is a best-selling Author, Founder of the ‘Yes to Success Seminars’ and Co-Founder of the ‘Your Year of Miracles’ mentoring program. Debra shares the system with us so we can create miracles in our lives and find abundance, deep fulfillment and profound self-love.

Treat Everyone as the Most Important Person in the World [4:09]

After Debra finished a Yes to Success seminar a young, college-aged girl approached her and asked to be her secretary. Debra knowing that everything happens for a reason said yes and that young girl is now a NY Times Best-Selling Author and the Co-Founder of Your Year of Miracles, Marci Shimoff.

How to Create the Right Conditions for Your Man Miracle [10:14]

Miracle: a surprising and welcome event that can't be explained by science and is thought to happen by divine grace.

Debra says you can not actually create a miracle, you can create the space around you to be ripe for a miracle to occur. 

Things to Do to Create and Live in Your Miracle Zone:

  1. 1. Practice non-violent communication.
  2. 2. Play the Power of Appreciation game.
  3. 3. Don’t block the light.
  4. 4. Be who you are.
  5. Visualization raises your vibrations!

Be the Person You Want to Attract [26:13]

Debra shares her own personal journey of how practicing forgiveness and kindness kept her in integrity. Being the person you want to attract will bring what, or who, you are looking for into your life.

Find a place of love in your heart and send it out to people you find hard to love.  Check out Your Year Of Miracles

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Dec 26 2017
38 mins
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Rank #14: 025: A Proven Strategy for How To Find A Boyfriend In Less Than 7 Dates (This Is For Real!) with Mike Goldstein

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I know you ladies have a love-hate relationship with online dating. And, most of you hate it.  So, I decided to bring Michael Goldstein to give us some tips! Michael is a successful private dating coach, public speaker and author. He has been on the Today Show as well as featured on Reader’s Digest, Star Ledger, Shape Magazine and NewJersey.com.

Michael says you can meet YOUR guy only after 6-8 dates.

Which Online Dating Site is the Best? [2:04]

Michael loves OkCupid if it is used in conjunction with his system. He says the algorithm gives you a match percentage of the available guys and if it’s 90% or higher chances are you will have a great conversation on your date.

6 Points to the Perfect Profile Picture   [7:04]

1. Have a solo photo.

2. Make sure the photo is square.

3. Make your face 8-15% of the picture.

4. Tell a story through your photos.

5. Use as many photos as possible.

6. 80% of your photos should be stunning.

Be honest with yourself when evaluating your profile.

Get to the Date as Soon as Possible  [18:58]

It’s not necessary to flirt online. Michael says pull the trigger and ask the guy for a date. If you send a man a message to ask for a date you could be his only message all week from the site. He is going to pay attention.

Put This in Your Profile [22:45]

This is the most important online dating advice you will ever be given. Tell stories and be specific in your profile! Michael says women should make their descriptions 3-5 sentences and give men hints as to what to message you about.

Find Love Efficiently [33:11]

If you are looking for love don’t use Bumble or Tinder. If you want to find your perfect guy, message 50 guys who have a 90% or higher match rate and you would rate them above a 4 on your attractiveness scale, in 20 minutes. Pick the best two responses and go out on a date. If you get a response you are not sure of, ask the guy to pick up the phone. If you are still not sure who to respond to follow these 3 steps.

1. Read the profile.

2. Check the match percentage.

3. Pay attention to the message.

95% of the messages women receive from men will not be intriguing. 

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Mar 12 2017
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Rank #15: Do This One Thing 5 Times a Week to Meet High-Quality Men You Like, Right Now

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Do you know how to raise your energy level? Do you know how raising your vibration can help you to attract high-quality men into your life? If not, this episode is exactly what you need right now. Marni welcomes Nova Wightman to the show. Nova is an expert in conscious manifestation, an author, a speaker, reiki master, and a Conversations with God coach. 

She helps spiritual seekers become spiritual rock stars. By blending spirituality with humanity you can enjoy life and all the beautiful things it has to offer. During this episode, you will learn more about conscious manifestation, and how to align it with who you are and raise your vibration to become your most authentic self. 

 

Increase Your Energetic Vibration to Get the Life You Want [3:14]

Type ‘A’ people may believe they already exist in a higher vibration but stress and constant stimulation are actually on the lower part of the vibrational spectrum. If you live in a constant state of activity you can benefit by raising your vibration. Raising your vibration will make you feel better and have an improved state of being. Basically, you will access more magic by letting in different aspects of yourself through. Assisting you in meeting other people who exist in a more peaceful state of being. 

If your thoughts are high but your physical body feels constricted it is a signal that you may have some work to do. 

Take a proactive approach to your well-being, dating, and relationships by incorporating a daily practice into your life. Because it is not actually the person or relationship we want, it is how the connection makes us feel that attracts us. 

You don't need a yoga mat, you don’t need to light candles, or have a special place for your practice. It’s simply about cultivating consistency about turning your attention inward. It's about cultivating a strong bond within you so that over time, everything is strengthened. It's building a proactive foundation. 

Different Ways to Raise Your Vibration [18:24]

Nova recommends the simple practice going back to the common childhood practice of daydreaming. It's powerful as a meditation technique. Just quietly thinking about the things that light you up and charge your system. No matter the technique you choose be it a walking meditation, binaural beats, chanting, etc.  It’s about the absence of resistance in your life. Meditation doesn’t have to be the same thing every day. Choose the right thing for you. 

Remember, if you start from a distracted place it can be hard to jump to the higher states of joy you wish to attain. Getting too specific can invite the mind to conjure up limitations such as yeah, but. Stay simple.

If you have to ditch the daydreaming because it's not working repeat a mantra or listen to a guided meditation. And, instead of beating yourself up or feeling as if you will never do it right, realize something is distracting you so try and change-up your practice. 

You will recognize when your intuition is reaching out over your ego when fear and worry are removed from your thoughts. 

 

Have the Right Expectations  [30:15]

It’s important to remember that the universe is balanced. There will always be ups and down, yin and yang. You can not eliminate all the negative aspects of life. Having a daily practice is all about recovering to the higher state more easily and gracefully so you can stay in the sweet spot of alignment more often than not.  

Manifestation is about setting your intention and asking the universe to bring the best, most aligned thing for you. Be careful not to be too specific about what you want in your life because when you exist at a higher vibration you will get what you desire. Be sure to ask the universe for the best match for you, not a specific person. 

Keep your vibration high so the door to the universe will stay open and the cosmic delivery person can come and deliver you what you need.

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Jul 12 2019
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Rank #16: Dating Den Episode 69 — Coaching Angela: Define Emotionally Available — Is He? Is She? What Is It? And, How to Be It to Create Connections in Your Relationships Now

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How do you know if you are emotionally available?

Why do you think you are responsible for both sides of the relationship?

In this coaching call with Angela, we look at some limiting beliefs she created a long time ago that are still affecting her today and strategies to help her transform her dating life and personal relationships.

She recently separated with a drawn out break up. a serious relationship from the beginning. She started online dating & has met someone she likes.

What Exactly Does it Mean When a Man is Unavailable? [3:43]

A man who is not available emotionally, may not be willing to talk about and be open to everything a relationship requires.

Angela and her past partner couldn’t move past the stressors. They were constantly in fight, flight or fright mode. Angela has her love shield up to guard her heart due to a childhood need to be accepted and loved by her father. During her parent’s divorce, she felt the same longing to be able to make it all work out well. She created a limiting belief that she wasn't important enough.

Her foundation principle is to take care of everything, including herself and that she is responsible for taking care of the people in her life. In her developmental years, Angela became a surrogate spouse instead of a daughter.

How to Have a Great Relationship with the New Guy [16:57]

Angela's new relationship seems to have all the right pieces but she is still hyper-vigilant about trying to control the situation. She fears she still needs to be responsible for everything that happens.

Angela’s homework:

Don't take responsibility for others,

Collect data about whether, or not, her partner can meet his own needs.

Recognize the triggers that make her feel not worthy.

She should get her pre-frontal cortex back online with breathing exercises.

She needs to work on her own emotionally unavailability. 

She should have an unwavering confidence in who she is.

You can't be a little girl in a grown-up relationship!

Angela’s Key Lessons and Takeaways [32:53]

If Angela wants to commit to truly understanding of what a real relationship should look like she should:

Recognize her partner can handle himself, 

She doesn't need to be responsible for everything and everybody.

Become aware of her own transformation.

Being emotionally available attracts emotional availability.

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Mar 18 2018
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Rank #17: 033: This Ninja Move Got Him To Commit - How To Do It To Yourself And Keep A Quality Man

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Dating an unavailable man is a big problem.

Not only are you not getting the kind of LOVE you want and deserve...

You’re wasting precious time. It’s just clicking by... day after day, week after week and you’re no closer to getting what you want.

But how can you tell if  a man is available for a relationship…

You know, without scaring him off or sounding like you’re giving him an ultimatum...

Is there a way to get him there faster?

Ladies you are going to love this awesome episode. It is an example of  real dating life.

Victoria is a Dating Den listener and a successful New Yorker. She has followed the dating suggestions from previous episodes and viola, she is dating a quality guy!

Victoria wants to be efficient while maintaining her femininity and remove the doubt about the future of the relationship. She’s not sure what the next steps are. So, let’s help her out.

Victoria Dated With Dignity  [3:36]

Victoria says it wasn’t easy to abstain from sex with her new guy. But, she knew she needed to set boundaries and remember her value. She also didn’t want to have the awkward morning after experience.

She wanted him to like her for her true self but admits it took practice to maintain her authenticity.  She allowed herself to be proactive and if he didn’t like it he could just float away and she would be OK.

It was an artful dance.

The Slower You Go the Faster You Get There [8:57]

Sex is a very intimate thing. A woman shouldn’t be afraid to talk to a man she has allowed into her lady space. Vulnerability is required when it is time for physical and emotional intimacy. Victoria is afraid to bring up the “relationship” conversation up even after hearing him describe her as his girlfriend.

Giving the Man an Ultimatum [12:10]

Victoria was unaware of it but she had already imposed on ultimatum on her new guy. She is looking to put a timestamp on how he should feel and at what stage their relationship should be in.

What a Man Needs [15:33]

Men don’t want to jump through hoops. They need guidance too. They need encouragement to feel confident. Show them how you feel and let them know you feel safe and comfortable through words.

Victoria is going to tell him how she feels then say what she wants and then stop talking.  

Women co-create the energy that makes a man feel safe.  

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May 07 2017
26 mins
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Rank #18: Dating Den Episode 95 — With Chris G: What Does a Quality Guy Really Think About Dating and Relationships?: Our Favorite Man Panelist Gets Honest

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Do you need help dating and understanding men?

Do want insights on what real quality men do, think and feel?

Would you like to meet a quality guy NOW?  

Marni welcomes Chris G. to the podcast to walk women through what a man is thinking when he is looking for more than a hookup. Chris helped build the awesome manimal profile and is an active member of the man panel.

Don’t You Forget About Me: Why Men Orbit [4:54]

Orbiting is when a guy stops calling and texting but still likes your social media posts and pics. So, why would a guy do this? It can be frustrating, especially if you liked him.

Chris says men like to keep women on tap until another option becomes available. If a woman has made her intentions clear and the guy doesn’t share the same relationship values then by not blocking him she is just contributing to the behavior. Chris believes that women are masters at keeping men available to them and maybe women want men to stalk them.

If a woman truly wants to move on she:

  1. Removes the things that may trigger her past.
  2. Remembers that guys don't change even if they see how awesome you are.
  3. Contemplates why she is keeping her options open?

If you want to move on make yourself un-orbital!

The Secret to Getting a Man’s Attention [12:45]

Even in beauty soaked Los Angeles, Chris and his friends put less value on physical attractiveness when using Bumble or Tinder. He says “beauty always wears off.” He loves intelligent conversations and laughing with the right girl, the right combination is important.

But, THE best and most empowering way to meet a woman, for a man, is for him to go up to her ‘live’ and start a conversation.

That’s why Marni and team teach the special secret sauce to women which helps them to really stand out online. They create photos that are evocative of who the woman really is.

Chris’s advice —

  • Don't be vanilla in the corral of online dating. Stand out.
  • Use your real life smile. No duck lips.
  • An authentic smile is sexier and more attractive to a man.
  • Be real, be you.

A man’s goal ultimate goal is to attain a sustainable relationship where the woman and man have integrity and shared common values.

Make Yourself Available for a Real Life Encounter with a Quality Man  [23:41]

If a real-life connection is what a woman truly wants then why do women close themselves off? Sitting with resting bitchface, arms closed, acting uninterested are all ways to block communication attempts from a quality guy.

Chris wants to see a woman who isn't fake or blocked off. It shouldn't be a trial by fire for someone to approach you. No one wants to fight through the armor. He says women are about love. It's their feminine energy that men will fight wars and build temples for. Because men need a woman’s love.

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Nov 30 2018
43 mins
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Rank #19: 035: How to Get a Man to Meet Your Every Desire Without Having to Nag with Laura Doyle

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Who is the 'real you'?

Are you fun and funny, sexy, feminine and smart, uniquely charming and charismatic?

Duh, of course you are!!

So why is it everyone around you seems to have someone…

And you can't meet a great guy that sees how freakin' awesome you are, adores you and pursues you???

Communication is the problem. The man - woman dynamic. When to give… and when to take.

Do you secretly think if you let your guard down and show the real you, men won’t like you or even stay with in a relationship with you?

Many women, strong, smart women are confused how to talk to men. How to act... to get them to do what you want. To love you the way you want to be loved.

I'm talking about Real Men.

Ladies, today you will learn a tried and true system to being and staying happy in your relationship, and even in marriage.

Your man wants you to be happy, so let him make you happy!

My guest today is the New York Times best-selling author Laura Doyle. Laura shares the secrets of her books, The Surrendered Wife, The Surrendered Single, Things Will Get as Good As You Can Stand and her new book, First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors. 150,000+ women credit her with saving their relationships but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored.

Becoming a Surrendered and Empowered Woman  [4:07]

After a rough patch with her husband, Laura had a bag packed and was ready to get a divorce. She decided to find out the secret to a happy marriage instead. She surveyed women who had been in the same relationship for 15-years or more and took their advice.

Laura says she made her marriage into a laboratory. If something worked she kept it, if it didn't she threw it out. When her husband was happy to see her again she knew it was working.

Your intimacy skills are either working strongly for you or against you. If you are a woman who knows about your amazing feminine gifts share it with other women. We need to share.

We get no training with relationships and we jump in only to crash.

How Do You Feel About Relinquishing Control [10:32]

It can be challenging for a modern woman to relinquish control in a relationship. Women need to be in control at work and have a hard time switching gears when they get home.

When women are controlling it can emasculate a man.

Laura reminds us girls, never to ask a man how he feels. Men are not the emotionally brilliant specimens we are, so don’t waste your time.

Magic Words and Phrases [18:20]

If your husband hurts your feelings or you feel slighted in some way, Laura says don’t expound on the issue. Simply saying “ouch” is enough to let him know he hurt you and your vulnerability lets him know you are not happy. Men will re-hear what they said and not you telling them how you feel. When you use this word the man apologizes to you so you don't have to apologize to him later.  

If you disrespect your man, say "I apologize for being disrespectful for doing xxx." Laura recommends saying it and then shutting up.  

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May 21 2017
43 mins
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Rank #20: Dating Den Episode 70 — Arielle Ford: Why ‘Efforting’ Will Actually Set You Back in Your Dream to Find Love

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Can you surrender your pain to a higher power?

Are you wallowing in your negative thoughts instead of preparing for your soulmate?

My guest, Arielle Ford is in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. She has spent 30 years living, teaching and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a brilliant speaker and co-creator and co-host of Evolving Wisdoms: Art of Love series. She is also the author of 11 books. Including the extremely influential, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with The Law of Attraction.

Her deceased sister, Debbie Ford was internationally recognized for her work in personal transformation. She was a pioneering force in the study of the human shadow. Her recently discovered book includes deeply personal stories about her own personal journeys. It is a practical plan for transformation.

In today’s episode Arielle shares how her sister’s prayer book came into existence through the spiritual and physical realm.

How Did Debbie’s Prayer Book Evolve? [3:55]

Arielle was invited to experience a session with friend Channeler, James Van Praagh to talk with her sister Debbie's from the spirit world.  Debbie requested, and then insisted, Arielle, write a prayer book with her. A few days later, Arielle contacted Debbie's office and found out Debbie had already written the manuscript for her prayer book! Your Holiness: Discover the Light Within was then published shortly after.

There is an unseen higher self we can call upon to hold our hand through life.

Manifesting Love Through Quantum Science [19:23]

For those looking to manifest a soulmate, Arielle says the law of attraction states that we draw things that match our state of being. If you are in a state of feeling unlucky in love and unlovable, you are repelling love.

The Universal Truths of Quantum Science:

There is no time

We live in the field (Divine Matrix)

So, we are already connected to our soul mates! Start the relationship you want with your soulmate right now. Don’t be judgmental or overly hard on men. For some people, attraction takes a while. Just trust and have certainty.

What is Love? Baby Don’t Hurt Me [26:29]

Arielle divulges that real, adult soulmate love is not just a feeling. It’s a behavior, a practice, and a decision. There will be days when you do not like your soulmate. They may not show up in perfect form but they may be perfect for you.

Ladies, give a guy a second chance. Love takes time.

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Apr 01 2018
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