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Mama Says Namaste Podcast

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Looking for input to shift your family from chaos and reaction to a life with intention? Ashley's audio blog series is theme-focused with binge-worthy content on how to create the family and lifestyle you love to come home to. She's a location independent, unschooling mama of three, focused on authenticity, awareness, personality styles and embracing love in the present moment.

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Looking for input to shift your family from chaos and reaction to a life with intention? Ashley's audio blog series is theme-focused with binge-worthy content on how to create the family and lifestyle you love to come home to. She's a location independent, unschooling mama of three, focused on authenticity, awareness, personality styles and embracing love in the present moment.

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Cover image of Mama Says Namaste Podcast

Mama Says Namaste Podcast

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Looking for input to shift your family from chaos and reaction to a life with intention? Ashley's audio blog series is theme-focused with binge-worthy content on how to create the family and lifestyle you love to come home to. She's a location independent, unschooling mama of three, focused on authenticity, awareness, personality styles and embracing love in the present moment.

Rank #1: Toxic Relationships

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How do you manage the unhealthy relationships in your life, and how do you ensure you can love them without letting their reality become yours?

Get the full show notes at www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-toxic-relationships

Jun 19 2018
1 hour 4 mins
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Rank #2: Connecting, Screentime, Challenges and Overwhelm

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Looking for insights but overwhelmed with where to start? This week we dive into four hot topics for parents - connecting with our kids, dealing with overwhelm, navigating screen time and parenting kids with challenges. We’ll share our thoughts as well as info on The Mom Conference! Get the full notes and see videos on the Mom Conference here: www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-mom

Oct 02 2018
42 mins
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Rank #3: The Collaboration of Life (Episode 002)

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This is the second in the "Be The Good, See the Good" Series.  

We will dive in to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us, and learn how we can work in our strengths and recognize that in others.

It’s a quotation, not a quote.

We must learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and imperfection.  If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot be fully open to our ability to love others, or to our potential to create.  Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and openhearted vision of people who embrace life.” - John Lennon

Whenever you point a finger at someone else, there are three others pointing back at you.”  - Eleanor Coleman (Aunt Arger)

We can’t change everyone else, but we DO have the power to change ourselves. 

A grocery day - four mamas go shopping (a story about personality styles)

D Wiring - People who score high in the intensity of the “D” styles factor take a very active stance in dealing with problems and challenges. Not afraid of confrontation, Ds are described as a born leader, independent and self sufficient, goal-oriented, “big picture” visionary, fast-paced and decisive.

I Wiring - People with high “I” scores influence others through their gift of entertainment. They are engaging storytellers and the life of the party. They are described as charismatic, magnetic, enthusiastic, persuasive, warm, demonstrative, trusting and optimistic.

S Wiring - People with high “S” scores are slower-paced, more easygoing, and are excellent listeners. High S people are supportive, calm, relaxed, patient, predictable, deliberate, stable and consistent.

C Wiring - People with high “C” styles are highly logical and love facts and statistics. They adhere to rules, regulations and structure. They like to do quality work and do it right the first time. High C people are analytical, careful, cautious, exacting, neat, systematic, diplomatic, accurate and detailed.

Sometimes we limit our thinking to just what affects us, and we miss out on the collaboration of life.  Move away from the limiting view of “me” and move into the growth view of “we”. 

We all have our own perspective on the world and the culture based on the location where we live..and then we have another culture within our family dynamics. Each affects the way we interpret the world. Understanding the different personality styles is an incredibly powerful way to decipher the best way to interpret or convey a message to someone.

Like yoga, communication is all about finding that perfect balance between your needs and theirs.  You want to find that “sweet spot” of communication. We can rant and rave, pressure and cajole, and still not get the result we want. We can shut down and withdraw, but that doesn’t bring anyone closer together. What we need is that perfect balance between communicating the feelings that are within us in a way that another truly understands and can relate to.

Get the Parent DISCovery Playbook: The Ultimate How-To Guide to Understanding Your Tiny Humans

Get the full Mama Says Namaste Profile (complete with a video)

 *Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Jun 02 2017
20 mins
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Rank #4: Are you seeking adventure together?

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Do you seek adventure together as a family, or are you banking on being able to get to that "one day"? Listen to the podcast on this new "Seek Adventure Together" season, and let us know your biggest questions!   Read the full podcast notes with all the links and goodness at www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-seek-adventure-together

Apr 17 2018
53 mins
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Rank #5: Bring On The Party Bus! (Episode 004)

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This is the fourth in the "Be The Good, See the Good" Series.  

We will dive in to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us, and learn how we can work in our strengths and recognize that in others.

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!    You can get your copy here (aff link)

Ashley featured on the Entrepreneur On Fire Podcast: https://www.eofire.com/podcast/ashleylogsdon/

Check out www.HollyScherer.com - she says “I created this community to help you REDISCOVER YOUR DREAMS and BUILD THE FOUNDATION to make them a reality. In 2011, my husband and I STOPPED WAITING FOR “SOMEDAY” and began building a FOUNDATION TO FREEDOM - we want to help you do the same.”  How cool is that? 

“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know.  But when you LISTEN, you may learn something new.”  -Dalhai Llama

Greatest fear for a high I is rejection.  Solitude, however, does not mean pure isolation.  It’s a time to connect with yourself and find peace in the quiet.  The more we can establish that being alone is not a negative thing, the more a high I will have confidence in that space.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  Jim Rohn

To show love/affirmation for a high S or I, it goes back to the feeling and relationship.  For a D or C, boil it down to the task and their accomplishment.

The brain physiology and DISC correlation relates back to Katherine Benziger’s work - a great summary of it all is here: http://www.businessballs.com/benzigerpersonalityassessment.htm  D & I = Frontal L/R, S & C = Basal L/R

It takes 3 seconds for a high D and I to process things, it takes 7 seconds for an S or C.

I know you want to see a picture of Ellie’s “Sharpie Incident” - read the blog post here:  http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/high-i-style/

Characteristics of a High I Personality Style:

  • Cheerful
  • Creative
  • Touchy-feely
  • Friend to many
  • Loud
  • Outgoing
  • Life of the Party
  • Restless
  • Impulsive
  • High Energy
  • Charismatic
  • Warm and Approachable
  • Compulsive Talker
  • Class clown
  • Daydreamer/can be unfocused
  • Fast-paced
  • Easily multitasks
  • Great team player
  • Not great at details
  • At times, may not finish work
  • Easily distracted
  • Storyteller

What Motivates Them:

  • feeling like they are a part of something
  • allowing them space to entertain
  • giving them your full attention

What upsets them:

  • feeling isolated
  • not being able to talk or express themselves; feeling stifled

Parenting Tips to Help Your Child (or you) Grow:

  • Help them be aware of their surroundings
  • Teach them to work independently
  • Help them see the details
  • Teach them the benefits of planning ahead
  • Encourage improved listening skills
  • Structure some things - try bookending your day so it doesn’t get away from you and get too chaotic
  • Allow for variety and changing interests
  • Let them entertain, and don’t hold back on laughter in fun and love

Encouraging Phrases for a high I:

  • I like that you know how to have fun
  • You make people feel good being around you
  • Your enthusiasm is great!
  • I like that you always see the bright side in life!
  • You’re fun to be with
  • Keep that light within you shining - it glows on others and spreads the love!
  • I love your creativity and excitement.

Parent Tips

• Help your I child become more organized by teaching him how to effectively use charts or a chore list

• Help your I child to understand when to say no to friends and when it is important to be an individual. This is an important lesson for all styles, but requires a special emphasis for I children due to their natural need to be a part of a group.

• When your I child needs to do a task (like homework), make sure you set aside time beforehand for them to have some fun and get their wiggles out.

• If an I child misbehaves, the cold shoulder is just...cold. This feels like complete rejection to them. Instead, tell them what they did wrong, why it was wrong, and what the consequence will be. Alone time can be a teaching tool that isn’t just shunning them - but helping them to sit with their thoughts without the distractions of friends, and really comprehend what they did. Always allow them to right their wrongs, so they feel fully back in good graces, and reassure them that you love them and know they will make a better choice next time!

BONUS Material:

Want to see a high I yogi in action?  I love “Yoga with Adrienne” and she is a great example of a fun-loving high I.  Check out this beginner yoga video for back pain - and notice how her personality shines through: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phuS5VLQy8c 

Jun 15 2017
42 mins
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Rank #6: New Season! "The Minimalist To-Do List" - Is "Home" In Your Heart Or Your House?

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Welcome to Season Three on the Mama Says Namaste Podcast.  In this series, we will focus on how to clear the clutter not just from your home, but also your head and your heart to create that space for clarity and connection.

Join me and dive in to "The Minimalist To-Do List!"

“Home isn’t about the place where you are born.  It’s about the place where you find yourself.”  Pico Iyer

Full Time Families - Learn more about this group and how to get connected here: http://fulltimefamilies.com/joinftf/benefits/?ap_id=ashley

Where were we?  Mattawa, Canada, at Sid Turcotte Park:  http://www.sidturcottepark.com/

What is home?  Clara’s answer:   “Home is where you fill an invisible river of love, filled with adventures and salamanders, and even though it’s stormy, you feel safe.  The lightening is like a fire with marshmallows and the thunder is like singing in the rain. 

Home.  It’s the place where your story begins, right?  It’s not a house or simply where you lay your head.  Home is something so much more.

Home, to me, is my comfort, my security, where I feel belonging and connection.  I don’t see it as a location, but a feeling.

Home is about stepping into your own skin; discovering new things about yourself and unleashing creativity in new ways.

It’s about appreciating the little things and stepping into the present.  

Before we start to minimize and declutter, what does it really mean to you?  What does family mean?  Ask again, “what is your goal?”

What are you doing in your house that is creating a home-like atmosphere now…and where do you feel out of sync?

What is the intention of home - what do you want it to be?

We make ourselves one beautiful cup of cappuccino with our little espresso maker and $3 frother from Ikea, and sit down with a book. No cell phone updates with texts, facebook, and the latest news rumblings – just us, the quiet, a luxurious drink and our minds opening up to new insights from a book with no other distractions.

I knock out any work first thing in the morning so I can be with the family, being intentional about prioritizing my time on what is most critical to get accomplished, and shutting out other distractions. I can really struggle with distractions and doing ten things at once – but with limited time and internet access, I’ve had to be very focused on how I spend my time. And, of course, in this, I’ve been very productive and gotten a lot accomplished within a small amount of time.

Take a shower in the evening to wash the day away.  Let your to-do lists wash down the drain and simply feel the heat run over your body.  Showers are amazing places for epiphanies, ideas, and literally soaking in what is around you. Try meditating in the shower and focusing on nothing but the water. Clear the clutter from your mind. Stay simple and just focus on the hot water hitting you and the sensation it gives you.  

Embrace the moment. Simply be. Allow time to stand still and to just soak in the present. Distractions will always crop up. My to-do list will never completely go away. There is always something on the agenda. When we minimize our homes, we don’t eliminate everything – we chose to be intentional about what remains, and make sure it serves a purpose – whether in it’s function, or the emotion it stirs in our heart.

“Home” is not distraction and reaction.

When we “minimize” our head, don’t try to shut out everything. You don’t empty a room of everything in it, you create a space you want to remain in. With your mind, meditate – shift the focus to your breath, to the moment, to simply being. Trying to shut or block out life and it’s distractions creates a war within your mind; a desperate feeling you are fighting a losing battle, as every swing to focus causes that much more distraction. You can become like a frantic pendulum, trying to stay all “zenned out” yet your mind is berating you for not being zen enough.

Life is crazy. It’s frantic and we are more like ants than sloths. Everything screams at us all the time, and the bustle of the city can be numbing. But imagine even in that scenario – look at a busy ant mound and notice what your eye is attracted to. It’s typically wherever one ant is standing still.

It’s the lack of movement in the chaos that we zone in on when everything else is crazy. Life isn’t still – but we can find moments of stillness when we are intentional about it. Those moments of stillness give us energy, shift the energy to calm, and allow us to be fully present. Those moments of pure presence take us to a deeper level of awareness and give us the fuel to carry on about our days.

Take time today to soak in the little things. Really take a shower and cleanse not just your body, but your mind and your soul. Allow the stillness to clear the clutter and move forward with a clear head and heart to truly embrace today. Namaste.

Challenge this week:  What is home to you?  Write down descriptor words.  Then just observe - nothing changing - just reflect back at the end of the day and see how many of those words you actually felt each day. 

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Sep 12 2017
25 mins
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Rank #7: There is Power In the Present Moment (Season 1, Episode 6)

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This is the sixth episode in the "Be The Good, See the Good" Series.  

We will dive in to how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us, and learn how we can work in our strengths and recognize that in others.

“Your greatest powers is in the present moment.  And, for the record, your cell phone is not the present moment.”  -Ashley Logsdon

Check out the Mama Says Namaste FaceBook discussion on the wife with the nail in her head here:  Don’t Try to Fix Me!

High D’s are all about the end result.  Bullet point emails and cutting straight to the chase are well appreciated by a high D.  Remember, though, when you are looking at the end result, ask yourself, “What is your goal?” and make sure it is in a positive space. 

When a high D is stressed out, look for  a way to gain control - sometimes simply doing a “brain dump” and getting the thoughts out of your head and onto paper instead.  Make a list - get it all out.  Then start to prioritize and pick one thing.

Don’t be the “jack of all trades, master of none.” The One Thing by Gary Keller

Is your life really reflecting what you care about?

No task or thing is as important as people and relationships.

Think three times, speak only once.  Ready, fire, aim may mean you can take fast action, but that’s not always beneficial. 

Practice being kind rather than being right.

Remain teachable and always take ownership of your own shortcomings.

Characteristics of a high D:

  • Active
  • Confident
  • Courageous
  • Decisive
  • Fast-paced
  • Intense
  • Needs alone time
  • Strong-willed
  • Talkative
  • Opinionated
  • Challenges authority
  • Competitive
  • Determined
  • Goal-oriented
  • Hard worker
  • High energy
  • Fiercely independent
  • Born leader
  • Natural delegator/organizer
  • Not easily discouraged
  • Practical
  • Productive
  • Solution-oriented

Their Motivations:

  • Give them a challenge
  • Allow them to feel in control
  • Give them a goal with a reward

What Upsets Them:

  • Losing control
  • Feeling they don’t have a choice
  • Feeling under appreciated 

To Help A High D Child Grow (or an adult, for that matter!):

  • Be brief and to the point
  • Don’t get into a power struggle
  • Encourage them to talk about their feelings and how others might feel - stress empathy
  • Teach them them how to really apologize (and the importance of doing so)
  • Help them to learn the benefits of being part of a team
  • Remind them that being kind can be more important than being right
  • Help them to unwind and relax
  • Identify ways for them to verbalize their frustration
  • Help them with flexibility - their agendas and expectations can be very frustrating when not met

Encouraging Phrases:

  • I like how you stand up for what you believe in
  • I admire your courage
  • your confidence is really strong and will help you be successful
  • I like how you really stick to things and get things done
  • I love when you inspire others to act by pushing them with LOVE and not force!
  • I’m proud that you practice what you preach - you do a great job of acting on something and not just talking about it!

“Whenever you are pointing a finger at someone else, there are three more pointing back at you”  Eleanor Coleman

Parent Tips

• As the parent, make sure you establish that you are in control, but give them authority over as much as is reasonable in their lives

• “There are two lasting things we can give our children - one is roots, the other, wings” - allow for independence, even if it’s easier to do it for them

• Help your D child establish goals

• Establish a responsibility chart so your child can see her progress and be encouraged by it

• If your D child breaks a rule, responding with a clear consequence is very important. “Every action has a consequence”

• “Relationships and people are always more important than things and tasks.” - teach them to say “I’m sorry” and to be humble enough to learn from their mistakes

• I feel strongly about this for every personality style, but especially with high D children, never “tattle” on them - talking about their faults to others in their presence. It’s a betrayal of trust for them and you can quickly become the enemy. Let them know you are on their side and they can trust you to stand with them.

The blog I posted on resilience with sweet Juliet’s angry face can be found here: 10 Essential Lessons for Life: Be Resilient

For more stories and insights, check out this blog post:

http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/make-me-feel-important-the-high-d-style/

 *Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Jun 28 2017
37 mins
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Rank #8: Every Action Has a Consequence (Season 4, Episode 30)

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Season 4, Episode 30

Listen to this episode on iTunes, Stitcher, Google Play, TuneIn, YouTube, Spreaker or your RSS Feed

Podcast Title:  Every Action Has A Consequence

Summary:   In this episode on the "10 Essential Lessons for Life," we discuss the hard truths of natural consequences, and how this exactly what we as adults deal with on a regular basis.  Learn three tips to ensure you are using natural consequences correctly in your life, and your children's.  www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-natural-consequences

Podcast Notes -

In Season 4, “10 Essential Lessons For Life,” we give you a series of insights that will hopefully motivate and inspire you with your own family.  These core lessons and values are the foundation of our family.  We will continue to grow throughout our lifetime, and there is no way we can teach our children everything.  Yet these lessons are the pinnacle of what we believe in.  It’s not just us parents teaching our children, either. The first five lessons are what we’ve imparted to our daughters.  The last five are the valuable lessons they’ve taught us.

Links Referenced in the Podcast:

Be sure to check out the blog from last week: www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/purpose-for-money

Do you have a clear vision for your family?  Check out www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/family-vision for a refresher on this.

Remember - unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments!  Clearly communicate with one another - this is so huge for a thriving family. 

Go to www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast and ASK US ANYTHING!  Share your thoughts and feedback.  We love hearing from you!

https://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/natural-consequences/

“My actions are my only true belongings.”  Tich Nhat Hanh

Natural consequences are simply a reaction to your behavior.

In nature there are neither rewards or punishments; there are consequences.

Have You Filled A Bucket Book Series: These books are super sweet and help kids see the importance of sharing love and kindness with others - my girls really responded well to these. This whole series helps children understand about deposits and withdrawals in our emotional bank account (or emptying/filling the bucket). I was surprised that even my then 2-year-old quickly grasped the concept and looked for ways to "fill a bucket”.   http://amzn.to/2xrHES7

We only have so much energy every day.  We need to make sure we aren’t “on” as parents 24/7.  Parenting is not a sprint; it’s an ongoing marathon - so pace yourself. 

Are you robbing your children of them having natural consequences due to your own fears of them falling…or failing?

Food doesn’t always have to be readily available.  Sometimes things aren’t in season…both in nature, and what is offered at the dinner table.  It’s okay to draw a line on food battles and allow your children to feel the natural consequence of a hungry belly.

Be careful about passing your fears onto your children.  Or your pickiness.  You are their example for how to navigate this world.  And them seeing you experience the natural consequences of life is a powerful lesson for them.

When you show your own brokenness to your children, it allows them to see you as human and not simply on a pedestal…which can be a long fall down when they actually DO realize you’re human. 

Do you need that outside perspective in your own life?  Do you need someone to help you be accountable to your dreams, to affirm you and support you, and to challenge you to grow and not simply wait for “one day”?  Check out www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/coaching.  Email me at ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com with any questions you may have. 

Look at mistakes, challenges…negativity - as “what does this make possible?”

Natural Consequences:  Is it reasonable, related, and respectful?  https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/positive/disciplining-with-natural-consequences/

If you want your children to respect you…respect them.

Every action has a consequence.  Weigh what you are willing to do and accept the consequence.  What will you risk?  Your children are watching. 

There is always an impact that happens when decisions are made.  People are impacted by the decisions you - and your children - make. 

The decisions we make - and the actions we take are our only actions in this world.

Your challenge - share a story with someone younger than you about a natural consequence you experienced in your own life. 

Care for some Q&A?  Hit us with any questions you have, and we’ll send you a personal email response back and may address it on a future podcast!  Simply email Ashley directly at Ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Dec 12 2017
47 mins
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Rank #9: Are You Internally Motivated?

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How are we internally motivated?  True learning comes from that desire and hunger to acquire a skill or knowledge based on an area of interest or need to know.  As we dig into the concept of delight-led learning, it's looking at how we are internally motivated that is the best fuel for true growth and comprehension. There is a little something for everyone here...if you like to read, your blog post is below.  If you're more visual, check out my video!  And for those of you who listen to podcasts online, all the great show notes are added in here as well!  Every week we address this... where are we? This week we're in Blythe County Regional Park in Brunswick, Georgia, enjoying family, nature, and lots and lots of bunnies!  And what are we doing?  Connecting - with each other, with nature, and learning about this beautiful world we live in.

What Is Your Genius?

What is the peculiar bent of your own genius?  Marie Forleo puts it well by her closing tagline, "the world needs that little something that only you have."  Do you give room to explore what lies within? In this week's podcast, we address how we focus on delight-led learning and being inspired.  It has to do with being internally motivated, and following your passions to learn new things. 

 

But What About Screen Time?

Special Screen Time Resources For You: A Free Printable Highlighting the "11 Family Guidelines for Screen Use" PLUS The Logsdon Family's Favorite Technology Resources

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Share your thoughts about Screen Time:

What does screen time look like for your family?  What are your favorite ways to engage with technology?  Hop over to the Unschooling Families Community and share!

Save Save It can be hard to shut down things your children love.  However, there are times we have no choice.  If wi-fi is suddenly gone, we have to make do.  If the video player is broken, it's not always an instant fix.  And somehow, somehow, our children still survive.   So if something is sucking up all their time and energy to the determinant of them exploring something else, maybe it's time to take a break.

Screens are One Way...What are Others?

There are more ways to take in information and learn beyond simply observing a screen.  The more interaction, the better. Life is interactive and hands-on, so get out and explore! Some ways to pursue delight-led learning:

  • Start out with a curiosity board - grab magazines with different areas of interest, get out drawing materials or paints.  Create a Pinterest board.
  • Watch Ted Talks and documentaries
  • Shadow or apprentice someone in that profession
  • Take field trips - go to the library, nature centers, community centers, playgrounds, museums, hikes, plays, concerts and more.
  • Interview individuals who are doing something in your area of interest. Have a conversation with them about what they love about their job.
  • Create.  Have a full creativity day with materials but no agenda.  See what develops.
What If I'm Scared To Dream?

Life is a constant period of growth.  Try new things.  It doesn't mean you have to commit to it for the rest of your life.  Allow for variables.  Keep your constant as love and connection, not a certain curriculum or routine.  As we grow, our interests and needs will change. Sometimes we are hesitant to pursue our dreams for fear it's a lifelong commitment.  Be open to learning and growing and how that evolves.  Sometimes a natural evolution happens that morphs them from an original dream to something completely new and undiscovered.

How Are You Internally Motivated?

If you want to have children inspired to learn, let them see you light up with your own growth. Create accountability partners with your children.  Ask them to help you be the life-long learner you want to be.  It empowers them and earns you the right to push them to do the same. How did you learn how to...use the internet, do a podcast show, sell real estate or drive a car?  When we are internally motivated we do what we need to do to learn something new. [caption id="attachment_6383" align="aligncenter" width="561"] Who knows what stories they will come up with? In our cousin time this week, they had a lineup to discuss this topic: "What is your superpower?" The answers were amazing![/caption] Your Challenge this week - create a curiosity board - all of you.  What are common interests?  What are those random curiosities that may light up that "bent of genius" in your family? Care for some Q&A?  Hit us with any questions you have regarding education/school in your home.  Ask in the Mama Says Namaste or Unschooling Families Facebook groups.   If we reference you on the podcast, we will also send you a free “Mamaste” shirt – fresh off the presses! And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! • Subscribe, rate and review on whatever platform you listen • Post your comments/questions in the Mama Says Namaste Facebook Community • Reach out and talk to us!

Mar 20 2018
1 hour 5 mins
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Rank #10: What We Have Here Is A Failure to Communicate! (Series 2, Episode 8)

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It’s time for a new series!  We started this podcast digging deep into the foundation of our wiring, looking at a “family portrait” of showing your best strengths. 

The “Be the Good, See the Good” series really laid out how we can live with intention by acknowledging how the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us.   

Introducing: Laughter, Humble Pie, and Lots of Sex! 

“Expectation is premeditated resentment.” - Alcoholics Anonymous

Click here to see a video of Nathan and Ashley talking about their top six essentials for a happy marriage, as well as learn “37 Tips To Save Your Marriage”

(www.mamasaysnamaste.com/37-marriage-saving-tips/)

Create space for conversation - don’t let it fester.

Follow through and commit to one another to be a united front.  Don’t compete, complete.

Heavy conversations don’t happen in the bedroom.  Take the negative energy outside.

What is your common goal?  Love deeply, challenge each other, and know it’s coming from a place of love. 

Don’t attack - create a place of trust, calling out an action without accusing the person.

Address something as soon as it pops up - don’t let it fester.

Once you communicate it, let it go. 

Own your emotions - “I feel…” vs. “you did…”

Change your attitude - it’s not about who is at fault, but “how can I change things to contribute and add to my life”

When you rebuild trust, allow the past to  drop away.  Sometimes we fixate on the drama of the past and carry that forward with everything we do.  Let it go and create a clean slate.

Don’t use absolutes.  Own your own feelings and address what is going on in the moment.

Click here to see the Nail in the Head video and weigh in with your thoughts!

(https://www.facebook.com/groups/MamaSaysNamaste/permalink/1898118367095686/)

Communicate how you’re feeling to those around you in a safe way - no blaming/finger-pointing.

Earn the right to communicate with love and honesty. 

Every time you point a finger at someone else, there are three more pointing back at you.

Deposit in their lives with affirmation and positivity - so they feel loved and supported. 

Address the situation at hand, not pulling in the whole past.

Questions/struggles in your marriage?  Post in the Mama Says Namaste Facebook group or email ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com.

Your challenge for this week is to communicate in a powerful and loving way to your significant other.  Make deposits in your relationship.

It is hard to be emotionally distant when you physically connect.

Discuss the small things before they ever become the big things.

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Jul 11 2017
31 mins
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Rank #11: The HOW for Homeschooling, Minimalism and Full Time Travel

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Last week we started to dig into the question "how did you take the plunge into full time travel?" We've been RVing the States full-time for almost two years now, and just recently celebrated landing in our 48th state! 

Last week we addressed the "why" - the personality styles in our home and the relationships we hold so dear. This week, we laid out the process that got us to this point - assessing schooling options, minimalism, and finally hitting the road. 

Sep 25 2018
47 mins
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Rank #12: Relationships: How Do You Play That Game? (Season 2, Episode 011)

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Your Voice In The Symphony of Marriage

 

This is the second series on the Mama Says Namaste Podcast with my most favorite guest (and partner for life), Nathan Logsdon.  In this series, we dig deep into the critical components that create a healthy and happy intimate relationship - join us as we discuss Laughter, Humble Pie, and Lots of Sex!

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Behind the scenes footage -

Want to know what it’s really like recording a podcast in a camper?  We improvise!  In this episode, we had to do a long pause because our dog, Harley, was pacing the floor and trying to scoot into her bed underneath our couch.  We also had the door open, and as the sun set, the crickets came out in full force - it was loud enough I had to shut the door because it was drowning us out! 

 And this - this is an image of our podcast setup this evening.  When all else fails, find a watermelon to prop a mic on.

Mamas think they know it all - we know our children so well, that fathers can become second-fiddle. 

Check out If You Want Daddy To Be Involved, GET OUT OF THE WAY

Just like a sports team, everyone has a role that is important…but not identical.  Don’t try to duplicate a mother - look at what a father can be.

There are two sides to every story.  And having a TEAM and an open line of communication helps to eliminate so many battles.

Sometimes the best tactic is to pull your own perspective out of it and just listen to where the other person is coming from.

"If you replace the “I” with “we”, even something like Illness can become WEllness." Malcolm X 

When IS the right time to get married?  Trick question!  It’s when you decide to.  It’s not based on age or commitment in the moment.  It’s the conscious decision each and every day to love and make it work. 

When I coach, we address the past only in relation to the future, and we work together to create a real deal feasible plan to be proactive in creating the life – and relationships – you truly desire.  Coaches focus on creating the life you want, not simply processing the life you had.  If you want to explore this further, hop on over to my coaching page and fill out the form at the bottom.  I’ll connect with an individual coaching package just for you that fits your needs and your budget.

Your life is a reflection of what you care most about - where do you spend your time?  What are you willing to invest in?

Hold hands and run hard.  It means you have to really pay attention to what the other is doing.  If you want your relationship to work, you are only as fast and as powerful as the team.

When you are struggling with something, ask for help!  And then lay out how the other really can help you.  Lay out the expectations so you CAN move forward and take action vs. there being an ambiguous “I can help you” statement that accomplishes nothing. 

FORGIVE AND LET GO.

Our challenge this week: Practice loving yourself.  Take 30 minutes in the morning and write down all the things you love about yourself.  Love yourself first, because it’s a slap in the face to the one YOU love when you believe you’re unlovable.  Give yourself grace, and remember that today is a new day.

Check out last week’s blog post on this topic:  Pride Goeth Before A Fall: Can Your Marriage Hold Up?

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Aug 01 2017
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Rank #13: What would it take for you to truly feel free? (Season 4, Episode 29)

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Summary:  

In Season 4, “10 Essential Lessons For Life,” we give you a series of insights that will hopefully motivate and inspire you with your own family.  These core lessons and values are the foundation of our family.  We will continue to grow throughout our lifetime, and there is no way we can teach our children everything.  Yet these lessons are the pinnacle of what we believe in.  It’s not just us parents teaching our children, either.

The first five lessons are what we’ve imparted to our daughters.  The last five are the valuable lessons they’ve taught us.

In our second lesson, we talk about fostering independence…not only in our children, but in ourselves as well.  What is holding you back from freedom?  What would it take to truly make you feel free?  www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-foster-independence

What’s holding you back from freedom?

www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/no-excuses - it will always stay “one day” until you speak it into reality and create plans to make it happen. 

What does financial independence look like to you?

What is the bare minimum you need to live by?  How much money do you really need?

“There are two lasting gifts we can give our children.  One is roots, the other, wings.”

You need the confidence to step out…and the competence to identify when you need to really ask for help. 

https://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/life-lessons-independence/

10 Underrated Parenting Milestones: http://crappypictures.com/ten-underrated-parenting-milestones/

Every action has a consequence. 

Allow your children to earn the right for their independence. 

Give your children grace… and space to fail.  To fall.  And, to get back on.  This is a powerful lesson for all of us.  Give yourself grace to fail. 

Give your children safety in boundaries that are broad enough it allows them to truly explore. 

Love the growth and the process instead of simply trying to hold on to the past. 

Your Challenge This Week:

Here is your challenge for the week.  Let go of one thing you are doing for your children.  It may be wiping their hiney, combing their hair, or cooking breakfast for them.  What can you give your children that adds to their life skills while also lessening your to-do list for the day? 

Care for some Q&A?  Hit us with any questions you have, and we’ll send you a personal email response back and may address it on a future podcast!  Simply email Ashley directly at Ashley@MamaSaysNamaste.com

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Dec 06 2017
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Rank #14: Why take the Leap? WHY?

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"What caused you to take the leap?"

Our “why” goes beyond “one day” and desire for travel. It’s about being an intentional family. As we tackle the question “what prompted you to take the leap”, we go beyond family travel to sharing our journey of how we got to now - how the path of intention started by simply having the desire to know ourselves - and each other - fully.

Get the FULL show notes at www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-why

Sep 18 2018
43 mins
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Rank #15: Getting lost, laughter, and the wisdom of Dr. Dre (Season 2, Episode 12)

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This is the second series on the Mama Says Namaste Podcast with my most favorite guest (and partner for life), Nathan Logsdon.  In this series, we dig deep into the critical components that create a healthy and happy intimate relationship - join us as we discuss

Laughter, Humble Pie, and Lots of Sex!

Link to the FB posts of Timothy Lake and add picture of boulders

We love the beauty of unstructured play.  Sometimes we can get stuck in this need for stimulation for our children.  We make sure they have toys and programs to entertain.  But there is so much just within the imagination!  Our criteria for an awesome time boils down to water, trees, and large rocks.

Check out William Gillette’s Castle in East Haddum, CT

You can see some of our pictures and videos over the last few weeks if you search #FieldTripGypsies on Instagram/Facebook

“Clear communication.  Respect.  A lot of laughter.  And a lot of orgasms.  That’s what makes a marriage work. “ Dr. Dre

Is your mission in life just to pay bills and be unhappy?  Most of us don’t strive for that, yet we can get stuck in a rut of doing just that.  How can you bring happiness and joy into your life?

How often do you take time to play?  Have a good time and lighten the mood -every day.

A view of Finland’s Education System

You know you want to get the “O Brother Where Art Thou” soundtrack

Your challenge this week:  Go and play!  Do something random and fun and completely out of the blue.  Go to a park, a trampoline park, roller skating, etc. 

GIVE YOURSELF GRACE TO HAVE A GOOD TIME.

Have a good laugh. Be silly. Be goofy. Flirt, tease, and tickle each other. Act like a kid and chase each other around. One night recently the kids were shocked to sneak out of their beds and find us out jumping on the trampoline, laughing and trying to see who could bounce higher. It was a stressful day and we just needed to be silly. They actually ended up jumping with us, and while we didn’t win any awards for consistent discipline that night, we created a really special family memory full of cuddling and giggling and genuinely loving on each other.

I have a tendency to take life way too seriously. If I could narrow down one key thing Nathan does for me on a regular basis, it’s that he makes me laugh. He reminds me that life can be fun – to take in the moment and just enjoy it. And if it gets to heavy, let go and simply laugh. Laughter really is the best medicine in so many situations.

Go further with my blog post on this topic:  http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/laughter-humble-pie-and-lots-of-sex-part-3/

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Aug 08 2017
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Rank #16: Season 2 Finale, Episode 016: What Do You Want This Life To Be?

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The final wrap-up to this series - what is your intention for your relationships?

This is the second series on the Mama Says Namaste Podcast with my most favorite guest (and partner for life), Nathan Logsdon.  In this series, we dig deep into the critical components that create a healthy and happy intimate relationship - join us as we discuss

Laughter, Humble Pie, and Lots of Sex!

They say love is the best investment.  The more you give, the more you get in return.  Audrey Hepburn

In our summary podcast, here are all the things we’ve dug into in this season:

Communication is such an important foundation - being able to have an honest conversation with your partner and not simply walk on eggshells.

How to navigate disagreements - you cannot hide tension in your home - that energy will permeate and create a heavy cloud in your home. 

Here is my mother’s book - for insights into my own childhood as well as the foundation of peace we have carried in to our own home: Creating a Haven of Peace: When You're Feeling Down, Finances Are Flat, and Tempers are Rising (http://amzn.to/2vGN9GR)

Respect and teamwork - we are a united front - what is your ultimate goal?

Growability - say “I’m sorry” and take ownership/responsibility for your part.  Ask “What am I missing?  How can I make this better?”

Be a lifelong learner - there is always something more to learn about and discover with one another - if you are both growing and changing every day, there is always something new to talk about and explore.

Laughter and play - take time to reset.  Step away and have fun.  Allow for laughter and happiness just in the present moment.

Time management - set clear boundaries and be intentional about what you want to focus on.  Vocalize your priorities and commit to making them happen.

Sexual intimacy - what is your love language?  How are you connecting and spending focused time investing in one another?  Are you speaking in a way that resonates with them, or simply you?

What do you want this life to be?

Challenge - just reach out and connect.  Go back to the basics.  Find your main focus to get you started.  Remember love. 

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Sep 05 2017
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Rank #17: 3 Essential Secrets To Make Your "One Day" A Reality

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Expectations -

  1. Set your intention for your concept of    
    1. family | marriage | trip
    2. Set a family vision that reflects your values
    3. www.mamasaysnamaste/family-vision
  2. Put a Date on it!
    1. This creates a sense of urgency and an end date to your goal
  3. Protect your Priorities
    1. Know what is important to you and protect it fiercely

Get more goodness here: http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/podcast-expectations 

Apr 24 2018
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Rank #18: Kids in a distillery?

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What opportunities for learning have you introduced in your home?  Do they stray from the conventional "kid-friendly" approaches to something different, like a distillery or a rest stop?  What can you find even in your own back yard?  How are we building up our kids and opening the door for life-long learning?

Find out all this and more in this week's podcast, and be sure to check out all the pictures and notes at www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-opportunity

Apr 10 2018
58 mins
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Rank #19: 7 Seconds Will Change Your Life

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We are going to dive into who we are - understanding your own personality style and those of your families. If you have two Ds in the family, what are some tips for helping them lead the way...and not taking over? We're going to explore those high-energy styles of the D and I personality style - and how to navigate these types in your family...and the 7 seconds that will completely change your communication with others. Get the full show notes at www.MamaSaysNamaste.com/podcast-7-seconds

Jul 24 2018
39 mins
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Rank #20: Time Waits For No One (Season 2, Episode 013)

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If our time is a reflection of what is most important to us, what does it say about you?

This is the second series on the Mama Says Namaste Podcast with my most favorite guest (and partner for life), Nathan Logsdon.  In this series, we dig deep into the critical components that create a healthy and happy intimate relationship - join us as we discuss

Laughter, Humble Pie, and Lots of Sex!

“Time management is really a misnomer - the challenge is not to manage time, but manage ourselves.  They key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.”  - Stephen Covey

As you may have guessed, we juggle a lot - and the essence of it is that life fills up quickly, no matter what your day-to-day appears. 

Either you run the day or the day runs you.  - Jim Rohn

I’ve heard this issue come up time and time again with couples - they want to have time for their relationship, but by the time they take care of work, the house, and deal with the constant demands from the kids, they are flat too wiped out.

Do a time inventory - where is your time going?  Check out www.toggl.com as a way to track yourself. 

Scale back your screen time.  Don’t just go off cold-turkey, but take an inventory on how much time it’s consuming of your day…and away from your relationships.

Shift the way you mandate things.  Instead of “NO MORE TV!” - switch it around and simply let the ones you love know that you prioritize them and you want to spend time with them, not a screen. 

Want to know the results of our screen time study in the unschooling families group?  Check it out here:  http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/get-results

The One Thing by Gary Keller (http://amzn.to/2vGO4J2).  We have no problems dropping it all to zone out for a movie - but how often do we block out everything and devote that same amount of time to just connecting with our spouse or our children?

Turn off notifications.  Don’t let them hit you whenever they happen.  Schedule a time in to address them instead.  Set aside time to devote to the notifications and alerts - guilt-free.  And shut it down at other times. 

Show your family respect enough that you are willing to set things down.

5am wakeup - yes, it's early and brutal at first.  But when we get up between 5-5:30, it allows us to have some refreshing time in the morning to just connect and talk - to lay out our day and just have some time before kids wake up.   Check out the book Miracle Morning (http://amzn.to/2vGznWk)   

If you are a night owl, figure out how you can time block so you can have that creative energy at the end of the night - but make sure you don’t spring up so late that you are set in reaction-mode for the rest of the day.

Time block.   You only have so much sauce to make so many decisions during the day.  The less decisions you have to make, the better.   So what can you reduce down and simplify? 

“Dummyproof” your day - prep your morning the night before so you you don’t have to use up that first morning energy deciding what to wear, what to eat, fumbling around making noise prepping breakfast, etc. 

Have at-home date nights.  As soon as it's lights out for your kids, it's "lights on" for the two of you. You can create as elaborate of a date as you want.  Here is the kicker - these are sacred date nights.  This means it's a romantic date to enjoy each other.  Keep the dirty laundry out of it and keep the focus for these on having fun and being together. 

Some ideas:

  • Keep it simple and comfortable - veg and watch a movie or show together.
  • Feed your children dinner and you two just snack to tide yourselves over - and then you create a fabulous feast just for the two of you to enjoy after they’re in bed. 
  • Get yourselves all cleaned up for each other - take showers or baths (bonus if it's together) and then, if you want, even go through the process to dress up a bit.  Fix a fancy drink or dessert and have a fancy night 'in'. 
  • Pull out a game and play it together.
  • Work on things together. What projects can you do side-by-side, or collaborate on? 
  • A sex schedule - when your husband is just tired and wants to chill, I have to say, nothing may perk him up more (um, literally) than knowing he's gettin' some.  ;-)  So schedule it in. Maybe you have sex once, twice, three times a week.   What does it look like?  Maybe you shower first and hop in bed naked.  Maybe you add in massage.  For us, we went a bit extreme - we typically have sex every night - so there is a big motivator for connection and also ending the day with a very pleasant bang.  (ha - I'm full of punny jokes, aren't I). 
  • Have his, hers and ours nights - we would alternate who had the focus. On our night, we called the shots.  We may choose a movie, or a massage where the full focus is on us.  Knowing there was a night devoted just to one of us and then one together eliminated the dancing game of who initiates what. 
  • We made sure to add in a chill/veg night so it's not that we're always "on."  However, although we have "permission" to chill, most of the time we opt for connecting and having our us time even on the nights we watch a movie. 
  • You both have to make a commitment to step it up.  Make space for airing the dirty laundry several times a week so it doesn't crop up on your "date" time.  And then allow for your times together to really be focused on what you love about the other person.  Highlight it.  Look into his eyes.  Tell him what you love about him.  Send him little love texts or hide a note in his pants pocket (and yes, risqué is fun, too).  Do some little things to keep the spark alive.

Dirty Laundry - create a space for it.  For us, when we were back in Nashville, our DL conversations happened on the back porch.  We didn't bring that energy into our home.  After kids went to bed, we'd go out on the back porch to talk and discuss the day - this got us out of the house so the kids weren't privy to the convo and could sleep with no distraction, and it kept any negative energy outside.  We would allow for time to discuss, and leave it outside.  Put a time limit on it - for us, it was 9pm at the latest.  After that, it was time to wrap up and get ready for bed - no more dirty laundry, only clean and comforting as we settled in to our peaceful haven.  (Listen to Podcast Episode 0009:  http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/episode-009-fighting-toward-a-win-win/ )

Let it go, and let it flow: http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/lighten-one-love-get-play/

“Don’t wait for opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great.” Orison Swett Martin

Make connection mandatory.

Your challenge this week - time block yourself.  Lay out what is important to you for every day - that includes work appointments and kid appointments, but it also includes things like meditation, time to connect with your spouse, and 1-1 time with your children. 

Be intentional about where your time goes, and remember, the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us!

And remember, if you’re liking what you hear, we want to hear from you! 

*Podcast music by the awesome Renee & Jeremy who cover "Put a Little Love In Your Heart" by Jackie DeShannon.  Props to both of them for this beautiful rendition that epitomizes what I want for families!

Aug 16 2017
49 mins
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