Rank #1: How Can You Gain Confidence In Your Speaking Skills?
There is so much fear around public speaking that I want to discuss how you can gain confidence in your speaking skills. These five techniques will help you improve your confidence in your speaking ability.
The most common questions around public speaking all revolve around topics such as nervousness about public speaking, fear, being afraid, having anxiety and not being able to get up in front of a crowd.
These are very common concerns, but it is possible to grow your confidence and become an effective public speaker (without the sweaty palms and fast racing heart).
How Can You Gain Confidence In Your Speaking Skills?
Here are the 5 ways you can gain confidence in your speaking skills.
The first way which is actually probably the least effective way and that is to study.
Public speaking is a lot like swimming or surfing – you have to get wet in order to get better. By that I mean you have to practice the skill by speaking in order to get better at speaking.
By studying swimming it’s very hard to become a great swimmer. But studying is still important because we still need to learn technique. So study by reading about public speaking or watching a video (just like the ones on this blog). There is another blog called 6 minutes which is worth a look also.
You can also look at some of the greatest speeches of all time. Go to TED.com and look at some of their best speeches, look at what these people do well and what make a good speech.
2. Just Practice
Practice getting up in front of people, or if you can’t do that just practice in the comfort and privacy of your own home.
By creating speeches, by practicing speeches and by doing public speaking activities that are designed to improve your skills you will gain confidence and you will get better at speaking in public.
3. Get Positive Feedback
Whenever you give a speech try and ask someone you love and someone who you trust, to give you some feedback. Ask them specifically; in what areas did you do well? And in what areas are there to improve on.
Don’t just ask them for areas on improvement because it is going to deflate you. Constructive criticism is great but when it’s all constructive and it’s all criticism, sometimes it can get you down.
When it’s something as emotional as public speaking, ask for praise before you ask for criticism as well. There’s a lot of people out there who are willing to criticise how you speak in public, but there’s not enough people to praise you for getting up there and having a go. So make sure you get some positive feedback.
4. Make Mistakes, and learn from them
One of the biggest ways that I’ve gained confidence in public speaking is that I’ve made mistakes, and then recovered from those mistakes.
I think is one of the biggest fears about public speaking is that if something happens or if something goes wrong, you need to be able to think on the spot, you need to be able to correct that and roll with that otherwise it’s going to be a very embarrassing situation for you.
So by being in a situation by making mistakes where you stumble and when you have to recover, then you become better at thinking on the spot. Then your confidence grows because you know “well if another mistake happens in the future, if another situation comes about where I might not know about what I’m doing or might lose my place, I might get interrupted, well, I know how to handle that and I know I can handle that.”
By making mistakes, you can learn from those mistakes and that will grow your confidence, probably more so than anything else.
5. Record Yourself On Video
Number five is to record yourself on video preferably or if not on audio.
This is great because it trains you how to think on the spot, how to present in front of people, and you can do it from the comfort and privacy of your own home. By recording yourself on video you get that added benefit that you get to watch yourself back.
This builds your confidence in two different ways.
Firstly and probably the more obvious way, is the fact that we see the mistakes we can make and correct them. So if were watching ourselves on video and listening to ourselves we can see when we’re saying things we shouldn’t be saying or making actions we shouldn’t be making. We can then change that in the presentations.
But secondly the reason that this builds confidence is because you know that feeling they have when you listen to yourself and it just sounds so horrible?
Because we perceive the world from inside our mind when you listen to your voice it sounds different and when you’re watching yourself it’s a mirror.
By watching yourself and by listening yourself you get used to the way you look and sound and that builds confidence because you realise; “well hey I don’t sound like a complete idiot and I look quite normal.”
By becoming comfortable with watching yourself and listening to yourself your confidence will build naturally from that.
So there you have five ways that you can gain confidence in your speaking ability without actually getting any better.
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Dec 31 2013
Rank #2: How To Stop Saying Um When Giving A Public Speech
In this podcast episode I discuss how you can stop saying ‘um’ or ‘ah’ when giving a public speech.
This is a problem a lot of newbie speakers have and it is something you need to be aware of and something you need to stop doing as soon as possible.
I share my experiences of when I used to always use these filler words and how I stopped saying them.
Sep 12 2013
Rank #3: 10 Public Speaking Ice Breakers That Actually Work
An icebreaker is an activity in public speaking that is designed to engage the audience and break the ice to get them ready to hear what you’re about to say. However, many of the icebreakers out there that the internet sites recommend are pretty average at best and in most cases downright awkward to use.
So I wanted to compile the list of 10 icebreakers that actually work.
So what are these 10 icebreakers that actually work?
Now I’m going to break these into two distinct categories:
1) icebreakers for larger groups of people
2) icebreakers for smaller groups of people.
Now I’m going to assume that you’re in a more formal public speaking setting.
When you’re in a more informal, maybe a really small training group, where it is very hands on then these icebreakers might not work as well and you might need something that is more interactive.
But I’m assuming we’re at corporate meeting or a conference,or a church event or something like that Where it’s more formal public speaking engagement. So what are some of the icebreakers that we can use?
Public speaking ice breakers for large groups
1. MAKE A JOKE AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE
Now, I want to say – avoid making really lame,very generalised jokes that don’t have to do with you. Definitely avoid jokes that might offend someone as well!
You don’t want to make a joke at the expense of anyone in the audience, a joke at the expense of the company, or a joke at the expense who’s introduced you, but the joke at the expense of yourself tends to work really well because you’re pointing at yourself so people can just laugh along with that.
“Before coming here tonight I was discussing my talk with my wife and she said to me: ‘Don’t try to be too charming, too witty or too intellectual, just be yourself.’”
Don’t expect full blown laughter with any of these jokes, but it’s just kind of a teaser, just kind of warms it up.
If you’re at a formal dinner setting, and everyone’s getting the same meal or they have two alternating meals, you can say:
“Don’t you think it’s amazing that 200 of us all came together tonight and we all chose the same meal?”
They’re corny but sometimes they can work.
You could say: “Look, I have a bad feeling about this, I was talking to [whoever introduced you], they said they were going to tell a joke before I spoke but instead they just introduced me.”
So you’re implying you’re the joke.
These are some ideas for a couple of jokes that you can do, obviously one that you come up yourself is probably better.
Tie in the context of the company you work for or the situation you’re in. The more personal and more appropriate to the situation, the better are the jokes going to work.
2. OPEN WITH ‘RAISE-YOUR-HAND’ QUESTIONS
You want to do a couple of things before when you’re doing raise your hand questions.
Firstly, you want to be positive with your raise your hand questions. Like: “Raise your hands if you want to be happy in life!” “Raise your hand if you want to make a million dollars!”
You don’t want to create negative raise your hand questions, because then you’re going to create a negative environment. So you’re saying: “Raise your hand if you don’t have much to show for the last year!” It’s not going to make people feel very good about themselves.
And when you’re doing raise your hand questions try to ask questions that most people are going to raise their hand to.
The whole idea of the raise your hand questions is to get audience’s engagement, and to get group involvement, so the people on the outskirts who aren’t really getting into your talk feel like they should get into your talk.
So if you open with a raise your hand question to which only person in the room can raise hand to, it’s going to be pretty awkward for that person. But if you ask a question where 9 out of 10 people raise their hand, that one person that doesn’t raise their hand kind of feels awkward because they’re not doing it.
It’s like using positive peer pressure.
3. START A STORY BUT DON’T FINISH IT
So when you get there, just say: “I just want to tell you a story that I think it is very important for my speech today.” Or you go on and tell your story, but you leave the conclusion out and you say: “I’ll get back to that towards the end.”
And so what you’re doing – you’re drawing people in with stories, but you’re not finishing your story so it keeps them engaged.
4. GET AN INTRODUCTION
A lot of people wouldn’t classify this as an icebreaker, but it really is. Get someone to introduce you and talk you up a little bit and get people warmed up for you as you come on to the stage.
Then the audience is anticipating your coming and you don’t need to break the ice as much because it’s already been a little bit broken for you.
5. BREAK SOME NEWS (BIG OR SMALL)
I was recently reading Robert Kiyosaki’s book, Retire Young, Retire Rich. And he talks about an investment talk that he did, and he couldn’t think how to open his presentation.
As he was reading the morning paper, he came across a story about a couple who had retired about 10 years early. But he then used that news to tie into his story.
So when you get up on stage and you say: “I’ve read this really interesting article in the paper today,” or “Something really interesting or strange happened to me today.”
We are inclined as a culture to want to be ‘in the know’ so when something is happening in the news and people are talking about it we want to hear what it is.
So that’s a good way to get people engaged – to break some sort of news, whether it’s news that’s happened in your country or on the globe or whether it’s just something new that has happened in your life that’s a bit odd and a bit interesting.
6. ASK EVERYONE TO COMPLETE A SIMPLE TASK
Get the audience to say to the person next to them: “I’m so glad you’re here today.”
So everyone in the audience has to say that. Or tell them to give the person next to you a high five or give the person a handshake or turn around and say hello to the person behind you or in front of you.
So you get people to complete this small menial task that engages them with people around them and just kind of opens them up and gets them a little more engaged in your presentation.
7. OPEN WITH A QUOTE
Probably not the best icebreaker in the world but it can work especially if it’s a great quote and if it’s very specific to what you’re going to be talking about. Keep it specific to the context or make it a little bit funny.
So surf the internet and look for some quotes and potentially open with a quote.
PUBLIC SPEAKING ICE BREAKERS FOR SMALLER GROUPS
So public speaking icebreakers for smaller groups.
8. GET EVERYONE TO INTRODUCE THEMSELVES AS A SUPERMARKET ITEM (OR SOMETHING ELSE)
Get everyone to introduce themselves in a strange way.
You could say: “I want everyone to go around the room and I want you to introduce yourself, introduce your name, and then tell us what item in the super market you would be?” or “what item in a hardware store you would be?” or “what kind of fruit you would be?” or “what kind of dish you would be?”
Or you could even do something like: “What is your porn star name?” (which is the name of your first pet, and then your last name as your porn star name is the name of the first street you lived in). So use these sorts of funny things, funny ways for people to introduce themselves.
9. GET EACH PERSON TO INTRODUCE THE PERSON NEXT TO THEM, GIVING THEM A FICTITIOUS LIFE
This can work if the group doesn’t know each other at all, but it can also work if the group does each other and so you just say: “Look, this is Bob, and he’s actually a super hero at night, he moonlights as a super hero, and his super power is that he can spit fire,” or you make up whatever it is and people are inspired to use their creativity.
10. DO A QUIZ
This can be something like you just asking questions to the audience and they have to raise their hands if it’s yes or leave it down if it’s no.
You can have it in such a way that people stand up and if they’re wrong, then they have to sit down.
If you’re at a conference, you can do it based on previous content that they should have heard and remembered. Or you can do it based on anything.
Ice Breakers That Actually Work
So there’s some icebreakers for you – 10 icebreakers that aren’t too awkward.
They aren’t mindblowingly amazing but they do work. They are very effective and I hope that gives you a starting place to look out where you’re going to open up your speech.
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Dec 27 2013
Rank #4: 10 Tips For Public Speaking That You Have Probably Never Heard Of
These 10 tips for public speaking are off the cuff and are techniques you would never have thought of by yourself. You can read the tips on top public speaking websites and get generic tips like “prepare” and “relax” but they won’t be nearly as useful as these 10 tips.
I use these 10 tips myself in my day to day life and it has helped me move from a completely useless public speaker, who thrusts at his audience, to a confident person who is happy to speak in public.
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1. Start a podcast (or just record yourself giving a speech)
Tip number one: start a podcast or just record yourself giving a speech. Podcasting is an epic way to practice your public speaking, so much better than writing it down, so much better than looking in the mirror, so much better than just practicing it in a shower by actually committing to recording yourself and recording your speech– you’re going to get so much better at it. The biggest tip I can give you with starting a podcast or with recording yourself giving a speech is not to stop and start the recording. Don’t stop when you [inaudible 00:01:22]. Keep going through it. One of the things that I see people do– the biggest mistake they make is they stop and start their recordings and they never get through their entire speech. Go all the way through it if you [inaudible 00:01:36] and take you 30 seconds or a minute just to get back on track, I don’t care. No one’s going to listen to this but you or maybe an audience if you publish a podcast, but go all the way through it and then you find out the areas that you’re having trouble with and you’d be able to work on those.
2. Don’t memorize your speech off by heart (know your content)
Tip number two: Do not, I repeat, do not– you need to listen to this. Do not memorize your speech off by heart, instead know your content. A lot of the websites out there will tell you, memorize your speech off by heart, but I tell you that’s not the way it go. When you’re in a public speaking situation, you’re not going to be able to remember word for word exactly what you’ve written down and things will always change. As you’re giving your speech you see the way the audience is reacting and you need to edit your speech based on the feedback they are giving you. If something’s flopping, well then throw it out the door. If you got your speech memorized off by heart and you have to go through word by word– if you’re totally thinking it, you can’t take another approach. Instead, know your content, know it really well and yes have a speech that you’ve planned. Memorize that speech, but instead focus on knowing your content so if you have to change [inaudible 00:02:53] halfway through your speech, you can.
3. Videos are the best way to practice (without a crowd)
Tip number three: Videos are the best way to practice without actually getting up in front of your crowd. Videos are huge and it’s so easy to record videos these days. You can do it with your Iphone, you can do it with a little camcorder for a $100. You can do it with an android phone. You can do it so easily. My Mac has a camera pointing at me that I can use anytime I want. Videos are the best way to practice because you’re not looking yourself on the mirror as you’re giving a speech, but you’re giving the speech and then you can watch it back. It’s really awkward at first to watch yourself giving a speech, but it’s a really good thing to do. You can pick up on the subtle strange things that you might do that you don’t actually know that you do. You might flick your hair every five seconds. You might pick your nose when you’re on stage. You might thrusted the crowd like I did when I was in high school, but filming yourself you’d be able to pick up from that and you’d be able to fix that before you actually get up in front of a crowd.
4. Try the Kramer technique
Tip number four: Try the Cramer technique. Now, we’ve all watched Seinfeld and we all know how Cramer enters the room at Jerry’s face. He just runs in and burst through the door. It’s a big shock factor and it’s always really funny every time he does it. It doesn’t get old. Trying the Cramer technique is being aware that during your speech something could go horribly wrong. Something can pop out of the blue– someone might burst into the room. Your slides might stop working. Someone might faint, you might lose your place, you might make mistakes. All these things could happen that could throw you off your speech completely– just like the way Cramer burst into the room, these interruptions could burst into your speech and throw you off guard. So practice and prepare for these interruptions and get good at handling them. One of the best things Steve Jobs is a great presenter and whenever the slides went wrong, he would make a joke about it and he would relate it back to a life story that he had. Keep the crowd entertained and then as the slides came back on he would go straight back into his page. He was perfect at the Cramer technique.
5. Visualisation is the most important preparation
Tip number five: Visualization is one of the most important preparations you can do. What this means is getting in a quiet place, getting away from the hustle and bustle of work or life or wife or kids, getting down, closing your eyes and actually visualize yourself in a successful situation, giving an awesome speech. Visualize yourself in a room of the people that you’re going to be speaking to and visualize them. Getting up and giving you a standing ovation as you finish your speech. Visualize how you going to say certain things and visualize the crowd laughing. Visualize you’re engagement with them– really feel like you’re there giving the speech because what this would do is this will prepare your mind for success and will actually focus your mind on how to become successful. So if you’re already showing your mind the success, that your mind will then work about making that happen.
6. Be completely 100% yourself
Tip number six: Be completely 100% yourself. I am not Jerry Seinfeld. I am not that funny. I am not Steve Jobs. I can’t wear turtle neck. I am Ryan. I am me and I can deliver a speech– when I deliver a speech and I try be someone else or I try and be funny in a way that I’m not used to, it just comes across dull. It just comes across awkward. It’s really bad way to do it. It’s really inauthentic, but by being authentic, by being yourself, by being funny in your own way, by letting your quirks come out, you can deliver a great speech and the audience will engage with you because the audience will also engage with the person. They don’t want to hear a speech delivered by a robot pretending to be someone else. So be yourself a 100%
7. Don’t get hung up on content (instead know the message you want to get across)
Tip number seven: Don’t get hung up on content. Instead know the message that you want to get across. I see this rookie mistake made all the time. People are so into the content, so into their speech that they forget completely about the message that they want to get across. The entire point of public speaking is to get a message across to your audience and to change and improve their lives in some way to get an outcome. Always, always focus on the message you want to get across and don’t let the content get in a way of that.
8. Entertain the socks off your audience
Tip number eight: Entertain the socks off of your audience. People want to be entertained. They want to be engaged. We live in the internet age where people’s attention span is shorter than a split second. So we need to keep them entertained. We talked about being ourselves. We talked about not getting half on the content and getting the message across. Make sure you do it in an entertaining way. If you can bring in multimedia or things that they know– maybe you can talk about the movie that they are familiar with. Maybe you can talk about something that occurs in their everyday lives. Get them entertained by bringing them into and talking about them. Remember, your speech is not about you, it’s not about your content. It’s about them and the message that they need to receive.
9. Skip stats, use stories
Tip number nine: Skip the stats and use stories. People do not remember statistics. They remember stories. I’m trying to remember the sermon that I’ve heard at church last week and I literally cannot remember anything that the speaker said except the story that she told about how when she gets overwhelmed with the things that the Bible tells her to do that she needs to sit down and go get a cup of tea. She had this humorous story about overwhelmed that we all feel. I remember the story. I don’t remember any of her other points. So skip the stats as much as possible– use stories because that engages people and that’s what they walk away remembering.
10. Big words suck, don’t use them
Tip number ten of the ten tips for public speaking that you would never thought of as big words SUCK. Don’t use them. Don’t use big words that people might not understand. Don’t use industry related lingo if you’re not a 100% certain that everyone in the room is going to understand the word that you’re using. Look, if you have to use big words, explain what the word is and then move on. Don’t just say the big word and then keep talking because people are going to spend ten minutes going, “I got no idea what they just said. What does that word mean?” Or they’re smart they get on Google and they’ll start searching for that word. If you introduce a new word, introduce it, explain what it means and then move on. So big words avoid them at all cause but if you have to use them, explain them.
So there you have the 10 tips for public speaking that you would never have thought of and also that you won’t find on any of the other public speaking websites. Use this, get into them, review them, practice them and you will become a better public speaker.
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Jul 08 2013
Rank #5: More Thoughts On Being An Authentic Public Speaker
Hi guys this Ryan from publicspeakingpower.com and I wanted today to give you guys some more thoughts on being an authentic public speaker. So I am not sure whether you listened to the podcast yesterday or not but if you haven’t I do advise you to go back and have a listen to it. I went on a massive rant about being an authentic versus being a polish public speaker and the frustrations that I have with some public speakers who are probably considered the greatest in the world but who just don’t seem to be authentic and the love that I have for the public speakers that are authentic. And what I want to do today is just give a couple more thoughts on that and just expand upon what I spoke about yesterday.
And because yesterday I spoke about passion versus polish and really came down to being authentic verse being polish and I think yes you can have both but I think being authentic is the most important thing that you need to do when it comes to public speaking and I think that’s because we have had a change in culture where people don’t necessarily just want to learn about a topic, people want to trust a person, people want to connect with the person and people want to learn from a person so yes they are interested in the topic but if they just wanted to learn about it they could go and read a text book but who read text books these day? College students, high school students, nobody outside of college or high school really reads a textbook and so people want to learn from real people and they want to know that the person that they are speaking to they can trust because we’ve all had experiences where a business that we have dealt with or a friend that we have dealt with has displace their trust and we’ve lost that trust in them.
So now with the fact that the Internet has so much transparency, the fact that there’s so much content out there I could learn about public speaking from so many different people. I could learn about investing in property from so many different people. I could learn about being a great dad from so many different people and from so many different companies as well but who I choose to learn from will come down to firstly who I trust that the information that they give is good and then probably secondly the types of content they deliver and how I can get access to it and the price that it’s for. But trust is that big thing. Trust is that massive issue and it’s something that I think we pay not enough attention to and something that we need to pay more attention to – that trust and authenticity.
And so yesterday I said I go against polish and I go against not following a script but following a step-by-step how-to guide to being a public speaker. I believe in overarching principles of public speaking but when it comes to exact ways to do things that’s where on a bit iffy. And look I may be naïve because I am still learning on his journey of public speaking but I think when it comes down to the principles of a public speech, a principle is something like have a great introduction. That is a great principle but when you get into specifics where someone says you need to ask questions in your introduction that is the best way to do an introduction. Well, that I’m not so sure about. Have a great introduction yes because I understand that you need to draw the audience in but a great introduction for you is different to a great introduction for me and the way you want to deliver your speech and who you are delivering your speech to verses how I am delivering my speech and who I want to deliver my speech is going to be very different.
So the why we introduce ourselves, the way we introduce our speech or what we want to talk about the topic is going be very different and so I agree with the principles of having a great introduction, use stories and all these sorts of things but I think when people get really granular and really specific and say okay you need to have a great introduction here is the way to do it. That’s when I think you should have alarm bells going off in your head. Here is a way to do it definitely no. Here is a way to have a great introduction. Here are a couple of ways to have a great introduction. Here is a couple of different things that you could do and you could try them out for yourself and see what works.
But I think when it comes to learning about public speaking I think we need to constantly be analyzing and it helps if we are public speaking all the time. It helps if we are constantly speaking in front of people or constantly even speaking ourselves we can analyze what works well and what doesn’t. So what I really wanted to get at in yesterday’s podcast which I don’t feel like I had covered enough I really enjoyed it. I really think that it’s a good podcast. I really think that the message was clear and needed to be said but I think what I missed about it was the fact that ….oh man I lost my train of thought now…sorry guys. Leading up to this big crescendo and then it just died off, can’t remember …and I am going to pause it and see if I can remember. I stopped pausing and I really couldn’t think of it so if it was really good I apologize or it was probably just another rant.
So I just want to give a couple thoughts now on being an authentic public speaking and what that means. And firstly I think that it means being yourself. When I was interviewing Tim Reid from Small Business Big Marketing he is a professional public speaker and the bulk of his income comes from public speaking. And his biggest tip and the biggest takeaway I took from that interview with him which you can check out on the podcast if you like go to www.publicspeakingpower.com/timbo and you get access to that there.
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But the biggest thing that took away from him was the fact that he said look you need to be yourself because then you don’t have to worry about anything else, you can focus on your content, you can focus on your delivery if you’re just being yourself. So I think the first part to being authentic is being yourself and I think the second part to being authentic is talking about something that you’re passionate about or finding some aspect of what you’re talking about where your passion comes out because I think that public speaking and Jesse said this, Jesse Milani when I did an interview with him as well is that people remember things more when you bring emotion into it. And what I think public speaking is, is a transference of a message and the best way I think to transfer a message is to transfer it through emotion. And I think passion is one of the most powerful emotions that you can use to transfer a message. You can use any sort of emotion, that’s fine but I just think if you are passionate about a topic, if you’re excited about a topic then that shines through and that excitement will rub off on other people. When my associate of two weeks of my pharmaceutical role left and when I talk to my colleagues if I’m passionate about a topic and they are kind of down in the dumps I will be able to bring their excitement level up. Maybe not up to the same level am but that passion is contagious and that passion you can implant into someone else and the same thing goes if I am having a crappy day and they call me and I am all down in the dumps
I can actually bring them down to my level I can transfer that emotion of just distaste or whatever it is it – distaste is not the right word but when you are feeling upset, when you are down in the dumps you can past that sorrow on to someone else and so those emotions transfer whether you like it or not and those emotions shine through, and the more authentic you are, the more they come through and I think you can tell if you listen today and if you listened yesterday the passion that I have for what I am speaking about and the conviction that I have for what I am speaking about. I know you guys can’t see me but if you could see my hands moving, the gestures that I am using, it just feels like this deep conviction that I have that we shouldn’t necessarily believe everything out there. We should be ourselves, we should look for the principles, we should look for the guiding principles and then we should look at multiple ways to outwork those guiding principles and how we can do them better.
So being authentic firstly be yourself. Secondly be passionate or be some sort of emotion. Maybe it can be sorrow. Why not? Be said, transfer sadness to your audience. And then thirdly I think comes back to tell stories the way you tell stories. I have been on YouTube and I’ve been looking at story-telling because I think it is one of the most important things about public speaking but we all tell stories differently. When I’m at a training with my colleague Towan we know the same story, we’ve been in the same stores, we talk to each other, we know the same stories but we tell them in different ways so she might start off with a different way. She uses a lot more detail than I do but if I was to try and use as much detail as she does in her stories I would sound clunky, I would sound awkward and so even though we’re telling the same story we’re telling it differently because that’s part of being authentic and being yourself and so when people say do exactly this that probably works really well for them and that’s probably their way of being authentic but you just need to be careful that you are not taking an exact step-by-step guide because I think public speaking is more of an art than it is a craft.
Yes you can learn the skills. Yes you can become better at it but it’s not a step-by-step manual. You are not building like furniture guys. You are speaking to people, you are transferring a message and every time you get up and speak, well firstly every speaker is different, so you’re very different to me but then every audience is different. No two times when you speak is an audience going to be exactly the same and even him if you’re speaking to exactly the same people. Let’s say you have a community where the same ten people come to your group every week and you’re speaking every week. Your audience is never the same because the mind frame that those people are in, the stage of life that they are at, the week that they’ve had, the feelings that they’re feeling at that moment will be different every single time, it would never be exactly the same. So I just think we can’t get too granular with this, we need to stick to big bitch and we need to stick to being authentic.
I am going to close off here. This has been a bit of a ramble; it’s not been something that’s been concrete. But I think authenticity isn’t concrete. Is it? It’s not something that I can teach you in a step by step guide of how you can be authentic. You know who you are. You know who you are in front of your spouse, in front of your kids, in front of your best friends. You know who you are in the depths if your heart and when you’re alone. So being authentic I guessed is just being true to yourself, being confident in who you are and let that shine through because at the end at the day I truly believe that people want to learn from someone they trust and because of the changing media, the way that we are consumed in media these days people are less likely to trust someone just because they work for a Corporation. They are less likely to trust someone just because they have great public speaking skills but they’re more likely to trust someone if they get those subtle cues that this is who the person is and they’re not just putting on a show for me, that this is actually them. And what those other cues are I don’t know. They are probably subconscious. Maybe I need to get some clinical psychologist on here to discuss some of those subtle body language cues that we use but if you just be yourself those cues will shine through anyway.
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So thank you so much guys for listening in. I truly believe that we can all become powerful public speakers and if we have a message that we want to get across then public speaking and being able to communicate that is one of the most important things that we can do with our lives. So until next time keeping you keeping authentic and I will be talking to you guys tomorrow.
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Sep 21 2013
Rank #6: How To Practice Public Speaking Without Getting Up In Front Of A Crowd
Practicing public speaking is the best way to get better and remove all your fears. However, often you will want to practice your public speaking without getting up in front of a crowd…even if that crowd is a small group of friends or family.
Practice public speaking in the privacy of your own home is a great thing to do and will make you more confident on the day. Just as professional musicians spend hundreds of hours practice their craft in the room, the more you practice your public speaking (even if it’s not in front of a crowd) the better you will become.
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The Best Way To Practice IS To Get Up In Front Of A Crowd, But It’s Not The Only Way
One of the best ways to get better at public speaking is to practice in front of a crowd and to actually do public speaking. Speak in front of people and get feedback to see how you feel, to see how you handle getting up on stage and all of that. But sometimes we want to practice speaking without getting up in front of people and without making a fool of ourselves.
Practice Tip #1: Write Down Your Speech On Paper
The first tip to practice public speaking at home is to write down your speech. Get a piece of paper and get a pen, or maybe use a computer. Use whatever writing device you use it doesn’t really matter, but get a writing device and write any speech word for word exactly what you want to say.
Write the introduction, the middle and the end. Write it exactly word for word and get the entire speech down on paper.
This is a really good step to get your thoughts into something more tangible and to really practice what a speech should sound like.
Practice Tip #2: Learn Your Speech Off By Heart
The second tip is to learn your speech off by heart. Once you’ve written it down start practicing by yourself so you know you can do it.
You can do it at home or you can do it in your office. Find somewhere that’s secluded, you can even go to the bathroom and practice it in there if you like.
Tip #3 Practice Your Speech Out Loud
Practice and learn how your speech goes, know it off by heart. Practice all the way from the introduction, through the body of you speech and then close it off.
Pretend like there are people there even though obviously there’s not going to be people. Use the inflections that you would use and throw some comedy and all those sorts of things.
Practice how you would say it on the day. Practicing public speaking out loud is important because when you write it down you think that everything you write is genius. “Look at that, that’s that’s pure gold” (is what you think) and then when you say it out loud it might just sound stupid.
So write it down first and then go and practice it out loud.
Tip #4 Practice Without Notes
The tip is to practice your speech in the shower, or in your car, or in the backyard or when out for a walk. Practice somewhere where you don’t have notes and somewhere where you can be standing up.
Rather than sitting at your desk and writing it out and things like that, learn it off by heart and then practice it somewhere where you don’t have notes and somewhere that you can use hand gestures and things like that.
Tip #5 Record Yourself
Knowing it off by heart can work, but hearing your own voice is an even better way to practice your public speaking without getting up in front of a crowd.
Listen back to yourself you can see what sounds cool, what makes sense, what you need to remove and what you need to change.
It’s really easy to record things now. You can record using your iPhone or mobile phone device, or you can even use the microphone which is built into most computers these days. Press play and record yourself and then listen to yourself playing back.
You might be going “ummm…” every two seconds and by knowing that you can prepare and say to yourself “okay well I need to change that”
By recording yourself you will realise that while some things sound good in your head, they might not always sound that great out loud.
Tip #6: Record Yourself On Video
Record yourself on video, which is probably the closest thing to speaking in front of a crowd without actually speaking in front of a crowd.
When giving a presentation, you need to be aware the way you look, the way you move and things that you do. So get a camera, you can just use a smart phone, your digital camera or your laptop to get started. It doesn’t have to be a million dollar project (look at the video of this post!)
Do it all in one take ad don’t stop and then edit the video. Get it so you can do all in one take and then go back and watch yourself.
You might have from according to you have gotten rid of the “umms” and “ahhs” and things like that but you might have this strange neck twitch or there might be something that you doing constantly that you were unaware of.
There you have the five tips on how to practice public speaking without getting up in front of a crowd. Don’t just read this blog post or watch my videos, take these tips and implement them in your own life. Get up in front of a camera (or in front of a tree) and start speaking.
Public speaking is like swimming. You can’t get better at swimming if you never get in the water and you can’t get better at public speaking if you never speak.
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Jul 08 2013
Rank #7: 10 Activities For Public Speaking That Will Actually Make You A Better Speaker.
Just like any skill, public speaking requires practice if you want to improve. These 10 activities for public speaking have helped me become a better public speaker and will help you also.
Most activities for public speaking focus around the technical ability to speak. Word games, tongue twisters and voice warm up activities all exist to help you train your voice to be more accurate. However, the main thing that holds people back from speaking in public is not the proper use of their voice, it is the fear of public speaking itself.
I have devised 10 real life activities that will help you deal with the fear of public speaking and help grow your confidence and minimise your anxiety.
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The hardest speech you will ever give is usually your first speech
I have found that as my public speaking experience grows, so does my confidence.
If you still aren’t convinced that public speaking is for you then I suggest you read why is public speaking important.
10 Real Life Activities For Public Speaking
Here are the 10 activities. Don’t try to complete them all at once. Choose just one and work on that.
1. Record yourself on a video
I have found this to be THE most effective activity if you want to become a better public speaker.
Set up your laptop and stand in front of it, or set up your phone, and record yourself giving a speech. It might be the speech you are preparing for or it might be talking in general and then watch yourself back.
Look at the things you do and the things that you say and see what you are doing right and wrong so you can correct it. By watching yourself you control the odd things you do and it also builds confidence.
2. Practice the Kramer technique
In Seinfeld Kramer used to always run into Jerry’s apartment and make this big entrance that interrupted anything that was happening in the show.
By “the Kramer technique” I mean that you should practice for interruptions.
Create circumstances where you are interrupted when your speaking. Maybe you can throw your cue cards up in the air half way through your speech, or pretend that your power point presentation fails or pretend you have lost your train of thought.
3. The impromptu activity
Create an impromptu speech and you can even tie this in with activity #1 – filming yourself. Think about a random topic and try to create a speech around that topic.
Set a time limit around 5-10 and practice being impromptu and speaking off the cuff. I have created a blog post all about winging it if you want more information.
You can also use something like a word generator to get ideas if you cannot think of topics to talk about yourself or if you want a bit of a challenge.
4. Reverse the order of your speech
Often when creating a speech we learn the progression of our speech. Point #1 leads into point #2.
This is fine when everything goes to plan but creates issues if you lose your train of thought or miss a point. By missing a point or important story you can lose your place completely as your mind is relying on mental cues that may not occur to remember and deliver your speech.
By altering the order of your speech you will learn your content better so when mistakes are made or interruptions occur in real life you will be able to get back on track quickly.
So mix it up. Start with your conclusion and deliver your important points backwards. Or jumble the order of your key points so they are random.
5. Pretend you are speaking to 5 year olds
They say if you can’t explain your topic or key message to a 5 year old then you don’t know your topic well enough.
This comes downs to simplifying the essence of your presentation and getting the essence out.
Many people, when giving a public speech, are so focused on their structure that they forget about the core message of the speech and getting that out.
Getting your message across is the most important thing about your presentation and sometimes we can “lose the forest for the trees” and forget about our message. Simplifying it for a 5 year old can help you keep your key message as the core of your presentation.
6. Start a podcast about your topic (or at least record yourself)
For me I have multiple podcasts that I record on a weekly basis. Some audio podcasts and some video podcasts.
I am improving my public speaking skills by creating content for an audience.
Once of the reasons people don’t get better at public speaking is because they never do it. If we create a podcast and it is going out to an audience it forces your mind to think about public speaking more and get better at it.
It also gives you valuable feedback, either by listening to it yourself, or from your audience to see what podcast episodes are popular and what topics interest people.
7. Relate any subject to your one particular story
Maybe you have a few stories that articulate a certain or a single story for each individual point.
What you can do to become better at public speaking is to choose just one story from your speech and make every single point come out of that one story.
This forces your mind to think creatively as you need to be able to draw multiple lessons from a single story. By limiting what you have to work with you expand your mind and your public speaking abilities.
8. Take a news article from today and put it into your speech
This is a challenge because you need to take an example that may not be related to your field of expertise or your topic in general and bring it into your presentation.
9. Condense your speech to one point (and then only talk about that point for the entirety of your speech)
So let’s say you are giving a 30 minute speech and you have 5 points. Strip those 5 points and choose just 1 point.
Now, how can you create the same length speech for just that one point in your speech. This will help challenge you to communicate more effectively but will also help you to know your content better.
10. Watch a TED Talk
I find TED talks better to watch than Toastmasters presentations because at a TED talk the speaker is trying to get a message across. In toastmasters the speaker is trying to show their public speaking skills…two very different goals.
This is people talking about their fields of study and their expertise and their goal is to get their message across.
Watch the TED talk and ask yourself “what did they do well”, “what body language did they use”, “how did they use stories to get their message across” etc.
Analyse the speeches and try to learn from them.
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Dec 23 2013
Rank #8: Significantly Boost Your Public Speaking Confidence By Listening To Yourself Speak
If you want to significantly boost your public speaking confidence then there is almost no better way than to listen to yourself speak.
This is lesson number one of private public speaking power where I teach you how you can practice and improve your public speaking skills from the privacy of your own home.
I’m really excited about this course. I’m going to cover 21 different activities that you can do from the privacy of your own home where you can improve your public speaking skills, grow your confidence and just become a more effective public speaker.
Activity number one is what I’m covering today and if you want to get access to all the activities, just simply go to publicspeakingpower.com/private.
Okay, so the first activity is actually probably one of the hardest activities I’ve got in my list of 21 activities. However, I believe it’s one of the most effective things that you can do to really build your confidence when it comes to public speaking.
So many people are afraid of public speaking.
Public speaking is still stated as the number one fear above all else even death so it’s something that I take very seriously and something that I want to help people overcome.
You may notice that if you ever listen to yourself you sound silly. It is so awkward to listen to yourself, right? It just doesn’t sound right.
There is something wrong with your voice when you hear it back and that’s because when we speak and when we hear our own voice through our ears, but we also hear the vibrations through the bones in our jaw which goes through our ears. So it gives our voice a different sound to ourselves than what it sounds like to other people.
Record Yourself and Listen To Yourself Speak
Because of this different and the awkwardness we feel when listening to ourselves I have decided to make activity number one recording yourself and to listening to yourself speaking.
Now, you don’t need to record a speech that you’re giving and you don’t need it to be fluent. You don’t even need it to be accurate. The idea of this activity is to get used to the sound of your own voice and confident at the sound of your own voice.
For most people I would encourage you, don’t worry about recording a speech that you created yourself. A much better idea is to record yourself reading a page (or a few pages) of a book. Simply read the page and record yourself.
How To Record Your Own Voice (Hint: It’s Easy)
Now, it’s quite easy to record yourself.
Most of us have smart phones these days and most smart phones have recording capabilities. I’ve got an Iphone5 which has really great quality recording. I’ve also got a Mac Book and so most PC’s and Mac’s also have audio capabilities as well. And worst case scenario, you can buy a usb microphone off EBay or off Amazon.com for $10 or even less these days.
Get a way to record yourself and if you’re using a smart phone then there’s a lot of different apps out there that you can you, but basically what you want to do is you want to read the book, tell the story, give your speech if you want, whatever it is that you need to do.
Stick to 5-10 minutes
Go into a private room so there’s no one around, no one can hear you and you want to hit record and you want to record yourself and you want it to be at least five minutes long. Anything shorter than that and it’s not really long enough. You can go obviously as long as you want I think around five to ten minutes is ideal.
In 5-10 minutes you can sit down and you can listen to yourself and it’s not going to take up your entire day. If you’re recording a 60 minutes seminar or speech and you want to sit down and listen to yourself speak, well you have to have an hour of your day. A hour of spare time is hard to come by but five to ten minutes is very easy to find.
It’s Not How To Speak, It’s Getting Used To Your Voice That Matters
So what we’re going to do is record ourselves. It’s important to note that it’s not what you say, it’s not how you say it, it’s the fact that we’re just getting used to how our voice sounds to other people.
You then want to get some headphones, put it in your Iphone, put it in your computer, whatever it is and start listening to yourself back and you want to do it once, you want to do it twice, you want to do it three times.
You want to keep doing it until you get used to a sound of your own voice because what will happen is the first time you listen to it, you will hate it. It will be horrible.
You listen to yourself and you think, “Oh, my gosh! I can’t believe I sound like that. That is not me.” You get this feeling of dread and awkwardness inside of you, but stick through it.
You’ve got your headphones, no one else is listening. You’re not sharing this with anyone, listen to yourself and then go through it again and then go through it again and then go through it again and keep going through it until that sense of awkwardness, that sense of the fact that you hate the sound of your own voice disappears.
Now, this is hard to do. It’s a big stretch for a lot of us, but remember we are doing this in private. We are not showing anyone this recording. We’re not releasing it online. We’re just doing it for our own benefit and what will happen is that as that awkwardness goes away, as that frustration goes away, as that weird sense inside of you, “Oh, I hate this!” goes away.
Your confidence will then dramatically grow in terms of your public speaking skills. It’s not so much how you talk that gives you confidence, but it’s how you think about yourself in the way you talk that will give you more confidence.
This Is One Of The Best Steps I Have Found To Overcoming The Fear of Public Speaking
Our distaste for our own voice is one of the biggest things I think we need to overcome when it comes to the fear of public speaking and when it comes to becoming better public speakers.
We need to be not be ashamed of our voice. We need to not be ashamed of the way we speak and we need to be extremely comfortable with the way that we speak. So that way we hear ourselves back. We think it sounds fine.
Once we think our voices sound normal and then once we get passed that awkward phase, we can then begin to analyze our speeches and we can then begin to say, “Okay, what can I do better? How can I improve?” Because you’re not so focus on the way your voice sounds that you can actually begin to look at your speaking more seriously.
So that is lesson number one of private public speaking power. I know this is a hard one and I know that I opened lesson number one with a hard activity.
If it’s too hard for you right now then go through to complete activity number two, but I really, really encourage you to give this a go because it will do wonders for your confidence in public speaking. I look forward to lesson number two where we going to be talking about writing our speeches.
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Sep 02 2013
Rank #9: How To Start A Speech In Public Speaking
Most people start their speeches in a horrible way, so boring. I want to show you how to start a speech in public speaking. There are 2 things you want to do:
1) You want to establish with the audience what’s in it for them.
Why should I give my attention to you? Why somebody should even bother listening to you. And let’s face it, not many people establish this during these speeches.
2) You need to establish some credibility as to why are you talking about what you are talking about.
How should we start a speech in public speaking?
There are 4 ways that are quite effective in starting a speech and there are some ways that are horrible.
Let’s start with a horrible one.
The most common one is people getting up there and starting with something along the lines of
‘Hi, my name is Ryan McLean and I work as a internet marketer and I am married with 2 kids and I live in blah blah blah.”
People don’t like that and they don’t engage with that. It doesn’t present anything of value to the person listening. They want to know what is in this speech for them, not your resume facts.
That is the most common way that people get it wrong.
Here are 4 ways you can get it right.
4. Start With A Quote
Start with a quote or a proverb or with a verse and tie it in with your speech.
What you are doing is you are taking a quote from a reputable source that people may find interesting and you tie it in with your speech.
You are saying this is important to you because of this quote or because of this proverb. People love quotes and proverbs.
3. Ask A Question
This can be rhetorical or can actually be asking the audience a question.
‘Do you want to be a millionaire?’ that’s probably a rhetorical question. But if you say “Put your hands up if you like sausages” that is a question seeking a response from the audience.
Asking questions brings engagement from the audience and helps draw them into your presentation.
2. Present A Shocking Factoid
Start a speech is with a factoid or some shocking fact.
For example, ‘Did you know that the amount of energy that earth receives in 2 minutes from the sun could power the entire earth for a year? How does that make you think about energy and about energy moving forward?’
So you are taking a factoid, something that might be a bit shocking, and you are asking the audience to rethink something they have always thought was true.
You are asking them to rethink. ‘Ok, I have never thought of that before.’ And then; ‘Hmm, let me listen to you some more.’
1. Tell A Story
Probably the most affective way to start a story is the same way as a parent I put my kids to bed every single night. I read them a story!
And how did the stories start when you were a kid? “Once upon a time”
Kids are trained that when we say ‘once upon a time’ they know it’s a story, they lean in to learn some more.
But we are not going to start an adult speech to a group of adults with ‘once upon a time, in a galaxy far away’. We are going to use an adult way to start and establish a story.
And that’s simply by creating some contect ‘When I was 25.’, ‘In 1985.’ ‘Two years ago.’ you can start with a time frame of when the story happened.
Then you go into your story, ‘this and this happened’. But you need to be careful to tie it into them.
Stories can work so well is because you are creating an open loop. You are creating stories that people what to hear the end to.
But you also need to get the audience involved with the story. They need to be able to draw a comparison to how the story relates to them. (more tips on storytelling)
So remember, next time you are starting a speech don’t start it with the boring statement of ‘hi, I am blah blah blah blah blah.’
Jan 03 2014
Rank #10: 5 Things You Should Visualize Before You Give A Public Speech
Visualization is an extremely important confidence boosting tool. There are some things that you should and shouldn’t visualize before you give a public speech. These are the five things you should visualize before you give a public speech.
Use these techniques and your speech will have a much greater chance of success.
Visualization is the technique of using your mind to actually experience the event in your own way before you go out and give your speech. You may do this in a quiet place, where you close your eyes and you think about what it would be like to be up on stage giving that speech.
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Now when you do this there are the five things that you should visualize.
1. The Introduction
You should start and visualize your introduction. The introduction is one of the hardest parts of your public speech and getting it right is extremely important.
You need to be able to pull in the audience and to engage them and get them on board for the rest of the speech. If you fail in the introduction it can be hard to pick up your speech back up.
Visualize your introduction. Don’t just visualize yourself giving the introduction, visualize yourself giving it really well and having that audience engagement that you desire. If you have a joke in your opening then imagine the audience laughing, imagine yourself giving that opening and then them laughing.
2. The Audience’s Reaction
The audience’s reaction is probably the most important thing you can visualize.
Your speech speech is all about the audience…not about you. It’s all about how they react to you and how they react to what you said.
So imagine in your mind you’re standing up on stage and looking out at the audience. How are they reacting to you? Are they leaning in? What are they doing with their hands? are they clapping or cheering? what are they doing to egg you on? to be engaged with you and to show you that they’re on board?
Imagine your audience doing exactly what you want them to do when you’re delivering your speech.
3. Your Body Language
This is one of the areas where a lot of people trip up during a speech. They may be giving a really good presentation but they are fidgeting and twitching, or they’re walking in a strange way.
Bad body language throws people off completely. If you’re watching someone on stage and they’re parading around like a complete goose your not going to have any idea what they’re saying. You’re just thinking about how weird that looks!
So imagine your body language when you giving this speech. Imagine how you’ll stand, imagine how you walk across the stage, imagine how you hold the pulpit etc.
4. Your Pauses
We want to avoid Ums and Ahs at all costs because again it throws people off. It is also very unprofessional.
What we want to do is replace those with pauses. In order to do that we need to be conscious about our pauses. So let’s imagine ourselves giving a speech and let’s imagine the points where we’ll pause. We will hold that pause for one second or maybe two seconds and we’ll see the audience’s reaction.
Feel that pause and let the awkwardness go by the wayside.
5. The Standing Ovation
Imagine that you finish the speech you delivered, had that audience engagement your body language is being great. Your pauses have been great and then you finish and everyone gets up and gives you a big clap and a big standing ovation.
That is something that is really exciting. That is something that’s going to get you pumped up, it’s going to get you confident and really excited to give your speech
BONUS #6. What The Audience Does After Your Speech
Now a bonus: Imagine what your audience does after your speech. Remember I said your speech is all about the audience, not about you.
How is the audience going to go away and take your content and implemented it in their own lives. If it’s in a business meeting, how they going to go back to their desk and use your information to work in a different way? If it’s in a conference, how are people going to talk about your speech when they mingle with other people at the conference?
These are 5 things you should visualize before you give a public’s speech. This will boost your confidence and help to make you calm and relaxed when it comes to go time.
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Jul 06 2013
Rank #11: How To Utilize Audience Smartphone Usage [to your advantage] During Your Presentation – With Jesse Milani from PktFuel.com
How many times have you got your phone out to check email or facebook during a speech, presentation or event?
The chances are more than once. In fact the statistics are staggering.
In a recent young adults meeting Jesse Milani noticed that at least 50% of the young adults were on their phones during the speech AT ANY ONE TIME!
This is a trend that we cannot buck. We need to learn how to engage our audience by getting them to use their smart phones…not by trying to get them off their smartphones.
In this awesome brainstorming session me and Jesse (from Pocket Fuel Daily Bible Devotions) discuss different ways we could utilize the audience’s smart phones to engage the audience.
I am really excited to share this one with you. It is a topic I am extremely passionate about and something that I don’t see many people talking about or doing during their presentations.
Let’s cause a change in the way we deliver a speeches. Let’s engage our audience where they are…which is on their phones.
Sep 17 2013
Rank #12: 3 Ways To Make Any Story Awesome During Your Public Speech
Telling an awesome story can often mean the difference between a great speech and a lacklustre speech. Here are 3 ways to make any story awesome when you a delivering a public speech.
Have you ever told a bad story?
You feel like it’s building up to a crescendo as you tell it but then … nothing happens. People ask, “Is that it? Is that the end?” It can be a very awkward moment.
“And then I found fifty dollars!” you conclude. Or “I woke up and it was all a dream.” Your story had no point and no meaning.
So how do we make our stories engaging and interesting?
Tip#1: Give the right amount of detail
You don’t want to give too many details. But you also need to give enough details.
You might start a story with “When I was eighteen” or “When I was in Year 12”. But you won’t say, “When I was in Year 12 and it was a sunny day in January and we had just started school and it was about 12 o’clock – or was it 10 o’clock? – actually no because it was in the afternoon and we were having an afternoon assembly …”
You can tell right now that there is way too much information.
What you want to do is give enough details that people can follow you. “When I was in high school …” You’re bringing people into the situation. That builds context around your story.
But when you start to go granular you risk losing your audience. Include the details that move you toward the whole point of your story. Try and remove the added detail that doesn’t actually add to the story.
Tip#2: Be relevant to your audience
I work in the pharmaceutical industry. We talk about things like Atorvastatin and Rosuvastatin. We talk about brand names like Lipitor and Crestor.
But my wife doesn’t know what any of these things are. She doesn’t know what they do. So when I talk to her about my work I need to make it relevant to her.
Use words that make sense to and are meaningful to your audience. Make it relevant to the crowd. Don’t use words and concepts that they don’t understand.
Give as much information as you can to the person to make it relevant for them.
Tip#3: Get to the point
The best stories are ones that have a moral or message or something exciting that happens at the end.
Your story needs to have a point. Don’t tell a story for the sake of a story. This is the best way to avoid those awkward moments where your story never really comes to fruition. Know what your point is and make the journey to it succinct and clear.
And there you have three things to think about when you’re adding stories into your speeches.
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Sep 06 2013
Rank #13: Persistent Pays Off When It Comes To Public Speaking
In today’s podcast I talked about a breakthrough I had after 18 months of persistence and another story about the success I have had this year that took 6 years of FAILURE to achieve.
Persistence pays of when it comes to public speaking. Even if you aren’t a great speaker now you can become one with enough time and persistence.
Don’t give up!
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Sep 13 2013
Rank #14: Anything Is Better Than Zero – So Start Speaking
Hi guys, this is Ryan McLean from publicspeakingpower.com and I’m really actually really quite excited about today’s episode because I’ve been surfing the web, I’ve been surfing YouTube for things that are inspirational for me when it comes to speaking and I stumbled upon something by Gary Vaynerchuk which I have talked about him in some of my other podcasts before in the way that he speaks, the way that he interacts with people, the stuff that he puts out online because it’s so different to anything that I see. When I look at Toastmasters its polished, I mean man they are good, they know their words, they make no mistakes, they do not get interrupted, nothing goes wrong, they wear full business suits, all the shebang, nothing goes wrong at all. And then I watched Gary and them I am like: damn that’s a real person, that is a real person, that is someone that I can relate to, that is someone that I feel like I’m sitting across the table with having a chat with and what I wanted to do is that I pulled the audio from one of his videos on YouTube and I want to share it with you guys. And he talks about the fact that anything is better than zero.
And look I want you to look past the fact that he’s talking about internet marketing, that he’s talking about different things to public speaking, and I want you to bring it back to your life, whether it is speaking, whether it’s something else that you do that you want to expand upon, that you want to grow, whether it’s a business that you have, whether it is create that you are doing or family that you are making, anything is better than zero. And so this whole concept has really – I say it begins to define me but that’s not the right term. It has really made a massive impact on my life and given me huge motivation to go forward every day. Because I have shared this before that sometimes when I look at the speakers that are out there, when I look at the great things that people are doing, when I look at the coaching that people are doing, the money that people making, the YouTube videos that they have, the podcasts that are out there and I just get to depressed. I get depressed because I feel like they’re so far ahead of me that I cannot catch up no matter how hard I work, no matter what I do, I feel like there’s no point doing anything because these guys are already doing it so well. But yet I have this passion. I have this burning desire inside of me to communicate, to share about anything really whether that be public speaking which is one thing I’m passionate about, whether be investing in property, whether it be internet marketing, whether it be websites, whether it be about being a young dad or being a good husband or whatever it is, I just love communicating. I love speaking. And so the concept that I am about to throw over to with Gary is the fact that anything is better than zero. So when it comes to public speaking you can worry about the fact that you’re not perfect, you can worry about the fact that you’re not great, that you mess stuff up, that you might embarrass yourself or you can understand that anything is better than zero.
Any practice that you do is better than not doing practice at all. Any speech that you give is better than giving no speech at all. Any experience that you can gather, any stories that you can create, anything that you can do is going to be better than zero. And when it comes to, say you want to build a professional career in public speaking any gig that you take is going to be better than zero, whether it be free gigs, whether it be paid gigs. I was re-listening to one of the interviews that I did with Timbo Reid from Small Business Big Marketing and I noticed just a little sentence that he said in that interview which is after two years of doing his podcast that’s when the speaking gig started to come in and he started with free gigs and other business online, like doing online trading using strategies as the harmonic pattern for this. And you could hardly even tell that he said that when it’s in the podcast because it is just a fleeting sentence but he started with free gigs. And now if you go on to his website www.timreid.com.au you can actually see the prices that he charges for his public speaking and I’m telling you it’s in the thousands of dollars and so he started with nothing and the same goes for you guys anything is better than zero. For me this podcast I am doing daily. Daily is better than zero. Daily is better than nothing.
So okay, I am going to start rambling I’m going to throw over to Gary and I am going to come back at the end and I’m going to summarize because I’m just pumped. This has just made me really excited. So if you’re starting your day this is a good way to start it because I think this is going to get you excited. Well I definitely hope it does, the same way it’s getting me all excited.
Hi everybody, it is Gary Vaynerchuk and you know I’m just sitting here, sorry, and I just got finished taping my tequila episode. I am sitting at my computer and I just realized like a lot people asking a lot about business questions like: How do you build your brand? How do you build your business? How do you get there? How did you the build the $50 million online shopper? How did the show get so big? I kind of realize something that I’m really taken aback by and I think it is one of the fundamental ground foundations of building any business or doing any entrepreneurial venture and that is the statement of this video, the statement that I live by. “It’s better than zeo.” I think way too many people are always going so global in their mind. When is it going to happen? Lack of patience, right? I think when you are building something even when you know you are big, I think about you know when I built the wine shop, when I built the wine show and when I had done other things in business. In my mind you know I was Oprah, I was Facebook, I was Google, I was you know the Jets, I was it. I did my thing. I knew what I had in my DNA. I knew what I had in my skill set. I knew what I brought to the table but the world didn’t.
The world didn’t know who I was and I had to earn it and even though I had already built this $50 million business in the liquor store industry when I got to the web 2.0 space to video content nobody gave a crap. Nobody cares that you are a big time lawyer. Nobody cares that you sold off this. You got to re-earn it and when you are re-earning it and if you have already done well or you come from nothing one or two, the two extremes it’s very hard to take minor victories but that is the key to success you know getting one little link. I still do things now that are below me that a lot of people in my market, a lot of people like: Why do you answer the email? Why do you do that? You know my friend Andrea Mac just had a baby. It’s awesome. Anyway, why would you agree to do that blog post? People always ask me that. Why do you guess plugging on a site that has a three million ____(unclear – 6:32?) Because everything is better than zero. Right? You are always going to put a price on your time and that’s what you’re giving up when you’re hustling. But when you’re building a business, when you’re trying to build something that you want to retire on or you want to do this full-time – I’m going to a new Media Expo in Vegas this week and everyone is like: Gary, I want you to do this fulltime. I do this but this is what I want to do fulltime. If you want to do it fulltime you have got to understand two principles – my I’m getting crazy, I am getting my pumped up. It’s this: 1) Patience and you’ve got to build your ass off and its going to take a long time and you just keep building and grinding and building; and 2) Everything is better than zero. Just get your extra links. Get talked about. Get a deal. Take 5 bucks or 7 to 10 bucks even though it’s worth 10 bucks on every other markets. Get $100 sponsorship of your show even though everybody’s getting a thousand and they’re getting less views. You understand? Get what you can get. Take it. Grab it. Anything is better than zero and you know what if you keep pounding away at that, if you put your head down and ram that in he-man style over and over and over taking little pieces little squirrel-like moves like an ant, at the other day you look around and you’ve got something and you start leveraging what you’ve got around you to build to the next spot and then you leverage again.
So everything, everything is better than zero. And the way you build on that is by hustling your face off.
So guys there you have it. That was Gary Vaynerchuk. You can check him out at garyvaynerchuk.com or you can just get on Google and you can search for Gary Vaynerchuk and however you spell it Google will correct you because Google has geniuses. But I just found that so inspiring. I found that so amazing that no matter what you want to do in life if you’re willing to hustle, if you’re willing to as Gary said work you face off and if you’re willing to accept that anything is better than zero whether it be 5 bucks, whether it be 10 bucks, whether it be a free speaking gif that you get to do to get experience, whether it be a free podcast that you put out like this one when you begin to understand that anything is better than zero and you’re willing and you’re grateful for whatever it is that you get I think that you can see massive things happen and I think what happens is people see the success that other people are having and they just get frozen like a deer in the headlights. They are frozen, they don’t want to do anything because it’s such a big lake for me to get from you know where I am to where someone like Craig Ballantyne who is a professional public speaker doing hundreds of speaking gigs per year, getting paid probably thousands of dollars to live his dream and speak in front of audiences. When I look at where I am to where Craig is I can say that is a massive lift. For me to get there it is going to take ridiculous effort or I just think it’s impossible. But for me to say look anything is better than zero so when I am comparing myself to zero, hey I start to look pretty good. Don’t I? Because anything is better than zero.
And I’m just going to finish on one of my favorite quotes and let’s turn around into speaking as that: “It takes the same amount of time to become a great public speaker as it does to remain average. So if it takes you twenty, thirty or forty years to become a great public speaker well in twenty, thirty or forty years you are still going to be twenty years older, thirty years older or forty years older. And if you put in the hard work you are going to be a great speaker and be having a huge impact and if you haven’t you are still going to be the same age. You are still going to have spent those twenty, thirty or forty years but you are not going to be great.
So, I hope that this has encouraged today on your morning commute or on your gym ride or anything like that. If you want more tips to I guess practice your public speaking to take it from zero maybe not practicing at all and to start practicing in the privacy of your own home then I want you guys to check out a course that I have created called: “Private Public Speaking Power.” And so that teaches you some activities that you can do in the privacy of your own home to become a better public speaker and so you can grab that just got a www.publicspeakingpower.com/private and then you can gain access to that there or if have any listener questions, anything that you want to throw me that you want me to speak about please email me: firstname.lastname@example.org . So thanks so much for listening guys and I’ll be back tomorrow with another episode.
Sep 19 2013
Rank #15: The 4 Public Speaking Gestures And How To Use Them
Using gestures, when give a public speech is a very important part of your presentation. Also using well designed fashion clothes from the best stores like The Fifth Collection will help you look better when talking in public. If you fail to use gestures properly and you do awkward gestures throughout your presentations,you are probably going to distract your audience and you are not going to get the impact that you want when you presenting.
Here are 4 public speaking gestures you can use as well as how to use them effectively during your presentation.
4 Public Speaking Gestures
I am going to walk you through the four gestures that you can use in your presentations and so you can become more powerful and effective public speaker.
1. Descriptive Gestures
These are gestures that we use to describe something or a situation .We might draw comparisons between something that’s really big and something that’s really small or we might use it to contrast certain items or to depict the size.
A great example that I am taking from toastmasters is if you are using a metaphor saying something is “like a tiny little bird” and you hold your hand out in a cup shape. You are reinstating the metaphor of the bird and also implying size being small.
You can also use descriptive gestures to show shapes. You can also talk about movement, you can talk about location and you can even use gestures when discussing numbers.
So descriptive gestures are very helpful because when we are speaking all we have is our words. All we have is what comes out of our mouth and by using descriptive gestures we can actually improve the impact of our public speech and improve the comprehension of our audience.
This means our message gets across more effectively.
2. Emphatic (Emotional) Gestures
Emphatic gestures are like emotional gestures. So if we are sad we could slump down and talk about sad things. If we are angry we could put our fists together and make an angry face.
We can use these gestures to symbolise the feelings that we have.
Emphatic gestures help us to appear more genuine. When you are talking about and you are using angry gestures it actually makes you seem more genuine.
The audience will be thingking “yes he were angry. I can see it in his body language.”
3. Suggestive Gestures
These are gestures that depict moods or expressions. For example: you could say I welcome you in with open arms whilst opening your arms.
4. Prompting Gestures
These are the ones that prompt the audience to do something.
Tony Robbins does this really well. He might say “raise your hand if you want to earn million dollar this year” and he will raise his hands as he is telling people to raise their hands.
Audience members are more likely to do it if they see you doing it first.
Or you could say “let’s jump up and down on the spot”. So you can see in the video I am jumping and so it encourages audience or prompts them to do something that you want to do.
So there you have the four gestures which we can use while giving a presentation and there are some ideas on how you can use them.
Using Public Speaking Hand Gestures Effectively
When it comes down to using them effectively I compiled the tips here. There I have 5 tips on how you can use them more effectively.
At the end of the day it comes down to preparation and practice and being natural in your gestures.
Don’t try and force yourself if you don’t feel natural. If it is flowing like it does in everyday conversation with your friends or family then that’s a good sign that they’re going to be hand gestures that will work.
Try to avoid those hand gestures that just really take away from your presentation and don’t support what you are presenting.
So I guess the rule is – If the gestures are supporting what you are saying then they are probably going to be great. If they take you away from what you are saying (like scratching your face, adjusting clothes or playing with your ring finger) then they are probably taking away from your presentation and you don’t want to use them.
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Jan 07 2014
Rank #16: How Public Speaking Can Help You Achieve Greater Success
Public speaking is an extremely valuable tool that can help you achieve great things in life. in this article I am going to discuss how public speaking can help you.
Public speaking is stated as the number one fear above anything else. But learning how to master the art of public speaking can be extremely beneficial to you in many different facets of your life.
So let’s break it down and look at some of the areas that public speaking can help us in our lives.
1: Further your career
Your career or your business is one of the places where public speaking is more beneficial than almost anywhere else.
Using strong public speaking skills can give you a great leg up over your peers and over people you’re competing against for different positions.
Public speaking can help you impress your boss. You can make a great impression if you’re confident in giving presentations in front of a crowd. Your boss might choose you to give more presentations in future because they know that it’s going to make them look good.
You can be seen as a thought leader and a stand-out performer. Be confident and capable of getting up in front of a crowd and you could be seen as one of the best workers in the company.
Standing up and talking about what you’re doing will make people perceive you to be better than other people because they know you.
2: Create context in your networks
It is important to create context in your professional network and for the people above you who are more likely to promote you.
You’re more likely to be seen by upper management if you’re able to speak in public and get up in front of a crowd. This creates context and a relationship – even if not a one-on-one relationship – so they can now interact with you.
They understand who you are. So when a job comes up and they’re looking through résumés yours will stand out because they know who you are.
Public speaking also helps you expand your professional network. You can inspire greater change and be seen as management material if you’re an effective public speaker.
And you will likely get more of those opportunities to present and be seen by your peers and by upper management.
3: Improve your self-confidence
Public speaking is great at building your self-confidence.
It’s difficult at first because public speaking is so scary. You feel so awkward or you don’t like the way you sound.
But you will build confident in the way you present yourself over time. It allows you to be confident not just in a public speaking situation but in a variety of social situations. You can be prepared for things like job interviews or business meetings.
You can also learn to think and act on the spot. Being good at thinking on the spot and “winging it” when you go into social situations will make you feel less stressed because you’ll know that you can handle whatever happens.
Build your self-confident and get positive feedback or constructive criticism from people. You can then continue to grow and become better at communicating.
4: Improve your social life
Public speaking can be very beneficial to you in your social life as well, all you need to do is to practice the Ritu Bhasin speaking techniques to become better each time.
It allows you to react on the spot and not get so worried about what’s going to happen because you’re an effective communicator. It’s not going to be awkward.
You’ll become a good story teller as well. A great deal of public speaking is about being able to tell stories. That’s what keeps people engaged.
Experience with public speaking will teach you which stories get a good reaction and which ones don’t. You can then use that in social situations to keep the conversation flowing.
5: Become a better thinker
Public speaking is good for your mind.
It can improve your critical thinking skills and make you a better and faster problem solver.
I believe that the best way to learn something is to teach it. I myself am not some award-winning public speaker. But I am learning about public speaking through teaching it.
Public speaking will stimulate your brain to learn topics even better than your peers. It will help you clarify your own thoughts and beliefs. Being confident to speak to people about your passions will also stimulate conversation.
Your ideas can sound very different when they’re thought and when they’re spoken. And so it helps you clarify your mind. And it helps you think at a higher level to your peers and improve your thought processes.
6: Become more influential
Public speaking will also help you with your influence.
You’re almost always are going to need to learn how to speak in public if you want to be influential. I think the only exception to this is people who run very successful blogs or newspaper articles where they have gained their influence through writing and not through speaking.
Video is soon going to take over text as the main form of content on the internet. This just shows that people who are happy to get up and speak – whether that is in front of people or in front of a camera – are going to gain more influence than those who are hiding behind a keyboard.
You’re more likely going to be able to lead a team. If you can speak to a group then you can almost always lead a group as well. You’re going to get more opportunities to lead teams and have greater influence there.
You can also have your thoughts heard. If you’ve got these great ideas but you never speak them out then no one’s going to hear them. Being a good public speaker means you can have your thoughts heard and make the world around you a better place and build up your influence.
7: Better your relationships
Public speaking is all about communication.
Some people believe that it is 70% body language, 20% tone and only 10% what you say. I think this is complete nonsense.
It’s about getting a message across from one person to another. Sometimes it won’t matter if you have the best structure or the best abilities in the world. If you’re talking about something that just means nothing to me then I’m not going to want to listen – no matter how good you are.
Communication is so important when it comes to your marriage and your family. Public speaking can help you become a better communicator within all of your relationships.
It will allow you to get the family to work together towards a common goal. It’s a big thing with public speaking. You’re rallying an audience towards one key message. You can do that with your family as well.
And because you’re going to become a better story teller, you can maintain attention in conversation at the dinner table.
8: Become a better everyday communicator
And public speaking will help you become a better everyday communicator.
Speaking in public will help you to remove a lot of poor communication habits. You will come to recognise your stutters or your hand moments or whatever awkward thing you may do.
Removing poor communications habits allows you to replace them with better ones. You can become better at communicating on the phone or via email and just in your everyday life.
So there you have some of the different ways that public speaking can help you become more successful in your life.
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Dec 26 2013
Rank #17: How To Effectively Use Pauses During Your Public Speech (Ep28)
Using pauses during a public speech or presentation is an important way to engage the audience and to deliver your message effectively.
A lot of us fail to use pauses in the right manner and therefore we throw our audience off and lose their engagement throughout the presentation.
Pausing is something that we hate to do and something that we find very difficult during a presentation. Why is this the case and how can we effectively use pauses?
Why do we hate pauses?
When we pause during our everyday conversations we are indicating that someone else can begin talking. So we naturally use filler words – “umm” and “err” and “you know” – if we need to show that we have not yet finished speaking.
But the audience of your presentation is not going to talk back. These filler words are actually going to distract from the message that you’re trying to deliver.
So here are my twelve tips on how you can effectively use pauses during your public speech or presentation.
Tip#1: Recognise your filler words and phrases
Recognising when you’re saying “umm” and “err” and other filler words is the most important part to using pauses effectively.
Filling our pauses with words will feel and sound awkward and will prevent you from using pauses comfortably and effectively. Understanding when we use these filler words and removing them from our vocabulary will open up the opportunity to pause and create a better presentation.
Tip#2: Plan your pauses
Plan your pauses as you create your speech outline.
You could simply write (pause) to indicate when you want to pause during your speech. Planning your pauses in advance will help you use them in the right spots and use them effectively.
Tip#3: Pause to maintain your pace
Pauses are great if you feel like you’re talking too fast and can help you to maintain your pace.
Pausing for even half a second can calm you down and start to bring you back to a regular pace. This is turn will help your audience to understand and follow your message.
Adding one pause will get you more comfortable in adding further pauses. You’ll be able to maintain a constant speed of your presentation and you’ll avoid speaking too fast as many nervous speakers tend to do.
Tip#4: Pause if you lose your spot
Many people lose their spot and immediately panic. Sometimes they’ll even announce to their audience that they are lost.
Never do this. Instead calmly pause and give yourself a second to think. Then continue your presentation from where you left off.
Revealing to the audience that you’ve lost your place will make them feel like you’re not respecting their time. But pausing will allow you to calm down and give the crowd time to think.
Remember that they’re not consistently focussed on you. They’re living in their own heads and thinking about their own things. They likely won’t notice if you pause for a moment to find your place and calm your nerves.
Tip#5: Pause at your commas
A comma is a good time for you to pause.
Simply look at your speech in written form. If it would have a comma, why not pause?
Tip#6: Pause at the end of your sentences
The end of a sentence forms a natural point in your presentation where you can pause for a moment and then continue on.
A pause symbolises that you have finished your sentence and that you are now moving on to another one.
Tip#7: Pause at the end of your paragraphs
We can use short or longer pauses to symbolise when we’ve finished a paragraph.
These pauses indicate that we’re now moving on to another point or to a completely different topic. Pausing here will get your audience in the correct mind frame and make sure that you maintain their attention.
Tip#8: Pause for emphasis
Pausing for emphasis can be done in two ways.
You can pause between your words. This would be similar to: “Pause. For. Emphasis.”
Or you could simply pause for an extended period of time at the end of your important point.
Either way will direct your audience’s attention to the point that you just delivered. If you need to you can repeat the point and repeat the pause of emphasis.
Tip#9: Pause for rhetorical questions
“Who in this audience wants to be a millionaire?” Pausing here would be an important consideration.
Pausing at the end of a rhetorical question will give your audience time to think and time to answer the question in their own minds.
Tip#10: Start with a pause
Consider pausing for a moment at the start of your presentation rather than leaping straight into your speech.
You may want to use the power stance – legs slightly wider than shoulder-width apart and arms comfortably held at your side.
This pause will symbolise to the audience that you’re ready to start your presentation and will likely grab their attention.
This is not a practical tip for video presentations because people could easily click elsewhere if their attention is not immediately grabbed. But a pause at the beginning of your speech can be great when you’ve got the audience’s attention and their presence for a set amount of time.
Tip#11: Pause after a joke
Pausing after a joke will give people time to laugh or time to understand the punch line.
And don’t panic if no one laughs. Just end your pause and quickly move on.
Tip#12: Pause when you deliver a new slide
This is particularly useful if you’re using a PowerPoint or a Keynote Presentation or something similar.
Pause as you flick to a new slide. This will give people time to read that slide and absorb its message before you continue with your speech.
So there you have twelve tips about how to effectively use pauses during your public speech or presentation.
Please email me if you have any feedback or questions at email@example.com.
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Jan 19 2014
Rank #18: How To Make Your Own Funny Public Speaking Jokes
I am pretty funny guy. You know how I know I am funny guy? Because my 2 year old thinks I am hilarious! All I have to do is fall over or drop something and he is in histerics and laughing his head off. He thinks I am funniest guy in the world.
So when I get up in front of people, I’m just going to fall over and have the audience in tears of laughter? Not going to happen!
But today I do want to talk about how to make your own funny public speaking jokes. I do believe that lot of the public speaking jokes that people are using jokes of the internet just aren’t very funny. They are very corny and they are very awkward for the audience.
A joke is very important when placed in public speech because it needs to work and if it fails you need to have a backup plan. How can we create our own funny public speaking jokes, even if we aren’t usually that funny?
Funny Public Speaking Jokes Often Come From Revealing The Unexpected
Why is a that might two year old laughs at me when I fall over or want to drop something? And why is that six month baby laugh will at me when I play pekaboo?
It’s because something happens that they weren’t expecting. A lot of comedy comes from people doing things that are unexpected.
I was doing some research for the blog and was searching for “worst public speeches ever” for this article and there was one video that a kid has posted on Youtube of his graduation speech which was actually pretty good (see video below).
He used lot of humour in his speech and he was very clever in humour that he used. In the speech he was talking about his heroes – people like Einstein and Martin Luther King Jr. and then he goes on to say Tupac and Barney – the purple dinosaur.
So we are thinking he is giving his inspirational speech but then he throws in funny characters at the end – the rapper and purple dinosaur that you watched as kids.
It’s unexpected and so therefore it’s quite humorous.
Can You Add The Unexpected Into Your Speech?
So what you can do if you want to create your own funny public speaking jokes is to tell a story but with an unexpected and humorous outcome.
It’s not necessarily a joke. “Knock! Knock! Who’s there?” but it’s a story that produces laughter.
So whenever you are telling a story try and think of ways that you can add in things that are unexpected to the audience so that you may be get some laughter.
Make A Joke At Your Own Expense
Another thing to do is to make a joke on your own expense.
I always advise against making jokes at other people’s expense when you giving a public speech or presentation especially people who are in the room. Don’t make jokes on your company’s expense because more often or not people will take offence.
One of my mentors made this mistake massively! He was a youth Paster at the church I used to go to and we have a big youth event where over 300 kids came.
He was up in front of the people and he was speaking to the audience and he starts ripping into Anthony Mundine (who is a Australian Rugby league player who has turned into a boxer). Some people love him, other people hate him.
So he is ripping into Mundine and making fun of this guy not knowing that Anthony Mundine’s cousin was sitting in the audience. As you can imagine it was very awkward for him after he discovered this.
So always avoid offending other people, but making fun on your own expense is always a great thing to do. If you laugh then other people will laugh at (and with) you.
Make Jokes As Passing Comments
You may want to make jokes as passing comments. So rather than making a joke and waiting for laughter make a joke but have a way to roll on for that joke.
So if people laugh then you can stop and you can let them laugh but if people don’t laugh you don’t have that awkward silence that kills your speech.
So try and do it as a rolling comment, try and have something that flows off to your joke that even if your joke fails it going to work as your back up system and it means that still adds value to your talk.
Make Your Jokes Relatable
Make your jokes relatable to the people in the audience. Make it so they can relate with the situation.
For example, if you are a high school student graduating then tell jokes that things that you did during your high school years. Don’t tell jokes about things that are in your personnel life that the audiences doesn’t have any connection with.
If there is already that relatability, if a person already understands the situation, then if you put a comical spin (remember…use the unexpected) on that situation then it can be much more humorous.
So I hope that this has helped to give you some ideas that how you can create your own funny jokes when you are giving a public speech.
Jan 06 2014
Rank #19: How To Run A Live Training Workshop With Dave Benson
Hi guys this Ryan from publicspeakingpower.com. And today I sit down with Dave Benson who is the National Sales Trainer for Mitsubishi Motors here in Australia. His job is to create trainings all the time and then to help work those trainings and do training workshops. So he spends his entire year traveling around Australia training the staff of Mitsubishi how to improve their sales skills; how to improve management; how to be better and how to grow their career and things like that. So today I get to sit down with him and I get to pick his brain about creating sales trainings. I get to pick his brain about how we can do effective introductions; how we can do icebreakers or creative openings as Dave likes to call them and how we can keep people engaged in our trainings which anyone can use to apply to their speech, get more info at AJSS.com.au we offer training hosted by 4 specialist engineers, whether you are speaking for 20 minutes or 40 minutes or an hour or whether you are doing a half day or full day or a few day training seminar or training workshop this will be a great podcast for you.
So let me go right over to it and then I’ll be back at the end to do a bit of a wrap-up of some of the things that I have learned from the session. If you like this podcast and you want more head over to www.publicspeakingpower.com. Just so that you are aware guys, the audio quality on my side of things isn’t the best I think we are getting some feedback through one of the mics and I didn’t know how to fix that but Dave’s side of things is really good and it’s really worth listening to. It shouldn’t be too bad, so don’t worry about it too much but I just wanted to give you a quick heads up and hopefully I’ll work at how to fix this for future interviews. So here we are, here is Dave Benson and me having a chat at the beach in Nord Head. Hi, this is Ryan from publicspeakingpower.com and today I’m here with Mr. Dave Benson in the windy but very lovely Nord Head overlooking the water, in my million-dollar mansion as Jesse calls it so if you hear some wind or anything in the background or some birds that’s because we’re on the headland at the beach overlooking the water.
Dave: Where else would you want to be?
Ryan: Where else would you want to be, absolutely right. Dave works for Mitsubishi at this point in time doing trainings for them and for the sales people at the dealerships and for managers and does all sorts of things. So I wanted to get him on the podcast today just to talk about firstly how do we create trainings; how do we organize workshops because he creates about one a week or something like that. And then secondly what do we do when we have people who really don’t necessarily want to be there. And so thanks for coming Dave.
Dave: It’s a pleasure to be here. It’s great to tune in to the podcast. I have been doing it for the last few weeks and so it’s good to be on. Ryan, you are doing a fantastic job and for those that are tuning in this is the place to be if you want to write improve your public speaking skills so hopefully you all will enjoy the session today.
Ryan: Awesome. Thanks Dave. This is the first listener interview, so it’s very very exciting. I and Dave are also friends outside of business and podcasting.
Ryan: So this will be a good one I think. So Dave why don’t you tell the listeners a bit about yourself, a bit about what you do and kind of your story and how you got into it.
Dave: Sure. I become a car salesman by trade. Obviously I was a legend in school and growing up and went to university and studied for a PhD and this didn’t affect my PhD, not in car sales. So I always loved cars when growing up and my father was a sales persons so I guess it was a pretty good job progression for me. He sold computers – Dawn of Souls thirty-five to forty years ago but he was sales person and I loved cars so it was a pretty good match. So I got into the car sales arena and that’s basically where I spent the last twelve years going through the ranks from starting as an initial sales person and then ending up managing dealerships and now being the national sales trainer for Mitsubishi Motors.
Ryan: Okay, so you have gone from sales person to manager and then training which is what you have moved into now, what caused you to move into that and why are you so passionate about training people?
Dave: That’s a good question. It’s something that I have always wanted to do because I feel like I – it’s like when you work in a small business you can only affect the just the people in front of you and I work with teams of three of up to eight people and when we saw some increases in their results and that was all good, I really wanted to impact more people and the opportunity for me to take this on a national basis and now I am training over three hundred and fifty sales consultants every month. It is a great opportunity for me to really see them in their personal and professional lives move from good to great and it’s exciting to impact more people I guess.
Ryan: Well, I’m excited to get these tips especially if I was staying on in my role as pharmaceutical rep, I do lots of trainings one a week, I’ve got two lined up for this week even though it’s my last week of work. But I’ll be very excited to learn about creating trainings because a lot of the trainings that we do ended up being created. The territory that I work for kind of over achieves anything else that happens in the company so I have to kind of take things to a different level because what used to work or what works for other people we have kind of surpassed on my territory substituting too well so creating trainings is something that I’m sure a lot of people have to do in their time or in creating meetings and/or presentations or whatever.
So how do you go about creating your trainings and what advice would you give to people?
Dave: It is something that I battle with I suppose on a daily basis – our course material every day and I am looking for I assume the new magic bullet that every salesperson wants. I don’t want the same old sales process, I want at new and exciting ways to get better results. But I broke down into the individual and how we can in essence move them along in their career and to see them to reach their potential through continuous improvement that’s the way that I personalize it for each individual that comes all on to my training sessions.
Ryan: So it really starts at an individual level and you think about who is in my audience?
Ryan: Who am I speaking to?
Ryan: And where do they need to go next in their career and how can I help?
Dave: Yes. I guess going to school I didn’t enjoy school. I went to college for a short time I did one year of University and dropped out and I swore a cookie cutter approach in regards to trying in regards to lectures and in essence this is the way to do it and you’ll need to come on board with it. I didn’t like that ….
Ryan: Neither did I.
Dave: …..trying to do something that I don’t think it is tailored to the individual and the fact of the matter is that I think everybody’s on a different stage of their journey. A lot of people are better at some skills than others and so I would be able to tailor and come out with some tangible specific results for individuals I think is the most important. It is about that the content that you deliver. If just to do a detailed Power Point training session where all the cookie cutter approach across the nation it’s only going to get limited benefit across the nation as opposed to tailoring it.
Ryan: Yes. And I think one thing that we need to think about when creating trainings is the fact that you want to get your message across and that is your number one priority.
Ryan: And s then going on to how am I going to create this, very rarely will one approach be the best way to get the message across to a whole bunch of people.
Ryan: So I think you definitely need to tailor things to your audience in order to get the right approach. I don’t think we should look for the one-size-fits-all. I think we should look for how can we create a training that allows us to be flexible and allows us to train different people in different ways. So you may have a similar sort of training depending on who’s in the room at that point in time.
Ryan: Use that training based on their level.
Ryan: So with the content how do you go about structuring your presentations? Like what do you do for introductions; you do icebreakers; how long are your trainings usually?
Dave: Typically I do half day training sessions.
Ryan: And that’s quite a long training session. It’s not something you can knock over for 20 minutes.
Dave: No, it’s not.
Ryan: It’s not a standard public speech?
Dave: Definitely not. I try to keep group sizes fairly small and therefore you can have a lot of interaction around the actual learning outcome but the way that I settle up, the way that start, I always start with a really punchy introduction. I call it a creative opening because I don’t like the word ice breaker so we call it something else.
Ryan: So what is the word that we replace ice breaker with?
Dave: Creative opening.
Ryan: Creative opening.
Dave: Because it’s got to be relevant. There’s no point in showing a video clip that you saw on YouTube but that you thought was extremely funny but has no relevance or benefits. So it’s got to be something that sparks an interest about the subject that you are going to be talking about. I use a lot of video content in that sort of environment.
Ryan: Can you give us like an example of an introduction like maybe about the parts of Mitsubishi and all that sort of stuff.
Dave: Sure. Can I give you the bad news and the good news?
Ryan: Yes, give us the bad news and give us the good news. The bad news is always the best that’s what people want to hear.
Dave: Absolutely. I worked for a Japanese Motor Company and so of course I was looking for an ice breaker it would be funny to maybe play some Japanese jing or videos.
Ryan: And how did that go down?
Dave: And then I can reference to some of atrocities I watched the Mitsubishi Japanese executives sing like the guys in the video. That’s what not to do, listeners.
Ryan: One thing not to do is to try not to offend people especially in your opening. Play it safe and go after something that’s more funny but not funny at someone’s expense.
Ryan: Because more often than not it will fall on your face.
Dave: Exactly and I think you learn more from you failings than you do from your success. So I definitely learned the hard way in regards to where that was concerned but in regards to the right way I think that the best example is just whatever topic it is or trying to find something that even just sparks some interest even if its motivational but I’ll give you an example. Something I did last month. We were talking in a training session about looking for ways to continually improve our sphere of influence and opening up our sphere of influencing by networking and so I just attended a convention, a conference and in the automatic tried up in the Gold Coast and I have met quite a lot of high profile sales trainers and one which has a television program on Fox Talk which every car salesman knows well and true which is a show called Car Lot Rescue and a big American sales person that basically goes into dealership just like Gordon Ramsay and Tony Carlson as car dealerships around and makes them profitable again, but of course in a controversial way. So anyway I met him at the training session and picked his brain about a lot of things and so of course I took a photo with him and then pried some of the content from his Fox Talk show and it was a really great introduction into networking and how for me as a sales trainer to meet other sales trainers to share knowledge and it’s really important. So what better than to meet somebody who is high profile that has his own TV show and that I will get there one day.
Ryan: Yes, you are exactly right. So taking I guess things that have happened in your life but then also other content that people have created and using that to kind of create an exciting opening and shows that you know what you are talking about.
Ryan: So after we have done our creative opening, where do we go from there? How do we keep people engaged for such a long time?
Dave: Well, I assume everybody in my training sessions has a short attention span. Why? Because I do. So I used to go to sales training sessions that went all day or even half day and you’d have no breaks. Maybe one for morning, one for lunch but it was either done by Power Point or one way presentations.
Ryan: You got to love those Power Point presentations.
Dave: Got to love them, absolutely. There is nothing wrong with Power Point by the way I do use it, just in its small version. I have heard many people say the psychology of any public speech is that most people can only remember up to three points as an absolute maximum. So being able to unpack three main topics that you are going to talk about and it doesn’t matter how long you have got being to package them into three main topics is really important.
Ryan: Yes, I was interviewing Jesse Melani and who is a pastor at our church and he was saying he basically religiously sticks to three points and so you’re saying the same thing whether you are doing a twenty-minute speech, whether you are doing a forty minutes or whether you are doing a half day or full day workshop still sticking to that three points structure because even if you’ve got a day with someone they are still not going to be able to walk away and remember a great deal of what you said. So if you stick it to a main structure of three points then you hope that at least they will walk away with three points and remember.
Dave: Absolutely and I keep it all about them and their learning outcome. So for example in my sales training I will say to them that today that you’re going to actually improve your sales skills; that you’re going to increase your closing ratios and you are going to sell more cars. That’s what it’s about. So it’s about your leaning outcome. So today I have got three points to share to make sure that you are improving yours sales skills, increasing your closing ratios and selling more cars.
Ryan: So it’s got nothing to do with you and what you want to say?
Ryan: It got everything to do with them and what we want them to get out of it.
Dave: Absolutely and you know what if we get through two points that’s fine; if we get through one point that’s fine.
Ryan: But again we’re going for their outcomes and what they want to achieve and I think that’s important for anyone doing a training. It is taking away from. Today I am going to be teaching you about this because that’s all about you and what you are doing and what you’re going to teach and bring it back to today you are going to walk away with this.
Ryan: Not only am I going to help you with this but this is what you are going to get out of it and so employing all the focus back on to them. And Throughout the day, what do you do to keep people engaged in a workshop to stop them from falling asleep?
Dave: It absolutely does happen. Understanding that you can’t appeal to everybody but there’s probably going to be one in every crowd that is disengaged, at the same time you go for the masses and the easiest way to do that is by asking questions and getting to know people’s names especially when you’ve got a small group of up to fifteen. It’s a really easy way to do this, to ask questions of their experiences of when you are training on networking. Hi, what’s your experience in networking, what’s been some of the things that you’ve done that have worked and you telling me rather than me telling you.
Ryan: So you got to be a lot more fluid then. So rather than you standing up and presenting for half a day and just giving people lunch breaks what you are doing is turning it into basically a group activity.
Ryan: Where you are there to facilitate the structure and the way, the flow I guessed you’d call it, the way things go but really the people in the audience the majority are the ones delivering the concept. Is that right?
Dave: Absolutely. It is the easiest part of my job and it’s the hardest part of my job.
Ryan: And if it goes then it goes really well?
Dave: Yes, but also its is easy because in a sense you don’t have to prepare one hundred PowerPoint slides or in essence remember verbatim what you are going to say or have to practice or rehearse a speech and if you get off topic or you get sidetracked or something like that then it’s a bad thing. It can be a really good thing to unpack people’s experiences. The hardest thing about that is that you have to know your stuff so when you get challenged and I can tell you in the car sales industry I get challenged all the time by sales people that say what do you know I’ve been doing this longer and I understand that my going from their experiences. But being able to bring a fresh approach is really important because you’ve done your research. So it’s not about the content that you put together for the session but it’s about the overall knowledge and the wisdom in essence that you bring to the room that’s really important. That’s why it’s the easiest part of my job and it’s the hardest part.
Ryan: Well, it was the sort of the same thing with my training. When I started training it was definitely by PowerPoint. It was always full of PowerPoint slides and I would avoid questions and answers because I was just too scared to get the gooey ones, the ones that I can’t handle and now we have an open question policy where we will address questions when they come up and we will either address them fully or we would partially address them and then move them towards the end but we would always let people ask questions throughout the presentation. But that comes from knowing your stuff and I know my industry so well. I know the techniques so well and I work with multi-million dollar business owners and I know all of these things and knowing that content and having I guess having the passion and the conviction to add to it give you so much strength in training. And do you think that just comes with time or there are things people can do to improve their knowledge or to have that wisdom and that conviction so that they can roll with the punches?
Dave: It’s a really interesting and probably delicate balance that you have as far as content versus delivery because I mean I have always hated reading for example. The only reading that I would do was the back page of the Daily Telegraphing in Sydney and read the sports section and occasional now read a picture book to my children. But I worked out that the difference between where I am right now and where I want to be is information so I have to learn more so I discipline myself to read just one page of a book around the subject that I was going to teach on every day. Just one page, everybody can do that, a monkey can do that. And on average I would read two books every year.
Ryan: I don’t know if a monkey could actually read a page of a book but they sent monkeys into space so ……..
Dave: Absolutely. (Laughing) Maybe I could take that on as another project teaching a monkey to read a page a day. What do you think Ryan?
Ryan: Maybe they could look at a page and maybe even do something like that.
So really, it is really to committing to knowing your subject and committing to getting knowledge and experience and all that. I think as you train more you learn from those experiences that people give and as you are saying you learn from your values more so than you learn from your successes sometimes. And even if it’s not a perfect training the good thing is that there is always tomorrow, there is always your next training and you can learn from that. And so sometimes I think the best way to learn is from the people that you train. When things go well they can come out of it and when things go poorly take them out it and then work out how to avoid that next time.
Dave: Absolutely, I definitely take notes all the way through my sessions. I have done so that of a silly dude. Don’t give that example use a better story. I mean stories are okay you can know your stuff you can have all the wisdom and knowledge and read every year sales training book in the world but if you don’t have some tangible stories of how the stuff has worked and so on no one cares.
Ryan: No one wants to learn theory anymore, people want to hear stories and then upload that learning from stories and I think a lot of people train via I call it like text book reading so it’s like when you are in university or you are in high school sitting down and you have to read a text book in order to study. Some people speak like that where they just are just being a text book but in verbal format. I think people don’t engage with that, our attention spans are too short than maybe what they were 50 years ago and so we need to engage people more and the way to do that is with stories. And do you have a bank of stories that you call up on that you build over time? Because I think that one of the experiences that I have had is the more that you speak the more stories come to you, the more you remember or this happened today and I need to work on that. How can people start to find stories in their lives and start to use them when they didn’t have them before? It is tough one but…..
Dave: It is a tough one because you definitely do…. I mean I got my philosophy that plagiarism is a heart full of flattery so if I like somebody’s story I will steal it use it as mine, well I wouldn’t say it’s mine but that I heard this. And somebody from the last training session told me a story that happened and I use other people’s stories. That’s really important not just to use your own but to use other people’s, their testimonies, their stories. But at the same time I tend to take notes and a lot of notes on my iPhone or the stories that happened to me throughout my life that might have some relevance to a future topic that I might be talking about so I would just or just put them into Evernote and I categorize them. This might be relevant for managers in the future and then I go through my management list and I pull out the relevance stories.
Ryan: So you are building up a bank every time so even if people are sitting there right now thinking that they don’t have any stories to tell just by being aware of things that happened to you during the day and maybe taking a note of that you can begin to build a bank of stories that you can draw upon.
Dave: Absolutely yes.
Ryan: And looking at the sales pitch that we represented and other ones were thrown in.
Dave: Its better you learn from any experience but you’ve got a take that snapshot, that mental picture of your experience and the best thing to do is to just write It down when you hear a funny story or where ever you might be and have a funny experience but you know what you can always come up with an experience from earlier on in the day. We were walking along the beach and I’m wearing inappropriate footwear for going rock climbing…
Ryan: And that’s precisely what we did.
Dave: Yes. And even the fact that if Ryan would have told me that we were going to go rock climbing this morning that I would have put on a different pair of shoes so out that, maybe the Vessi waterproof sneakers which were perfect for this.
Ryan: You can take that and say that you need to be prepared.
Ryan: And take from that that be prepared is that you are going to ask people what you are going to be doing.
Ryan: You just thought that you were coming for coffee this morning.
Dave: I thought we were coming for coffee. So that’s really important. There’s always ways that you can grab an example from the morning breakfast run or whatever and they must be appropriate rather than this happened to 35 years ago.
Ryan: Yes, and so for every interview I’ve done they have all talked about stories but I think it’s so important because that is what is so important to engage people and if everyone is saying that then I think people should listen to that and do that so we will move on and we will talk about how to engage people who don’t want to be there but I might actually put that on tomorrow’s podcast so I just want to give you a couple minutes now to talk about who you and whether you have a website and where people can find you.
Dave: We don’t have a website but away from Mitsubishi Motors I am on annual leave at the moment so boss if you are listening please understand that I am on annual leave and I definitely work for Mitsubishi Motors and I am proud to be the National Sales Trainer of Mitsubishi. If you want a job and you are not University graduated like myself but you want to earn good money and you want to do it with cars and given the fantastic level of customer service Mitsubishi dealerships – that applies to me because you get trained by me, and you can take this money and actually invest it online in trading business, which you can do using different techniques as the ichimoku kinko kyo strategy, that actually help you produce more money.
Ryan: Exactly, alright. People you can go to the show notes to find out about some contact details there if you want to email Dave and get a job from Dave so just go to publicspeakingpower.com/workshops and you can get access to today’s show notes there and you can find him there. So there we have it guys I hope that you enjoyed that interview with Dave Benson. We actually did about a 40-minute interview but I am cutting it into two segments because we went on to talk about a different subject which was how to overcome people who are very difficult or people who don’t want to be there in your training sessions how to get them engage and how to still do a great presentation despite that and so I am going to save that for tomorrow and I’m going to have that uploaded to the podcast tomorrow so you guys can listen to it then. But I just thought that chat with Dave Benson was really good. It is great to see his passion for what he does and the inspiration that I gleaned from him was awesome. Dave and I spent probably an hour or two hours before just talking about his plans for the future and where he wants to take his life and his career and its actually really exciting seeing what he is doing and seeing the steps that he has taken to grow himself from a standard car salesman to a manager and now to training all of Mitsubishi and you can see that this is a passion that’s on his life it’s not something that someone has said Dave you should do this, it is something that he is going after with his whole heart and he is doing great things in the training industry. So I am really excited to see what happens with Dave moving forward from that interview.
I think the biggest thing that I got out of that was something that seems to be recurring in all of my interviews was the fact that stories are one of the best ways to engage people but when it comes to training and workshops drawing on other people’s stories. So rather than just using your own rather than just going out there and speaking getting audience engagement. If you are talking about a topic get them to talk about an experience they had with that situation. Like Dave story about networking and he took a photo with the TV celebrity, saying to the crowd what experience have you had with networking, tell me about a conference you went to. Getting them to unpack one of their experiences and then going through that with the crowd and how we could have done a better or what they did well and so everyone is learning from everyone’s experiences and you actually engaging people as a result of that and I think that takes a lot of the pressure off when you are trying to run maybe a half day, maybe a full day training, maybe even just a couple hour training is the fact that you don’t necessarily have to have all the content yourself but you need to know your stuff really well and if you know your stuff really well you can just go out there and you can let it flow and you can let people’s experiences direct exactly how the content is present. What I learned from Dave is you know what you are going to present, you have got three points but you’ve got the main takeaways that you want to give to the audience.
Remember when we were talking about the creative openings as Dave likes to call them we want to make it focus on the people that we are going to train and what they are going to take away from it. And I think if we keep that in mind for an entire training that we want them to take away this and as Dave said if we get through one point, if we get through two points or if we get through all three it doesn’t necessarily matter as long as they’re taking something away that’s going to improve their lives and enhance them in some way. So knowing your content well enough to be able to flow with it and engage the audience I think is a better way of doing it than just getting up there and lecturing textbook speaking as I like to call it.
I really like Dave’s way of interacting. I really thought that he was great to interview because it wasn’t awkward he was really good, he had a great deal of knowledge and so I’m really excited to share with you tomorrow’s interview as well where we talk about how to crack those hard nuts in our audience and how to overcome that.
So if you want the show notes for this episode head over to www.publicspeakingpower.com/workshopsand you can then get access to Dave’s contact details and also other information as well and if you want more interviews like this just go over to www.publicspeakingpower.comand you can get access to them all there or obviously through iTunes or Stitcher or any other podcasts network. So thank you guys so much for tuning in. I hope that this has been as helpful to you as it was for me. It seems like I am getting so much out of this I just hope that the listeners are a getting something out of it as well. We will be back tomorrow with Dave Benson all over again for some fresh more inspiring training content, exciting stuff.
You can get in contact with Dave by visiting his website DaveBenson.me and find out more about what he is up to and to contact him about that amazing job offer he mentions on the podcast.
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Sep 25 2013
Rank #20: How To Stay Motivated At Public Speaking
Hey hey hey powerful public speakers in the making. This is Ryan McLane from public speakingpower.com. And today I want to talk about motivation and more specifically help you through motivation and how you can stay motivated at public speaking. Because with any skill that we are trying to learn, it takes practice. It takes practice and it takes some more practice. So how can we stay motivated enough to keep practicing, keep doing it, keep improving, keep getting better? So this is going to be a quick one today and I just want to share a couple of things that have motivated me over the last couple of years and some other things that keep me motivated and some of the lessons that I’ve learnt. If you like this podcast then why not subscribe and leave a review on iTunes and you can get access to our free crash course on how to become a better public speaker overnight. Just head over to www.publicspeakingpower.com/podcast to get free access to all of that there.
So, motivation and habitual motivation. I think one of the best examples that I’ve ever heard when it comes to motivation actually came from Michelle Bridges who is a fitness instructor in Australia. And my wife was doing her online Fitness Courses, it was – I can even remember how many days but you know 60 or 90 days to getting fit and she was watching these videos and I was on in the background as I was reading a book or something and Michelle Bridges was talking about motivation and she was saying that doing exercise can be similar to having a shower for you. I’m guessing that most of you don’t need to be motivated, to be pumped up, to be amped just to have a shower. Okay, you get dirty and you need to have a shower otherwise as you stink so the motivation is there because: a) it’s habit and b) it’s a cultural thing. If you stink then no one’s going want to hang out with you. So we don’t actually really need to get motivated to have a shower. It’s something that we do. It’s something that happens every single day. Michelle Bridges was then relating this back to exercising and saying that once you become good at exercising and once you do it regularly it becomes like that shower for you. You get up in the morning you need to exercise. It’s not something that you need to get motivated to do. It’s not something that you want to do or may not want to do. It’s kind of something that you have to do. It is part of your regiments. It’s part of you being who you are. It’s part of you being normal. It’s part of you being ready for the day. And I think the same approach can apply when it comes to learning any skill, be a public speaking, or anything else is that if you want to get better, if you want to get really good then you have to do it a lot and it has to become a habit for you.
One of the best tips that I have ever learnt about how to wake up early in the morning was rather than necessarily being pumped, being excited for it, putting your alarm across the end of the room so that you have to get out of bed and all that sort of stuff which is all well and good was a strange tip that I heard and I have applied before which has really worked and what it is when you are not tired during the middle of the day, when you are just hanging out what you do is you do practice and so you go and you lie in bed and what you do is you set your alarm for let’s say in two minutes time. So you lie down, you close your eyes, you’ve got your alarm set, your alarm goes off and you practice your routine. You turn your alarm off, you get up, you put your pants on, you walk out of the room. And then what you do is you go back in you do it again. Take your pants off, hop back into bed, set your alarm for another two minutes or one-minute and then close your eyes. The alarm goes off, you get up, turn your alarm off, put your pants on, walk out of the room. And you just repeat constantly, constantly, constantly and so then what happens is when your alarm goes off in the morning at 6:00 a.m. or 5:00 a.m. or 4 a.m. or whenever it is that you want to get up. It’s not a decision that needs to be made to say, “Oh I don’t want to get up today. It worries me all my life it’s so hard. Oh I really need that extra hour sleep because I really have a hard day of going to the beach today and you I just need that extra hour sleep. I don’t want to exercise, and so on. You know all those things that go through your mind.
If you do the previous practice then what happens is it is not a decision it’s something that you habitually do. You rollover, turn your alarm off, get up, you put your pants on, you walk out the room. And so rather than it being something that we need to be motivated for, it is something that happens naturally. And so for me the same is starting to happen with public speaking and this podcast. I decided to do a daily podcast partly because it was blowing up, the podcast was getting loads of downloads and feedbacks from you guys but also for the fact that if I want to improve, if I want to get great then I need to be doing this every day. I need to be doing this constantly and for my business and for my life it’s something that I want do regular. It is something I’m passionate about. Communicating is something that I am very passionate about. So if I want to get better I could do it once a week and it might take me ten years to become great or if I do it every single day, if I do it multiple times per day well maybe I can speed up that loop and maybe I can get there just that little bit faster, seven times faster really than if I was doing it once a week. And so for me now getting a podcast out has kind of become habitual and more and more as I do it it’s becoming habitual and if I haven’t put out a podcast for the day it feels uncomfortable like I haven’t had a shower. And so the other day when I made a podcast and put it out – I filmed one when I was bush hawking with the kids because I knew I just had to get one in and another one I made at night time even though I like to post and schedule it for the next day so it goes out at the same time. If I haven’t done that or haven’t had the time when the day comes I might not. I need to get one out today, I need to do it and so I just do it. I get it done. I post it when I post it as long as it’s on that day. So it starts to become this habit for you.
So rather than I think trying to get motivated for your public speech, trying to get amped up, trying to get pumped up, trying to get super excited, look I think these are all really good things to do before an important speech. I think they’re really good things to do to be prepared, to be excited, to give a great presentation but you find and I was just listening to an interview on Solopreneurhour which you can find over at www.solohour.com with Pat Flynn talking about his public speaking experiences. I am going to try and get him on the show hopefully I can get him on to interview him. But he used to be completely nervous. He used to hate public speaking. He was really scared. He would wrote-learn his speeches. He would spend hours in his hotel room before the event and the night before the event dressed up in his full clothes practicing his speech over and over and over and over again and in this conversation on Solohour the podcast I think it’s episode number seven, the interviewer asked Pat, “If someone was to say to you get up in front of an audience and give a speech on social media or public speaking or internet marketing or whatever it is do you think you could do it?” And Pat was saying, “Yes, now that I’ve had so much experience, now that I’ve done it so much I’ve got this archive of stories that I could then draw upon and I could give a great presentation without any preparation, since I know a lot about marketing now a days and I can even use resources from sites as the Indexer for this as well.” And so I think when it comes to being motivated for your public speaking, when it comes to be pumped and amped up top for a presentation that you are going to give that is all well and good, but if you can make it habitual if you can make it something that you do over and over. It does not have to be in front of a crowd. It can be just be by yourself and record yourself. You can do it by yourself. Do in the shower. Do it on the toilet. I don’t care but get in the habit speaking. Get in the habit of practicing public speaking and then it just becomes something that you do. It’s something that’s second nature; it’s something that’s not scary; it’s something that you don’t have to be motivated for.
And so I think my biggest motivation tip is rather than trying to get motivated, rather than trying to get amped look for ways to make something that you want in your life habitual. Look for ways to make it just something that you do second nature like driving a car. A lot of us now have been driving for so long that is just second nature. I can drive an hour and a half and I hardly notice that I have even driven anywhere and my subconscious mind just takes me wherever I need to go. And so the same skills can apply to motivation, guys.
And so hope that this has helped you. If you guys want more tips on how you can practice public speaking in private. Let’s say you’re not ready to get up in front of a crowd. You are not quite ready to talk in front of your friends or family and you want some tips you want to be able to honed your skills at home in the privacy of your own home without getting up in front of people then I have a course for you. So just go to www.publicspeakingpower.com/private and you can read all about that course there. I have for twenty-one different activities, step-by-step guide on how to do these activities that will boost your confidence in public speaking, that will help it become habitual for you, help you get motivated, help you become more fluent, help you become better and all of that good stuff. Head over if you’re interested to www.publicspeakingpower.com/private and you can see all the details for that their.
So thank you so much for listening in guys. I hope that this has helped to give you some ideas around motivation. I know that these tips have really helped me and are helping me in my life and that I will continue to make things that I want to do habitual and look for ways to do that. And so until next time, keep practicing guys, keep becoming powerful public speakers. You are powerful, you are great and you can become a great public speaker so don’t give up keep trying, keep learning, keep practicing and I’ll talk to you tomorrow.
Sep 18 2013