Rank #1: Raising Your Spirited Child: A Conversation with Author Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
How does this week’s guest, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, define what she calls the “spirited child”? Do you have or know a child who fits that profile? What in this Mom Enough discussion helped you better understand that child’s behavior and think about what you can do to help that spirited child (and those around him or her) be more comfortable and adaptable?
For Mary's resources, click here.
Rank #2: Smart but Scattered: Helping Children and Teens Build the Executive Skills to Succeed in School and Life
How do your children and other family members (including yourself) measure up on the executive skills discussed in this Mom Enough interview? How do you put into practice Dr. Dawson’s tips (e.g. breaking down tasks, establishing routines, creating clean spaces and using incentives)? What could you do better?
To learn more about Dr. Peg Dawson's books, click here.
For the Smart but Scattered blog, click here.
Rank #3: Raising Your Spirited Child: A Conversation with Author Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Parent educator and author Mary Sheedy Kurcinka calls these children “spirited” and, in her popular book, Raising Your Spirited Child (now in its 3rd edition), helps us understand what’s going on in the brains and bodies of these children. In her interview in this week’s Mom Enough show, Mary offers practical, concrete tips for helping spirited children adapt and thrive. Marti & Erin have some stories and insights about the spirited children in their own family too!
How does this week’s guest, Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, define what she calls the “spirited child”? Do you have or know a child who fits that profile? What in this Mom Enough discussion helped you better understand that child’s behavior and think about what you can do to help that child (and those around him or her) be more comfortable and adaptable?
For Mary’s resources, click here.
Rank #4: The “Terrible Twos” Reconsidered: Practical Tips for Meeting the Challenges and Discovering the Joys of Your Terrific Toddler
Judy Schumacher is a family educator, mom, grandma and author of “Terrific Toddlers!” She joins Marti for a rich discussion of how to understand the behavior of toddlers and guide them to use all that energy and newfound independence in more constructive ways.
Why do you think tantrums and negativism are so common in toddlers? What is the developmental meaning of those behaviors? What practical tips or helpful principles did you get from this Mom Enough discussion?
Toddlers & Tantrums tip sheet by Dr. Marti Erickson
Rank #5: Why “ME Time” Matters: How You and Your Children Benefit When You Take Time to Care for Yourself
In this week’s Mom Enough show, Marti & Erin talk about how ME Time can reduce stress for you and your children, enable you to be more responsive to your children’s needs and set an example of healthy, balanced living for your children at any age. Marti & Erin also share some of their own simple, practical tips for integrating ME Time into your life, highlighting how even just a few minutes can calm and refresh you.
In what ways do you take care of yourself in the midst of caring for your children and others? What makes it hard for you to make time for self-care? What helpful tips for how and when to integrate ME Time did you hear in this Mom Enough discussion?
For our handout on Why “ME Time” Matters, click here.
Rank #6: Healing Longterm Effects of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs): A Conversation with Pediatrician and Author Nadine Burke Harris
As a pediatrician, Dr. Nadine Burke Harris confronted the effects of early trauma in a 7-year-old patient and that changed the course of her medical practice and her life. Don’t miss Dr. Burke Harris’s impassioned – and hopeful – conversation with Marti & Erin in this week’s Mom Enough show.
Reflecting on this Mom Enough discussion of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), what do you think we can do as individuals to buffer the effects of adversity for our children and ourselves? In what ways could health care providers (and the system as a whole) apply this knowledge about ACEs more effectively with both child and adult patients?
For Dr. Burke Harris’s book, click here.
For Dr. Burke Harris’s Ted Talk, click here.
For the Center for Youth Wellness, click here.
For our What is Toxic Stress? sheet, click here.
For our Understanding the Biology of Stress in Young Children sheet, click here.
For our interview with Dr. Megan Gunnar on toxic stress, click here.
Rank #7: The Latest on Why and How Parent-Child Attachment Is So Important: A Conversation with the University of Minnesota’s Dr. Alan Sroufe
What messages have you received from family, friends or media about how to build a good attachment with your child? How did Dr. Sroufe support or refute things you had heard before? To what extent did this show ease your anxiety about being “mom enough” or “dad enough” with your children?
Rank #8: Picky Eaters: Practical Steps for Concerned Parents
This week’s Mom Enough guest, speech clinician and author Jenny McGlothlin, talks with Marti & Erin about how to discern ordinary picky eating from a more serious feeding disorder. And drawing on STEPS, a feeding program she developed at the University of Texas in Dallas, she offers guidance for helping children work through feeding problems.
After the interview with Jenny, stay tuned for a Relationships that Nurture brief with Katie Adler from St. David’s Center talking about stuttering, an issue Marti confronted in her son’s early years.
What has been your experience with picky eaters in your family? How have you and others handled it? After hearing this Mom Enough discussion, what would you do differently now?
For Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating, click here.
For the Stuttering in Preschool tip sheet, click here.
For Speech-Language Therapy at St. David’s Center, click here.
Rank #9: The “Terrible Twos” Reconsidered: Practical Tips for Meeting the Challenges and Discovering the Joys of Terrific Toddlers
Judy Schumacher is a family educator, mom, grandma and author of the newly released Terrific Toddlers! She joins Marti for a rich discussion of how to understand your toddler’s behavior and guide her or him to use all that energy and newfound independence in more constructive ways.
Why do you think tantrums and negativism are so common in toddlers? What is the developmental meaning of those behaviors? What practical tips or helpful principles did you get from this Mom Enough discussion of terrific toddlers?
Rank #10: Helping Your Child Maintain a Healthy Body and Positive Body Image: A Conversation with University of Minnesota Researcher Katie Loth
Dr. Katie Loth, from the Department of Family Medicine and Community Health at the University of Minnesota, joins Marti & Erin to discuss some recent research findings that might surprise you. And she offers practical tips that will help you be more reflective about the subtle ways you shape your child’s attitudes, behavior and self-acceptance.
How do Katie Loth’s research findings about body image and weight gain compare to what people often think about how to encourage weight loss or prevent weight gain in girls and young women? Why do you think the pattern was different for boys and girls? Reflecting on your own words and actions, in what ways could you improve the way you support healthy behavior and positive body image?
To read the research findings, click here.
To read an editorial about the research findings, click here.
To read an article about the research findings, click here.
For Project EAT, click here.
For Marti’s suggestions on promoting a healthy body image, click here.
Rank #11: Parent-Infant Attachment and Its Impact on Longterm Development: A Conversation on Attachment Research with U of M Professor Glenn Roisman
This week’s Mom Enough guest, Dr. Glenn Roisman, has focused his career on studying how early relationships with parents and others are the starting point for social, cognitive and biological development throughout a person’s life. Representing the University of Minnesota’s College of Education & Human Development (a supporting partner of Mom Enough), he joins Marti & Erin for a rich discussion of recent research findings on attachment, childcare and other factors that shape development. And he highlights new research trying to untangle both genetic and environmental influences and the ways they interact.
In what ways is the quality of a baby’s relationship with parents and other caregivers important to lifelong development? What, if anything, was surprising to you in this Mom Enough discussion of attachment research?
For the U of M’s College of Education and Human Development, click here.
For Separating Fact from Fiction about Parent‐Child Attachment, click here.
To learn more about STEEP, click here.
Rank #12: The Chemistry of Calm and Joy: A Conversation with Integrative Psychiatrist Henry Emmons
Dr. Henry Emmons has spent his career helping people understand and apply the chemistry of calm and joy by using simple, accessible strategies to manage energy, quiet our minds, build resilience and maximize our experience of calm, joy and well-being. Learn with Marti & Erin in this helpful, inspiring discussion!
What ideas did you take away from this Mom Enough discussion of the chemistry of calm and joy with psychiatrist Henry Emmons? Think of a recent situation in which you felt like negative emotions were taking over. Next time a similar situation arises, what steps could you take to handle it differently?
Rank #13: Moving from Parent Shaming to Strength and Clarity in Being a Loving, Effective Parent
California therapist, coach and writer Mercedes Samudio has a mission to end parent shaming and help parents build a “shame-proof village” that will support them in using effective parenting strategies and sustaining strong, healthy relationships with their children at every age. Marti & Erin loved Mercedes’ wise approach and are glad to have her as part of the Mom Enough village of parent support!
In what situations have you felt judged or shamed for the way you parent or the life choices you’ve made as a mom or dad? In what ways have you felt yourself judging other parents? What steps have you taken or could you take to build a positive network with other parents in which you all can be heard, supported and encouraged to find what’s best for your children?
For Mercedes' blog, click here.
Rank #14: Potty Training and Bed-wetting: Calm Guidance from Dr. Andrew Barnes
This week’s Mom Enough guest, University of Minnesota’s Dr. Andrew Barnes, helps cut through the confusion with both concrete tips and wise advice to remain calm and patient.
What different kinds of advice have you received about potty training and bed-wetting and how did that advice come to you? What was helpful and what was not? Are your children at an age at which toileting problems are still an issue? If so, what did you get from this week’s Mom Enough show to help you see or respond to the issue in new ways?
Rank #15: A Five-Step Approach for Responding to Anxiety in Kids and Teens
Psychoanalyst Dr. Laurie Hollman has taught graduate courses at NYU and is author of two new companion books, The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and Teens and The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens. She joins Marti & Erin to talk about her 5-step approach, which is very compatible with the “reflective parenting” Marti & Erin speak about so often. One of their favorite parenting nuggets from Laurie is, “The louder you feel like talking, the softer you need to speak.” Listen for more words of wisdom on this important topic!
What were Dr. Hollman’s five steps for responding to your child’s anxiety? Think of a recent situation in which you tried to soothe your child’s anxiety. What would you have done differently if you had followed the five recommended steps for responding to anxiety in kids?
Books by Dr. Laurie Hollman
Blog by Dr. Laurie Hollman
School Anxiety tip sheet by Marti Erickson
Separation Anxiety tip sheet by Marti Erickson
Being a Reflective Parent, Raising Reflective Children tip sheet by Marti Erickson
Rank #16: Talking about Tough Topics with Your Children: Helpful Tips from Psychologist Kate Rickord for Having Difficult Conversations
What topics do you find most uncomfortable to discuss with your children? What did you find helpful in this Mom Enough discussion?
For 4 Tips on How to Talk with Your Child about Difficult Topics, click here.
For St. David's Center, click here.
For St. David's Center's Mental Health Services, click here.
Rank #17: Discerning When Your Unhappy Marriage Can Be Saved: Part 1 of “When Your Marriage Is Not What You Want It to Be”
This week’s guest, professor and marriage therapist Dr. Bill Doherty, has information and resources to help couples discern whether their unhappy marriage can be saved and to take steps to do so when possible. This is information that can make a difference for any couple with a troubled relationship – and for the children who so often bear the fallout. (This is the first in a 2-part series.)
Are you concerned about your marriage or do you have a friend or family member in a struggling marriage? How do you think a couple can tell if their marriage can be saved? And what are things parents can do to protect their children from the stress of a shaky or unhappy marriage?
For the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project, click here.
For information on discernment counseling, click here.
For DivorceChoice.com, click here.
Rank #18: Moving Beyond Perfectionism in Parenting: Liberating Guidance from Author and Psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo
This week’s Mom Enough guest, Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo, offers practical ways to step back and put our failures (and our children’s) into perspective, using these opportunities for evaluation and reframing that will quiet our inner critic and allow us to learn and grow. With great energy and a refreshing outlook, Elizabeth helps us understand how we and our children can strive for excellence without falling into the trap of perfectionism.
Think of recent times when you or your young child have made a significant mistake or have failed in some way. What did you think or say to yourself? Did you fall into the “all-or-nothing” thinking Dr. Lombardo talks about? What could you say to yourself instead that would be less perfectionistic and more helpful?
For Dr. Elizabeth’s blog, click here.
For Dr. Elizabeth’s Better Than Perfect book, click here.
Rank #19: Reflective Parenting: How Reflecting on Your Feelings and Your Child’s Can Turn Everyday Challenges into Breakthrough Moments
Think of a recent difficult situation with your child and how you handled it. What do you think might have been the purpose or meaning of your child’s behavior? What were your feelings at the time? Were your figures triggered only by your child’s behavior or did other factors enter in? Using these reflections, what, if anything, would you do differently in that situation?
For The Reflective Parent, click here.
For Dr. Pally's advice on parenting, click here.
Rank #20: Positive Parenting Strategies: Small Changes with Big Results
In this week’s Mom Enough show, Dr. Alan Kazdin from Yale University, discusses his ABC approach to handling parenting challenges (A for antecdents, B for behavior, C for consequences). What challenging behaviors would you like to change with your child? What steps could you take to apply Dr. Kazdin’s positive parenting method, starting with small changes and moving toward the bigger goals?
For Parenting that Works from the American Psychological Association, click here.
For the principles and techniques of behavior change, click here.