Rank #1: Stepping Stones to Serenity – 1 – Episode 158
Rank #2: How to Sabotage a Relationship – 299
In this recording from an IDAA (International Doctors in AA) conference in 2004, Tom and Gail H share their experience, strength and hope about how they sabotaged their relationship and how they repaired it in recovery. Upcoming: our 300th episode Our 300th episode is just around the corner! I’d love you to share how The … Continue reading "How to Sabotage a Relationship – 299"
Rank #3: Detachment with love – Episode 188
Do you get caught up in other people’s problems or emotions? Does the phrase “loving detachment” just baffle you? We start with a reading from an Al-Anon flyer titled Detachment. What thoughts about detachment does the reading bring up for you? When you first heard the word “detachment” in a meeting, what did you think … Continue reading "Detachment with love – Episode 188"
Rank #4: Living with Lies – Episode 132
Do you obsess over the thought that your loved one might be lying? Do you have to prove the lies? How do you find the ability to trust in recovery? Julia joins Spencer to talk about lies, guided by these questions. How have you been lied to (in relationships with an alcoholic or addict)? How … Continue reading "Living with Lies – Episode 132"
Rank #5: Saying No — No is a complete sentence – 298
Is it hard for you to say “no”? Do you avoid responding instead of saying “no”? Or, maybe you say “yes” when you want to say “no”. “No” is a boundary. Typically in response to a request or requirement to do something we do not want to agree to do and is not ours to … Continue reading "Saying No — No is a complete sentence – 298"
Rank #6: Adult Children of Alcoholics – Episode 203
Did you grow up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family? How has this affected your life today? How can you recover from your childhood experiences? The ACA or ACOA program was created in the 1970s by a group of Alateen members who needed a program that focused on recovery from their experiences growing up in … Continue reading "Adult Children of Alcoholics – Episode 203"
Rank #7: Setting Boundaries without Controlling – Episode 44
Do you struggle with setting boundaries? Does it feel like you are trying to control someone else when you set a boundary? Does your loved one accuse you of trying to control them? Do you have trouble following through with appropriate consequences when your boundaries are violated? Then today’s show is for you. We’re going … Continue reading "Setting Boundaries without Controlling – Episode 44"
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Rank #8: Stay or Go? – Episode 78
Are you in a relationship with an alcoholic or addict? Have you ever thought, “My life would be so much easier without this person?” Have you wondered how you could ever leave them? Today, we have 4 personal stories from individuals who faced that hard question, Stay or Go? Spencer starts with his experience. He … Continue reading "Stay or Go? – Episode 78"
Rank #9: Making a Decision – Episode 233
Step 3 asks us to “make a decision” to turn our will to the care of a higher power. Why is this so hard for many of us? I looked back over 15 years at the 3 times I have worked step 3, and found the answers I wrote in 2002, 2011, and 2017 for … Continue reading "Making a Decision – Episode 233"
Rank #10: 178 – Boundaries “Best of” episode
This “retro” episode was originally published as Episode 103. Have you ever set an ultimatum? What did you do when it wasn’t honored? How do you deal with unacceptable behavior from your loved ones? Spencer and Maria talk about boundaries. Last week, we read an email from a listener who asked these questions: Do any … Continue reading "178 – Boundaries “Best of” episode"
Rank #11: Worry – Episode 119
Do you worry a lot? Is it hard to get your mind off the terrible things that might happen? Or maybe it’s just obsessing on the stuff that is wrong in your life today? Think about a time before program when you were worrying. What were you worrying about? How did worrying affect your life … Continue reading "Worry – Episode 119"
Rank #12: Mary Pearl T, Step 1 – Episode 259
Mary Pearl T shares on Step 1, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable.” Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email email@example.com with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.
Rank #13: Triggers – Episode 92
Do words and events throw you into your past? Do you get angry when it's inappropriate? What are triggers and how do they affect us? Spencer and Akilah talk about our experience of triggers and how the 12 steps have lessened their impact on our lives. We had a few basic questions to guide our … Continue reading "Triggers – Episode 92"
Rank #14: Codependency – Episode 66
If you put your loved one’s needs ahead of your own… If you feel that others’ happiness is your responsibility… If your response to “what do you want for dinner” is “what do you want?” … Then you’ve come to the right place, because today, we’re going to talk about codependency. Spencer took this one … Continue reading "Codependency – Episode 66"
Rank #15: Obsessive Thinking – Episode 197
Do you obsess over your loved one's drinking? Do you keep chewing over past actions or wrongs done to you? How can we stop? What is obsessive thinking? What are some other words? Wallowing (in negativity/fear/anger) Resentment (as we discussed last week) Ruminating / chewing over (past wrongs / future problems) Looping What sorts of … Continue reading "Obsessive Thinking – Episode 197"
Rank #16: Boundaries – Episode 103
Have you ever set an ultimatum? What did you do when it wasn’t honored? How do you deal with unacceptable behavior from your loved ones? Spencer and Maria talk about boundaries. Last week, we read an email from a listener who asked these questions: Do any of you out there have any personal experiences setting … Continue reading "Boundaries – Episode 103"
Rank #17: Intimacy – Episode 141
Intimacy requires dialog, transparency, vulnerability and reciprocity; it is sustained through well-developed emotional and interpersonal awareness; it comes from a center of self-knowledge and self differentiation; and it evolves through reciprocal self disclosure and candor. Spencer recently was a speaker at an open panel meeting titled “The Effects of Alcoholism and Addiction on Intimacy and … Continue reading "Intimacy – Episode 141"
Rank #18: Slogans part 1 – Episode 131
Maybe you’ve heard some of these slogans. “Easy does it.” … “How important is it?” … “Think” … “Let go and Let God.” Spencer and Eric talk about some slogans, guided by these questions. What did you think about these slogans when you first came to the program? Was there a particular slogan that you … Continue reading "Slogans part 1 – Episode 131"
Rank #19: Self Acceptance and Self Esteem – Episode 36
Do you often judge yourself? Do you internalize the criticism of others? Are you afraid they are right? Are you unable to like yourself? Then listen as Swetha, Spencer, and special guest host Erika talk about self acceptance and self esteem. We share our experience, strength, and hope around questions such as these: What is … Continue reading "Self Acceptance and Self Esteem – Episode 36"
Rank #20: Sadness and Loneliness – Episode 214
How were you lonely and sad? Is there a difference between loneliness and being alone? How has recovery helped to relieve these feelings? Eric and Spencer explore loneliness, sadness, and recovery guided in part by these questions. Definitions. Sad, despair, isolated, grief, loss, How did you deal with (or not deal with) sadness before recovery? … Continue reading "Sadness and Loneliness – Episode 214"