Rank #1: #52 Estée Lalonde (YouTuber & Author) - Dealing With Stress & Practicing Self-Care
Estée is a blogger, author and founder of a very successful YouTube channel with over a million subscribers. I enjoy watching her channel for her series FemTalk where she discusses stuff from periods, to sex, to how to stand up for yourself but I also follow her for her beauty expertise. (I’m obsessed with face masks.) Estée has worked with a huge range of brands from Burberry to the Body Shop to Adidas. She recently won InStyle UK's Best Beauty Reviewer Award and was nominated last year for a Glamour Woman Of The Year Award. Earlier this year I interviewed Estée at Waterstones as part of the launch around her book called "Bloom — Navigating Life and Style," which was cool because we had so much to discuss and our books both share the same publisher which is Ebury. Bloom covers everything from moving to a new country, dealing with stress, #girlboss inspirations and learning how to be yourself on and offline.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Dec 12 2016
Rank #2: #134 Esther Perel: On Being A Therapist and Modern Relationships
My guest today is Esther Perel, a psychotherapist of 35 years, and New York Times bestselling author.
Esther Perel is recognised as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she has a therapy practice in New York City and is an consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity which became a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Her newest book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (HarperCollins) is also a New York Times bestseller . Esther is also an exec producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? It is an incredible podcast where you can listen into live therapy sessions. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.
Favourite quotes from the episode:
"Today you don't choose between 2 people in the village, or 6 people at school, you choose between 1,000 at your fingertips. That swiping culture gives you a dizzying level of options."
"How do I know I've found ~the one~? You're going to delete your dating apps."
"The burdens of the self have never been heavier. Today all the big decisions are on us."
"Friendship is one of the most beautiful relationships. You cannot be friends with someone that isn't friends with you. You can love someone who doesn't love you back, but friendship is a reciprocal relationship."
"We can't only use longevity in relationships as a marker of success."
On her podcast Where Do We Begin: "It's so raw and intimidate, it's almost scary."
On giving advice to friends: "What works for me, might not be what works for you."For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Jun 20 2018
Rank #3: #224 Helen Whitaker: How To Find The Time To Write When You're Busy AF
Helen Whitaker is a journalist and author living in London. She was formerly the Entertainment Director of British Glamour. Her day job now is currently Deputy Editor of High Life magazine and she writes books in her spare lunch hours, evenings and any free time she has around parenting. We discuss finding the time to write (or work on any side project) when you just feel like you have NO time. We also chat about her brilliantly observational and funny debut novel The School Run which came out this year, and her new novel that is on the way soon.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Oct 24 2019
Rank #4: #187 Jameela Jamil: A Revolution Against Shame
My guest today is the brilliant Jameela Jamil who first burst on to the broadcast scene in 2008 as co-host of Channel 4’s Freshly Squeezed and T4. In 2013 she became the first female solo presenter of Radio 1’s The Official Chart Show and was an award-winning columnist too.
In 2016 Jameela made her move to the US, where she was cast to play the role of Tahani on NBC’s THE GOOD PLACE. The show has won both an AFI Award, a Critics Choice Award and even nominated for a Global Globe.
In 2018 she launched a movement and social media platform called @i_Weigh which encourages people to feel empowered, refuse to be shamed and be appreciated beyond the flesh on their bones. The movement has been recognised by both media outlets and has almost half a million followers on Instagram. It's growing rapidly and she is turning it into a company.
Hope you enjoy this episode. I really love following Jameela online for her apologetic campaigning while also taking time to listen and learn from those around her. Do follow @i_Weigh on Instagram for more info - they've also just launched a brilliant new IGTV interview series with the first guest Sam Smith. See you next week!For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Mar 18 2019
Rank #5: #36 Mara Wilson - On Growing Up & Accidental Fame
I’ve been a fan of Mara Wilson since I was 7 years old. She is the star of my favourite film from when I was little, the 1996 film "Matilda" based on the book by Roald Dahl. She’s also known for her roles in Mrs. Doubtfire and the 1994 remake of Miracle on 34th Street. Nowadays, she’s an author, a playwright and occasional actress. I caught up her with her to talk about her new book, out TODAY (13th SEPTEMBER) called “Where Am I Now? True Stories of Girlhood and Accidental Fame.” I loved this conversation - Mara is one of my favourite people to follow online and on Twitter and I’ve loved reading her writing on her blog and her musings on life. \ \\\\\\\\\For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Sep 13 2016
Rank #6: #68 with Lena Dunham: Dealing With Life Online & Offline
I met Lena Dunham in 2014 when I interviewed her for an online magazine about her book and since then we’ve kept in touch. She has been a huge supportive influence, also having generously given me a quote for my book. She needs no introduction really but here it is. It is safe to say she is one of the most successful women in the biz right now. Lena Dunham is a Golden Globe winner, best known for writing, directing, producing and acting in Girls HBO. Her first big break was in 2010, when her film Tiny Furniture and won the South by Southwest Film Festival's best narrative feature award. In 2014 she released her book Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's Learned which went on to be a New York Times Bestseller (no surprises there.) In 2015 she founded the online feminist Lenny Letter with her creative partner Jenni Konner. They have an advertising partnership with Hearst and they now have their own imprint at Penguin Random House. Her podcast Women of the Hour is also one of my favourites which you should definitely go and listen to. She is an outspoken advocate for Planned Parenthood and speaks honestly and openly about her struggles with endometriosis. It was an absolute treat getting to hang out with Lena on a fun sunny Friday morning in London in her hotel room. Love this episode.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Mar 20 2017
Rank #7: #217 Alain de Botton: Life As A Process
Today's guest is Alain de Botton, which is very exciting, I've been a huge fan of this work for years.
He is a writer of essayistic books that have been described as a ‘philosophy of everyday life.’ He’s written on love, travel, architecture and literature. His books have been bestsellers in 30 countries. He started writing at a young age. His first book, Essays in Love was published when he was twenty-three and went on to sell millions of copies.
He is also the co-founder of the brilliant The School of Life, a platform and in real life space in London dedicated to a new vision of education, emotional intelligence and self-knowledge. It shows us a path to the better lives we all want and deserve. I really recommend checking out the youtube channel, it's an incredible resource of inspiration and I always come away having learned something new.
The School of Life's latest book, published on September 2019 is a collection of essays, titled The School of Life: An Emotional Education.
I hope you enjoy this episode as I much as I enjoyed recording it - thanks for tuning in each week!For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Sep 15 2019
Rank #8: #206 Elizabeth Gilbert: The Weather Forecast In Our Minds
My guest today is the incredible Elizabeth Gilbert, one of my biggest inspirations of all time. I turn to her work whenever feeling a bit lost. She is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Eat, Pray, Love, Big Magic and The Signature of All Things (plus many others). Big Magic is the book I recommend to anyone struggling with a creative project. It is really practical, fun and helps creatives understand how to work alongside fear.
Elizabeth's NEW book is already a #1 bestseller and is called City Of Girls, a delicious novel of glamour, sex, and adventure, about a young woman discovering that you don’t have to be a good girl to be a good person. We discuss all sorts: the weather forecast in our minds; how being a relaxed women (not a strong women) is a radical move; why we should check in which people more often; how creativity changes everything (and us) and how to break the habit of negative self talk. Hope you enjoy this one :)For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Jun 28 2019
Rank #9: #118: Ava Duvernay: It's Never Too Late To Change Career
Ava Duvernay is an Oscar-nominated film director. Ava made her feature film debut with the documentary This in the Life (2008), a history on the hip hop movement in Los Angeles in the 1990's. This was followed by series of television music documentaries and her first narrative feature film, I Will Follow (2010), secured her the African-American Film Critics Association award for best screenplay. Her follow-up, Middle of Nowhere (2012) won the Best Director Prize at the 2012 Sundance film festival, making her the first African-American woman to receive the award.
Fast forward to the last few years, she is best know for her work directing Selma (2014), Ava was the first black female director to be nominated for a Golden Globe Award. With Selma, she was also the first black female director to have her film nominated for the Academy Award for Best Picture. In 2017, she was nominated for the Academy Award for Best Documentary Feature for her film 13th
Her latest film, out now, is the 2018 fantasy film A Wrinkle in Time, which has a mega cast of Reese Witherspoon, Mindy Kaling and Oprah, and had a budget exceeding $100 million. She is amazing. I hope you love this episode as much as I do.
Some of the favourite quotes from the episode:
“I didn’t pick up a camera until I was 32 years old.”
“I had made 13th and I had made Selma, and that was really dark subject matter, and just to make something about lightness and joy and black girls flying, and designing talking flowers, brought me joy.”
“What do we treat each other so poorly? How broken are we?”
“I reject the word workaholic. I work all the time but I love what i do, and to not do it would make me less happy.”
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Mar 18 2018
Rank #10: #178 Sarah Knight: How To Give Less Of A F*ck
My guest today is Sarah Knight, the New York Times Bestselling author of the "No Fucks Given Guides". Before writing and releasing her own books, she spent 15 years as a top editor, working with authors such as Gillian Flynn and Jessica Knoll.
In her books, she gives tough love and honest advice on setting goals, boundaries, mental health, making big decisions, and getting organised. Her book was called The Life Changing Magic Of Not Giving A Fuck, then Get Your Shit Together, then You Do You. Her fourth book, all about dealing with anxiety called Calm The Fuck down.
We talk about her decision to quit her publishing job, why she moved to the Dominican Republic, how to say no, how to stop comparing and why you shouldn't care what about people think.
Some favourite quotes from the episode:
"Marie Kondo's books are about unburdening yourself from ~stuff~ - I thought, 'I could do this for your mind.'"
"I just don't care if people don't like me. I think I'm pretty awesome."
"I'm the pied piper of not giving a fck"
"I'm not out here advising anyone to be assholes or sociopaths, I'm just saying it's OK to live your life the way you want to live it."
"If you are choosing to punch yourself in the gut each morning by looking at stuff [online] that makes you feel bad about yourself, then stop doing it. I have very little patience for that kind of self-sabotage."For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Feb 03 2019
Rank #11: #126 Dolly Alderton LIVE: On Friendship, Writing & People Pleasing
In this very special live episode of Ctrl Alt Delete, I interviewed the brilliant bestselling author Dolly Alderton on writing, friendship, saying no to people-pleasing and in general we had a GOOD OL' NATTER. Thanks to everyone for coming along, to Rosie for organising the logistics at Waterstones Tottenham Court Road (and for providing the amazing Dolly cocktail) and Shola for producing.
Dolly Alderton's glorious memoir, Everything I Know About Love, has been in the top 5 Sunday Times bestseller charts for months, she vividly recounts wrestling with self-sabotage, getting drunk, getting dumped, and realising that that your mates are always there at the end of every messy night out. It’s a book – above all else – about recognising that you and you alone are enough.
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Apr 30 2018
Rank #12: #79 Jen Sincero: Let's Talk About MONEY
Jen Sincero is a #1 NY Times Bestselling Author, life coach and motivational speaker. She has helped countless people transform their personal and professional lives via her seminars, public appearances and books. Before this, Jen Sincero worked at CBS Records. In her words she “played in several failed rockbands, she had a string of loser boyfriends and never any money in her bank account.” Then she decided something had to change. Jen’s book YOU ARE A BADASS was a No.1 New York Times bestseller staying in the chart for 55 weeks. YOU ARE A BADASS has sold over 1 million copies globally and hit over 10 bestseller lists in 2016. It was published in the UK in autumn 2016 and it immediately sold out 50k copies. You are a Badass at Making Money is the follow up to this crazy successful first book and so this whole episode is about money — our relationship with it, giving our self permission to make money, our fear of it, why it’s still seems like a taboo to talk about it. Hope you enjoy this episode.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
May 24 2017
Rank #13: #65 Gillian Anderson & Jennifer Nadel: A Manifesto for Women Everywhere
Today's episode is with Gilllian Anderson and Jennifer Nadel. Gillian is an actress, activist and writer, probably best known for her iconic roles in the X Files and The Fall. Jennifer is a qualified barrister who, after reporting for the BBC and Channel 4 News, became ITN’s Home Affairs Editor. She has also written a non-fiction book which was made into a channel 4 documentary and a novel called Pretty Thing. They’ve together written a book called WE: A Manifesto for Women Everywhere. Gillian and Jennifer are two good friends who for the last decade have stumbled along together, figuring stuff out, learning, failing, crying, laughing and trying – WE is a not a big heavy theoretical read but instead a rallying cry to create a life that has greater meaning and purpose. It combines tools which are practical, psychological and spiritual, to find a more fulfilling way of living life. It’s a really wonderful book which lots of advice that I feel the authors are passing on to their selves.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Mar 10 2017
Rank #14: #107: Lucy Sheridan: How To Stop Comparing And Despairing Online
Lucy Sheridan is the World's first and only "Comparison Coach". She came on the podcast last year to talk about a book she co-authored with fellow lifecoach Jo Westwood. This time, we discuss the dreaded act on social media comparison in all it's ugliness.
Lucy is a Hay House author and life coach who specialises in her helping her clients get over the compare and despair that can be heightened via social media. She uses the #comparisonfree hashtag online spreading awareness of how to find the tools to live a comparison free life. She coaches her clients with unique, specialist coaching experiences and events. The Times' calls Lucy "one of the UK's most successful coaches", she was also recently listed in the Sunday Times Style in an article called "Meet The New Wellbeing Coaches", and she’s been featured on Oprah's 'Life Class' series multiple times.
I wanted to release this episode about comparison around Christmas time as I think it's a time when we have more time to play around online and maybe part of that means looking at what other people are doing, imagining their perfect lives and scrutinising ourselves. In this episode Lucy and I discuss what our own personal comparison triggers are, what to do when *you're* the trigger for someone else's comparison, online mental health, and setting your own personal and professional boundaries. I’m proud to be sharing this very honest episode on comparison, and I hope you enjoy it!
You can find Lucy Sheridan here http://www.proofcoaching.com/ or on Instagram @lucysheridan.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Dec 22 2017
Rank #15: #74 Seth Godin: Educating Yourself & False Fear
Seth Godin is a legend. The author of 18 books that have been bestsellers around the world and have been translated into more than 35 languages. He is something spreads ideas and writes about marketing, leadership and change. Some of his most well-known books are Linchpin, Tribes, and Purple Cow which I mention on this podcast in conversation. It's a book that has really inspired me - it's all about how to be remarkable and stand out. His blog (which you can find by typing "seth" into Google) is one of the most popular in the world. Seth is well-known in the publishing industry, mainly since launching a series of four books via Kickstarter. The campaign reached its goal after three hours and ended up becoming the most successful book project ever done this way. His newest book, What To Do When It's Your Turn, is already a bestseller. We talk about personal branding, fear, education, making decisions and teaching yourself. I hope you enjoy this episode. He's a real hero of mine.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Apr 17 2017
Rank #16: #161 Pandora Sykes: On Choosing What To Share
Pandora Sykes is a journalist and co-host of The High Low podcast. Pandora is a former colleague of mine; we were part of the launch team of the now defunct website The Debrief back in 2014. She was the fashion editor, I was the social media editor. She then went on to hold the iconic position of Fashion Features Editor and Wardrobe Mistress columnist of The Sunday Times Style magazine.
Now, Pandora is now doing many different things; she is a journalist, brand consultant, podcast co-host and speaker.
She is a Contributing Editor at Man Repeller and ELLE, she has written for titles including The Guardian, Marie Claire, Vogue, Red magazine, i-D, The Cut, Vogue Australia, The Spectator and The Sunday Times.
Pandora is the co-host of an iTunes No.1 weekly culture podcast, The High Low (one of my faves) which she created with author and journalist, Dolly Alderton which has a major cult following.
We discuss sharing, multi-hyphenate careers, career evolution, writing, authenticity and sticking to what feels right for you.
This is Pandora's Manrepeller piece about online sharing that we discuss: https://www.manrepeller.com/2018/09/maintaining-selective-privacy-online.html
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Nov 19 2018
Rank #17: #92 Rebecca Holman: Are you an Alpha or a Beta?
Rebecca Holman is the editor of The Debrief and the author of BETA: Quiet Girls Can Run The World. Rebecca was also my boss when I worked at The Debrief years ago, and so it was nice to catch up with her, especially as she also featured me in her book (which you should all read). Rebecca’s book BETA is published on 24th August '17 and takes a look at the two stereotypes of women in the workplace: the Alpha boss, or the Beta secretary or assistant. Rebecca is self-defined as a straight up Beta and she describes the differences between the two terms on the podcast. Obviously being reduced to two stereotypes isn’t massively helpful and of course there is a sliding scale. What if you’re a Beta who wants to lead and be the boss in the workplace - like Rebecca? Can you be a successful boss who is also quiet, reserved and likes going home on time? BETA celebrates the collaborators and the people who believe that being nice works and getting your own way isn't always the most important thing. It is a call-to-arms that explores the unsung workforce of BETA women who are being great bosses, great leaders and are still living their own lives: having relationships, making time for friends, having families.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Aug 11 2017
Rank #18: #35 Heather Havrilesky (Columnist "Ask Polly") - On Writing, Giving Advice & Not Being A “Guru”
She is the sweary big sister of the Internet who gives brilliant and thought-provoking weekly advice via her column “Ask Polly” for New York Magazines “The Cut”. She answers all sorts of questions from “How do I dump my crappy best friend?” to “I’m broke and I hate my job” to “My sister has cancer and I can’t go on.” It’s my favourite weekly column and every week I’m excited to read it. I always learn something important. She has a book that’s just come out called “How To Be a Person In The World” which has a whole load of #AskPolly columns in there, both new and old ones and has had amazing reviews including the New Yorker. She is also the author of the memoir DISASTER PREPAREDNESS (published by Riverhead, 2011) and she was Salon.com's TV critic for 7 years. We talk about writing, standing out from the crowd, writing a column, what advice we take and why being "guru" doesn't appeal.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Sep 04 2016
Rank #19: #194 Mrs Hinch: How To Hinch Yourself Happy
Today's guest is Mrs Hinch (real name Sophie Hinchliffe) who became an overnight sensation by sharing her cleaning tips and tricks on Instagram last year, growing from 1k to 1m followers in six months. She's now at 2 million with no sign of slowing down. Her witty and entertaining Instagram Stories are part advice, part entertainment and absolutely brilliant. Sophie coined the term 'Hinching' making cleaning genuinely a lot of fun, and she's opened a conversation about how cleaning can be quite relaxing and much needed 'me time'.
Her book Hinch Yourself Happy is out today (on the day of this podcast release) and is packed with lots of tips to help shine your sink and soothe your soul. Hope you enjoy.For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy
Apr 03 2019
Rank #20: #141 Charly Cox: On Poetry, Success and Mental Health
Charly Cox is a 22-year-old writer, producer, poet and author of She Must Be Mad.
Her writing focuses on destigmatizing mental health and the coming-of-age of a young woman surviving the modern world. In January 2017, she published her first poem on Instagram, showing her internet followers her poetry for the first time; since then she’s been asked to be Virgin Radio’s poet in residence, she’s been published on Refinery29, hosted poetry nights to raise money and awareness for MQ Mental Health and been named by ELLE magazine as one of their 20 power players to watch out for in 2018. She Must Be Mad is Charly’s first book.
She Must be Mad explores coming-of-age: the pain and beauty of love, the relief and the agony of turning from girl to woman, the isolation of an untethered mind and the power and subjugation of the body.
We discuss writing, success, mental health, how as a poet, people might worry they are "fodder" for your work, the insanity of being alone for long periods of time when writing, crying for two weeks over book covers and the importance of the phrase "I have a mental illness but I have really good mental health".
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Aug 02 2018