Victor Pride is the man behind Bold and Determined - The Website for Winners and the author of Body of a Spartan and 30 Days of Discipline. Victor offers insight into the mind of a successful online entrepreneur as he discusses making money online, men's fitness and motivation.
Victor Pride is the man behind Bold and Determined - The Website for Winners and the author of Body of a Spartan and 30 Days of Discipline. Victor offers insight into the mind of a successful online entrepreneur as he discusses making money online, men's fitness and motivation.
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Positive psychology—with Martin Seligman. During the 1960s the field of psychology focussed on the science of how past trauma creates present symptoms, and how to reduce people’s misery. Professor Martin Seligman wanted to change that focus. He’s become known as the Father of Positive Psychology, and he’s had a profound influence worldwide. In Part 1 of our 2 programs with Martin Seligman, hear him address an exclusive audience in Australia on happiness and human flourishing.
How Journaling Can Make You 25% Happier (TPS154). Journaling is a bit of a buzzword in the productivity space, but with good reason. And in this episode, Mike and Brooks explain why it’s so important. They dive into the many benefits of journaling, and share 5 tips for making journaling actionable and effective. They explain how to implement a journaling habit, recommend some different tools and apps you can use, and explain how to make the habit stick. If you’ve never understood why you should journal or you have trouble doing it consistently, then this episode is for you.Get Podcast UpdatesDo you want to get an email with shownotes each time a podcast goes live? Then let us know where to send the updates by entering your first name and email. Cheat SheetWhy there’s a stigma associated with journaling (and why’s it isn’t true) [1:39]The benefits that come from pairing journaling and meditation [5:13]How journaling increases your mindfulness [7:53]The ways that journaling actually increases the likelihood that you will actually achieve your goals [9:55]How journaling strengthens self-discipline and improves communication skills [14:15]Why many people do something called “morning pages” and how it sets their day up for success [18:24]Why you don’t need to take a long time each day to journal (it’s the consistency that counts) [20:27]Why it is so important to keep your journal positive [24:09]The benefits of keeping a gratitude journal and how it impacts your outlook on your life [26:07]Why it is important to see the gains you’ve made by reviewing your journal [32:17]How to use journaling to identify pain points in your life so you can fix and solve them [36:38]AE recommendations for digital journals and apps you can use [38:38]Why you might want to use an analog journal and the benefits of pen and paper [48:42]Why it is so important for you to pick a time to journal that works for you and stick to it [55:03]Using automation and prompts to make journaling more efficient [58:24]5 tips to make the most of your journaling experience [1:04:56]Why you should review your journal on a regular basis [1:06:19]LinksSELF JournalTPS2: How to Get Started with JournalingTPS69: Journaling w/ Kendra WrightHow to Take Massive Action on Your Goals by Implementing the 12 Week Year Effectively (TPS138)The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks than Others Do in 12 Months10% Happier by Dan HarrisHuffington Post “10 Surprising Benefits You’ll Get From Keeping a Journal”MoodnotesDay OneThe Five Minute JournalTextExpanderEvernoteLaunch Center ProJourney appBaron Fig notebooksField NotesMoleskineRhodia notebookBullet JournalMiracle MorningIf you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Overcast, PocketCast or your favorite podcast player. It’s easy, you’ll get new episodes automatically, and it also helps the show gain exposure. You can also leave a review! Here’s how.
Episode 26: Living Long Enough to Live Forever. In Episode 6, Peter and Dan described how mindset plays a key role in living a long, healthy life, this time they share stories about how they each arrived at their ambitious longevity goals. In this episode: Peter talks about Ray Kurzweil’s belief that children born today will have the ability to have an indefinite lifespan. Dan describes his thoughts on attitude and why the future is something you must work toward. Peter puts into perspective the amazing times we are living in, citing how the human lifespan has doubled over the last century. Dan mentions his visit to Human Longevity Inc., for the full story, listen to Episode 21 here.
#17 Nick Littlehales - Improve your sleep. Nick is regarded as the leading elite sports sleep coach in world sport. A leading industry expert with over 30 years experience in the world of sleep, sleeping habits, and product design and over 15 years dedicated to elite athletes and professional sport. For more information about Nick visit sportsleepcoach.co.uk For more information about Mind Set Game connect with us on Facebook @mindsetgamepodcast. For more information about James Roberts (the host of the podcast), visit fitamputee.co.uk
Rank #1: How Kratom Changed Everything (Podcast with Chris Lenahan/KingKratom). Chris Lenahan talks about how he and Kratom fixed his shit.
Rank #2: How To Pick Up Girls Efficiently (If You Don't Want To Hit On Lots Of Chicks). "How to Pick Up Girls Efficient (If You Don't Have the Time/Desire To Hit On Lots Of Girls"http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/picking-up-women/how-to-pick-up-girls-efficientlyGood Looking Loser - Self-Improvement For Douchebags
Rank #1: Roosh Hour #23 - Jordan Peterson. This is a podcast adaptation of a Twitch live stream I did on October 21, 2018: https://youtu.be/jcFE1zh8r_M Subscribe via RSS feed: http://feeds.feedburner.com/KingmakerPodcast
Rank #2: The Making Of A Modern Man. In this debut podcast, I discuss the importance of a man's environment on shaping him because of how it acts as a mirror to his existence. I propose that modern Western civilization, with its ideas of individualism, materialism, and hedonism, have created a toxic environment that is hurting its inhabitants more severely than had they been raised in a traditional society, using my own life path as a case study. I also discuss what we have gained and lost by moving from a traditional society to a modern one. Is Kingmaker giving you value? Help support me with a donation: http://www.rooshv.com/go/kingmakerdonate Why it's folly to design your own lifestyle: http://www.rooshv.com/why-its-folly-to-design-your-own-lifestyle?utm\_medium=podcast&utm\_campaign=kingmaker+podcast&utm\_source=podcast+01 Does life have meaning without God? http://www.rooshv.com/does-life-have-inherent-meaning-without-belief-in-god?utm\_medium=podcast&utm\_campaign=kingmaker+podcast&utm\_source=podcast+01 Julius Evola, modern civilization is the anti-thesis to tradition: http://amzn.to/2cOcXJt Why American culture is degenerate: http://www.rooshv.com/7-reasons-why-american-culture-is-the-most-degenerate-in-the-world?utm\_medium=podcast&utm\_campaign=kingmaker+podcast&utm\_source=podcast+01 How sleeping around with women allowed me to see the truth: http://www.rooshv.com/how-hedonistic-game-became-the-gateway-to-virtuous-truths?utm\_medium=podcast&utm\_campaign=kingmaker+podcast&utm\_source=podcast+01 We're spinning around on a wheel of novelty: http://www.rooshv.com/the-novelty-wheel?utm\_medium=podcast&utm\_campaign=kingmaker+podcast&utm\_source=podcast+01
Rank #1: The Rationale Male Interview-Alpha Males, Congruency, and Sexual Dynamics. In this interview, I sat down for 2 hours to talk with Rollo Tomassi, author of the Rationale Male, and Godfather of the Repill philosophy on Human Behavior and intersexual dynamics between Men and Women, and society at largeThis was a DEEP interview-Masculine Congruency-Alpha fucks and beta bucks-Doomed relationships-Archetypes of female fantasy and what they say about men-Sexual Market Value and its role in partner selection Rollo and I had a very fun conversation sharing stories and commentary on observations, we went in many different directions. I'd highly suggest reading Rollo's booksThe Rationale Male-https://amzn.to/2DQQUgPYou can also find him on twitter, @RationalMale, and also his websitehttps://therationalmale.com/
Rank #2: How to Fast. Fasting has ancient origins, and in modern times the science has proven it to be immensely beneficial for human health. How can you fast, and what are the steps to do so?
Rank #1: "How Should I Be Planning For My Future?". A young man of 24 years has a lot of questions running through his head. He doesn't know what he should be focusing on right now, and is not sure he should focus on business growth, travel, or family issues. We offer some suggestions.
Rank #2: A G Manifesto Tweet Reading. I read some of the recent tweets of the G Manifesto (Twitter: @MichaelPorfirio. It's all here: chimp strength, coconuts, weesh dudes, game meats, deep ocean swims, swooping mass beautiful girls, and the whole nine yards. What the hell use is anything if you can't enjoy life? Unplug from those negative dorks out there and visualize some real fun.
Rank #1: #08: The Secrets to Social Media Programming with Sonny Arvado. In today's episode, Kyle welcomes old friend Sonny Arvado to the show to talk about his latest book, Instagods. In this episode, the focus is on the dating aspect of social media...how you can play it to your advantage, how it's affected both men and women, and of course...much, much more. From Sonny's site... "As you will see in Instagods, social media has truly metamorphosed into an invisible government of civilization. Nearly every aspect of human interaction can be narrowed down to programmable patterns of behavior based solely off of social media. Simply put, people have become very predictable. Therefore, they can be easily profiled. You can literally look at someone’s social media profiles and know EXACTLY who they are and more importantly, where they are going. Yes, as you will learn in Instagods, people can often be profiled to the extent that you can actually predict their future with a reasonable amount of accuracy. This is a powerful skill set to possess. With this skill set, you can do anything you want with your social existence." Apple Podcasts / Android / Stitcher / Spotify / YouTube / RSS If you enjoy the podcast, please leave an honest review here.
Rank #2: #09: 28 Steps to Successful Business, Part 1. In today's episode, I break down the first 14 of 28 steps to a successful business in 2019. Plus, a look into airline ticket rules, why poor people stay poor, and much much more on the latest episode of the Kyle Trouble Podcast. Apple Podcasts / Android / Stitcher / Spotify / YouTube / RSS If you enjoy the podcast, please leave an honest review here.
Rank #1: The Return of Positive Masculinity | Rollo Tomassi. My guest on today’s podcast has spent the last decade examining the cultural evolution that's led to the mass vilification of masculinity and its effects on society. He joins me to discuss how this dynamic came to be and the detrimental impact its having on the lives of men today, specifically as it pertains to marriage and fatherhood.Rollo Tomassi is the owner of TheRationalMale.com, a website dedicated to expounding upon what is known as the red pill of intergender sexual dynamics. He’s also the author of a series of three books bearing The Rational Male title.His latest book in the series is The Rational Male – Positive Masculinity.In this book, Rollo dedicates many of its pages to explicating how society has been recently conditioned to disparage conventional masculinity – and he does it with a sharp focus on the implications it’s had on today’s husbands and fathers.The content of our discussion will be revolutionary for those of you who aren’t familiar with Rollo’s work, while proving to be uniquely insightful for those that are.Show Highlights- A primer on female hypergamy and male blue pill conditioning - How Red Pill philosophies should be specifically applied by married men- What competition anxiety is and how to use it to maintain a healthy, sexually invigorated marriage- Why married men must communicate through demonstration, not explication- How young boys are taught to loathe their masculinity and the disastrous consequences this leads to- Strategies for fathers to teach and exemplify conventional masculinity for their sons and daughters- The greatest “gift” we can give to our sons- How to properly use the concept of amused mastery when raising our daughters- What a father’s living example implicitly teaches his daughter about men- The real reason modern suicide rates are much higher in men than womenConnect with Rollo Tomassi:Rollo’s Website: http://therationalmale.comFollow Rollo On Twitter: https://twitter.com/RationalMaleFollow Craig James on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MasculineDesignView this podcast on the blog: http://masculinebydesign.com/the-return-of-positive-masculinity-rollo-tomassiGet my free ebook: http://masculinebydesign.com/start-here/
Rank #2: Red Pill Marriage & Parenting - The Family Alpha. Today's guest on the podcast embodies what it means to be a family man on a mission. Hunter Drew is committed to using his masculinity to continually enhance his own value as a man in order to maintain an invigorated marriage and raise his children to be exceptional within a culture that encourages mediocrity.We discuss the role that masculine men are designed to fill within the family, how our example sets the bar of what is acceptable for the entire family, and what the destructive consequences are when a man fails to step up to the call of being the masculine leader of his family. The podcast is full of relatable personal anecdotes from Hunter and I that underline the successes and challenges of raising kids and building a satisfying marriage in today's fast paced world.It's all discussed and analyzed through the lens of Red Pill philosophy, which leads to some interesting twists throughout our conversation.Hunter's unbridled enthusiasm for life, motivational demeanor, and uncanny ability to articulate truth through personal storytelling is on full display from start to finish. It'll be impossible for a man to be the same husband and father after listening to this as he was before.
Rank #1: ROLLO TOMASSI - From beta, to Alpha, back to beta: The dangers of long term relationships. Tonight i will be joined by one of the most influential figures in the manosphere Rollo Tomassi who, when all is said and done will be on the Mount Rushmore of the Red Pill and for those of you who aren’t familiar with Rollo Tomassi, google him or visit his website therationalmale.com and you’ll see why this guy is considered to be the Godfather of the Manosphere.Anyway, what we will be discussing is the phenomenon of men who take and digest the Red Pill, reap the benefits and rewards of the red pill lifestyle, but then revert back to their blue pill ways because of a long term relationships and end up back where they were when they googled “why do women cheat”The reason this happens is simple….basic human nature. Once we achieve success in anything, we have a tendency to become complacent and we lose our edge. It’s like a recording artist who puts in thousands of hours on a studio, does underground shows every night, he’s writing all the time, he’s griding it out because he’s hungry for success. But when he catches his big break and gets discovered by a record label who drops his album and makes him more money than he’s ever seen in his life, his next album probably won’t approach the first one in terms of quality and creativity simply because he’s not as hungry. He’s tasted success and that has a tendency to take away some of the fire and dedication.It’s the same with relationships. A lotta guys find the red pill, they learn game, they improve themselves and they start having more success with women than they’ve ever had in their lives. They’re sleeping with high quality girls in terms of beauty and before long one of these girls manages to do enough to lock him down long term. But when a Red Pill aware male gets regular sex and commitment from a pretty girl, he doesn’t feel the need to go out and approach as much as he used to. He feels like he can take his foot off the gas in terms of his fitness level, demanding her best, and his Red Pill principles. Then at some point he thinks he’s found a special girl which causes him to subconsciously pedestlize her and when THAT happens the scarcity mentality kicks in. Before he knows it his woman is cheating on him, his life falls apart and he’s right back to where he started and a lot of times he’s even worse off than he was before.So this evening at 7 eastern, 4 pacific Rollo and I will discuss how this happens and how to avoid it. We will also be taking calls so you definitely don’t wanna miss tonight’s show. Thanks for listening guys. See you tonight.
Rank #2: Is it too late for black women? (Minister Jap). Is it too late for black women? (Minister Jap) by Donovan Sharpe
Rank #1: How To Build An Online Business. If you ever wanted to learn how to build an online business, or even wanted to look behind the scenes of my business, then this podcast is for you.
Rank #2: How To Have More Energy. You already have more than enough energy. The issue is how you are using it. Find out how to have all the energy you need and then some in the latest Mike Cernovich podcast. Then go to DangerAndPlay.com
Rank #1: All Training is Sacrifice – STW Episode #18. Don’t kill your ego. Sacrifice Yourself To Yourself. Bruce Lee wrote that: “Punches and kicks are tools to kill the ego.” It sounds like mountaintop mysticism, like some far-out, far-eastern form of overdubbed, white-bearded enigmatic enlightenment. It’s become a training cliche. Whether you are training with weapons or weights, someone will eventually tell you that your ego is your enemy. The problem with that is, your ego is also — you. People tell you to kill your ego because they want you to get out of your own way. They want you to stop acting like you already know everything, because by seeking out training, you’ve already acknowledged on some level that you don’t know everything.They want you to leave your status or perceived status in the world behind, so that you can submit to the learning process as a student — with no chip on your shoulder and nothing to prove. They want you to train with humility and avoid hubris — an ancient Greek concept describing a man who overestimates his own power or status and brings himself into conflict with natural law, which is, from a mythopoetic perspective, the will of the gods. His hubris eventually leads to his downfall. In the case of training, a man’s hubris makes it more difficult for him to learn and grow as a practitioner — his hubris becomes the cause of his stasis. Conceit, hubris, arrogance…this kind of ego-tism is only one negative connotation of the word ego, which also describes a much broader concept of self. “Ego” is actually a Latin word for “I,” sometimes translated as “I, myself.” The Twentieth Century use of “ego” in English to mean “self” stems from the psychoanalytic work of Sigmund Freud, who used the simple word “Ich,” also “I,” in German. This seems less editorial and more in keeping with the Latin “I, myself.” In the Freudian model, the super-ego, or Über-Ich is the ego above and beyond the self. It’s the part of the conscious and unconscious self that absorbs and processes collective identity as well as the demands and the norms of the group, culture, society — tribe. If you train on purpose — if you train because you want to train — your training is driven by the ego. Voluntary training is endured in the service of the ego, with the ultimate purpose of validating the ego, increasing self worth and improving social status. You train because you believe that you are good enough to be better, and worth improving. Or perhaps you see yourself training for the sake of others, for the group, to protect them or fulfill a role you believe you are good enough and able to fulfill. If you train for honor — to be worthy of your peers, your ancestors, your gods — you train because you believe yourself to be capable of honoring them. (1) This too, is a product of your ego. The ego, in both the broadest and the psychoanalytic sense, describes your conscious mind. It makes up the bulk of your “I” or “Ich.” Your ego is what separates you from dust in the wind. It’s the part of your mind that is awake, sentient, self-aware. To whatever extent you are the master of your own fate and the captain of your soul, the “you” is your ego. It is your ego — inseparable from any knowable version of “you” — that perceives and processes information about the world around you, evaluates that information, and selects a direction or course of action. It is the ego that manifests will. Men train in the service of a higher version of the self, imagined and willed into existence by the ego. Training is self-creation — becoming — not self-destruction. The aspects of the ego which must be destroyed or contained in training are self-imposed scripts and limitations and habits which may impede the progress of your self-development.This is a pruning of the ego — a sacrifice of old growth to stimulate new growth. This pruning may be painful as you clip away or brush aside cherished ideas about the talents or even perceived limitations that you believe make you special. People seem to take almost as much pride in the untested reasons and rationalizations they’ve dreamed up for why they can’t learn in a certain way or do a certain thing as they do in untested delusions of grandeur — especially in this slave age that prefers victims to victors. Often, their perceived limitations are like those of a boy who believes he can’t swim or doesn’t like swimming because he fell in a pool once and didn’t know what to do. The world is also full of men who want to tell you how much they used to lift or how fast they used to run, before they got “old” or suffered some injury that elite athletes work through all the time. “Limitless potential” is a fantasy, but most people set their own limits long before they come anywhere close to the top end of their potential. While some believe they can’t when they can, many others believe they could when they probably couldn’t. Millions of doughboys overestimate their ability to fight because they won an altercation in high school once — or worse, because they’ve watched a lot of videos of fights and think they “have a pretty good idea of what they’d do.” You can find them second-guessing professional fighters and quarterbacks in bars and in front of television sets all around the world. To truly become the kind of men who know they have the ability and the conditioning to do what these men merely believe they can do, these couch captains would have to abandon their self-authored fictions about themselves. They would have to go through a process of failing and looking stupid before they even started to look like they knew what they were doing — much less became truly capable of performing as they’ve imagined. To train successfully, you must be willing to sacrifice portions of your present self-concept to a future, higher version of the self created by your ego. It is your ego, god-like, that is initiating and driving the process of self-transformation and becoming. This process requires you to exchange something you have for something you want. Nothing worth anything is truly free, and everything worth having requires some kind of sacrifice. Instead of “killing your ego” — instead of fighting yourself — approach training as a sacrifice of a part of yourself to a higher self. This is the way of Odin. Odin is usually depicted with a missing eye, because he sacrificed one of his own eyes to the giant Mimir in order to drink from his well of wisdom. He sacrificed a portion of his superficial sight for a deeper, higher way of “seeing.” . In another tale, Odin disguised himself as a farmhand and labored through a growing season, doing the work of nine men to gain access to Óðrœrir, the mead of poetry and inspiration. To get the mead, the hooded wanderer eventually had to seduce the giantess Gunnlod, whose name translates roughly to “invitation to battle,” and slam her out for three nights in a row. (It must have been a rough three nights.) Odin is perhaps best known for his self-directed ordeal hanging from the world-tree Yggdrasil, wounded by what was (presumably) his own spear. After hanging without food or drink for nine nights, the runes reveal themselves to him, and from them he gains magic and a greater understanding of the universe. While this scene is superficially Christ-like, and it makes sense to wonder how much Christian imagery and intent colored any of the surviving stories of pre-Christian European pagans, the stark difference here is in Odin’s motivation. The spirit of Odin’s ego-driven self-sacrifice is captured in the following lines from the Hávamál: og gefinn Óðni sjálfur sjálfum mér a sacrifice to Odin myself to myself The Hávamál is known as “the sayings of the high one” — sayings attributed to Odin himself. The majority of the first 138 verses pass down practical advice for living, as if from a grandfather or a wise old king. These lines about the sacrifice of self to self are found in a distinctive portion of the text that reads as if the speaker has slipped into a trance. In this dream state, the high one recalls his initiation into the mysteries of the runes, through starved meditation, while hanging from the world tree (2): Veit ég að ég hékk vindga meiði á nætur allar níu geiri undaður og gefinn Óðni sjálfur sjálfum mér á þeim meiði er manngi veit hvers hann af rótum rennur * Við hleifi mig seldu né við hornigi nýsti ég niður nam ég upp rúnir æpandi nam féll ég aftur þaðan I know that I hung on a windy tree for nine full nights wounded with a spear a sacrifice to Odin myself to myself on that tree which no man knows from what root it runs * None made me happy with loaf Or with horn I looked down below I took up the runes Screaming I took them And then fell down from there Odin’s martyrdom is a self-martyrdom, done in the service of no one but himself, for reasons of his own. He sacrifices himself to reach a new level of understanding, and through that understanding becomes a higher version of himself. Odin acknowledges that he doesn’t know everything, and instead of sitting on his throne sipping mead and marveling at his own creation, he pushes himself out of his own comfort zone and forces himself to do what he believes to be necessary to know more and become better. The Allfather could easily compare himself to other gods and humans and all of the lesser creatures, and be satisfied. But Odin doesn’t measure himself against others, he measures himself against himself. The opposite of Odin wouldn’t be a giant or a dwarf or a man — or even the wolf who swallows him and ends his life. Odin’s opposite would be the person who tells you to “just be yourself” or to “be happy just the way you are.” The story of Odin is a challenge and a reminder that no matter who you are or what you’ve achieved, you can do more, learn more — you can make yourself better in some way. The practice of Odinism requires no worship of Odin with kneeling prayers. One who practices Odinism acknowledges the worthiness — the original meaning of the Old English word, “weorðscipe” — of the Odinic ideal by embodying Odin. A man becomes Odin by acknowledging the worth of the way of one who is always seeking, always improving, always willing to sacrifice a piece of himself to become more, to become better, to do more. All training requires some kind of sacrifice of self to self. Of something you have for something you want. Of something you want to do now for someone you want to be later. It may even be a part of you that you cling to, some idea about yourself that you’ll have to give up temporarily or permanently, because it is preventing you from becoming who your ego believes you can become. When you’ve decided what you want to learn or what you want to do or how you want to transform yourself — work to remove the internal obstacles that are preventing you from achieving mastery or realizing that goal. Be the loosener your own fetters. Determine what you have that you need to give up — time, money, work, habit, comfort — and sacrifice it on the bloody altar of that vision. When you are tempted to feel burdened or victimized by the hunger of your vision for sacrifice, remember that you are the visionary — the father of it all. You are the god, the priest, the slaughter and the harvest. (1) For more on training for honor, read my essay, “Train for Honor” in the collection A Sky Without Eagles.(2014) (2) The translation is mixed and simplified, based on the comparative work done here: https://notendur.hi.is/haukurth/norse/reader/runatal.html. I’ve done my best to mimic the reconstructed Old Norse pronunciation in the recorded version on that page, albeit with my own quirks and dramatic inflections. Following the example of Paul Waggener, I’ve made this a part of the opening of every Wolves ritual I conduct.
Rank #2: Tribalism is Not Humanitarianism. On Sebastian Junger’s “Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging” An audio presentation of this essay is available below, recorded as STW Episode #17. In his new book, Tribe, Sebastian Junger attempts to expand on one of the most daringly alert and off-message observations made in his 2010 book, War. War is generally portrayed as a terrible experience which must be endured, but no one is supposed to like it. While talking to soldiers who served in Afghanistan and other wars, Junger recognized that while war may be terrifying and exhausting and painful, men often miss the experience of war when they return to civilian life. Men and boys are routinely encouraged by public health institutions, educators, therapists, women and the media — everyone but their peers and the occasional stern father figure — to “open up” and “express their feelings.” A lot of guys I know will joke around and say that they, “have no feelings.” When men say that they, “don’t have feelings,” what they mean is that they don’t want to luxuriate in emotions that make them feel weak, they expect that anything they say can and probably will be used against them, and they know their honest thoughts and feelings probably aren’t the thoughts and feelings that most people want to hear. Men and boys in the modern world spend a lot of time hearing about why their feelings are wrong. They aren’t supposed to sexually objectify women the way men have always sexually objectified women. They aren’t supposed to want to help women, because that’s wrong, too. If they hit a woman it is always wrong, unless she wants to take martial arts, and then they are supposed to treat her like a man. Sometimes. Kind of. Men aren’t supposed to want to protect their own interests or be wary of the motivations of strangers or outsiders — because that’s xenophobic or racist. Men are still theoretically supposed to be prepared to be heroes and fight to protect their loved ones if necessary, but if they attempt to acquire the tools and skills to actually do those things — instead of just expecting to magically download them like Trinity in an emergency — they are called paranoid or labeled “gun nuts” and treated with suspicion. Men are supposed to be prepared, theoretically, to use violence, but they are never supposed to actually like it. To hope for some kind of opportunity to use violence, to enjoy the idea of being violent, to enjoy actually being violent, to kill another human being and not feel bad about it — these are the most taboo of feelings. These are not the kinds of feelings people want to hear. When men reveal or even hint at having the wrong kinds of feelings, those feelings are either shouted down or condescendingly explained away in some perverse and convoluted manner. Usually, more education is recommended. Educated people are supposed to know better than to have the wrong kinds of feelings. The recommended education will just be more people telling men why their feelings are wrong. This was probably similar to what being a woman or a girl was like for many females in some pre-feminist societies. Women who liked sex, who wanted to do things women weren’t supposed to do, who didn’t want children, who didn’t care about the things women were supposed to care about…they were probably all told they were having the wrong kinds of feelings and should get back to their needlepoint. Likewise, as we are often reminded, men who wanted to do the things women were supposed to do were bullied and told they were having the wrong kinds of feelings. Now the old outcasts are applauded, and men and women who feel drawn to traditional gender roles get the equivalent of, “shut up and make me a sandwich,” which is, I guess, “shut up and take Women’s Studies and Diversity courses until you feel differently.” Telling people to have different feelings doesn’t exactly help them process those feelings, it just teaches them what feelings to reveal and what feelings they can never talk about. When men today return from combat, they are returning to the society they grew up in. They know how they are supposed to feel about violence. They know they are supposed to feel victimized by it. They know they are supposed to suffer from having been exposed to violence, and they know they are supposed to feel guilty about having killed or having helped someone else to kill. They know they are supposed to want, more than anything, to get a good job and buy an SUV and start a family and have barbecues and drink Coors Light responsibly. They aren’t supposed to wish they were back in the Middle East. They aren’t supposed to say they feel more connected to the men in their units than to their families and old friends. They aren’t supposed to say that that no matter how stressful it was at the time, the experience of fighting for their lives made everything else seem boring and trivial. They aren’t supposed to admit they ever enjoyed it. When Junger explained in War that many combat veterans do have these feelings — that they do miss war and have many fond memories of war, up to and including killing other humans, it struck me as jarringly honest. He didn’t apologize for their feelings or explain why they were wrong for feeling that way. Actually listening to how men feel, instead of telling them how they are supposed to feel, is going to be essential to helping them work through a problem. In the context of war, this has obvious applications for helping veterans who have symptoms of PTSD. In Tribe, Junger, relates his own account of having PTSD-related panic attacks when he returned to the “bitter safety” of New York City from a particularly perilous reporting assignment in Afghanistan. He goes on to explore responses to trauma, danger and loss from war, disease epidemics, and rape. Setting Junger’s conclusions, proposed solutions and missed opportunities aside, Tribe is worth reading for anyone interested in the phenomenon of PTSD. It contains some sugar-free statistics about the number of vets who claim benefits for PTSD versus the number of vets who actually experience combat, as well as some interesting thoughts regarding the discrepancy between the two and some reasons why it isn’t always as simple as fraud — though there is surely that, too. Junger also presents a wide variety of useful information, evolutionary theories and relevant anecdotes about processing responses to extreme stress. Short-term PTSD is a normal and, Junger argues, evolutionarily adaptive response to life-threatening experiences. It may act as a reminder to remain in a heightened state of awareness immediately following an event to be sure the danger has passed. However, Junger seems to suggest that acute PTSD becomes chronic PTSD and lingers because there is something missing from modern Western society. Junger thinks that while life in the modern West is safe and comfortable, some of the reasons returning soldiers find themselves yearning for the war, and why even civilians who have lived through conflict or disaster find themselves remembering their ordeals, “more fondly than weddings or tropical vacations,” may be because they miss being in a situation where their actions truly mattered, and people helped each other out. He writes: “Humans don’t mind hardship, in fact they thrive on it; what they mind is not feeling necessary. Modern society has perfected the art of making people not feel necessary. It’s time for that to end.” This is absolutely true, and I’ve written basically the same thing about the general ennui of men in modern post-feminist nations — where their natural roles are performed by corporations and government institutions, and they are reduced to mere sources of income and insemination. Junger says people in modern society are missing a sense of tribe, and he’s right, but he stops short of either truly understanding or being willing to address the totality of what it means to be part of a tribe. The elements of tribalism that make it fundamentally incompatible with pluralism and globalism go unmentioned or unexamined in Tribe, and what remains is a handful of vague, disappointing bromides about not cheating and treating political opponents more fairly and helping each other so we don’t “lose our humanity.” He fumbles at the truth with statements like this… “In a country that applies its standard of loyalty in such an arbitrary way, it would seem difficult for others to develop any kind of tribal ethos.” …and then resolves them with cotton candy like this… “Acting in a tribal way simply means being willing to make a substantive sacrifice for your community — be that your neighborhood, your workplace, or your entire country.” Junger seems to think that tribalism can be reduced to the old Boy Scout slogan, “Do a good deed daily.” The question is, for who? Is your tribe just anyone? What does being a Good Samaritan have to do with tribalism? Indiscriminate love for humanity, which is what Junger preaches in Tribe, is, even at the most basic dictionary level, the exact opposite of tribalism. Tribalism is human, but it is not humanitarianism. Tribalism is defined as, “strong loyalty to one’s own tribe, party, or group.” Tribal belonging is exclusive and the camaraderie and generosity that Junger admires in tribal people is functional because the group has defined boundaries. Tribal people are generally not wandering do-gooders. Tribal people help each other because helping each other means helping “us,” and they know who their “us” is. In a well-defined tribal group where people know or at least recognize each other as members, people who share voluntarily are socially rewarded and people who do not are punished or removed from the group. Reciprocity is also relatively immediate and recognizable. There is a return for showing that you are “on the team.” Junger writes that, “It makes absolutely no sense to make sacrifices for a group that, itself, isn’t willing to make sacrifices for you.” He recognizes that American tribal identity, to the extent that it ever existed, is collapsing internally when he warns that, “People who speak with contempt for one another will probably not remain united for long,” and remarks, “…the ultimate terrorist strategy would be to just leave the country alone.” Junger strongly criticizes the media for promoting divisive rhetoric, he damns the stock market and banking industry opportunists for the economic damage they have done to the country and their betrayal of their fellow Americans, and he criticizes average men and women for claiming benefits fraudulently and…littering. It’s clear from the runaway popularity of both Bernie Sanders and Donald Trump that the average American suspects that the government is corrupt and probably aids or even encourages financial malfeasance in big business and especially the banking industry. This completes a three-way web of finger-pointing and fuck you’s between average Joe and the government and big business. There’s been a complete breakdown of trust that probably can’t be repaired, in part because the failure of nationalism — which is basically just large-scale, bureaucratically-aided tribalism — in the West stems from the failure of the idea of “national pluralism” that is built into the structure of modern society. You can’t have a tribe for everyone, and nations without physical and cultural boundaries effectively cease to be nations. Without a unifying culture that provides a collective tribal identity — a sense of who “we” are, and where the boundaries of that group end — it makes no sense to make sacrifices for that group. These people are all essentially strangers to each other, and there’s no way to know if anyone would actually be willing to return any favors. The nationalistic pluralism of the early United States was a project started by men with similar religious beliefs (however ready they were to die over the details). Those men also shared a similar European cultural and racial heritage. They all looked alike, and while they came from different regions, each with its own quirks and sometimes even a different language, they were all the genetic and cultural heirs to a broader Western heritage that stretched back to the Classical period. American pluralism was initially a pluralism within limits, but those limits were either so poorly defined or relied so heavily on implied assumptions that membership was progressively opened to include anyone from anywhere, of any race, of any sex, who believes absolutely anything. At one point in Tribe, Junger mentions that Israel is the, “only modern country that retains a sufficient sense of community to mitigate the effects of combat on a mass scale.” He credits this with compulsory national military conscription, and quotes an expert as saying that the Israelis have a low rate of chronic PTSD because they are benefiting from a “shared public meaning” of the war, which gives them context for their experiences and a robust network of people who understand exactly what soldiers who have experienced combat are going through. While this may be true, the Israelis are not a pluralistic hodgepodge of people of different races with different religions and different cultures. Israel is an explicitly Jewish nation, run by and for the Jews. It’s worth noting that their Arab citizens are not conscripted. Jews in Israel are able to maintain “a sufficient sense of community to mitigate the effects of combat on a mass scale” because they are not just behaving tribally — they are actually a tribe. They are known as THE Tribe. They share a common culture and a common heritage and a powerful common narrative, which is why they have a country in the first place. If you want to emulate the success of the Jews in maintaining a sense of community, you have to be willing to admit that they have more going for them than some government policies. The Israelis have a collective ethnic identity, the like of which is being actively undermined by the governments of every nation in the European Union, and is completely taboo in the United States. Imagine the public outrage if the US did something as simple as making Muslims ineligible to register for the draft? Given how much time he’s spent in the Middle East, Junger should know that arbitrary borders aren’t enough to make people come together as a nation and share a singular tribal identity. Despite some neat lines drawn on a map for Westerners, Iraq and Afghanistan remain zones where tribal and religious identities continue to supercede any attempt to construct and impose a meaningful national identity. Borders do not make a people. People make borders. Francis Fukuyama observed in The Origins of Political Order that the natural human group is the small survival band, with kin-oriented or “patrimonial” loyalties. The tribal level of human social and political organization requires a unifying narrative, usually the acceptance of a common, often mythical ancestor who unifies the kin groups. The Jews have that kind of unifying ancestral narrative. People in Western nations haven’t “somehow lost” the kinds of ancestral narratives and common cultures that unite people and encourage them to look out for each other and stick together. Those cultures and narratives have been systematically undermined by the institutions of Western governments, in favor of a “multicultural” approach that better serves the interests of globally oriented corporations. Junger is right. Tribalism is the solution to the loneliness and alienation of modern societies — to “not feeling necessary.” Tribalism is the solution to unchecked greed, and it encourages people to be helpful and more generous to other people within the tribe. But what Junger is promoting isn’t tribalism. It’s some feel-good Hollywood humanitarianism that’s going to sound great on NPR. It’s not going to change anything. Until people get brave enough to start creating exclusive communities with segregated, clearly defined identities, Westerners will remain mere consumers, lost among strangers. They’ll feel no loyalty to each other, and they’ll keep screwing each other over to get a little more money to buy a little more stuff. Then, to satisfy the nagging part of them that isn’t “dead inside,” they’ll indulge in a little cheap, fashionable humanitarianism and convince themselves they are saving the world. Readers can find my 2010 review of Junger’s excellent book War, here. My review of Fukuyama’s Origins of Political Order can be found at Counter-Currents, here. “Outlaw Wolf Fire” by Horseskull is available at Bandcamp https://horseskull.bandcamp.com/album/horseskull Subscribe to START THE WORLD on iTunes here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/start-world-jack-donovan-podcast/id844102780 START THE WORLD is also available on Stitcher: http://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=75247&refid=stpr
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