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Connecting you with people and resources to remind you that you aren't alone. An invitation to withness. . .

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Connecting you with people and resources to remind you that you aren't alone. An invitation to withness. . .

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Oozing With Rich Encouragement and Valuable Content

By natdawnhanson - Sep 13 2019
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Heather is one of us. A mom, a sinner, doing her best to love her kiddos and family, knowing full well she needs Christ to do it. I LOVE that! She is consistently delivering valuable content and resources through her amazing line-up of guests and always offering love, support, and encouragement. I highly recommend listening to Don’t Mom Alone.

A must listen!

By woodlandsmama - Sep 11 2019
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Heather’s podcast is such a great resource for parents (my husband listens too!) and your interviews are always timely and worth a listen. I am so grateful you raise the hard issues and encourage us to arm and equip our kids against things like pornography and develop meaningful conversations. Keep it up!

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1478 Ratings
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Oozing With Rich Encouragement and Valuable Content

By natdawnhanson - Sep 13 2019
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Heather is one of us. A mom, a sinner, doing her best to love her kiddos and family, knowing full well she needs Christ to do it. I LOVE that! She is consistently delivering valuable content and resources through her amazing line-up of guests and always offering love, support, and encouragement. I highly recommend listening to Don’t Mom Alone.

A must listen!

By woodlandsmama - Sep 11 2019
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Heather’s podcast is such a great resource for parents (my husband listens too!) and your interviews are always timely and worth a listen. I am so grateful you raise the hard issues and encourage us to arm and equip our kids against things like pornography and develop meaningful conversations. Keep it up!
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Rank #1: Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234]

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Whether you’ve been married for a short time or you’re nearing a milestone anniversary, a healthy marriage takes a lot of work. A marriage is made up of thousands of small moments and habits that over time result in God-honoring, joyful marriage or a self-centered, strained marriage.
Speaker and author Paul David Tripp joins me to lay the groundwork for how to cultivate healthy habits in our marriage and identify the ones that need to be uprooted. He shares what he’s learned in almost 50 years of marriage and how to look at our marriages in light of the gospel.
What's a biblical view of marriage? Well, it's a sinner married to a sinner in a fallen world. Are you encouraged yet? But with a faithful God. Now that means we can't just coast in our marriage because there are things inside of me and things inside of my wife that are potentially destructive to marriage because we're not perfect people yet. And we live in a fallen world that is a threat to our marriage.
Paul also calls us to take a new view of our spouse’s differences and see how God created us for unity, not uniformity.
There is no call anywhere in the Bible to uniformity. The call is for unity. Unity is only ever needed in the face of difference... We have to stop making those differences a matter of right and wrong, If it's not named as sin by God, then it's just a difference and God actually glories in those differences because those differences point to his grandeur as a creator.
I hope you are encouraged and equipped from this conversation to re-engage with your spouse with fresh faith for experiencing all that God has for you in your marriage.

What we chat about:

Marriages are made up of thousands and thousands of little moments
The kind of relationship we have built in those moments determines how we handle the big moments
We naturally structure our marriages around habits
How to identify good and bad habits in your marriage
Sin makes us self-focused and anti-social, but marriage is a covenant of community
Helping our spouse access what God wants for them instead of arguing or nagging them
We will always be working on our marriages. There is no place for coasting
Confession and forgiveness can change the direction in disagreements
Jesus did not just bare our guilt. He bore our shame
God made us for unity, not for uniformity
A look at why we are so vastly different from our spouse
Even when we are formed into the image of Jesus, we will still be different from our spouse
Tips for showing gratitude in your marriage and fostering joy
The fruits of the Spirit are key for a good marriage
If you are struggling in marriage, engage with community and your church family. Isolation is the enemy of a healthy marriage

Connect with Paul David Tripp:
    
Links Mentioned:

Gospel Parenting Paul David Tripp [Ep 176]
Opportunity vs. Disruption Paul David Tripp [Ep 212]
My Favorite Paul David Tripp Devotional: New Morning Mercies (Great gift for a spouse)
Sinners Married to Sinners Cheryl Scruggs and Jae Carpenter Ep 195
I Do Again-- Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs

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Every marriage is guided by a set of habits. The question is: Are they healthy habits that result in a God-honoring and joyful marriage, or are they bad habits that lead to a self-centered and strained marriage? In this new 4-lesson seminar, pastor, marriage counselor, and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp will detail the necessary habits required for a healthy marriage while identifying the bad habits that need to be uprooted.

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Feb 11 2019
53 mins
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Rank #2: Opportunity vs. Disruption :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 212]

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In the thick of parenting it is easy to get our perspective skewed or react to our children from a place of emotion or our own sin. My guest Dr. Paul David Tripp gives a course-correcting pep talk reminding parents of their deep calling from God and how to look at discipline as an opportunity to connect our kids with God’s goodness.
“You're never just dealing with behavior. You're always dealing with what controls the child's behavior and that's his heart. And if God consciousness doesn't rule my heart, self orientation will. That's what has to change. No I can't create that change, but I can I can give God's Spirit an opportunity again and again to work in the heart of my child”

Tripp  is a pastor, international event speaker, and best-selling author. As a father of four grown children, he shares candidly from his own experience. This encouraging episode is packed with a lot of truth! Share with your spouse and friends!
What we chat about:

The deeper calling of on our lives as parents
We cannot rely on our kids to give us hope for parenting them.
How opening our children’s eyes to see God everywhere pulls them away from a self centered existence.
God created the world so that it’s very physical nature reveals him.
Root the rules that you have for your children in God's goodness and his love and His grace.
Every opportunity we have to discipline or correct is not an opportunity first to threaten  with punishment but to talk about how good God is.
Ask the question, “What is God wanting to do in the heart of this child?”
Behavior is really about a child’s heart orientation
God way of parenting isn’t efficient, but it is transformational  .
The values of the world push against our calling as parents. We have to consider where we are placing our treasure and hope.
A God perspective for how to respond when your children sin
God is exposing something in my child so I can be part of his help and rescue.
Parenting is about planting seeds. We aren’t going to see them bloom overnight.
Dealing with rebellion and authority issues with grace and consequences
Parenting adopted children and helping them with identity

Connect with Paul David Tripp:
 
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This conference has on-demand streaming access until November 30. With a Streaming License, you, your friends, or your entire church will be encouraged by biblical and practical wisdom. Your Streaming License will also include a free study guide, loaded with questions for further discussion.

Transcript of conversation: Download Here
Links Mentioned:

Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family**
New Morning Mercies**
Gospel Parenting Episode with Paul David Tripp from 2017

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Aug 13 2018
1 hour 6 mins
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Rank #3: The Enneagram & Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [Ep 232]

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You’ve definitely heard about it. You’ve probably talked about it with girlfriends or you’ve read books or articles discussing the nine types, but what is the Enneagram all about and what does it mean for your motherhood?

Suzanne Stabile joins us to share her motherhood story and a lot of information about the Enneagram, an ancient typology system that is finding new popularity as a tool that can transform the way you interact with others and understand yourself.
The Enneagram is about how you see and you can never change how you see. All you can do is change what you do with how you see. And I think we expect other women to be more like us than they are. And I think we struggle to accommodate difference because when we're tired, insecure, amd over-committed, then we settle for sameness. But, there needs to be recognition that there's not one right way to do things. There's not one method to follow. There's not one way of being a mom.
Suzanne is an internationally acknowledged Enneagram master. She has authored acclaimed books on the topic and has her own podcast that goes in-depth on the different types. But, as a believer and a mom of four adult children, she brings wisdom and perspective to parenting in light of the Enneagram.
Parenting is really, really tricky. I don't think we ever know what the loudest voice in (our kids’) day is. Often it's not ours. And I think grace is covering all of us and it falls on all of us equally. There are moments when we just need to stand under that grace and with an open heart and pure intentions and do the best we know how to do for ourselves and for one another.
We can’t possibly answer all of your Enneagram questions, but I hope this episode excites you for how this tool can bring unity and grace to relationships with your kids, with other moms and with your spouse. If you want to go deeper in learning about the Enneagram, Suzanne has you covered with her trainings and online resources available at her website.

What we chat about:

Suzanne’s family background and experience with divorce and living as a single parent of three. How she met her current husband of 31 years and her parenting journey.
Enneagram types as they relate to mothering
Type 3, 7 and 8 are aggressive numbers on the Enneagram. They think/do dominant and their challenge is to bring up feelings.
How to use the Enneagram to unite moms and not increase divides
The Enneagram is about how we see. We cannot change how we see, only what we do with what we see.
Types 4, 5 and 9 are withdrawing numbers
Types 1, 2 and 6 are dependent numbers
Discussion of the nine types and how they act/react
Your Enneagram number is determined by motivation and not by behavior
It’s not a good idea to try and type your children on the Enneagram or to tell them what you think they are.
Thinking of the Types as Animals: Ones are Worker Bees. Twos are Kangaroos. Threes are Eagles. Fours are Butterflies, Fives are Owls, Sixes are Bunny Rabbits. Sevens are Monkeys, Eights are Lions and Nines are Turtles.
The three stances: aggressive, dependent and withdrawing. The triads: feeling, thinking and doing.
Knowing more about the Enneagram won’t keep us from making mistakes
Grace covers the places we fall short

Connect with Suzanne:
    
Links Mentioned:

The Enneagram Journey Podcast https://www.theenneagramjourney.org/
Road Back to You [Book] get $14 off with the code: dma (expires Feb 28,2019)
The Path Between Us [Book] **
Courses and Products from Suzanne: https://www.lifeinthetrinityministry.com/store/
Know Your Number mp3 75% off with the code: DONTMOMALONE (expires Feb 28, 2019)
Episode with Jenn Jett: https://dontmomalone.com/2018/02/12/how-god-personally-pursues-redeems-jenn-jett-ep-193/
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth** by Christopher Heuertz

How Each Enneagram Type Reflects God's Character :
Jan 28 2019
1 hour
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Rank #4: Setting Healthy Boundaries with Family :: Dr. John Townsend [Ep. 250]

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As moms, we are like a life support system for our kids. To keep our families healthy, we need to be healthy. A key part of our overall well being is setting healthy boundaries.

But boundaries are hard. They require uncomfortable, direct conversations. We may need to put a limit on really good things or draw a line in the sand with our in-laws or parents.

My guest, Dr. John Townsend literally wrote the book on boundaries and he shares some deep wisdom on how to set healthy boundaries while honoring our family members and others.

You've got to take care of your energy, your heart and your emotions. You've got to take care of yourself and your health. If you don't guard that heart, then the wellsprings of life won't come out from it. Boundaries are basically about how to set healthy, loving limits in our life. So we have something to offer to our children.

Townsend answers your tough questions about set limits with in-laws, making healthy boundaries for the holidays and even models having a tough conversation with a parent about a boundary.

This is an episode packed with great information and Townsend has several books and resources available if you want to go deeper. Let’s make setting healthy boundaries a priority and guard our hearts and our time to bring life to our family!

What we chat about:

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23Setting boundaries is guarding our wellspring of life so we can love our kidsHis book, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeIs setting boundaries biblical? YES!The difference between hurting and harming someone when it comes to setting boundariesHonoring vs obeying your parents as an adultWhat it looks like to have a boundary setting conversationConveying love in hard conversations and not getting hijacked with emotions or blameGiving three chances when you set new boundaries and how to have consequences when they aren’t respectedTurning to spiritual family when biological family isn’t what your kids needKeeping the lines of communication open with grandparents and communicating boundaries in love Looking for mild, moderate and severe reactions to suggestions and boundary settingSuggestions for setting healthy boundaries for the holidaysThe idea of people fuel and relational nutrients that help us fuel up

Connect with Dr. John Townsend:

Website: https://drtownsend.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/DrTownsendsPageInstagram: www.instagram.com/townsendnow

Links Mentioned:

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your LifeRelational Nutrients: http://relationalnutrients.comPeople Fuel: Fill Your Tank for Life, Love and Leadership Pre-order now

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It doesn’t matter how much we want to pray more, making it actually happen is hard because it’s noisy out there. Even behind closed doors of our prayer closet, our mind can still keep us distracted. Maybe these are your goals for your prayer life too:

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Jun 03 2019
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Rank #5: Preparing Now for Future Puberty & Masturbation Questions :: Megan Michelson & Mary Flo Ridley [Ep 243]

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Depending on your personal background with puberty, sex and the often avoided topic of masturbation, having open conversations with your kids on these topics may feel daunting.

You may want to avoid it or get “the talk” over and done with as quickly as possible. Or maybe your kids are really young and you don’t want to think about it right now. My guests Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson walk us through why starting early talking with our kids about body awareness and establishing our family story about sex is so important.

What we're trying to get rid of is this idea that this is a one-time conversation in parenting. The world that we are raising our kids in has changed so drastically that the way we as parents talk about sex has to change drastically as well. We can have multiple age appropriate conversations and a little-by-little approach where we establish a conversation pattern where we are the loving authority in our child's life on this topic.

They have great book recommendations and advice on talking with your pediatrician so you know when puberty is imminent for each child. We cover ways to pursue conversations with your kids and how to talk to them calmly without overreacting.

Finally, we dive into the deeper waters of talking to your older children about masturbation, dealing with our emotional baggage when it comes to sex and how to strike the difficult balance of teaching what is normal and beneficial.

We're hearing from a lot of youth ministers and pastors that work with college kids that this is an epidemic of a great addiction. So there needs to be more of a warning of how this is normal, but not beneficial. That why it's such a difficult topic. You can say, yes, honey, this is absolutely normal. You're learning about your body and how it works, but it can become a habit of comfort. And if this is where you go when you're upset or when you're angry, if this is how you comfort yourself, then this is not beneficial to you in your future.

What we chat about :

Introducing Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from birds-bees.comWhy we need to have consistent, intentional talks with our kids when they are young to lay the foundation for them to learn about sex and their bodies from us as parentsStarting with our young kids will make the conversations leading up and into puberty less awkwardGiving your child space to read an age-appropriate book on puberty and changes and chatting with them about itBooks and resources the Mary and Megan recommend so you can have a game plan to stay ahead of where your kids is developmentallyTalking with your pediatrician about puberty and where your child is in the processPursuing these conversations even if your child wants to avoid themUsing a matter-of-fact, calm tone when we talk about touching their bodies and not overreacting Addressing masturbation. Normalize the behavior, but talk about how it isn’t beneficial for it to be a habit or a comfort measureThese hard topics of puberty aren’t just one-time conversations, we want to keep an open dialogue and focus on relationship over rulesMasturbation can train you in selfish and false intimacy which will affect your future relationshipsBringing these topics to the light takes away the guilt and shame

Previous Episodes with Birds and Bees:

Birds and Bees? Oh, help me please :: Mary Flo Ridley {GCM Ep 25}When to Have “The Talk” :: Mary Flo Ridley {Encore}Birds and Bees (Continuing the Conversation) :: Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson [Ep 153]

Connect with Birds and Bees:

Website: https://birds-bees.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeshelpplease/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/birds__bees/

Links Mentioned:

Birds and Bees Shop: https://birds-bees.com/ BOOK: The Care and Keeping of You: The Body Book for Younger Girls BOOK: The Boys Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing Up YOU!BOOK: God's Design for Sex Series**BOOK: Wild Things: The Art of Nurtur...

Apr 15 2019
58 mins
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Rank #6: Gay Girl, Good God :: Jackie Hill Perry [Ep 214]

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It’s an uncomfortable and often controversial subject, especially in the church, but homosexuality and same sex attraction is something we all need to understand from a Biblical perspective. This week’s guest Jackie Hill Perry shares how the power of the gospel in her life rescued her from the sin she was living in as a woman with same sex attractions.
She not only brings us into her amazing story, but absolutely preaches the word of God and brings a lot of clarity to what can feel like a gray area for many Christians.
My conscience would not allow me to shake the truth that Jesus died for sin and that he is not pleased with sin at all. So I tried my best to shake him and I couldn't…And I felt God speak to my heart and say that my girlfriend or my sin would be the death of me. That the wages of sin equals death. Because I saw it wasn't my girlfriend or my lesbianism alone. It was that my entire life would be the death of me.
Jackie shares stories and insights from her new book Gay Girl, Good God. She also answers listener questions about how to share God’s love with LGBTQ friends and family by treating them as a whole person and keeping the gospel centered on God’s truth and not culture’s.
What we chat about:

Jackie’s background, home life and beginnings of same sex attraction.
Her belief that same sex attraction is choosing sin.
How sexual sin is a specifically addicting sin.
God does not rank sins. Homosexuality is not better or worse than any other sin.
Insight into black lesbian culture and false masculinity.
How God pursued Jackie through people and circumstances and reminded her of who he made her to be.
Jackie’s experience wrestling with the truth that the wages of sin is death.
The power of a very close discipleship relationship when you are needing breakthrough from sin or trauma.
The process of learning to have healthy same sex friendships.
Dealing with temptations and how Jesus empathizes with us and gives us power to overcome sin.
How to love LGBTQ people and pray for them, but not condone the sin.
Evangelism needs to be God-centered and not centered on a person’s sexuality.
Dialoguing about same sex attraction using the Bible as the explicit answer for all questions regarding it.
Jackie’s response to gay marriage and why we are called to love God more than we love people who are living in sin.

Connect with Jackie Hill Perry:
 
Links Mentioned:

Gay Girl, Good God**
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Parenting -- Streaming Event 2018

Parenting is hard work, but what could be more important in your life than being one of God's tools to form a human soul? In his brand-new streaming event, pastor and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp will share four principles that can radically change the way you raise your children.
This conference has on-demand streaming access until November 30. With a Streaming License, you, your friends, or your entire church will be encouraged by biblical and practi...
Aug 27 2018
1 hour 2 mins
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Rank #7: How to be Calm and Kind Under Pressure :: Candace Cameron Bure [Ep 223]

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Candace Cameron Bure is an actress, producer, New York Times bestselling author, beloved by millions worldwide from her role as D.J. Tanner on the iconic family sitcoms Full House and Fuller House and of course Hallmark Channel movies. (Christmas is coming and she has a new one coming out Nov. 25)
But, she’s also a mom of three children ages 16 to 20 and an outspoken Christian in the entertainment industry. She shares what it was like to grow up working in entertainment and the values her parents passed on to her. And about how she walks out her faith now as a busy working actress, a career she returned to after choosing to be a stay-at-home mom for 10 years.
Now sometimes I literally have to roll out of my bed and onto my knees every morning and start my day. I don't feel connected if I don't do that. But throughout my day I'm constantly having conversations with God. It might just be under my breath asking Jesus to help me because I want to snap at that person right now or I'm going to lose it with my son who just talked back to me. It's a constant dialogue and I trust that he hears me.
We talk about her new children’s book “Candace Center Stage” and how it focuses on the values of hard work and courage, especially for our strong-willed children.
It’s very reflective of my own life growing up and the lessons that I've really tried to instill in my own children. Like don't be afraid to fail just because you'll never know what you're capable of unless you try. And don't be afraid to work hard at it. If you quit too early you may not realize how good you can be and if you're not, that’s OK. You can pick something else, but you’ve got to try.
As she takes us into her world, she talks through how she stays calm and kind under pressure and lives for Jesus as she juggles the roles and the callings God has put on her life.
I want to be that influencer for positivity and kindness and showing my love for Jesus. And I would love for people to know Jesus because of me because I've shared a good word.
What we chat about:

Candace’s strong foundation from her own parents
Fostering a good work ethic in your kids without pressuring to perform for your love and approval
Candace’s family and what her older children are up to
How she and her husband share the responsibilities of raising their children
Maintaining balance with changing priorities and calls on your time
Learning to say “No” without feeling bad about it
It’s really more about juggling priorities and trusting that God partners with us as we make decisions
Candace’s walk with the Lord and how she lives out her faith in San Francisco
Praying throughout the day and how Candace talks with God through all she does
How to work with people who have anti-Christian sentiments and responding with kindness
What it was like growing up in the entertainment industry
Her new children’s book Candace Center Stage and the background on why she wrote it
Preparing for the teenage years now and looking forward to them

Connect with Candace:
    
Links Mentioned:

Candace Center Stage**
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Idols of the Heart with Elyse Fitzpatrick
Oct 29 2018
46 mins
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Rank #8: Thriving as an Introverted Mom :: Erin Morgan [Ep 245]

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I’m so excited to share my dear friend Erin Morgan with you in this episode! We go way back in friendship and in motherhood.
She is the introvert to my extrovert and in this chat we’re diving into how to thrive as an introverted mom. When she and I had younger kids, the constant togetherness of parenting was very draining for her.
I was just completely overwhelmed, which causes me to withdraw and isolate big time. I just had no energy for other people. I wanted to pursue my friends and my relationships with other people, but there was just no margin for that in my mind.
We talk about how she learned more about herself as she learned about the gift that introversion can be. As she asked God where she should invest her life, he encouraged her that focusing on motherhood and a few deep friendships was his best for her.
I had to get with the Lord and be reminded that what I'm doing in this season of life with my children and my family is a true ministry and is where God has me. And I really felt like he was impressing on me this kind of motto for my life, which is that a small and faithful life is pleasing to the Lord.
I’m so thankful for Erin and her introvert “super powers” of listening and passionate, faithful prayers. She is a thoughtful friend who has a lot of wisdom and encouragement for other introverted moms out there. Extroverts can learn a lot about their introverted friends by hearing what she shares too!
What we chat about:
Some background on Erin’s and my friendshipHow Erin introduced me to Kat Lee of Hello MorningsWhat Erin learned about being an introvert after she started having kidsThe validation she feels knowing who God made her to beWhere introverts fit into the modern Evangelical churchHearing God for what you are called to and not focusing on what others are doing“A heart at peace gives life to the body” Proverbs 14:30 Introverts can isolate themselves too much and miss out on investing deeply in friendshipBeing present in someone’s life to listen to and empathize with them is a super powerIntroverts and extroverts process information differently and a different speedsGod’s design for the different types of personalities is good
Links Mentioned:
BOOK: Introverts in the Church** Podcast Episodes with Francie WinslowFamily Camp Erin and I attend: Pine Cove Family Camp
**Amazon Affiliate link. A portion of your purchase supports the production of this podcast.
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Apr 29 2019
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Rank #9: Must Have Conversations :: Vicki Courtney [Ep 239]

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Our kids are growing up in a culture that is less friendly to the Christian faith than ever before. As moms we have a choice to parent from fear or to bravely engage with our kids and make time and space to have hard conversations.

My guest Vicki Courtney walks us through why it’s worth it to help our kids wrestle with their questions about faith, culture and learning to trust God. She shares about her experience raising three kids of her own as a newer believer and the power of parenting with humility and love.

We are going to have to learn as parents to have conversations in such a way that we teach our children to walk in truth, but we need to lead with love. In past generations as parents, we could teach our children, 'Well, here's the truth. And the Bible says this, so you need to live this way.' And a lot of times we forgot about the love part.

While we may tend to look at culture and our children’s generation and feel hopeless, Vicki reminds us that Jesus is the hope the world is looking for and keeping an open, loving line of communication with our kids can make all the difference in how they own their faith.

Now nothing is different about this generation in the sense that they are chasing after something to feel the void. We all have that void, right? We all have chased after things along the way and that nothing will fill that void other than the love of Christ and his Gospel. And so for our children, they are going to feel an awareness of that void sooner. But the hope is we have the answer and the hope is I feel like we are ripe for massive revival out there.

For more on the Must Have Conversations to have with your kids, check out Vicki’s books.

What we chat about:

How Vicki came to know Jesus and God's direction to her ministry Her books 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your SonThe culture our kids are growing up in isn’t friendly to the Christian faithAs we have conversations with them about God’s truth, we need to lead with loveMaking room for these important conversations by giving your family margin Avoiding triggers that make you as mom feel like you aren’t doing enoughIt’s ok if your kid doesn’t do all the activities like sports and musicIf it’s God’s plan for your child to be gifted in an area, it will happen for them regardless of our actionsLetting our kids have room to fail and learn from failureParenting from an place of humility and not shaming or finger waggingStaying open to our kids and helping them feel comfortable sharing anything with youThe different mentalities of the prodigal son and the older brother from the parable of the Prodigal Son in the Bible and how both see God’s grace from the wrong perspectiveViewing God’s grace rightly and understanding the fear of God helps us lead with loveHow to help your kids wrestle with the idea of “hipster Jesus” and losing the idea that God should be feared/awed

Connect with Vicki:

Website https://vickicourtney.comFacebook https://www.facebook.com/vjcourtneyInstagram https://www.instagram.com/vickicourtney  Twitter https://twitter.com/vicki_courtney

Links Mentioned:

BOOKS: 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your SonEpisodes with Mary Flo Ridley covering when to talk to your kids about sex BOOK: The Prodigal God: Recovering the Heart of the Christian Faith by Timothy Keller Revolutionary Parentingby George Barna

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Mar 18 2019
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Rank #10: Women Can Be All-In for Jesus :: Kat Armstrong [Ep 253]

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Kat Armstrong, the guest from one of my most popular episodes is back on the podcast to share the message of her new book, No More Holding Back. The first question we talk about is, “Can a woman learn too much about Jesus?” A light topic, right?

The greatest commandment says we have to love God with our heart, soul, mind and strength — all of it. And it's the priority. It's the priority over anyone's role in our home. We have to be all-in for Jesus. We can't let our fears, our insecurities, our roles, our titles, or anything to do with our spouses impede our progress to learn about Jesus.

Kat shares powerfully about our role as an image bearer of God, the importance of elevating women’s voices in our communities of faith and living completely into the assignments God gives us.

We also talk about giving what we have to offer even if feels imperfect or broken in the same way that the widow in Mark 12 gave out of her need.

If you have a broken heart, it counts. I have a broken heart right now about my dad. I still want to love God with it all and I don't have to have it all together or healed yet to apply it to the Great Commission. And if you have a weary soul and you're questioning your faith, you can give that to God and he counts it as worthy. If you have a confused mind. If you're struggling with anxiety, depression, decision making, and things don't make sense in your world, you can give that to God.

What we chat about:

Kat walking through the grief of losing her dad and how her family dynamic has changedThe refining process of book writing and about her new book, No More Holding Back.The false idea that a woman can learn too much about JesusMen and women are not in competition when it comes to serving GodLiving completely into our calling or our assignment and what God's given us to doFully embracing the way God made us and how we can purposely live into our callingsWomen can be strong and submissive at the same time because Jesus was tooThe story of the widow’s mite in Mark 12 reminds us that what we have to offer Jesus is enough even if it’s a broken heartJesus runs his economy on love. When we give, even out of our need, it’s more than enough through JesusBarriers Christian women face and how to deal with competing assignmentsInviting family and friends to be on your team when God assigns you something new and hearing God for the timing of an assignmentAsk: Who are my neighbors? Am I loving them well? How can I be equipped to love them better?

Connect with Kat:

Website: https://www.katarmstrong.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/katarmstrongauthorTwitter: @katarmstrong1Polished Ministries: https://www.polishedonline.org

Links Mentioned:

Previous episode with Kat Armstrong: Motherhood, Career, and Identity [Ep 171] BOOK: No More Holding Back by Kat Armstrong**

BOOK: Wonder Women: Navigating the Challenges of Motherhood, Career, and Identity by Kate HarrisBOOK: Are Women Human? By Dorothy Sayers

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Jun 24 2019
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Rank #11: Idols of Motherhood :: Elyse Fitzpatrick [Ep 219]

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We’ve all been there. Your kid throws a fit in public and you feel the sting of embarrassment and the subtle lie that you aren’t a good enough mom. You fear what others will say and feel like the entire day is ruined in this one encounter.

My guest Elyse Fitzpatrick has lived in this place of fear and presents another way to view your worth as a mother -- resting in the righteousness of Jesus. She shares about the very common and subversive idols of motherhood to slip in when we try to control our children’s performance.
But see that's absolutely soul destroying because you either end up in fear and despair or pride and despair. That's where you always end up when you're living for your own righteousness. So in the days that I can lay down and in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah nailed it,’ then I am in pride.
If you’ve struggled to feel “OK” in your own power or have found your personal joy tethered to your kids’ behavior, this episode is for you. Elyse gives us the simple reminder that we have the power through Jesus to topple the idols in our life.
I began to understand this is really idolatry and I'm driving my kids insane trying to prove that I'm really an OK person. That I'm OK when they're good and I'm a complete train wreck and bad and a loser when they're not. But, when Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, then idols lose their power to entice us.
What we chat about:

Elyse’s blended family structure and her son’s adoption
The balance of the disciplinarian and the more fun parent
Insecurity about our own faith and the lie of trying to control our kids
The danger of looking for identity in the way our kids behave
Looking for the places in our lives where we feel afraid, angry or worried as a barometer for where we aren’t believing God
Identifying idols in our lives and what they can look like
How our children make us look or feel in front of others can bring up anger in us
Elyse’s relationship with her mother and the background of her perceived need for control
When Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, our idols lose their power
Not letting our joy be tethered to our kids’ behavior, or even our behavior
Our self-centered struggle to feel “OK” in our own power
How living for our own self righteousness leads to a soul destroying cycle of pride and despair
Resting in the righteousness of Christ and remembering we are forgiven

Connect with Elyse:
 
Links Mentioned:

Front Porch with the Fitzes Podcast
Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick **
The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers**
No Other Gods Bible Study Book by Kelly Minter**

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Idols of the Heart with Elyse Fitzpatrick
Do you feel trapped under the weight of your own sin? Are you dismayed or surprised by the situations that bring out your fear, anger, or distress? In this year's Vertical Women Conference, trusted Bible teacher and counselor Elyse Fitzpatrick delves into the heart of the problem: deep down, we're all putting our loves, desires, and expectations in God's place — and we continue to suffer the consequences of our mispl...
Oct 01 2018
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Rank #12: Cultivating Friendships in a World of Isolation :: Sally Clarkson [Ep 233]

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Even though it seems like you are never alone, motherhood can feel like a place of deep isolation. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. My guest Sally Clarkson shares her insight on how she learned to invite others into friendship and into her home to build a community of girlfriends in the midst of multiple moves and parenting four kids.
I think finding really true, deep, godly friendships is hard. But I think that the more I realized that other women felt like I did, they felt insecure. They felt like they were failing. Sometimes they felt like they were isolated. And I realized that if I was ever going to have friends, I was going to have to reach out because it's rare that somebody comes to me and says, I want to be your friend.
Whether you have recently moved to a new community or simply want to connect with more women in your own hometown, Sally shares so much practical wisdom and encouragement to be brave and invite others into your life so you won’t mom alone. Loved what she shared in how extroverts vs. introverts cultivate friendships. 
We've got to fight for it because I feel like the home is disappearing. Relationships are disappearing. One-on-one is disappearing. And I feel like if God really wants us to show his love to the world, we've got to keep going and trying to find a way to love women and to care for them just to keep our own souls alive. 
What we chat about:

Sally’s story of coming to faith and inviting other women into friendship
What she’s learned along the way about cultivating friendship
How to keep going when no one you invite shows up
Hospitable = taking care or considering the someone else’s needs
We hope friendships will just happen, but we have to create ways for inviting people over
Extroverts might choose to invite groups of women over and introverts can start with one or two
Look for women who call you to your best self
Fostering mentor relationships with women
Don’t worry about having lots of playdates for your elementary-aged kids. Invest in friendship with your kids as a foundation.
Making friends is a messy process and it doesn’t always mesh
Jesus wanted us to go out into the world and love people
Building a foundation with whoever you want to relate to with unconditional love and speaking words of affirmation in their lives
You will have a legacy of relationships if you continue to cultivate life in such a way that relationships can be formed
Managing disagreements between your kids to keep the lines of friendship open between them

Connect with Sally:
    
Links Mentioned:

Don't Mom Alone Podcast Clubs
Loving Your Different Child -Sally Clarkson [Ep 149] 
Girls' Club: Cultivating Lasting Friendship in a Lonely World [BOOK]
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Feb 04 2019
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Rank #13: Become Fully Alive–Mind, Body, & Spirit :: Susie Larson [Ep 218]

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It's all too easy slip into believing lies over God’s truth. My guest today shares that healing is possible and opens up about her personal healing journey from both physical and emotional abuse and chronic illness.

An author, radio host, and national speaker, Susie Larson, talks about how intertwined our emotional, spiritual, and physical health are. We talk through stories that are in her new book, "Fully Alive", and she shares about some powerful experiences she’s had with the Lord.
“The Lord whispered through the chaos in my bathroom. The storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need. The enemy's railing and saying I'm going to get you. I've got you by the throat and I felt like my throat was starting I could swallow and my esophagus was spasming. It's just horrifying to hear the whisper again. Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth who need.”

There’s so much hope and truth in this episode for all of us who are believing for healing this side of heaven. For more inspiration from Susie, I highly recommend her book, "Fully Alive"**, which is available for pre-order right now.
What we chat about:

Susie’s experiences with abuse both physical and emotional
How our bodies hold onto trauma and hindrances to the healing process
Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need
The idea of blessing guilt and surrendering to God for healing
The lie of learned helplessness and the truth that we’re not helpless with Jesus
Rejecting the lies of the enemy and addressing unbeliefs in our soul
Confronting the scar tissue of our past and the life that’s on the other side of it
God absolutely heals and it isn’t specifically a lack of faith that keeps us from receiving healing
Jesus entered in to other’s pain and suffering, that’s our calling too
The dangers of over medication and distraction that can keep us from being healed
The integral role of rest in the healing process

Links Mentioned:

The Uncommon Woman
Fully Alive: Learning to Flourish--Mind, Body, & Spirit**
Your Powerful Prayers**

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Sep 24 2018
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Rank #14: Help to Read Truth Every Day :: Raechel Myers [Ep 211]

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In a time when biblical truth is often narrowed down to a greeting card slogan or a small subset of feel-good encouragements, the She Reads Truth community takes a different approach. The bible studies and reading plans from She Reads Truth take a deep dive into scripture with the goal to understand the big picture of who God is throughout history and our need for his grace.
SRT co-founder and CEO Raechel Myers shares the community’s origin and her personal story of encountering God’s goodness amidst the loss of her daughter. Jump in to hear Raechel share her heart for studying scripture and relying on the Holy Spirit in the difficult places of parenting.
I can base my understanding of God on the 36 years that I’ve experienced with him, but that is a mistake. God’s story is so far back before I ever existed. And so one of the important reasons that we read the Bible is to understand the broader story of who God is and how I fit into his story, not how he fits into mine.
What we chat about:

Raechel’s writing background and the purpose behind her first blog
How God trained and equipped Raechel through various experiences before She Reads Truth began
The origin of the She Reads Truth community
Taking God’s word for what it is and not relying too heavily on devotionals or feel-good scriptures alone
She Reads Truth has options for everything from free reading plans to beautiful, bound books
A new children’s story book they’ve produced called This Is the Gospel
Addressing faith and trusting that God is who he says he is with your older kids
Why scripture plays such a key role in our understanding of who God is beyond our own experience with him
The importance of modeling Christian life for our children’s spiritual formation

Connect with She Reads Truth:
 
Links Mentioned:

He Reads Truth 
Kids Read Truth
Judges study - http://shereadstruth.com/plan/judges/
New Kids Book - This Is the Gospel
Romans study
Matthew study
Mourning and Dancing
The Color Method with Lacey Dobrient  (Ep 63) 
Focused15 with Katie Orr (Ep 101)
The Evans Family Discuss Loss & Faith

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Aug 06 2018
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Rank #15: Discipline 101 (LIVE Event–Friday Night) :: Jim & Lynne Jackson [Ep 221]

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For the first part of our 2018 Don’t Mom Alone live event, Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, joined me & my husband Bruce to answer listener questions about discipline and how to use their framework for biblically-based parenting.
We share lots of stories of how we have failed as parents and learned along the way.
But then I started to realize maybe my humility was my greatest currency for influence to help her learn the lessons and the values and the things that mattered most… Our kids need to know we're not perfect. They need to know that we'll come back to them and say, ‘Hey I blew it. I'm sorry. Would you forgive me?’ And get back to reconciliation in those relationships. -- Jim Jackson.
So good!

Jim and Lynne talk us through the parenting framework they’ve developed and redefining how we view discipline with our kids. Ultimately, it comes down to connecting with their hearts and leading them to Jesus instead of trying to control their behavior.
We can help kids embrace the wisdom of the righteous. And that really prepares the way for the Lord to come in our family in a strong way. Because in today's day and age with all the craziness that's going on, these kids need a form of discipline that's not just about punitive correction but that's about a whole way of life that teaches our kids how to be followers of Jesus. -- Lynne Jackson
And it’s not just vision for how we want to parent, the Jacksons also share some super practical tips and give us some ways to respond to our defiant, strong-willed or sensitive kids.
What we chat about:

The basis for Jim and Lynn’s parenting framework
How do you parent proactively instead of reactively when you feel like you're just surviving minute
What is our goal in parenting? Is it immediate obedience from our children or fostering their ability to make wise choices?
Bringing God’s grace into our messy moments
Why connecting with God is so essential to how we parent
Go into a situation asking, “Lord, what is the opportunity here?”
Helping our kids build wisdom instead of feeling the need to express our disappointment when they mess up
Trusting that our kids really want to do better
Separating behavior from identity in our kids
Humility and apologizing well may be our greatest currency as a parent
The idea of a parent do-over
Tips for parents of younger kids and encouragement for parenting kids who bite or hit
We tend to think of behavior as either all good or all bad
When our goal is to control their behavior, it doesn’t build trust
You don’t have to be mean to be strong as a parent
Big, loud, and loving energy can make a big difference in the middle of conflict
Luke 1:17- "And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.”
Strong-willed kids and the importance of calling out their giftings and how God made them
Sometimes it’s sensitive and intense children are labeled as strong-willed
Psalm 73:21-24 "When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory."

Connect with Jim & Lynne Jackson:
    
Links Mentioned:

Previous Episodes with Jim & Lynne -- Ep 80 , Ep 81, Ep 98, Ep 200, Bonus Sibling Conflict
Connected Families Blog Post -- It's Not Defiance, It's Science 
Connected Families Blog post- Danger, Obedience, and Teaching Kids Traffic Safety

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Oct 15 2018
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Rank #16: Summer Strategies :: Laura and Courtney [Ep 249]

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Whether your kids are school age or not, summer typically brings a big shift to our family routine and to our mindset. Joining me today to talk through strategies to thrive this summer are Laura Hernandez and Courtney Cleveland.  
We talk about systems, tips and plans for making the most of the time you have with your kids this summer. Laura even shares an acronym for how to plan with the word ENJOY. That’s right! We can absolutely enjoy the summer and these ladies have some great ideas to get you started.
It doesn't need to be a family bucket list and it doesn't need to be a hundred goals. It's just a simple focused looking at your summer and saying, what do I want it to feel like? What do I want it to look like for our family? And you will reap the benefits of it.
If you’re like me and want to figure out a way to involve your kids in household jobs without the whining and complaining or make a plan for using screen time effectively, we cover it all in this chat. We also talk about summer road tips and ways to stop entitlement behavior when it rears its ugly head.
There is so much life in slowing down and spending time with our kids in the summer. Whether you are on summer number 2 or summer number 14 (like me) with your oldest, I pray that you embrace the time you have and ENJOY your summer!
What we chat about:
Laura Hernandez, her family with nine children (and one on the way) and how she started you business called Mama SystemsCourtney Cleveland, her family with three children and her takeaways from implementing systems in her lifeENJOY the summer with a handy acronym from LauraEvaluate last summer-- what was stressful? What was life giving? What did your kids enjoy?Note things down. Set up your calendar with the needs first and write down your big priorities and dreams from your summer.Jot down your kids’ dreams for the summer. Who do they want to have come over? What activities do they want to do?Order. Choose and order for your days, your weeks and your summer. You. Make a priority to take care of yourself so you can care for your people.Delegating household jobs to your kids-- how and why it’s importantTaking time to intentional plan your summer and prioritize blessing others vs just doing fun things and making it all about your kidsAlarms and ticket systems to help your kids stay on task with various jobs and managing screen timeRoad trip tips from Courtney and her podcast All the Best DaysEnjoying your summer with your kids and feeling free to take the ideas that work for you that may not be what works for others
Connect with Laura Hernandez:
Website: https://www.mamasystems.netFacebook: www.facebook.com/mamasystems.netInstagram: www.instagram.com/mamasystems
Connect with Courtney Cleveland:
Website: www.allthebestdays.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/courtclarkcleve
Past Summer Help Episodes:
Summer (and Sibling) Survival Guide with Kirk Martin [Ep 77]When Someone Makes Your Summer Awesome
Links Mentioned:
Mama Systems: www.mamasystems.net All the Best Days PodcastWalker Goods Duffel Bags "Just 18 Summers" **-- A novel by Michelle Cox and Rene Gutteridge A review post by my friend Amanda White: Just 18 Summers. Jess Connolly's Summer to ThriveMaster Your Motherhood Summer School Series
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May 27 2019
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Rank #17: Bonus Mentor Episode–Resolving Sibling Conflict :: Jim & Lynne Jackson

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Live Event Details in this Episode--Don't miss the intro & middle  (31:20) for details about the upcoming "Don't Mom Alone" Live Event!!
"They just keep fighting!"
Summer, for us, means lots of unstructured time together as a family. Which is great. . . until it's not.
Perhaps you can identify. Maybe you see yourself in one of the following situations:

Situation #1 - The kids are fighting - again! The harder you try to make it stop, the worse it seems to get - and the kids seem more and more resentful.

Situation #2 - One minute they love each other and the next minute they’re arch enemies. The older they get the louder and angrier it gets. You hate the way this affects everyone’s mood, including your own.

Situation #3 - Time-outs, required apologies, and firmness temporarily curb the fighting, but it soon comes back with more intensity.

Situation #4 - Your young kids are beginning their rivalry and you worry where it’s heading if you don’t learn some better strategies.  (copied from Sibling Conflict Online Course description).
Jim & Lynne Jackson from ConnectedFamilies.org are back to equip us in training our children to solve conflict well. And instead of just wishing they would "just stop fighting", to recognize the gospel work of guiding our family to reconciliation.

Jim & Lynne have been on the show before sharing their fabulous 4-layer framework for discipline that connects (Listen here to Episode 80 & 81). And again helping connect in any situation (Ep 98). And recently helping us work with our kids on all of our entitlement issues (Ep 200)

Today, they are talking us through The Peace Process. A simple but effective way to guide our kids to a lifetime of reconciled relationships. Here's their great graphic with the four steps moving us from "crazy mountain" to peaceful reconciliation (Click here to print your own copy):

Conflict is inevitable. Instead of just getting frustrated and annoyed, I've found having a plan to reconnect hearts and train empathy so helpful. I also loved all the phrases Jim & Lynne modeled to use as we guide our children through the process. Here are some of my favorites (I'll be bookmarking this page and referring to often):

"Sounds like y'all are having a hard time. Do you need my help or are you able to work it out on your own?" "Solving brains won't work until we're calm. Why don't we each find a comfortable place. How long do you need? 5 min? 10 min? Then we'll come back together to work this out." "Did you hear that? How does she feel? Do you like that what you did made her feel that way? You two are listening to each other. How does that feel?" "Your big feelings are a gift. And they are an even greater gift with you can use them to help understand other's big feelings." "What's going on? What was important to each person? How have you solved this problem before? Would you like to think of ways to solve the problem or do you want me to help give you choices on how to solve it?" "Are there four things you could say that are kind and true about that person?"

Lastly, if you need more help learning how to guide your kiddos through the peace process, check out Jim & Lynne's new SIBLING CONFLICT ONLINE COURSE. I'll be working through it this summer. Join me!  
What we chat about:

Considering your own baggage/sibling situation as you rush into your kids' conflict. Are we trying to get conflict to stop or teach reconciliation? The four steps to "The Peace Process".  A real life example of applying peace process. How training in reconciliation helps our kids in their future marriages and relationships. Helping our kids learn how to solve the problem of the conflict (a 3-step process). A scenario of a more empathetic child in conflict with a more strong-willed child--growing specific skills in kids. Addressing the differences in your kids outside of conflict.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/GodcenteredmomPodcast/~4/QGrHggzZeTw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 30 2018
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Rank #18: Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Five :: Lynn Hoffman

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Being a mom reveals your most broken places.
I often think motherhood would be easy if my boys behaved better. Or maybe if I read one more parenting book. Or if I finally caught the magical contentment unicorn just beyond my grasp.
Of course, none of those options really pan out (especially the unicorn). It’s my own junk. Every day the yuck in my heart rises to the surface. But with the pace of life and needs of my people, it’s hard to stop and examine the “yuck” more closely.
A few years ago our small group attended a recovery program at our church. Through some honest self-examination and community, God showed me where I’ve held wrong beliefs. And how they impacted my relationships.
Today’s podcast guest, Lynn Hoffman, helped start our church’s recovery program 15 years ago. And God also led her to write “Steps into God’s Grace”, a bible study based on the 12 steps of recovery.
In this episode, Lynn shares her own struggle with performance, people pleasing and codependency. She gives insight into why recovery isn’t just for addicts. And she encourages us to identify our own emotions so we can teach our children to do the same.
Recovery became a safe place where I could go and be with other people who were willing to be honest. Stop pretending and start talking about the reality of the problems in their life. And lean on God to change and discover new realities in their life.
Connect with Lynn:
Website: StepsintoGodsGrace.com
What we chat about:
Lynn’s divorce/remarriage and struggle with wanting to do everything right.How she got her significance from her work and struggled to lean on God.The discovery of recovery and God’s call for her to write a 12-step based Bible study.Learning the lies Lynn believed and how they controlled how she behaved.The lies that go along with “working hard”.Why should anyone consider going through a 12-step recovery program.The spiritual/Biblical roots of recovery.The value of identifying your emotions in the moment.The difference between shame and guiltWhen we feel like a “mom failure” and how our worth is tied to our kids’ behavior and performance.Getting in touch with our own emotions to help our kids with their own emotions.
Links Mentioned:
“Steps into God’s Grace” by Lynn Hoffman **Jim & Lynne Jackson “You are Safe. You are Loved” (Ep 80)Feelings chart:
Celebrate RecoveryRecovery for Life at Northwest Bible**As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
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Rank #19: Beating 50 Percent :: Audrey Roloff [Ep 241]

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Though millions tuned in to TLC’s hit show 'Little People, Big World' to watch their wedding, the entirety of Jeremy and Audrey Roloff’s love story is significantly less known. Audrey joins me to talk about her marriage, motherhood, and how she and her husband are on a mission to help married couples thrive.

The Roloffs have founded a ministry called Beating 50 Percent which is focused on reviving covenant marriages. They share resources and ideas for couples to inspire them to make their marriages more than average.

One thing that has been our lifeline since before becoming parents is our marriage journal. It's essentially our communication tool in our marriage. When life is crazy, we know that every Sunday night we're going to have our time to do our marriage journal. We call it our navigator’s council time. But it's basically just a time for Jeremy and I to connect and communicate about things that have come up in the week that maybe there wasn't never that good time to talk about it.

We chat about how she’s balancing marriage and motherhood since the birth of her daughter, why it’s important to share interests and activities with your spouse and how to balance strong personalities in marriage.

It’s important to take humble perspective and ask God, what do our roles in this marriage look like and is this something that you are pleased with and how can we be a better reflection of the gospel through our marriage? I feel like God has really been impressing on my heart since the beginning of the year to let Jeremy be my forerunner and to view that as a helpful, beautiful thing that helps me and allows me to run the race better.

What we chat about:

Audrey’s background and how she met her husband Jeremy RoloffJeremy and his family are featured in the reality TV show, Little People, Big WorldWhat it was like for her to have her wedding televised for the showHer life verse from Ephesians 3:20 and mantra “Always More”Beating 50 Percent the marriage ministry she and her husband haveTheir focus is inspiring couples to invest more than 50 percent effort into their marriage How she’s balancing marriage and motherhood since the birth of her infant daughterTheir Sunday marriage journaling time and how they’ve turned it into a book, The Marriage JournalThe principle of sharing interests and activities with your spouse and how that can knit you closer togetherSubmitting in marriage when you have a strong personality or leadership giftingWhat Audrey loves about being a mom

Connect with Audrey:

Website: https://www.aujpoj.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audreyroloff/Twitter: https://twitter.com/audreymirabella Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aujpoj/ Podcast: https://theroloffs.simplecast.fm/ Marriage Ministry: https://www.instagram.com/beating50percent/

Links Mentioned:

BOOK: A Love Letter Life by Jeremy and Audrey Roloff Always More SherpaThe Marriage Journal (Navigator's Council) BOOK: The Tech-Wise Family by Andy Crouch BOOK: A Severe Mercy by Sheldon Vanauken **

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Rank #20: Panic Attacks and Growing Trust :: JJ Heller [Ep 238]

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God often uses our areas of weakness to bring blessing to others. The things we long to keep in the dark can actually bring light and life when we say, “Yes.” to God. That is JJ Heller’s story.

As an independent singer/songwriter, she has experienced a lot of ups and downs in professionally and personally. One of the hardest things has been her struggle with fear and anxiety.

I would pray every night that I would wake up in the morning and I would never have another panic attack again. Because, you know, sometimes God answers prayers that way, just totally, completely instantly. And yet that is not how he chose to answer my prayer much to my disappointment. Instead, it was just a very, very long journey of like gradually getting better every day and learning to trust God and learning to trust myself. I'm learning to trust that God has given me what I need to get through each day.

Through that process of learning to trust God, she has shared openly about working through anxiety and has written and recorded a lot of songs and albums that help connect others with God’s peace.

We talk about her beautiful lullaby albums and the impact music can have on people of all ages. As a mom of two girls, JJ writes music with moms in mind. Her new single Big Love, Small Moments serves as reminder that the small, unseen things we do with our kids can have the biggest impact on their lives.

I wanted to write a song just as a reminder that God sees the work that you're doing and he is so delighted. I think that God delights in mothers and I think it brings him joy. You know, every time you feed your child or you play with them or you put them down for a nap time, that is worship and he is so pleased with you. That perspective helps me to have eyes to see the beauty around me and to find joy in the little moments.

What we chat about:

The big change in college that started JJ down the path to musicHow JJ connects with listeners emotionally through her songsA song she wrote about learning to trust God in the midst of suffering made it on a national TV show and on Christian radioJJ’s journey with fear and anxiety and how God brought her healingThe importance of community and trusted friends when you need freedom from anxious thoughtsHow motherhood has changed her career and callingHer lullaby albums and why she’s so drawn to music for kidsHer song Big Love, Small Moments and how she wants moms to feel celebrated by GodIt’s the small moments and the daily decisions that help us focus on turning up the warmth and grace in our families

Connect with JJ:

WebsiteFacebookInstagram Twitter

Links Mentioned:

Lullaby Albums: I Dream of Youand I Dream of You Vol. 2 Jennifer Naraki on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jennifernaraki/Joy Prouty Filmmaker https://www.instagram.com/joyproutySet Free From Shame with Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 190]Instagram post by Jeannie  --turning up the warmth in our homesJJ sharing about her panic attacks-- “You’re Not Going Crazy”

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Songs Mentioned:

nullYour Hands https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_loRcLE5AIo  What Love Really Means https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgGUKWiw7Wk  Big Love, Small Moments https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubjNcxyAxjA Hand to Hold https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n88EHf_ocoQ

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Mar 11 2019
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