Rank #1: Ep. 82: The Before & After Worlds - Grieving A Sudden Death
How do you go from being in one world - the world where your person is alive and washing dishes and folding laundry and calling your name down the hall - to another where this person no longer exists in their physical form? How do your brain and body and spirit even begin to make sense of that?
Rank #2: Ep. 106: Grief & Anxiety - Claire Bidwell Smith. LCPC
When someone dies, many of us expect to cry and feel frustrated, but we aren’t as prepared for intense fear and worry. Anxiety can catch us off-guard, either because we’ve never dealt with it before or because the anxiety we already knew well has ratcheted up to untenable levels. Claire Bidwell Smith's new book, Anxiety, the Missing Stage of Grief, delves into all the ways anxiety can be part of grief.
Rank #3: Ep. 65: A Mother's Story - Sue Klebold
Sue Klebold is the mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the two shooters at Columbine High School who, in 1999, killed twelve students and a teacher, and wounded more than 20 others before taking their own lives. In our conversation with we explore how current day mass tragedies continue to affect her. We also look at how tragedies like Columbine occur - and how someone's thinking can become suicidal and homicidal.
Rank #4: Ep. 38: What Helps When You're Grieving - Ideas For Body, Mind, and Spirit
Jana is joined by Dougy Center staff member, Heather Dorfman, to talk about what helps (or might help) in grief, outside the realm of more formal support.
Rank #5: Ep. 17: Grieving A Suicide Death
Jana talks with Erin Shuster about the death of her brother from suicide. A former young adult group participant and volunteer, Erin talks openly about the unique aspects of grief when someone dies of suicide and how she learned to identify her needs and advocate for herself.
Rank #6: Ep. 97: An Unexpected Devastation
For Camila, death came barreling into her world with zero warning. When she was 21 her world shifted on its axis on an average morning in September. She woke up in the house she shared with her mother in the Bay Area expecting just another day. Then, she went to check on her mother, only to find that she had died in her sleep. There were no warning signs. Her mom was there and then she wasn’t. In the 9 years since that morning, Camila has grieved intensely and intently.
Rank #7: Ep. 63: Losing Someone Twice
One aspect of grief that rarely gets mentioned is losing someone twice- once in a life-altering circumstance and again when they die. This feeling can arise from a variety of circumstances including substance abuse, mental illness, the personality changes related to a physical illness, or other situation where there is a radical change in a relationship long before someone dies.
Rank #8: Ep. 103: Staying Connected In Grief - Allison Gilbert
We hear about how powerful and important it can be to keep memories and connection alive with the people we are grieving, but how do we actually do that? Allison Gilbert is the author of numerous books including the groundbreaking, Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive. We discuss turning a treasured recipe into a scavenger hunt, repurposing clothing, books, and other belongings, and how to navigate this idea when the relationship you had with the person was complicated or conflicted.
Rank #9: Ep. 61: Is It Grief Or Anger? Does It Matter?
What do big behaviors look like when a child is grieving? How do we best support them in these big behaviors and the corresponding big feelings? Heather Dorfman, Dougy Center staff member, joins us to talk about creating safety and connection in the midst of this swirl of feelings and behaviors.
Rank #10: Ep. 11: Who Am I Now?
Losing and finding yourself in grief. Brendon and Jana delve into the many layers of loss that we grapple with when someone dies and how that loss can change us.
Rank #11: Ep. 51: Anger & Grief - Megan Devine
Megan Devine talks about another shadow aspect of grief - anger. Anger shows up in many ways, including being angry at the person who died, at ourselves, and at someone or something we hold responsible for the death.
Rank #12: Ep. 26: Grief And Complex Relationships (Part 3) - The Death Of A Parent
The last in a three-part series talking with those grieving the death of someone when the relationship was complex, difficult, or challenging. Jana talks with Diana about her father who died after seven years of no contact with him.
Rank #13: Ep. 54: Self-Compassion As Self-Care In Grief - Heather Stang
Heather Stang, thanatologist, mindfulness speaker, and author of Mindfulness & Grief: With Guided Meditations To Calm Your Mind & Restore Your Spirit, joins us to talk about cultivating self-compassion as a powerful avenue for self-care while grieving.
Rank #14: Ep. 2: Ashes & Funerals
We answer two questions from the community. The first is from a mother of two young children who wonders what she can do with the ashes of her partner. The second from a young adult struggling with whether they should go to the funeral of a close friend’s mother.
Rank #15: Ep. 18: Grieving The Death Of A Sibling - Tips For Supporting Children
Jana and Rebecca Hobbs-Lawrence discuss how to support children who experience the death of a brother or sister.
Rank #16: Ep. 57: Fine But Not Okay- Mindfulness In Grief - Joe DiNardo
In March of 2015 Joe DiNardo's wife, Marcia, died of pancreatic cancer. Before her death, he started writing a letter to her which would eventually become the beginning of his first book, A Letter to My Wife. In the midst of the pain of Marcia's diagnosis, illness, and death, Joe turned to his four decades of meditation and mindfulness practice to be as present as possible, both with his wife and his own heartbreak.
Rank #17: Ep. 3 Tips For Talking With Children About Death
“How do I tell my child about the death?” This is the most common question we receive at The Dougy Center. Someone has died, leaving parents and other adult caregivers to struggle with finding the right words to say to their children.
Rank #18: Ep. 36: Grieving My Dad - A Son's Story
In the two years since his dad died, Mike bought a house, got married, and is expecting his first child. This episode explores what it means to grieve the person you would have turned to the most for advice and guidance on these major milestones in life.
Rank #19: Ep. 39: Grieving An Overdose (Part 1 of 3) - The Death Of A Brother
Jessica's younger brother died in 2011. In our conversation, we discuss what it's like when you didn't know the person was struggling with substance use along with the challenges of talking about the death with well-meaning others.
Rank #20: Ep. 24: Grief And Complex Relationships (Part 1) - The Death Of An Ex-Husband
This is the first in a three-part series about grieving when the relationship with the person who died was complex or conflicted. In this episode, Jana is joined by Jenny, a mother of three who experienced the loss of her husband and their father.