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Talk Your Poly Off

In this podcast we will explore many aspects of Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy while sharing our relationship adventures and the knowledge/experiences of our guests. We are recording from the beautiful Pacific Northwest and enjoy sharing and discussing this loving lifestyle.

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Solo Polyamory With Katie

An aspect of Polyamory is solo practice, polyamory which doesn't necessarily ride the relationship escalator. Another polyamory practice is relationship anarchy in which a person doesn't subscribe to traditional labels and standards of what a relationship "should" be. Today, Katie, a practicing soloist and anarchist, discusses polyamory with us from a different perspective.Today's definition of a relationship anarchist came in part from THE CUT's article on the topic, written by Katie Heaney.Our definition of solo polyamory was quoted from a portion of the Psychology Today article written by Elizabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CSEFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

42mins

5 Aug 2019

Rank #1

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Ego in Relationships

Check out these awesome resources!Ego and Pride: How Does It Really Affect Our Lives25 Ways To Kill The Toxic Ego That Will Ruin Your LifeHow To Kill Your EgoFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 16mins

4 Nov 2019

Rank #2

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Tips for Direct Intentional Communication

Let's talk DIC, Direct Intentional Communication and how it affects our relationships. Monsuta and Bella role play some scenarios you might find yourself in when it comes to relationships, especially polyamorous relationships, and how we mess them up with vague communication and how to better them with DIRECT communication. We talk about a few take away tips to improve your communication and talk about some common pitfalls we've all done. Join in the conversation about how we can all improve our DIC.Don't forget to check out our new Patreon page if you're interested in those bonus episodes! https://www.patreon.com/ilovepolyAnd check out PDX Scene Magazine's shop for the November issue with the Dad-Bod Dudoir photo shoot!https://pdxscene-magazine.square.site/Here are a few of the people and sites we mentioned in the episode as well as additional resources we came across:https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-communication-problems-and-mistakes-we-all-make-0919157https://bthechange.com/5-tips-to-communicate-more-effectively-ed3a11405bdahttps://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorgan/2015/04/21/how-to-communicate-intentionally/#7ec50972715chttps://www.tonyrobbins.com/ultimate-relationship-guide/key-communication-relationships/https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapists/profile/susan-heitler-20071114http://clubprivata.com/https://www.skunkbrothersspirits.com/An essay on Intentional and Unintentional Features of CommunicationFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 2mins

11 Nov 2019

Rank #3

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Getting To Know The Person In The Mirror

The key component to your polyamorous life, even more than honesty and communication, the one thing you can't practice polyamory without...is YOU!Learning who you are, how you work, and what motivates you is a truly fundamental aspect of how you will maneuver through a life of relationships and love. Many tests exist out in the world of the internet to help you figure yourself out a little bit and we at Talk Your Poly Off have started the path of self exploration with you by taking some of the more prominent tests available (which we have linked just below). In this discussion, we share our results and feelings around some of these quizzes. We also try to help you understand what these tests even means and how they might apply to you in your search for personal awareness. Everything from how you love to how you get your kink on!Please visit our social media posts or inboxes and share any of your results you'd like to share, let's talk!The tests we took are as follows:The Five Love LanguagesThe 16 Personalities - (Myers Briggs)Relationship Attachment StyleApology StyleAnger StyleBDSM Test (this is a sexual test, take with care)Sex Personality TypeEnneagram TestFor additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, Talk Your Poly Off.Our Instagram is Talk Your Poly Off.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 6mins

6 Jan 2020

Rank #4

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Poly Kinkery

Today's (slightly longer) episode is about kink, what kink is, safety practices for getting your kink on, and how kink and polyamory co-exist. We will talk about sexy stuff like power exchange dynamics and fetishes and will discuss responsible things like safety and negotiation. So, pull up a seat and let's get sexy.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

49mins

15 Apr 2019

Rank #5

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Let's Spend The Night Together

One of the daily practices of managing polyamory is where we sleep in a world of multiple partners. Who gets to sleep together and when is alone time essential? We discuss the benefits and pitfalls of sleeping alone versus sleeping with a partner. We also try to piece together how to successfully sleep in a bed with multiple partners and basic overall logistics behind multiple bedroom arrangements.As with many of our episodes, this week gives food for thought, not just for a polyamorous home but also for monogamous couples.We are also providing some additional resources to help you make your own opinions on the discussion of sleeping with or without people:www.thelittlethings.com on The Benefits of Sleeping Alonewww.lifehealth.com on The Benefits of Sleeping With a Loved Onewww.theatlantic.com on Why We Sleep Togetherbettersleep.org on Why Couples Sleep ApartFor additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 1min

2 Dec 2019

Rank #6

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Fresh Eyes on Polyamory

One aspect of the polyamory world, especially in our technology age, is how much more ethical nonmonogamy has become and how much it has grown to be more accepted thanks to a more open minded society and tools like the internet. Because of this, people new to the nonmonogamy culture join our communities on a daily basis. Today, Monsuta interviews Lili, a mom recently out of a fifteen year marriage who has found polyamory. In our discussion, we take a look at how this subculture of sexual and romantic openness looks from someone just walking in.Our shout-outs today are to:The Multiamory podcast who provide excellent education on nonmonogamyThe book More Than Two, written by Franklin Veaux and Eve RickertThe Ethical Slut, written by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardyand The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory, written by Dedeker WinstonFor additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 3mins

9 Dec 2019

Rank #7

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Long Distance Relationships

We welcome our guest host Peaches so we can all talk our poly off about long distance relationships. Peaches and Monsuta are long distance partners who bring real world experience to this episode and Bella provides insights from the outside, looking in.We realized toward the end of this recording, we could not capture enough of the LDR relationship dynamic in one episode so we will be airing periodic updates to this episode as the three of us are together.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

53mins

29 Apr 2019

Rank #8

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Self Care In Your Underwear

Episode 23 falls on a special day for Monsuta as this is the 30th birthday from his shooting (sure, call it an anniversary if you feel so inclined). For his 30th birthday, we will celebrate with a full and in-depth conversation about self-care and making sure you're writing the best story for the main character of your life (spoiler warning....it's YOU).*Happy birthday Monsuta!*Taking care of yourself is a crucial aspect of polyamory. This is the first step for taking care of partners, metas, or anyone close to you. With a positive self care program, you will be confident and strong enough to take on the world and come out on top.Here's some fun links for you:Thank you Psych Central for providing our definition this week.Also, thanks to Forbes for making sure readers knew taking care of yourself is important.HERE'S SOME MORE INFORMATION FOR SELF CAREFrom The Laws Of Attraction website.From the University Of Buffalo, school of social work.Andre Shakti discusses self care on the Find Poly Blog.You can read about 5 Self-Care Practices For Every Area Of Your Life at Very Well Mind.And please, check out Helpful Affirmations for Polyamorous People Struggling with Self Judgement at Every Day FeminismFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr

9 Sep 2019

Rank #9

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Personal Boundaries

Discussion revolving around boundaries and some aspects, including preferences, compromise, soft limits, hard limits, rules, and codependency.

1hr 1min

7 Oct 2019

Rank #10

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The New Relationship Energy Factor

You know those feelings you get when you first start dating someone and everything about them is perfect and you just can't get enough time with them? That's new relationship energy and it is not only a big factor in your non-monogamous journey but also a widely common phenomenon. So we take some time to try understanding this addictive experience in an attempt to build healthily from it.Check out these bonus links to get a feel for these feels.Thoughts on NRE from Zhahai Stewartand7 Tips to Making NRE LastFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 3mins

15 Jul 2019

Rank #11

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Deeper Relationship Connections

#NormalizeLove This episode, we decide to get into bed to record this episode. The bed is a more intimate environment which helps us discuss the vulnerable topics of deepening our connections with people we care about for stronger emotional bonds. We share our love languages and discuss how to use the five languages to know your loved ones better. We also highlight how sexuality or sensuality can bring more profound aspects of relationship to light and even get a little mushy while doing it, because emotional intimacy is a beautiful thing.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

46mins

22 Apr 2019

Rank #12

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My Guilt And My Shame

Monsuta and Bella dive deeper into their personal experiences with guilt and shame as well as how each emotion affects their ability to operate within relationships and with life, in general. Guilt is one of the difficult emotions to feel and to process in any relationship so we really dissect this emotion in ways to understand how it works and how it is a guiding factor in life.As promised in the episode, here are some links to help each of our polyam fam understand and accept guilt in order to help each of us learn this tricky feeling so we can guide it rather than have it guide us. As always, we sincerely hope our discussion and our vulnerability provides you the space to open up and to grow in beautiful ways. If this is how our episodes affect you, please share your growth with us if you'd like to shout to the world on how you've evolved into a more capable loving human being, we can keep you as anonymous as you'd like. You can send an email to podcast@ilovepoly.orgFIRST - Our Shoutouts:Slipknot and their song, SULFURKara Lowentheil and her podcast, UNF*CK YOUR BRAINLearn more about F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.Bella mentioned the 18 Synonyms For Guilt, which you can find hereADDITIONAL RESOURCESFeeling Guilty at #PsychCentral5 Tips For Dealing With GuiltGood Therapy's Take On GuiltWebMD On GuiltPsychology Today's Take On GuiltAs Well As Jeffry S. Nevid's ViewsYoga Journal's Views Even catch F. Diane Barth's article on Psychology Today hereFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

50mins

26 Aug 2019

Rank #13

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Compassion Is Action with Heart

Coming from a place of compassion when it comes to relationships and the world around us, is a powerful tool. Learn how to improve your communication by adding more compassion. In this weeks episode we approach communication from a compassionate place. Where would our relationships be if we could remember to put ourselves in their shoes and listen to understand? We cover the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion and give you 8 tips for improving your compassionate communication.Here are our resources or sites we found useful during our research:Tips To Master Compassionate Communication8 Ways To Practice Compassion For A Healthier And Stronger RelationshipWays To Be Compassionate In A RelationshipHow Cultivate More Self CompassionDr. Kristin Neff Self CompassionFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 1min

21 Oct 2019

Rank #14

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Polyween!

Direct links to the podcasts we enjoy:LOREMy Favorite MurderAnd That's Why We DrinkMonstrosityThe Creeping HourTwo Girls One GhostSword And ScaleFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 8mins

28 Oct 2019

Rank #15

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Accountability

Bella and Monsuta take accountability on this episode. They discuss how taking accountability improves not just your relationships with partners but also how it helps you grow as a person. Resources for our polyam fam.How To Improve Accountability by InsperityResponsibility Vs Accountability from Partners In LeadershipThe Importance of Accountability In Your Relationships by Flourish CounselingIs Your Partner Holding You Accountable or Just Taking Inventory by Vicki Tidwell PalmerFollow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

37mins

14 Oct 2019

Rank #16

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The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly- A Dinner Discussion

Bella and Monsuta take advantage of a lightning storm to discuss the best....and worst...personality traits they bring to a relationship while Monsuta makes dinner in the dark. In this episode, we look into the abyss of what a person brings to the relationship table, both good and bad, and how to handle these traits in one's self and with one's partner.Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.Also, check out our Twitter, I Love Poly.Our Instagram is I Love Poly Cares.We even have a Tumblr.Join our shiny new Fetlife group.And a LinkedIn page.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

38mins

1 Jul 2019

Rank #17

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Emergency Check In

Hey there Polyam fam, our regularly scheduled episode has been pushed out due to a medical emergency. We didn't want to leave you hanging so we had a discussion on one method to help partners in a struggle, processing emotions through a move, and even gave a little homework for all of you.Please forgive the raw, unedited episode and thank you for understanding. Love you all and we promise, next week we will get back to our regularly scheduled programming!

23mins

23 Sep 2019

Rank #18

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Resolutions For 2020

Bella, Monsuta, and Lili come together to discuss that magical thing which happens at the beginning of each new year....the resolution! Whether you enjoy them or turn a nose up at them, resolutions play a big part in our society. Sure, not everyone sticks to them and many fall to the wayside but there's so many which do take hold and so many people make changes for the better! We are open to change and committing to a fun way of change, like resolutions can be a good time! We talk about how to increase success in resolutions, how to manage these changes, who personal resolutions may affect and how to handle that, we even work to find ways of changing or exploring life without the use of resolutions!CNN's Resolutions Wisdom10 Ways To Keep Your Resolutions10 Unusual New Year ResolutionsAlternatives to the ResolutionsRachel Hollis Hopes You FailFor additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, Talk Your Poly Off.Our Instagram is Talk Your Poly Off.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 6mins

30 Dec 2019

Rank #19

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Poly Holidays

The holiday season is tough for everyone in different ways and even in a monogamous life there are challenges, how do those challenges differ for those of us in the polyamorous life? The holidays are such a special and magical time for Bella so this episode was extra fun to make for all of you, our polyam fam <3. While our holidays may differ from yours or you might have beliefs that your partners don't, we can all still come together and celebrate love. If you can find a way to overcome the craziness of family, travel, and finances etc. and make the holiday season something that works for you and yours, it'll be a special no matter what.Monsuta even ends the episode with a Shia LaBeouf style tangent about just living!We wish you the best and happiest of seasons as we wrap up the 2019 holiday season. Merry Christmas from all of us here at Talk Your Poly Off <3Things we also mentioned in this episode...The Village PeopleStar WarsAMC A-List Movie ClubPittock Mansion The GrottoSock DreamsFor additional episodes and content, come join our Patreon! Follow our Facebook page called Polyamory: Get Your Heart On.Find the link to our episode and share your comments about the show.For the kinkier polyamorists, cum join our TYPO Kinkster Fetlife GroupAlso, check out our Twitter, Talk Your Poly Off.Our Instagram is Talk Your Poly Off.We even have a Tumblr.You can also hit up our website and bookmark it so you can watch us as we grow. ;)Finally, As mentioned a moment ago, we welcome listener input, feel free to send us an email with your thoughts at podcast@ilovepoly.org

1hr 5mins

23 Dec 2019

Rank #20