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Spousing: On Modern Marriage

Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us.Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady, and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds, and totally would have been separated for talking too much if we had been in grade school together. Drawing from personal experience, expert opinion, and conventional wisdom, we approach the gravitas of marriage with candor and levity. We take marriage seriously; ourselves not so much.

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Episode 3: On Money

In this episode, Lauren and Katie talk about the leading killer of marriages everywhere: money issues.They also recommend some stuff, including pot roast breakfast burritos and Lin Manuel Miranda's "21 Chump Street."

1hr 12mins

24 Dec 2018

Rank #1

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Episode 16: On Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence: What is it? Who has it? What do you do when your partner doesn't use it? In this episode, we address the perils of both emotional and physical infidelity before diving into the research on emotional intelligence.Article: https://verilymag.com/2016/03/marriage-advice-communication-emotional-intelligenceRecommendations: Lauren - Russian Doll (Netflix); Mile Marker 181 (Podcast)Katie - Couples Massages (Duh), "Night Shift" by Lucy Dacus (song)

1hr 7mins

25 Mar 2019

Rank #2

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Episode 7: On Cohabitation

In this episode we tackle what it's like to have a spouse as a roommate. We also answer a listener question and fall in love with some seriously beautiful prose.Sources:https://www.brainpickings.org/2018/09/03/rilke-love-marriage/mc_cid=a499f42fca&mc_eid=48d2c43154 https://contemporaryfamilies.org/whocohabits/

1hr 21mins

21 Jan 2019

Rank #3

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Episode 13: On Love Languages

This week, Lauren and Katie are processing the helpful framework of Love Languages and how knowing how to "speak" your partner's Love Language can improve your groove.Recommendations:One Day at a Time on Netflix (a rare double endorsement!)The Anthropocene Reviewed from WNYC

56mins

4 Mar 2019

Rank #4

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Episode 9: On Mental Health

This week, your hosts discuss our relationships with mental health and offer some resources to be conversation starters.Check them out here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Dq9eQE_QSVA5pd3QvUQbiWkhzI1hfMqs/view?usp=sharing Additionally, we answer a listener question about traits we sought in partners in dating vs. traits that have turned out to be important in marriage.

1hr 22mins

4 Feb 2019

Rank #5

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Episode 12: The Enneagram

Our hosts dive into the world of The Enneagram! From Reformers to Peacemakers, there's something in this episode for everyone.Recommendations: Broadchurch (Netflix); SubReddit r/skincareaddiction .

1hr 28mins

25 Feb 2019

Rank #6

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Episode 19: On Travel

Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us.Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady, and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds, and totally would have been separated for talking too much if we had been in grade school together. Drawing from personal experience, expert opinion, and conventional wisdom, we approach the gravitas of marriage with candor and levity. We take marriage seriously; ourselves not so much.

47mins

29 Apr 2019

Rank #7

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Episode 15: On Support

Your hosts respond to a listener Q about the politics of name-changing. Next, we dissect the 4 types of support identified by the research.Recommendations:Sushi Go (card game)Leaving Neverland (HBO Documentary)Armchair Expert: Johann Hari Episode (Podcast)Invisibilia: The Fifth Vital Sign Episode (Podcast)

1hr 21mins

18 Mar 2019

Rank #8

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Episode 5: On Religion

We're talking about religion in polite company, y'all. Lauren and Katie are discussing the gifts and struggles an interfaith marriage, and ways to make them work. We also take our first ever listener question and (as always) discuss the state of our unions.What happens when you fall in love across the religious divide? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/nov/18/muslim-wife-christian-interfaith-marriage-reza-aslanRecommendations:WINTER ROBE: https://www.llbean.com/llb/shop/118953?page=scotch-plaid-flannel-robe&bc=12-27&feat=Bathrobes-SR0&csp=f&searchTerm=BathrobesMarvelous Mrs. Maisel Season 2

1hr 13mins

7 Jan 2019

Rank #9

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Episode 14: On Attachment

Your hosts dig into the research about attachment styles, the fascinating interpersonal relationship patterns that form in the early years of your life... and then (SURPRISE) show up in all kinds of mysterious ways in your adult relationships. Recommendations: Orange Theory and Sisters (on Netflix).

1hr 13mins

11 Mar 2019

Rank #10