This week Tim delves into the world of documentary. and offers some recent highlights.

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 12

We talk to Bhulla Beghal of Bluebell Films about his brilliant lockdown short film Home Time, which warmly tells the tale of a boy missing school whilst under quarantine.  See the film here!  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsetKUSL8hw&amp;t=3s

We talk to Bhulla Beghal of Bluebell Films about his brilliant lockdown short film Home Time, which warmly tells the tale of a boy missing school whilst under quarantine. See the film here! <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsetKUSL8hw&amp;t=3s" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CsetKUSL8hw&amp;t=3s</a>

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 11

Tim and Blake catch up on their time in Lockdown and what is keeping them entertained.  They discuss high culture with the National Theatre and Royal Opera House online streamed performances.  Tim recommends Eddie Murphy in Dolomite is my Name whilst Blake has enjoyed the creepily appropriate satire Vivarium and laughed like a drain at supernatural comedy Extra Ordinary.  They also talk about the escapist viewing that’s been cheering them – Spanish crime caper Money Heist, Michael Douglas and Alan Arkin’s warm hearted The Kominsky Method and Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin’s odd-couple friendship comedy Grace and Frankie.But it’s not all screens – they also talk about some film soundtracks they think listeners will enjoy including:Tim:  Jerry Goldsmith’s score for Basic Instinct, and Bill Conti’s soundtrack to For Your Eyes Only.  For a final choice he suggests you check out Vince DiCola’s soundtrack album for Transformers the Movie, one of “the archetypal 80’s synth and rock albums” where “every single track is great”.  His final pick is Alexandre Desplat’s soundtrack to the Grand Budapest Hotel.Blake:  Surveying the whole canon of John Barry, he tries to pick just one, and settles on 1960s Beat Girl.  Of the great synth scores out there Blake recommends Tangerine Dream’s score for the vampire-western mash up Near Dark and Cliff Martinez’s soundtrack to Neon Demon.  His final pick is the “warming, comforting” soundtrack to Wes Anderson’s The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou.

Tim and Blake catch up on their time in Lockdown and what is keeping them entertained.  They discuss high culture with the National Theatre and Royal Opera House online streamed performances.  Tim recommends Eddie Murphy in Dolomite is my Name whilst Blake has enjoyed the creepily appropriate satire Vivarium and laughed like a drain at supernatural comedy Extra Ordinary.  They also talk about the escapist viewing that’s been cheering them – Spanish crime caper Money Heist, Michael Douglas and Alan Arkin’s warm hearted The Kominsky Method and Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin’s odd-couple friendship comedy Grace and Frankie. But it’s not all screens – they also talk about some film soundtracks they think listeners will enjoy including: Tim:  Jerry Goldsmith’s score for Basic Instinct, and Bill Conti’s soundtrack to For Your Eyes Only.  For a final choice he suggests you check out Vince DiCola’s soundtrack album for Transformers the Movie, one of “the archetypal 80’s synth and rock albums” where “every single track is great”.  His final pick is Alexandre Desplat’s soundtrack to the Grand Budapest Hotel. Blake:  Surveying the whole canon of John Barry, he tries to pick just one, and settles on 1960s Beat Girl.  Of the great synth scores out there Blake recommends Tangerine Dream’s score for the vampire-western mash up Near Dark and Cliff Martinez’s soundtrack to Neon Demon.  His final pick is the “warming, comforting” soundtrack to Wes Anderson’s The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou.

LOCKDOWN MUSIC - Episode 10

Nina Jones

Nina Jones, filmmaker and researcher talks us through her fascination with the genre of true crime,  discussing why it might be so popular and recommending some viewing for the newcomer starting with the “absolutely bananas” The Tiger King on Netflix.  If your appetite for true crime is whetted, Nina suggests The Staircase on Netflix, a documentary from 2004 containing some “jaw dropping moments”.Nina also talks about the thorny issue of the ethics of true crime filmmaking, and the moral murkiness that can sometime ensue.Outside of crime, Nina recommends Jennifer Lopez’s brilliant Hustlers, and some comfort viewing in the form of the Harry Potter movies and a nostalgia hit with Harrison Ford in Witness.

Nina Jones, filmmaker and researcher talks us through her fascination with the genre of true crime, discussing why it might be so popular and recommending some viewing for the newcomer starting with the “absolutely bananas” The Tiger King on Netflix. If your appetite for true crime is whetted, Nina suggests The Staircase on Netflix, a documentary from 2004 containing some “jaw dropping moments”. Nina also talks about the thorny issue of the ethics of true crime filmmaking, and the moral murkiness that can sometime ensue. Outside of crime, Nina recommends Jennifer Lopez’s brilliant Hustlers, and some comfort viewing in the form of the Harry Potter movies and a nostalgia hit with Harrison Ford in Witness.

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 9 with Nina Jones

Our series exploring the movies that are helping people deal with their confinement in lockdown continues with Costa Prize winning novelist Catherine O'Flynn. Catherine talks about wathing Columbo and the Waltons with her kids, seeking solace with Walter Matthau in the wonderful A New Leaf, the genius of Humphrey Bogart in The Maltese Falcon and The Caine Mutiny and the newfound joy to be found in Konnie Huq’s regular lockdown youtube videos

Our series exploring the movies that are helping people deal with their confinement in lockdown continues with Costa Prize winning novelist Catherine O'Flynn. Catherine talks about wathing Columbo and the Waltons with her kids, seeking solace with Walter Matthau in the wonderful A New Leaf, the genius of Humphrey Bogart in The Maltese Falcon and The Caine Mutiny and the newfound joy to be found in Konnie Huq’s regular lockdown youtube videos

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 8 with novelist Catherine O'Flynn

Darren Gaskell's reviews can be found at The Horrorcist and Love Horror.Darren's recommendations are range from horror - Night of the Living Dead, Extra Ordinary and Night of the Comet but also some on the lighter side of life - Romy and Michelle’s High school reunion, When Harry met Sally, Danger Diabolic and some TV comedy in Parks and Recreation and Brooklyn 99

Darren Gaskell's reviews can be found at The Horrorcist and Love Horror. Darren's recommendations are range from horror - Night of the Living Dead, Extra Ordinary and Night of the Comet but also some on the lighter side of life - Romy and Michelle’s High school reunion, When Harry met Sally, Danger Diabolic and some TV comedy in Parks and Recreation and Brooklyn 99

LOCKDOWN MOVIES: Episode 7 with guest Darren Gaskell

Dr Lester is an expert on children's TV and film, and we ask her to recommend some things to help the younger viewer (and their carers) to get through lockdown.She talks us through some films and TV you'll know and some you may not, and explains to us the concept of "nicecore" movies.

Dr Lester is an expert on children's TV and film, and we ask her to recommend some things to help the younger viewer (and their carers) to get through lockdown. She talks us through some films and TV you'll know and some you may not, and explains to us the concept of "nicecore" movies.

LOCKDOWN MOVIES Episode 6 - Dr Cat Lester and childrens' viewing

Our guide to what to watch during lockdown continues with special guest Dr Alaina Schempp, film academic and scriptwriter who talks to us about the amine delights to be found on netflix and the joy of sharing a screen with others.

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 5 with Dr Alaina Schempp

Luis suggests some films on the theme of confinement:The Netflix TV series Kingdom, Luis Bunuel's classic from 1962, The Exterminating Angel and claustrophobic thriller Buried.To escape from the confines of lockdown, he suggests watching Westerns - and in particular The Good the Bad and the Ugly.

Luis suggests some films on the theme of confinement: The Netflix TV series Kingdom, Luis Bunuel's classic from 1962, The Exterminating Angel and claustrophobic thriller Buried. To escape from the confines of lockdown, he suggests watching Westerns - and in particular The Good the Bad and the Ugly.

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 4 with Luis Freijo Escudero

Lockdown isn't stopping us watching films, goodness me no.  The screenbrum team talk about what is helping them through lockdown and what else in the world of film is bringing them cheer.

LOCKDOWN MOVIES - Episode 3

The ScreenBrum team grew up in cinemas and learned everything they know about life from screens. But have they been misled?Each show takes a theme and we explore what the movies tell us about it, in the presence of great guests, experts, academics, doctors and professionals of all stripes.All this and our picks for the best TV and Movies, you will always be entertained and occasionally inspired. It can lead to arguments, but it is never boring.

Rob Stone

We recommend some viewing to get you through time stuck at home.  Recommendations and optimism from Professor Rob Stone of Birmingham University.

Lockdown Movies - Episode 2 with Prof Rob Stone

These are strange times, as many people are locked down in their homes, like many of you, we are going back to the "comfort food" of certain films and TV. The things that reassure us that all is well with the world, and give us a sense of safety.We would love to share our recommendations with you, so this new series of shorter podcasts will give some ideas for things to cheer you up whilst you are social distancing.Future episodes will feature guest recommenders, do let us know if there is a movie you think people should watch in lockdown.Lots of love from the ScreenBrum team x

These are strange times, as many people are locked down in their homes, like many of you, we are going back to the "comfort food" of certain films and TV. The things that reassure us that all is well with the world, and give us a sense of safety. We would love to share our recommendations with you, so this new series of shorter podcasts will give some ideas for things to cheer you up whilst you are social distancing. Future episodes will feature guest recommenders, do let us know if there is a movie you think people should watch in lockdown. Lots of love from the ScreenBrum team x

NEW:  Lockdown Movies!! Episode 1

The ScreenBrum team take a meander through the large and varied body of work by the great Nicolas Cage. How many phases has his career been through? What are the high points? How do you understand the man? Is it something you should even try?No answers, but lots of fun asking the questions.

The ScreenBrum team take a meander through the large and varied body of work by the great Nicolas Cage. How many phases has his career been through? What are the high points? How do you understand the man? Is it something you should even try? No answers, but lots of fun asking the questions.

ScreenBrum - Nicolas Cage appreciation special

Screenbrum welcome the roaring twenties the only way we know how – by prattling on about the films and TV we are most looking forward to.  From the blockbusters to the smaller indies, we look ahead and what we hope will be a landmark year on screen.We’re sure we’ve missed loads.  Let us know!

Screenbrum welcome the roaring twenties the only way we know how – by prattling on about the films and TV we are most looking forward to. From the blockbusters to the smaller indies, we look ahead and what we hope will be a landmark year on screen. We’re sure we’ve missed loads. Let us know!

Screenbrum has 2020 vision

Vote ScreenBrum!In honour of the impending UK general election, we talk about our favourite elections on screen, and our favourite fictional candidates.But don't worry, there is no mention of fiscal policy or the detail of education strategy - although we are joined by a professional educator in Dr Michele Aaron, head of the Screening Rights Film Festival, talking about the latest incarnation of the festival, and some of the wonderful films you can look forward to.Strong and Stable Radio.

Vote ScreenBrum! In honour of the impending UK general election, we talk about our favourite elections on screen, and our favourite fictional candidates. But don't worry, there is no mention of fiscal policy or the detail of education strategy - although we are joined by a professional educator in Dr Michele Aaron, head of the Screening Rights Film Festival, talking about the latest incarnation of the festival, and some of the wonderful films you can look forward to. Strong and Stable Radio.

ScreenBrum on Elections with guest Dr Michele Aaron

On this edition of ScreenBrum we delve into the odd world of “Trash Movies” – films that were made with the best of intentions, but which didn’t wind up troubling the Oscar committee too much. Regular hosts Tim, Lucy and Blake are joined by the organisers of Trash Film Night, a regular night in the city where some of the forgotten "gems" of the genre are shown and discussed. Over the course of the show we talk about what constitutes a "Trash" movie, and what doesn't qualify. And we pick some of the high/low points of the genre.

On this edition of ScreenBrum we delve into the odd world of “Trash Movies” – films that were made with the best of intentions, but which didn’t wind up troubling the Oscar committee too much. Regular hosts Tim, Lucy and Blake are joined by the organisers of Trash Film Night, a regular night in the city where some of the forgotten "gems" of the genre are shown and discussed. Over the course of the show we talk about what constitutes a "Trash" movie, and what doesn't qualify. And we pick some of the high/low points of the genre.

ScreenBrum - Trash!

We have been lying fallow for a while but the ScreenBrum show is blooming, sending our bright petals out into the world with the flush of spring on our leaves. Which is to say that our theme this week is FLOWERS ON SCREEN – our favourite film and TV about flowers, or where flowers play a key role. We are also joined by Sukayna from Screen B14, the latest community cinema in the city, who tells us about their programme of events and gives her favourite flower in film.

We have been lying fallow for a while but the ScreenBrum show is blooming, sending our bright petals out into the world with the flush of spring on our leaves. Which is to say that our theme this week is FLOWERS ON SCREEN – our favourite film and TV about flowers, or where flowers play a key role. We are also joined by Sukayna from Screen B14, the latest community cinema in the city, who tells us about their programme of events and gives her favourite flower in film.

ScreenBrum - FLOWERS!

The creak of a leather saddle, the crunch of boot on sandy ground, the flinty eyes of the silent stranger taking in the glares of the suspicious townsfolk. There is nothing more quintessentially USA than the Western movie, right? Maybe not, we explore the world of taking the wild west out of the western, and look at World Cinema Westerns, with our special guest Luis Frejio of Birmingham University’s B-Film unit. What makes a film a “Western” anyway? Can you have a Western without the guns and hats? Luis talks us through his research into the idea of the Western as about frontiers, and the people that walk them. We are also joined this week by filmmakers Carl Timms and Daniel Alexander to introduce the exciting 2Weeks2MakeIt competition for local filmmakers and musicians. And, of course, we play some Ennio Morricone, it would be rude not to.

The creak of a leather saddle, the crunch of boot on sandy ground, the flinty eyes of the silent stranger taking in the glares of the suspicious townsfolk. There is nothing more quintessentially USA than the Western movie, right? Maybe not, we explore the world of taking the wild west out of the western, and look at World Cinema Westerns, with our special guest Luis Frejio of Birmingham University’s B-Film unit. What makes a film a “Western” anyway? Can you have a Western without the guns and hats? Luis talks us through his research into the idea of the Western as about frontiers, and the people that walk them. We are also joined this week by filmmakers Carl Timms and Daniel Alexander to introduce the exciting 2Weeks2MakeIt competition for local filmmakers and musicians. And, of course, we play some Ennio Morricone, it would be rude not to.

ScreenBrum - Westerns without the West.  Wild.

Matt Lawson

ScreenBrum are very pleased to welcome Doctor Matt Lawson, academic musicologist and co-author of "The 100 Greatest Film Scores" to the studio. Matt talks about the history of film music, and the magic that can happen when visuals and the score combine to create something truly electrifying. We talk about the great composers, the unsung champions and what the future might hold. Plus, we learn what "metadiegetic" means. All this and pointing you to some amazing music. You will not want to miss this one.

ScreenBrum are very pleased to welcome Doctor Matt Lawson, academic musicologist and co-author of "The 100 Greatest Film Scores" to the studio. Matt talks about the history of film music, and the magic that can happen when visuals and the score combine to create something truly electrifying. We talk about the great composers, the unsung champions and what the future might hold. Plus, we learn what "metadiegetic" means. All this and pointing you to some amazing music. You will not want to miss this one.

ScreenBrum - Soundtracks with Musicologist Dr Matt Lawson

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: This is not the show to listen to on a date. Our theme this week is “anti-valentines”, the movies and TV to watch to make you fall out of love. We talk about breakups, mismatched romances and the tragedy of not being able to connect to other people. What do you think?

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: This is not the show to listen to on a date. Our theme this week is “anti-valentines”, the movies and TV to watch to make you fall out of love. We talk about breakups, mismatched romances and the tragedy of not being able to connect to other people. What do you think?

ScreenBrum - Anti-Valentines Movies.

The ScreenBrum team grew up in cinemas and learned everything they know about life from screens. But have they been misled? Each show takes a theme and we explore what the movies tell us about it, in the presence of great guests, experts, academics, doctors and professionals of all stripes. All this and our picks for the best TV and Movies, you will always be entertained and occasionally inspired. It can lead to arguments, but it is never boring.

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Mel Liu

On this episode of the Knowledge Project Podcast, I chat with Patrick Collison, co-founder and CEO of the leading online payment processing company, Stripe. If you’ve purchased anything online recently, there’s a good chance that Stripe facilitated the transaction. What is now an organization with over a thousand employees and handling tens of billions of dollars of online purchases every year, began as a small side experiment while Patrick and his brother John were going to college.   During our conversation, Patrick shares the details of their unlikely journey and some of the hard-earned wisdom he picked up along the way. I hope you have something handy to write with because the nuggets per minute in this episode are off the charts. Patrick was so open and generous with his responses that I’m really excited for you to hear what he has to say. Here are just a few of the things we cover:  The biggest (and most valuable) mistakes Patrick made in the early days of Stripe and how they helped him get better The characteristics that Patrick looks for in a new hire to fit and contribute to the Stripe company culture What compelled he and his brother to move forward with the early concept of Stripe, even though on paper it was doomed to fail from the start The gaps Patrick saw in the market that dozens of other processing companies were missing — and how he capitalized on them The lessons Patrick learned from scaling Stripe from two employees (he and his brother) to nearly 1,000 today How he evaluates the upsides and potential dangers of speculative positions within the company How his Irish upbringing influenced his ability to argue and disagree without taking offense (and how we can all be a little more “Irish”) The power of finding the right peer group in your social and professional circles and how impactful and influential it can be in determining where you end up. The 4 ways Patrick has modified his decision making process over the last 5 years and how it’s helped him develop as a person and as a business leader (this part alone is worth the listen) Patrick’s unique approach to books and how he chooses what he’s going to spend his time reading  ...life in Silicon Valley, Baumol’s cost disease, and so, so much more. Patrick truly is one of the warmest, humblest and down to earth people I’ve had the pleasure to speak with and I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation together. I hope you will too! GO PREMIUM: Support the podcast, get ad-free episodes, transcripts, and so much more: https://fs.blog/knowledge-project-premium/

The Knowledge Project with Shane Parrish

On this episode of the Knowledge Project Podcast, I chat with Patrick Collison, co-founder and CEO of the leading online payment processing company, <a href="https://stripe.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Stripe.</a> If you’ve purchased anything online recently, there’s a good chance that Stripe facilitated the transaction. What is now an organization with over a thousand employees and handling tens of billions of dollars of online purchases every year, began as a small side experiment while Patrick and his brother John were going to college.   During our conversation, Patrick shares the details of their unlikely journey and some of the hard-earned wisdom he picked up along the way. I hope you have something handy to write with because the nuggets per minute in this episode are off the charts. Patrick was so open and generous with his responses that I’m really excited for you to hear what he has to say. Here are just a few of the things we cover: <ul> <li>The biggest (and most valuable) mistakes Patrick made in the early days of Stripe and how they helped him get better</li> <li>The characteristics that Patrick looks for in a new hire to fit and contribute to the Stripe company culture</li> <li>What compelled he and his brother to move forward with the early concept of Stripe, even though on paper it was doomed to fail from the start</li> <li>The gaps Patrick saw in the market that dozens of other processing companies were missing — and how he capitalized on them</li> <li>The lessons Patrick learned from scaling Stripe from two employees (he and his brother) to nearly 1,000 today</li> <li>How he evaluates the upsides and potential dangers of speculative positions within the company</li> <li>How his Irish upbringing influenced his ability to argue and disagree without taking offense (and how we can all be a little more “Irish”)</li> <li>The power of finding the right peer group in your social and professional circles and how impactful and influential it can be in determining where you end up.</li> <li>The 4 ways Patrick has modified his decision making process over the last 5 years and how it’s helped him develop as a person and as a business leader (this part alone is worth the listen)</li> <li>Patrick’s unique approach to books and how he chooses what he’s going to spend his time reading</li> </ul> ...life in Silicon Valley, Baumol’s cost disease, and so, so much more. Patrick truly is one of the warmest, humblest and down to earth people I’ve had the pleasure to speak with and I thoroughly enjoyed our conversation together. I hope you will too! GO PREMIUM: Support the podcast, get ad-free episodes, transcripts, and so much more: https://fs.blog/knowledge-project-premium/

#32 Patrick Collison: Earning Your Stripes

If you want your company to truly scale, you first have to do things that don't scale. Handcraft the core experience. Get your hands dirty. Serve your customers one-by-one. And don't stop until you know exactly what they want. That's what Brian Chesky did. As CEO of Airbnb, Brian’s early work was more akin to a traveling salesman. He takes us back to his lean years – when he went door-to-door, meeting Airbnb hosts in person – and shares the imaginative route to crafting what he calls an "11-star experience.”Read Paul Graham: "In order to scale, you have to do things that don't scale."Read a transcript of this interview at: https://mastersofscale.com/brian-chesky-handcrafted/Subscribe to the Masters of Scale weekly newsletter at http://eepurl.com/dlirtX

Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman

If you want your company to truly scale, you first have to do things that don't scale. Handcraft the core experience. Get your hands dirty. Serve your customers one-by-one. And don't stop until you know exactly what they want. That's what Brian Chesky did. As CEO of Airbnb, Brian’s early work was more akin to a traveling salesman. He takes us back to his lean years – when he went door-to-door, meeting Airbnb hosts in person – and shares the imaginative route to crafting what he calls an "11-star experience.”Read Paul Graham: "In order to scale, you have to do <a href="http://paulgraham.com/ds.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">things that don't scale</a>."Read a transcript of this interview at: <a href="https://mastersofscale.com/brian-chesky-handcrafted/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://mastersofscale.com/brian-chesky-handcrafted/</a>Subscribe to the Masters of Scale weekly newsletter at <a href="http://eepurl.com/dlirtX" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">http://eepurl.com/dlirtX</a>

1. Airbnb's Brian Chesky in Handcrafted

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[Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren’t fighting anymore, but they certainly haven’t moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their communication.

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

[Contains mature themes] He reached out because a year after the discovery of his affair, they aren’t fighting anymore, but they certainly haven’t moved on. Esther guides them towards a more honest conversation, and a revelation about their communication.

I've Had Better

 Welcome!  My guest today is Dr. John Gottman, one of the world's leading experts on how to have an amazing relationship.  He and his wife Julie currently operate The Gottman Institute in Seattle, offering numerous resources and training.  Join us for a deep dive into their work!  Dr. Gottman’s findings are largely based on the conclusions he has made over many years of research and observations of couples. He and his team have how to be a master (and avoid being a disaster) at relationship.  Dr. Gottman discusses the following topics:   “The Sound Relationship House” - what is the foundation for a relationship that lasts?  Learn the importance of having high expectations in relationship, and also uncover ways in which what you'd *think* would be good for your relationship is actually counterproductive.  Dr. Gottman identifies Styles of Confronting Conflict:  Volatile, Validating, and Conflict-Avoiding. All of these conflict styles can lead to successful relationships. Learn what to do if you and your partner are mismatched in your conflict style.  Dr. Gottman discusses “bids” we make with our partner as an attempt to connect. Are you a "yes" to your partner's bids? Are they a yes to yours?  “Bids” that fail are often the beginnings of conflict. How do things change if you start paying attention and responding to your partner's bids in a positive way?  Mindfulness is the key to noticing these bids and avoiding conflict.  “Small Things Often” - a reminder to turn toward these bids in the small moments of life.  Dr. Gottman's concept of startup is a way of thinking about what you bring to your interactions with your partner. Do you start in a place that's already positive, and thinking highly of your partner? Or do you start in a place where you are suspecting the worst of your partner?  Build up your emotional bank account with small compliments (deposits).  According to John, there are three phases of any relationship:  Falling in Love (initial), Building Trust (middle), and Cherishing Your Partner (long-term intimacy). What phase are you in? The key to success is using strategies that are appropriate for where you are in your relationship.  The key to more sex is having the freedom to say "no" without being punished for it. If refusing sex can actually have a positive payoff, then it will actually lead to a couple having a more satisfying (and frequent) sex life.  Do you ever wonder how to make a good relationship GREAT? Focus on cherishing your partner.  What if YOU are the only partner who wants to make changes?  Can you make a difference?  Absolutely. Learn how shifts in your approach can have a profound affect on your relationship.  The key to success in a relationship isn't that nothing bad ever happens. It's how well you as a couple learn how to repair after those things occur. John discusses how you can learn to repair, and the positive effects that has on long-term relationships.  Do you know how to decide if you’re in a bad relationship?  When you're with your partner, are you at your best? Or are you veering off towards your worst? Gottman offers this simple guideline for how to know whether to stay or go. Also what to think about BEFORE you decide that you're on the wrong path.   Join us for these topics and more.  Dr. Gottman has practical information that can improve your relationship TODAY!   Links and Resources:  What Makes Love Last: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by Dr. John Gottman  The Gottman Institute, Seattle   www.gottman.com    www.neilsattin.com/gottman    (visit to download a .pdf of this episode guide along with John Gottman's "Dreams in Conflict" exercise to help couples who seem to have irreconcilable differences. You can also text “PASSION” to 33444 for instructions on how to download the guide. If you download the guide within the first week of this show's airing, you will also qualify for a chance to win a free signed copy of Dr. Gottman’s book "What Makes Love Last".) The Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out! 

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Welcome!  My guest today is Dr. John Gottman, one of the world's leading experts on how to have an amazing relationship.  He and his wife Julie currently operate The Gottman Institute in Seattle, offering numerous resources and training.  Join us for a deep dive into their work! Dr. Gottman’s findings are largely based on the conclusions he has made over many years of research and observations of couples. He and his team have how to be a master (and avoid being a disaster) at relationship. Dr. Gottman discusses the following topics: <ul> <li> “The Sound Relationship House” - what is the foundation for a relationship that lasts?</li> <li> Learn the importance of having high expectations in relationship, and also uncover ways in which what you'd *think* would be good for your relationship is actually counterproductive.</li> <li> Dr. Gottman identifies Styles of Confronting Conflict:  Volatile, Validating, and Conflict-Avoiding. All of these conflict styles can lead to successful relationships. Learn what to do if you and your partner are mismatched in your conflict style.</li> <li> Dr. Gottman discusses “bids” we make with our partner as an attempt to connect. Are you a "yes" to your partner's bids? Are they a yes to yours?</li> <li> “Bids” that fail are often the beginnings of conflict. How do things change if you start paying attention and responding to your partner's bids in a positive way?</li> <li> Mindfulness is the key to noticing these bids and avoiding conflict.</li> <li> “Small Things Often” - a reminder to turn toward these bids in the small moments of life.</li> <li> Dr. Gottman's concept of startup is a way of thinking about what you bring to your interactions with your partner. Do you start in a place that's already positive, and thinking highly of your partner? Or do you start in a place where you are suspecting the worst of your partner?</li> <li> Build up your emotional bank account with small compliments (deposits).</li> <li> According to John, there are three phases of any relationship:  Falling in Love (initial), Building Trust (middle), and Cherishing Your Partner (long-term intimacy). What phase are you in? The key to success is using strategies that are appropriate for where you are in your relationship.</li> <li> The key to more sex is having the freedom to say "no" without being punished for it. If refusing sex can actually have a positive payoff, then it will actually lead to a couple having a more satisfying (and frequent) sex life.</li> <li> Do you ever wonder how to make a good relationship GREAT? Focus on cherishing your partner.</li> <li> What if YOU are the only partner who wants to make changes?  Can you make a difference?  Absolutely. Learn how shifts in your approach can have a profound affect on your relationship.</li> <li> The key to success in a relationship isn't that nothing bad ever happens. It's how well you as a couple learn how to repair after those things occur. John discusses how you can learn to repair, and the positive effects that has on long-term relationships.</li> <li> Do you know how to decide if you’re in a bad relationship?  When you're with your partner, are you at your best? Or are you veering off towards your worst? Gottman offers this simple guideline for how to know whether to stay or go. Also what to think about BEFORE you decide that you're on the wrong path.</li> </ul> Join us for these topics and more.  Dr. Gottman has practical information that can improve your relationship TODAY!  Links and Resources: <a href="http://www.amazon.com/What-Makes-Love-Last-Betrayal/dp/1451608489/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">What Makes Love Last: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal</a> by Dr. John Gottman The Gottman Institute, Seattle <a href="http://www.gottman.com" rel="nofollow" target="_blank"> www.gottman.com</a> <a href="http://www.neilsattin.com/gottman" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.neilsattin.com/gottman</a>    (visit to download a .pdf of this episode guide along with John Gottman's "Dreams in Conflict" exercise to help couples who seem to have irreconcilable differences. You can also text “PASSION” to 33444 for instructions on how to download the guide. If you download the guide within the first week of this show's airing, you will also qualify for a chance to win a free signed copy of Dr. Gottman’s book "What Makes Love Last".) The <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/RelationshipAliveCommunity/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">Relationship Alive Community</a> on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music provided courtesy of: <a href="http://www.therailsplitters.com/" rel="noopener nofollow" target="_blank">The Railsplitters - Check them Out! </a>

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