The tea is finally being spilled. In this episode, you'll hear about:  how I went from a 3 year monogamous relationship to opening up with that partner my experiences of dating new people how to manage jealousy and miscommunications how to set boundaries for an open relationship how to bring up non-monogamy with a partner &amp; so much more!   Resources The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

The tea is finally being spilled. In this episode, you'll hear about: <ul> <li>how I went from a 3 year monogamous relationship to opening up with that partner</li> <li>my experiences of dating new people</li> <li>how to manage jealousy and miscommunications</li> <li>how to set boundaries for an open relationship</li> <li>how to bring up non-monogamy with a partner</li> <li>&amp; so much more!</li> </ul> Resources <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-dossie-easton/book/9780399579660.html" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton</a> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group)

68. Open Relationship + Q&A

Do you feel like one week you're hot, funny and gorgeous, but the next week you're depressed, confused and feeling all around yucky? Are you trying to keep daily routines but failing miserably? Are you exhausted and nearing burnout? Trust me, I hear you.  Two years ago, I started Cycle Syncing and since then, I've learned all of the tips and tricks. In this episode, you'll hear how to:  eat the right foods (without any restrictions) work out less and feel better sync your relationships &amp; sex life to your cycle create a work schedule that makes you love what you do   As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: ⁠https://beducate.me/pd2336-alyssa⁠  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Do you feel like one week you're hot, funny and gorgeous, but the next week you're depressed, confused and feeling all around yucky? Are you trying to keep daily routines but failing miserably? Are you exhausted and nearing burnout? Trust me, I hear you. Two years ago, I started Cycle Syncing and since then, I've learned all of the tips and tricks. In this episode, you'll hear how to: <ul> <li>eat the right foods (without any restrictions)</li> <li>work out less and feel better</li> <li>sync your relationships &amp; sex life to your cycle</li> <li>create a work schedule that makes you love what you do</li> </ul> As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: <a href="https://l.instagram.com/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fbeducate.me%2Fpd2336-alyssa&amp;e=AT0UYpiOa6uWXN5y5m5KWGgwRvyHl-0SfHDKqiNRIdB9uj2tMZtjeHHmvZzVRwrnfGS9UGQC5xb7wVgYDkgRFP-sVgKxaC3imqDJFYwuNhhhsrMnjw3w7FzZby9imemEjg3Psllu792Oppqur_7Ehgoyb8itD4PgW-Lynbqc_mw" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠https://beducate.me/pd2336-alyssa⁠</a> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group)

67. How Cycle Syncing Will Change Your Life | 2 Year Update

Why are they sometimes worse than romantic breakups? How do we know if we should move on or try to work it out? How can we heal and make new friendships, without self sabotaging? In this episode, we'll be answering all of these questions, while addressing the impermanence in relationships and what we can do to cope with our ever-changing lives. Spoiler: nothing is wasted and you're going to be okay!  As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: https://beducate.me/pd2336-alyssa  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠Tiktok⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Why are they sometimes worse than romantic breakups? How do we know if we should move on or try to work it out? How can we heal and make new friendships, without self sabotaging? In this episode, we'll be answering all of these questions, while addressing the impermanence in relationships and what we can do to cope with our ever-changing lives. Spoiler: nothing is wasted and you're going to be okay! As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: <a href="https://l.instagram.com/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fbeducate.me%2Fpd2336-alyssa&amp;e=AT0UYpiOa6uWXN5y5m5KWGgwRvyHl-0SfHDKqiNRIdB9uj2tMZtjeHHmvZzVRwrnfGS9UGQC5xb7wVgYDkgRFP-sVgKxaC3imqDJFYwuNhhhsrMnjw3w7FzZby9imemEjg3Psllu792Oppqur_7Ehgoyb8itD4PgW-Lynbqc_mw" rel="nofollow noreferrer" target="_blank">https://beducate.me/pd2336-alyssa</a> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Tiktok⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Instagram⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group)

66. Navigating Friendship Breakups

Whether you're exploring your sexuality for the first time or queerness is your whole world, this episode is going to help you navigate:  internalized homophobia coming out feeling "queer enough" feeling like you're behind  Not only are we exploring internally to break down misconceptions and negative thinking patterns, but we're talking about the practical things that you can start doing TODAY to work towards feeling confident in your sexuality.   As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: https://beducate.me/pd2338-alyssa!  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠Tiktok⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Whether you're exploring your sexuality for the first time or queerness is your whole world, this episode is going to help you navigate: <ul> <li>internalized homophobia</li> <li>coming out</li> <li>feeling "queer enough"</li> <li>feeling like you're behind</li> </ul> Not only are we exploring internally to break down misconceptions and negative thinking patterns, but we're talking about the practical things that you can start doing TODAY to work towards feeling confident in your sexuality. As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: <a href="https://beducate.me/pd2338-alyssa" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" target="_blank">https://beducate.me/pd2338-alyssa</a>! Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Tiktok⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Instagram⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group)

65. How to Become Confident in Your Sexuality (LGBTQIA+)

If there's anything I wish I knew before I started dating, it's these 10 tips. Whether you're single at the moment, have a bf/gf/etc. or it's... complicated, I've got you.   In this episode, we're answering the questions:  Is it worth dating within your friend group? Should a relationship "feel easy" or does it take work? When should I let a problem go and when should I bring it up? &amp; so much more!   Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠Tiktok⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

If there's anything I wish I knew before I started dating, it's these 10 tips. Whether you're single at the moment, have a bf/gf/etc. or it's... complicated, I've got you. In this episode, we're answering the questions: <ul> <li>Is it worth dating within your friend group?</li> <li>Should a relationship "feel easy" or does it take work?</li> <li>When should I let a problem go and when should I bring it up?</li> <li>&amp; so much more!</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Tiktok⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Instagram⁠</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group)

64. 10 Tips for Dating in Your 20's

Have you ever been given an opportunity that felt like it wasn't meant for you? Do you doubt your abilities even when the people around you believe in you? In this episode, we explore:  why we get Imposter Syndrome who it's most likely to affect why it's not a bad thing what you can do to cope   Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Instagram (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Facebook Group (She Said What? Podcast Group)  Resources Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Journal

Have you ever been given an opportunity that felt like it wasn't meant for you? Do you doubt your abilities even when the people around you believe in you? In this episode, we explore: <ul> <li>why we get Imposter Syndrome</li> <li>who it's most likely to affect</li> <li>why it's not a bad thing</li> <li>what you can do to cope</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Tiktok</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Instagram</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Facebook Group</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group) Resources <a href="https://www.selfcared.com.au/products/tn-anti-anxiety-notebook?variant=42529741799609¤cy=AUD&amp;utm_medium=product_sync&amp;utm_source=google&amp;utm_content=sag_organic&amp;utm_campaign=sag_organic&amp;utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_term=&amp;device=c&amp;network=g&amp;placement=&amp;matchtype=&amp;campaign_id=18534443981&amp;ad_group_id=140792176734&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjws7WkBhBFEiwAIi1680cpb5sS3F34cadXCfekYtqmNlx8-JQD30UbhU2d95DTFqnRyuew_RoCx6EQAvD_BwE" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Journal</a>

63. Imposter Syndrome & Why We Shouldn't Avoid It

Whether you're feeling stuck sexually in your long term relationship or you're trying to navigate the early stages of a relationship, sex can be hard to talk about. This episode is going to give you the framework to be able to have the conversations that will enhance your sex life. We'll be talking about the must have's like consent, caution and communication; plus, we'll dive into the common issues like pain during sex and inability to orgasm with a partner.  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Instagram (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Facebook Group (She Said What? Podcast Group)  Resources: VUSH Curiosity Cues The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton &amp; Janet Hardy  Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Alis App (Sexual Archetype Quiz) Max Black Yes, No, Maybe List 

Whether you're feeling stuck sexually in your long term relationship or you're trying to navigate the early stages of a relationship, sex can be hard to talk about. This episode is going to give you the framework to be able to have the conversations that will enhance your sex life. We'll be talking about the must have's like consent, caution and communication; plus, we'll dive into the common issues like pain during sex and inability to orgasm with a partner. Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Tiktok</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Instagram</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Facebook Group</a> (She Said What? Podcast Group) Resources: <a href="https://au.vushstimulation.com/products/curiosity-cues" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">VUSH Curiosity Cues</a> <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-dossie-easton/book/9780399579660.html" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton &amp; Janet Hardy</a> <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/come-as-you-are-emily-nagoski/book/9781925106596.html?dsa=s1-east&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjwpuajBhBpEiwA_Ztfhbe5Tq8iFi5RT_pYupbRjy1q2HCa_2E3lYkKA_f_NBufdgSIAIWH7hoC1WMQAvD_BwE" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski</a> <a href="https://apps.apple.com/za/app/alis-intimate-wellness/id6443797471" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Alis App (Sexual Archetype Quiz)</a> <a href="https://maxblack.com.au/" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Max Black</a> <a href="https://sexwithemily.com/yes-no-maybe-the-list-every-relationship-needs" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Yes, No, Maybe List </a>

62. How to Grow an Amazing Sexual Relationship With a Partner

This episode is all about self pleasure and how we can grow in the intimacy that we share with our bodies. I'll be taking you through questions that will help you to unlearn the shameful BS that we are taught about sex. This episode will leave you feeling closer to your sexual self and excited to enjoy the pleasure that is available to you!  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Instagram (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Facebook Group (reflection questions found here)  Resources Self Pleasure Statistic Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski Alis App - Sexual Archetype Quiz 

This episode is all about self pleasure and how we can grow in the intimacy that we share with our bodies. I'll be taking you through questions that will help you to unlearn the shameful BS that we are taught about sex. This episode will leave you feeling closer to your sexual self and excited to enjoy the pleasure that is available to you! Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Tiktok</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Instagram</a> (@alyssataylorharper) <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Facebook Group</a> (reflection questions found here) Resources <a href="https://pisancantos43.medium.com/its-been-reported-nearly-1-and-7-women-have-never-masturbated-in-their-lifetime-while-95-of-men-e50fba7ede82#:~:text=Share-,%E2%80%9Cit's%20been%20reported%20nearly%201%20and%207%20women%20have%20never,%25%20of%20men%20don't." rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Self Pleasure Statistic</a> <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-emily-nagoski/book/9781982165314.html" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski</a> <a href="https://apps.apple.com/za/app/alis-intimate-wellness/id6443797471" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Alis App - Sexual Archetype Quiz</a>

61. How to Become Confident in Your Sexual Self

We've all had friends surprise us! Sometimes they come into our lives unexpectedly with aMAZiNg energy or they completely f*ck us over. This episode is going to help you get better at making the RIGHT friends.  Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok ⁠ ⁠Instagram ⁠ ⁠Facebook Group

We've all had friends surprise us! Sometimes they come into our lives unexpectedly with aMAZiNg energy or they completely f*ck us over. This episode is going to help you get better at making the RIGHT friends. Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Tiktok ⁠</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Instagram ⁠</a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">⁠Facebook Group</a>

60. Red Flags vs. Green Flags in Friendships

Some people kinda suck! But how you respond matters. In today's episode, you'll hear about:  dealing with difficult humans in the workplace, your family, your friend group, etc. 8 tips to being the bigger person, while standing your ground setting boundaries to avoid the BS   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group

Some people kinda suck! But how you respond matters. In today's episode, you'll hear about: <ul> <li>dealing with difficult humans in the workplace, your family, your friend group, etc.</li> <li>8 tips to being the bigger person, while standing your ground</li> <li>setting boundaries to avoid the BS</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Group</a>

59. How to Deal with Toxic People

If you want to find confidence in living as your authentic self, this podcast is for you. Whether you’re exploring your sexuality, growing into new beliefs or simply wanting to become the best version of yourself, Alyssa Harper (@alyssataylorharper) is here to empower you on your journey of self growth and exploration.Facebook Group: 'She Said What? Podcast Group'

Wellllll sh*t, things didn't work out. Lucky for you, we've all been there and it's going to be okay! In this weeks episode, we'll be talking:  the one thing you MUST do to get over your ex how to begin the healing process healthy &amp; unhealthy coping mechanisms the things that ACTUALLY help you move on   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group

Wellllll sh*t, things didn't work out. Lucky for you, we've all been there and it's going to be okay! In this weeks episode, we'll be talking: <ul> <li>the one thing you MUST do to get over your ex</li> <li>how to begin the healing process</li> <li>healthy &amp; unhealthy coping mechanisms</li> <li>the things that ACTUALLY help you move on</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Group</a>

58. Breakup Advice | Storytime & Listener Advice

Does money make you anxious? Are there habits you wish you didn't have when it comes to money? In this week's episode, we're talking:  money mindsets and where they come from "money stories" and what yours says about you healing your relationship with money understanding where your money goes &amp; creating a basic budget   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group  Resources: Up Bank

Does money make you anxious? Are there habits you wish you didn't have when it comes to money? In this week's episode, we're talking: <ul> <li>money mindsets and where they come from</li> <li>"money stories" and what yours says about you</li> <li>healing your relationship with money</li> <li>understanding where your money goes &amp; creating a basic budget</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Group</a> Resources: <a href="https://up.com.au/" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Up Bank</a>

57. Become Financially Abundant & Heal Your Relationship with Money

From moving across the world after high school to becoming a completely different person after I left my old beliefs... I've picked up a few things. To celebrate my 23rd birthday, this episode is 23 life lessons that I wish I knew sooner!  Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group  Resources Better Help

From moving across the world after high school to becoming a completely different person after I left my old beliefs... I've picked up a few things. To celebrate my 23rd birthday, this episode is 23 life lessons that I wish I knew sooner! Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Facebook Group</a> Resources <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/get-started/?go=true&amp;utm_source=AdWords&amp;utm_medium=Search_PPC_c&amp;utm_term=christian+therapy_b&amp;utm_content=136299119180&amp;network=g&amp;placement=&amp;target=&amp;matchtype=b&amp;utm_campaign=16794918456&amp;ad_type=text&amp;adposition=&amp;kwd_id=kwd-59246460&amp;gclid=Cj0KCQjw2v-gBhC1ARIsAOQdKY3kSihWjMrx67-ScsQRwRTeJW-ThGHdZHLiv7U9PqcY5OoGJxXrRaYaAvXiEALw_wcB¬_found=1&amp;gor=start" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Better Help</a>

56. 23 Life Lessons I Wish I Knew Sooner 

A lot of us are perfectionists! It's super common to feel this way and nothing to be ashamed of. But how might this be holding you back? What can you do to get out of the perfectionist mindset and go for what you want? If you relate with the following, this week's episode is for you:  you procrastinate following through on the things you're passionate about (ex. starting a creative project/business, changing career paths, going on a date)   you struggle to feel confident in your work, you often second guess yourself   you feel like you never quite meet the expectations/goals you have for yourself   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!  Resources The Anti-Anxiety Notebook (CBT Journal) Signs You May Be A Perfectionist How Perfectionism is Linked to Anxiety and Mental Health  The Relationship Between Cognitive Distortions and Adult Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

A lot of us are perfectionists! It's super common to feel this way and nothing to be ashamed of. But how might this be holding you back? What can you do to get out of the perfectionist mindset and go for what you want? If you relate with the following, this week's episode is for you: <ul> <li>you procrastinate following through on the things you're passionate about (ex. starting a creative project/business, changing career paths, going on a date)</li> </ul> <ul> <li>you struggle to feel confident in your work, you often second guess yourself</li> </ul> <ul> <li>you feel like you never quite meet the expectations/goals you have for yourself</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community! Resources <a href="https://shop.therapynotebooks.com/products/anti-anxiety-notebook?gclid=CjwKCAjwiOCgBhAgEiwAjv5whCgKSkyVfnir5mkskReDe_lAxW4Q1K8X1SM-hiZz-hhd4x4Z-arYpRoCCtYQAvD_BwE&amp;tw_adid=&amp;tw_campaign=16224086375&amp;tw_source=google" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">The Anti-Anxiety Notebook (CBT Journal)</a> <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-may-be-a-perfectionist-3145233" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">Signs You May Be A Perfectionist</a> <a href="https://share.upmc.com/2021/05/perfectionism-linked-to-anxiety/#:~:text=While%20not%20a%20psychological%20disorder,%2Dcompulsive%20disorder%20" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">How Perfectionism is Linked to Anxiety and Mental Health </a> <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10608-020-10115-2" rel="noopener noreferer nofollow" target="_blank">The Relationship Between Cognitive Distortions and Adult Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder</a>

55. How to Stop Being a Perfectionist

Do you have a hard time saying 'no'? Do you often match the energies around you, without considering how you're actually feeling? In this episode, we'll be chatting:   tips for the people pleasers and over achievers  self leadership for the anxious girly  how to set healthy boundaries (work, relationships, etc.)  how boundaries create space for creativity  creating authentically, following your passions  how people pleasing will steal your joy &amp; sense of purpose   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

Do you have a hard time saying 'no'? Do you often match the energies around you, without considering how you're actually feeling? In this episode, we'll be chatting:  <ul> <li>tips for the people pleasers and over achievers </li> <li>self leadership for the anxious girly </li> <li>how to set healthy boundaries (work, relationships, etc.) </li> <li>how boundaries create space for creativity </li> <li>creating authentically, following your passions </li> <li>how people pleasing will steal your joy &amp; sense of purpose </li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

54. How to Avoid Being a People Pleaser

Have you ever felt like it's hard to make friends? Have you ever struggled with self doubt in relationships, feeling like you're not good enough? Has social anxiety played a role in your life? If this sounds like you, then this episode is for you! In this episode, you're going to hear about:  how to make new friends how to manage social anxiety at a social event why community is so important how important it is for queer people to be in community &amp; more!   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

Have you ever felt like it's hard to make friends? Have you ever struggled with self doubt in relationships, feeling like you're not good enough? Has social anxiety played a role in your life? If this sounds like you, then this episode is for you! In this episode, you're going to hear about: <ul> <li>how to make new friends</li> <li>how to manage social anxiety at a social event</li> <li>why community is so important</li> <li>how important it is for queer people to be in community</li> <li>&amp; more!</li> </ul> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

53. How to Build Community & Genuine Friendships

Are you trying to figure out your sexuality but it's really scary and confusing? Understanding my sexuality was something I struggled with for years. I felt too straight to say I was LGBTQIA+ (because I knew I liked men) but too into women to say I was straight... turned out, I'm bi! This episode is 10 moments in my life that made me realize I'm not straight, since I'm often requested to talk about what it "feels like" to be bisexual.  Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

Are you trying to figure out your sexuality but it's really scary and confusing? Understanding my sexuality was something I struggled with for years. I felt too straight to say I was LGBTQIA+ (because I knew I liked men) but too into women to say I was straight... turned out, I'm bi! This episode is 10 moments in my life that made me realize I'm not straight, since I'm often requested to talk about what it "feels like" to be bisexual. Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

52. How I Realized I Wasn't Straight | 10 Tips from a Bisexual

We could all use a little more discipline... but not in a hustle culture kinda way, more in an accountability towards our passions kind of way. Because a lack of direction, crappy time management skills and a dash of imposter syndrome CAN genuinely hold you back from your dreams. You're not lazy! You're not stupid! You're not "not passionate enough" - you just need a little push (and some tips from yours truly)! In this episode, we talk about why discipline IS self love and how to find that healthy balance between 'the soft life' and the potential burnout that comes from hustle culture.   Resources Atomic Habits (book) Calendar App Structured App   Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

We could all use a little more discipline... but not in a hustle culture kinda way, more in an accountability towards our passions kind of way. Because a lack of direction, crappy time management skills and a dash of imposter syndrome CAN genuinely hold you back from your dreams. You're not lazy! You're not stupid! You're not "not passionate enough" - you just need a little push (and some tips from yours truly)! In this episode, we talk about why discipline IS self love and how to find that healthy balance between 'the soft life' and the potential burnout that comes from hustle culture.  Resources <a href="https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Atomic Habits</a> (book) <a href="https://apps.apple.com/au/app/week-calendar-smart-planner/id381059732" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Calendar App</a> <a href="https://apps.apple.com/au/app/structured-daily-planner/id1499198946" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Structured App</a> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

51. How To Become Disciplined (to create your DREAM LIFE)

I recently shared a Tiktok titled, '5 Myths About Sex That I Once Genuinely Believed' and you guys had so much to say about it (thoughts, questions, etc)! I thought, why not really dig into these points, share the stories that come along with them and have a chat about the things we all need to unlearn about sex! This is the sex advice I wish I had 6 months ago AND 6 years ago (theres something in here for everybody)!  Resources In The Flo - Alissa Vitti (book) Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski (book) Jen Winston (instagram) Greedy - Jen Winston (book)  Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

I recently shared a Tiktok titled, '5 Myths About Sex That I Once Genuinely Believed' and you guys had so much to say about it (thoughts, questions, etc)! I thought, why not really dig into these points, share the stories that come along with them and have a chat about the things we all need to unlearn about sex! This is the sex advice I wish I had 6 months ago AND 6 years ago (theres something in here for everybody)! Resources <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/in-the-flo-alisa-vitti/book/9780008327071.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">In The Flo - Alissa Vitti (book)</a> <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-emily-nagoski/book/9781982165314.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski (book)</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jenerous/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Jen Winston (instagram)</a> <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/greedy-jen-winston/book/9781982179175.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Greedy - Jen Winston (book)</a> Connect with Alyssa Harper <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

50. 7 Myths About Sex That I Once Genuinely Believed

Millie Gooch

In this episode, we are joined by Millie Gooch, founder of The Sober Girl Society and author of The Sober Girl Society Handbook! Millie has built a beautiful community for people who are sober and "sober curious" (a new term I'm obsessed with)! This episode is going to help you reflect on your relationship with alcohol, which is something we ALL could use. It's important to ask yourself why you drink; are you looking for confidence on the dance floor, momentarily dampening anxiety or potentially trying to escape? If there is even a part of you that feels this way, this episode is a shame free space for you to explore what changes you can make to heal your relationship with alcohol and more importantly, yourself (and no, this doesn't mean you must fully give it up). I'm so excited to share this idea of mindful drinking with all of you and for you to hear Millie's inspiring story!  Connect with Millie Website (shop book &amp; more) Instagram (@sobergirlsociety)  Connect with Alyssa Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

In this episode, we are joined by Millie Gooch, founder of The Sober Girl Society and author of The Sober Girl Society Handbook! Millie has built a beautiful community for people who are sober and "sober curious" (a new term I'm obsessed with)! This episode is going to help you reflect on your relationship with alcohol, which is something we ALL could use. It's important to ask yourself why you drink; are you looking for confidence on the dance floor, momentarily dampening anxiety or potentially trying to escape? If there is even a part of you that feels this way, this episode is a shame free space for you to explore what changes you can make to heal your relationship with alcohol and more importantly, yourself (and no, this doesn't mean you must fully give it up). I'm so excited to share this idea of mindful drinking with all of you and for you to hear Millie's inspiring story! Connect with Millie <a href="https://sobergirlsociety.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Website</a> (shop book &amp; more) <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sobergirlsociety/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram</a> (@sobergirlsociety) Connect with Alyssa <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssataylorharper?lang=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Tiktok </a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/?hl=en" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Instagram </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/608265770903306/?ref=share" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP  </a> This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

49. How Drinking Less Can Mean Living More | Interview w/ Millie Gooch from @sobergirlsociety

If you want to find confidence in living as your authentic self, this podcast is for you. Whether you’re exploring your sexuality, growing into new beliefs or simply wanting to become the best version of yourself, Alyssa Harper (@alyssataylorharper) is here to empower you on your journey of self growth and exploration. Facebook Group: 'She Said What? Podcast Group'

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