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If you’re of a curious disposition, have a positive outlook, are devoted to, or even have a passing interest in making yourself a little bit better (let’s set the bar low and aim for 1%) then I’m very hopeful you’ll enjoy listening to my podcast.

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If you’re of a curious disposition, have a positive outlook, are devoted to, or even have a passing interest in making yourself a little bit better (let’s set the bar low and aim for 1%) then I’m very hopeful you’ll enjoy listening to my podcast.

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About Self-Confidence & 9 Ways to Develop it! Me, mySELF, & EI Part 8 - EP169

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Hi again & welcome to the series on Emotional Intelligence.
In this one on Self-Confidence, I cover:
•0 – 8:10 – The Introduction and definitions on Self-confidence, Self-Efficacy and Self-Esteem
•8:10sec – Self-Confidence & Confidence – Same or different and inward v outward
•11:15 – The role of Self-Confidence in Emotional Intelligence - Am I taking a strong position?
•18:20 – The importance of Self-Confidence, Benefits & links to Happiness
•23:30 – People lacking Self-Confidence leave clues & low self-confidence
•28:30 - People with High Self-Confidence & taking on a positive view
•31:30 – 9 Approaches on How To Develop Greater Self-Confidence
Books mentioned:
•Emotional Intelligence – by Daniel Goleman
Links to follow:
•An Episode & Blog post that I put together about Self-confidence last year
•Podcast - https://robofthegreen.ie/episodes/confidenceuncovered-ep112/
•Blog - https://robofthegreen.ie/2019/05/27/confidence-uncovered/
•Overall Self-Confidence Deep Dive - https://positivepsychology.com/self-confidence/
•Self-Efficacy - self-efficacy
•Practice Perseverance -- http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/84/4/822/

If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.
Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

May 24 2020

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Paidi O'Reilly - 1% Better Live - Innovation, Mindsets, & 7 Year Cycles - EP168

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This was the first live in a while and the first where we had a decent audience over zoom.

Thanks to all that attended.

A brief outline of what we covered below. Enjoy the interview.

What was the most recent thing you’ve learned that has been useful?
What was your earliest memory?
What did / do you want to be when you GROW UP?
Growing up, who was your biggest influence?
Up to the age of say 18 – is there a standout moment / choice / decision you made – that worked out or regret? What is it?
PhD – Higher Ed – Was that a big decision?
Innovation:
Alexander Osterwalder’s myths of Innovation
Learned skill v born innovative
Tools that can be used in this area?
You and COVID19 – as an innovator, thinker, lecturer,

How has this challenged your thinking
How do you avoid common biases?
What has changed for you?
Mindset
Habits / Practices?
What’s not?
General Wrap up:

What is your superpower?
Kryptonite
Questions from audience

Connect with Paidi on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/paidioreilly/

May 21 2020

1hr 15mins

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Lorraine Shine - How to be Successful in the Interview Process? - EP167

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This one is definitely for the times we’re in where so many people are now back on the job marketing looking for work. It many cases, they have not had to ‘do up’ their CV/resume in a long time or have had to prepare for an interview either.

So, I thought it would be very worthwhile to have Lorraine Shine, Founder and CEO Career and Interview Success, to come on to the show and walk you through the entire process from start to finish.

Lorraine provides complete career management support from A-Z ranging from Career Direction/ Career Transition Coaching to the practicalities of CV updating and tailoring, Job Search Strategies and Interview skills.

While we tried to cover as much as we could in the time allotted, I’m sure you’ll still have some questions I didn’t ask. No worries. Lorraine’s details are at the end of the notes and how to connect in with her. We could also do a live Q&A follow up if that’s something of interest. Do get in touch.

Outlined below is the main sections and topics covered during the interview with Lorraine. I hope you find it useful and actionable.

About Lorraine & her coaching journey
•A bit about how you got into the field you’re now into?
•Your own journey to become an expert in this area
•A deep dive into the Self & Self-awareness
•Taking control of your own career and where you wanted to take it?
•Always focused on People
•Takeaways and learning from the coaching journey
•How Emotional Intelligence played an important part in her career
•Making the decision to go out on her own and set up her business

Key Point #1 – Get into the right physical & mental sides right
oThe importance of looking after yourself as you step into the job search process
oFocus on what is within your control – physically and mentally
oEnsure exercise is a daily priority
oMake sleep a key focus – even if you don’t have to commute or travel as much
oBuilding a routine is crucial
oBuild out a social media plan so you’re not being overwhelmed with too much information
oSetting yourself NOVID days
oMute WhatsApp Groups
oDelete Apps from your phones
oUse the Screen time reports
oSet competitions or gamify how little you spend on your social media tools
Key Point #2 – How to apply for positions and roles
•Make a simple plan for you
•Pick top 3 things – a level, industry, and website (where to go)
•Look at job websites that are relevant
•Set up email job alerts so you get updates daily based on these preferences
•Let your friends and family know you’re looking and specifying what you would consider in a role – they will be listening posts for you in your search
•Be specific in the information you share so they don’t make assumptions
•What are the best sites to look at?
oLinkedIn is the best – use this
•Don’t forget to tap into your network – ex-clients and colleagues
•Work on creating your daily of good connections / potential future colleagues
Key Point #3 – Getting the CV / Resume into good shape
•The CV hasn’t changed a lot over the last 18 years
•Job seekers are much more savvy in how they tailor their CV for a role and make them less generic
•It’s very easy to spot a generic CV – avoid this at all costs
•Look at the job spec and go through it with a close eye
•Spend time thinking about what the hiring manage might look for?
•Put yourself in their shoes!!!
•Only 20-30% stand out in general
•What is the recommended length of a CV? – depend on experience & role?
•What do employers regard as an impressive or stand out CV?
•What are the tactics to get your CV noticed?
•Cover letter? Or Cover Video?
•How to stand out?
•Cover letter that has graphics on it – showing skill levels in specific areas, etc
•Get someone else to do it for you?
•Consistent in font, size, structure – keep it simple, same font size, etc.
•Font size 10 is typical and only bold key responsibilities
•The recommended length of a CV – 2 pages or 4+ pages?
•This can depend on the amount of experience and you want to show case your experience
•How long should you wait for a response from an employer or agency?
o1 weeks for an agency
o2 weeks for an employer
•Try to keep in the positive mind frame even though you haven’t heard back!
•When following up, watch your tone, be very softly softly and just ensure you’re keeping communication lines open – ask a question if more information needed?

Key point #4 – Preparing for the interview – practice, questions, research!!

•Get as much information about the interview format as possible
•Review the job spec again and start to prepare questions you could get asked and create answers around this.
•Preparation – research on the company – what would you pick out? Not just spit back facts and figures…
•Know if it will be a behaviours or competency based interview?
•Use of the STAR method would be useful to prepare for
•Create scenarios
•Do mock interviews
•Get comfortable in the format of interview that will be held
•Don’t be afraid to ask for details of the format
•Be clear on examples that you have from previous experience
•Thinking through the experience you have and be clear on what the value was from it
•The ‘Tell me about yourself’ Interview Question? – it’s asked so much but so many struggles with it!
•Finding the balance on when to keep answers short and concise v longer and deeper responses
•Practice practice practice and create the environment if possible – do a mock interview with a coach
•Record the answers and listen back – this can be very powerful
•Asked about your biggest weakness? How to answer this…
•BE GENUINE and AUTHENTIC AT ALL TIMES
•What is the best way to approach competency/ behavioural type interview questions?
•What do candidates tend to fall down on at interviews?
•What skills and behaviours are highest priority for employers at the moment?

Key point #5 – closing remarks
•Don’t over relax at the end of the interview
•What questions you can ask depends on many factors
•Questions to ask in an interview?
•What works?
•In the interview – dealing with nerves / saying too much / too little?
•HAVE Questions prepared for your Interviewer – THIS IS KEY!
oA great opportunity to show your motivation and interest!
•Practice actively listening during the interview so you can ask useful questions
•Make it real time from the interview
•Researching on the interviewer before hand – knowing more about their background
•Researching on the company and how to answer questions on this?
Key point #6 – Interviews over Video conference?
•Interviewing from Home?
•A lot of companies are conducting interviews over phone and video conference at the moment. What’s the best way to prepare for these?
•Some people are comfortable already
•If not, prepare like you would for any other interview
•Ask for details of what is expected
•Practice over Zoom or Skype with a family member or Friend
•Ensure you have all the software installed and that they work
•Get more familiar with it beforehand – how you look and sound!
•Get clarity on the interview attire
•Have a backup way of connecting in – phone number, landline, etc

Key point #7 - After the interview:
•When do you follow up?
•Take time to make your own notes from the interview and make notes of questions, what you said, what you didn’t, how could it have gone better?
•Asking about the process
•How long do you leave it before checking?
•Connecting in on LinkedIn – yes/no?
•Send an email to the interviewer? Make sure it’s genuine?

Key takeaways
•Planning is crucial all the way through the process
•Put yourself in their shoes
•Look at different perspective
•Would I hire me?
•What key words and statements would stand out?
•What attitudes and behaviours should I show off!
•As a job seeker – do just one task each day – don’t get it all done at once!!!
•Keep a log of all the roles you’ve applied for, when, etc.
•Be very Planful!

Connect in with Lorraine
E-mail: lorraine@careerandinterviewsuccess.ie
Website: www.careerandinterviewsuccess.ie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lorraineshine/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/careerandinterviewsuccess
Twitter: @LorraineShine78

May 15 2020

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Dr. Tasha Eurich - Internal & External Self-Awareness & The Dinner of Truth - Me, mySELF, & EI Part 7 - EP166

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Tasha Eurich, Ph.D., is an Organisational Psychologist, researcher, and New York Times bestseller. She’s the author of two awesome books (Bankable Leadership and Insights) and her TED talks have been viewed in the tens of millions of times.
So, I was thrilled when she agreed to be a guest on the show. It was without a doubt one of my favorite conversations I’ve had in this entire podcasting learning journey so far. The timing was perfect too as it aligns up excellently with the Me, mySELF, & EI series as we continue to deep dive into the area of Self-Awareness.
The interview is absolutely packed with insights Tasha has discovered from her own career journey as well as from the research she’s done for her books and from her consulting and executive coaching practice that she’s been running for the last decade.
I could have written a small book from the notes I took during the edit of this one but here are some of the key points & takeaways:
•Earliest Memory from the age of 6 with her mother following her around and seeing how much of a positive impact business and leaders can make on the people's lives…
•Having a very clear moment of discovering her life purpose – thinking of business psychology – moved to NY and took a small summer school course – the heavens opened up – knew straight away this was it!
•The role of luck in success, with Hard work & paying attention!!
•The power of paying attention
•First book – Bankable Leadership from 2013 – codify what she learned about leadership!
•Key learning - finding the tension between making people happy v driving results – most leaders had a preference
oA cool parent leader
oA trail of dead bodies leader
oDoing dozens of research to see best leaders are good at both
•3 steps to becoming a better leader?
1.Knowing one's self
2.Picking one thing
3.Practicing every day!!
•First Ted talk focused on this and the self-awareness piece emerged
•The rise of Self-Awareness and why it’s become so important
1.Know thyself has been there forever – philosophy
2.Really on started in the last half of 1900 – but not good research is done on it
•Business leaders started to look at self-awareness more in the last decade to deal with the speed of change
•Leaders can’t rely on what got them where they are today
•Why Tasha believes Self-Awareness is the Meta skill of the 21st Leader….
•The deep focus on data and research
•Ted Talk on Self-Awareness….
1.What
2.Why
3.How to get more of it!

•2 Types of people – those who think they are v actually are?
•The most surprising finding – survey 300 people…T=the more people reflect, the more self-aware they’d be?
1.In truth, it showed the exact opposite – less self-aware?
•Question – is self-awareness actually good?
•Introspection is not bad, it’s the HOW it’s done is the issue
•95% of people believe they are self-aware, 10% are!
•How can people start doing things differently?
•Finding 50 people that didn’t start out as self-aware but improved self-awareness – what did they do?
1.The Paradox that arose – feeling confident but also knowing more they could learn!
2.Paradox – Confidence and Curiosity!
•Self-compassionate curiosity – like exploring space…. there is always more to know
•Key lesson – a braver but wiser mindset
•Be open to recalibrating the mindset!
•Don’t put pressure on yourself from 0 to 60 overnight
•Everyday Insights to improve Self-Awareness is the key
•What patterns were uncovered with the 50 people that were more self-aware?
1.None based on demographics
2.A belief in seeing themselves clearly
3.A commitment to improving themselves daily
•Data showed – people who introspected were more stress and less happy / less control
•The more you introspect, the greater the negative results.
•When coaching a CEO – talk to 30 people that they are connected to – this is important to be all-rounded and learning about this person
•Leaders now more than ever need to bring their whole self to the role
•Example of a senior leader with family pictures visible
•How to deal with the discomfort of bringing in the whole self…
•The initial reaction of learning the truth doesn’t predict how successful we will be
•The short fire walk leading to the puppies and rainbows
•It’s all about making the small changes on a daily basis
Key Tools:
1.Have an internal understanding of who they are – internal self-awareness / Inside out…
a.Thinking about yourself too deeply can lead us astray
b.Practice – a daily check-ins
Ask yourself 3 questions?
•What went well today?
•What did not go so well?
•How can I be smarter tomorrow?

2.Self-awareness external / outside in
Tool - The Dinner of Truth
Question – what do I do that is most annoying to you?
•Get the feedback from this and how valuable this can be
•Actionable feedback
•A great experience deepening relationship
•Never as bad as you would expect
•How this works?
•The tool of emotional labour
•Coherence is key

Questions from LinkedIn
•TIME – 39:15
•Moria O’Toole – How can people who are not self-aware but think they are complete a self-assessment accurately
1.Book on Emotional Intelligence – people’s level of EI has improved over last 15 years….these are self-reported scores..
2.Limitations in how we assess ourselves when things are socially desirable
3.We are often not the best judges!
4.Our own evaluations are important as is that of theirs..
5.Living with the paradox is important!
6.LIVE WITH IT!

•TIME 42:45
•JOHARI WINDOW – UNKNOWN TO ME AND OTHERS
1.In the Coronavirus situation
2.When a crisis happens – you can find out what these unknowns are
3.What have you learned and others
Connect in with Tasha
•It’s not about me, it’s about them
•The free quiz – get a high-level view of their own self-awareness
•How Self-Aware are you – www.Insight-quiz.com
•New Book in the works with the working title ‘when bad things happen’
•Advice - Trust the process and see where it ends up

Photo Credit - Elena Seibert

Please do get in touch with me on Rob@robofthegreen.ie if you have any questions or feedback.

May 08 2020

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Me,mySELF, & EI Part 6 - Self-Assessments & Emotional Capital Reports with John Broderick - EP165

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Hope you’re enjoying the series so far.

Up to now, we’ve covered a general primer on EI, an interview on SELF, and then 2 Parts on Self-Awareness (with another interview to come soon on this topic).

Now today – it’s all about self-assessment – and finding out what your EQ (score) or in this case the ECR is. It’s very important to get a baseline – where you’re at!!

My Guest is John Broderick, a Founding Director of Roche Martin Ltd.

John Broderick is a consulting psychologist with considerable experience in assessment, training, coaching and teaching in emotional intelligence assessment, leadership development and psychometrics.

He is a qualified trainer in a range of psychometric tools, the Emotional Capital Report (ECR) and ECR360, the MMPI-2, & NEO personality Inventory. Along with his Australian colleague and business partner, Dr Martyn Newman, he has spearheaded training in Emotional Intelligence, leadership and professional coaching in Ireland.

He is a founding Director of Roche Martin Ltd, a leadership development company. John has also worked for several years in third level counselling, research and development.

A registered member of the Psychological Society of Ireland and founder member of the Division of Counselling Psychology, he is also a member of the Coaching Psychology Group in PSI and the Irish branch of the Association For Coaching. 

I was delighted to sit with John when he was in Cork in February and talked about his own Emotional Intelligence Journey and deep dived into the area of psychometrics and how these are used in emotional intelligence and assessing clients.

Topics covered:

The use of psychometrics in counselling psychologist in his early career
First discovering emotional intelligence in around 2001
Finding EI making so much sense when understanding it
A lovely complement to personality testing work John was doing
The model John was focused on the Baron EQ-I measurement tool / survey on EI – published in 1997
Looking at the factors, apart from IQ, that is enabling people get on well in life and helping them to be successful
Understanding the value of EI assessments
Benefits of EI assessment tools
The magic of using a measurement tool in a coaching engagement
It’s all about standing back from your own experience and discussing the results
Looking at the different competencies from the Emotional Capital Report
Graphs from Psychometrics help create a conversation
Key areas to focus on:
Having a solid psychometric - ensure the assessment meets rigours testing
Can you as a coach open up areas of conversation using the results – The ECR gives you a language to explore areas
The Language of EQi wasn’t well applied to Leadership – this was the gap that John identified
Paying attention to Emotions in the workplace has a huge benefit leading to success
A new psychology of leadership using Emotional Capital
The ECR was normed on Business People
How the 10 competencies were selected for the ECR Report
What were the key competencies that distinguished (using 145 papers & 6 PhD thesis used) – rationalized from 20 down to 10 skills – these became the basis of the report
How to interpret the scores from an Emotional Capital Report
Dealing with the anxiety from any assessment or test
Key to remove this type of conversation – this is about what you are trying to achieve
Define what you want to achieve first and then look at the competencies
Train coaches to build a conversation with a Coachee before seeing any result
Identify what are the areas of opportunity before looking at the scores/competencies
This is key – work on these first and then look at the report and see if there is a mapping (as it relates to the benchmark to others!!!!)
Eg – self-reliance – what does this look like when working well? –
Is this serving me well or working against me?
High scores can be just as much a deficit as low scores?
Take it back to what I’m trying to achieve….not about getting the high scores in every area!
These are skills that can be developed – paying attention to these and practicing them you will grow!
Eg – Relationships skills….high but don’t back themselves…
This can be challenging – relations
Empathy – being in the other person’s shoes
Improving and measuring Empathy?
Tuning into the emotions and actions of others
Being sensitive, and understanding the other persons experience
Empathy is the glue of relationships
What does low empathy look like? Not tuning in
Empathy and Self-awareness connected
Counselling psychologists are trained to listen
Building rapport, listening, and acknowledge other people
Being Genuinely curious about the other person’s experience
How can we show improved Empathy – measurement
Company engagement scores?
How engaged are employees?
Tracking the Pulse of the employees and customers
The Sky Study with RocheMartin – focusing on empathy
The Billion Dollar mistake – training for IQ!!
Emotional Intelligence underpinned by Trust
Any patterns emerging from ECRs that show skills that are lower than others?
Empathy and Relationships skills tended to be lower
Taking the ECR and when would they take it again?
Key to take the ECR and put the action plan into practice
Changing the brain is the key piece of work to be done!
Encouraging the client to create the plan
Action, Reflection and Action, Reflection
Website – www.rochemartin.com

If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.

Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

Apr 30 2020

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Me, mySELF, & EI Part 5 - Why Self-Awareness is Important & How to Develop it? - EP164

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Hi again & welcome to the series on Emotional Intelligence.

0 mins to 7:30 mins – Why it’s important and Benefits
7:30 mins to 12:30 mins – Why it’s so hard to be self-aware?
12:30 mins – 21.30 min – Concepts of interests
20:30 min – 28 min – Self-Awareness Examples
28 mins to 53 min – How to Develop Self-Awareness
53 mins to close – Wrap up
Books mentioned:

Emotional Intelligence – by Daniel Goleman
Tasha Eurich - Insights
Links to follow:

study
confirmation bias
Other Ways to increase Self-awareness – from article https://nickwignall.com/self-awareness/
https://hbr.org/2018/01/what-self-awareness-really-is-and-how-to-cultivate-it
Emotional Capital Report - https://www.rochemartin.com/tools/emotional-capital-report-ecr/
https://coachcampus.com/coach-portfolios/power-tools/corina-pall-self-awareness-vs-self-consciousness/
Kahneman – Self-awareness - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XgRlrBl-7Yg
If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.

Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

Apr 30 2020

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Me, mySELF, & EI Part 4 - Self-Awareness: The Foundation of Emotional Intelligence - EP163

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Hi again & welcome to the series on Emotional Intelligence.

Hope you’ve enjoyed the intro and the discussion on self with Zelda.

Now that we’ve got Self covered, (go back and listen if you haven’t), I feel more clear on the discussion around awareness as it relates to self & the idea of emotional awareness.

Psychologist Daniel Goleman proposed a popular definition of self-awareness in his best-selling book “Emotional Intelligence,” as “knowing one’s internal states, preference, resources, and intuitions.”

In this episode, I cover the following key areas (with some rough timings).

0 mins to 3mins - Intro
3 mins to 6:40 mins – Extracts from books and articles
6:40 mins to 13 mins – What is Self-Awareness
13 mins to 18:30 mins – Examples of Self-Awareness
18:30 mins to 25 mins – Awareness v Self-Awareness
25 mins to 35:45 mins – Self-Consciousness
Books mentioned:

21 rules for the 21st century – Yuval Noah Harrari
Emotional Intelligence – by Daniel Goleman
If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.
Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

Apr 30 2020

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Me, mySELF, & EI Part 3 - Understanding at 'The Self' with Dr. Zelda Di Blasi - EP162

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Hi again & welcome to the series on Emotional Intelligence.

As I was putting together the outline of all the areas of focus for this series, it became obvious that before going into self-awareness, self-confidence and all other aspects of ‘self’, it would be valuable to dive into what is ‘self’ in it’s own right. To have self understood first before going further was my goal with this episode.
Thanks for John McCarthy, head of Applied Psychology at UCC, I was connected with Dr. Zelda Di Blasi, and we recently recorded this one over zoom, all about ‘Self’.
About Dr. Di Blasi
Dr Zelda Di Blasi, MPsychSc, PhD, CPsychol (BPS) is co-director of the MA in Positive & Coaching Psychology. After completing her Masters in Health Psychology at University College Galway, founded by the Medical Research Council, Zelda completed her PhD/DPhil in Health Sciences at the University of York on the placebo effect and health care interactions.

Her interest in Positive Psychology evolved during her Post-Doctorate in Integrative Medicine and Health Psychology, when Zelda worked with Professor Susan Folkman at the University of California San Francisco (UCSF). A that time, she received a Teaching Fellowship  from UCSF and San Francisco State University.

In 2006 Zelda took up her appointment as lecturer in the School of Applied Psychology in UCC, and later set up a Masters programme in Positive & Coaching Psychology, which she currently co-directs.
Zelda has diplomas in Contemporary Yoga and Modern Dance, and an Advanced Diploma in Personal, Leadership and Executive Coaching accredited by the ICF and the EMCC. She is a certified Health & Wellness Coach with the Institute of Health Sciences, a HeartMath Coach/Mentor, and a Strengths Provider with CAPP (Centre of Applied Positive Psychology).  
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During this interview we discussed:
Zelda’s background in Psychology and teaching
Doing her PhD on the placebo effect
How she discovered her interest for Psychology at the age of 18 and falling in love with the area
Zelda’s interest and passion for learning including Yoga, Mindfulness and Modern Dance and how this all connects in with the Mind, Body and Spirit
What is ‘the self’ and how does it develop?
Finding the answer to the question ‘who am I?’
How does ‘the self’ influence how we think
When is it formed?
Breaking down the self – what is it made up of?
The mirror test with a baby to show a sense of self has developed
Why we use it so naturally without thought?
Identity v Self – crossovers and comparisons
Self is more at the marco level
History of the self?
William James the first professor of psychology
Schools of Thought on it?
The role of Ego and how it compares to Self?
Value of Self-esteem, compassion and empathy
Emphasis on self-compassion more than self-esteem
The Self and spirituality
Is Self an Illusion? Or is it real?
Ted Talks worth checking out on Self
Christine Neff - The space between self-compassion and self-esteem
Daniel Gilbert – Talk on Happiness – affective forecasting
Biases that exist on self
the illusion of transparency – eg presenting and anxious about this – we are over estimating what others see in us
the spotlight effect – eg you feel like you’re on stage and with a spotlight on you – but the fact is people aren’t looking at you in that way – the cool v nerdy t-shirt example
Affective forecasting – what you think will make you happy or unhappy – turns out we are not very good
Durability bias – how will you feel if you get a promotion at work? How long will this feeling last? Not that long….for some more than others
Just being aware of these biases helps and focusing on the present!
How to get a better sense of self in the world we live in now?
Tools that you can use to better understand Self
The Best Possible Self?
4 days visualizing what this looks like for you
10 mins a day
Do it in a real relaxed space
Connect with the feeling
What comes up and what the image is?
What your dream or ideal self looks like?
Then devise the steps to take to get there!
Visualization tools & Vision boards
Taking one small step at a time
The value of journaling each day helps to learn more about self
6 minute journal
Morning pages (30mins)
The home retreat you have now!
Random acts of kindness
What Zelda is working on now – the Book on Pleasure!
How to Connect in with Zelda – email: diblasi@ucc.ie
If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.
Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

Apr 30 2020

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Me, mySELF, & EI part 2 - Why is Emotional Intelligence Important, High Performance & the Ego! - EP161

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Hi again & welcome to the series on Emotional Intelligence.

In this episode, I cover the following key areas (with some rough timings).

0 mins to 3min Why is EI Important
3 mins to 20 mins – Applied EI & Examples
20 mins to 23:40 – EQ and High Performance
23:40mm – 31:51 – EQ, Ego and Leadership
31 min to 45mins – How to develop EQ samples and Wrap up
Links to pieces references:
Books mentioned:

From the Book Ego v EQ - How Top Leaders Beat 8 Ego Traps with Emotional Intelligence – Jen Shirkani
If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.
Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

Apr 30 2020

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Me, mySELF, & EI part 1 - What is Emotional Intelligence? - EP160

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Welcome to Me, mySELF, & EI - a podcast series helping you better understand, control & develop your emotions, and the emotions of others! 

In this series introduction episode, I cover the following with rough timings:

0m to 11m –Why release a podcast on Emotional Intelligence
11m – 14m – The Story of Phinus Gage
14m to 16:30m – What is EI & EQ?
16:30m to 21:20m – Science of EI
21:20m to 26:31m – EI Frameworks
26:30m to 29:25m – IQ v EQ
Links to pieces references:

5W Public Relations, 
Emotional intelligence
Books mentioned:

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
From the Book Ego v EQ - How Top Leaders Beat 8 Ego Traps with Emotional Intelligence – Jen Shirkani
If you’re interested in more details on what was covered in this episode, would like to explore your own Emotional Intelligence deeper, I’d be happy to discuss this further and look at coaching opportunities.
Please do get in touch via email at Rob@robofthegreen.ie or connect in over any of the social channels - @robofthegreen

Apr 30 2020

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