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Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen

Do you have a child, teen, or young adult who identifies as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer? Do you feel alone in your effort to support them on their journey or navigate your own? Heather Hester from Chrysalis Mama is here to transform the conversation around loving and raising an LGBTQ+ teenager. In the three+ years since her son embraced his sexual identity as a young gay man, Heather and her family have felt every emotion, and have experienced dozens of situations ranging from heartwarming and humorous to terrifyingly life-threatening. She and her husband initially felt alone and overwhelmed, moving her to want to support others traveling a similar path. She desires to discuss taboo topics and erase stigmas surrounding the coming out process and parenting an LGBTQ+ teen. Heather's approach is based on four pillars - to Embrace, Educate, Empower, and Love - and most of all, to reinforce to all LGBTQ people, their families, and their allies that they are not alone!

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How to Respond to Biphobia and 5 Common LGBTQ+ Myths

039 - In this episode, Heather discusses biphobia and the five most common LGBTQ+ myths. Like transphobia, biphobia is common in both the heterosexual community and the LGBTQ+ community, making it exponentially more isolating and difficult to combat. Heather shares facts and ways that we all can be good allies and advocates.She also shares the five most common LGBTQ+ myths and easy responses when you are faced with these myths.1. Being LGBTQ+ is a choice.2. Being LGBTQ+ can be "cured."3. The parents did something wrong.4. The Bible condemns being LGBTQ+.5. Being LGBTQ+ is contagious.Here are the links she talks about in this episode:Trevor ProjectDetailed definition of BiphobiaRobin Ochs websiteBisexual Index - BiphobiaBisexual Index - BisexualityStrong Family AllianceBisexuality 101Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Contact Heather directly at hh@chrysalismama.com Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HEREReviewing Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!  Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

21mins

2 May 2021

Rank #1

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The Magic of Mindfulness - An Interview with Andrew Jordan Nance

038 - In this episode, Heather interviews Andrew Jordan Nance, founder of Mindful Arts San Francisco whose mission is to provide literary and arts-based mindfulness instruction to youth at underserved San Francisco schools. He has been an educator for over 25 years and is the author of four mindfulness books. Mindfulness is such a valuable practice for all human beings, and Heather has found it particularly helpful the past four years. Andrew shares practical advice on cultivating a mindfulness practice, as well as engaging stories and examples throughout the interview. A few of the topics include:* Understanding mindfulness as connection with the mind, heart, and the body.* Responding wisely vs. reacting blindly* Incorporating mantras such as: Today may I be kind. Today may I be focused. Today may I be curious. Here are links to Greater Good Science Center and Mindful Schools.Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Contact Heather directly at hh@chrysalismama.com Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!  Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

1hr 22mins

13 Apr 2021

Rank #2

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What Your Non-Binary Teen Wishes You Knew - An Interview with Rae McDaniel

037 - In this episode, Heather interviews Rae McDaniel, founder of the online coaching community, The Gender Fck Club (awesome resources here), as well as Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago.  They have been featured in The New York Times, Refinery29, and Women's Health. Rae ultimately believes that gender transitions can be an exciting time filled with exploration and self-discovery. They are on a mission to build a world where gender transitions are celebrated just like having a baby, landing a new job, or getting married. Rae shares:* Their experience of coming out as queer to unsupportive parents in rural Louisiana, and their journey to finding a supportive community.* What it means to be transgender and non-binary, including a primer on trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum.* Their advice to parents who want to be supportive but are afraid of making a mistake.* How your teen can find joy in their transition amid the reality that they may face rejection.**HUGE apologies for the poor quality of the initial intro - hang on for the 20 seconds or so, it gets better!** Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Contact Heather directly at hh@chrysalismama.com Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by: Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education! Remember that you are not alone on this journey!   Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

56mins

30 Mar 2021

Rank #3

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A Substance Use Primer - An Interview with Richard Capriola

036 - In this episode, Heather interviews Richard Capriola, author of The Addicted Child: A Parent’s Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse. Richard has over two decades of experience working with adults and adolescents diagnosed with substance abuse disorders. The book includes an explanation of how drugs work in the teen brain, warning signs every parent should know about, what assessments and tests are important for a diagnosis, and much more. This interview is a great primer for substance use and abuse!Click HERE to visit Richard's website for more information.Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Contact Heather directly at hh@chrysalismama.com Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!  Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

43mins

16 Mar 2021

Rank #4

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Tips for Responding to Non-Affirming or Unsupportive Family and Friends

035 - Heather responds to a listener's question about how to handle someone who is non-affirming with a tip and example-filled "101" episode. She discusses the importance of word choice, gives several general tips, and three detailed examples based on the listener's situation, how to respond to a Christian family member or friend, and how to handle those who are homophobic.Heather references three powerful resources:Queer TheologyNathanial Totten Green blogletter on PFLAGClick HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Contact Heather directly at hh@chrysalismama.com Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey! Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

20mins

6 Mar 2021

Rank #5

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Hard Days Suck

034 - This short episode packs a punch! Heather candidly shares some recent experiences and her thoughts on hard days, as well as the serendipitous discovery of an article by one of her favorite thought leaders, Brene Brown. HERE is a link to Ms. Brown's website and HERE is a link to one of her podcasts, Unlocking Us.Heather also shares a mini-lesson on self-compassion, using an incredible resource from Positive Psychology as a guide. HERE is a helpful daily checklist!Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!   Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

12mins

17 Feb 2021

Rank #6

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A Gay Man's Guide to Life - An Interview with Britt East

033 - In this episode, Heather interviews author and speaker, Britt East. While Britt's book, "A Gay Man's Guide to Life," is written for gay men by a gay man - it is an engaging, informative read that really sheds light on understanding gay men for those of us who are raising one!Heather and Britt discuss societal homophobia, sustainable gay friendships, hook-up apps, and so much more! Britt offers meaningful advice for those of us who love and/or are raising LGBTQ kids: "When you ask 'What can I do?' ask instead, 'Who can I be?'"In one of the most powerful segments, Heather and Britt  discussed the importance of modeling our humanity, "...find a path to set down your trauma and heal so they can witness that healing in you, and thereby heal part of themselves..."To gain a better understanding of the LGBTQ+ experience, Britt recommends brushing up on your LGBTQ history. Here are a few books to get you started:The Gay AgendaThe Book of PrideThe Right Side of HistoryLearn more about Britt HEREClick HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Heather also announced her forthcoming online course, Learning to Just Breathe! Click HERE for more information.Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!   Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

1hr 3mins

2 Feb 2021

Rank #7

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The Daily Roller Coaster of Parenting an LGBTQ Teen

032 - In this episode, Heather responds to a listener's request for more information on changes during the coming out process. She approaches her answer from two angles: 1. reviewing the stages of the coming out process2. sharing specific instances from her family's experience Connor and Steve weigh in as well with thoughtful responses from two very different perspectives. Click HERE for Heather's Coming Out Process Cheat Sheet!Heather also announced her forthcoming online course, Learning to Just Breathe! Click HERE for more information.Do you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!   Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

26mins

19 Jan 2021

Rank #8

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How Do Hard Times Help Us Heal? An Interview with Kevin Nahai

031 - In this episode, Heather interviews life coach Kevin Nahai. Faced with extraordinary mental health and physical health challenges as a teen and young adult, Kevin tried many paths before digging into and healing the roots of his struggles. Through his journey, he created his own approach and methodology for whole-body wellness.  He is now a coach for young adults working with them on:* self-esteem and confidence* body image* anxiety and depression* dating and relationshipsHis quest is bridging the gap between what we know in our heads and feel in our hearts.Kevin shares so many wonderful nuggets that can help all of us on our journeys!You can find Kevin through Instagram @KevinNahaiDo you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERENEW!! Refer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey!    Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

1hr 25mins

5 Jan 2021

Rank #9

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How To Be A Good LGBTQ Ally

030 - In this episode, Heather shares seven tips for being a good ally and why being a good ally to your Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Queer loved one is so important. 1. Be a good listener2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but do your own research3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable4. Speak up5. Support equality6. Learn the language7. Offer financial support if you are ableResources mentioned in the episode:GLSEN - www.glsen.orgThe Trevor Project - www.thetrevorproject.orgSAGE - www.sage.orgHow to be an LGBTQ Ally - Next AvenueLGBTQ Ally Tips - UCDavis LGBTQIA Resource CenterWays to be an LGBTQ Ally and Supporter - Oprah MagazineBeing an Ally - Youth for ChangeWhat a Good LGBTQ Ally Looks Like - VoxTerminology glossaries - Human Rights Campaign, Lambda Legal, The Trevor Project, PLFAGThe Genderbread PersonDo you LOVE Just Breathe? Receive new episodes as soon as they launch, as well as Heather's monthly newsletter Small Exhales and other fabulous resources by:Signing up for her email list HERESharing your feedback HERERating Just Breathe HERERefer friends and family for awesome rewards HEREConnecting through Instagram and Facebook (@chrysalismama) and Twitter (@chrysalismama1)Bookmarking her website as your go-to for LGBTQ education!Remember that you are not alone on this journey! Support the show (https://paypal.me/ChrysalisMama?locale.x=en_US)

20mins

8 Dec 2020

Rank #10