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From Betrayal To Breakthrough

The betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, etc. can create physical, mental and emotional challenges. If left unhealed, it impacts us personally and professionally. The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast shares insights from the best therapists, coaches, healers, thought leaders and everyday people, combined with the findings of a recent Ph.D. study on betrayal to help you move forward and heal...once and for all.

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047: When Vows Are Shattered: A Betrayer's Story w/ Tim Tedder

Tim Tedder entered into an affair sixteen years into his marriage and was equally as surprised by his actions as those closest to him. Tim decided to take a good look in the mirror to understand exactly how he had gotten to that place internally, as well as within part of a team. What he found was a lack of vulnerability and honesty, which he has since harnessed into a counseling career to help others avoid the regret that he has experienced. Get ready for a brand new perspective as we go inside the mind of a betrayer to gain an understanding of why someone betrays, what an affair looks like from a betrayers standpoint, and how to be honest with the mess that you have made to move on either as a couple or individually. Tim opens up about the shifting inner dialogue he had with himself that lead to his infidelity, signs that a betrayer is ready to change and heal versus one that has no intention to change, and how to gain peace of mind knowing that your partner's decisions weren't about you. Even in the worst situations, Tim believes that healing can still be possible as long as both people are willing to put in the work. By working with a counselor such as Tim you can navigate the road bumps of living with someone day in and day out, and learn how to work through change instead of shutting down. It is time to take responsibility for your actions and create a context where you can be truly open and vulnerable with your partner and with yourself. Tim is living proof that with enough awareness and an openness to healing, it is possible to learn from betrayal and move forward. Let us know how infidelity has impacted your relationship with marriage in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Gain an understanding as to why someone betrays and the steps taken to get there Being honest about how you need to change and grow as a person and a couple Indicators that your partner is not willing to do the necessary work to heal with you Forgiving yourself for the underserved blame you may receive from your partner An exploration of insights and changes that may lead a betrayer towards healing Quotes “Friends and people around me said, ‘hey maybe that's what you should do, you should be a counselor to help people get through things in a different way than you did’. So low and behold here I am.” (5:19) “In my mind, I was creating this space for the possibility [to cheat] instead of stepping into my marriage in an honest and vulnerable way.” (8:19) “Putting the blame on her was undeserved. And I wish more wives could hear that with greater clarity sooner.” (11:38) “Although we would never want someone to experience an affair, we are very thankful for what it caused in our life because of the choices we made afterward.” (20:57) “I want to be that person that can step into another person's life and help them make sense of things before they experience the regret that I did.” (30:43) Links Visit the Special Affair Healing Breakthrough Page Here Affair Healing Website Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/47 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

35mins

8 Apr 2019

Rank #1

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003: How Betrayal Can be Traumatizing and How to Heal From It w/ Dr. Sidney Cohen

Dr. Sidney Cohen has 35 years of experience helping couples work through betrayals. Whether it is rebuilding or moving on, Dr. Sidney has seen it all when it comes to ways that both the betrayer and the betrayed can act. Today he is sharing his wealth of knowledge around the significant variables that can play a role in betrayal and healing. By measuring the tolerableness of a betrayal, focusing on healing one day at a time and making a healing commitment to yourself, It is possible to get your pain to a more manageable level so that you can begin to heal. Learn why you can’t rush forgiveness, why self-comfort is important to mental health and what to do when you have no closure, plus more. It is important to remember the courage and resilience that we all have inside of us. With the right tools, resources and a plan, you can bounce back from this betrayal and find healing and change. Let us know your thoughts about Dr. Sidney’s discussion in the comments section on the episode page! In This Episode Common examples of betrayal Dr. Sidney comes across on a regular basis Essential things the betrayer needs to do in order to create healing Why the betrayed has the right to decide the length of time healing takes Getting past shame and embarrassment to find self-comfort The role psychotherapy can play in cases of betrayal Quotes “The definition that I use is any significant feeling of let down by someone or something important to you, based on what you believed you had the right to believe they would never do to you.” (1:42) “If the betrayal feels tolerable to the person that has been betrayed, then I get a sense that there is room for healing.” (7:33) “If the betrayer really means business about doing what they cant to create the healing that can allow the betrayed person to feel that they really can open up their hearts again, that's what it behooves the betrayer to do.” (13:41) “Needs are human, and we are all human. However, in the face of still feeling the pain and the psychological torment of being betrayed, to give into those needs, while its human, it can also be something that the betrayed come to regret.” (22:24) “As much as anything that the betrayed can gain out of therapy and the rest of the support they gain is a realization that they are still very much worthwhile, very much still loveable” (31:45) Links Your Self Sabotaging Inner Bully Follow Dr. Sidney and watch the Dr. Sid Show on Facebook Dr. Sidney’s Website Check out the full show notes for this episode Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough Follow Dr. Debi Silber on Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | LinkedIn

36mins

30 Nov 2018

Rank #2

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002: Betrayal: What it is and Why it Hurts w/ Dr. Debi Silber

Betrayal is defined as: “A violation of a person's trust or confidence.” I define it as the deliberate breaking of a spoken or unspoken rule within a relationship. The more we trust and are dependent upon the person who breaks the rules, the greater the harm, the deeper the hurt, and the bigger the betrayal. For example, let’s take a child who completely trusts and depends on their parent. If that parent does something abusive or harmful, that’s going to have a bigger impact then, let’s say, a co-worker who takes credit for your idea. They’re both betrayals because a trust has been violated, but they won’t have the same impact. Betrayal can have many faces. What follows are just a few examples. About From Betrayal To Breakthrough: The betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, etc. can create physical, mental and emotional challenges. If left unhealed, it impacts us personally and professionally. Host, Dr. Debi Silber introduces The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast which will be sharing insights from the best therapists, coaches, healers, thought leaders and everyday people, combined with the findings of a recent Ph.D. study on betrayal to help you move forward and heal...once and for all. Links: Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough Follow Dr. Debi Silber on Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | LinkedIn

10mins

28 Nov 2018

Rank #3

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026: Turning from Sorrow into Sunshine w/ Suzanne Borelli

Often we define ourselves by our relationships, so when they crumble, we are left unsure how to rebuild everything around us. Suzanne Borelli experienced her own marital trauma and has worked every day to put aside her negative self-esteem to turn around her life for the better. Now in the best state of her life, Suzanne was a member of my ‘Fab 14’ Ph.D. study, and her contributions helped unveil discoveries around how women deal with betrayal. Today Suzanne is opening up about how she picked up the pieces, why you should make sure to put yourself on the list, and the importance of self-awareness, plus so much more. Our betrayal does not define who we are or our future, and Suzanne is all about taking micro steps towards creating a better situation for yourself. Through her experience, Suzanne has become passionate about helping other women process their own grief and come out swinging on the other side. An advocate for prioritizing self-care, focusing on being thankful and taking note of your daily actions to improve yourself, Suzanne is a bright light and inspiring example. Have you experienced a betrayal similar to Suzanne's? Let us know in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode The three discoveries made during the ‘Fab 14’ study Creating a new set of your own rules after betrayal The difference between a post-betrayal transformation and post-betrayal syndrome Why your biggest crisis can reveal your greatest gift Doing something for yourself every single day to make you feel better Quotes “If I could be of service and if I could help other women with the same struggle, I really wanted to be a part of that” (2:58) “I realized that the pain of staying where I was stuck, that pain was much stronger than any of the pain of trying to experience something new” (8:43) “I feel like my loved ones get a better version of me if I have self-care every day” (14:42) “I was very mindful of okay, this has happened, how can I conquer this or how can I work with this?” (20:43) “Part of this experience has rebirthed me or woken me up and I just feel really happy and lucky” (24:37) Links Feeling Fantastic Today Feeling Fantastic Today on Facebook | Email Check out the full show notes for this episode Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough Follow Dr. Debi Silber on Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | LinkedIn

29mins

24 Jan 2019

Rank #4

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058: Catching a Cheater and Divorce w/ Susan Guthrie & Rebecca Zung

Stuck in divorce drama, trauma or chaos? Susan Guthrie and Rebecca Zung join me today to share how you can step into your life of freedom, possibility, prosperity, and purpose. Cofounders of Breaking Free Mediation, nationally recognized family lawyers, and divorce champions in their own regard, Susan and Rebecca are experts in all things divorce. Together they are revolutionizing the conversation around divorce through the use of mindfulness practices to help divorcing couples separate peacefully. The decisions you make during this chaotic time will affect all the things that mean the most to you going forward, and Susan and Rebecca are here to provide helpful ways that you can mediate your divorce and find a relationship that is serving you instead. Learn the physical and emotional chaos that can be created by divorce, how to gain clarity during divorce limbo, and why you need to perceiver through the confusion to find your calm. Instead of focusing on the injustice of your divorce betrayal, Susan and Rebecca are providing tools to help you focus on the power and freedom of the future that you now have. Susan, Rebecca and I are real-life examples of this transition in life and the ability to come out of the other side having learned how to survive and thrive. Are you struggling with getting through the rough waters of divorce, or have you come out of the other side of divorce a changed person? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Integrating mindfulness into the divorce process to make rational decisions Signs that your marriage might be in trouble and the three deadly sins of divorce Getting information and arming yourself with the knowledge to combat divorce limbo Examples of divorce betrayal and the possibility of transformative inspiration Ways to help your children deal with divorce betrayal at any age and find healing Quotes “It all comes down to, in the end, lying, or the not telling the truth, and it is sort of the death by a million cuts I always think.” (5:31) - Susan “It just started occurring to me in my practice that there were, what I call the 3 deadly sins of marriage. Which I call the 3 A’s, abuse, addiction, and adultery.” (8:04) - Rebecca “We know what it is like to be in a relationship that doesn't empower, but it doesn't mean that there is no hope of ever being in a relationship that empowers, it is definitely possible.” (13:41) - Rebecca “The mindfulness aspect helps them to both manage the current emotions that are all negative but also set an intention and visualize where you are going to go.” (17:01) - Susan “Yes you are going to go through this divorce limbo, you are going to sail the rough seas, but that's really what the best you ever retreat is about. It's also the door to an opportunity to create that new future.” (21:32) - Susan “If you are just sitting there spinning around in that morass of emotions of, I don't want this, this shouldn't be happening to me, it's not fair, we hear all of those things. And that is the space that it is really important to help our clients get beyond.” (26:10) - Rebecca Links Free 5 minute Healing Meditation Breaking Free Mediation Website B.Y.E. Divorce Retreats Website Breaking Free: A Modern Divorce Podcast Breaking Free Ep 6: Dr. Debi Silber Breaking Free A Step by Step Divorce Guide by Rebecca Zung Register for Rebeccas Divorce Masterclass Here Rebecca Zung Website Divorce In A Better Way Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/58 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

33mins

16 May 2019

Rank #5

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038: When Betrayals Become Blessings w/ Renee Richetto-Grul

Renee Richetto-Grul was betrayed by her entire community because they didn’t believe what she knew to be true. After years of sickness, recreating her life and discovering medical cannabis, Renee is finally understanding her body and creating the life she deserves. Now a holistic cannabis practitioner and functional medicine health coach, Renee is sharing her story about how alternative treatments lead to betrayal, and also saved her life. If you have ever been curious about how medical cannabis works or are ready for an inspiring story about turning your life around when everyone has betrayed you, this episode is for you. Renee is getting real about what it is like to be left totally alone, being truly ready to forgive, and changing your life for the better. Has medical cannabis played a role in your healing journey after betrayal? Let us know in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode How baking soda and apple cider vinegar helped Renee understand cancer Becoming ready to forgive by setting boundaries Why energy drinks may be slowly killing your adrenals The benefits of medical cannabis and their ability to help heal Understanding and being open to alternative methods of healing Quotes “I was elated to have to potentially have an answer as to why I was so sick. And I contacted my family and I was told, ‘Renne that's not what's wrong with you’” (13:02) “One of the most difficult things for me is if somebody doesn't believe me. I almost take extra efforts to ensure a person and I are on the same page” (18:51) “People when they say ‘you are here for a reason, you are here for a reason’ and that's very true. My faith really got me through this” (20:17) “Without a doubt, our bodies were created by our heavenly father for the use of medical cannabis” (26:24) Links PhKillsCancer.com Simply Orchestrated LLC Website Check out the full show notes for this episode Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough

28mins

7 Mar 2019

Rank #6

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027: 10 Steps to Cope with Betrayal w/ Dr. Debi Silber

When we think of trauma, we often think of tragic accidents, natural disasters, the death of a loved one or a frightening diagnosis. These situations rock us to our core, shatter us as well as everything we’ve counted on. Yet, there’s another type of trauma that can rock us as well and it happens when those we’ve trusted and/or were dependent upon betray us. It’s called “betrayal trauma.” For example, a child experiences sexual abuse from a relative, your partner steals the company funds, your spouse has an affair, your best friend lied to you. These traumas may range in severity but regardless, they all hurt because these betrayals destroy our trust. They shift our perspective, change how we view others and the world and leave us questioning our relationships and ourselves. How can you cope with betrayal? Links: Check out the full show notes for this episode Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough

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28 Jan 2019

Rank #7

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072: How to Rewire Your Brain After Betrayal w/ Louise Swartswalter

Louise Swartswalter has had a 20-year career transforming lives using a unique multi-dimensional approach to helping others cleanse the body mind and spirit of all that is blocking you from achieving your goals.  After using multi-sensory development protocols to help children with dyslexia, Louise realized the same principles could be applied to healing ourselves as well. With this knowledge, Louise created the B.R.A.I.N System and has helped her clients move from anxiety to calm in as little as one session.  Louise works with what is impacting you energetically, even if you do not currently realize its impact, so that you can clear yourself spiritually, mentally and physically. By clearing these blocks, you can release what is holding you back and rewire your brain for success.  Join us as we explore the power of muscle testing, biofeedback, and the impact of the spoken word so that you can empower yourself to clear whatever is blocking your goals and intentions for good.  Have known or unknown energetic blockers been keeping you back from living your full potential? Share your story in the comments on the episode page.  In This Episode Learn what biofeedback is and the great impact it can have on your brain Understanding how your thoughts and words are connected to your nervous system Simple ways to muscle test so you can have a fail-proof BS meter at your disposal How to use the B.R.A.I.N. System to empower yourself and clear your blocks Releasing the brain-soul connection from your betrayal to find true healing Quotes “When I started releasing the blocks in the field and the brain-soul connections in the field is really when I became more of who I came here to be.” (3:36) “I started putting them on biofeedback and I started to see their brains change in a different way than I could help them with reading, writing, and spelling. One little guy jumped 2 grades in reading just with biofeedback.” (16:54) “It's totally possible to completely change your life and change your energy.” (21:42) “If you're not feeling like yourself, or you feel like you are out of balance, keep seeking, find those answers for yourself whatever they are. Everybody has a gift to give. And if you are not using your gifts in the world you are not honoring God.” (32:01) Links Louise Swartswalter Website Follow Louise on Facebook  Albuquerque Natural Health Center Follow Albuquerque Natural Health Center on Facebook Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/72 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

34mins

5 Aug 2019

Rank #8

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084: Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Keffer

Dr. Sheri Keffer's life came screeching to a halt when she found out that her new marriage to a pastor was filled with pornography, affairs, and prostitutes. Now a clinical sex addiction therapist and EMDR practitioner in addition to her audience of over two million people per week on her regular co-hosting gig at New Life Live, Dr. Sheri knows what it takes to heal and helps others realize that they are not alone, not crazy and can heal after sexual betrayal. The way men and women experience sexual betrayal is very different, and it is only by engaging in a total truth-telling process that you can work to heal yourself and your relationship. The physical and mental symptoms of betrayal can seem overwhelming, but when you equip yourself with the right boundaries and ability to see the truth for what it is, healing is possible. The process of rebuilding starts with you first, and it is Dr. Sheri’s mission is to give betrayed partners a roadmap to healing and recovery. With tools like EMDR and therapy, Dr. Sheri is here to tell you that you are worth fighting for and it is possible to rebuild with or without the person that hurt you as long as you have the truth first.  Have you or a loved one experienced sexual betrayal? How do you relate to Dr. Sheri’s story of deception and healing through exposing the truth? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Exploring the shock after a marital sexual betrayal and how to find the right help Learn about betrayal blindness is and why it can be so powerful   Why your well-meaning therapist could be doing more harm than good  The importance of taking care of yourself and being in a truth-telling process How EMDR can help you connect your thoughtful and emotional brain  Quotes “All of it hurts, but the more intimate, the more emotional, the longer that relationship is, the more compulsive the sexual behavior is. It is harmful to us.” (4:59) “At some point, I had to wake up from this nightmare I was living in that I really didn’t want to look at.” (10:34) “A partner who is betrayed needs two things that are critical to heal, like two pillars, they need safety and they need the truth. And until they have those two things, a betrayed partner cannot settle into their body.” (19:17) “The first step of recovery, whether you are staying with your partner or not, is recovery for yourself. Because you can’t fight for that relationship if you are lying flat on the ground.” (28:32) “We have to be very proactive in getting in front of good therapists that know what they are doing with sexual deception.” (28:10) Links Get Your Freebies Here! Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer Brave One Blog Dr. Sheri Keffer Website Bravery After Betrayal Retreat Follow Dr. Sheri Keffer on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter IITAP Website APSATS Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/84 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

36mins

28 Oct 2019

Rank #9

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030: Stand In Your Intuitive Truth-Embrace Your Potential & Let Go Of Self-Inflicted Limitation w/ Anna Miranda

Anna Miranda is an intuitive coach who has dedicated her life to the study of metaphysics and utilizing many forms of intuitive arts to spiritually coach those looking to discover their true potential. Aside from her resume, Anna was pivotal in my betrayal journey and helped me realize the true purpose of my betrayal. Today, Anna is here to rediscover my healing journey, and share her wealth of knowledge with you. If you have ever been curious about creating soul contracts with yourself, partner and family, how to gain absolute faith and trust the universe, or get a closer look into how I dealt with my betrayal, this episode is for you. Anna is an advocate for believing in yourself, listening to your soul to tell you what to do next, and getting outside of the victim mentality. By letting go of the shame and embarrassment that goes along with sharing your betrayal, you can stop hiding and embrace and trust all aspects of ‘what is’. While vulnerability may be scary, it is the only way to fully unlock your true potential and ability for love. It is time to rediscover your vibrant self, and Anna is here to help. Are you truly open to vulnerability? Let us know in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode Learn how to trust in your intuition again Realizing your betrayal as a gift to unlocking your true self Why sometimes you have to lose what that means the most to make a change How to ‘find the gold in the trauma’ Becoming truly selfless and vulnerable through soul contracts Quotes “I remember thinking explicitly, I don't trust certainly him, I don't trust myself, at least let me trust in the universe. And Anna seemed to have this direct line” (3:04) - Debi “My only job is to help you tap into what you already are, to the essence of your being. That we tend to forget when we are in trauma” (4:00) - Anna “In soul contracts, we don't see obstacle or pain as a bad thing, we actually see it as a grand opportunity that your soul set forth way before it was even incarnated in this lifetime” (8:22) - Anna “It wasn't enough for me to heal personally. The injustice of it was so gigantic for me, that I said if I can heal from this I will have to do my best to heal as many people as I can” (24:55) - Debi “True authenticity has to come from a place of vulnerability” (33:31) - Anna Links Anna Miranda’s Website Check out the full show notes for this episode Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough Follow Dr. Debi Silber on Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | LinkedIn

38mins

7 Feb 2019

Rank #10

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092: Dating (Each Other) Again After Betrayal w/ Dr. Corey Allan

Dr. Corey Allan is a marriage and family therapist, author, speaker and licensed professional counselor with a Ph.D. in family therapy. He and his wife run Sexy Marriage, a podcast and online article resource that aims to help those experiencing difficulties in a partnership and provide resources to work through the dark days to experience more passion and trust in their relationships. Unfortunately, betrayal has become an increasingly frequent part of any relationship, and it is only by understanding the steps necessary to overcoming partnership betrayal that you can start making the steps that feel best for your unique situation.  Corey believes that marriage is more about becoming a better human than it is about the two people being happy. And when you keep things simple, you can experience more in marriage and life. By learning how to trust yourself again, accepting the cyclical cycle of getting better and becoming a major player in your relationship for your own sake, you can earn back your free choice and start living a life that demonstrates that you are worth choosing.  If you are ready to take the courageous step and ask yourself how your marital betrayal can be used for personal development, Corey is the expert for you. Are you ready to reanalyze what you thought maybe a dealbreaker in your relationship? Share what you learned from Corey in the comments on the episode page.  In This Episode How to view your betrayal like collateral damage rather than a personal attack Individual and couple recommendations when experiencing a marital betrayal Things that can move the needle on your partnership recovery journey A peek into a general timeline for getting over shame, bitterness and more Tips for rebuilding trust in a relationship and yourself after a betrayal  Quotes “If they will buy into the fact that the relationship was co-created that helped create the dynamic to where an affair would occur. But whoever it was that was betrayed, it is not their fault, it was a choice by their spouse, by their partner.” (4:13) “I am the therapist that I don’t hold people’s hands, I come straight at them. I figure you are paying money to get the truth, so lets not sugar coat stuff, that’s speaking to the best in people.” (12:38) “This isn’t about what was done as much as it is the result, which is their hurt, their pain, their sadness, their disappointment, their grief, their whatever. Because what was has to be grieved, it was lost, so now we have to create something different.” (18:55) “Affairs are actually symptoms of something else, they are not the main thing, they are a part of the main thing.” (22:33) Links Sexy Marriage Radio Podcast Sexy Marriage Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/92 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

31mins

23 Dec 2019

Rank #11

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103: Responsibility vs. Blame: An Example of Rebuilding After Betrayal w/ Eva Medilek

Eva Medilek’s life came crashing down when she found text messages on her husband’s phone suggesting he was in love with another woman. What came next was a painful and messy situation, but through hard work and personal development, they were able to make the decision to do whatever it took to kill their old relationship and create a new one together. Now a relationship style success coach, Eva helps other powerful women create a meaningful life by becoming more vulnerable and intimate. Eva is proof that your betrayal can open you up to revealing your greatest gift, and is here today to share her story and wisdom with you.  By staying in the present creation of what you can build, Eva is here to help you stop worrying about the past and start thriving in your future. Everything from the importance of personal development to tools that you can take back to your relationship is on the agenda today as Eva helps you close the intimacy gap.  Passionate about what is possible on the other side of betrayal, Eva wants to help you refocus your energy and persevere through your pain. An inspiring story of forgiveness, trust, and intimacy, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. Has personal development played a role in your ability to move through your betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page.  In This Episode The importance of finding a therapist that works for both partners  Why you need to stand in the power of the relationship you want and deserve How to have trust in your partner as a highly driven individual  Why your greatest betrayal can reveal your greatest gift and purpose The role of your tribe and why you need to surround yourself with positivity Quotes “Once I realized that he was literally falling in love with another woman, my heart was racing, I just really wanted to collapse because I realized that everything that we were working to achieve could be lost. My marriage could end, and I could end up spending all of this time building this dream and end up alone again.” (6:24) “Your investment is in the relationship, in the relationship that you are both creating together, it is actually not in the person.” (12:26) “To use that drive to focus on intimacy, vulnerability, and connection in their relationships, and really rechanneling that energy and learning how to shift it.” (19:35 “Diamonds are made from that pressure, and the fire, and that’s where you can create something beautiful.” (22:51) “I didn’t want this to be hidden and under the rug, life is real and how we show up in life and handle all of the challenges that life brings us, we get in trouble when we try to hide.” (30:10) Links Eva Medilek Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/103 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

33mins

9 Mar 2020

Rank #12

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013: Getting Unstuck! How to Manage Your Mind, Make A Decision and Start Living Again! w/ Phaedra Antioco

Phaedra Antioco is one of the most sought after pain relief experts who helps high performing people get back to the life they once had before pain. After breaking free from her own pain, and specializing in pain relief for over 20 years, Phaedra created an easy to follow pain relief system to help her clients stand strong once again. Phaedra believes that every physical pain has an emotional root, and when we identify the roots of those pain is when we can truly begin to heal. Focusing on congruency between how you feel inside and how you respond outside, Phaedra’s system is all about paying attention to what is not working in your life to make way for better things. Your body is letting you know what is happening mentally and emotionally and when you pay attention to it is when you can uncover, unlock and heal. By asking yourself what isn't working in your life, you can start to release your pain and listen to the things in life that are pleasant. It is time to take the leap and do the things that scare you because on the other side of that fear is everything you want. How does Phaedra’s mission resonate with you? Let us know in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode How something mental and emotional can translate into something physical The trauma vortex and how to shift out of that stress 5 steps to break free from pain Why fear is paralyzing and you need to feel safe to make good choices Orienting yourself to pleasure and rewiring your brain to pleasant things Quotes “I sought various treatment to help me because I don't remember the accident, I don't remember the trauma, but my body does. (3:10) “So we really need to look at how we show up in the world today as adults, who we choose to be in relationships with and how we show up in those relationships really start from our childhood. And we can call that developmental trauma” (8:25) “I guide people to start rewiring their brain out of the pain. Because it's not all that bad, there's always a way” (15:06) “We might only be focused on that struggle and how hard life has been, but we also need to look at how the positives we have had and how our story really does create who we are. So we need to look, explore and then release the past trauma” (21:10) “Anytime an emotion comes up, explore it, really let it out. If its anger, beat the bed, beat the pillow. But the reality is it is coming up for a reason, so just look at it and examine it.” (30:09) Links Phaedra’s Website 5 Steps To Break Free From Pain Webinar Check out the full show notes for this episode Women Hacking Betrayal Facebook Group Have you taken the Post-Betrayal Quiz yet? Keep up to everything From Betrayal To Breakthrough Follow Dr. Debi Silber on Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | LinkedIn

33mins

24 Dec 2018

Rank #13

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070: Ditching Your Victim Mentality to Heal from Betrayal w/ Donna Martini

Donna Martini is a writer, activist, wellness coach and part of the Fab 14. One of the strongest and most inspirational women I know, Donna has shown courage when embracing her childhood and marital betrayals and has been able to stop attracting negativity through a plethora of modalities.  Today Donna is here to share her struggle and how she was able to turn her pain into triumph and transformation. Learn how to positively manipulate your mindset, energy of the heart and soul voice, why you should choose to love unconditionally to help you get through your anger and resentment, ways to surrender to something more powerful than your betrayal, and much more. Donna is living proof that on the other side of healing, you will discover the strongest, wisest and most empowered version of you. When you make the decision to go forward after betrayal you can set goals, gain self-esteem and trust in the messages and motivation you are receiving.  Are you ready to stop attracting the victim mentality and train your brain and body to hear your soul's voice? Share what steps you are taking in the comments on the episode page.  In This Episode Tapping into your soul's voice and learning to follow your own intuition How to feng shui the crap out of your life and create a positive influence Ways to stop attracting negativity by ditching your victim mentality  Specific mantras to use after betrayal to help you restore, heal and lift Physical processes that can help you release your betrayal instead of meditation Quotes “I am happy not to remember everything because it is sometimes painful to go back there. But now I can go back and laugh about it and realize that I was physically changing to survive.” (7:22) “You just need to willingness, and once you create the willingness and want to follow it, I call it the soul guidance, you lift out of whatever it is you are going through.” (10:22) “We put on this armor, but I realized our biggest gift is really carrying a shield of love.” (15:57) “I knew I had to cover betrayal, and it wasn’t easy for me to go there, it didn't come naturally out. Because it's just not something I go back to. I don't think I am blocking it, I think it's just that I feel so healed about it I don't think about it anymore.” (31:32) Links The Ten Commandments of Divorce by Donna Martini My Mini Book of Mighty Mantras by Donna Martini Donn Martini Website Mantra Mouse Website Follow Donna on Facebook | YouTube Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/70 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

36mins

22 Jul 2019

Rank #14

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081: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse w/ Tracy Malone

According to recent data, there are over 152 million Americans who are victims of narcissistic abuse. Narcissists can entangle themselves in your life and can cause a severe amount of trauma and betrayal. Narcissism and betrayal can lead to the perfect storm, and it is only by recognizing the red flags of a narcissist that you can set boundaries and heal yourself so that you don’t become a narcissist magnet. Tracy Malone is the founder of Narcissist Abuse Support, a global resource that helps victims in over 145 countries heal after a narcissistic relationship. Whether it is a romantic partner, family member, friend or co-worker, narcissists thrive on getting what they can out of people, which is why the pain from this type of betrayal can run so deep. Betrayal is just part of the package when dealing with a narcissist, and the sad truth is that they will never change. By putting language towards narcissistic tendencies, understanding the stages and tendencies of a narcissist, and not sharing your shame story unless someone deserves it, you can learn how to protect yourself from becoming vulnerable to a narcissists’ game. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, wanting to heal and get to the stage of ‘no-contact’ or are looking to understand the mind of a narcissist, Tracy is here to shine a light on a topic so many struggle with. Are you ready to break the pattern of narcissistic abuse and learn your own internal lessons so that you stop attracting or falling prey to narcissistic tendencies? Share your experience with us in the comments on the episode page. In This Episode Red flags to look out for if you think you may be in a relationship with a narcissist Understanding the different types of narcissistic personality disorder and their traits The three stages of narcissistic abuse and how to get to the ‘no-contact’ stage How to heal from an abusive narcissistic relationship and move past your fear The importance of rebuilding trust in yourself to heal your trauma for good Quotes “They know they have got you. All they have to do is mold themselves to what you are telling them you are looking for, and they’ve hooked you! It’s a green flag to them.” (6:07) “Most people, sadly, get discarded, or leave a narcissist seven times before they are able to go no contact and never have to deal with them again.” (16:10)  “[Narcissists] can’t really change themselves. They can go back into that love bombing stage, and they can act, but they are never ever going to be able to feel empathy.” (18:00) “Abandonment is not just ‘daddy left when I was six’. It's someone not being there for you emotionally who is in your life. So if you have been with a narcissistic partner, they have emotionally left you and you feel abandoned.” (21:51) “If you don’t do the work, you’re going to hook another narcissist, you have to learn this lesson before you go out there, so let yourself have time to heal.” (30:39) Links Narcissist Abuse Support Website Follow Tracy on YouTube | Facebook Group Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/81 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

34mins

7 Oct 2019

Rank #15

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057: Understanding the Stress Betrayal Causes to Your Body/Mind and How to Fix It w/ Dr. Doni Wilson

Dr. Doni Wilson’s clients report peak energy, restful sleep, optimal weight and memory, enhanced fertility, and an overall sensation of feeling younger. It may shock you, but all of these results are achieved through the management of chronic stress. A celebrated naturopathic doctor, certified midwife, and nutrition specialist, Dr. Doni helps high performers understand their genetic tendencies to recover from stress exposure and cure the physical ailments associated with stress. The stress you feel on a daily basis impacts every system and organ in your body, and every issue can cause a ripple effect until your stress compiles into physical symptoms. On this episode, Dr. Doni explains exactly how stress impacts your adrenal glands and telomeres, ways your physical inflammation is affecting your anxiety, depression, and sleep and how to find a middle ground with stress where you can outsmart it and recover from it. When it comes to your health, you cant guess based on the symptoms, you need to find out what is going on so you can see your levels improve and start feeling better. Instead of ignoring your stress and having it potentially develop into something worse, learn how to understand it so that you can go from stress mode to stress recovery. Dr. Doni establishes steps to take to identify what is needed for you to correct your imbalances and feel better, how to know if unmanaged stress is creating the physical symptoms you have, examples of nutrients you can use to calm your cortisol and balance your hormones, and so much more on this information packed episode. Have you ever connected the dots between your stress and your physical symptoms? Share how Dr. Doni opened your eyes in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode Identifying indicators in your body that are triggered to stress affecting you physically Ways to raise your cortisol in the morning, lower it at night, and balance your hormones How to get your four systems working for you again and gain stress resilience Helping your body get out of stress mode with nutrients, herbs and hormonal restoring Looking at your genetics to find the best way to help your body respond to stress Quotes “We can find this middle place with stress where we are actually outsmarting it and were recovering from it and we are staying healthy even though stress is there.” (3:01)“The good news is, we can reverse and recover from stress.” (11:54) “We want you to feel better faster and effectively, and so instead of guessing its much better to test.” (16:54) “It may start as a digestive issue, the next thing you know you are feeling anxious and you can't sleep, and it feels like its more and more different things going on. But I would say it is one thing, its the effects of stress just compiling in a vicious cycle.” (23:09) “Instead of just allowing this to happen, you start to realize, hey I have a say here, I can start to make choices that are going to help my body get back to balance.” (27:35) Links Get the FREE Stress Warrior eBook Here Start the 7 Day Stress Reset Here Dr. Doni Wilson Website Dr. Doni Wilson Full Book Catalog Follow Dr. Doni on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | YouTube | LinkedIn | Pinterest Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/57 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

33mins

13 May 2019

Rank #16

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055: Reframing Betrayal As Abuse w/ Anne Blythe

Today I am joined by a fellow betrayal expert and podcast host, Anne Blythe, as we reframe betrayal as abuse and explore the often unacknowledged pain that women can be in for years. The founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, Anne is passionate about providing education and support to women who have experienced an abusive betrayal and are seeking healing. After realizing that she was in an abusive relationship herself, Anne founded Betrayal Trauma Recovery as a means to help women gain the words and acceptance necessary to explain and define an abusive betrayal experience in order to move on and make forward progress. Today she dives in deep as we explore themes of our oversexualized society and its harmful impact on women, the importance of collective grief and support, and why we need to become better educated on what abuse looks and sounds like. Anne and I are here to make sure that you know that you are not crazy, and you are not alone. Listen in as Anne explains some common forms of abuse found in betrayal situations, ways to identify your abuse and set boundaries, and the importance of believing victims and trusting women. When you are able to educate yourself about abusive betrayal and find a support system of women who have been through it, you can walk through the fog and come out on the other side more aware and present than ever before. By supporting all women, not just victims, to achieve a happier, healthier and more peaceful life, we can reduce the abuse cycle and resolve our issues at the core. Anne is here to help you circumvent the confusion period after an abusive betrayal and get on the path to feeling safe again. Are some of the signs and feelings associated with an abusive betrayal sounding familiar to you? Share your thoughts and concerns with us in the comments on the episode page! In This Episode Ways to figure out if you may be being abused or betrayed without your knowledge Using demonstrations like the Me Too Movement to learn to trust and believe women Reasons why pornography use can be seen as an abusive tool of deception The importance of teaching your children consent and setting personal boundaries How to get the specific kind of support that you need after an abusive betrayal Quotes “That type of behavior, where you are purposefully manipulating someone to control the narrative of how they perceive you is abuse.” (3:33) “As I have taken the time to heal, and as I have seen women come to our community and heal, my life has become immeasurably better. I have felt peace and I have moved forward with my life.” (10:54) “Our community is an amazing place where women can feel validated, and where they can hear their experience through someone else's words sometimes.” (12:08) “The misogyny that is rampant right now and the Me Too Movement really shows that people don't understand the way that objectifying women harms them.” (20:47) “I have a Masters degree, I am not stupid, and I didn't know I was being abused. And so many women are in that situation.” (23:44) “It takes a while to get out of the fog, but I think the important thing is to start walking on that path, and you will be lead to the places and the people that you need to find.” (29:09) Links FREE Gift: 9 Steps To Heal From Betrayal Trauma Checklist Betrayal Trauma Recovery Website Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast Join A Betrayal Trauma Support Group Here Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/55 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

32mins

6 May 2019

Rank #17

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102: The Issues are in the Tissues-Where Unhealed Betrayal Lives w/ Dr. Michelle Eggenberger

Dr. Michelle Eggenberger is an author, holistic stress and anxiety coach, doctor of oriental medicine, licensed acupuncturist, health coach and certified yoga teacher, just to name a few. After recovering from her own romantic betrayal and a string of health issues, Dr. Michelle realized that it was within her power to find a better way to live.  Through this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Michelle realized the importance of prioritizing self-love and self-worth and has since been on a mission to share her message with the world. Living proof that you can manifest the things you want in life if you work to keep the mind, body, and spirit healthy, Dr. Michelle is here to help you allow the Universe to guide you to where you need to be.  You have the choice to choose yourself and give yourself the happy life that you deserve. Making the decision to prioritize both your mental and physical health while becoming aware of how your thoughts affect you is key to becoming the architect of your own destiny.  Are you ready to allow Dr. Michelle to teach you how to harness the power of your body through yoga, awareness and the mind-heart connection so that you can find joy after your betrayal? Share your self-love and self-compassion tips with us in the comments section on the episode page.  In This Episode Explore the connection between the mind, spirit, and body when finding self-love Learn how your emotions are tied to your digestive system and overthinking your reality How acupuncture can help you circulate and move your emotions through your body Discover how your daily thoughts can manifest into physical emotions and reactions  The importance of practicing yoga and nurturing the mind-heart connection Quotes “One of the reasons why when we have a romantic betrayal it is so powerful in our own self-worth and all that is because of the vulnerability factor.” (6:05) “Slowly I started finding the strength to understand my self-worth and my self-love and what I needed to do to step out of that relationship, that that relationship was no longer fit for me.” (10:23) “We are so perfectly done that our body, when we haven’t been taking care of our mind and our emotions, our body will tell us.” (17:31) “One of the things that happens when you start doing yoga as a real practice, you start going into the mind-heart connection. And that is where the real magic happens, for everything. That is where the real transformation and real healing happens.” (20:42) “It’s the thoughts that we create that will create the feelings that we experience, that will create the actions and the reality that we see.” (22:48) Links The Energetics of Joy by Dr. Michelle Eggenberger The Energetics of Joy Website The Dharma Clinic Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/102 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

32mins

2 Mar 2020

Rank #18

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100: The 7 Greatest Lessons Learned from Recording 100 Episodes w/ Dr. Debi Silber

I can hardly believe that we have reached the 100 episode milestone, and I know that you have learned a lot throughout the amazing array of guests I have been lucky enough to talk to. To celebrate I wanted to share with you the seven greatest lessons I have learned in the past 99 episodes, and provide you with a recap of some of the experts that may be worth revisiting depending on your topic of interest.  My goal is to provide you with an array of tools and amazing insights so that you can take off your rose-colored glasses and start moving the needle on your healing journey. Everything from divorce to forgiveness and essential oils has been covered in the past 100 episodes, and I am here today to highlight those that are going to help you live a confident and resilient life regardless of your betrayal history.  If you are ready to heal from your betrayal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am here to help you onto the path of true happiness. No matter what your betrayal you can come out on the other side, and it is through these seven greatest lessons that you can empower yourself to do so.  Are you ready to rediscover the fire within yourself and find the lesson you need to learn in order to heal? Share some of your favorite episodes with us and let us know what topics you want to hear more of in the comments on the episode page.  In This Episode Recap the biggest takeaways and greatest lessons from the last 99 episodes Highlight the non-negotiable importance of support when dealing with betrayal trauma  Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal Why you should choose empowerment instead of a victim mindset to achieve healing Tips for embracing resilience, transformation, and forgiveness when healing from betrayal Quotes “Those were the episodes that I feel really shared the depth and importance of relationships and possibility, so if any of those resonated with you, go on in and listen to those again, you will get so much more out of it.” (17:49) “While it may be impossible to eliminate all of the stress from your life, it is possible to train your brain to handle stressful situations with more grace and ease by employing tools such as regarding your mind before a stressful event and replenishing yourself afterward, you can build up your capacity to cope with the challenges of life.” (28:28) “There are so many different tools that we can use to heal and that is why hopefully I want you to listen and relisten so that you can find the tools that work for you.” (31:57) “Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us including physically, mentally and emotionally, and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release the trauma, it can build up inside our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection.” (42:49) “If you feel as though you wear a shield of protective armor that is hiding a fraud, its time to take off your battle uniform and live a life full of authenticity and happiness.” (1:09:22) Links Breakthrough Essential Oil Healing Products PBT Institute Certification  Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/100 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

1hr 21mins

17 Feb 2020

Rank #19

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071: On the Other Side of Betrayal w/ Johanna Lynn

Most of what we are doing comes from our subconscious programming that is largely influenced by our family patterns. Your lineage could be a great indicator of your susceptibility to being betrayed, or being a betrayer, and it is only by understanding it that you can correct your patterns and move forward. Johanna Lynn is the founder of the Family Imprint Institute and helps her clients resolve painful patterns that can live on in generations as if on repeat. Your unconscious loyalty to a parent, or your ancestral alarm clock, could be having a major impact on the way you make your decisions and your ability to find happiness.  We tend to paint our partner with the same brush of what we didn't get enough of as a child, and the way you are triggered in a relationship can help you understand the greater forces at play. Invisible factors that you have inherited play a major role in how you make decisions about your life and relationships. Johanna is here to explain exactly how you can take control of those patterns so you can keep the good and get rid of the rest.  Are you ready to be real about your lineage and put your pain to bed? Share what you learned in this episode in the comments on the episode page.  In This Episode Recognizing the invisible factors that play into how you make decisions Why you shouldn't jump back into a relationship too soon after your betrayal  The importance of giving your child equal access to each parent What to do if you are noticing narcissistic behavior in yourself or your partner Digging into the impact your family lineage could be having on your relationship Quotes “They say 70% of what goes on in a marriage has to do with each other's family of origin. But I can tell you, the more years I am in this work, the more I am convinced its a lot more like 99%.” (5:46) “Until we’ve really recognized, ‘aha, this was the part I brought into the relationship that kind of exploded in front of my face’, were less likely to recreate that in the next relationship.” (11:02) “We’re doing this not for the ex, were doing this for our children. Children do best with equal access to both parents, and the last thing we want is our children to be on our side against their own father. This is a huge determinant to kids and amplifies the likelihood that they will show up in a similar relationship.” (22:33) “Betrayal doesn't have to be the end of your story; perhaps it is the start of a brand new book, with all kinds of new experiences. So make it a learning experience that opens the door to something better.” (26:03) Links Johanna Lynn Website Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/71 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

29mins

29 Jul 2019

Rank #20