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Love and Abuse

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage.Revealing covert abusive communication that takes away your power. Learn to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse before you are dragged into their game so deep you come out a shell of your former self.Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Download the guide at loveandabuse.com.Transcripts available upon request: https://loveandabuse.com/contact/

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Are you with a manipulative person?

Would you know if you were being manipulated? Do you know what the look for? Manipulative people are experts are toxic language to make you feel bad about yourself. It's time to learn just how to tell if you are being manipulated or not. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

29mins

13 Mar 2019

Rank #1

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An analysis of emotional abuse: Breaking down the bad behavior

When someone shows you every single red flag you need to determine there is lying, control, and manipulation going on, at what point do you tell yourself you're not going to take it anymore? In today's episode, I read an email from someone who went through an emotionally abusive relationship. As I read it, I break down each and every bad behavior so that you know how to identify it in your life. Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

40mins

25 Oct 2019

Rank #2

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You will never, ever be good enough for a manipulative and controlling person

Should you love more, do more, be more for another person that never seems to be happy? One method of control is to make sure you're always trying harder to please but never pleasing. When someone keeps you in that state of mind, you start to lose your mind and your power. Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

36mins

27 Nov 2019

Rank #3

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The "You're too sensitive" game

When someone cares about you, they don't say things like "you're too sensitive" or "you're so emotional", they actually become more sensitive to your sensitivities. Don't fall for the "you're too sensitive" game, it is played by those who want to get away with their own bad behavior.

17mins

14 Feb 2019

Rank #4

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You can't fix emotional abuse, you can only heal yourself and hope they do the same

Trying work as hard as you can to fix things you didn't break is exhausting and demoralizing. The first step to healing is realizing you're in it. The path to repairing the relationship is for the perpetrator to discover that they are being abusive and to care enough about you to want to change. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on emotional abuse and manipulation at https://loveandabuse.com

28mins

10 Jul 2019

Rank #5

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Recognizing you are being emotionally abused when you don't see the signs

When you can't see the symptoms or manipulation or emotional abuse, do either actually exist? Is there a way to tell when you're being emotionally mistreated? Yes. This episode talks about what to look for when you don't see the signs.

16mins

27 Feb 2019

Rank #6

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Emotionally abusive behavior breaks apart what could be a good relationship

Emotional abuse and controlling, manipulative behavior have no place in a relationship. Whether it's romantic or with a family member or friend, the toxicity of hurtful behavior simply destroys what could be good relationships. There's much insecurity in the emotional abuser, and in this episode I talk about that a lot of other components of emotional abuse. Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

55mins

12 Dec 2019

Rank #7

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Watching out for emotional predators. Are you being brainwashed into becoming a manipulation or emotional abuse victim?

You can be "groomed" into becoming the victim of emotional abuse or manipulation. Just like a child predator will groom his or her victim for abuse, the "emotional predator" will set you up for their control so that you become whatever they want you to become. It's a dirty game. In this episode, I compare emotional grooming to child grooming to reveal the scary similarities.

27mins

15 Feb 2019

Rank #8

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The narcissist under the hood - The difficulty of explaining emotional abuse to friends and family

How do you tell friends and family about the emotional abuse from the narcissist when they don't see that behavior in them at all. In fact, they have a very different view of the abusive person to the point where they may actually feel sorry for them and think you're the crazy one. I talk about that on today's episode. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

31mins

15 Mar 2019

Rank #9

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Identifying the signs of toxic or manipulative behavior while dating

It can be a challenge to see the signs of toxic behavior when you first start dating someone, especially if things seem to be going well. After all, who wouldn't want to be told they're wonderful and a dream come true? The beginning of a relationship is a great time to assess the other person's behavior to make sure they are showing up as authentic instead of putting on an act to eventually take away your power. Important episode no matter where you are in your relationship. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

16mins

29 May 2019

Rank #10

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Have they really changed or are they faking it? Learning to differentiate between true change and acting.

When someone in your life claims to have changed and promises to stop behaving badly, have they truly changed or are they just pretending? Telling the difference between the actor and the authentic person is a major step away from crazy making. Your sanity may depend on it. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

19mins

27 May 2019

Rank #11

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When you're constantly defending yourself

Do you spend all your energy defending yourself with certain people? Can you never get ahead with them because they continue to paint you into a corner where you feel you have no choice but to correct them about what you've done or who you are? It may be time to stop defending yourself and start realizing exactly what the game is so you don't fall for it anymore.

18mins

19 Feb 2019

Rank #12

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Why you get conned into the psychologically abusive relationship

If you've ever wondered why you felt a connection with someone that turned out to be controlling and manipulative, you were probably manipulated from day one. And it's possible that person didn't even know they were doing it. In this special episode, I talk about how Robert Cialdini's six principles of influence can apply to the emotionally abusive relationship. Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

27mins

16 Nov 2019

Rank #13

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How to stop being hurtful and controlling with the people you love

When you hurt someone you love, you let them know that they are not that important in your life. If you believe you are the emotionally abusive one and you want to heal and evolve from that behavior, this episode is a good start. In a relationship, control is the opposite of love. The more you control, the more love you lose. Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

38mins

5 Nov 2019

Rank #14

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Emotional Abuse explained for your friends, family, attorney, therapist or anyone else that may need to know what you're experiencing

Emotional abuse victims have a very difficult time trying to explain what's happening to them to friends and family. Often, loving, supportive people may side with the abuser because they simply can't see or believe that they are bad people. This leaves the victim feeling alone, with no one to turn to because their support system slowly disappears around them. This episode is meant to be given to family, friends, your attorney, your therapist, or anyone else that doesn't understand the depth of control and manipulation happening in your relationship. Think of it as an emotional abuse and manipulation translation guide. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on emotional abuse and manipulation, an assessment and healing guide for difficult relationships. 

31mins

4 Aug 2019

Rank #15

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Being Loved Shouldn't Hurt - Coach and survivor Stephanie McPhail tells you how to take care of yourself in and out of the abusive relationship

Strangled on her wedding night, Stephanie McPhail endured years of a physically and emotionally abusive marraige. After getting the courage to stand up for herself, leave the relationship, and go on a healing journey that would change her life and help her meet the man of her dreams, she shared her story and what you can do to reach levels of fulfillment that perhaps you didn't think were possible. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on emotional abuse over at loveandabuse.com

1hr 1min

17 Sep 2019

Rank #16

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Is your response to their bad behavior emotional abuse?

After months or years of being emotionally abused, you may find yourself doing behavior that resembles the same type of behavior you're a victim to. If that's the case, you can end up thinking you are also abusive, and may start believing that you perhaps you are just as bad as them, or worse. Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

27mins

15 Oct 2019

Rank #17

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In love with someone that wants it both ways: Healing from the obsession over the unhealthy relationship

Are you waiting for someone else to change so that you can get what you want? In this episode, I talk about an email I received from a woman who fell in love with a man who went back with his wife. However, he now cheats on his wife to be with her. This has caused her to become obsessive, thinking about him all the time and waiting in pain for him to leave his wife and come back to her. He has it both ways: A wife and family, and a mistress on the side. What is the incentive for him to change? Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

1hr 14mins

23 Apr 2019

Rank #18

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Dealing with adversity and toxic behavior in all your relationships

There's something that family, coworkers, friends, and even romantic partners can all have a common: They can sometimes be difficult to talk to. Some have opposing beliefs and values. Others simply want to control you and be right no matter what. Whatever the case is for you, this episode talks about some ins and outs of dealing with challenging people.

39mins

31 Dec 2019

Rank #19

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There is nothing you could have done differently, emotional abuse would have happened anyway

Many emotional abuse victims believe they are at fault for the abuse, as if there is behavior they did to bring it on. The short answer is there is nothing you can do to prevent it. You can't prevent a personality characteristic that is going to appear no matter what. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

30mins

10 Apr 2019

Rank #20