Rank #1: The Easiest Way To Get From A Dating App Convo To a First Date
J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where you want it to go. At 21:05 they answer a listener question about how many dates she should wait before asks the guy out herself. Is it better to take the initiative early on or wait for your moment? At 28:10 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a sleep talker, a weird sex request, and an expression of love that was probably meant for someone else. At 31:30 they address the universally dreaded topic of family holidays when you’re in a newer relationship. Is it ever a good idea to meet the parents for the first time during a holiday gathering? At 54:20 a listener writes in to ask whether or not she is obligated to forgive her ex for cheating on her. At 1:00:20 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one involving a naked portrait. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets now at Betches.co/uuptour
Oct 23 2019
Rank #2: The Reason Guys Don’t Make Plans in Advance
Jor and Jar talk about scenes in different cities like comedy, music, and magic (are there magic open mics?). After they move on to the complications of hooking up with an ex, they take a letter from a listener who likes her new guy, but has serious qualms with his dog. Another listener asks about guys who have that "creepy Asian fetish." Finally, a woman writes in complaining about how a guy she’s dating can't seem to make the most basic of plans.
Apr 18 2018
Rank #3: How Do I Break The Cycle of Hooking Up With a Guy Who Won’t Date Me?
Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Jan 01 2020
Rank #4: Is It Hot Or Offensive To Leave Right After A Hookup? Ft. Tyler Cameron
J and J start the show with a conversation about the best way to ask your significant other for spontaneous plans. Does your partner have the right to be upset when work is your number 1 priority? At 14:50 this week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who uses a condom for an unorthodox purpose. At 24:00 a listener asks how to respond to an ex who texted him after they saw each other in public without saying hello. What does the phrase “I have love for you” even mean? At 34:50 they’re joined by Tyler Cameron of The Bachelorette to talk about suddenly becoming a major celebrity and dating after the show. He talks about his move to New York City and current living arrangement. They talk about his dating history and what he’s actually looking for in a woman. At 46:15 Tyler helps with an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s a bad look to leave right after a hookup. At 51:30 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a conversation about how important it is for your partner’s parents to like you. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Aug 28 2019
Rank #5: Do I Get To Care About Who My Partner Used To Sleep With?
Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that people should encourage their boyfriends not to watch porn. Is your sex life destined to be more fulfilling if you cut out porn altogether? At 28:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bar mishap, a trip to the ER, and a strange first kiss. At 35:55 another listener shares a strange text she received from the guy she’s dating where he admitted to hitting on her friend. Is this guy trying to make her jealous or is he just that dumb? At 51:35 they give advice to a listener who is unhappy in her career and it’s affecting her dating life. Is it better to hide your insecurities or be up front about them? Then they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about finding out who your partner used to sleep with. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Oct 16 2019
Rank #6: How Do I Confront My Partner About Their Terrible Texting? Ft. Jonathan Van Ness
F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning after. Does not engaging in morning-after sex ruin your chances of being together? At 37:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a weird choice of words. Is it acceptable to tell a girl you’re going to make her “nut” during sex? At 48:00 another listener asks how she should talk to her boyfriend about his terrible texting habits. Then at 1:04:00 they’re joined by Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness to talk about his new book Over the Top. They discuss his HIV diagnosis, answer a listener question about trying a same-sex relationship, and share the “forearm test” for figuring out if someone is interested in you. Finally, the close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a celebration of male ass-play.
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Oct 02 2019
Rank #7: The One Where We Talk About Love is Blind
The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensued. They talk about the constant toxic energy between Giannina and Damian, then dive into the love triangle Barnett found himself in despite being a classic f*ckboi. Plus, they cover Jessica’s relationship with Mark, including her constant obsession with their age gap. Finally, they talk about what they would change about the show, and what it says about dating in general.
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Mar 04 2020
Rank #8: How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Sleeping With Someone?
J and J return to answer the question that has plagued a generation, “how long should you wait to sleep with someone you’re dating?” At 35:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a trail of red flags, several apologies and some dentures. At 47:20 a listener writes in wondering what guys will think of a woman in her 30s who lives with her parents. At 1:03:20 a listener writes in wondering how to avoid feeling jealous about her BF taking a boys trip to Greece. At 1:11:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $29.99. Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVESt.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box!
Feb 27 2019
Rank #9: How to Know You're Chasing The Wrong People
Dub-J are back with an episode you don’t want to miss. At 3:54, they take an email from a listener who went to block a male creeper, but when she saw her blocked list, there were several girls only her BF of a few months could’ve put there. This segues into a brief discussion of those moments when your friend breaks up with their S/O and you are inclined to sh*t-talk them, but know there’s a real chance they’ll get right back together and you’ll be cut out forever. At 30:21, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy’s phone goes off during sex. If he answered it and took the call, that would’ve been OK, but what this listener describes is far more weird. At 41:15, they take another email from a listener asking about "GU guys," geographically undesirable dudes. This listener seems interested and hesitant at the same time about one such man. At 50;32, a male listener writes in who can’t seem to keep a woman for longer than two to four months. Is he being too hard on himself? At 1:00:13, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: “when meeting their parents, they get into a huge screaming fight with them” and “they tried out for The Bachelor five times, but they never made it on.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/uup
Aug 29 2018
Rank #10: How to Get A Guy To Go Down On You Ft. Violet Benson of Daddy Issues
The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and New York dating scenes. At 10:00 Violet talks about her experience dating professional athletes. At 17:45 a listener writes in wondering how to get better oral from a selfish lover. At 31:20 they dig into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes clown makeup, some rope, and tickling. At 40:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after a guy took a picture of her naked without her consent post hookup. At 55:15 a listener writes in wondering what to make of a boyfriend’s cryptic Venmo payment to a model/stripper after a bachelor party. At 1:06:15 they play ‘Red Flag or Deal Breaker’ including “their friends don’t like you.” Thanks to our sponsors Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special New Year offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to www.TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Fab,Fit,Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99!
Jan 09 2019
Rank #11: Love In The Time Of Corona
J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up to distract herself from pursuing a real relationship. This leads to a conversation about the biological reasons why emotion is so important for good sex. Then another listener writes in to ask about a series of texts she received from a guy she was dating for months. When a guy says he needs time to himself, should you assume he really just wants to break up? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about Uber etiquette on a date.
Mar 18 2020
Rank #12: Girls Trying Not To Be Crazy Is What’s Gotten Guys Laid for Centuries
Jared and Jordana discuss who should pay on dates, and what you “owe" someone you’re having sex with in terms of honesty. They answer a listener’s question who wants to know what it means when a guy who ghosted you keeps liking your Instagram picture and another guy who wants advice on how to hit on girls at bars. They play red flag or dealbreaker involving being loud in movie theaters, dating someone who has done porn, and dating someone who has never said ‘I love you.'
Dec 07 2017
Rank #13: Why Do Guys Stop Putting Effort Into Long Term Relationships? Ft. Hinge Founder Justin McLeod
Jared and Jordana talk about the general state of U Up? which is now recommended by some therapists. Jared tells the story of a good friend who is in a bit of an Insta situation. He thinks a girl might be into him but then she seemingly hid her Insta stories from him. At 24:22 they take a letter from a listener whose boyfriend is a lifelong friend. After a year of dating, however, he's not putting in any effort. At 38:22, they take a very literary Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. At 42:02 they are joined by Justin McLeod, the founder of Hinge who has brought with him some serious dating tips generated by Hinge's data scientists. They talk about the history of Hinge, a new feature called "Most-Compatible", and the best time to double text someone. You'll never guess how many NYT Wedding Announcements mentioned Hinge in the last year.
Jul 25 2018
Rank #14: Blowjobs Are a Selfless Act
This week Jordana and Jared talk about what girls and guys think of oral sex. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know how many times is normal for a guy to not be able to get it up and a male listener who is ashamed of his lack of sexual experience. They play a game called “would you go on a second date” where they discuss dating dealbreakers.
Dec 21 2017
Rank #15: What To Do When You're Blindsided By A Breakup
Jordana and Jared are back with a huge announcement! Not only are they coming to DC, Philly and Brooklyn this weekend, but Betches has finally launched their new dating app, Ship! It’s the latest avenue for you to meet your awkward sexual encounter with the help of your friends. This week a woman writes in who created a website to market herself in lieu of using the dating apps. At 25:30 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which includes so much blood (from some dude’s nose). At 35:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s out of line for not wanting her BF to be a groomsman in a wedding where she won’t know anyone. Another listener wonders how a guy she was dating could break up with her out of nowhere after an amazing weekend together. At 1:05:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Check out Ship at betches.co/ship Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special New Year offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Fab,Fit,Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99.
Jan 23 2019
Rank #16: Why Are Guys So Afraid Of Commitment?
As we say gabagool to F*cktember and head into F*cktober, Jared and Jordana are back to talk about taking serious steps in a relationship and transitioning into cuffing season. At 30:40 a listener asks for advice after her partner freaked out about how fast things were moving. Is he afraid to commit, or just afraid to commit to HER? At 47:55 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about running into a guy’s mom in the hallway the morning after a hookup. At 54:40 an emailer writes in to ask if she has the right to be mad that her boyfriend swapped Instas with a girl he met at a bar. Then at 1:08:00 another listener asks if the third date is the right time to bring someone back to your apartment. At what point do you stop going for drinks and just invite them over? At 1:14:05 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Sep 25 2019
Rank #17: How To Admit That Your Toxic Hookup Is Never Going To Change
The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direct answer, but it’s not the one you’re looking for. Another email writes in to ask what it means when a guy says he needs time to himself. Should you assume he really just wants to break up? Then they’re joined by Betches’ own Alicia Angeles to share her story of being in an on-again/off-again toxic relationship for over a decade. A listener writes in about a similar experience and asks how to get over the resentment of being treated so poorly for so long. At what point in a relationship do you admit to yourself that he’s not going to change and it’s time to move on? They close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring someone who declines your Instagram follow request.
Mar 25 2020
Rank #18: Why Do Guys Really Send Dick Pics?
J and J are back with an amazing 90 minute episode. At 4:40, a listener writes that she was “blindsided” by her boyfriend’s choice to end their relationship because he did not feel “needed." She asks what’s the right balance between being chill and needy? At 39:11, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man asks if his girlfriend's strange sexual technique is a thing. At 48:30, a listener is perplexed about a guy who sent her a dick pic before they'd ever even dated. Should she still go out with him? At 57:34, a listener wants to know the right time to introduce your new boyfriend to your friends. They wrap up at 1:07:19 with a couple rounds of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including "showers once every three days" and "only eats at restaurants with a Michelin Star.
Jul 18 2018
Rank #19: What Do We Owe An Ex After a Breakup?
J and J return to close out cuffing season by asking the age old question “what makes a guy decide to settle down?” Jared insists it’s all about instinct. At 27:20 they break down their weird sexual encounter of the week which involves fingers, a vagina, and a caliente jalapeño pepper. At 33:00 a listener writes in wondering what she did to get ghosted after dating a guy for 3 months. At 49:10 a listener wonders if she’s wrong to ask an ex if he’s with someone new after seeing a new girl in his Instagram story right after the split. Thanks to our sponsors! Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Cove- Got migraines? With Cove, there’s finally a way to get the help you need when you need it. And when you use our link you’ll get your first month of treatment for free. Go to WithCove.com/uup .
Feb 20 2019
Rank #20: Is It Important To Show Off The Person You’re Dating On Social Media?
J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule.
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Dec 18 2019