Rank #1: Episode 3 (Part 1 of 2) - Transition with Divorce: How You Navigate Between Two Homes
Keep in mind…your child didn’t choose divorce. Parents have made a decision that the children may not agree with and their world is turned upside down. This is a loss from a child even though there may be lots of good that comes out of it in the long run.
There will be some big feelings, such as anger, sadness, fear and confusion that will likely come along with this transition and what you choose to do as parents to set up consistency and predictability for your children will support them to cope better. Even with great co-parenting and a good support system, it takes most children a year to recover from the trauma of divorce.
Dec 21 2016
Rank #2: Episode 4 - Five Steps to Emotion Coaching After Divorce
In this podcast we are going to learn the skills of Emotion Coaching, to support your children and teens to understand and regulate their hard emotions through and after divorce. Divorce is a significant event for a child, of any age, and there are typically big feelings of anger, sadness, fear and confusion that follow such a decision.
Making the decision to get divorced is a hard one for sure, but developmentally for your children, it is the best decision. It is a myth that parents should stay married for the sake of their children. But how you show up as a parent, to support your children to make sense of what they feel around the divorce, being able to tolerate high levels of emotion from them without taking it personally, giving space for them to feel their feelings, has a huge impact on how they move past this event, move on with just being a kid and how positively they view their future.
Dec 22 2016
Rank #3: Episode 5 - Introducing your new partner to your children
In this podcast, Matthew and Tasha talk about the 6 strategies for introducing your new partner to your kids.
Don’t rush into the conversation. Talk to your ex beforehand so that they know what’s going on. You’re not looking for permission per se, just alignment.
Talk to your children and explain that you are dating someone whom you care about and that you’d like to introduce them. Ask them if they have any questions.
Keep the first meeting short and low key: Going to a restaurant or neutral spot is best. Maybe ask your kids where they’d like to go. If your new partner has kids, don’t invite them along for the first few visits.
Don’t plan a sleep over right away. Having your new partner spend the night should only be an option once you are sure that your relationship is permanent or you are engaged.
Get feedback from your kids. Assure your kids that your partner will not replace their other parent or change your relationship with them. Young children view their parent’s dating behaviors as confusing.
Have realistic expectations about your children’s acceptance of your new partner. Just because you are in love with this person, they may not share your enthusiasm of being in a new relationship.
(Tasha added this at the end of the podcast :-) Parents need to accept that they cannot control the child’s other parent.
Mar 13 2017
Rank #4: Episode 3 (Part 2 of 2) - Transition with Divorce: The Adjustment Period After Divorce
This is part of a 2 podcast series, the first podcast focused more on the logistical pieces to plan around; part two focuses more on managing the emotional stuff that kids need support around, when their world is going through a traumatic event. They need safety and security #1.
There will be some big feelings, such as anger, sadness, fear and confusion that will likely come along with this transition and what you choose to do as parents to set up consistency and predictability for your children will support them to cope better. Even with great co-parenting and a good support system, it takes children a year to recover from the trauma of divorce.
Dec 22 2016
Rank #5: Episode 10 - High Conflict Co-Parenting with Andrea LaRochelle
In this podcast, Matthew and Tasha talk with Andrea LaRochelle on how to parent your kids and take care of yourself in a high conflict relationship.
Oct 29 2019