How to Read Other People's Minds
During communication, we're usually so focused on being heard (making clever comments, sounding smarter than everyone else, getting the big laugh), that we give away our power. Steve shares the secret to regaining that power while reading other people's minds.
15 Sep 2019
Managing Conflict and Pulling Weeds
The way we argue usually causes more problems than the topic of the argument itself. If you keep having the same fights over and over again in your relationships, Steve helps get to the root of those conflicts.
5 Nov 2019
Choose Happiness: Improving Self-Concept
In the Season One finale, Steve discusses how social comparisons affect self-concept, then he explains the secret to happiness.
19 Nov 2019
Empathy Will Save Our Souls
Steve explains why he believes the only hope for humanity is to begin empathizing with people who don't look, think, or act like us. He shares stories and examples from the #MeToo and #BLM (Black Lives Matter) movements.
9 Oct 2019
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Peeing Your Pants and Emotional Intelligence
Steve peed his pants in first grade. Eleven years later, he watched "Billy Madison" in the movie theater four times. Little did he know, those two experiences would teach him a life lesson about Emotional Intelligence, Social Analysis, and how to be a better human being.
1 Oct 2019
Urinals and Communication Context
If you've ever stood at a urinal or sat on a public toilet and wondered why you chose that particular pee vessel, Steve explains what bathroom habits teach us about communication context.
24 Sep 2019
Losing Battles Means Winning the War
People are so focused on "winning" and "being right," that fighting those short-term battles often causes long-term problems. In this episode, Steve talks about the importance of thinking about the long-term health of our relationships.
26 Feb 2020
Why People Do What They Do
Ever stare at someone and wonder what the heck is wrong with them? Ever look in the mirror and wonder what the heck is wrong with yourself? There are reasons why people do what they do. In this episode, Steve helps you understand your personal strategies for making life work.
22 Jan 2020
A Secret to Marital Bliss: Recalibration
People can't always control what happens to them, but they can control how they react by reframing negatives into positives. Happy people and healthy relationships accomplish this by practicing recalibration regularly.
30 Oct 2019
Healthy Boundaries: Learning to Say No
Powerful communicators all have one thing in common: They say no to the wrong things so they can say yes to the right things. Steve shares why learning to say no will help you achieve greatness.
14 Nov 2019
The Most Interesting Person in the Room
People want to be popular and beloved, but their strategies for doing so are all wrong. In this episode, Steve shares the simple secret to always being the most interesting person in the room.
15 Jan 2020
Twas the Day of the Shootout
Steve shares his poem, "Twas the Day of the Shootout" leading up to Cincinnati playing Xavier in their annual crosstown rivalry basketball game.
5 Dec 2019
Avoiding Heartache: Don't Play House
Couples want to live happily ever after, but rushing "forever" causes problems. In this week's episode, Steve discusses why playing house too early causes emotional turmoil and can keep you trapped in unhealthy relationships.
19 Feb 2020
A Secret to Marital Bliss: Love is an Action
Ever wonder why the divorce rate spikes after 20+ years of marriage? There's a really simple explanation. In this week's episode, Steve explains how learning to manage relationship tensions might just save your marriage.
14 Feb 2020
Conquering the Amygdala Hijack
If you have ever snapped emotionally and said or did something you later regretted, then you're familiar with the Amygdala Hijack. Steve explains what happens during an Amygdala Hijack and what we can do to prevent emotional outbursts from ruining our lives and relationships.
23 Oct 2019
I Picked Up a Prostitute
When Steve moved to an area of Cincinnati known for prostitution, the naive suburban kid was shocked. He became obsessed with their lives and wanted to learn more, so he observed the women, their pimps, and the men who paid for sex. Then one night, Steve picked up a prostitute, paid her $40, and drove around for an hour asking questions about her life. He shares the story of their conversation and why it motivated him to assign a similar ethnographical experience to his students.
16 Oct 2019
Gender and Sexuality Spectrums
"Either or" thinking is rarely accurate and almost never helpful. In this episode, Steve encourages everyone to see happiness, goodness, gender, sexuality, and life in general as a series of spectrums, with most people falling somewhere between the two extremes.
30 Jan 2020
Why People Stay in Bad Relationships
Ever wonder why some people stay in bad relationships even though everyone is telling them to leave? Ever wonder why some people leave good relationships when everyone is telling them to stay? In this week's episode, Steve uses Social Exchange Theory to explain both.
5 Feb 2020
Obsessing Over Fault and Blame Ruins Relationships
Of course people should be held responsible for their actions, but Steve shares why obsessing over fault and blame (instead of solving actual problems) can ruin our interpersonal relationships.
27 May 2020
Powerful People Risk More
In the Season 2 finale, Steve discusses how to become a more powerful person and communicator by sharing two words that changed his life.
1 Apr 2020