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Relationships Uncomplicated

Relationship expert Idit Sharoni, LMFT is bringing you invaluable relationship advice to make your marriage thrive. Idit is a couples therapist in Miami, Florida running a successful private practice and an online relationship course platform . She takes pride in helping people improve their relationships or heal after infidelity. This show is all about un-complicating and demystifying social messages about relationships while offering easy-to-apply tips and ideas about common relationship issues such as communication, trust, infidelity, breakups, divorce, and many more. *Not intended as a replacement for psychotherapy.

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Episode 002: 5 Warning Signs You’re In a Toxic Relationship

How do you know if you're in a toxic relationship? Chances are that if you think you are in one, then your hunch is probably right. If you feel your relationship may be unhealthy and is damaging to you and your mental and physical health, you should listen to this episode.  Breakup specialist and practicing licensed marriage & family therapist Alina Gershonov along with co-host relationship expert Idit Sharoni share with you the top 5 Warning Signs for a toxic relationship so you can make an informed decision on where to go with your relationship.  BONUS: Alina shares the complete "10 Warning Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship". Please visit www.alinagershonov.com/002 to download your free bonus. For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com For more information/resources on emotional and verbal abuse, please visit: https://www.morningsiderecovery.com/blog/understanding-verbal-abuse/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mysteries-love/201612/how-stop-verbal-abuse See you at our next episode, Idit & Alina

24mins

28 Apr 2017

Rank #1

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Episode 063: Who's going to Heal Your Pain After Infidelity?

Today, I want to talk about who can heal your pain after infidelity. You’ll learn who really can help heal the pain, who doesn’t have the power to help, and what you can do if you’re stuck feeling unable to move past the hurt. I dive into the topic by telling you about a contact that I recently received from a spouse who had been cheated on and wanted to be seen individually. There was nothing alarming about this at first, but the person then shared something troubling: a therapist had told this person that seeking individual help to overcome the pain was needed before the couple could healthily recover together. The first issue that I have with this is that sending one partner off to seek help alone is very difficult. I talk about how it takes so much courage to trust anyone after infidelity and that isolating sends a bad message to the hurt partner.  The second issue I have is that many therapists have the assumption that the pain after infidelity is individual and, therefore, the hurting individual is capable of fixing it. You must remember that forgiveness is a journey that both sides need to go on and that it needs to be earned. The third issue I have is the sense that hurt partners who are not ready to forgive are considered unable to surrender to the process. I provide my opinion that surrender should not be expected because the situation that the couple has found themselves in is not a war.  Therapy is not a body shop where you check your problematic spouse in to get fixed. The betraying partner needs to understand that they are the person who will help the healing. Links mentioned in this episode:  It's Okay to Stay - Idit's Online Course Waitlist Idit’s It’s Okay to Stay Facebook group Book: How Can I Forgive You / by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

19mins

19 Mar 2019

Rank #2

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Episode 051: What Stops Couples From Healing After Infidelity

Why some couples seem to recover after infidelity while others can't?Miami relationship expert Idit Sharoni walks you through the 3 main components that block the healing process after learning about your partner's cheating. Idit offers an extensive explanation that includes a roadmap to healing where she shares the 3-Phase road to healing in the aftermath of infidelity.  Links mentioned in the episode: Click to join Idit's FB Group - It's Okay To Stay Episode 012 Episode 044 Episode 39 Recommended book: After The Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us (no more than 5 sentences) Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

30mins

30 Apr 2018

Rank #3

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Episode 062: Will it Take a Miracle to Save Your Relationship?

Feel like you don't even know what is going to make your relationship work anymore? Let relationship expert Idit Sharoni give you a surprising strategie to help you get insight as to what can save your relationship, when everything seems like chaos.  As promised in the episode, here's what you ask yourself: “Suppose this episode is over, you go about your day, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of it. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle of the night, when you are sound asleep, a miracle happens and the problems in your relationship are solved just like that (snap). But since the miracle happened overnight you don’t know that the miracle has happened. When you wake up the next morning, how are you going to start discovering that the miracle happened? What would be the first thing that would tell you a miracle must’ve happened? What else are you going to notice during the day after you wake up?” To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

18mins

21 Jan 2019

Rank #4

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Episode 047: How To Survive Being Broken Up With

Being broken up with is one of the most devastating feelings. Whether it was expected or not, the heartache is just the same. You feel like your world has been turned upside down.  Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares 6 steps you can begin implementing immediately to help you work through the pain. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss the 6 steps along with other recommendations.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

19mins

26 Mar 2018

Rank #5

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Episode 059: Once a Cheater Always a Cheater… Thoughts and ways to know

Betrayed partners are exposed to a great amount of uncertainty when they learn their spouse has been unfaithful. One of the things they often hear is "Once a cheater always a cheater". Is this ture? Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni expressing her thoughts and ideas about the old saying based on her experience working with coupes in the aftermath of infidelity.  FREEBIE: Download the "5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater" guide Idit created to especially for this episode listeners. Simply click the link below.  Links mentioned in this episode: FREEBIE: 5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater Idit’s FB Group: It’s Okay To Stay - Healing After Infidelity Where Should We Begin Podcast Season 2 ep. 7 To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

19mins

17 Sep 2018

Rank #6

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Episode 034: Signs You Can Potentially Get Back Together

Are you in communication with your ex with the hope of getting back together? If so, then this episode will help you identify if it's a good idea or not.  On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares examples of when getting back together is a healthy thought and conversation to have, and times where it really should not even be considered as a possibility. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss what healthy signs are as well as what unhealthy signs of communication look like.  Links mentioned in this episode: Episode 002: 5 Warning Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

16mins

11 Dec 2017

Rank #7

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Episode 012: Staying After Infidelity, Mistake #1

Ever wonder how to increase trust after infidelity has been revealed in a relationship? On this Episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni reveals the first of many mistakes both partners make after infidelity has been revealed in their relationship. Together with Breakup specialist Alina Gershonov, this group of episodes titled "Staying After Infidelity" will present common mistakes both the hurt partner and the betrayed partner make along with how to solve the problem and most importantly; how to increase trust. The tips given during this episode are expert advise given from years of experience helping couples rebuild trust after infidelity and overwhelming emotions of betrayal have plagued a relationship. Links mentioned in this episode:  Freebie: Click to gain access to Step-by-step worksheet on how to increase trust and create a plan to part ways with your affair partner.  Freebie: Click to ask for access to Idit's Closed Facebook Group: It's Okay To Stay Book mentioned: Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

30mins

3 Jul 2017

Rank #8

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Episode 021: Things We Wish Couples With Communication Issues Knew (Part 1)

Do you find that whenever you tell it like it is your partner takes it the wrong way? Does your partner get defensive whenever you tell them something is wrong? On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni challenges the need to be brutally hones with your partner. She also provides listeners with a recipe on how to say things in a way that has the potential to be heard and bring about a change.  Tune in to learn from co-hosts Idit Sharoni and Alina Gershonov what they wish you knew to better your relationship.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 19: Love Your Partner How THEY Want To Be Loved To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

23mins

4 Sep 2017

Rank #9

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Episode 003: How to Listen & Be Heard

Ever feel like getting through to your partner is too complicated? You don't feel heard and your partner has no clue how to make it better. You end up almost every time exactly where you started or even worse.  Relationship expert Idit Sharoni along with co-host and breakup specialist Alina Gershonov Un-complicate communication rules for you. This episode is all about being an awesome listener and a great speaker in conversations with your significant other. You will find 8 easy-to-apply communication tools that will improve the next time you communicate with your partner.  Resources: For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com For more information about The Gottman Institute mentioned in the episode please visit: www.gottman.com See you at our next episode, Idit & Alina

20mins

28 Apr 2017

Rank #10

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Episode 040: What Is Codependency And Why Does It Ruin Relationships?

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov explains what it feels like to be in a codependent relationship. Sometimes people are unaware they are in one, however know something is not right in the relationship.  Learn what "stereotypical codependents" experience while in the relationship as well as common stereotypes of their partners.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss hope and the many opportunities for codependent recovery as well as resources that are available both online and in-person across the country.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Codependents Anonymous Codependent No More by Melody Beattie To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

24mins

5 Feb 2018

Rank #11

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Episode 043: How To Recover From A Codependent Relationship

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov shares the necessary steps to take to recover from a codependent and unhealthy relationship. Alina shares 5 tips you can begin to implement right now. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss the importance of self-esteem and how to build it.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

19mins

26 Feb 2018

Rank #12

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Episode 023: Signs Your Partner May Not Be That Into Your Relationship

Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni and Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov give you a sneak peek into the therapy room. Idit answers the most common question every couples therapist receives. Do you know what it is? On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated titled Signs Your Partner May Not Be That Into Your Relationship, Relationships Expert Idit Sharoni reveals the 9 signs to help you assess if this may be happening in your current relationship.  Stay Tuned: you don't want to miss expert tips on what you can do if you realize your partner is not that into your relationship.  Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode #021: Things We Wish Couples With Communication Issues Knew (Part 1) To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following form and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

33mins

25 Sep 2017

Rank #13

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Episode 033: Will You Ever Be Able To Trust Your Betraying Partner Again? Part 1

On this Episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni explains key factors in order to build trust back into your relationship after an affair.  If you feel like you will never be able to trust your partner the same way, then you are not alone. Idit reveals the difference between blind trust and open-eyed trust.  Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they address a question from one of their listeners and use it to point out several tips on how to rebuild trust with your betraying partner. Links mentioned in this episode: Book Recommendation: The State Of Affairs, by Esther Perel Episode 008: Am I Crazy to Stay After My Partner Cheated Episode 001: Is Your Relationship Worth Saving? To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

26mins

4 Dec 2017

Rank #14

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Episode 026: How To Stop Self-Sabotage For A Future Relationship

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov discusses common self-sabotage scenarios that arise in relationships.  The examples mentioned are paired with the underlying reason behind the behaviors. She hopes to spread awareness to better individuals for themselves and their future partners. Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, Alina shares possible reasons why self-sabotaging behaviors led to a breakup and what you can do differently in your next relationship. Additionally download her Freebie below, a Guide to help identify self-sabotage to gain tools for a healthy future relationship.  Links mentioned in this episode: The Guide to Help Identify and Atop Relational Self- Sabotage To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

28mins

16 Oct 2017

Rank #15

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Episode 027: What You Can Do To Make Your Relationship Work

Those of you in long-term romantic relationships may be feeling like something is off between you and your spouse, yet you can't quite pinpoint what's going on or how you even ended up at this point.  Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni sheds light on this often brought up issue in couples therapy. Idit also introduces a theory and guide that's based on 40 years of research to help you learn what you can do to improve your relationship and make it work.  Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they discuss the key points to a strong relationship based on Dr. Gottman's Sound Relationship House Theory.  You don't want to miss out on Idit's FREEBIE below, a full couple's evaluation based on the successfully proven and effective Gottman method! Links mentioned in this episode: Link to Idit's Freebie: Full Couple's Evaluation Utilizing The Gottman Checkup Link to the Sound Relationship House Theory:  https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/ To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com

26mins

23 Oct 2017

Rank #16

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Episode 044: Why Saying I’m Sorry Doesn’t Cut It In Affair Recovery

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni shares why "I'm sorry" doesn't cut it when it comes to affair recovery. Idit shares a 2-part technique for how to effectively be remorseful with your partner after an affair.  Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they discuss what you can say to make your partner see how remorseful you are. Download Idit's freebie below, it is a combination of the specific components of an effective remorse expression and an example of how it may be worded. Link to Freebie: Blueprint of an Effective Remorse To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

22mins

5 Mar 2018

Rank #17

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Episode 013: Why You Can't Let That One Person Go

Do you ever think about the one that got away?  Believe it or not, the reason why you can't let go has nothing to do with the person constantly on your mind and absolutely everything to do with you.                           If you're intrigued, then this episode is definitely for you! In this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov reveals 3 things that are keeping you stuck and not allowing you to let that one person go.  Together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they reveal both the conscious and subconscious reasoning for why people still hold on emotionally. Don't forget to send us questions you'd like us to address in a future episode! (We'll respond to you directly first!) Resources: To send us questions you'd like us to answer in a podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.alinagershonov.com Links mentioned in this episode: Dr. Jennice Villhaeur's TED Talk, Why You Don't Get What You Want: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwLeiY5f7sI

25mins

10 Jul 2017

Rank #18

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Episode 060: Why Do You have to Be so Defensive?

If you are human, you probably engaged in escalating a conflict by being defensive. In this episode, relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares what is defensiveness, how it looks inside a conversation, what it does, and how to avoid it. You'll get tools and ideas on what you can do when you feel attacked by your partner. By the end of this episode you'll know to better react and diffuse the conflict.  Links mentioned in this Episode: Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Video - The Gottman Institute To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

19mins

8 Oct 2018

Rank #19

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Episode 037: Things We Wish Couples With Communication Issues knew (Part 2)

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni enlightens us with a few truth bombs. She also shares the #1 predictor of divorce, based on decades of research conducted by the Gottman Institute.  Together with Breakup Specialist, Alina Gershonov they explore this predictor of divorce, what it looks like in a relationship, where it stems from, and most importantly how it can be avoided. This episode is packed with invaluable information to help your marriage improve immediately and for the long haul. Links mentioned in this episode:  Episode 021: Things We Wish Couples With Communication Issues Knew (Part 1)  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

22mins

15 Jan 2018

Rank #20