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Opening Up: behind the scenes of our open marriage

Nikki and John, two married 30-somethings, open up in real time about the decision to open up their marriage. You'll go on their journey as they explore non-monogamy, polyamory and what it means to be in an open marriage. Send questions, or just say hi, at openinguppodcast@gmail.com

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Warning: This podcast is a series podcast

This means episodes are recommended to be heard in order from the very start. Here's the 10 best episodes of the series anyway though!

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1- Our Story, Our Baggage & Our Decision to Open Up Our Marriage

Nikki and John open up about why we chose to open our marriage, our relationship history and what baggage we bring to the table.


17 Sep 2017

Rank #1

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1 - We're back from our holiday with lots of updates, reflections on met-amours and John's poly resolution

We are so happy to be back! We have so much to catch up on this episode. We look back on all of our dating adventures, look forward to where we are heading in our relationship, dish all about meeting the meta-mours (and all the emotions that came with) and John shares his poly new year's resolution!


22 Jan 2018

Rank #2

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2 - The one you've been waiting for: John pops his poly cherry!

This week we're diving deep into two very big things. First, and most exciting, John finally had sex with J! We go into all the details and find out how its different, how he feels after and how it affected Nikki. Then we talk about a fight we had after the fact... but its not about what you might guess!


5 Feb 2018

Rank #3

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2 - Week One of our Open Relationship: First Dates and a Major Case of the Jellos

This week, Nikki thrives on the energy of possibility, but forgot what it felt like to have possibility crushed. John, on the other hand, fights the green eyed monster, Jealousy and thinks about what he wants to do in the following week. 


17 Sep 2017

Rank #4

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5 - John's first date and Nikki has sex with someone else!

This is a week of firsts: John set up his first date and Nikki slept with the first new person in more than seven years! John asks Nikki hardball questions about regrets and we dig into the difference between envy and jealousy.


2 Oct 2017

Rank #5

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8- John's Kink with Consequences

This week John and Nikki open up about John's kink, including all the history, baggage and how they hope to move forward. Warning: spoilers: John's kink is autogynephilia, or AGP, which is the idea of transforming into being a woman and having sex as a woman. We discuss his sexual addiction, his draw to cross dressing and submissive sex, his gender dysphoria, his challenges with his gender identity and his tough decision around gender transitions and becoming a transwoman. Finally, we tackle what his sexual identity looks like today, what it means in the context of our relationship and what it could mean for the future. Its a long one.

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23 Oct 2017

Rank #6

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3 - Nikki gets rejected, we talk with our friends and open up about our fantasy partners

This week, Nikki got rejected and John wasn't sure what to do about feeling like her backup plan. We talk with our friends, think about our families and dig deep to get to the root of our feeling of jealousy.


18 Sep 2017

Rank #7

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4 - Our first big fight, John joins OK cupid and lessons learned in month one

This week, we discuss the biggest fight we've had in years. We open up about why it happened, what we could have done differently, how we deescalaed and where it leaves us now. In happier news, John joined OK Cupid (and even liked some people) and we both review the lessons we've learned in our first month of our open marriage.


25 Sep 2017

Rank #8

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11 - A very sexy weekend away & Nikki has sex with A!

This week, John had a magical second date, Nikki got really serious with A. (Yes! Nikki had sex with a woman for the very first time!) And, the two of us snuck away for a very sexy, very relaxing, very much needed weekend away.


13 Nov 2017

Rank #9

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6 - We tackle infidelity, regrets and the jellos

Nicky and John open up about infidelity in our relationship, including our grey areas. John asks Nikki point blank if she regrets having sex with M.  Nikki gets a major case of the Jellos while John mis-set expectations and we discuss what we could have done differently. 


9 Oct 2017

Rank #10